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t3_13de1u
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relationships
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I [25m] committed to going to my fiancee's [31f] house for Christmas but now feel uneasy
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A while ago we talked about going to her house for Christmas since her dad is getting older and has Alzheimer's and I said I'd think about it. We finally talked about it a few days ago and I said I'd go to my house for a few days before Christmas, and then hop on a bus to go to her family's town for Christmas, but now I feel uneasy about it. I know I'd enjoy myself, but it feels so wrong to not be with my family on Christmas day.
No tickets have been bought yet. Would I be a jerk to change plans and spend Christmas day with my family, then go to her house the day after Christmas and spend a few days there?
How do people deal with this kind of holiday stuff?
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I committed to going to her house for Christmas, but it feels so wrong to think of not spending Xmas day with my family. Am I jerk to back out and spend Xmas day with my family, then a few days after with her family?
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t3_4b745x
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relationships
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Me [21 M] with my Girlfriend [19 F] After almost 2 years, have decided to take a break but I'm about to crack.
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I apologise in advance if this post isn't well structured.
So last Tuesday night my girlfriend had "the talk" with me and wanted to break things off and not end things badly with us still being friends. I proposed that we cut contact for a week as we haven't really spent more than a day or two not talking to each other.
Before we cut contact we spent about an hour together watching Brooklyn Nine Nine and it honestly was the best I felt in our relationship for a while, it made me think that all was not doomed we just needed something dire like a potential break up to help us focus on improving ourselves.
The reason she wanted to break up are things that can be fixed with counselling (I have a short temper but am not abusive and I've been looking at anger management classes as a way of getting better) and also be fixed if we plan to do things away from both of our houses (we both play computer games but different ones which means we rarely do things together online, and I also tend to ramble on about the games I'm playing a little too much).
It's currently Sunday night and I have kept a document of my feelings for the day to give her to help convey my feelings about the whole situation, there isn't anything hurtful merely reflections about subjects I've thought about and pondering on what she confessed to me when she wanted to break up. I currently feel like I am ready to finally talk to her and I'm prepared to do whatever it takes to mend this.
I do understand that she may not want be ready to talk, but once again I'm asking all of you lovely people for some advice that may either agree with me, or convince me otherwise.
I hope this is enough background to merit some help but I just want to know if I should tough the next few days out and uphold our deal, or send her a message stating that I'm prepared to fix all of this.
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Agreed to cut contact for a week, have 2 and a half days to go but I feel I am ready to talk to her now.
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t3_4zq1gb
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relationships
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Did my boyfriend (23M) really not find his past FWB (24F) attractive?
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Hi all. A couple days ago, my boyfriend & I got into a heated discussion regarding attraction & sex. I think that in order to have sex with someone, you have to be attracted to them, even just a little bit. My boyfriend claims otherwise.
In college, my boyfriend had a FWB situation. He insists that he never thought this girl was attractive/pretty/hot etc. However, this FWB situation went on for about a year & a half.
Personally, I think this is BS—if he was turned on enough to have sex with her, he must have thought she was attractive, right?
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Is it possible to have sex with someone you don't find attractive? Or is my boyfriend's claim that he didn't find this girl attractive a lie?
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t3_30kqhs
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dating_advice
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How to start talking with girl again
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I'm 17, a high school senior, and I really like this girl. I've liked her for about a year. I want to ask her to prom. I was going to last year, but I had no idea how. Some other guy beat me to it. It ended badly, because her parents didn't like him. For homecoming, I was about to ask her and some other guy did it right before me. This time, I know that no one is talking to her.
I had been talking to her for a while, but I decided to give her space when she went to homecoming. The problem is that it's been 5 months since then and we've have not talked since. We have many mutual friends, but it doesn't make a difference.
I'd like to start talking to her again by sending a text message. From there, I plan on talking to her in person, and eventually ask her to prom. The problem is I don't even know what to say in that message. I literally draw a blank. What should I say to get us talking again without sounding like a creep?
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How do I start talking to girl that I haven't talked to in 5 months?
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t3_10mac0
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relationships
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I [M23] don't want to go over my gf's [F23] house because of her dogs.
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I have been dating this girl for more than 5 years. This problem has only come up recently because we were away at college for the bulk of those five years. Her family has 2 white dogs. Whenever I go over, the couches, chairs, carpet, tables, everything is covered in dog hair. I have a set of clothes that I wear over there because every time I go over there I leave covered in dog hair. Sometimes you get dog hair in your mouth just from breathing.
On top of all that, the dogs behave very poorly. Jump all over you, paw at your leg.
They clean the house twice, for Thanksgiving and Easter. Other than that, the dog hair stays around.
I have done everything to avoid the place: suggest she come over my place, take her out to dinner and a movie instead of hanging out at her place, tried to think of anything not to go over there. She is starting to suggest very strongly that we hang out there. How can I address this elegantly?
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I no longer desire to go over the gf's house because of her dogs' behavior and family's oblivion to the dog hair.
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t3_sh5rj
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loseit
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Clothes? [M]
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Some time ago, I was weighing in at 215, 220 on a bad day, and had been that weight for some time. I was at a size 38, which fit comfortably most of the time, if I wasn't wearing jeans/shorts I'd wear gym shorts or sweat pants. Currently my goal for the end of school year/beginning of summer (around May. 5) is 170. If need be I'll go farther but that's my current destination. At spring break I had settled at 185 for some time (longer than I'd like to admit). My size 38's no longer fit, without a belt cinched to the last notch. I figured enough was enough and it was time to grind out the last bit. 3 weeks later I was at 177, and I won't know what I'm at again until the school year does infact end, so it'll be somewhat of a surprise. Any who, my pants, and many of shirts just don't fit anymore. The elastic, permanently stretched from the past, now hangs loosely or not at all. 38's are impossible to wear, and the lone pair of 36's I held on to, now need a belt (the last belt I have that works is on the last notch). Many of my large shirts look baggy, and XL's look plain silly. While all of this makes me happy, I'm now out 2-3 years worth of collective wardrobe. What is a cheap/reasonable way to begin collecting clothes that fit a new, slimmer me?
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Lost weight, 80% clothes don't fit/won't fit soon. How do I get more clothes on a budget?
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t3_1adlfg
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AskReddit
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Reddit help! The one that got away.....is BACK, and i need advice.
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Story time kiddies, many many moons ago in a galaxy far far aww fuck that shit here goes. Quite some years ago i became head over heels for a girl, we had some great times at concerts one of which i crashed my truck on the way home, and just hanging out, we had some wild times too, but thats for another thread lol. Now my problem starts i have to choose between girl A and the Girl who eventually became my wife, but the choice wasn't given to me, girl A who i was crazy over made the choice to break it off and i did not have the bravery/courage whatever you want to call it to choose her over my future wife who i was seeing also. We stayed friends kept in contact and even had a few more nights together, before we lost contact for a few years, she got married had children, and has since now separated from the father. Moved to a town 5 mins from me, and her current boyfriend and her practice open relationships. My conundrum is the same as it was years ago i love my wife as i always have, but i cant get girl A out of my head, and i think I've been friendzoned. So what do i do, how do i handle this.
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Mad in love with a girl i could never tell, she got away and now she is back. What do i do?
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t3_fohxv
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Advice
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What tools do you suggest to work on yourself -- specifically anxiousness/insecurity in relationships?
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I need to do mental checks, keep everything in perspective, not let my mind wander to all the horrible things that *might* be happening.
I need to stop making up drama with my mind.
What tools (meditation, 10 second rule, etc) can you suggest? I know that you don't learn and change yourself by learning about a tool, but I need to break those bad habits.
I know it all takes time, but the faster the better, I am not afraid of any hardwork.
Finally, I need to learn to ignore people's advice on relationships, in all honestly, out of the many times I have sought it and acted on it, only once did it turn out to be the right thing.
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I need to learn to trust in myself/make good thoughts/be rational in relationship stuffs, give me tools
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t3_3b7nsv
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relationships
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I [20/F] and a [39/M] are getting closer and I don't know if it's socially acceptable.
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This guy and I met two months ago and we've been hanging out. We both have similar interests and we're comfortable around one another. Nothing has happened yet but there is attraction from both sides and it's apparent.
I'm still at Uni and whenever i go to his house I'm intimidated and i feel like a kid. He has a stable life and he's already been through what I'm currently going through so it does feel weird.
I don't know if I should back out and get over whatever I'm feeling before it's too late or give this a try?
I'm thinking maybe some of you have advice to give me.
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Is a 20 year old gap a no-no?
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t3_s8txn
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AskReddit
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Redditors with divorced parents, i need someone to talk to.
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Without getting too much into the details, my parents have been in fights (really inconsistent and with varied room inbetween fights) with each other over the last two to three years, and i think they are reaching a point in which they've noticed that they might actually break up. They've been together for about 22 years, married 12, and they've always loved each other, in spite of their differences, that i can assure you, but perhaps the latest years (which have been a lot tougher than the previous ones, due to loss of jobs, bad economics, stress, you all that shit) things have just gotten worse and worse. However, what i want to talk to you about is, what happens when your parents get divorced? I mean sure, there's not a nail in the coffin about it yet, they're still sorting this out and me and my siblings are doing as much as we can to help them, but i'm talking hypothetically right now. I think i could handle it quite well, i would be a great strain on my heart to see them break up of course, but i'm 18 years-old now, and i've got a job and could if i wanted probably even afford my own place so i would'nt have to take part in the shitfest that is a divorce, but what i am concered about though, are my siblings (two at the age of twelve one boy one girl, and one at the girl at the age of sixteen) what will happen? Let's say they do break up, this would kill them, really, my sisters were crying their eyes out tonight when the parents were fighting (which in turn led to this post). I can't leave them if the divorce actually happens, no way in hell, so how do you deal with it? How do you deal with your parents breaking up? I've had to take a extremely grown-up stance in all this to comfort my sister but i'm getting torn apart inside, i don't now if i'll be man enough to take care of them, i just need someone to talk to that has been though this.
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Parents maybe getting a divorce, i'll live through it, my smaller siblings won't take it as well, what the fuck do i do?
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t3_2cyjqi
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loseit
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How do we feel about counting steps towards your daily calorie intake?
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Hi all! I couldn't find a relevant post about this, so I figured it was worth asking.
I've read a few times here and on /r/fitness that it's likely not a good idea to subtract calories burned from workouts from your daily caloric intake as you will likely greatly over estimate (as I probably have) how much you have burned.
All that said, what about steps? I have a fitbit which I've linked to MyFitnessPal and it likes to add calories for the steps I take each day. Should I feel okay about using those? Or am I just setting myself up for disappointment again when the scale doesn't budge from week to week? I just started counting again (yay 4 day streak) and my fitbit is borked, due to be replaced this Saturday so I figure it's worth asking now before I get back on the fitbit bandwagon.
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Should steps count towards calories burned or not?
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t3_1gw1ni
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Dogtraining
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My corgi's a bolter and almost just got hit by no less than five cars. I could use some help.
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I have a 16 month old corgi male. About an hour ago, my sister had a bunch of friends get here, which got him super excited cause they were all paying attention to him-- and then they promptly left. As they were all piling out the front door, they weren't paying attention to him and he bolted outside (I was in the bathroom at the time and was unaware that they were leaving).
We live on a street that isn't busy most times of the day, except of course in the evening. And when getting the corgi back in the house/yard turned into a keep away game for my dog, he ran straight into the street. Fortunately there were so many people around and we were able to flag down any cars that were coming down the street to warn them, but it was still an incredibly close call on a few occasions.
We had treats, we had toys, we tried to get him to chase us, we tried laying down to get him closer, but nothing we did could lure him in-- until all of us ran back toward the front door like we were running into the house. He then decided that was the exciting place to be and came inside thankfully. This is the second time this has happened though, and the first time I was the only one home; he managed to squeak out from between my legs as I was walking outside to take the garbage out.
I could use some advice on how to prevent this from happening again, or at the very least how to get him back inside nice and safely should it happen again. He's a smart dog, for good or bad, but he's also very much into the keep away game (enough to ignore his recall), and he loves being chased. But even if I'm not chasing him, he sees it as an opportunity to explore, so either way he's incredibly difficult to catch.
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Corgi bolts at front door, loves being chased, sees it as a game, ignores his recall, almost gets hit by cars. Need some advice on how to prevent him from bolting, or on how to get him back inside safely should he do it again.
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t3_relvo
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loseit
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Help! Talk me back from the edge!
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I'm an emotional eater. I've been that way since I was a child.
And the last 2 days, I have been pigging out. Honestly though, this week has been bad. I've skipped tracking on myfitnesspal. I *know* I am eating more than I should be. I feel like I'm starving all the time.
I know a big chunk of it is this stupid Chemistry class. It's my last pre-requisite before I can apply for nursing school. The teacher sucks (and no, it's not just me, her ratemyprofessor ratings suck) and I feel like I can't win. She can't teach, but she takes off major points for ever.damn.little things. Forgot to list a negative charge during a reaction but everything else is peachy? Minus a point on a 3 point question! AAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH.
I got a 69 on that test. A D. I NEED to get an A in this class to stay competitive. But I feel like no matter what I do, I can't win. She ran through an entire chapter in an hour. Mind you, this is a 3 hour course, twice a week. People were begging her to slow down, multiple times but she wouldn't really.
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All this is stressing me the fuck out. And on top of the stress, which I could deal with, is feeling defeated. No matter how much I increase my efforts (which I have been doing, going to extra tutoring, going to her office hours) it feels like it's not paying off. Stress + feeling defeated has triggered my emotional eating, badly.
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t3_4z2lqw
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legaladvice
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Dealing with previous owners debt?
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So I work at a local little business and I'm trying to help the owners out a bit. I did a little research but this is a little too specific. I told them they will need to go speak with a lawyer but just to get a general picture of what they are dealing with any advice would be appreciated.
