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t3_l6nzh
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AskReddit
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Reddit, what should I put on my necklace to match my life style?
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I live my life very close to that of a saint. Save for my swearing, I can't fucking stop. Anyways here's my problem: I give money or things to those who need it, I do right without expecting anything in return, I believe in doing the right thing, no matter the personal cost, etc.
Well, on the down side every time I try to get a leg up in life, it back fires HARD. I once tried to sneak into a bar's patio area to meet a friend of mine because there was a 10$ (I'm serious) cover charge. So I tried to slip in and got impaled by the gate in my left arm. I ever intentionally do something "morally" wrong and I pay for it withing the hour.
So my question is: What saint or symbol (or symbol of a saint) would work for someone who always tries to do the right thing?
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I'm basically a really really awesome dude to my fellow human beings trying to make an equally awesome necklace that reflects this. Suggestions?
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t3_2xkloo
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tifu
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TIFU by peeing in my friends fridge.
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So this fuck up happened Friday night/ Saturday morning. My friend came home to visit and since I haven't seen him in months we decide to get wasted and play video games.
Its business as usual. Play some N64 and drink beer. Then we switch to shots. After we finish a bottle of rum were both pretty hammered and decide to go to bed, so I crash on the couch.
Well heres the bad part. I have a history of sleep walking, normally when I get wasted. This time however, not only do I walk into the kitchen and open the fridge, but I pee in it ruining a lot of their food.
Now I don't remember it but apparently my friends mother was in the other room and heard a "leaking" noise. She came in and yelled at me to stop and I just kept saying "its okay! its okay!".
The next morning I woke up and left the house as usual and sent him a txt saying that I left and that I would talk to him later, good seeing you all of that stuff. He responds saying something along the lines of "How the fuck can you be so casual!?!?" and then explains what happened.
I can never go back. I wont be able to look his mother in the eye....
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Go wasted, peed in friends fridge while his mother tried to stop me.
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t3_3z3t6z
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relationships
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Me [25/F] with my BF [27/M] 1.5 yr, should I always have to ask for an apology?
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Hi all,
I have a pretty good relationship with my boyfriend for the most part. However, he can occasionally say some things that are really hurtful, especially if he is drunk. (I feel that if he better managed his drinking, our relationship would be about 1000x better. But that's a thought for another thread.)
I'm more upset about what happens after the fact. The next morning or whatever he always wants to pretend that things didn't happen. It's not that he doesn't remember because he always does. What normally happens is that I'm obviously upset. I will wait for him to bring it up or for an apology, stew for a bit, eventually bring up what happened and why it bothered me, and ask for an apology. He basically says, "Sorry," and that's about it. Topic change and I am left trying to get over what was said.
What bothers me about this is that he'll know he said something hurtful, know that I am hurt by it, and still not take responsibility for it until I put him into a position where it's practically required. At that point, it feels like he's not sorry, he's just trying to cover it and move on.
In contrast, if I say something to him that may even possibly be hurtful, I usually apologize and correct myself before he has time to even process what I have said. I am really thoughtful about how the things I say may affect him, and I am constantly checking in with him on how he's feeling. A lot of times I apologize for things that he isn't even bothered by, just because I worry that I have hurt him.
I know that it's silly to expect him to read my mind and know I'm upset and apologize, but I don't think that's what's going on here. I think that he knows he is wrong and knows I am upset but would prefer to ignore it in hopes that it would go away. Should I really always have to ask for an apology to get acknowledgement of his poor behavior, or is it normal to expect someone to be empathetic and apologetic without being directly asked?
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Partner is mean, then kind of pretends it never happened unless I specifically ask for an apology. Is it reasonable to expect him to take responsibility for his actions without my pushing him to?
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t3_podit
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dating_advice
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So a really cool and random thing happened to me last night. I talked to the biggest regret (crush) of my life on a dating site. Date advice required.
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Background: I met this girl while in High School, we were very good friends and sat together in every class we could. I lost contact with her as soon as I left school to work full time. This is easily the biggest regret of my life. I loved this girl.
Fast forward 15 years, I [32M] got an email from a girl [31F] on a local dating site saying she was drawn to my profile, we barely exchange 10 messages before we are talking on the phone. About 30minutes into the awesome conversation I mention where I live and we very quickly work out that we knew each other. We end up talking all night and are still txt'ing now. Im on a high.
It turns out that I am one of the best memories of her life and that she often thought about me. Her words were that it was the best valentines she has ever had :) (Finding me)
Anyway we have a date coming up this Friday and my initial thought was "Omg I have to plan an epic date" but I am now second guessing that.
So I just wanted to share my awesome story and ask for help on date ideas and what level of epic I should go for?. In a smallish town but can travel an hour and half to a decent city.
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Randomly found the girl that I always regret not asking out or staying in contact with, have a date with her this Friday. How epic do I make the date?
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t3_i5sua
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AskReddit
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Today it was confirmed that I have OCD and my Doctors have urged me to start meds I'm uncomfortable with.
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After seeing 3 different therapists and being referred to my local Psychiatric Hospital for what they thought could be early signs of a psychotic disorder, two Doctors I have been seeing for a few weeks have told me today I'm most likely not suffering from psychosis, rather paranoia brought on by a lot of social phobia, anxiety, and obsessive-compulsive disorder. They strongly urged me to consider a low dosage SSRI to deal with anxiety, depressive episodes, and obsessive thoughts. I was extremely hesitant to even try and after leaving the hospital today was considering stopping treatment altogether. Apparently OCD has one of the most significant biological bases and is usually only treatable through medication or psycho-surgery in extreme cases. I've been doing some research on SSRI's from credible sources such as medical journals, and there appears to be a strong debate over their effectiveness. I also am hesitant because of their typical side effects such as nausea, diarrhea, sweating, and inability to achieve/maintain an erection or ejaculate.
So my questions for AskReddit are: Has anyone been prescribed an SSRI or known someone who took them for an extended period of time? Did it help with your/their condition? Did you/they experience a lot of side effects?
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I prefer fapping and not being a sweat-stained mess all the time to not having OCD.
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t3_3sk4tk
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relationships
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I [31 M] have been with my GF [24 F] for almost 3 years. I mistreated her and she cheated on me. I need advice
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I have been w/ my girlfriend for almost 3 years. The relationship has moved very quickly. Out of financial necessity we moved in together after only 4 months. Few months later she was pregnant and we now have a 1 year old son that we both adore.
Our financial situation has gotten a lot better, we have moved to a nice neighborhood because I got a good paying new job. She uprooted away from all her family and friends to come with me. Shortly thereafter she obtained a job as a waitress.
Here's where I spill my guts, I have not been a good boyfriend at all. This isn't a pattern, not my norm but I just became mean to her. In arguments I've made her feel stupid, I didn't show her much affection or attention. She was constantly saying that she felt that I didn't love her anymore. I reassured her several times, but she didn't believe me.
A few weeks ago she went out to a party, met a guy, and had a one night stand. She came home the next morning and told me immediately. It caught me completely off guard, I never trusted someone so much. I've recently come to realize that it was just because I took her for granted. She's beautiful and very charming, she could seriously have almost any guy.
This entire situation has open my eyes to my actions as a human being. I am completely, sincerely, so very sorry for how I treated her in the past. In fact, I have no idea why she stayed w/ me as long as she did. Any other person would of left, but she stayed.
To get beyond the cheating, however, is very difficult. I never cheated on her and never would. I'm afraid she will cheat again even though she does seem really regretful and sorry.
I am seeking advice, am I correct in forgiving her for cheating due to how I have been treating her?
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Mistreated my girlfriend, she cheated, should I forgive?
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t3_1rmz9q
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AskReddit
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How do you talk to your significant other about #2? You know.... Pooping!?!
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How do you talk to your significant other about #2? You know.... Pooping!?!
I started dating a fella who is on par with my low brow humor and likes to roll around naked with me. I facetimed with him last night while peeing even - he doesn't care. He's even cool with period sex.
And I would LOVE some anal play,...But I poop from there. I enjoy playing with my own ass in private myself and solo, but have only done anal twice with a partner. (I'm a 29/f) - but I have a fear about people timing me in the bathroom, noise being heard.... Maybe updating my Facebook status (like this status if you need more fiber!" or reading reddit
i don't want to be bothered or feel like someone is waiting on me knowing the atrocities that may be occurring.
I told him the other night about my poop fear and he has teased me about it already. But when he stays over in my one room efficiency that lacks a fan even in the bathroom (just a few feet from my bed).... He will know what I am doing.
My sister has been married for almost 9 years and about to have child #3 - and she *still* waits for her husband to leave before she pops. 3 bathrooms and you can't create privacy? That's off to me after that much time together. I'm not that uptight. Just occasionally constipated.
My problem is the living space is so small here. When he has stayed the night, I will run an errand to get coffee, grub, or whatever else just to shit at the clean McDonald's nearby. And in hopes he is taking advantage of the free time to be regular and poop in my house without having to feel my shame (I try to be considerate).
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how do couples poop around each other? How do you make it comfortable to let someone know you will be in the bathroom for a while? If your home space was smaller than the average $30/night roach motel room, what would you expect that person to do about dropping biscuits in a shared presence?
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t3_2rk7rv
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relationships
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Help me [37 M] make my wife [35 F] of ten years fall crazy in love with me again.
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We've been married ten years. Things are pretty good. But we have kids, we both work full time and on opposite shifts, we don't get a lot of quality time together.
I'm planning something for her birthday. I want romance, sweetness, the atmosphere for making her cell loved, needed, wanted. I want to sweep her off her feet again. I want her to think, "Yeah, that's why I'm with this guy. Ahh."
The issues:
1. Most stereotypes don't apply. She doesn't like drinking, dancing, parties, clubs, flowers, jewelry. She's shy with strangers, likes nature, hates winter, does a lot of crafts. She has anxiety, doesn't like crowds. She has a real hard time telling me what she wants. She likes for me to make all the decisions, but still often doesn't dig my decisions.
2. She has poor self image, low libido. When we're together it's great, but it's infrequent. If we're out of the house - say a hotel out of state - she's good with intimacy.
3. Budget is an issue, sad as that is.
Any suggestions or insights or experiences that might help me devise a plan would be much appreciated.
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How do I turn the romance on high, on a short vacation, after ten years of marriage to a shy, atypical woman?
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t3_3rmkxj
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relationships
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Okay so my [25M] boss [36F] & coworker [33F] are 'hot' and my girlfriend [27F] wants me to not work there, is this a good enough reason to leave this job, especially if I have other offers available
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It's a small office with 11 people so everyone interacts a lot. I've been there a month and I really like it. The other day while hanging out with a group of friends including some of our gfs. My girlfriend jokingly asked if there were any cute people at my office, for some reason the topic of hot coworkers came up.
My buddy whose met my boss as well as my coworker before, we were out grabbing a beer and she and the coworker were leaving the same bar and restaurant piped up well N's boss is fucking hot, holy shit I would fuck the daylights out of her and said something similar in regards to my coworker.
Now my boss is a friendly woman, she makes the effort to chat and get to know all the employees in our office a little and we (all the coworkers) have gone out for drinks three times after work since I started plus a staff luncheon. Which my girlfriend knew about. And given the small size of the staff in our office I have interacted with my coworker a fair amount as well, chatting and what not.
My boss and my coworker are also close friends outside the office and have been for a long time and neither are married which is part of the reason my girlfriend doesn't like this.
Now my girlfriend wants me to quit this job that I haven't been at long. Admittedly I have had other offers so it really wouldn't be a hassle to leave and go elsewhere.
But is this a good reason for her to want me to take another job?
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boss and coworker are admittedly very 'hot', girlfriend would like me to take another job
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t3_2l315f
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relationships
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Me [21 M] with my [23 F] of 3 months, cheated last night. Do I tell her or just break up with her?
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I've been seeing her for the past 3 months. We mostly only get together on the weekends since she works full time and I'm in school.
Last night I had one too many shots at the bar and ended up sleeping with another women. I feel awful about. Should I tell her what I did or just break it off? Regardless of if I tell her or not I am going to break it off since I need to stand back and do some self evaluation. I feel like not telling her would be the easy way out for me which is not what I want. At the same time if I do tell her it seems like it would be wasted and it would only be hurting her.
Is ignorance bliss?
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Do I tell her I cheated and then break it off, or just break it off.
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t3_fs6kr
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AskReddit
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So I went to the doctor today..
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obvious throwaway~
So I went to an ENT today because my voice has been really hoarse for over a year. Before you ask why I had waited that long, I'll just go out and say it: I didn't have health insurance. Turns out I have a growth on one of my vocal cords. I'm going to have surgery to in a couple of weeks to remove the growth and to find out what it is. My doctor thinks it's a benign growth, but he informed me that he has been surprised once before (meaning someone in my age group was diagnosed with cancer). I'm 24, I don't smoke tobacco, occasionally smoke pot (probably once every few months, really), I don't really drink very often. Should I be worried?
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found out I have a growth on my vocal cords that needs to be removed through surgery. Don't know if it's cancerous or not yet. Shouldn't be. Just slightly worried, blah
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t3_29xkjh
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relationships
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Me [23M] with my girlfriend[22F] dating for a little over 3.5 years, she feels like she's not in love with me anymore
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Me and my girlfriend have been living together for 3 years now.
We've been having problems for the last 6 months, maybe a little longer.
We have sex much less, most days we just sit on opposite ends of the couch doing our own thin barely speaking to eachother.
Most of our contact is at night as we sleep in the same bed and we hug a lot in our sleep, she crawls into my arms at night and often pushes herself into me to have maximum contact.
Yesterday we sat down to talk.
While we talk she tells me that she feels as if she's not in love with me anymore and that she thinks we might be better off just breaking up.
She's conflict shy and has been avoiding talking about it for a few months hoping it would just go back to the way it was.
After talking for a bit we agreed to take a few days by ourselves to think.
I love her more than anything and I desperately seek advice, can anyone help me understand how this happened? is there anything I can do to help us reinvigorate our relationship?
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Is there any way to reignite the spark so she feels like she's in love with me again.