So the previous owner had an account with Verizon before they bought this business and had an outstanding balance of well over 1000$ dollars. Verizon will now not allow them to renew the contract because of this. The previous owner is now deceased. This is not there debt to take care off and seems quite unfair. Again, any advice will be really appreciated and thanks for taking the time to help some good people out :)
The business is also located in the peninsula of Virginia.
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previous business owner deceased with outstanding balance. Now new owners are not able to renew phone service.
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t3_1je509
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AskReddit
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Recently orphaned. What is my best option in the UK for housing?
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I am 17 years old. My mother died when I was 13 (cancer) and my father died last Sunday (clogged valve to the lungs). I am a female. My friend said with this, I might be considered a priority but I'm unsure. I do have legal guardians, but at their location, finishing my education would be very near impossible, so they said they would do whatever they can to help me win over social services. Will I be put in a hostel? How long? I've known two people who own their own flats, and are full time students. This makes me think its not as hard as I've read so far. knocks on wood If this seems too far fetched, I am a duel citizen and can move to America with my aunt or my friend. But again, would take a toll on my education just by switching from GCSE's to high school credits. Does this seem more likely? My guardians have heard both of these plans, and both strongly support them.
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Recently orphaned, considering education as a top priority. Would it be wiser to seek a counsil flat in the UK, or to move in with a friend in America?
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t3_2l5c20
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relationships
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I [21 M] split up with my gf [19 F] of 3 months, close friends for 2 months prior, first emotional break
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So on the first my girlfriend broke up with me, giving reasons regarding she has no time or money to see me in her schedule and its the wrong time for her to be in a relationship. Until 2 days before this we had talked every single day for about 4 months, becoming very attached to each other. Just before she became distant she with all genuine talk, said stuff regarding our future. She became distant in the last 2 weeks after that, and was talking to two guys both who I had never heard of over text, snapchat e.t.c, We went out for a few drinks with my friends and she was fine, but then I got a text and a 10 min phone call (with me doing alot of talking) and its over, in that she said she still loves me but its not making her happy because of the situation. But other than that she hasn't got in contact, I sent her a message saying can we talk in a few weeks and wishing her well, but I'm kinda at a loss here, any help or advice would be appreciated.
I've lost about a stone in the last week due to stress, with looking for a job, and its the first person I've fallen for and connected with so well that is why it hurts more than anything I have experienced.
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Guy seeking advice on emotional break up
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t3_r3drh
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AskReddit
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Reddit, I beseech your assistance regarding a car vandal in Chicago (videos inside)
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[The Video](
Hey everyone, I've seen your detective work repeatedly and I'm always impressed beyond measure. I come to you to request your help in tracking down the infamous St. Patrick's Night Vandal. This pathetic excuse for a human being decided it would be a good idea to walk through the Lincoln Park/Lakeview neighborhoods of Chicago, IL via car. As in, he was walking on all of the fucking cars! The idiot is clearly drunk, and it IS St. Patrick's Day, but he completely ruined the roof and hood of my girlfriend's car because of his unusual and destructive decision.
There was, however, a GGG who captured some of the vandal's antics on video, including a confession and several spectacular views of the idiot's face. This guy then left us a note with the youtube page for the videos and a contact number, but that number ended up being no good.
The cops were called, but the videos don't show them and they didn't mention anything to us when we called to file our police report.
If any of you have any information about this guy, or if you have any advice as to how we should proceed in the situation, please let me know.
How I've proceeded thus far:
1. Called the number on the note, number is not good.
2. Took pictures of the damage, the location of the car at the time the damage was discovered, and the general scene around it, including a perfect shoeprint on the hood.
3. Called the police to file a police report.
4. Viewed the video, and proceeded to get extremely angry at the idiocy and thoughtlessness of the perpetrator.
5. Contacted the poster of the videos via youtube's messaging and channel comment features to hopefully get a good phone number and some more information.
I thank you in advance for any and all help/advice you can provide, because this just really got to me.
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Drunken reveler decides to strike out an epic journey down Oakdale between Clark and Halsted, in Chicago, IL. For whatever reason, he decides that the best route is over the top of every car parked on the street and he ruins the roof and hood of my girlfriend's car. Video above.
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t3_2278ls
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relationship_advice
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(xpost from r/relationships): Me [28 M] with my girlfriend [25 F] 6 months, caught her lying, asked her to leave, was I wrong?
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Was dating this girl, it was going well. She had met my family, we talked about the future, I'm crazy about her. We had so many shared interests, I never had so much fun with anyone. I thought I'd spend the rest of my life with her.
Last night we had loose plans to watch a movie at my place.
630pm - She had an impromptu work happy hour and said she would run late. Estimated 8 oclock. I say ok no big deal get here when you can.
745pm- Said she was running late yet again, leaving in ten minutes. I say ok no big deal, see you soon.
830pm- I'm worried (In NYC, not sure if something bad happened, hit by a cab, etc). I text her and call her.
900pm- No response, I am calling over and over. Considering calling police.
910pm- She picks up and says her phone was dead and that she just turned it back on and is on her way over. I am relieved.
1200am- We go to bed.
300am- I can't sleep. Realize that her phone would have gone to voicemail if her phone was dead and suspect she is lying. She wakes up and I mention this. She refuses to respond and eventually says yes she was lying, is unapologetic, says that she should be able to do something "selfish" every once in a while.
330am- I ask her to leave my apartment. She catches a taxi home, I watched her get in the cab.
Did I handle this poorly? Probably safe to say it's over by this point. Am I an idiot if I consider attempting to work this out with her?
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Girlfriend told a lie, betrayed my trust, I asked her to leave at 330am.
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t3_s0lku
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relationship_advice
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Trust issues got the best of me
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I'm just gonna make this whole thing short and sweet because I'm a douche and will not take forever explaining this. me: 22(M) her: 24(F)
I got got really bored and kind of suspicious and ended up snooping through my girlfriend's reddit account. I don't know why. I just did. Had the password and everything, she doesn't know I know it. Now I'm paranoid that she's gonna know I snooped through her shit, and I know she'll be really upset with me. I'm not sure why I have trust issues with her, but I do, and I let that get the best of me. I didn't see anything bad, so I feel stupid, as I should. I didn't have any right to violate her privacy. She would have every right to be upset, but I have no idea what the fuck I was thinking. I have a scary feeling that she'll find out I was pretty much spying and then it'll basically be curtains for me. This sucks.
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I got kind of suspicious and was brazen enough to hack my girlfriend's reddit account and now I'm afraid she's going to find out about it. Changed my IP a little too late for this one. I want to put it behind me and not do stupid shit like this again, but I feel really terrible. Don't know what to do or how to go about this. Help.
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t3_p87b9
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AskReddit
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What can I do for my younger brother who's being bullied while I'm away at college?
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Hi all,
I'm a senior in college six hours away from home, and I've been talking to my mom and grandma a lot the past few days about my younger brother. He's 11, in the sixth grade, and being bullied very frequently.
A little background:
I'm an engineering major, and he wants to "follow in my footsteps". He's into video games and reading, and I recently got him interested in Magic: the Gathering and Minecraft, both of which we play together. We watch geeky movies and play games together when I'm home, and I know he looks up to me. (Except for when I'm girl-ing out - then he's just confused.)
His current defense mechanism for dealing with the bullying is to exaggerate his own geekiness and make it an identity he can cling to - he uses it as armor and *wants* people to notice how different he is. That very difference and all the reactions he gets to it have become a validating part of his identity. As coping strategies go, it's a pretty good one, but he's also started giving up things he *does* like (such as soccer) that don't fit in with this uber-geek idea he has of himself.
I was bullied myself at his age and beyond, so I have a pretty good understanding of what it's like. We talk about things a lot when I'm home, but naturally, I've been home less and less frequently as the years progress. I'm at a bit of a loss about what I can do from here to help him. He's not very big on talking on the phone, but texting and email are both good options.
Ideas I've had so far include playing Minecraft together long-distance (logistically difficult due to shitty home internet connection, but doable occasionally), emailing him funny and interesting things, and sending him crafty stuff related to our shared interests since I'm craft-inclined.
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Reddit, what can I do from afar to help my 11-year-old brother deal with bullying?
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t3_2xg94h
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relationships
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I [18F] found and hid one of my best friend's [18F] x-acto knifes I believe she uses for self harm. Did I do the right thing?
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I've noticed every so often I hang out with one of my best friends, she has a ton of new cuts on her wrists. I was over her house earlier and found an x-acto knife on the table next to her bed. I hid it underneath the dresser.
I've dealt with a lot of self harm & depression, and I know she's had no use for the x-acto knife. I'm 99% sure she uses it to cut.
But I feel really guilty, because for all I know, she could be using it for things other than self harm. And it feels shitty to hide something that's not even mine.
I know I had the right intentions, but now I'm kinda stressing myself out about it because I don't know if it was the right thing to do.
Did I do the right thing? Did I fuck up? How can I undo my fuck up?
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I think I hid friend's blade, was I wrong?
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t3_38mxa3
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relationship_advice
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(25/F) been with boyfriend (28/M) for almost 6 years. He wants to live a lux lifestyle he can't afford.
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I was raised up to be pretty frugal. My family is financially ok because of it. Unlike my parents, I know there are different times to spend money or not. I'm not trying to live paycheck to paycheck, but if I really want something, I will save up for it over time.
My boyfriend, on the other hand, can barely stand on two feet. He unfortunately lives paycheck to paycheck, but doesn't even try to save his money. When we go out, he orders the most expensive thing on the menu. When he wants something, he will get the best model/upgrade.
I feel as if I've said to him pretty blatantly that he needs to watch himself or he'll be broke forever, but his actions don't seem to show it. When we are out, I'm compelled to pay for the both of us because I know he probably is going to barely make his rent. I'm not saying it's not normal for the girl in relationships to pay. I'm saying that there has to be a good balance. However, while he's trying live a life that he cannot financially handle yet, I save my money so we can go out and have fun.
I don't know.. I feel bad for even writing this but if we've been together for so long, of course marriage comes to mind. If he's been like this since almost the beginning of our relationship, how will it be down the road? Should I break it off while I'm ahead?
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Long time boyfriend can't manage money. Should I break it off with him?
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t3_41zx9v
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relationships
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Boyfriend [17M] said he'd be with almost all of his ex girlfriends still if they hadn't cheated on him, [18F]
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I guess I'm not really sure how to feel about that comment. We've been together a bit over 6 months and this was said in context to him putting back up his shell and not telling me his feelings anymore, because it leads us to fight. And it's true that we have been fighting a lot, and now he wants to deal with things differently on his end by shrugging things off. He then said that shelling up for him "works in relationships" and that he'd still be with almost all of his exes still if they hadn't cheated on him. I guess I'm confused on how to take this? It upsets me but I'm not sure why... It almost feels like our relationship isn't special to him.
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boyfriend said this in context to him bottling up his feelings towards me because we fight a lot, and said that this has worked in the past for him and that he'd still be with all of his exes still if they hadn't cheated on him. Upsetting to me and I'm not entirely sure why I'm feeling that way.
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t3_esqjk
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AskReddit
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Opinions from the parents of Reddit...
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The father of my 7 year old son's football buddy was killed in a head on collision on Christmas night, so far its the most tragic news that I've had to give him, I think because it was so sudden. I had to inform him of his Great Grandpa's death, but it was expected.
The issue at hand is the funeral, do I take my son?
After the initial shock of the death had all but worn off, this question has been on my mind since.
I do think that my son, even though he is 7, is mentally strong enough to attend.
This man was in my living room 10 days ago to pick up his son from a sleepover, he gave my son pointers on multiple occasions at practice and in games. My son looked up to this man, and I don't want him to resent me later if I make the wrong decision.
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A football team Dad my son looked up to died suddenly, do I take my son to the funeral?
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t3_110clc
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self
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I am being stalked by a phone company.
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Here's something bizarre, surreal, and somewhat scary for you. Your Moment of WTF Zen.
My sister came walking up to me a minute ago complaining that someone was calling HER phone looking for ME. She handed her phone to me. It was a recording looking for "(my middle name and last name)". So I pressed 1 to confirm that I was, indeed, he.
A lady came on and starting telling me how she was calling about my delinquent T-Mobile account. Well, I do believe I do not *have* a T-Mobile account, delinquent or not. I told her so; she confirmed the last four of my social, which was wrong. So was the birthday, and so was the hometown. I know there are several other people in this county with the same middle and last name as I. I actually ran into one of them at court a few weeks ago, Shawn **** **** (he was called up by the judge as I was walking out the door, which prompted a WTF moment between me and my lawyer. My first name is Sam.).
SO, T-Mobile called my sister looking for someone else with my name. Okay, now, see, this begs the question of, how did they know this was my sister (we do not have the same last name) and that they could get *me* through *her*, when I don't even *have* a T-Mobile contract/account and never have? What the fuck, T-Mobile? Are you serious? I'm having trouble wrapping my mind around this. They shouldn't even know I *exist*, much less that my sister is my sister.
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T-Mobile is staffed by Butcherface disciples.
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t3_txc68
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relationships
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Age old question- is one lie enough to end my relationship?
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Here's my story.
I met my current boyfriend almost 2 years ago. We started flirting and hanging out almost immediately.
We met in a new country as we were teaching at the same school. He had left his ex girlfriend behind. They dated for 4 years and wanted to remain friends. I've been dating him for about a year and a half now, and we've recently moved to another country again to teach. We are very much in love and everything has been a fairytale until--- He told me (because he forgot he had lied about it) that he had slept with his ex when he went back home for x-mas holidays.
When he did this we were not officially an item, but we had been fooling around. He told me nothing happened and I believed him all this time, even when it came up randomly througout our time together. This time when it randomly came up, he told me that he had slept with her. He didn't cheat on me, but he lied to me.