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t3_53jjgb
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relationships
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I [22M] met a [20F] woman online, we hit it off great but now she "has too much on her plate"
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I [22M] matched with her [20F] on tinder and we have been talking and texting for just about a month and have been on two dates. They were nice, easy going and no pressure. We have tried a few times to set up a third date but she keeps rain-checking them because of her depression so she doesn't feel she is up to it. Since about a week ago, our conversations have been shorter and her answers have mostly been single words. I asked her about it a few days ago and she said that she has too much on her plate and I haven't heard from her since. I am at a loss of what to do because she is a really wonderful person and I'd like to continue seeing her. I am also having trouble not blaming myself for what is happening. Is there anything I should do or should I just let it go and move on?
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met a girl, we hit it off, rain-checked dates, too much on her plate, what do?
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t3_2zbuuf
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relationships
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My girlfriend (18F) and I (18M) are having problems. I could sure use some advice.
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We've been together for a year and three months. We got together at the beginning of our senior year in high school. We went to prom together, which is a night I will never forget. Without her help and motivation, I would not have graduated high school. She's always been there for me. When I'm upset about something, I can always count on her to make me feel better.
Lately, things have been different. We have the biggest fights over the littlest things. She tells me she's not happy anymore. She said she doesn't respect me as she once did.
I don't have much money to take her out or make her feel special. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I'm tired of fighting. I don't want to lose her.
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My girlfriend and I have been arguing a lot. I don't know what to do.
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t3_xyy6m
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AskReddit
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Hey, Reddit! Confectionery question: what do you know about creating custom flavors for cotton candy/candy floss?
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My parents own a small cotton candy wholesale business, which does great during the summer months, but really suffers in winter. Apart from looking to venture into other types of candy for that time of year (chocolates, caramel pecan nut logs), a few suggestions have been made that they try to create more seasonal-flavored cotton candy, primarily some sort of peppermint.
The thing is, they usually just buy containers of [Flossine] flavoring to mix in with the sugar. Of those flavors offered, none are even close to any kind of mint.
Besides having it suggested we powderize peppermint candies to mix in with the sugar, or my mother wondering if we couldn't mix peppermint oil into powdered sugar, wait for it to harden, and then break that down to mix in with the regular sugar, what else might we try? (Especially since who knows how these other two possible solutions might affect the consistency of the cotton candy.)
Does anyone have any ideas or experience in creating your own custom flavors for cotton candy? What might you suggest? Now that we're getting into mid-August, sales are already starting to wind down, so my parents would like to figure this out ASAP, so that they might be able to come up with proper packaging, et cetera, in a timely enough manner for the winter season.
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My parents would like to know how to create their own flavors of cotton candy for their small wholesale business, so that they might be able to sell peppermint and other seasonal-flavored cotton candy during the winter months, which is when their business suffers most from lagging sales.
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t3_4ecemg
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tifu
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TIFU by picking the wrong university
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Back in senior year I'd been accepted to all the colleges I'd applied for and was trying to choose between two. Now, I'd been developing a hobby in computer modeling and animation, and had a vague inkling that I might enjoy that as a career. One of the universities has an acclaimed animation program, the other has nothing of the sort. So which one do I choose? The one without the program, of course.
Two years later here I am with 70+ credits and still undeclared because there's no major that catches my interest. I'm taking a career planning course and it's cemented the fact that animation is the perfect option for me. It's too late in the year to transfer so I'll have to declare some random major to plow through next year.
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chose a college that doesn't offer the program I want instead of one that does because I'm an idiot
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t3_jrwx5
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AskReddit
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Being screwed by my new landlord
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Me and my GF have been looking at apartments and we found one last month and applied for it. All well and good.
Then they tell us the appt we applied for was not actually available even though they said it was, and they don't have any more of the same kind (renovated and really nice). But they say they have a standard opening up and that it is being gutted and having new carpet, cabinets installed. We say ok, when can we look at it? They say next week. A week passes, we get no call, so I call and they say it is not done yet but will be next week. I say fine. Same thing next week. Now it won't be done until the day we move in, which is the 25th.
Just got a call from them saying that a pipe burst in the apartment ruining all the new stuff they just installed. I say whatever, just reinstall it. They say it won't be done when we move in and we have to move into a standard without new carpet, cabinets, etc...
We are essentially locked into this place as we have to move by the end of the month and every other place won't have openings so soon.
Anything I can do?
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New landlord screwed me over making me take an appt I didn't sign a lease for.
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t3_4cccr2
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relationships
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Should I (19m) end things with my girlfriend (19f) or is there still something to be saved?
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We've been together a little over a year and it's my first proper relationship.
We are very up and down when it comes to how close and intimate we are; a couple of weeks ago she was staying over every night and we were off doing stuff a bunch but now she seems distant and unenthusiastic. Every time I try and text or arrange something she scalds me for being 'annoying' and 'always there'. This will happen every couple of months and does seem to be a pattern.
I know the go to advice on this sub is to break up but when we get on its so good and we laugh and joke about our future life etc. so I don't want to be too rash and ending it prematurely.
Another big part of it is that I don't find it easy to get close to girls (a big reason why I never really got close to anyone until her, didn't lose virginity until 18 - with her). I don't want to have to start all over again all from square one. I've invested way too much time, money, effort and emotion into this relationship.
How do I get her "back"?
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GF can't seem to make her mind up about whether or not she wants a relationship, cut it loose or is it salvageable?
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t3_dsbuh
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self
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I'm afraid I'll get tired of girls.
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I'm afraid of getting into relationships, since I'm afraid of getting tired of the girl I'd be with. Anyone else have this problem?
Things change after having sex with a girl -- I don't like the idea that a lot of drive for chasing after a girl has to do with hormones. How do you guys deal with that? Masturbation doesn't have the same after-effects as sex, so that doesn't seem to be the solution.
I'm pretty easygoing, and I like having time to myself my hobbies / ambitions. I'm physically fit, if that matters (endorphins or whatever). A lot of the things I enjoy doing are solo activities, with the exception of online gaming with a couple friends every now and then. I get frustrated when I just want to do whatever I want to do, and a girl I'm seeing demands my attention. It becomes clear to me that I don't want to give the girl that attention, whether it's chatting, sex, dates, or whatever... I just want to do what I want to do, then give attention when I feel like it. Selfish, sure, but that's how people are. I have less patience when I'm tired/cranky, but I'm obviously not always going to get 8-9 hours of sleep, so I'd like to be able to deal with this too.
I've only been with one girl who was particularly attractive... the others were okay. I'm mid-20s, have a 9-5 salary job, and a couple other activity obligations throughout the week... nothing too demanding. I've never understood the idea of bars of just "being social" with all of the smalltalk bullshit. I CAN be social and get along well with just about everyone, but I'm a pretty private and solitary person when it comes down to it. Oh, and I've never been interested in guys.
Any advice is appreciated! Let me know if you need to know more about me -- I didn't want to make this too long. :)
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I'm such a badass, I can't be bothered by girls pining for my attention. I'm colder than Schwarzenegger in Batman & Robin. If a gf wants something for Valentine's Day, then I'll get her a gift certificate to Godiva and ask her to pick up milk on the way home.
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t3_4fd881
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relationships
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Me [18 M] with my father [49 M] i don't really like him for a reason unknown
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Hi, when i was younger i used to love him a ton, and looked up to him so much, cried when he was at work, didn't want to goto school because i loved him so much, wanted to do everything with him.
At around 11 he was addicted to drugs, mean to me some times but acknowledged it and apologized when ever he snapped at me. we lost our house, divorced with my mom, didn't live with us.
Every morning i would try to call him and talk to him on the phone, and i was really sad if he didnt respond and i would cry but he usually did.
Im 18 now, and i don't really like him i do not think. I don't look at him as my dad, hes not someone who i look up to, i do not want to spend time with him, i don't dislike him, but i do not care. i no longer miss him when he is away doing something, and don't care. I do not like doing anything at all though with him, or talking to him it's just awkward to me.
He got a job, and gave me an application to work at the same company, but i do not want to drive with him to work every day or to work with him even.
We are poor, he hasnt had a job much, itll be my first if i decide to do it.
what is wrong with me?
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Used to love and look up to my dad a ton, now i do not care. It saddens me.
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t3_45yogc
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relationships
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My (25M) wife (30F) thinks I have a problem and I dont know how to deal with it.
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Im 25 and I weigh 270lbs, recently I have found an eating and exercise lifestyle that has benefitted me in loosing weight. Im at about 1lb per week. My wife and I recently got a whole cake to take home due to a celebration, after about a day I had eaten an excessive amount. Normally I stick to my diet most weeks, however when there is junkfood in the house I tend to gravitate to it and eat most if not all of my share quickly. Because of this I have adopted to abstain from junk as I am aware I have a problem, constant weight fluxuations of 40lbs have been the norm for me in the past.
Now the kicker is my career demands me to stay in shape, I have maintained this however when I weigh in I am borderline. My wife fears health problems down the line because of this. But back to the point she says that "Normal people have junk in the house and dont eat it all at once". I admit this is true but because I am an emotional and binge eater, I like to not have things like this in the house. My wife encouraged me to look up how to solve my problem. I have done some research and most resources I found point to a 12 step program simmilar to AA.
I apologize if this is the wrong sub, im not sure one exists for my problem. Is there anyone who has recovered from emotional / binge eating? What resources are there? Am I wrong to not want junk in the house?
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Im fat, working on it. Junk food was in house, ate lots. Wife mad. I have problem, need help.
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t3_1hkcd6
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relationships
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I'm (25/f) upset/worried WITH boyfriend (27/m) of 3 years. Please advise!
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My boyfriend is planning on moving out at eve webs of the month. His unemployment ran out and because he's in school he doesn't want to get a job. Therefore is going to move into his parent's, which is already in foreclosure. But he figures he can go with them wherever they end up next.
Here's what upsets me: He is only in school from 8am to 3pm, m-th. He could easily get a job to pay the the 300/month I ask him for. That's it, no utilities. I feel like he doesn't want to bust his ass to be able to stay with me, he'd rather take the easy route.
Another thing, he still has car, health, and cell phone bills to pay for. So he so will have to get a job! He says that he can do a few hours a week with his brother's business to pay for that, but adding an extra 300 wouldn't work out.
His parents have no plans for when they'll be kicked out, what if they can only afford a one bedroom? They've been in foreclosure for a year now, they are bound to be evicted any week now.
We were both scared to move in together at first, and it ended up being the best thing for our relationship. We've gotten 100x closer. I guess I'm worried not seeing him as much will change that. He says it won't and that he'll come see me all the time. I just can't help but feel this is a step back.
I offered to pay his part of the rent and he won't let me do that. He claims it's nothing personal, and I do believe that, it just I feel like he should want to do what he can to stay. Is that asking too much? Am I being selfish?
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Boyfriend is moving out because he doesn't want to get a job now that his unemployment has run out. He thinks it will interfere with his schooling which is 3 classes, totaling 6 hours a day, except Fridays. I'm hurt because I wish he would get a job for the sake of staying with me. (Which totals $300/mo.) Am I being selfish?
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t3_kvjob
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BreakUps
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I'm scared I won't ever recover..
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After being together for 9 months (LD for the last 3) my boyfriend unexpectedly broke up with me when he came home. 2 weeks before he came home, I pissed him off- I didn't cheat, just did something a little "too wild" for his tastes. He says his feelings had changed anyway.
It's been over a month now- I was starting to feel back to normal a week or so ago and then I took a nosedive back into sadness all over again. I find myself getting hit by random waves of intense sadness/pain and end up crying in the library and other inappropriate places. I have so much anxiety and above all, a fear that I'll never truly move on. I know it's irrational but it seems like there will never be another person like him again, that I'll never been in a good relationship again..
All I want is to be back in his arms again but part of me knows that what we once had isn't there anymore. I see his posts and pictures and it sucks. We have the same small circle of friends and now they all hang out with out me. I can't seem to stop thinking about him. I'm so confused how he could just so suddenly cut me out of his life and not have the feelings we once shared. He doesn't seem at all upset by it.
How do I move on? How long does this take? Will seeing him help me? How can people just suddenly stop...caring?
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A sudden break-up has left me confused and scared that I wont' be able to move on
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t3_1dkp4f
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relationships
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My boyfriend (26M) threatened to kill my kitten so I had to give it away (22F)
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My boyfriend has a history of anger issues and not really caring about cute things. I personally love animals and taking care of them. When I lived at his apartment he told me I could not get a cat, which was fine because he paid the rent. Now him and I live at my parents house and I informed him that when I find a kitten I like I'll buy it. He never had any reaction to this. I know he doesn't love cats, but I do and he gets along just fine with my parents cats. So last night I brought the kitten home and in a creepy way he calmly stated that if it stays he'll kill it (throw it under a bus etc.) Hes made comments about killing other things if we got the E.g if I got pregnant and decided to keep the baby. We've been together over a year and he's always been emotionally distant and non intimate or interested too much in sex. After this kitten thing I am upset I had to give it away, and disturbed even more that it's because he threatened to kill it. I don't feel like he cares about how I feel. Is it wrong or weird that I really want to leave him over this incident?
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had to give up cat because boyfriend threatened to kill it, want to leave him.
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t3_iwxii
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AskReddit
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Congressional staffers of Reddit, what are the most effective ways for the public to change your bosses position about an issue?
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It seems that most of the larger issues being debated today in Congress result in positions being taken and lines being drawn regardless of public opinion or input. The last time I checked it's a representational democracy, however, it seems our politicians conveniently forget this point as soon as they step into office.
It's increasingly clear to me that the citizens are largely outside observers, voices stifled by wealthy, well-funded special interest groups and corporate lobbyists eagerly writing laws and influencing (ie buying) politicians and votes.
Will your bosses only listen to those who come bearing large bags of money and promises of future campaign contributions? Or is there still a mechanism for the public to influence your bosses vote, regardless of their own personal opinion or position? Is there some way for the average citizen to force their representative to take a position counter to their ideological instincts, simply because the majority of citizens want it that way?
In essence how can we, the public, effectively influence their decision making process without handing over large bags of cash? Or is Money the only language anyone speaks in Washington?
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What are the most effective methods the public can use change a politicians mind about a certain issue, even if it goes against both the politicians ideological instincts and well-financed special interest?
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t3_2kgo0i
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relationships
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Me [23 M] with my EX [19 F] 8 months, keeps contacting after leaving for someone else?
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Ex left me 3 months ago for someone else she said i did not care enough for her even that i always cared for her so much. I begged her to come back(stupid idea) which she was thinking she might but then turned around and said she never wanted anything to do with me ever again. we kinda stayed friends but she ended up with someone else a few days later.
I cut all contact with her and deleted her off facebook. But a few weeks later she re adds me on Facebook i stupidly accept and she contacts me on viber or fb every week or 2, i barely reply to her and then just stop replying but yet she comes back texting every 1- 2 weeks.
She wanted me to meet up with her to give her back one of her items thats worth at most $10, she keeps texting me over this stupid thing i keep saying no but she keep wanting to meet to get it back, then we had a fight over it on Facebook i un-friend her and then a few hours later she adds me back on fb and asks me to accept her fb again i goes no and she cancels the request and she says i can add her if i want(which i wont).
then another week later she texts me i ignore her, few days later again she texts me, we get talking and she tells me she still loves me a bit and tells me she was delighted when she was with me even that she told me i was the worse ever when we broke up we leave it at that, two days later she adds me on fb again, i decline.
what the hell is she at she left me for someone else but contacting me like this, she mostly contacts me very late at night at like 1am+.
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Ex leaves me for someone else, but keeps contacting me at random times and trying to add me on fb.
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t3_1c6sdz
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legaladvice
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Apologies if this is the wrong subreddit, or if this has been asked ad nauseum, but my identity was stolen...
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So I'm in a bit of a conundrum, I've been getting some very strange credit refusal notices due to possible fraudulent credit activity, so I tried to pull my credit report up, and during the identity confirmation portion, it's asking me questions about said fraudulent credit loans so I have no way of answering them correctly. I haven't yet attempted to get the reports via snail mail, which I'm hoping will be successful, so on that portion of my issue, I think I have a possible solution.
However, it's what I do with those credit reports, and the fraudulent actions that I'm a bit overwhelmed on. I know you can challenge things on your credit report, but what do I need to know going in to make sure I can actually get them removed?
I've only managed to get in to see one of my reports (Experian) and there isn't a lot of activity, just two things out of the ordinary on it, and the advice I received is that for just a few it shouldn't be too hard to get put back into order, but what I need to know is should I go ahead and get a lawyer now, or see if I can handle it on my own first (as I'm not sure I can really afford a lawyer for this situation right now, but I understand I need to get it taken care of asap).
Also, do I need to try and get my number changed? Or should I put a freeze on it to make sure more things aren't being attempted on my social? Furthermore, I'm going to be moving to a new apartment in a few months, if I put a freeze on it, is this going to complicate me being approved for a new apartment, or make it outright impossible (as I know they do credit checks when applying for a lease).
Apologies if this is a common question, or if these questions sound stupid. I tried to do as much research as I could on the subject, but would just like a little more constructive advice or guidance for a layman.
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social security number is compromised, have no idea how to proceed in the most efficient, effective way possible
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t3_3oyh3z
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relationships
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Me [19/M] and my girlfriend [19/F] broke up mutually two weeks ago after nearly two years of loving relationship. It looks like she's already hooking up with someone else and it hurts like hell
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When I say 'mutually', neither of us actually wanted it. We've been ~200 miles apart this whole time and it got to the point where neither of us have the time or the money to maintain the level of closeness that we both need. She seemed absolutely broken when we talked it over, crying and telling me she'll never stop loving me, but on facebook she's already made comments with her friends about 'shagging' someone last weekend, and it makes me feel like fucking shit.
All through the course of our relationship she never stopped telling me that if she lost me she'd never forgive herself, if we broke up she'd never be the same, but now I just feel... forgettable. Like everything that made me special is just so easily replacable to her, and to top it off I'm still crazy in love with her. The thought of her being with someone that's not me, and the fact that she probably doesn't even THINK of me... I've never felt pain like this and for the past few hours I've been an anxious blubbering mess.
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GF and I had to break up due to distance, but in two weeks she's already hooked up with someone else and I feel worthless because of it
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t3_2fi6g0
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needadvice
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My dog supposedly bit someone, what do I do now?
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Hey, I have a question.. Or a few. My neighbor likes to take my dog out of the yard to play with his dog, which is fine they get along great but they are both off leash in our front yards. Neither dog runs on the street and my neighbor is always with them. Anyway they were playing and supposedly my dog bit someone walking down the street. I heard swearing and stuff so I came out to my dog laying in front of my door panting she seemed calm and like nothing happened so I let her in then went to see what was going on with my neighbor. The person who got bit was going insane yelling at my neighbor that my dog is vicious and shouldn't be out around children and what not. So I introduced myself and asked to see the bite wound. She stormed off right away. Then came back about a hour later while I was talking to my neighbor about it. She wouldn't look at me and just kept yelling at my neighbor. Again I asked to see the bite mark she pulled up her pant leg and she had one mark about an inch in diameter not deep at all, it actually looked like she pulled a scab off a old cut and tried to blame it on my dog. I asked if I could take pictures and again she stormed off. That happened last Friday. Saturday my mother had a voicemail on her phone saying it was getting infected and she was going to sue them, not me. I don't know why she thinks she can sue them but wtv. We thought it was all talk but I went to to cop shop filed a report and explained what happened they hadn't heard anything but said they'd keep me updated (most cops in town know me and my dog). Today a person from Alberta health services came by asked if my dog was up to date on all shots and where I took her to the vet. Then said she'd be coming back on Tuesday to assess my dog. What do I do next? And what are they going to do with Penny?
I have 2 boys, ages 2 and 4. They both adore Penny and she's never done anything to either of them. Or anyone else for that matter.
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dog supposedly bit someone, wound looked old, refused picture, health serviced came over today.
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t3_198jd5
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relationships
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[Update]Growing lust for room mate [21F] driving me [24M] crazy
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In the comments of [my previous submission] was a confession that I had a crush on another girl. I thought I was over her, however, as she also lives in this house, my feelings for her suddenly came back. I never confessed to her anything and I treat all girls equally.
Today, however, I started a fight with my room mates over something stupid, which has lead me to make a decision. I need to move out quickly because these relationships are toxic. Not only have I become more sexually frustrated, I am also an emotional time bomb.
I believe that only through separation, I can become stable again. It is a shame to loose my room mates as friends, however, if I don't want to become a creep for the rest of my life, I will have to make this sacrifice.
The next weeks will be tough. Not only will we part ways, but the healing process can begin. I just hope that, someday, I can find people as awesome as them and maybe even find a girl who wants to start a romantic relationship with me.
Thanks for the advice anyway. Talking about it did help me stay strong.
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Old crush made things too complicated, so I am breaking all bonds with my room mates very soon.
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t3_tpniz
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AskReddit
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Going through all my old YUGIOH cards, priced them, stored them, now how do I sell them?
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I'm in college now and while home I took my old yugioh card collection and sorted it into commons, rares, super rares e.t.c. Anyway, I compiled a book of about 200 or more of the rarest cards. For the last few days I've been judging the condition on the cards and comparing the price rates online. Tonight I found out that MINIMUM the collection is worth $219. 35, and the MAXIMUM value comes out to be $777.34. It's a lot of variation I know, but the values of playing cards always seems to vary a lot. I'm asking anyone who has any experience/helpful advice on buying/selling Yu-Gi-Oh cards. Some main questions are:
* Where (what website) should I sell them?
* How much should I sell them for?
* Should I sell them in bulk or individually?
* Why/Why shouldn't I just put the whole thing on Ebay for a starting bid of say $300.00?
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What's the best way to sell my old YUGIOH card collection?
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t3_uo2f1
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self
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Friend got married to a guy that basically used her to obtain his citizenship but she wants out. Need advice!
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I am posting on behalf of a friend. The situation is that "Stacy" who's currently in Texas, was dating a guy (let's call him "Jose") for a few months. He helped her find a new job in his family's company and they moved in together. His family then started pressuring Stacy to get married to Jose, sort of like saying "Oh, we got you a job and you're living together so that's the right thing to do".
The problem is that she did get married to him, but is miserable. His whole family is living in the states illegally and they used her to secure a citizenship for Jose. She wants out of it all but doesn't know what to do.
From what I know, there was no money in exchange for the marriage; they were dating and she was pressured into the marriage (she's young and naive), so unless someone can explain otherwise, I believe she hasn't broken any laws. They have been married a little over a month so the window for an annulment (30 days) is closed. Stacy is completely alone in Texas and we're trying to fly her back home, but we need to get her out of that marriage.
Can any redditor point her in the right direction? What steps should she take?
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Friend married a guy that only wanted her for the citizenship, she is miserable and wants out. HALP!
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t3_uqgb1
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AskReddit
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I need to move within a month and I have "adopted" a feral cat in the neighborhood that relies on me for food. Can I bring her with me without traumatizing her?
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I first fed the cat about 6 months ago. I've fed her regularly ever since. Only 1 stretch of about 3 days a couple of weeks ago did she not show up for her feedings, and I could feel/see her ribs when this happened.
I'm 90% sure I'm the only human contact she's had because of how long it took for her to let me touch her (4 months) and how timid she is around other people. She does come in the apartment almost every time now, but only part way and every time within eyesight of the door. She derped and shut herself in once, and upon realizing that she was shut in, had a breakdown and cornered herself. It was very hard to get her to come out. She wouldn't come in for quite some time after that.
I've been working towards picking her up and getting her in a carrier to get her to a vet and I had planned on doing this over the summer. I've put it off for so long because I've worked hard to get the amount of trust I have and don't want to lose it.
Now with this move popping up on me I have to rush it. What's the best way to go about this without traumatizing her and losing the least amount of trust?
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Have to move in a month and have a feral cat whom I love and doesn't completely trust me. How do I move with her and have the best possible outcome?
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t3_2qy4jf
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relationships
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I'm (23/f) at the hospital with my (28/m) boyfriend as we wait for his grandpa to pass. What do I say/do?
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We've been dating for 3 months. I have no idea what my role is here. I've never had anyone close to me pass away. He asked me to come with him because his grandpa wanted to pull the plug this morning. All of his extended family is here, none of whom I know very well. I'm sitting in the waiting room as they sit with his grandpa. I didn't know his grandpa. So far several of his relatives have thanked me for being here. How do I respond? What do I say to them? I know they're facing a significant loss but I don't know what I can say to make the situation any better. Any advice is appreciated, I'm not good at social interactions to begin with and I feel incredibly out of place here.
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What's the right thing to say to people you barely know about a grandpa dying?
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t3_1yjblv
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legaladvice
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I've let a friend borrow my PS3. Now after a week of trying to recover it, she's threatening me.
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I was going to post this to /r/relationships because this friend is an ex of mine, but I'm not at all concerned about my relationship with her at this point. I'm ready to cut ties as soon as my things are returned.
3 weeks ago my dryer broke and I needed to do laundry. This friend talks all the time about wanting to borrow the
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I let an ex borrow my
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t3_12kvl9
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relationships
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I(21) need help helping my gf(21) get over her unhealthy sexual past.
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My gf has a very unhealthy sexual past. She never had the sweet innocent loosing her virginity moment (neither did I) but more of a drunken mistake. She had a few "bad streaks" where she would sleep around with different guys to feel "wanted". She thought that by giving guys what she wanted she would fell wanted but as many of you know this is only a temporary fix. She has never enjoyed sex, actually she hates it because of what she made it into. She has never experienced sex as it should be (love-making). We are very deeply in love and I want nothing more than for her to experience the feeling that I feel when we have sex. I've told her that if she doesn't want sex then we won't have it, which she doesn't want because she assumes this will lead to me cheating. She is a good person who just made some bad mistakes. Do you guys have any advice for me to help her get over this so that we can have the amazing passionate sex life I know we are capable of?
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Gf has unhealthy sexual past which inhibits her from enjoying sex with anyone despite the fact we are in love, need advice. We have been together 8 months.
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t3_2wyngv
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Parenting
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Having my first in a few days- how do I do night feedings?
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I'm due in a week with my first and I have no idea how to handle night-feedings. I can't decide if I should put the pack and play bassinet in our room. It seems like that would be convenient, but would that keep my husband up every time she woke? Also, if so, where do I change her? The only surface in our room is our bed and that doesn't seem like it will work, but it also doesn't seem like a good idea to get on the floor. The pack and play has a changer that rests on it, but I don't know if that would be a pain to plop on and off in the middle of the night. I also have a rocking chair in our baby room/office that I'm planning on breastfeeding in.
We live in a 2 bedroom apartment, so it's not like I'd be walking up and down stairs or all the way across the house at night, but I've also heard that it's way more convenient to room in with baby. I'm just not really sure what to do and I don't have strong feelings either way, but I'm stressed about not having a plan because we still need to move around furniture and I could go into labor at any time at this point.
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how do I babycare at night?
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t3_2nwr26
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relationships
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My (23/F) best friends (both 23/F) get mad that I don't drink much when going to the bars.
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Going to try to make this as short as possible. When I was in HS & college I used to drink a lot and would always drink to get drunk. This past year I was able to find my "happy medium" and no longer was drinking to get drunk anymore. I started dating a guy and he rarely drank, which then rubbed off on me and I would never drink. I would maybe have one glass of wine with dinner every now and again. We recently broke up and I just went home for Thanksgiving. When I go home, I like to go to the local bar to run into people I used to be friends with and just be social. I usually only will drink one drink.
Well, we went to the bar last night and I was only sipping on my drink (like usual). My best friends started nagging at me and were making points like "you've been here for so long and we're already on our 3rd drink you're on your first still. You need to drink more." I tell them I don't want to drink more. I can have one drink all night or not drink at all and still have fun. They both just tell me there is no point to go to the bar because, "who goes to the bar and has one drink" "People go to bars to get drunk" "we should just be at home since you aren't drinking." They just made me feel like shit for not wanting to drink more than one drink and that it is such a problem that I don't want to drink to "get drunk" anymore.