I feel like I chose to be with him based on my knowledge that he was over his ex and didn't sleep with her when he went home to visit. I wasn't given an opportunity to make a fair decision.
I am very worried now. It seems like it was so easy for him to lie about that, now I don't know what else he's lied about.
When the trust is broken, is it broken forever?
I love him so much and really want him to be my future, but I don't want to be miserable and hold this over both of our heads for years to come either.
Am I just overreacting?
Also- he still emails his ex and she has texted him almost a year after they broke up that she is still in love with him. I have tried to be mature about this, but I'm about to lose my cool.
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) my bf lied about sleeping with ex before we started dating. He didn't cheat, but he lied and now I'm not sure if I can trust him at all.
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t3_j7ex0
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AskReddit
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What's the worst thing you've said to your parents that you didn't mean? I'll start...
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I'll start...
So my dad was trying to get custody of me from my mom, and so he took my mom to court. I went back to the judges chambers, and on my way there, I had to go though the courtroom. When I did I saw my mom, and my dad sitting at different tables. I also saw a TV sitting in the middle of the floor, right in front of them, which was turned of at the time. I went on back to the chambers and he told me there was a video camera in the corner of his which I could see. There was also a TV next to me, but the TV show a picture of me. So the judge asked why I wanted to live at my dads, and what I didn't like about my mom, and basically he wanted to know was "How bad was my mom a parent to me." I told the truth.
So I said EVERYTHING I could think of to say bad about my mom so that I could live at my Dad's. I talked for about 45 minutes and came out and had to walk through the courtroom again. I saw my mom bawling her eyes. I didn't really know why, until I walked past the TV and it was playing EVERYTHING I had said. I didn't know the camera in chambers was recorded and sent to the courtroom TV. If I knew that, I wouldn't have said all those things. I felt awful for a long time. It all worked out in the end where I got to live with my dad, and I still see my mom, I just wish I wouldn't have been so harsh in the chambers
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Dad took mom to court to get custody of me, said harsh things about mom, didn't know she could hear it all, she could hear it all, saw her crying, made me feel awful. All worked out in end.
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t3_1vc576
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pettyrevenge
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The Invisible Squabble
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I was in my last year of middle school, and I had this friend named Andy. I say had because, well, he was a dick. Now, we had one teacher that didn't understand how projects work, so we had to get creative to make it work. We got to choose our own groups for a particular project, and I was dragged in with Andy. After several shit ideas on his part and a failing grade, he tried to turn the blame onto me. And the sad thing: it worked. Now all of these friends that I had known basically my whole life were out for my head. So I left their "group", and waited. I waited. I only ever talked to him to point out a flaw of his, criticize his taste, or brag. Not for anyone else, just him. Fast forward to about a year later, and something wonderful had happened. I eventually managed to reconnect with my old friends, and I found out something wonderful. Every passing comment, every snide in his direction, had cut deep. Very deep. He apparently become obsessed with me, in a hate way, if that makes sense. Every time I was near, every sneeze in class, he would start ranting about how terrible I was. In the end, he had torn me away from my only friends, but I recovered, and I tore him apart mentally.
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Kid made my childhood friends hate me, I caused serious self-esteem issues to him.
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t3_1nhc6o
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AskReddit
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Supermarket workers of Reddit, what are your strangest customer service stories?
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Being a cashier at a major Supermarket in Australia, would love to know.
My strangest story would have to be when a big, 6"3 red headed guy came barging through the doors (May have had a bit of crystal) and he was shouting his absolute guts out, I shit you not we could hear him, clear as day froma good 60m away. Saying he's going to kill everybody, blah blah, mind you this is in a very housing commission style suburb, and he saw me looking at him and said he'd kill me so my manager pipes up and says "Go on, assault a minor, see how many years you get" to which he went off in ome other direction of the store, eventually police came and tazered him.
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A big guy was in the shop, high of his mind, with great audible signatures.
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t3_3fl0fj
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relationships
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Me (M 22) falling for F(18) who is playing me like a fiddle
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I have been getting close to this girl now for 2 month. When we are together every thing seems great. However every time I try to make plans with her and move out of just relying on bumping into each other when we've had a drink, somthing always gets in the way. She will stop texting for no reason. She complained to her friends that I've never took her out yet every time I ask there is always a reason why she can't make it. She's told me she likes me and told my friends she does. How should I aproach this? I'm scared asking her outright will sound clingy and needy
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girl says she likes me. Great in person. Ignores my texts and finds excuse not to meet up.
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t3_31o7ac
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relationships
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Me [26 F] with my fiance [29 M] found out that he made gay porn and I don't know what to do.
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I have been with my Fiance for a year. I am looking for any advise/reactions about this topic. How would you guys feel and what would you do?
I just found this out two weeks ago from a random third party. Turns out my fiance made gay porn for money 7 years ago. He made videos with 14 different men and he's all over the place. His porn hand pulls up countless videos, comments and blogs. It's driving me crazy. One on hand, he's an amazing person but on the other hand I have a deep fear that maybe he is actually gay. He didn't just do vanilla stuff. He did all types of hardcore gay porn stuff. I don't really even know where to begin or what to do. I feel like I'm losing my mind..
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Found out my fiance made gay porn for money and it's killing me inside.
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t3_idp0i
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AskReddit
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I think I ruined my friends set of bags. Is there anyway to kill bean growth in a bag?
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I'm sure you've all seen the bean bag toss game, where you have 4 bean bags and toss it through a hole in a board. Well a friend of mine let us use his for a party and the bags got wet, then were stored in a damp garage.
These things stink like the dickens now and I am think they might have started to germinate. The bags just don't feel right. How screwed am I? Would the only option be to cut open each bag and replace the beans? Or is does someone know a way to stop the growth inside the bags?
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Smelly bags, need to kill whats inside.
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t3_1wbcsd
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relationships
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I [20 M] feel it's about time I let my GF [20F] know that her being flirty with other guys is getting to me, how do I bring it up?
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We were at a friends house and went to a concert with a big group of friends on the weekend.
When we were at our friends house she went off with this guy who we both met that day and was shooting around a bball with him while the rest of our group was inside, I didn't see anything wrong with it but then it got worse.
When we were at the concert I was off helping one of my friends who was feeling sick while she was dancing with this guy and taking selfies with him (getting pretty close). He ended up making it his profile picture and ended up getting all these comments about him 'putting her away' and other sexual comments (which i really didn't want to see).
Later on that night when we were out again I saw her dancing with that group of guys again, I wouldn't be too concerned if it was one of her friends or something but it was a guys she met for the first time that day.
I already knew she was flirty coming into the relationship but didn't expect it to be this bad, or effect me this much.
Should I be upset? Should I say anything if so what should I say?
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Girlfriend is very flirty, need help on if i should bring it up and what I should say?
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t3_29jdum
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tifu
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TIFU by booking a special private tour for my family
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I just got back from the craziest trip of my life. I was on a family vacation in Mexico and we were staying in a nice resort. I thought it would be a good idea to book us a private tour of the ruins in Tulum. Tulum was 30inuyes away from our resort and it was just our family. Now, none of us speak any Spanish and it took us about 20 minutes into the trip the drives was Spanish ONLY, so the company, which was not part of the resort, must've screwed up. this wouldn't been a problem if the guy knew where he was going. A huge sign told us that we were near Tulum, but he just kept driving. Eventually he pulls up to, and I shit you not, a MILITARY BASE in the middle of Mexico. By this time we have my mom and brothers crying in the car. I honestly thought we were being abducted and being used as lab rats for some Mexican Human Centipede or whatever. anyway, the guy eventually got his directions and we spent the rest of the day in Tulum with an English tour guide, awaiting the ride home,
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I booked a special tour for my family and ended up in a Spanish speaking military base.
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t3_4wfg41
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relationships
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My(32F) boyfriend(26M) traded a small problem for a really big problem...
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My boyfriend and I (going on 3 years) are starting to build our lives together. Neither of us came from good situations, so we're trying to make a better life for our selves. We needed a new vehicle. I had a 2003 Expedition that was starting to go, it had some body damage, but all in all ran just fine-and had AC. My boyfriend delivers pizzas right now, so the truck was costing us a lot in gas. And with it having over 230k miles, it was time to start looking into getting a different car. After some fighting, I just let my boyfriend take the reigns. Well, he sold the truck for less than he should've, and bought a little 96 eclipse that's barely running, (no ac) It broke down the first night he went back to work. We're pretty much out of money at this point, and I'm scared he's about to lose his job. I don't know what to do anymore.
I can't help but feel like if he would've just taken my advice we wouldn't be stuck in this situation. It's pointless argue now, what's done is done. But damnit, how can I fix this?
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My boyfriend sold our working vehicle, bought one that doesn't really work, and spent the rest of our money attempting to fix it. Halp!
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t3_v29rd
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AskReddit
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What is the weirdest experience that you have had with a complete stranger?
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Back in HS, I was walking down a relatively crowded sidewalk with a couple of friends. I wasn't really thinking, so I started swinging my arms in a windmill like motion. Before I realized that the sidewalk was packed with people, I accidentally smacked a complete stranger right on the ass. The man that I smacked was a middle-aged man who was walking with a woman about his age in the opposite direction. When I smacked him, he let out a high pitched yelp, like a puppy. The man and I stopped walking and we had a moment of eye contact. Embarrassed, I shrugged my shoulders and said "sorry" and kept walking. Afterwords, my friends had a good laugh. I never met that man again. Oh yeah, I'm a guy.
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I smacked a random middle-aged man on the ass.
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t3_4q77jl
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relationships
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My [21F] Boyfriend [21M] and I went to a party and I saw him grinding on his sister [14F].
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So a while back, my boyfriend and I went to a friends party. We've been dating for a little over a year and I'm very close with his parents and friends. His family was also at this party and we had a blast, lots of booze was had and overall a great night. We were dancing on the floor and I'm always happy to include his family in our fun so we were all doing the twist and having a blast.
It was halfway through the night (about 8:30pm) and I had taken a break from the dancing but I was still standing on the floor. I was talking to a mate of ours (I'll call him Bob) not even a few feet away.
That's when I turned around and saw it. At first I figured, "he's just a terrible dancer", but the more it happened the more I was really just horrified. It was kind of creepy and disgusted me a little bit. He didn't do it with anyone else other than me, his mates (all guys) and his sister. I made a comment to Bob and he also agreed that it was quite weird. However I'm not sure if the friend was saying that because I was concerned or if he actually thought it.
Similar things would happen previously in our relationship where he would treat his sister almost exactly like he treats me. It's really really weird and it makes me extremely uncomfortable.
I don't think he's attracted to his sister (at least now anyway?)
Am I overreacting? Is this just sibling relationships? (I have sisters but I've never had a brother)
I've asked him in a half joking manner before but he never responded properly. (As I was making it seem like a joke)
How do I proceed?
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Was at a party and I saw him grinding on his underage sister in a borderline creepy way.
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t3_zm86q
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AskReddit
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Will my sisters DUI charge show up on employee background checks? Charged NOT convicted.
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She is not worried about the charge sticking, as she was not impaired.
She blew a zero on the breathalyzer but they still hauled her in because they ~~are asses~~ they wanted a urine test. After 9 hours in holding, she was set free. My question to you, will this show up in a background check?
She is currently looking for employment and is worried about it hurting her chances. She hired a lawyer and they said the courts are currently working on a back log from 2008. Should she be worried? After all, she hasn't been convicted of anything.
Any input would help, lawyers, cops, people who've been there... etc! Thanks!
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Sister pulled over for DUI, charged but not convicted. Hurt employment changes or show up on background checks?
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t3_4j1cc6
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relationships
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Am I (27M) wrong? How to handle ex-crush (24F) and coworkers (20s-40sF)?
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Huge wall of text incoming. I'll try to be concise as possible.
A coworker of ~6 months and I used to flirt quite a bit. I eventually got around to asking her out, she said she was busy, offered no alternative, and she really dialed down the flirting after that. No big deal, in fact it probably helped me get over it that much faster.
~3 weeks ago she started dating another coworker. They broke up last week and it was apparently pretty bad - he quit and I occasionally overhear conversations mentioning calling the cops on him.
3 days ago she asked me out. I said no, I don't want to be a nice guy rebound after you got burned by a douche, let's give it a couple months and if we get our old spark back we can take it from there. Holy fucking waterworks and constant seething rage since.
If it were just her it wouldn't be as bad but most of our female coworkers are now all in my shit too - how do just you stop liking someone? Why couldn't you have just taken her out to be nice?
Thankfully the only male left is our boss and he has my back. Took me out for drinks yesterday, told me he thinks I did the right thing, and that he'll do what he can to stop the drama. I told him thanks but trying to stop it will only make things worse for everyone involved including him, I can take it.
I can but I'm not sure for how long. Any tips? I love the job so quitting is out of the question. Just keep my head down? Should I take this girl out before I'm ready? I do still like her but this situation has taken a bit of the shine off and replaced it with crazy pressure.
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I don't know...drama after turning coworker down I guess?
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t3_364lqi
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tifu
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TIFU by ordering food on JustEat.
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So here in the UK; we have JustEat, it's pretty big and I use it once a month, it's basically a search engine for food, and allows you to get it delivered
So I decide what I want to order and pay for it by card, delivery time 40 minutes, cool I thought, I sat back and continued watching TV.
Next thing I know, I get an email from JustEat saying my order has been cancelled, generic response. Which basically tells me to order from a different takeaway.
No worries I thought and preceded to order a similar thing from a different takeaway.
5 minutes later, email again - order cancelled.
At this point I was pretty annoyed... and hungry, so I hurriedly ordered from the third place, hoping it would go through.
Sure enough, it did. So I sat back and awaited for it's arrival.
Not 10 minutes later there was a knock on the door, it's dark, being 1AM and all, so I don't see the name of the place the guy is driving for, I take it in and tip him.
I then notice the problem; the name, it was the second of my 3 orders.. One I thought I cancelled.
Crap
Literally not a minute later, knock knock.
Fuck, fuck, why? Not wanting to cause a problem, I answer the door and take in this second order. Tip him and act like nothing is wrong.
Then it hit me, please tell me the third order isn't coming?
Before I even have a chance to get back to my computer to check, sure enough a knock at the door.
The third order, the one, and only one I thought was coming.
I now have 3 large portions of chips, 3/4 of a pound of burger - 6L of Pepsi and enough tomato ketchup to swim in.
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Ordered from 3 places - thought only 1 was delivering, All 3 places delivered
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t3_4bhfbv
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relationships
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I [19M] met this incredible girl [19F] last week, but things got complicated quickly and I DESPERATELY need your help.
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So I met this incredible girl when I was on break from college. She is perfect. Smart, beautiful, funny, etc. I have dated around a bit, but I have met anyone like her. I can't even describe my feelings.
The problem is that she just started dating someone very shortly before meeting me and I can tell she isn't all that into him. She told me that she has strong feelings for me, to the point that it scares her because she hasn't felt like this before. She told me that she thinks we would be perfect for each other but the combination of it being unfair to her current boyfriend, me going to school pretty far away, and my current lifestyle she said that it can't workout right now.
I told her that I completely respect that and that I would love to stay friends with her because there is no point in throwing out such a good relationship over that. However, I'm going to be back over the summer and I am praying that maybe something will happen. Please help, my mind is running itself into the ground trying to figure things out right now.
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I met this incredible girl but our circumstances are inhibiting us from pursuing each other. What should I do?
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t3_qxqv6
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AskReddit
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Has anyone had substantial luck with Affiliate Marketing? (FIXED) (XPOST)
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I'm looking to talk to somehow who is currently or has in the past worked within a affiliate marketing business model (you get a cut of those who work under you, etc) and proved successful. **I am not looking for someone at the higher end of the model, but someone who started fresh in an already well developed business**
My father and mother have both invested plenty of money/time in the past to a similar set-up years ago and from what I recall, wasn't the best producer of income. Currently, my mom has started a new one, similar to the past and it pretty much consumes her whole life. What's more is she keeps talking about what she WILL make in the future but last I talked to her was hardly making what I would call a "sustainable living." My girlfriend's sister is currently interested in starting a similar personal business and I would like to get some feedback from reddit as a way to scare her off the idea.
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Trying to save mom and gf's sister from affiliate marketing ploys that never seem to work.
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t3_2k3dux
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relationships
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My [20F] boyfriend's [20M] brother [30ishM] takes advantage of him now but my BF won't do anything about it. (More inside)
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Bit of backstory:
His brother has a wife and 3 children and we rent a basement apartment under their home.
My boyfriend and I have some money troubles. He is the main provider because I only work part-time(our rent is really low so we don't have much cost) but my BF has a lot of debt due to school and other personal events. We use our visas a lot just to get by.
His brother is a waiter so he makes crappy money per hour but has generous tips and his wife has a stable job as well. But they are moochers. I didn't know this before we moved in.
My BF is the type to lend money or his visa to his family if they need it, but rarely gets paid back. His brother has done this many times. He also has my BF buying him cigarettes on occasion, beer, take out... It even comes to a point where they will come downstairs and take beer if they're out or milk for the kids. We have even paid for camping trips/supplies ($500) and other trips/food ($200+)
I lost it this morning when I heard them come downstairs and take cat food out of our 30$ bag and fill their container for their food.
I told my boyfriend this and got very little response. I mentioned it more about how he bought the bag but theyre just coming and taking half which is ridiculous. He got angry with me for talking about it and has stopped replying. He gets upset over money and debts but still takes this kind of crap from his family. His brother needs to stop stepping on him but my BF also needs to stand up and say no or ask for his money back.
We get in fights over money which affects our relationship and he just sits by and lets all this happen cause "they're family"
Is there anyway I could convince him to step up and say something? Any tips or thoughts you may have would be awesome.
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BFs brother takes money/items from him, doesn't pay back, Our money problems affecting relationship but he won't do anything about it. Help.
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t3_2hrhg8
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relationship_advice
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[26/f] Going through a divorce, Started talking to this guy (29/m) Advice Please!
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Hi All.
To be brief, I was in a relationship for the last 6 years with a very lazy, very unmotivated gentlemen. Over time I realized that our goals in life were very different, and I no longer had feelings for him. Once I reached a decision I ended it immediately.
We're currently separated, and although he very much wants to fix the relationship, I know its truly and really over. I've got the divorce paperwork filled out, and am filing as soon as possible. We've been separated 2 months, and I've been the happiest I have ever been in my life. Truly!
So I recently met a gentleman, who I thought would just be a fling, and possibly just a nsa friend - but now I am finding that he is warming my frozen heart. I am in a panic because I am truly feeling things for him - and I am getting the impression that he feels something similar. He is aware I am going through a divorce - and he seems as okay as anyone possibly could be with this situation. He is not pressuring me for anything but I feel that I am in the wrong by being with someone so soon after my separation - especially someone that I think I could have a RELATIONSHIP with in the future.
(FYI - I have rebounded and even seen a few other men recently - and I know that this isn't just rebound or "oh I'm so excited to be single" thoughts.)
Any thoughts on how I should approach this?
Do I just continue seeing him? (I want to!) There is going to be minimum 60 days for the divorce to be final - but I'm hoping it will be over by year end... Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks!
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Recently separated, met a man I believe I could have an actual relationship with.
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t3_4tefe9
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relationships
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Me [26F] with my boyfriend [26M] of 4 years. We just got engaged but have an unresolved issue about having kids - did I make a mistake saying yes?
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So, my boyfriend ("Sam") of four years proposed two weeks ago. We have an excellent relationship - I think we communicate well, we are happy together, similar ambitions, etc. and I feel very happy with him. We've talked about marriage and a future together before but I wasn't expecting the proposal at this time. I was overwhelmed with happiness and said yes.
However, now the celebrations and all the fun of telling people being and being congratulated has slowed down, it has occurred to me that we there is an issue we've never fully addressed between us. Sam definitely wants children. I genuinely don't know if I do. I'm not childfree, I like kids and I can see the positives, but I'm also very career driven and kids have never been a priority for me. When I was younger I thought I definitely *didn't* want kids but that's changed to a maybe as I've got older. I actually work with children and families now which has been the main impetus for this change from "no" to "maybe". But Sam has always been clear he definitely wants kids. I am firmly on the fence right now and that's as much as I can say.
So, I brought this up last night. I said to Sam it worried me that we'd never answered this question about our future and I was worried we would get married, and in 5 years I'd realise I didn't want children and we'd divorce. Sam said he had thought about this before he proposed, and he decided he could have a happy life with me without children, if that's how it turned out.
My problem is...I'm not sure I believe him, or at least I'm not sure that he will always feel that way. I worry that because he's in love with me, he's not being honest about how much he wants kids. He was always sure he did before. If I decide I don't want children, is this going to create resentment?
Should I take him at his word or ask that we put off the engagement/marriage until I can give a solid answer about having children?
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Got engaged. My partner has always wanted children; I'm not sure. He now says he'd be okay if we didn't have kids. Do I take him at his word and go ahead with the engagement or do we need to slow down and wait until I can give a clear yes or no on kids?
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t3_2mu1jg
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relationships
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Need a second opinion (19M with gf of 4 years)
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So, long story short, my girlfriend of four years was chatting heaps with some bloke at her work, I trust her completely because I try to be a good boyfriend and she ended up kissing this bloke, I found out by accident when she left her FB open on my computer.
Shit got pretty real, we talked a lot about where we were at and stuff. Fast forward a month or two and she's talking with him still. At the time she asked if I wanted her not to speak to him, stupidly I said no because I trusted she'd be able to respect the effort I'm putting into this relationship..
Anyway, they're speaking again, not heaps, but enough to make me worried... I just want to know if I should confront her about it or what you guys would do. I don't really think I could handle anything happening between them again, and I don't have the guts to read through their messages and find out if something is the case.
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GF of four years kissed another bloke a few months back, seems to be speaking to him a lot now and even though things have been good between us lately, I'm not sure how to feel about the other guy.. Please help before my insides melt away.
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t3_48gw7q
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relationships
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Me [28M] with my 25F girflriend of 6 months. Need help being comfortable with the past between her and a close friend.
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My SO has a friend she's known since high school, they are really good friends. Since we've been together, they haven't hung out alone, it's always been groups or her other good friend is there. But the good friend will be moving shortly, so they'll be hanging out alone.
I'm not worried anything will happen, but for some reason I still feel uncomfortable about it. I've only met the guy once, he seems fine, but because of me and my SOs communication I know that they drunkenly had bad sex once, and then about 8 months ago they soberly tried it again.
I'm not sure if it's because the second time is so recent, and I'm 99% sure the only reason it didn't continue is because she didn't want it to (i.e he probably has feelings for her, but she doesn't see it that way).
I don't want to police her and tell her who she can and can't hang out with, but I also don't want to feel this way when they do. Anyone have any advice?
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Want to be comfortable with what's happened in the past, but don't know how to be.
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t3_48zuiq
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tifu
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TIFU by vaping at work.
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I recently got into vaping and decided to do it incognito at work. I was puffing away discreetly all day in my department without issue. I decided to go to the bathroom and enjoy a shittin'vape sesh. Not more than 5 minutes in, the fire alarms start going off. Before I could realize what was going on security guards followed by a brigade of people come bum rushing into the bathroom. Mind you I was midshit, I was sitting there with the vape pen in my mouth and my pants around my ankles. Once they figured out there was no real danger they began filing out. So here I sit finishing my shit, hands shaking as I type this out. God knows what will happen now. I hope I don't get fired.
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Took a shit and vaped. Set off the fire alarm.
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t3_15vrx5
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AskReddit
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What are the worst lyrics you've ever heard in your life?
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What lyrics; be it by pop star, rap group, Finnish Grind Core band, etc, that are so terrible they make your butt pucker in distaste? To me Anything by **Brotha Lynch Hung** takes the cake.
*"He gonna feel it I'm bout to peel his bananna real quick
Spit the sickness get cha dick split witness
Sicka dis shit business
I'm a put him on a hit list
Teach him about the season of da sikkness
Six six sick shit
Kreep in ya house put a gun in ya mouth
An I'm unda the house HIDIN'"*
How can you be in the house and under the FUCKING house at the same time Brotha Lynch Hung, how? Explain that to me.
Get a load of this fucking lyrical brilliance:
*"Bodies unda the couch and I ain't comin out I'm goin out dyin',
Try em undeniable I don't know I just fry em though
I come,
Hard on the face
Probly cause I don't like em
I'm a OG viking
Kris karter
I spit harder
I get farther
Put it in the butt
His daughter
Spit a nigga nut"
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what lyrics suck shit hard. IMO Brotha Lynch Hung. Ex: *"Spit a Nigga Nut."*
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t3_2lwx36
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tifu
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Tifu by not washing my hands thoroughly
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Like many posts here, this didnt happed today, or yesterday, but instead about 4 months ago.
Just to clarify, im on mobile so sorry for any grammar errors.
Lets begin with the horrifying experience that brought me close to hell. My family plants a garden every spring and we use it throughout the summer, thus year we planted peppers. We planted two types of peppers, green bells (sweet) and cayenne (hot). You may be able to see where this is going.
One day i see alot of cayanne peppers in our garden and decide it would be great to cut one up and throw it into the dirt for nutrition. I thought i was doing a great thing, I generally dont like peppers, so i dont know the side effects. Being the clumsy and dirty 14 y/o i am, i dint wash my hands. Needless to say, i have to use the bathroom, i whip out my sea monster and let it rip, sadly, touching it in the process. Oh man, i screamed a mighty scream, only comparable to those annoying girls at amusement parks who scream about everything. I was screaming, it burned, it really REALLY burned. I ended up taking a warm shower which only made it worse, i sat there for around an hour, wailing, clutching my crotch and asking god why he did this, short answer, there is no god when your dick is in hell. I advise all of you to wash your hands, especially after cutting a pepper.
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cut a hot pepper, took a piss and sent my dick to hell, wash your hands
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t3_da0y7
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AskReddit
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Why all the hate for the Prequel Trilogy?
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So I just finished watching Star Wars Episodes I, II, and III and thought they were all pretty good. I don't understand why people hate on them so much. Granted Jar Jar is annoying and possibly a racial stereotype, but other than that I can't see anything that makes these movies as bad as everyone says. I love the hell out of the original trilogy but these new three are a fitting addition. You've got some great new characters like Jango Fett and Darth Maul and Samuel L. Windu. Revenge of the Sith stands out as particularly important to Star Wars canon. It's the tragic fall from grace of Anakin Skywalker as he becomes that which he was destined to destroy, a Sith Lord, Darth Vader. So epic. As in literally, it's like an epic. Like an opera. Or whatever.
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I like Episodes I-III, why don't you? Or do you?
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t3_43ujew
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relationships
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I [26M] have been dating her [24F] for about two weeks. Things have been going really well, but my anxiety is through the roof.
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We met through an online dating service about two weeks ago, and since then we've really hit it off. We've gone on five dates in two weeks. I feel really good about her, but I also feel very anxious. I'm not used to dating going this well.
My last serious relationship ended about a year and a half ago. Since then, my dating life has not been very successful. Most of the time, I haven't gotten past date two. It really wore on me and my self-confidence.
In the past, I never really dated anyone who was on the same level as me. I have a career. I'm independent. I try to be very responsible. Every woman I've ever dated has lacked at least one of these qualities. I've always felt like I was settling.