Am I being ridiculous that I don't want to drink much when going to the bars or are they just being rude and mad that I'm not like I used to be in HS/college and don't like to get as crazy as I used to? It's a stupid fight, but they really make me feel like such a belittled person since I don't drink as much as I used to.
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My friends get mad that I only drink one drink when I go to the bar & that I don't like to get drunk anymore. Should they even be getting mad at me?
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t3_2cg7dk
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relationships
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[non-romantic] I (26f) feel like my boss (50'sF) has crossed a line.
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So I have an awesome job. I've been here for about 4 months and things have been awesome.
Well I forgot about a few parking tickets and my car registration didn't renew and I'm taking care of it but my boss said until it is taken care of shed like me to not drive it to work. I understand that, her husband is a state trooper and a lot of our customers are local cops.
Well heres where I feel like she's crossed a line. She apparently looked up my information bc she exactly how many tickets I need to pay off and says something about it every time I work and now today she came up to me and said "Do you know your boyfriends license is revoked?"
A) I have NEVER told her my boyfriends name.
B) it is NOT revoked it expired on hia birthday and he forgot to renew it, completely different and he is getting it renewed on Monday.
Am I crazy for feeling uncomfortable? I feel like she is over stepping a line. I think she had her husband run backround checks on me which is fine since I am her employee... but ny boyfriend? Who has ZERO to do with her business?
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I think my boss is crossing the line and I'm starting to feel uncomfortable working here anymore.
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t3_28cphs
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relationships
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Me [19/M] with my friend [22/F] of about a year, at a standstill.
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So me and my friend have been friends for around a year, we met at work. I found out she liked me through a mutual friend. Mutual friend was the one who suggested asking her to movie/dinner. I did, went well and was a fun night (this was around 2 months ago). We are both the introvert type, I guess you could say. We have lots of common interests, same hobbies, etc.. Our Mutual friend told me she is interested in me, and was implying that I should make a move.
I invited her to go see a movie this Thursday, before I head off to a music festival to do some sound work for a band. We are also both going to be in a car with each other for 11+ hours to go to a music festival in July.
I'm interested in "bringing the relationship to the next level" I guess you can call it. But I've literally only been in one other relationship, and she was the one whom asked me out. So I have no idea what to do. Any advice is appreciated.
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Me and a friend have a mutual friend, whom told me she liked me in the first place. Gone to a few movies, and went to dinner once. Want to "bring the relationship to next level" but have no idea how. Any advice for a person with little to no relationship experience.
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t3_37sxfp
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legaladvice
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Issue with paycheck (Minnesota)
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I got a position through a temp agency to a manufacturing position about 3 months ago. Everything has been fine until last week. I work Monday-Thursday 10 hour days. Last week I was unavailable to work Thursday so I asked my boss if I could take the day off to come in on Friday (OT is available on fridays but is optional). Since I wasnt gonna be working Thursday, my paycheck would be the same as any other week.
Well on last Friday when I was working I got a call from the temp agency telling me I would not be getting my paycheck that day because of an issue on there part and said I would get it on Tuesday (monday was memorial day). I said that is fine and that was the end of the conversation. Got my paycheck on Tuesday (in full and with no issue) but today on Friday, my paycheck was about $50 short.
I called the agencys 1800 number since I discovered this after hours and they told me that because I got paid twice in one week, the taxes are higher which is why my paycheck is lower. This came as a shock to me because, 1. I was not aware of this and 2. My recruiter never mentioned it. Now I am $50 short because of there mistake. I can't contact her until Monday, but I wanted to know, if I can do anything about this legally? I worked for that money but my paycheck is $50 short because of there mistake.
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Workplace screwed up and paid me twice in one week, this caused me to lose $50, what can I do?
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t3_fr8kr
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AskReddit
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Hey reddit ... want to help solve a mystery?
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A filmmaker friend is doing [a documentary on the Daniel Berrigan affair] a fascinating point in history, and a story with tons of local ties here in Maryland. The gentleman in question, Boyd F. Douglas, Jr., had a ringside seat to the proceedings and his perspective could help ensure the full story is told. I know without question that if he'd rather not participate, the filmmakers would step back and let him be. They'd like to offer that choice to him directly. Thought the power of reddit might be helpful in their search. Not looking for anything to be posted here ... anything relevant can go directly to the filmmakers at the email address in the [blog link] Thanks for checking it out.
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Help some honest filmmakers find a helpful witness to history, if you can. If not, click the link, read a little, and keep your eyes peeled for a well made, thought provoking documentary.
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t3_1oxoi8
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pettyrevenge
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Let my dog suffer? No internet for you.
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Let's start this off by saying I have a dog. He is hairy, he is gross and he has a host of medical issues. I promise he isn't neglected. He gets his baths every weekend and we brush him (although he bites) but he is pretty darn gross. Despite this, he is the most lovable idiot I know, and I don't know what I would do without him. [My baby](
I have an equally irritating grandmother, and she is part of my least favorite social groups out there: the martyrs. If she does any kind of community service she'll use it to boost her image to other people, and if she has a problem she bitches incessantly. One of her problems is how much she hates my dog. She refuses to do anything that involves him, even if it's as simple as opening two doors to let him outside.
I'm still in high school so I leave every morning at seven thirty after letting my dog run around in the backyard, put him in his kennel, and come home at four. It isn't ideal, but he gets lots of love and cookies when I get home. Grandma never lets him out of his kennel while I'm away, despite the fact that she lives in our house and stays home all day.
Today, as it goes every week, I walked in to my house and saw my grandma talking on the phone, sitting on the couch with her feet kicked up. The scent of shit in the air was the other prominent feature of the room. After letting Jackaboo out, giving him water and letting him run around while I cleaned smashed shit out of the bottom of the kennel I walked my other dog and went up to my room to internet. Today this consisted of me watching youtube videos (Troye Sivan is amazing) and after half an hour or so guess who walked in saying the internet didn't work? My response was, "Bummer. Try turning it on and off?" and then looking back at my screen and streaming all the internet away. No hallmark movies for you, dog-hater.
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Grandma lets my dog sit in his own shit for hours, I take away her internet.
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t3_2xbtxf
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relationships
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[22M] Severely depressed GF [20F] of 18 months has been trying to push me away after a series of unfortunate events.
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My girlfriend (we'll call her Kera) and I have been together for the past 18 months and for most of that time things have been pretty great. However for the last few months she's become increasingly more depressed due to a series of unfortunate events involving her mother being hospitalized this last fall and various financial and family problems. Things really came to a head this last week.
Kera admitted to me she's been thinking about killing herself. She attempted once before I met her and has not to my knowledge attempted anything since we've been together. She's been pushing me away recently, telling me that we're not working out and that we'd be better off apart because of some recent arguments and incidents where I tried to come to her for emotional support and she wasn't able to help.
I have told her numerous times that I want to try and work this out and she's convinced that we're doomed to fail no matter what we do. She frequently berates herself about her body and tells me that I deserve someone better than her.
I'm trying to be as supportive as I can, but it's starting to get to me. I've tried to convince her to get back on medication (she stopped because she couldn't afford it) and she seems receptive to the idea at times but at other times says that it's no use because it will only make her a zombie.
I need help trying to figure out what I need to do. I'm a working college student and between that and her I'm really starting to see the cracks show. I don't want to leave her, but I'm not sure if there's anything I can do to convince her to let me stay.
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Depressed girlfriend is trying to end relationship.
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t3_3fgxgg
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tifu
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TIFU by sending my mom a dick pic
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I was in the bathroom on reddit, as most people do, when I came upon this reddit thread.
There I learned, in the comments, that there was a way to make your Samsung phone send an emergency message and pictures from the front and back cameras.
So I turn it on, I text my mom saying "I'm testing my emergency phone thing so don't be alarmed by it when it texts you." I forget it records you and takes the pictures without alarming you at all. So these texts go out to my mom with my dick and my face looking like an idiot. It also has a soundbite of me heavy breathing.
There's no NSFW content here
2 clarifications:
I hastly deleted the photos and soundbites thinking it could be stopped before it would send since my reception is dogshit.
Sorry I couldn't make an album of the two screenshots, but I'm on mobile.
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I learned about my phone's emergency system and it sent my mom a dick pic with my heavy breathing. Texts for proof.
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t3_15ozu2
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relationship_advice
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I've [27/m] reached a crossroads and must either propose to my girlfriend [26/f] or break it off.
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We've been dating for a little over four years. I love her and I know she loves me. I trust her completely and she gets along really well with my family and friends. I've been putting off a proposal for a while now for one reason or another (school, money, etc.) and I told her at the end of the summer this winter we would be engaged. Winter is here and I'm freaking out. I've only had one other long term relationship in my life and I'm so afraid of being unhappy someday. For the most part we're happy now and most of our problems stem from me not committing. I just feel so confused and as soon as I decide to commit, I change my mind and as soon as I say we should spend time apart, I change my mind and want to propose. In my mind, I thought of doing it on New Years or Christmas but I kept going back and forth and now they're almost over and I know she's going to start wondering what I'm waiting for.
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Been in a relationship for four years and the time has come to either propose or break up and I'm freaking out.
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t3_2cz8eq
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tifu
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TIFU by being a gentlemen
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Background time: I went on a date with a girl I work with last night. (I know don't shit where you eat.) Had a great time; couple of drinks and apps and took a nice walk around the the waterfront just doing some people watching.
We live about 2 miles apart from each other. She came down to have dinner in my area of the city. I decided that regardless of what was going on I would simply walk with her to her apartment (she doesn't live in greatest part of town), hopefully I was going to be invited in. We had been making out down by the waterfront so I figured I can always hold out hope.
As we are standing outside of her apartment doing a little making out, I notice a two people coming towards us then I hear "you know what time it is." That's right....There was a gun pointing at us and we were being robbed. Took our cell phones and wallets and they went on their way. There was someone around that let us use their phone to call the police. We then spent the next 3 hours at the police station writing up reports. Got back to my house around 3am. She ended up staying at my house because she didn't want to be alone. We got all of 2 hours of sleep (at best) since I had to be to work by 7am.
I am not sitting at work for 13 hours today and tomorrow and having to keep a smile on my face when all I want to do is go home and sleep and get a new phone.
Please excuse improper formatting, my head is not exactly into what is going on today.
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Tried to be nice by walking my date home, end up getting robbed at gun point
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t3_2qdi1z
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tifu
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TIFU by giving an unwanted spray
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Like most TIFU stories this story happened years ago but it resurfaced with the telling of jokes for the season.
Back when I was a youngling, about 7 or so, we used to have lunch in our classrooms so that our teacher could supervise our eating and ensure we were eating all of our food.
So there I am with my friends eating lunch all merrily when my one of my friends decided to tell a joke just as I was swallowing my milk. For the life of me I can't remember the joke but all I know it was so funny to me that the milk came through mostly my nose and some of my mouth and there I am sputtering like a seal because any liquid coming through your nose with force burns like hell and I also began to choke because some of it went down the wrong pipe. when i finally catch myself, I look at my friends who are now wiping themselves in disgust and are covered in the finest of misty milky mists. Even made one of them cry.
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Don't drink and listen to a joke unless you're aiming for bathing and pissing off your friends, happened to me.
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t3_pxb7i
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AskReddit
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I need girl help, please somebody.
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Let me just explain this first before anything else.
I'm a sophomore now. When I first met this girl I was in 7th grade and we dated for a bit. I was her first kiss. At the end of last year I fell in love with her, and I'm sure of it because she made me feel unlike any other girl ever had. She said she couldn't act on it because she was going away for the summer, so I complied. This year starts and she doesn't look twice at me. She immediately associates herself with an enormous idiot named Clay who is ridiculously arrogant and stupid. On new years eve I finally gave it a shot and I got lucky. We hung out underneath fireworks and had a really romantic night and it was magical, and I know she felt something. Since then she had avoided me and not texted me or called me. We recently started talking again and I basically asked her why she won't give me a chance. Her response was "I just can't." I have no idea what to do. I actually am in some form of juvenile love with her. How do I get her reddit?
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Girl acts like she likes me but then says she doesn't.
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t3_350zne
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relationships
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My boyfriend [23 M] of 4 years had two girls spend the night at our apartment with him while I [21 F] am out of town.
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I have been out of town for a little over a week now. A few days after I left I was texting my boyfriend around 12 am and he stopped responding to me. I texted him again and no response. The next morning he called me and told me that two of his friends (girls) spent the night.
He said that around 12 am he got a bunch of texts from both girls because one of them got into a fight with their boyfriend. For some reason they decided they had to come over to our apartment. He said they the three of them stayed up for awhile, and they spent the night at our apartment. He says the two girls slept on the floor in the living room. In the morning they went and bought him breakfast. I have only met these two girls twice, and he has only known them since this semester started in January.
When he called me I was about to board a plane so I couldn't really respond to him. Later while I was waiting for my plane to take off I texted him and told him I was upset. His response was "I'm sorry" and that was it. I haven't talked to him since then. He has tried calling me a few times, and sent me a few texts saying "I love you" and a couple of other texts unrelated. I have not answered his phone calls or responded to his texts. The family I am visiting with now says I should just ignore him while I am on vacation.
I am not sure what to do or think. I do not think it is appropriate at all to have two girls spend the night at our apartment with him while I am not there. I don't know if he just doesn't see that or he just does not care. I don't think he would cheat on me, but he has told me he has cheated on all of his past girlfriends. I don't know if I am just being dramatic and getting upset over nothing. I don't know if I should talk to him or ignore him.
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My boyfriend had two girls spend the night while I am out of town because one of them got in a fight with their boyfriend. I haven't talked to him since he told me. Not sure what I should do.
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t3_4zyo5j
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askwomenadvice
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Dillema with a new girl
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intro: We've been out on several dates and we openly expressed our fondness of each other and I had to leave that town on the seaside and we agreed to see each other when she returns in about 2 weeks.
we have been texting regularly and 4 days ago I sent her a casual message "When are you coming back?" and I hadn't recieved a text back.