My experience with this girl so far has been a complete polar opposite of my past experience. We have a ton of fun together. The chemistry is phenomenal. She has a career and takes good care of herself. She feels like a peer and an equal. This is something that has always been missing from my dating life.
Here's the problem: my anxiety is through the roof. I'm really afraid that I'm going to fuck this up somehow. I have spoken with my therapist about this, and it's helped a little. We have two more dates planned for this week.
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Have been dating a lovely girl for about two weeks, but I'm feeling a lot of anxiety. How do I relax, calm down, and just enjoy myself and her company?
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t3_3db2lq
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relationships
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I feel like my friend [25M] is getting rejected because of his cerebral palsy.
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Okay, I'm going to be candid here. My friend has to deal with daily stigma because he has difficulty walking, and I feel like this is his number one impediment in dating.
He's a kind and attractive looking man who works as an engineer for a prestigious laboratory. He's an intellectual and a gentleman. Nevertheless, when he puts himself out there, he's always rejected and often receives the line, "You're not my type."
He's not looking for someone to take care of him. He doesn't have any sexual dysfunction, and he doesn't have any genetic condition that would impede him from having children. Despite this, sadly, he was once told that he would be a burden.
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A great guy with C.P. is struggling with dating.
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t3_4s979d
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legaladvice
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My [42F San Diego CA] Daughter [16F] doesn't want to return home after visiting Non-custodial father [42M] in Houston Texas
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My daughter [16F] who decided that she doesn't want to come back after a visit to her dad. I am a sole custodial parent @ 98%. Her father wasn't much around for her as much as I would like him to.
Once she turned 10, I would send her to Houston to visit her Dad. I always tell her that no matter what comes out of it he will always be her father and should love and respect him.
This year my daughter and I started having issues. She started to act out badly. She always talks back regardless of what I have to say. With no respect at all. At one unpleasant event I got so frustrated with her I said something mean which I wish I could take back. She recorded the argument when was expressing my anger and frustration and now she is using it against me. She showed Dad and said this is why I don't want to go back.
I tried to talk to her father and ask if he can help talking with her. He said, " I don't want to help you. I honestly don't give a shit about you. I'm only going to help my daughter." Basically everything I say they twist them around. Both my daughter and her father talked to me like they have been coaching each other what to say. Now all she says to me, " I hate you and your entire family." Very unfortunate she said that about being my family. my family had helped me raise her while her father had neglected her. If it wasn't for them I wouldn't be able to put a roof over both our heads.
I am expecting her return 7/16. I have a reference to a family attorney. What are all options?
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Daughter doesn't want to return home after visiting Non-custodial father in Texas. Father is not helping to improve the situation.
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t3_1110gq
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relationship_advice
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Update (10/05/2012) to [30/m] Wife left with daughter, needs space to think...
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Yesterday was our daughter's dance lesson. It wasn't bad, wife was nice, we went and got coffee during the lesson (most mom's left -- I really was the only guy). Still no kiss, her saying she loves me. I put my arm around her and she said it made her feel uncomfortable because she isn't ready yet. Other than that, it was enjoyable except at the end I mentioned how this is hard and her not coming home is making it even harder.
I picked up our daughter from daycare today, apparently she didn't nap today so she went to bed early. She kept asking me why mommy isn't home, she misses me, the cat and the new house. Wife texted me to find out if I picked her up, got her booksack and if she was OK. Other than that, really nothing. I told her what our daughter has been saying and then if we just communicate more, things can work out but she never replied. Now I can't sleep.
It's been one week since she walked out and I can't take this much longer. I don't know why her mom or a friend (assuming she's told a friend) isn't telling her to come home to her family and work this out. I guess no one is telling her anything. She keeps telling me she needs time and wants to wait to see what the councilor says, which is on Wednesday. By then it will be 12 days since she left. She said there's a chance, depending on what the councilor says (or maybe what I say) she will come home that night.
When I picked our daughter up, I was informed she's been screaming at kids, having mood swings, not sleeping and not her normal self. I told my wife this and she said that she probably knows what is going on and it'll be tough.
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i don't know what the fuck to do and i'm tired of waiting
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t3_3jdkq9
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relationships
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I [24F] am in recovery from an eating disorder. My friend [24M] has made some triggering comments without realizing it. Not sure what to do.
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I've had an eating disorder for over a decade- not that it matters, but it's anorexia. I don't mean to sound flippant I'm not scary thin and on the outside, I think I look very "normal" and like I have an athletic body. I'm recovering from a very recent relapse and I'm doing ok.
I'm also a runner, and running has honestly saved me from falling into the depths of anorexia. Today I had a long run on the schedule, and due to my knee problems, I only ran 12 miles instead of 16. I was crushed. I was hanging out with friends, including Matt, and told them all this, and they all told me I was crazy, that 12 miles is celebratory enough.
Shortly after that, I was starving and had the biggest cookie and something to the effect of being so hungry due to my mileage. Matt said, "but you didn't run 16! You only ran 12 so you shouldn't be having the cookie!" I found it so triggering I wanted to spit it out of my mouth. Matt and I joke around a lot about tons of topics including food, but sometimes I'll find his joking remarks triggering, even when he's saying something as simple as "How did you eat that much at breakfast?! You are a beast!"
A large part of me feels like this is my problem. It's my disorder and there will always be people making triggering comments. Matt and I are friends, we text and go out for food or drinks, but we're not super emotionally close. I tell almost no one about my disorder and I would be embarrassed to tell him.
To be clear, I am in no way angry at Matt for these comments: he does not know about my disorder. He is also a really nice guy and means absolutely no harm. But does anyone have any advice, either in terms of what I should do with regards to Matt and/or how I can internally deal with triggering comments?
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recovering anorexic of over a decade. My friend makes triggering comments. Almost no one knows about my disorder. I don't know how to handle this.
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t3_d6216
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AskReddit
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Am I a bad person?
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Recently I started dating a girl that I was friends with in High School, she means a lot to me, but there was one huge problem with it. She dated my *best* friend for two years while we were in high school (she is one year behind us). When she moved away for college she broke up with him. We had continued to be friends chatting on face book and hanging out when we were both home. This summer after opening up to each other we decided to start dating. We both knew this would create problems because she is the ex and I am the *best* friend. The next day I went over and let him know that we had decided to start dating. He gave me some very light hearted words and didn't truly tell me what he thought. That evening my girl friend got an email from him blowing up about the situation. After bashing me and her I confronted him about it and he again wouldn't really tell me what he thought. Now that school has started again I moved out to my apartment for college and he is back in our hometown doing community college. We had a few more meetings before I left and he played it off. Am I a bad person for putting him through this?
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I am dating my best friend's ex girl friend, a year after they broke up, am I a bad person?
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t3_3d745w
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tifu
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TIFU by smoking pot and driving.
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This happened today around 11AM EST.
Today I woke up and decided to wake and bake. I smoked while re-watching the Batman v Superman trailer for the millionth time.
I smoked a few bowls and got blasted.
Once I finished, I had to go to the grocery store and get gas. I went to get gas first. I paid $30 for the gas and left, I went to the grocery store, got what I needed, and went home.
When I got home is when I saw my gas tank was in E. It is then when I realized I was so high I paid for the gas but forgot to actually filled up my tank.
So, I go back to the gas station, and there's already a car there at the spot I was intentially going to pump gas in. Who knows how many cars came before that one. Oh, well. Today I paid $60 on gas for a Toyota Corolla.
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They lie, smoking and driving is indeed dangerous... On your wallet.
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t3_3c999q
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relationships
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Please help: My uncle [Late 30s, M] and his fiancee [Early 30s, F] are about to fall apart right before their wedding. Religious issue.
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This isn't for me, but a relative of mine whom I'm very close to. (Context, everybody is asian here) My uncle has been picking up meditation and recently had an out of body experience. Both of them are incredibly sweet and understanding people, and they've been in a relationship for quite a few years, I think around 2-4? However, the fiancee and her family are devout Christians, and she's terrified of the experience my uncle had. As I'm told, she and her parents are afraid that my uncle is going to join some sort of cult. (To make things worse, my other uncle just shaved his head while he was on vacation in Peru.) After she'd been crying for a week, the fiancee and her parents met with my uncle and her parents and talked it out. It ended with an ultimatum: her, or his meditation. She doesn't want anything to do with it.
I think it was INCREDIBLY selfish of her to do so, but at least this issue came to a head before the wedding. What can I do to try to bridge this gap? The fiancee and her family just have this incredibly antiquated "anything not christian is the devil" viewpoint and are terrified of all this meditation stuff. I've posted in /r/meditation, but I think this is an issue that sort of goes beyond that context.
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My uncle had an out of body experience while meditating, devout christian fiancee is terrified and issues an ultimatum. What do?
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t3_3yozgk
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Advice
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I am kinda forced by an old lady to read a book that isn't interesting to me?
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So I was at this dinner party with my parents and their friends, and, having nothing better to do as one of the few minors there, I continued reading the Hobbit. It was maybe a few chapters later that an old lady approached me, she was our hostess' mother. She asked what book I was reading, and we started talking. She seemed really into books. She asked if I knew Dick Francis, I said no, and she then proceeded to take a book off of a nearby shelf. She gave me 'Risk', by Dick Francis, to borrow. Because I'll see them again in a few days, she says that I can keep it till then to finish. Then she walks away, old-woman like. I started reading, it isn't too interesting, and I really don't want to spend my time reading this book, but I am forced to as she clearly borrowed me the book to read! What should I do, advice redditors? And please don't just say "read it, you dong", I've already considered it.
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Old woman borrowed me a boring-ish book, I am forced to read it before a few days, what should I do?
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t3_4hszem
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relationships
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Me [33 F] with my former friend [36 F] brother just passed away unexpectedly. We haven't talk in months, should I reach out to her?
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My (ex)friend's brother passed away this past weekend. It was very unexpected and I'm sure their family is devasted since they have a tight knit family. I haven't talked to my friend in 8 months, and before that was 2 years. We meet at work and became really close outside of work. When I was interviewing for a promotion in a different department I didn't tell her (or anyone at work) about it. She found out when I announce it to the team. The reason I didn't tell her ahead of time was because she tends to blab my business to our co workers (I'm a private person at work). She acted like it didn't bother her and so I never bought it up.
Shortly after I transferred to my new position, she unfriended me on social media. I stopped getting invitations to social events she would host and since we didn't work together anymore I didn't ever see her. I found out yesterday her brother passed away. I know how close she was to all her siblings and they spent a lot of time together. I want to reach out and offer my condolences but I am not sure if this is the right time or place to do it.
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Ex friend's brother passed away. Should I reach out to her?
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t3_1z4mco
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relationship_advice
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[23/m] New girlfriend(?) [23/f] is giving me mixed signals, but I may just be crazy.
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Hey guys! I recently started dating this wonderful girl a couple weeks ago. From our first date we had some AMAZING chemistry, and when on dinner dates our food gets cold because we get so into the conversations. After our fourth date, things got physical. After that we both really opened up and had a talk, in which I tried to DTR (define the relationship). We both agreed that we adore each other already, that our relationship was definitely shaping up to be special, and she said that of all the guys she has been dating recently, I'm the only one she can picture having a relationship with.
She completely dodged my DTR, wondering why an 'amazing guy' like me would ever go for a girl like her. (Which is funny, because I feel the exact way about her.) If what she told me is true, I'm wondering why she was so hesitant to try the relationship out.
As far as I know, we're exclusive. I have my sights set on her right now. I have no idea if she's seeing other guys though, which is a problem.
She is a very busy girl (law grad school) but I've noticed she can take forever to reply to texts, and it's always me who is initiating dates and plans.
Something smells fishy to me here. I really like this girl. I really want a true relationship with her, but some things aren't adding up! Help me, reddit. Am I trying to leap into this too soon, or am I onto something?
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Girl flatters me with tons of compliments but dodges DTR. Doesn't seem to be on the same page as I am.
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t3_1fpu70
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relationships
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GF(F27) said she was better than me(M29) and I'm wondering what reddit thinks.
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So Last night my GF and I went out, she had too much to drink and brought up that she hasn't met my parents.
Ok so she hasn't met my parents after dating for nearly a year because they are assholes. They don't like anyone I date and I don't truly consider them family in the way most people do. My parents aren't "there" for me, they don't support my decisions(this is due to them being super religious and that I'm not) and so most encounters with them are highly glossed over. I made it clear to my GF when we began dating that it was going to be a long time till she met them.
Well last night she said that she was better than me in every way possible and that I should have no problem introducing her to them because of how much better she is than me.
I'm not going to get into a pissing contest with my GF over who is better than who. I just don't know if I can be with someone who truthfully thinks they are better than me. I know in past relationships I knew I was better at some things than my ex(troubleshooting computer problems, fixing shit around the house) but I have never sat back in any relationship and thought "I am so great, any girl would worship the ground I walk" but that is what my ex communicated to me last night.
It may have been alcohol that initiated it but I truly don't think that alcohol is the only culprit.
We're supposed to move in together in the fall and now I don't want anything to do with her.
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GF thinks she is better than me and stated it loudly while we were out. What do I do.
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t3_1najxe
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offmychest
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Manager baited me into shouting match then fired me. Next day owner called me in and gave me my check and says he is keeping me on payroll for 6 months.
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Manager baited me into an altercation with him. This is second time I have had a run in with him. Last time I had to sign a warning letter that if it happened again I would be terminated. When I got baited into an argument I fell for it and wound up shouting at him. I was terminated by email and phone call I got that night at the house.
Next day the owner of the company called me and asked me to come by and pick up check and said he wanted to talk. This guy has seen me come in at least 45 min early every day before anyone and usually work 30 min over for 4 years. He knows I have done things for his small company that no one else there could ever have done. Things like design a new website (which I did free on my own time at home), set up online advertising and lots of SEO work. This was all on top of my main job that kept me busy all day long.
He tells me because the situation happened in front of a lot of other employees and because I signed the first warning that if it happened again I would be fired, he just couldn't do anything different. He had to back up the manager and leave me terminated. He said he knew and appreciated the passion I had for the company to grow and succeed. He said I was going to be impossible to replace and he considered me indispensable. He then leaned in and hugged me and said he was leaving me on the payroll for 6 months and if I needed anything, references, calls to other companies or whatever he would do anything he could.
The guy was great to work for. Even though it sucks to lose the job and I'm mad I'm not there anymore. I am super happy I can work on finding something and not have to scramble or accept something that sucks just to have an income coming in.
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Fired by manager who baited me into shouting match. Next day owner of company calls me to pick up check and says he is keeping me on payroll for 6 months because he appreciated my hard work and dedication to his company.
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t3_1ojs32
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dogs
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Looking for a good file for my GSP's nails, please help :)
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I have a 3 year old German Shepherd, and clipping her nails is always an ordeal. I don't need tips on getting her to cope with the procedure, she is well trained to grooming and vet routines. She has nails that split and the quick on a few nails has started to separate, causing me to accidentally cut it.
I read a book a while back about GSD's that said this is a common problem, and that a carpentry file or something would be a better alternative to clippers. The trouble is, I've tried a metal pet nail file and a carpentry file, but both are not coarse enough to take off any of her nails. I've also attempted to use that spinning pedicure contraption, and it didn't work as well as she didn't want to stick her fingers in a machine.
So...
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I need recommendations for a coarse nail file for my dog please
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t3_3s6wyw
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relationships
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My [23F] name was left off my mentors [25-29F] published journal article.
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Starting in Spring 2014 I began working in a lab on our campus. I was working directly under a graduate student on her thesis. She was a brilliant mentor to have and I consider myself very lucky to have been working so close with her.
Another undergrad and I worked together almost everyday on her project. Our mentor and us had a verbal contract that we would put in about 20 - 30 hours per week and would write a small script to help with her analysis. In return, if her paper got accepted into a journal, we would be co-authors of the paper.
She graduated with her MA and is now at a Ph.D. program out of state. We haven't had much contact besides a few emails and some facebook stalking. Her paper just recently got published. My name was the only one from our lab group not on the paper.
The situation is what it is. It's already in press (i.e. - accepted by the journal article and online, but not published in the journal - waiting on formatting). So there's no changing it. But it is a blow to my academic resume/CV. I plan on either doing my Ph.D or getting a job in research once I am done with my MA. I was counting on using my co-authorship from this paper as a springboard to help land me a job/spot in a Ph.D program.
Should I confront my former mentor? Ask her why she left my name out? How would I go out about asking her without it sounding forceful/entitled? I would still like to have the option to work with her in the future. So maintaining a professional demeanor is important here.
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Asked to work on graduate thesis project in return for co-author on published paper - paper is now published, I am not a co-author
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t3_3m4tny
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tifu
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TIFU because I threw a trash can at someone.
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First of all, this happened about 6 years ago when I was in 8th grade. I was on the football team, and, like we always did, we're messing around in the locker room.
Everyone was throwing stuff around, and my friend, we'll call him John,threw a tiny plastic trash bin at me. It didn't hurt, so I just threw it away in another direction. Turns out that that direction was the wrong direction because I hit a kid in the face with it and his nose and lip started bleeding. Once the story spread around the school, I was called to the principal's office to discuss what happened. All in all, I got a 6 hour Saturday school and a 3 day suspension along with John. The kid who got hit didn't want me and John to get in trouble because he really didn't care, and everyone else, including my parents, thought that the punishment was absurd.
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If that is too long you shouldn't be on Reddit.
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t3_1hi1jb
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AskReddit
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What's the most naive thing that you believed was true, only to find out much later that it wasn't?
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My story:
While visiting my uncle when I was about 7 years old, we took a trip in his old toyota tercel. I had noticed that the needle on the speedometer was broken. I asked him if he ever knew how fast he was going, to which he replied "i just kinda go with the flow of traffic." Then i asked how it broke off in the first place. He said "well, i was going SO fast that the needle hit the stopper and just snapped off!"
i was amazed. I believed that story until i was about 12 years old and realized that no one ever goes fast in a toyota tercel.
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i thought you could break the needle in a speedometer by going too fast.
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t3_2pvy12
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relationships
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Me [24 M] with my friend [24 F], how can I explain to her why my girlfriend [24 F] doesn't want me to meet with her alone?
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So I have this friend, let's call her Alice, I met her in my final year of high school and she's an uninteresting girl who doesn't have any friends. I don't really like meeting up with her because I don't have anything in common with her so I try to meet up with her as little as I can but I always agree to meet out of pity for her because she doesn't have anyone else and she tries to text me a lot sadly. Well, my girlfriend is not comfortable with me always meeting her alone and so I told my friend Alice that I don't want to meet with her alone anymore because my girlfriend is uncomfortable and she got really angry about it saying "I thought we were friends. If 2 adults can't even meet then I will make my conclusions from it."
Now, how can I make her understand that my girlfriend's feelings are more important to me than her? Even if there is nothing to be uncomfortable about, I'm not going to make my relationship more difficult to meet with this boring friendless girl who only whines about her gradschool work to me and how she doesn't have a boyfriend.
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how to make someone understand that my girlfriend's feelings are more important to me so I'm not meeting with her anymore?
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t3_1rmg1w
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relationships
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How can I [21 M] break up with girlfriend [21 F]
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I've been in a relationship (mostly long distance for 2 years) and recently I found out my girlfriend has been lying to me for months. She has known how I was lied to in a previous relationship and yet she still did it. The lying was pretty much her making excuses of coming to see me and lying what she was up to.
She's been begging for forgiveness and promising she won't ever do it again but this all has just made me so numb to everything. Anyways I know I need to break up with her it's just I obviously still have feelings for her and everytime I tell her we need to move on and I'm breaking up with her she just begs and cries and I pussy out. So how should I go about ending this. I don't want to be with her anymore even though I still love her because I don't want to have to worry every day she will lie to me again. But I obviously still have feelings for her which I know will never completely go away.
I've tried to just end it and cut off communications but she just makes me feel so guilty doing it. Any advice is really appreciated, I just don't know how to end this without feeling guilty and feeling like its a big mistake.
Feel free to ask for any more clarification and thanks to all those who respond!
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Girlfriend lied to me, it's been hard breaking up with her after what we use to be. Don't know how to breakup with her since I can't seem to fully go through with it.
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t3_1hiyn0
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AskReddit
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Reddit, how do I properly confront a girl that just got period blood all over my bed when we had sex?
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So invited one of my friends over who is really into me and decided what the hell, I'll lay the pipe on her. We started watching a movie in bed on my laptop and at the start, things were real good. Then, she started like cringing her legs up together and wouldn't let my hand down there. I thought to myself "must want to enjoy the movie or take a break or something". I played it off cool and pretended like I didn't care. Then about 30 minutes later into the movie, things got heated again and I put my hand back down between her legs. It felt REALLY wet, I thought she just got like super excited or something so I went to town on fingering her. Then, I gave her a few pumps rawdog in missionary and decided the throw a condom on. I straight up on my knees, got the condom open, looked at my dick, and BOOM! there was blood right on my weiner. I threw the condom on and pretended like I didn't notice because I didn't want to ruin the moment or anything, and the sex wasn't half bad. After she left, I come back to the bed and a huge dried up blood spot is staring at me in the face. I look at my hands and see dried up blood marks on my hands too. To top it off, she just texted me 15 minutes after she left and said, "That was fun :)". Reddit, what the hell do I say??
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Had sex with a girl while she was on her period, not sure how to handle confronting her about it.
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t3_288yd2
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personalfinance
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Just turned 18, how should I start?
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I just turned 18 today, and this day couldn't have come any sooner. I'm excited about the financial world; I'd rather watch CNBC instead of reality TV.
The first thing I tried to do today was to get a CreditKarma report... I was denied! The CK page said I have to be 18 years and one month old to get my credit report. This brings me to my first question, why do I have to wait a full month to get my credit score, or is there a different (free) provider that I can use to get my credit score.
From my understanding, credit cards are fantastic in every way as long as you pay them off before they start charging you that ridiculous %15+ APR. I would like to be a credit card 'freeloader' for the entirety of my life. I've noticed that it's bad for your credit to be denied a credit card application, so what card might be good for a person who (probably?) has no credit history. Also, what should I look for when reading the fine print?
I'd like to have my own bank accounts, let's say I have $20k to distribute into accounts. My expenses will be general college expenses in the coming years with the tuition, room & board, and books paid for. The accounts will be purely for small things such as beers and clothing. Where should I put money so that I can have reasonable access to it, but it also can grow? I was thinking a checking/savings duo, does anybody have (if it's allowed) recommendations for banks that I should use?
The stock market. I enjoy learning about how the economy moves, and I'd imagine that stocks are a good place to invest. I'm considering putting aside some money to try and grow it. I would like to spend some time in the stock market, especially if it will ultimately create a good return. Any words of wisdom on the stock market I should know?
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I'm seeking reddit's advice because know-it-all bloggers lost my trust a long time ago.
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t3_1f4w6c
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relationships
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I [15/m] am at a loss with my [15/f] girlfriend
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I'm on my mobile so please have patience, I don't really know where else to go so I think you guys can give me some advice.
At the beginning of the school year this girl become rather close to me. We started going out, and ended up having a seven month relationship.
We flirted about having sex when texting but it was always innocent (this contributes later). We had never really seen each other outside of school, which is fine, I just thought that you know she wasn't out of that immaturity phase. Over December break our texting become much more sexual, so much to the point where we sexted many times a day. The day before we got back to school, the messages were very heated. Her parents found out and have hated me ever since. They told her not to go out with me or even talk to me, but she didn't listen to them. So from then on we haven't seen each other outside of school since. I had asked her over and over to talk to her parents, to let them know her feelings. She wouldn't and it got to the point where I was extremely depressed and caused us to break up. We got back together and everything was fine until my birthday four weeks ago when they found out we were dating.
Last week I started acting depressed again, her parents are threatening to make her take virtual school or home school her. This scares me because this means I would have no contact with her whatsoever. I eventually told her all of my concerns last Thursday, she then told me that she wants her parents respect back and can't deal with me. She broke up with me and I'm just lost. I want to help her with the problem and try to talk to her parents but now she won't even talk to me. I only have two weeks left until summer and I'm scared.
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Ex girlfriends parents hate me and don't trust her, I still love her and want to try to make things right but she's avoiding me.
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t3_fl59p
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Pets
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Does anyone know of alternatives to knee surgery for an injured dog?
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I have a 12 year old golden retriever who has a number of leg issues. She has arthritis in her hip, sciatica, and unstable knees. A couple of days ago she seemed to blow out one of her knees and was stumbling all over the place, in obvious pain.
She was taken to an emergency vet (this was on Sunday) and the vet said that although she had probably torn a ligament in the one leg, it was her other leg that seemed to be giving her more pain. The vet suggested that surgery was a possibility, but given her age and other mobility problems, it was unlikely to be a success. The emergency vet said that we should have our own vet come to the house to have a look at her, but that we should start thinking about what is best for the dog (ie. have her put down).
I live away from home (though relatively nearby), so my parents called me to tell me what had happened and so I've come to see the dog. The vet is coming tomorrow afternoon to have a look at the dog, but my parents seem to think that the best course of action may be to have her put down.
I can handle having the dog put down if that's the best thing to do, but it's hard to accept given that she seems to still be of perfectly sound mind, and in fine health other than the severely limited mobility (and sciatica, and arthritis).
So what I'm asking is, does anybody have any experience with dog knee issues? Is there anything that can be done? I've heard of dogs with "wheelchairs" before, but I don't know anything about it. I've been reading about "conservative treatment", aka mobility limitation, which seems to have some success, though often with younger dogs. Apparently, a good rehabilitation for dogs is swimming - though our pool is frozen over and will be for months to come. Do braces help?
Any information that you can give me, positive or otherwise, would be greatly appreciated.
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12 year old dog blew out her knee, vet suggestion seems to be to have her put down. I can accept this if this is best for the dog, but what other options are there?
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t3_ubal5
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AskReddit
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What's the most awkward thing that has happened to you while you were trying to do something nice for someone?
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A couple of years ago I had a roommate whose girlfriend regularly stayed over. She had a small dog that she would often bring with her. I came home from work one day and no one was home except for this dog. Having no idea how long my roommate and his girlfriend had been gone I decided to take it upon myself, being the GGG that I am, to take the dog for a walk just in case it needed to go to the bathroom. We get about half way around the block and i notice some lady standing on her porch. She says hello and we exchange formalities, lovely day, what have you... I get ready to start walking again and just as I look back to say "lets go", I noticed the dog maneuvering into the "I'm going to take a shit now" stance in the middle of the sidewalk. Before I can do anything the dog proceeds to spray diarrhea all over it. I look at the dog, and then to the sidewalk, and then to the woman. I give her a kind of half shrug thing, all the while thinking how the hell am I going to clean this up, and god damnit, this isn't even my dog. Luckily the lady starts laughing and heads for the hose. I apologized profusely and she tells me not to worry about it and comments on how red my face got. I took the dog home and never walked it again.
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Took roommate's GF's dog for a walk to be nice. Dog projecdiarrheas in the middle of the sidewalk while i'm chatting with the owner of the house it happened in front of.
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t3_26zp8k
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relationships
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Is my Ex-girl(f)riend lying to (m)e about her pregnancy?
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So we broke up a few months ago, and I got a message from her saying that she was late for her period. She has been wanting to get back together with me for a while, but just to be safe, I listened to her and believed her because better safe than sorry and I wanted to care about this situation and get it fixed asap.