I have 2 possible solutions:
1) be desperate and pretend like nothing has happened and just text her again like "hey,whatsupp" - I dislike that choice for obvious reasons
2) Text her like "1:0 for you." - I really dont have time for games in a relationship and she did it on purpose she will explain and I will see OK fuck you or OK you are forgiven and Ill give her another shot.
what do you think? I like her, she liked me but I dont have time for games and I dont want to look weak,but still want to keep her. Thanks
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read it!
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t3_2e1028
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relationships
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I [25 M] got caught messaging women/swapping pics by my [25 F] SO. She was always jealous and insecure, but now it's worse.
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I live with my girlfriend, and after a while everything got really shitty. She's constantly acts insecure and it makes her get pretty crazy. She's also super jealous. It's super unattractive, and it's made me think about breaking things off with her pretty often. It made her so unattractive to me that I despised sex with her.
Eventually I started messaging girls online and swapping pics. There was no emotional connection... It was purely an outlet for me. She found out and considers it cheating. I understand how she feels that way, but I never got any phone numbers or attempted to meet anyone. The best way I can explain it is that this was a form of porn for me. We talked it out and I agreed that I was wrong, and I wouldn't do it ever again. I even agreed that I wouldn't go to subs like gonewild or any websites remotely close to cams, etc.
Anyway, even when I feel things are going great in our relationship, she has to ruin a great day or moment by bringing up this past issue. I'm so over it. I'm literally tired of talking about it with her, because there's nothing left to discuss or say. How do I get past her insecurity? I want her trust, but I'm so tired of her constant need for reassurance. Keep in mind that her insecurity, jealousy, and lack of trust were issues before the incident. What do I do?
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Girlfriend is very jealous and insecure. I was caught messaging girls/swapping pics, and it made everything worse. What do I do?
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t3_24yks6
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personalfinance
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Paying off student loans
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I currently have been out of school for a year now and have been paying off student loans for half that time. It is getting to the point where I can no longer make payments, have no savings or spending money. I am two months behind in rent (to my parents) and just missed two of my loan payments. I have approximately ~$85K in loans to five different lenders with payments which total some where in the $800-1K range a month. I dont know what to do but cannot keep doing what I'm doing as my income stream is not steady enough to have a future budget. I work at a restaurant with changing hours at night, and during the day I do service for an HVAC (Heating, Ventilation, and Air Conditioning, if you didnt know) whose hours vary WAY too much and I am not needed often enough. I only know if I'm working that day, and sometimes i dont get the call to almost noon, but I have no idea whether I will be working tomorrow and go from day to day with my scheduling. Any thoughts or advice besides get a new job (I've been looking on days i know I wont work) would be appreciated.
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Non steady job/income with ~$800-1K a month due in student loans to five different lenders. Missed payment on two of them so far this month. HELP!!!
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t3_2eg9mu
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relationships
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I [22 F] suspect my bf[23M] of cheating. Or am I overreacting
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I went out with my boyfriend and his friends a couple of nights ago but I'm really insecure because all his friends are female and really friendly and pretty.
During the night he kept 'flirting' with one of his friends,poking fun at her and basically turning all the conversations to her. And at the end told her not to make any plans next week. But that day is my birthday and he didn't even invite me.
He also has a tinder that he doesn't think I know about and constantly says he doesn't have any friends but his phone is always buzzing.
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Is he cheating and should I leave him?
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t3_3056kx
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tifu
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TIFU BY INSTALLING WHATSAPP WITHOUT FULLY UNDERSTAND WHAT IT IS
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This happened a few years ago right around the time whatsapp was on the rise.I was on a trip with all my school friends for a full week, chatting by whatsapp was a lot cheaper then by messages.there was a girl in my class (there's always a girl) who i used to genuinely like but didn't had the guts to speak to her but i used to chat with her with whatsapp. long story shot on the last day i was getting bad cell reception.so being an asshole i am i whatapp the following three messages in successive
1. i love you but i am unable to talk to you. Plesse by my gf
2. i love you but i don't have the guts to do it,it doesnt matter if you become my gf
3. i love you, i have the guts but fear rejection,wanna do it?
now since i was getting bad reception these messages were not sent . at this point i realised my fuck up. then i saw that there was a option to delete the message. i deleted all three . later my friend told me that messages were sent just deleted from your chat history
She has never spoken since.
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JUST READ IT ASSHOLES
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t3_2vmmxl
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relationship_advice
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He lied or just never told me that he didn't graduate high school.
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We're both 30. I've been with this guy for 3 years and we have a kid together. Recently I opened his mail (this is allowed in our relationship) and he'd received a copy of his GED scores. Um. As far as I knew, he'd graduated from high school. When I mentioned that he had received this particular document, he said "whaaaa?" I said he'd never told me he had a ged. His reasoning was that he didn't tell me when we first met because he knew I was really smart and he was embarrassed. His reason was that halfway through his senior year, he found out that due to moving to a school with different requirements, he wouldn't have enough credits to graduate. So he stopped going and took the test instead.
Now, I am a college dropout. I did really well in high school and have always been considered "smart," which loses a lot of its meaning when you are a grown adult without a good education. Making 25k a year. I'm not any kind of Harvard grad thinking I was dating the same. But I did think I was dating a similarly educated guy to my own level.
Here's the thing. It's not a huge deal, as far as how it affects his career prospects or the fact that I've thought he was intelligent since we met. But I feel like I was tricked. It would have been at least a yellow flag if he had told me when we were new. I feel like he didn't give me the chance to decide for myself what I thought of the true him. But now every time I kick his ass at trivia crack or when he refuses to have a debate or read an article I send him, I'm reminded of it and almost lose respect for him a little.
So, is a person's education a material fact that has to be disclosed when it first comes up? Would you make a big deal out of this revelation? I don't know how to feel.
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SO took 3 years to (accidentally) disclose that he didn't finish high school. I don't know what to think.
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t3_l2rev
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relationship_advice
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Reddit, am I doing alright for a 25 year old, or should I cut my losses and try something new?
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This is my life right now (first world problems ahead): I finished my BFA 10 months ago, I work full time in retail, and have been in a relationship with an amazing girl for one year.
I absolutely hate my job, and I want to do something that I love, but I don't know what that is yet. Chances are, it means that I might have to relocate, since there aren't many jobs in my current location. My girlfriend doesn't want to move, and a long distance relationship is out of the question for her. I understand her reasons for not wanting to move, but I don't think I can stay here and earn enough to provide for a family down the road. Anytime I try and bring it up for discussion, she freaks out and asks why she's wasting her time with me. I really want to be with her, but I don't want to get stuck in a dead end job that could potentially end up killing our relationship. I have no idea what to do. Please help.
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Should I focus on the relationship that I want, or should I end it and focus on a career?
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t3_tidkx
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loseit
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Getting back into the swing of things
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I will try to keep this short as it is my first post in this group. 2 years ago last week I underwent gastric banding. For the first year, it was very successful. I went from 420lbs on 5/7/10 to 289lbs on 5/7/11. For most of last year I was plateaued. I would hover between 290 and 305. This was primarily due to letting some of my old eating habits creep back into my life. In late October of last year, my dad went into the hospital, stayed in for about 6 weeks until he, unfortunately, passed away. For the entire time that I was staying at the hospital with him and my mom I was eating very poorly, this continued after he passed as I basically turned to food to cope just like I had in the past. So here I am, a week removed from the 2nd anniversary of weight loss surgery and I have climbed all the way back up to 337 lbs. It has to stop.
I have been reading this forum for a few weeks and all of your stories of success and struggle have been amazing. I am sincerely hoping that having access to a community of people that understand my struggle will be beneficial and will help me get back onto the path of success I was on for over a year. I just signed up for the challenge and am hoping to be back to 300lbs. by the time is done in July. My fingers are certainly crossed.
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Lost a lot of weight, dad died and old habits came back. Trying to start losing again.
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t3_2mg050
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relationships
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Me [18/F] and my boyfriend [21 /M] of a year and a half... should I just give up on him?
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Like every relationships things were great in the beginning. We're in a long distance relationship, but things got hard when he got depressed. He started blaming me for his bad grades and for his lack of friends, and overall just started blaming me for everything that went wrong in his life because I was "distracting" him. I didn't feel like I was distracting him at all. His grades were poor because he would always study for his exams at the minute, and he lost his friends because he never bothered to keep in touch with them. I even remember encouraging him to hang out with his friends because I wanted alone time.
Anyway, things got worse, but I still thought had hope for us. I didn't want to leave him while he was at his worst because I love him. I tried doing extra things to make him happy like send him letters and gifts, but he never seemed to appreciate them. I tried really hard to be patient with him, but at some points I felt unloved and sad. He started to further push me away and be neglectful, but apparently he still "loved" me.
Just recently, it got to the point that some days he loved me and other days he would say he "thinks" he loves me. I don't even know what to think anymore. On top of that, he'd always get upset if I brought up something I wasn't happy with. He would start ignoring my calls and texts, and he doesn't even want to see me anymore. Just the other day, I tried to have an mature conversation with him about how I feel, and he just hung up on me and blocked my number for the day.
I tried talking to him just now and he refused to talk to me, and told me that he would rather not talk to me anymore. Then he turned off his phone for the night and I just feel horrible. He's starting to have a toxic effect on me, but I don't think he means it at all. I feel alone in this relationship. I just want to be heard and I want answers. It's just hard to give up and I wish he would just show that he loves me and or cares about me.
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boyfriend is depressed and ignores me, I don't know what to do
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t3_1iqpkq
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self
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Snoring should be a goddamn federal crime
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On a family trip right now. We're all sharing one Hotel room, and only one of us is getting any sleep. This is apparent from the resounding, thunderous, rasping snores eminating from his bed. But it's not only your regular sleep-slaying snore, it also follows an insidious cycle designed to lure you into attempting sleep. It'll stop just long enough for you think you're safe, but soon begins again. It starts quiet, and you think you can bear it, but then it increases in volume until it reaches the approximate decibal count of above ground nuclear testing. It's currently 1:40 and nobody else has gotten any sleep. I passed the poin of silently hoping he'd drown in his own spit hours ago and am now actively contemplating murder.
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If you snore, move to an isolated cave in one of the unpopulated swathes of Saskatchewan. It's better that way.
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t3_4mdn8v
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tifu
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TIFU by conversing on two different chat groups at once.
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This happened 5 minutes ago. First of all, please forgive me for the writing.
I'm home studying while my phone's constantly vibrating from the notifications I get from two chat groups on whatsapp.
The chat groups concerned are: A bunch of friends (all male) who are planning to have a drink tonight and my family planning this summer's vacation (We live in different countries, thus we're planning to meet up in our home country).
Since I'm mostly concentrated on my computer, I only look at my phone once in a while to see if I'm needed and if so I just write a quick reply.
My buddies are having a nice conversation planning the evening and in the notification bar I saw that one of them said: "I'm also getting some meat so I can cook something later." So I immediately thought of a reply and unlocked my phone to write it.
As I open whatsapp I clicked on the first conversation and quickly wrote: "Ah extra meat for the sausage fest I see!" (You know where this is going...)
When I sent the reply I quickly realized that I fucked up because from the moment I unlocked my phone to the moment I opened whatsapp my family's convo got up and I replied to them. The worst part is that my mom was actually telling us what she was planning to serve for the end of Ramadan (after the month of fasting the family gathers to eat and chill) and my reply came directly after her message (she planned to serve a beef stew).
After that I got private messages from my dad and sisters going: "What the fuck is wrong with you?" "I hope you have an explanation." "You're disgusting" etc...
Then my mom (1.50m sweet little innocent asian) sent me a message saying: "Honey, what's a sausage fest?"
In the end I managed to explain myself and all is good.
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My mom learned something new.
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t3_1zsyls
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relationship_advice
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[M21] with [f20] for a year, we're on a break and I'm through being on the hook...
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We've been on a break for 2 weeks to try get back to normal (we've both had depressing stuff happen the last few months and its kinda made seeing each other lose any sense of fun) but these 2 weeks have been miserable being on the hook not knowing where its going to end and I refuse to be in suspense any longer. Shes calling me tonight and I'm asking her to meet me on sunday so we can spend the day together and see if we can work it all out. And if she says no or says that she doesn't want to see me yet, I think I'm going to tell her its over. I've always been the person who tries to make it work and its just upsetting to see that she isnt trying. Basically wondering how I can say its over, but also make it clear that I'm still open to being with her if shes willing to actually try, without sounding desperate...
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how do I let her go if I still want her to come back?
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t3_ct09y
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AskReddit
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Anecdotal evidence that the economy is turning around, anyone care to share?
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I live in the Chicago metropolitan area and have been riding the train downtown for about a year and half. I am 25 years old and for a long time was the youngest person on the train. Occasionally I would see someone my age or younger, but given the irregularity of their train rides (M-W-F only) I assumed they were college students. In the last month and half there's been an influx of young riders. I'd estimate about 3 or 4 regular riders are younger than me on any train car I climb onto. This to me says that there are a lot more new graduates getting hired, and entry level jobs are opening up.
One more anecdote. I've subscribed to a private job posting board through the Illinois CPA Society for two years now and up until the beginning of July there were only about 10 job posts per week. Now there are about 5 per day.
I know this recovery will be long, but it's good to see some things moving. I feel for those who are without work. My brother's in marketing and having trouble finding a sales job. I'm just trying to be optimistic is all.
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I think things are starting to loosen up a bit. More people on the train, more job postings on job boards.
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t3_jss8s
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AskReddit
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I know absolutely nothing about cars and I need advice about mine!
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I have a 2001 Mitsubishi Eclipse. The previous owner seems to have moved the air filter from its normal position to down near my front-driver's side tire. According to the mechanic this caused my check engine light to come on and report that my Mass Air Flow sensor was malfunctioning.
However, this isn't what I was told the first time I took it into the shop. I was told that my Mass Air Flow sensor needed to be replaced. So I said OK and it was replaced. My car worked fine and then 2 months later it broke down while driving. The check engine light was on again. I took it back to the same place and they diagnosed it as being my air filter. I went to another shop to see if this was right and they told me it was my Mass Air Flow sensor (which I had already replaced).
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My air filter is down near my tire and the mechanic's are telling me this is causing my check engine light to report that my Mass Air Flow sensor is malfunctioning.
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t3_17rxcj
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BreakUps
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Need advice on how to handle an ex who keeps breaking his "no-contact" rule (22f,28m)
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About 5 months ago my boyfriend and I broke up. It was his idea and even though I didn't want to I agreed. I even agreed to his "no-contact" rule and honestly have not contacted him since. However he found several "important" reasons in the beginning to contact me and several more throughout the course of the following months. He doesn't mention the actual break up or any feeling but just whatever instance he had to contact me. All I've done is respond in usually a sentence or less which I thought would deter him from continuing...but it hasn't. Now don't get me wrong, I would love to still talk to him, and settle our differences, and find out how he is but the dynamics of our relationship won't allow that at this stage--if ever. I miss him terribly. But I feel that he is inventing excuses and I don't understand why. Mainly ever time he does it all of the emotions flood me and I have to deal with the emo shit all over again. I'm not sure if I should stop responding all together or confront him on the issue.
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Ex keeps breaking his own "no-contact" rule and IDK how to deal with the issue or why he's doing it.
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t3_116t4p
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loseit
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-70 pounds and hopefuly a few more to come (Before/Current)
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Hey, First time posting here so ill get straight to it. I started loosing weight about a year ago now after feeling really shitty for a while.
Before
I got an invite to come back and play some basketball and gave it a go.
At my first game I was at 308 pounds and barely made it 5 mins without feeling like I was going to die. After that i decided to continue playing but start to loose the weight casually as I had a feeling I wouldn't be able to do a rush "Crash" diet job.
Basically just started calorie counting on a very rough basis, Cut out all full sugar drinks and drastically reduced the amount of fast food I was eating.
As I don't own a set of scales I didnt really know how much I was loosing but every month or so managed to jump on a set and was always surprised.
Anyway skip a year and I'm down to 238 pounds and feeling alot better, Basketball has improved ALOT and I'm loving playing and being able to run out a game and still have energy.
Current
Anyway still got a bit to go but thought id put a post up
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Lost 70 Pounds so far, Feel good, Basketball FTW
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t3_26yj0f
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relationship_advice
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My [11m] girlfriend [22] has told me never to drink alcohol again, or we're over.
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I rarely drink, and when I do drink I enjoy myself, I went to town with my mates and my girlfriend was going with her girls, I may or may not have been a little too drunk, to the point where I can't remember much, now I have been told that I wasn't following her directions and i was embarrassing her and that clearly upset her the next day which led her to say if I drink ever again were over, I'm not a fan of her decision as I rather not be told something like that, now I do love her and I will stop drinking to be with her, but I am not happy that she said it, what do you guys think?
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Girlfriend doesn't like me drinking because she gets embarrassed of me, I don't like that she said that, what do you guys think?
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t3_2swkbg
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relationships
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Me [26M] just broke up with cohab gf [26F] of 5yrs. Do I take the condoms?
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I just broke up with my girlfriend of 5 years for lots of reasons. Primely, I've never dated anyone else, and I feel like I am not an independent person. I need to feel good about being myself and bringing him to the relationship. Beyond that, there are lots of ways we're incompatible (at least in terms of interests, values, etc.), but that could all probably be worked through if I were confident in who I was as an individual and was able to mandate that in my relationship. I can't. So we broke up. We still love each other, and actually cuddled for 2 hours after our breakup talk, because neither of us wanted to say goodbye. I feel awful and so so sad, even though I know it was for the best, at least for me.
Anyway, we live(d) together, I am in the process of collecting my stuff from her/our place, and I don't know what to do about the condoms and the message it sends. If I take them, then I'm afraid I'll be sending the message that "oh, I'm ready to go sleep around, better bring the condoms" (which I'm not). On the other hand I'm afraid that if I leave them, seeing them there will just upset her. What should I do? Take or leave? She is out of town, so I need to make this decision on my own tomorrow morning before she gets back.
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As I move out, what do I do with our condoms to avoid hurting my (ex)girlfriend?
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t3_t21gz
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relationships
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All of my girlfriend's exes are still in love with her
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Stats: Both of us in our 20's
Me-Grad student
Her: Undergrad
So basically, my girlfriend is pretty effing amazing. We've only been together for a couple of years and we're perfect for each other. We haven't talked about it but I may be sort of thinking of wifing her up pretty soon.
Here is my problem (if you can call it a problem)
All of her exes are still in love with her. Even the ones from years ago. She obviously is completely over them, and doesn't hesitate to show me these emails/messages from them declaring their love for her, and how they miss her- so we laugh and make fun of them together.
Perhaps it is my insecurity but the fact that these guys are so hung up on her really really bothers me. Again, I cannot stress how awesome this girl is. She just has one of those personalities and quirks and sense of humor that everyone can fall in love with. And I guess I'm terrified that for some reason, she'll leave me and never look back like she did them. From what she tells me, her exes definitely deserved to be dumped-but she she has a reputation of being a hearbreaker. I even remember (and this still eats at me) when she introduced me to some of her closer friends and they smiled shook my hand and asked her "and how long is THIS ONE going to last? hahah"
What do?
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AWESOME GF. I'M SCARED OF HOW LUCKY I AM.
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t3_2cz9xe
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dating_advice
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Location advice needed for first date
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I've been chatting to this girl for a few weeks, we get along great, I've asked her out for drinks and she's said yes. Now I'm unsure where to go about doing this. As it's drinks alcohol will be involved, which means that neither of us should drive. I currently don't have a car, she does, she lives a few miles away, in the same town. I know we're not likely to get very drunk, but I'm just concerned about drinking and driving. So I don't really know where to go. I could go near where she works, but she'd have to not drive for that day. Or we could meet in our town, but it could involve a bus or something or lifts off others. I can suggest a place near me, that I could walk to, which she could drive to. She then wouldn't be able to drink. I'd be fine not drinking, but I'm not sure if she wants to, as it will take the edge off things. Or do I just ask her where she'd like to go. That may be a bit non manly or whatever. What do I do? thanks for any help.
General info: We're both 22. She works, I'm still in university. I'm not looking to hook-up with her . I live in quite a rural part of England. Currently the places near me are proper pubs, but that might be alright. Else it's into town and tbh I know none of the places in our town. Else we go to the town over, which is really nice and I know my way around the bars well, but it'd involve me taking a bus/train. But she does work there, so it could be something after work for her, makes it easy. She obviously wouldn't know the effort it took to get into the town. I guess if it all gets fucked I can just choose one of the pubs near me and she can drive there, that'll be fine. But then is it ok for me to have a pint? when she wont be able to.
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Where do you go for drinks when you may need to drive?
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t3_47n98n
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relationships
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Me [22M] with my GF [22F] saw gf msgs trying to talk to ex bf on his birthday
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We have been together for 2 months, she broke with her ex 1,5 year ago ( he is a huge pot head and does cocaine, is 26 and doesnt even work, he cheated on her). After they broke up i met her, and we started hanging , she liked me and one night we ended up having sex but she wanted a relationship and i Didnt.
We began hanging out again and again , and we have been dating for 3 months now , recently we had a small discussion because she didnt hsve a lot of time for me because of work and everytime we could hang out she always went out with her friends giving me less attention than before, i told her i wasnt happy and told her that we cant continue like this ...Anyway she messaged me constantly saying she cant handle being away from me and we had a dinner and everything is fine now .
I was playing a game on her phone when i went to close all tabs opened saw a message from one guy she doesnt talk to and is a mutual friend of his ex. I had to open it ( yes i shouldnt do that but why the hell would she message this guy randomly) , turns out she messaged this guy , and his gf asking for his Ex boyfriend number to wish him a happy birthday , she even messaged his ex bf mom. They did not gave her the number anyway ,pbut i am not sure if she did talk to him or not .... Am i being just a bit jelous or overeacting ? Would you try to get your ex number to wish him a happy birthday after he cheated on you ? I havent told her anything about this ....
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! GF wanted ex number to wish him a happy birthday , maybe talk to him ? Have no idea
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t3_3erkt2
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relationships
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Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] of a year and 9 months, she has never dated anyone else and wants to make sure I am the one.
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So my girlfriend has never dated anyone besides me or had sex with anyone else. I have dated someone else and had sex with other people.
This has worried me for a long time that it would make her want to date other people. She doesn't want to think back and regret just being with me.
We love each other to death. We don't fight. We get a long great. We work through our problems. We have fun. We enjoy each other all the time. She doesn't even want to breakup she just doesn't want to regret anything.
Shes had an internship all summer and I am going to pick her up this weekend and we plan on talking about it then. She did have a guy she has been spending a lot of time with come on to her but she told him no and I trust her when she says that.
I would feel the same way if i was in her position. I'm just not sure what to do. I don't want us to break up but I also don't want her to resent me years down the road. I don't want to wait long if we do break up and I wont be sitting there with my hands in my lap. She's my best friend. I just don't want to lose her.
any advice would help, thank you.
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shes never dated anyone else. Wants to see someone else to see if our relationship is perfect or just have nothing better to compare it to.
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t3_41eqk9
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askwomenadvice
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How should I go about dealing with finding period blood?
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So, I [19M] live at home with my parents and 2 siblings - one brother [17], one sister [15]. My youngest sibling - my sister - has quite obviously hit puberty in the last year or so, and I just want to go about this situation in the best way possible!
When I go to use the bathroom sometimes, I'll find red marks in the toilet or on the toilet seat. Don't get me wrong, I can appreciate she's new to all this stuff, but all I've done so far is cleaned the mess up myself and not spoke about it and I don't really want to keep doing that, I think she should be more aware of it for her own sake too.
So here begs the question: What would be the least embarrassing way of dealing with this? I've considered talking to her myself but I get the feeling that it would just be uncomfortable for everyone involved and just result in her feeling bad. The next best idea would probably be to talk about it to my mom, who could then maybe talk to her?
Any advice you can give to a clueless dummy like me is appreciated. Thankyou!
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I find a siblings period blood in the toilet sometimes. How do I resolve the situation best?
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t3_v6x59
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relationship_advice
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[24/M] Was I an asshole here?
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PREFACE: You can totally call me an asshole. Please don't downvote the people calling me an asshole. I need to work through this and need some honesty.
I was recently in a relationship with a girl for a year. Things were going very well, I was even planning on moving to be with her. (It was a LDR) In November I started a new job and met a girl who was basically my twin, but with great boobs. This girl and I flirted a lot and hung out non-sexually probably a half dozen times but I didn't want it to go anywhere since I was in love with my then-gf.
Fast forward to a month ago. Two weeks before I moved to be with my ex, she calls me up and breaks up with me over the phone. [Should include something fairly personal about me here, I have mild anti-social personality disorder. I do not form exceptionally strong ties to people and never get sad for more than a day or so over the loss of an SO/friend.] We talk on the phone for about an hour, she tells me that she loves me but doesn't see me being in the picture when she looks 5 years down the road and wants to end it now. We end on good terms.
Fast forward SIX MEASLY DAYS. The girl from work and I are hanging out and get drunk. Pretty stinking drunk. We kiss a little bit and the next thing I know, I'm biting her thighs teasing her before I show her my cunning linguistic skills. A few days later and we are dating. I make it clear to her that she isn't a rebound and that I think I have been hiding these feelings from myself for months.
My ex is furious. She says she feels cheap because she was so easy to get over. To make matters worse, I can be outrageously sarcastic if I think someone is being unfair with me. I ask her, "You dumped me. Tell me, what was the appropriate amount of time to be emotionally devastated by my loss?"
I know the sarcastic comment was unnecessary, but am I being an asshole, as she continues to assert?
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Dumped, moved on and started dating another girl in under a week. Ex and a few mutual friends are pissed. Am I an asshole?
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t3_zdecy
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AskReddit
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Hey reddit, anything happen to you as a kid that has changed the way you live now?
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When I was a kid one of my dad's many punishments, but possibly his favorite, was dumping cold water on my head until I cried, then he'd do it more. This has negatively effected in my normal life. When I get my head wet I get sad or even borderline depressed, although sometimes I'll get angry. This goes from just a tiny splash from a sprinkler to getting submerged in a pool. I hate swimming now, and even flirtatiously splashing water at a lady friend can take a turn for the worst. So, Reddit, has anything like this happened to you?
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Water makes me sad.
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t3_13buzj
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jobs
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Is it appropriate to write ASAP or Two Weeks Notice on "Start Date/Date Available" on a job application?
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I've recently been notified that I did well in my phone interview and am now offered to do an in-person interview. I was also asked to fill out an application and fax/email before the interview date. There is a section in the app asking for the date I would be available. I am wondering if I should put ASAP or Two Weeks Notice for my answer.
The reason is I am unemployed, but the location is about 100 miles away from my current place so I would need time to find housing that is closer. Therefore, I wasn't sure if I should write Two Weeks Notice so I can have time to find housing before starting or write ASAP so they know I am available right away. Or even give a date even though I do not have a definite one in mind.
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is it alright to answer Two Weeks Notice for my Date Available on my application so it gives me enough time to find housing?
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t3_2q9juq
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relationships
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I [23F] think my dad [57 M] is gay.
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This post is about my dad, so I don't think I should write about our estranged relationship, or the fact he has abused me all my life. I think he is at least bi-sexual or gay.
The reason I think he is gay is because he and my mother have fought all their lives. Over years of observing them together and separately... I've seen my father act quite amorous with his male friends... I understand some older men have a friendship... but this was beyond male bonds.
At special functions when they'd bump into each other I'd see them hold hands which lasted moments longer than 5 seconds and a smile which had never presented itself before. Perhaps male bonds make him happier. He acts very emotional too... more than my mother. He talks about feelings and gets moody.