Fast forward 11 enduring weeks of me trying to get her to make an appointment, and she constantly refuses saying that she made her decision. Of course, knowing her personality, she would regret it and her parents would be extremely not ok with this. But I figured it was her hormones and made her finally make an appointment on her 12th week to go to an abortion clinic. She agreed and "went" on the day (I agreed to go and insisted but she said we were broken up and that she had to go alone). Me thinking that I should do what makes her comfortable, agreed.
Now, its about 17/18 weeks, and we hadn't talked to each other in a while. Suddenly, she pops out of nowhere in summer near a college where I am working, and surprises me. I ask her why she came, and she claims its for another reason. We ensue in a small argument, and she ends up sobbing. I leave her thinking I shouldn't keep comforting her like we've been going out. Later that day, I receive a message from her saying "see you later, daddy". I go to find her and call her constantly in fear, and eventually meet with her.
That night, we talk, and I find about lies that she's been telling me. She claims that she went to go get an abortion, and that the abortion was somehow unsuccessful when she went to her pediatrician a couple weeks ago when they showed her an ultrasound (she brought a computerized copy of it which idk i should believe is true).
she claims it was because the place was a shady place but it contradicts her hormonal behaviors and physical pains the day after the abortion 5 weeks ago.
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is this a stunt by her to get back with me and get my attention? Or did she not get an abortion at all? Or was her previous abortion really just unsuccessful?
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t3_1eyd9a
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BreakUps
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Wife (26f) is about to divorce me (28m). Neither of us were great, but I've actually changed and she just won't give me another chance...
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Together 3.5 years, married 2.
We both had our issues in the relationship, but I always loved her and wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. Apparently she didn't...
My wife has drawn up divorce papers I'm supposed to sign but I still love her. I know I can't make her magically love me, but I've really worked hard these past few weeks (since we've been separated) coming to terms with all the mistakes I made and I've really changed (it was easier than I thought).
But now she won't give me another chance to prove it's a lasting change...
This whole thing sucks because we were really happy at the beginning and could be really happy again, but she's convinced she can never be happy with me and told me that even if I really had changed and I was the perfect guy forever, she couldn't love me again - "there's just too much bad history".
What can I do? Do I sign the divorce papers? Do I fight her on it and hope she gives me one last chance to prove myself to her? Do you guys even believe people can change? I do...
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I still love my wife. She doesn't love me anymore. I've changed to turn into the person she wanted me to be, but now she won't give me a chance to prove that to her. I like this new person I am, so I'm going to follow through with it, but it would be great if she gave me another chance and we could live happily ever after... I'm worried she won't... :(
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t3_1cmshc
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relationships
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Girlfriend (18F) is craving for attention, I (19M) don't know what to do
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Hi /r/relationships,
As of the last few weeks my LDR SO (3,5 years, and she lives 5 hours away) and I have been having trouble with attention. It seems that she needs a lot more attention than I do, and this causes some imbalance. When she needs attention, I can't always give it to her because I need "time of my own", or I just forget to. It's not because I don't love her or because she's annoying or something, because I do love her and I don't think she is annoying. The point is, I *want* to give her the attention she needs, I just don't know how. There isn't a warning light that goes on whenever she needs attention. This happens both in real life and online.
We have talked about this in the past, and came to the conclusion that I just needed to have a reminder or something to remind me to say something nice to her. I thought that it was a good idea as long as she knew I actually meant what I was saying, even when it was on a schedule. Unfortunately, this didn't really work for me. I felt that the compliments I was giving on this schedule were lacking, and it just didn't feel right for me. So I stopped using it, thinking it might go better now, since I had said something on schedule a couple times now, it might go on its own by now.
This lasted until she told me she had trouble with the amount of attention I was giving her again. And now I must reach out to you, reddit, because we're pretty much out of ideas. I am a computer science student who develops websites and apps at home, so I'm pretty much always busy with *something*, while she can't go to school because of her depression. I love her to bits and I want to make this happen and I know there's no magical silver bullet but I'm asking you for help. Do you have any tips that might help me give her more attention?
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Girlfriend is lacking my attention, have tried scheduling giving attention, didn't work. what now?
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t3_42qa76
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Advice
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Thought a girl liked me, turns out she didn't, now she won't talk to me. Any advice?
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So basically I met this chick during work and she started acting like she liked me. She'd always glance at me and smile when we saw each other, she'd come visit during work, text me until 2am, and call me "sexy", "beautiful", and she'd call me her boyfriend. She was the one that wanted to give me her number, and the first text she sent me was "Hello sexy."
Alright. So I started talking to her, and she said she just liked me as a 'bestie', and she's been talking to another dude for like 8 months. Now she pretty much avoids me and doesn't even text me back, saying her phone is 'broken'. I was thinking of asking her if we're cool, or would that be a bad idea?
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I liked a girl, she acted like she liked me back, now she doesn't talk to me after I asked her out. Whut do?
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t3_3kwwou
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relationships
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My wife [33/F] had an abortion before she and I [30/M] met and just told me now after going through a miscarriage.
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Me [30/m] and my wife [33/F] have been together for over 4 years now and married for a little over 1. We recently started trying for a family, but suffered through a miscarriage. During the grieving process, my wife confessed to me that she had an abortion a long time ago when she was 23 and has never told another soul. I know that I shouldn't judge her based on her past before I was even in the picture, but I'm having a hard time processing this information. I've always been a Liberal person, so this isn't a religious issue for me, but I just can't stop thinking about it. Please help me get over this reddit.
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Wife had an abortion long before we event met. Just told me now after she had a miscarriage.
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t3_2h8bo0
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jobs
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Creative type. Two advanced degrees. Need a new job.
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First, I am working. I'm teaching English to (mostly) wealthy students from other countries who've come to the U.S. to go to the nearby university.
But, I hate it.
Well, I don't hate it. I love my students and my coworkers, but each day, I wake up and wish I could just stay in bed.
I know it sounds like I'm lazy, I know, I do, but I'm not. I'm actually very hardworking (I have two advanced degrees). I think I'm tired of teaching (which I've been doing for almost four years). I give a lot to my students and it wipes me out. I am mentally exhausted by the end of the day. No time left for my own creative endeavors.
Also, I like to produce. I like to make things. I'm not especially gifted at working with my hands (as evidence, see anything I've ever tried to build), but I do enjoy working on projects, especially with teams. I like to put my all into a project, but with teaching there's almost no production, beyond quizzes. I want to make things, like I said.
My question: Are there any careers out there, for an advanced English scholar? Or do I have to create my own? I've scoured the internet (job sites, journalismjobs, higheredjobs, etc) looking for new careers, but I'm just coming up empty.
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Creative type. Two advanced degrees. Need a new job. Are there any creative, teamwork-centered work environments that I'm just missing out on? Am I searching wrong?
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t3_4b6m8h
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relationships
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I (28M) am driving my wife away from me, because of my inability to be romantic. Please help me.
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My wife (26) and I (28) have been together for 5 years, and been married since July, I am her son's main father figure, and we also have a daughter together. We got into a flash argument today, in which she told me that she is unhappy with me, because I don't show any amount of romance toward her. And don't show her that I appreciate her. And she is not wrong. Neither of which has ever been apart of who I am. The only relationships I was ever exposed to growing up were cold and volatile. Short of what is shown in the movies I have no clue on how to be the romantic husband. And I am scared to death that I am going to lose her...Please Reddit...what can I do to show my wife that I love her.
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I don't know how to be romantic and it is killing my marriage. Please help me
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t3_1aebvn
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relationships
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I[f20] don't know how to get my boyfriend [m20] to talk to me?
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We have been dating for almost a year and currently live together in a shared house. Except when hes drunk he never wants to have conversations and they seem almost forced if we are alone (in a group is great). I feel like i'm nagging as I ask him about his day/ job whatever and he gives me short answers and I usually am the one to initiate conversations. Today he took me out to dinner and there was a bit of awkward silences.
Also he doesn't tell me things about his job, hes in the army and doesn't mention when he leaving for training et cetera until it casually slips into conversation mostly with other people) and I don't know how to ask without looking like im nagging and im afraid of scaring him away .
Also our sex life has taken a dive. The sex is amazing and I feel like I have a way higher sex drive than him and i feel like a horndog all the time. He usually games very late and I work at 6 in the morning so by the time he goes to bed I am fast asleep. He told me when he was shitfaced that he wants to be 'dominated' and every time I try and initiate it he usually brushes me off and this makes me feel insecure about myself. I don't know whats going on in his head and it's messing with mine
I plan on talking to him tomorrow evening and want to make sure we are on the same page, how do I go about this?
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how do I fix communication without scaring him off
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t3_2xmb2d
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Parenting
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Should I be worried about my 3 years old niece behaviours?
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I live with my sister and my 3 1/2 years old niece in my parents' house. My niece is a sweet kid. She is smart and social, and very stubborn. Sometimes I worry that she seems to be too sensitive. She has some behaviours that I'm not sure if they are normal for her age or if are signs of something going on.
1) She has been going to kinder garden for the past two years and despite some bites from other kids, she has never had problems. Up until last year she would refer to the other kids as friends, and would come home telling how she spent the day playing with them. For the past months, though, she tells she's been playing by herself. The other day they had an activity that involved clowns and she when I asked why she played by herself she said it was because she doesn't like clowns. The next day, though, she just preferred to play alone, for no good reason.
At home, however, she makes everyone to play with her because she doesn't like to play alone.
I already asked her if her friends are being mean to her and she said no.
2) She pisses and poops on the floor for no good reason. She is potty trained, but every other day she does her business on the floor and blames her toys or says she did it because she is the dog.
Today my sister asked her why she pooped on the floor and she said she didn't know.
When she pees in her pants she says she couldn't hold it, but when she does it on the floor or carpet (and once on my bed) she knows it's wrong and does it anyway.
Should I be concerned that there is something going on with her or is this normal behaviour at her age?
(also sorry for grammar mistakes, English is not my first language)
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Niece plays by herself at kinder garden and poops on the floor. She doesn't know how to explain her reasons. Should I worry or is this normal?
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t3_1cl94c
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tifu
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TIFU by changing my oil for the first time.
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So I wanted to learn how to change my oil for multiple reasons:
1. Learning more about my car and maintaining it.
2. Not having to rely on mechanics/ assuring the job was done correctly.
3. Acquiring more "manly life knowledge"
I read my owner's manual, spend hours reading Google/forum posts about my car and buy the appropriate equipment from my local Autozone. Rhino ramps, wheel chocks, oil drain pan, 5W-30 and a filter. I'm all set!
So I get home, raise my Taurus and get to work. With the help of carcarekiosk.com, I know exactly what to look for when I get underneath my vehicle. As I remove the drain plug, a flood of dirty old oil pours out. Success! I quickly place the drain pan underneath to catch it and go back inside the house. After about 10 minutes or so, I go back to my garage... and immediately a look of horror forms on my face.
I didn't anticipate how much oil was inside my motor. The drain pan was filled and overflowing, leaving half of my garage completely covered in motor oil.
Various obscenities were shouted and several bags of kitty litter were purchased at my local convenience store. I encircle the spill with litter to prevent it from spreading, finish my oil change and move the car.
Several hours later, I manage to soak up all the oil and sweep the litter. However, a huge, dark stain in my garage floor remains as a reminder. I'll be spending the next few days trying to figure out how to remove this stain. Oops!
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changed my oil for the first time. drain pan overflows and covers half my garage floor with motor oil.
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t3_4psub7
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tifu
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TIFU by gardening
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This happened probably about half an hour ago now, my ass is yet to unpucker.
So today I decided I'd finally get round to do the weeding, since it is a nice day and all.
However not contented by the fact it's forcing me to do my least favourite chore, the universe has decided to make me ruin my best underpants as well.
Cutting to the chase, I just went to pick up my gardening gloves from the side in the shed (they've been there a while, like I said, hate gardening) and as I slipped my hand in, I noticed that it was caked in thick web, which proceeded to explode... Into a million tiny spiders.
So yeah, after throwing the glove down (which hit my poor dog smack in the chops) I proceeded to bolt back to the house while flailing around trying to get the little bastards off me, also managing to bruise myself by punching the huge angry momma spider off my arm.
I'm now sat with a beer and a bruised arm feeding my dog cheese to try and say sorry for coating him in spiderlings.
I think I'll leave the gardening til' another day.
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Fisted a spider nest, challenged my dog to a duel. Just wanted to do the gardening.
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t3_3fd5ui
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relationships
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[24M] Planned a trip with my girlfriend [22F]. She asked to bring along her male friend.
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We've been together for 8 months.
Some context: We planned this trip two months ago. We wanted to drive out to Chicago for a week, just the two of us, before the summer ended.
A week ago, she told me her friend wanted to come along for the trip as he had family in Chicago. He would accompany us for the ride and we'd drop him off at his family before we enjoyed our vacation just the two of us. She wanted to make sure I was absolutely okay with him coming along.
I was initially hesitant. I had suspicions between her and him before, as they were really close. But I still wasn't all that close with her circle of friends, while she's fine among mine. I didn't want to turn him down and worsen their opinion of me. After all, it's just for the ride.
So I agreed to have him tag along.
He offered for us to stay with his family instead of paying for a hotel while we were there. I declined his offer, but we agreed to take him up on it if we missed our check-in time on arrival.
He also said that, if we wanted, he and his sisters could accompany us for a few activities. My girlfriend agreed to doing some things together, as it would be cold to ignore him the whole time.
Now this whole trip has turned from being just between me and my girlfriend to a group thing.
I'm kinda bitter about it now. I wish she never put me on the spot in the first place. I'm afraid that this trip won't be something I can share with just my girlfriend now that this dude is tagging along.
I realize I'm being unfair, as I agreed to it in the first place, and my girlfriend did give me an out.
Any advice?
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Girlfriend is bringing her male friend on a trip that was planned for just me and her. We were initially going to drop him off at his family, but now it's turning into a group thing between the three of us. Feeling regret.