To my brother he enforces anti-gay slurs as my brother is quite an individual. He taunts my brother asking him if he is gay, spurring negative connotations because my brother likes to dress well. (I don't think my brother is gay. He dresses very metro-sexual but I am 99% sure he is not gay.) I'm not so sure what to think of my dad in terms of his sexuality... He made my mom struggle with a lot of emotional scarring. I am concluding that his behavior towards women may be because he is in denial with himself and his depression is caused by repression of his sexuality because of the religious way he was raised. All in all he might be bi-sexual... and this might explain the abuse and violence we endure.
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Think dad is gay/ How can I be certain and should I confront him?
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t3_3ml080
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relationships
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Me [35 M/F] with [37 M/F] 3mo, codependency question
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So I have been seeing this person for just a short while and she seems to be quite into me and I am also really into her as well. She and I both have codependency problems, we both fall for people we shouldn't, become overly attached and well all the other text book symptoms that come with it.
We have been setting boundaries and going really slow, havent even kissed and when things seem to be headed in that direction we break away from each other until next time.
We have both just come out of abusive relationships. we've both been single for about nine months and were both concerned about falling back into that trap.
So my question was does anyone have any advice, tips, or best practices that we can follow that will get us onto the right track?
I care about this person a lot and would just like to do whats best for both her and I.
Thank you all in advanced for any help!
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Codependency/Advice so that we don't fall back into that trap.
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t3_dkgjm
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self
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An idea to stop procrastinating on the internet and get shit done
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As someone who works at home, I am often tempted to work 5 minutes, check out lolcats on YouTube for 30, then work another 5 minutes and browse reddit for an hour or two... this can be a problem, for obvious reasons. And I can't just unplug the router, because I need internet access to work.
So here's what I did: I put my netbook in an awkward position on a bookshelf, where I can only use it standing up, and I only allow myself to do my herp-derping on the netbook. As much herp-derping as I want, actually. No discipline necessary, I only have to get off my ass. Want to check out if someone left you an orangered? Sure, go for it. Want to see what your friend replied to your latest quip on Facebook? Be my guest. Wondering how the latest Fark.com photoshop contest is going? No problemo.
Just get up, use the netbook while standing up, with its shitty little screen and its unfamiliar keyboard (bought while living in Italy). When you're done, no "oh, let me take a *quick* peek at Slashdot, see what's up". Just go back to your chair and work on the main computer, that rent ain't paying itself.
Share your own productivity-boosting suggestions!
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My legs hurt just from typing this self post. Back to work now. :-)
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t3_505z8w
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relationships
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Please explain my ex's behaviour. ME (27F) my ex (30M)
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My ex and I broke up a month ago after seven years together. He said it was because he was no longer in love with me and that us not getting married (every time we tried to plan it something would go wrong) was a sign that we weren't meant to be.
We shared an apartment, so I moved out back to my parents (I couldn't take my cat due to my mother's allergies) and the night I moved out he text me to tell me what a beautiful woman I am and How I shouldn't ever forget it.
Then over the next few days he kept texting me to tell me how he would always be here for me both financially/emotionally and how I was his family and he would always have my back.
One night he kept calling me (8 missed calls) to tell me how he had found me a room in an all girls house that would allow me to have the cat, and he would pay the deposit and I could move in immediately. I had not asked him to do this nor do I need his financial support.
He then accidentally sent me a message on Facebook intended for another girl saying he was calling off their fling. I didn't respond and he then spent the rest of the night calling me (12 missed calls).
Today he text me that he's worried about me and could I get in touch and that he will always be my friend.
This is my first breakup, so I don't know how to read this situation. I don't want him back I just want to stop driving myself crazy trying to read him. Any help is gratefully received.
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Please explain my ex's behaviour. Many thanks :D
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t3_zzqep
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AskReddit
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Parents of Reddit, how can I get my parents to let me go to homecoming with a girl out of state?
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A girl who I went to school with last year, has moved to Oregon. I live in Washington state, about two-three hours off of the border between WA and OR. She was suspended from school for possession of marijuana on campus, and from sheer humiliation, as well as practically being disowned by her father, she moved with her mother to Portland. Though I won't be close-minded and say that she is my soul mate and that she's the only one for me, I will admit that I care for her and think it'd be amazing to be able to go to the dance with her.
I've already presented my mother with the idea of going to Oregon, (taking a $13 dollar, four hour bus ride down to Portland and then getting a hotel for a night or two) and she has not budged thus far. Usually I'm not the type to push and shove too much with my parents, but this is something I really want. I really want this, and I don't know what to do.
What do you parent redditors think the main reason she isn't letting me go is? I know that my parents don't approve of her smoking marijuana,
but then again, both of my parents were once potheads. I know they don't worry about me smoking pot, and I'm sure they know I wouldn't have sex (they are insistent that I don't have sex before marriage). They also don't fear for my safety, knowing that I've been able to take care of myself whilst traveling outside of the country.
What could it be that is making them choose to not let me go? I can afford the trip by myself.
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Ignore that I'm underage, I need help going to HC with a girl I care about, but don't know how to convince my parents.
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t3_1epom0
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BreakUps
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Recently found out my ex (F25) is seeing someone else
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So, long story short. Its been a little over three months since we broke up, its been up and down for me. The first month was a lot of down, the second month was a little better and the third has been pretty well just figuring out what I need for myself. All was dandy until I decided to put my nose where I shouldn't of.
I snooped her facebook for a brief second, just to see what she was up to and what I saw broke my healing heart in two again. Now I know I shouldn't have been looking but I figured I was feeling up enough that I could...I was wrong. She's already seeing another guy, someone who like myself works in television. I found out through pictures of her and this guy, and I could see the way she looks at him, and the way they are together that she's already gotten rid of me in her mind. She looks at him like she used to look at me, her smile...Once familiar to me was now for someone else.
Its really hard to swallow, and honestly makes me the most miserable I've been in months. Its hard to know that this five year relationship I had with this woman, ended and now she looks at someone else the way she looked at me. After we were engaged, looking at moving in together...All the plans, the talking about children and the wedding plans...Just gone.
How can I go about moving past this now? I'm honestly tired of feeling depressed all the time. I feel like my whole life, my advances in career and me moving across the country were all for her...And now she isn't in my life anymore, it feels like those things went with her. I hinged so much of my life with her that I feel incomplete and confused as to my path in life.
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ex-fiance is seeing someone else, I found out and now feel like I am almost back to square one. I am confused with my direction in life because I hinged my career, my home life and my path in life to her. What do I do now?
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t3_54afld
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personalfinance
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[Retirement] [Savings] Ending One Career Need Advice on Retirement Saving
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This is our first time using Reddit and my son (who is a redditor) is helping me with this initial post:
My wife and I are 64, we just ended a long time career and are continuing our second jobs in real estate until full retirement. As part of transitioning jobs, we sold our property and paid off all of our debt. We currently have around $500k in a low interest savings account and have zero experience with brokerage accounts, 401ks, IRAs or traditional retirement savings, Help!
We are hoping for advice in how to structure our continued savings and how to plan for full time retirement.
* We are currently renting for $3.5k per month (two years left on lease) and it is important we stay in the region so are looking at minimum $2.5k rents unless we buy again.
* Our current job has volatile and seasonal income of about $100-$125k a year, and hopefully this will grow given the now full time nature of the job.
* We have paid into social security so will be receiving Medicare starting in 2017 and 2018 - our medical insurance is one of our largest expenses.
We have absolutely zero experience and don't know where to turn to set up a brokerage account, plan our level of savings, or determine the appropriate structure of our portfolio. Please help reddit, where should we turn, and what are some good resources so that we can learn about our options???
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Recently left a career and for once have some money, need to learn how to save and what to do with our money.
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t3_1953xy
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AskReddit
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Reddit, how do you tell an old friend you don't like who they've become?
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I've had a best friend, who I'll call M, since I was 12 (now 23). M and I have the same sense of humor and get along extremely well. I've never met anyone in my life who gets me like she does. However, lately M has really gotten back into her faith (she's Mormon) and while I'm happy that she's turned her life around and no longer doing drugs, she's changed so drastically that I can't even talk to her anymore. She's turned into this Holier-Than-Thou bitch and says some of the most insulting things to me and to other people.
Do I just stop talking to her? Do I delete her on Facebook? Do I tell her she's turned into a bitch? I don't know how to handle this situation and neither does anyone I know.
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How do you break up with a friend?
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t3_xxoug
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AskReddit
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Reddit, I'm starting to develop feelings for my (friendzone'd) best friend. How do I save our friendship?
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We became best friends on the basis that we immediately friendzone'd each other when we first met. She's beautiful, intelligent, and we talk hours on end almost everyday.
I can't be in a relationship right now because 1. She has a boyfriend, 2. I'm in the military and I don't even live anywhere close to her, and 3. She still thinks she's in the friendzone.
I know the usual way to do this is by talking to her less, but I don't wanna do that. For the last couple of weeks everything has been going by fine, and we talk almost everyday and just generally enjoy each other's company. I don't want to stop doing that because I'm starting to have feelings for her, but then I don't want things to get worse.
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She's one of my best friends first and foremost, and I don't want to ruin that because I'm starting to have feelings for her. How do I fix this?
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t3_pxokt
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self
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This is my father. Call somebody you love today.
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[This is my father] He's dragging a tyre in the photo because he's in training to do a sponsored walk to the North Pole, to raise money for a charity called TransAid.
Apparently, tying a tyre to your waist and then dragging it around accurately simulates the effort required to drag a sled with all the provisions you need for a two-week journey across the Arctic.
He's 54, and he's in spectacular physical fitness. Over the last few years I've seen him do sponsored hikes up Kilimanjaro and Everest, thousand mile cycles in ten days, marathons and triathlons. I'm 24 years younger than him, and I'm not even slightly as fit as he is.
*Was*, sorry. Got to get used to saying that.
Yesterday, my dad was killed during a training exercise in Britain's Lake District. He slipped on a patch of ice and fell 700 feet into a ravine. By the time the rescue helicopter had arrived, he was already dead.
It seems unfair that he was ready to brave a trek to the North Pole - one of the most inhospitable parts of the planet - but what killed him was a slip and a fall up a hill just 50 miles from his house. A hill that he, and I, and my two younger sisters have climbed together, before.
Apparently I have to go and formally identify the body. Apparently I need to execute his will. Apparently I've got to organise a funeral. Suddenly my life has come to a standstill and a different life has arrived to take its place. I'm suddenly thrust into a world of paperwork and of calling distant relatives. A world of grief and consolation. A world in which the man I admired... the man I called "dad"... is no longer a part.
I feel woefully inadequate for all of these roles. I just want to phone up my dad and ask for his advice, and have him be there to help me, as he's always been there to help me before. But that's something that I can never do again.
Reddit: call somebody you love today. You might not get another chance.
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My dad was killed yesterday in a tragic accident. Call somebody you love today.
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t3_mn3xi
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AskReddit
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Is my mom and I's relationship normal?
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Well here's the deal. My dad passed away years ago, and I have an older brother who lives about 6 hours away so it's just my mom and I (and 3 cats) in our house. I'm still a teenager in high school by the way.
So. I get home from school usually about 4:30, my mom gets home from work at about 5:30. We talk a little, i.e "How was your day?" "Oh good!" "Love you" then she goes into the living room and I go into my room. We barely talk throughout the day. She sits in the livingroom and watches TV untill about 10 when she goes to bed. She makes me dinner usually, so she's not by any means a bad mom... and I know it's partially my fault we don't talk because I spend my day either in my room on Reddit, playing xbox, or outside playing basketball and I don't even think about going out of my way to talk to my mom. Is this normal reddit?
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I'm a teenager and my mom and I barely talk throughout the day, besides some small talk.
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t3_24eolx
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relationships
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Me [30F] can't deal with my good friend's [32F] martyr syndrome. How to proceed?
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Throwaway here. My good friend of many years and with whom I confide is starting to bug me a lot. She's on boyfriend number 3 in about a year, and each time she falls for a military guy who for some reason has to move cross-country within two or three months after she meets them. Each time she falls for them within the time the guy is still in town and then she gets absolutely devastated when he calls it quits before he moves. She's absolutely willing to do the long distance thing or move for him, which I think is kinda crazy. As her good friend, I (and other girlfriends) have to pick up the pieces.
This all started in the past year because she used to be in a pretty stable (albeit unhappy) four year relationship up until then. When that breakup happened a little over a year ago, I also helped her pick up the pieces. She was pretty devastated and missed a lot of work over it. Since then it's been constant crisis, either a "major" health issue crops up or another boyfriend who's about to move that she's agonizing over.
Any suggestions on ways I can remain friends with this woman, while minimizing having to deal with the fallout? I've started making excuses for why I can only hang out with her for an hour or two tops, because I can't take the "I'm so depressed he's leaving" conversations. I've tried rationalizing with her but each time she makes an excuse as to why "she'll regret it" if she doesn't give it a shot. Every time I try to say something optimistic to her, she becomes a total debbie downer. But, when I point out reasons why she might rethink her relationship, she becomes all hopeful that love will conquer all. Clearly there is a pattern here, but I would really like to not lose her as a friend because she's always very supportive of things going on in my life. Am I just being a bad friend?
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does my friend have martyr syndrome or am I not being supportive enough? how should I continue this friendship?
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t3_qyqzq
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relationships
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Sexpectations too high
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22 F. Last spring I broke up with my first boyfriend (2 years) based on not being able to trust him, and major ups and downs almost our entire relationship. I had also met someone else who I was fully able to trust and enjoyed being with. We dated for almost 8 months and it was great because there were major ups but no major downs. We ended up doing long distance for 3 of those months and it caused a lot of communication issues as well as just drifting apart, to the point where I don't really feel anything now that it's over, except maybe relief. Something I never fully realized throughout the relationship was that I wasn't sexually satisfied. He was more physically attractive than my previous boyfriend and their size was almost exactly the same, creepily enough. But there was something missing that my previous boyfriend had... and now that I've become interested in someone else, I'm already terrified that I won't ever be sexually satisfied because my ex set the bar so high. I mean honestly, my first boyfriend turned me on constantly and did everything right. After him, my next boyfriend trying to dirty talk just made me cringe sometimes and sex was enjoyable but just not... as wonderful of an experience as I'd had before, never short of amazing. I'm scared because my sex life fizzled with someone who is extremely attractive and we did have a connection, and now the guy I'm interested in... while I've had a crush on him for some time and really like him as a person, I'm not sure I'm sexually attracted to him. How do I ever get over what I had with my first boyfriend? I feel like he ruined me.
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First boyfriend was amazing sexually and our chemistry was amazing, afraid I'll never have that again based on the next relationship fizzling sexually.
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t3_4w2hzg
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relationships
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I [21 F] love him[20M] but I can't deal with this relationship anymore.
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I'm in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 10 months. He is a good guy, too insecure about himself, but good at heart. Although we have a few issues that just keep getting in the way.
He compares himself to others and our relationship to his friends' relationships which is the worst, because he is always like ''His girlfriend does this and you dont, they do this and we don't''
He has a few mental issues. He literally makes up stuff in his head and we talk about some of them for months. He had a picture in his head of me being a whore. Called me whore a few times. (''I don't mean it, it's just my crazy thoughts'') He had a picture of me with a few guys.
Continuing to a next problem.
He has kind of a foot fetish I guess, and I find feet utterly disgusting, I hate seeing feet, I hate people touching my feet. He said he thinks that if I was with another guy I'd probably give him footjob or BEAR WITH ME - lick and suck his toes (???) . I feel like vomiting while writing this.
He thinks that I don't wanna do certain things because he is not attractive enough (to me he is) and if I was with another guy who was hotter or bossy I'd do everything with that guy (sexual stuff). And it's not like that. I'm just kind of person who likes slow and gentle things, not porn-like sex.
He pretty much made me hate sex and I avoid it all the time.
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I love him but he's just making up issues and creating problems where they aren't any.
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t3_3fquaf
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tifu
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TIFU by telling my kids you can make your own temp tats with shapries
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So.... this is kinda today and it's pretty light hearted.... the actual words fell out of my mouth yesterday...
My eldest (11) has started telling me he wants a tattoo, but he really clearly doesn't understand permanency yet because when I told him he may not like it later (mom panic job here) he said he would just get a different one. So I tell the boys (11 and 7) No, you can totally have temp tattoos all you want, that's cool but not real ones cus they hurt and they don't go away.
11: "But there are no good sword tattoos" speaking of temp ones
Me: "You're wrong... but if you want you can also make your own with sharpies"
I don't know how I didn't see this as idiocy when I said it. So as predictably as the sun rising, this morning I wake up to see my kids, sharpies in hand, self tatted in a big way.
Now as fuckups go, this isn't too bad right? To top it off, the little one used mostly regular washables. The big one used mostly sharpies but he's just a kid, it's summer no one is gonna see it right? Weeeeeell... My sister's birthday party is tonight, so I have to take kids, covered in marker to my sister's... Now my family will see their skin art.... Joy.
Now I have kinda salvaged the art situation, I took their random scribblings and... let's say improved them. Washed off the regular marker, and covered up the inevitable stains with slightly nicer art, made the 11yo's half sleeve into a something and not a "I tried to give myself a tribal but don't know what that means"... but I still have to go to see my family with marker all up on my kids because I can't think before I open my damn yap.
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we're going to my families tonight and my kids sharpied themselves giving themselves modern art tats.
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t3_eap77
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AskReddit
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What, for you, marks REAL strength of character?
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For me it's acceptance. I really do think that. The understanding that life is up *and* down, left *and* right, black *and* white, happy *and* sad, to various degrees; and that trying to force 'always up, always happy, always white' is a complete impossibility. They go together.
People go on about 'wanting to be happy' as if it's something that can come about by sheer force of will alone. Almost like they were in a gym, their faces show a grimace every day; they wake up and the first thought is "**MUST.... BE... HAPPY... MUST... FIND... A... GIRL**" or whatever.
All things in life worth having are, by necessity, unobtainable by force. They come about instead through experience itself, the enjoyment of what's going on even whilst single, poor, unhappy, or whatever 'sorry state' someone describes themselves as. After all, someone isn't poor until they have seen richness and vice-versa.
This grimace people have is also brought about by the fact that life is seen as 'serious'. On whose terms is it serious? Your family? Simply because bad things exist in the world? Again, everything of value is by nature playful. Music, love and happiness as examples; one does not calculate how to kiss someone (unless they're in /r/seduction, in which case everything of value from that kiss is long gone). Music is played, not worked.
So, for me, there's no use in guilt-tripping myself because I haven't 'achieved', whatever vague concept that even is. I reckon the reason we have such extreme poverty in the first place is because we have forced it to be that way.
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Borrowed ideas from Alan Watts. Go look him up on Youtube.
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t3_34eivk
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relationships
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Me [32 M] with my fiance [27 F] my mom keeps contact with my ex wife's child and my fiance is furious about it!
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I have a great relationship with a girl who I want to marry. My ex wife cheated on me and tried to hide it. We're divorced now. I had kept in touch with my ex wife as friends and sometimes talked to her child about games etc. Since I got a new girlfriend she did not mind me sometimes communicating with ex wife, but the child she felt threatened by. So I gradually stopped contact because what reason to communicate with ex anyway, as now we're more serious and want to start a family with my new girl.
But, the only thing that we fought about now is that we found out that my mom still communicates regularly with my ex wife's daughter. My fiance is threatened because she thinks they talk about our personal life (we don't know but it's her thought, maybe insecure but also a but understandable in a way). Women can be very competitive especially my fiance.
A few months ago my ma said she stopped. But my fiance found something on social media and now she's furious. My ex also sent a fake message from a fake profile to me making it seem like I'm flirting ng online. My fiance now wants nothing to do with ex wife and her child, and told me that my mom must stop or get out of our lives forever. Meaning no contact ever.
Is this extreme or justifiable? My mom has a history of gas lighting and lying, sort of a borderline narcissist (but she's very friendly, just lies a lot).
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just like the title says, my mom keeps in touch via social media with my ex wife's daughter. Should we cut her off?
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t3_iqm4a
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AskReddit
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I've had a bad week. Advice?
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I've never been one to make excuses or blame my problems on other people. I will take full responsibilities for my actions. But anyways...
**This week I've learned that my best friend through childhood was seeing the girl I was behind my back.** It was a problem in communication but still a crummy situation.
**My parents have continued to threaten to kick me out of the house** I can understand why. I don't always get all the chores and things they ask of me done. I really have been making an effort and it's just hard to do all that they ask with my work schedule.
**I am having problems at work** Probably the last thing in my life that has been keeping me out of depression is my job. I'm extremely lucky to have such a well paying salary job at my age [21]. But we've been having problems there too, it's a political mess but it's also a little bit my fault.
**My tire blew out on the ride home yesterday**
*What are some things you suggest to do to feel better? I work out 2 hours a day so I already exercise. That helps but only so much. I usually bottle up my emotions pretty well.* But this week I don't know whether to be mad or to cry.
I don't feel I can talk to my family because they are threatening to give me the boot. I can't consult my best friend or the girl mentioned earlier... I'm not religious so I don't really know who to turn to...
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What can I do to feel better? What works for you?
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t3_2jv3ij
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tifu
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TIFU by putting on anti-dandruff head and shoulders
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So, I have a horrible case of dandruff, so i went to buy some of that zync whatever-the-hell shampoo. So, i'm in the shower. I put a handful on my wet hair, and first I was "Hey this isn't so ba-" and then BAM. This was satan's own shampoo.
As it slowly ran across my face, I could feel the burning, as if someone lit a small fire on my face. I tried to resist it, putting water at my face. As i was rinsing, I could hear satan whisper in my ear "its not over yet". The damn shampoo made its way in not one BUT BOTH of my eyes. Me being the retard I am, i put my SOAP COVERED HANDS in front of my eyes to block out the stinging. Not only was satan shoving his pitchfork in both of my eyes, he was laughing. As I let out my whimpers and groans, the FUCKING SHAMPOO MADE ITS WAY INTO MY MOUTH. Be noted, while i was resisting the shampoo on my face, i put on more.
So, as my eyes were burning, my tounge felt like it just dived in a cup of noodles fresh out of the microwave. I shoved my face toward the fresh, cold water to feel the relaxation, only for the stinging to return instantly after I move away to get air.
Now, the thing is, the water tends to shift from extreme colds to extreme heat. And oh-fucking-boy did that shit happen. As I was cleaning away the satan shampoo, the water went rogue and went HOT on my face. That was it. I GTFO'd out of the lava pit and rubbed my face with my towel and dried up.
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put on anti-dandruff shampoo, it turns out that shit stings on my skin. Got into my eyes and mouth and water turned hot on me.
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t3_yw1rl
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AskReddit
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What is the strangest thing you have ever done while sleepwalking?
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My story happened several years ago. I don't exactly know what i was dreaming or thinking about, but all the sudden my ma said she heard me screaming bloody murder in my room in the basement. Her and my step dad ran to the stairs as i was running up them. My stepdad and i hit the top of the stairs at the same time and i took a swing at him, thinking he was whatever i was screaming about, and knocking him out cold. I then mumbled something to my mom about "the fucking gorillas in the basement wont let me sleep" and then proceeded to walk down the stairs and climb back into my bed.
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Whilst sleepwalking i knocked out my step dad and blamed it on gorillas
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t3_2045qh
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relationships
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Issues with roomies, f(24) her bf(28?). Me (22) and my bf (22)
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Apologies: I accidentally deleted my post. Here it is again.
So we moved in together a couple months ago. They're good people and are fun to be around most of the time. We don't want to start any trouble or cause problems. We like living with them.
An issue with the female roomie, she hacks or hocks loogies(?). As I type this, she just did a really loud one. It is disgusting. My boyfriend and I have let this go for some time now but we are getting really fed up with this. I've been talking to him about asking her to stop. I am unsure of how to do this or how to approach this. I've been thinking of talking to her bf and asking him to talk to her.
Playing games, in associated with Diablo 3, we used to play a lot like a couple of days every week. Now it's once every 2 weeks to who knows when. My boyfriend and I would like to play often. We are frequent gamers and would like to level up our characters! What I am wondering is that..is there a solution to this?
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Small issues with roomies, don't want to start trouble, need feedback.
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t3_30ql6s
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relationships
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I [30 M] worry I am being superficial about my GF [30 F], why do I compare her looks to other girls if I love her?
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I hate myself for even writing this and I feel it may be a terrible idea but I have to try.
I am 30. Sheila is my gf and is also 30. We are going to get married. We love each other so much, we get on so well, we've lived together and we are so good together. When I thought our relationship was over I was devastated. It seemed like it would end because I couldn't commit.
This is my problem, or at least the symptom: I see other girls and I compare Sheila to them, and I often think "but that other girl is more attractive and I wish Sheila looked more like that."
I can't block them out and they plague me everyday. I WANT them to stop because I love her so much and I do find her physically attractive as well.
I want to believe it's because I'm immature and unable to appreciate things, because at least I can work on that and change myself... because I want to be with her! But I'm worried it's something more 'fundamental', that the mere fact I am writing this on the internet is terrible in itself and shows me that I don't really love her.
How do I move forward and do the right thing for both of us?
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I love my girlfriend but I can't stop mentally comparing her to other girls and wishing she was a bit more attractive. I am SICK
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t3_416r9p
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relationships
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Me [18M] with my girlfriend [18F] of two years, she's obsessed with Johnny Depp and I don't know what to do.
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Hi Reddit.
I'm just going to keep this short. This is kind of a weird situation, but i really need advice. I've known my current girlfriend for over 4 years but we've been together for two. She's always been in love with movies, and has seen many of them. Quite a lot, in fact. And I've always been respectful of that. I don't care for them too much, but I watch them with her from time to time.
We text everyday and we see each other quite often, and I love spending time with her. She means the world to me and I can't see myself not texting her. For as long as we've been dating, the longest time we haven't texted each other is about two days.
But this last Monday, we were messaging each other as normal and all of the sudden she just says "I'm sorry, I just can't text you right now. It's making me kinda angry and sad that I'm even talking to you right now." I ask why and she says she just watched a Johnny Depp movie and it made her feel like she didn't want to talk to me at the moment. And then she just leaves.
I didn't hear from her again until Tuesday. I was worried something happened to her and I was, to be completely honest, afraid of what happened. She replies back and says she wasn't going to talk to me until Wednesday because she was going to marathon all of the Johnny Depp movies back to back. And then she stopped texting me completely. Until yesterday. She said she watched 26 Johnny Depp movies in all, and then writes a 2900 word essay about Johnny Depp's life, and and acting styles and all of that. She calls him Mr. Depp. She also said she's "falling for him." And now she has around 200 photos of him in her photo library.
Reddit, I don't know what to do. She's never been like this as I've said before and I feel kind of hurt she blew me off to watch Depp movies for hours straight. What should I do?
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Girlfriend ditched me to go watch Johnny Depp movies, and I'm not sure what to do.*
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t3_3v8z6r
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tifu
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TIFU by trying to prank my sister.
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So, my sister and I have a very strong sibling rivalry. We prank each other all the time. I had a great idea for a prank, but I somehow managed to screw it up.
My sister is a great fan of peach yoghurt, she eats a tub every day. I am a great fan of not being sunburnt, and so I put suncream on every day. I recently found a suncream that smells *exactly* like peach yoghurt.
Do you see where this is going yet?
I go into the kitchen while she's getting ready for school, and I poke a tiny hole in one of her yoghurt tubs and drain out the yoghurt, replacing it with delicious SPF30. The hole was made with a needle, so it's virtually invisible if you don't know it's there. She has her yoghurt, but it's not the one I sabotaged. No biggie, tomorrow it'll get her.
The next day I'm sick (the flu), so I stay home from school. My throat is sore, so I decide to only ingest fluids until it's less painful. I open the fridge, and take out a peach yoghurt. Oh yeah. I take off the lid, and begin to skull it. You can guess what happened. Vomit, gagging, general regret.
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pranked sister and ended up eating peach scented suncream
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