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t3_fmuat
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AskReddit
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Woodforest, where I bank, gave me the information to someone else's account when I called Customer Support.
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After trying to log in to online banking several times over the course of about a week and continually getting the message "Your account has been disabled" I decided to call customer service and see what I could do.
After giving the agent my SSN and account number, he asked for the username I normally use to log in. I gave him the username I have been using for more than six months to successfully log on, which is a combination of my first and last name. He says that there is no registered account with that username, and instead says that I am registered under a username that was a combination of my first name and a series of numbers. I thought this was very odd, but didn't think that I could be getting the wrong information (my name is uncommon) and figured instead that there was a messed up file or something over there.
He proceeds to email me a temporary password after additional verification, and after changing the password as required I noticed that I was logged in under someone else's account, and had full access to the funds therein.
I mean, I could transfer or deposit money if I was dishonest. I could have taken every penny of that guy's money. I would think that would be a pretty serious security infraction by a national bank.
Anyways, reddit, what should I do? I haven't made any calls here and am sitting at a loss. Obviously I won't take any money (duh) but between calling Woodforest again, calling a lawyer, etc. I have a lot of options available.
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Woodforest gave me some other dudes info and I have full access to his funds. Want to find out how to best press charges / dissolve the situation.
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t3_2b6zi7
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tifu
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TIFU by accidentally flipping a paraplegic almost out of his wheelchair.
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Me and a buddy (said paraplegic) constantly give each other a hard time, He tells fat jokes, I tell wheelchair jokes and so on so forth. It's all in good fun. Every once in a while we'll jokingly punch each other. Well today I accidentally went a bit too far.
On our way out of the building I saw him waiting for the elevator, being the sneaky asshole I am I decide to sneaky up behind him and push him forward a bit with my foot (For clarification this was not a "sparta" kick, it really was a gentle nudge) Unbeknownst to me he has a very back heavy chair with almost no front balance. When I pushed up it sent the front of the chair up, and him down. I don't think I've ever laughed so hard in my life, and at the same time felt like I was going to go to the deepest level of hell like Pineapple-Hitler hell. Luckily he has a good sense of humor, and I made up for it with a dozen of krispy kremes finest.
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Pushed a guy in a wheelchair causing him to tumble backwards, felt like shit.
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t3_26or38
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Pets
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Adopted by neighborhood cat, what do?
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So one of my neighbors has a thing for rescuing cats, last count put the number of cats at about 7 but one of the cats has "left" home a number of months ago and according to the cat lady, it no longer goes to her house to eat because of all the other cats she has.
Over the past few months its been seen fairly regularly in our front yard(rocks with a lot of bushes and shrubs) but as of about the last week or so, it has been hanging out here far more consistently and it meows incessantly at me and family members whenever we step out front.
Behaviorally, it's just like any other outdoor cat except that it'll now routinely let us pet it until its been fed. Like he'll walk up to us if we sit down on our walkway and start rubbing its sides against our legs and headbutting our hands so we'll pet it, purring occasionally. This usually carries on until we offer it food(chicken and/or tuna mostly) and once it eats, it'll run off for a better part of the day and come back in the evening. Also, it hasn't really tried following us inside or anything. If we do get up and walk away, it'll just sit there until we go inside/leave or sit back down and call to it.
I'm just looking for tips and some advice on what to do with the cat because its clear its not getting its needs met by its owner but I'm still a little apprehensive about feeding it because the cat technically doesn't belong to me and there's the matter of ownership and all the legal issues that might arise.
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Someone else's rescue cat isn't getting it's needs met and has been looking to me to feed it and give it attention.
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t3_133kkp
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relationship_advice
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My sister (21/f) converted for her boyfriend and now they are engaged.
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My sister got engaged a few days ago and I am not happy for her at all. Her fiance is Baptist and my sister decided to "convert" for him a while back in their relationship. I say "convert" because I don't think she is officially apart of their church.
The thing is, my sister was a proclaimed atheist before they got very serious.When I asked her why she was switching over to Christianity, she just said that she was lost and it helped her somehow. I said why not another religion and she told me that she looked into them but Christianity was the best for her. She couldn't tell me why though. I am all for spiritual guidance, but it was obvious that her boyfriend had something to do with it. I decided to have a conversation with this guy.
Some of the things he said:
"I could not marry your sister if she was not Christian"
"You're family is messed up because you don't have God in your home"
These are some of the gems that stuck out to me and I can't get them out of my head. My sister wants to marry this guy! No one on my side of the family approves, he is not even allowed inside our house. They are also moving in together and when I asked her how she was going to pay rent she said that she was "going to work at a bar or something". She does plan on graduating sometime in the future.
I am so worried for my older sister. I don't want to lose her, but at the same time I already feel like she is such a completely different person. What should I do/not do?
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older sister converted to be with her now fiance and no one in my family approves and/or is happy for her or likes the fiance.
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t3_18aiy9
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relationship_advice
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I (21/m) don't know if I should continue trying with (21/f)
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So, I met this girl through friends a couple weeks ago. We went for dinner once and I paid then we went back to her place and watched a movie with her room mates afterwards. At the end I asked her out to a concert and she said yes. The day of the concert she tells me that her room mate and a guy friend would also like to go and asked if I minded. I said sure, not wanting to look like an asshole. Then I go to pick them up and it ends up that the guy bailed. The night ended up being a total bust and there was absolutely no flirting between us. Now I asked her to go out and she says it will have to wait a couple of weeks for valid excuses which is fine because I will also be fairly busy for a couple weeks too. Also it should be noted that we live in different cities about 30 minutes apart but I have a car I don't mind the drive. I am quite taken with her and would like something more to come of it, but I'm concerned that we never spend that much time alone together. Should I continue to pursue her?
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Met a girl, been on a few dates don't seem to get much time away from her friends. Won't be able to see her again for a couple weeks.
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t3_3558r0
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relationships
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Male [23] with girlfriend [20] together for 1 year, with 6 month break but are back again for 5 months. Found out she has been messaging other guys sexual things. Need advice.
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Basically, the other night when she was showing me something on her Twitter she accidentally went to her messages, me being a guy noticed someone messaged her something about boobs and instantly went to "wtf is. That mode" she then hid her phone until I convinced her that I needed to see what these guys were saying. Well come to find out there was 2 guys both asking for nudes and stuff, she didn't send them any to my knowledge but did give her number so I'm not to sure what they talked about from text. One guy however that she was talking to said that he wanted to do it, but was states away and she said come here, and I like it rough, and even flirted about marriage and having his kids. This right here is what devastated me, ( side note these were sent 2 months ago) we have been looking for a house together and also both have said that we want to spend the rest of our lives together, I have always trusted her, but she on the other hand is really controlling and always thinking that I am going to cheat on her, when I don't even text or talk to other girls. So when I found out she is doing the exact thing she thinks I'm doing I am just confused furthermore I am having trouble letting go of this issue and really finding it hard for me to give my trust to her again.
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found out my girlfriend has been messaging guys on Twitter about having sex, but they are from different states. I am having a hard time letting go and just confused as to why she would do that.
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t3_11f3cd
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AskReddit
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So, I caught my dad watching porn after my mom went to bed, but he doesn't know. What do I do reddit?
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For some backstory, our family is a fairly religious (I know how reddit feels about that, but not the point) Christian bunch, so porn has always been abig no-no. As with any teen, I got busted, apologized, and swore it would never happen again. The thing that bothers me the most is how my dad gave me this big long lecture about how porn is bad and can ruin a relationship. Then, a few years later, I catch him doing the very thing he told me not to do. I know most of you probably watch porn every day, but for me the situation is a bit different.
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I caught my "religious" dad asleep with porn on.
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t3_1iuyxs
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relationships
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Is it weird for me [20M] to do cutesy romantic shit with a fuckbuddy [19F]?
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Shouldn't need too much explanation, really. I'm a fuckbuddy with this girl because I don't desire the responsibility of a bf/gf relationship and can't see myself committing myself to one girl.
But, aside from the fucking, I like to do a bunch of cutesy shit too with her. I like to cuddle, and play with her hair, and hold hands when we walk together. I usually kiss her goodnight on the lips gently when saying goodbye. etc. All that cute stuff you see couples do.
I don't want to see this relationship go ANY further than this. Is it weird or creepy to do stuff like this? She hasn't raised any complaints to it, so I don't think she minds.
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Is it weird or creepy to do cute stuff with someone you have no desire of having a real, formal relationship with?
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t3_34rjyg
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tifu
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TIFU By Telling An Annoying Person who my friend likes
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So I have this friend who is going out with a girl. Lets name them F for friend, G for girl and L for loser. Now, I told L who my friend likes because an Xbox live party was glitching and I didn't see him in it. I then expanded the details like a complete idiot. L wanted to know if G was hot or not so I sent him a pic off of fb. He then proceeds to share this with the whole party. Now F is tweeting a girl I like who has a bf at the moment that I love her
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I told a loser who my friend liked and my crush will know I love her soon. I await to have my butt kicked by her bf.
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t3_3bgelf
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relationships
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[20F] long distance with my [21M] boyfriend. Close to breaking up but staying together for now, question about how often we Skype?
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We've been together for just over 9 months now, and 6 of those months have been long distance. We'll be permanently in the same town starting in August. We almost broke up a week and a half ago because he felt I was being too clingy (which I totally was), because I texted him basically all day and we Skyped for 3+ hours a night.
We decided to stay together, but with the mutual understanding that we don't need to devote 100% of our time to each other. From my end, this means I've stopped texting him constantly and only expect to Skype 3 or 4 times a week instead of every night.
However, he has asked me to Skype every night for the past 8 days (since we had the convo). I haven't brought it up or asked him to Skype at all, but I always say yes if he asks me. I guess I'm just confused that he said he wanted more time to himself and that the amount we talked was exhausting, yet he is the one asking to Skype all the time? Should I bring it up to him, or should I just go along with it since he seems to want to talk a lot?
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Boyfriend says we spend too much time talking, yet he is the one always asking me to get on Skype for hours every night.
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t3_1n88sj
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self
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I just want one thing.
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What i really want is one thing. nothing to much, its really not that hard, yet it pains me everytime i think of it. I want a true friend. I have only had one true friend, someone who i could always trust, and we were so close, i knew him for less than a year, and we were better friends than my friends i was with for 10. He was nice, awesome, funny, trustworthy. But that's not the important part. THe one thing that made him my true friend, my best friend, I could be myself with him. I cant be myself with my family, my church, my classmates, no one. Him and God, they are all i got. Of course by teh time i realized how good a friend i had, he went to college. Now i never see him, and im alone again. Im so sad, i try to be happy and positive, i even try to hypnotize myself just to forget about everything else, my school, how i struggle to get good grades, my family, my angry dad that treats me like a child, my mom and sister who wont do anything about it, and all of them as a whole dont understand me, my friends, who disappoint me and let me down, who hurt my feelings secretly, my self, my own mind is full of self-hate, and i dont know what to do about it. I want someone to talk about it, I know i should just be happy, thats what i know from God, but i still suffer from this problem. All i want is some peace, love, happiness. In the end, I want my friend back.
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Had a true friend, realized it too late and now pay the consequences.
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t3_2vi46l
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tifu
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TIFU by sniffing my girlfriend's panties
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This story takes place about 2 years ago whilst my girlfriend and I are hiking the Appalachian trail. We have been hiking for about a month and are somewhere in North Carolina. After a long 5 day trek through the woods without any signs of civilization we decide to stop at a backpackers hostel for a much needed shower and some good food we didn't have to carry ourselves.
After booking a bunk bed my girlfriend immediately goes to take a shower, and I volunteer to do our laundry. Both of our entire wardrobes can easily be done in a single load so I gather up our clothes, disrobe down to a dirty bathing suit and headed to the laundry room with a bundle of VERY smelly clothes.
It is at this point that I should let you know that I have a weird 'habit' of smelling each piece of laundry, individually, before chucking it into the washer. I have always done this, and for whatever reason I enjoy putting myself through the fun of having to whiff all the terrible smells I have cooked up over the previous week. I know its fucking odd, but ya that's what I do. So I start tossing our laundry in piece by piece, sniffing it piece by piece and finally I get to her... lets call them hiking underpants for women. Holding them at arms length I can already detect a special scent wafting off of them. I know I shouldn't, but I say to myself 'this is love' and inhale deeply. OH GOD the smell. I'll never forget. It was like someone took some road kill, squeezed the juice out of it into a cup, squirted some lemon on it, and then threw it in your face and some of it got in your mouth. I truly wish I had never done that.
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I sniffed my girlfriend's underwear after she had spent 5 days backing in them.
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t3_3ae9ke
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relationships
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"Friend" (24m) owes me (18f) $200 and has for six months. How do I tell him I need him to pay it?
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I've known this guy, S, since June last year when I moved to this town. He's genuinely a nice guy and one of my partners best friends.
So when I had some money to myself I decided to buy a video game because, hey, I like to game. S was with my partner and I and we were browsing a game/music/movie store and S had a PlayStation 4 on lay-by. He asked me to pay the rest of it off for him (around $450-500) because he wouldn't have been able to before the time period to came to an end.
I decided that since it was close to his birthday I'd forgive half of what I paid for it and told him to consider the half of it a birthday gift.
Now it's been over six months and the only payment he has made for it was $50 about three or so months ago. I'm getting really fed up.
The thing is he's always talking about how he's broke. Bills and such, yadda yadda. A week ago he told me he would have $20 for me this week. Guess who doesn't have that anymore?
He's "broke" yet he can afford to go to a LAN party (play video games all night) which has a $20 entry fee almost every week.
Reddit, how can I tell him he needs to start paying me back? Its been half a year, possibly longer, and I'm losing my patience.
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friend" owes me $200 and has for 6+ months. Getting fed up.
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