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t3_ghyr8
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AskReddit
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Why all the hate for U.S. soldiers?
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So, every time I see a post that has a tiny bit to do with U.S. soldiers, it is dominated by people who seemingly hate soldiers. Most of the posts revolve around reasoning such as: these people are stupid, bloodthirsty, rapists, they do not fight for freedom and whatnot. It normally revolves around actions of a select few in Iraq or Afghanistan, yet they make generalizations about the entire United States military. If, God forbid, a third World War were to break out in the next year, consisting of basically the same people in the armed forcces, would you keep your same opinions? Should we even fight for your freedoms when all we hear from you is accusations and hate when you couldn't put up with half the things we go through in a single day? Bring the downvotes in, but I had to get that off my chest after seeing this happen so much recently.
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Think about things before you open your mouth.
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t3_mfqcc
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AskReddit
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How do I go about flirting with this girl who works at a busy Dunkin Donuts?
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Every morning I get an iced coffee at the Dunkin Donuts near my job. This one girl that works there has always caught my eye, but the past few days she has been taking notice to me, I think. She has been having the coffee prepared before I even ask. I'm pretty sure she gave me "the look" a couple of days ago. There's a couple of roadblocks that make flirting with her difficult.
First of all, it's a very busy location in downtown Chicago. Definitely too busy to try to strike up a conversation, even a brief one.
Second, since it's so busy there are lots of employees there *and* 90% of them are females, which I think makes the situation more sticky. Some are pretty too, but this girl is clearly the hottest. She wears these jeans that accentuate her incredible ass. She's got these perfect lips and great hair. Oh god...
Anyway, how do I go about flirting with her? Do I slip her a note and simply say "read this when you have a chance"? That's literally the only thing I've come up with but it seems a little too passive and not attractive.
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How do I flirt with a girl who works at a very busy Dunkin Donuts with lots of other female employees?
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t3_g3w5d
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AskReddit
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My academy is the first of its kind in the world, but has little attention. Ideas for a commercial / advertising?
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Ok, I know this is way out of the ballpark, probably even for Reddit, but I've gotta let you all in on my story.
**<BACKSTORY>**
I attend [The Academy of Fire Sprinkler Technology] in Champaign, IL. It's the first academy of it's kind, teaching design for fire suppression systems, usually in the past this was something you worked physical first (hanging pipe, etc) and learned to design, but my professor opened this academy with the last of his funds.
I was one of 5 students in the first year of classes in this 2-year brand-new degree program. He was a bit disheartened by the turn-out, but it was to be expected in the first year with little in the way of advertising. The first year went by, however, and now in the 2nd year of classes, there are still only a small group of new students.
My professor is a nice guy. He's been through a lot of hard times and he's working a lot of overtime and dealing with stress with the effort he's put into this school. Going to college here has been great, I've learned a lot, and a lot of the industry knows my professor and we're always getting emails asking about people wanting to hire us when we graduate in May.
**</BACKSTORY>**
That said and done, I really think he would get a lot more interest if his program was a bit more well known. I'm from New York, and I just barely found out about this program before I came out here for it 2 years ago.
He's looking into doing a commercial spot locally I think, but the thing he wanted to run... Well, not the best commercial. (It's up on his Youtube page, through the link above). I don't expect Hollywood production values, but photos of us students from last year is a bit... bland.
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I don't know, either through will of fixing up a better commercial, ideas on how, ideas on how to better advertise this program, I'm just hoping through a miracle that someone on Reddit will be able to help my professor out.
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t3_1q1oa2
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relationships
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I've fallen out of love, but can't leave.
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I'm 21F, he's 24M, we've been together for a little over 2 years.
This guy is my best friend. I love him dearly. We spend all of our spare time together. I can't imagine being without him. He knows all of me and accepts me for who I am. He knows my secrets, all of them, and is okay with them.
But lately, I've become less and less romantically interested in him. As in, I'm seeing us more as just really close friends instead of lovers.
We don't live together, don't share finances and there are no kids involved, so I feel like he will completely shut me out if we break up. This guy is literally my only friend. Without him, I'll be so so so alone. I'll lose my best and only friend. I'm stuck. He's so in love with me, but I know I'm no longer in love with him.
What should I do? Should I stay, have this support system but feel terrible about it or should I leave and be totally isolated and still feel awful?
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I'm not in love anymore, but without him I'm alone. Should I go?
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t3_2vqw1j
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relationships
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My (21 M) gf (23 F) does not make an effort whatsoever to spend time together
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So my gf and I have been together for about a year now. We both go to school and both work, me as an after school teacher and her as an LVN, so we're both fairly busy.
She is working on becoming a RN though and is currently a LVN, so she works crazy ass hours when she's not at school.
Now, I understand that she is fairly more occupied with work and school than I am. However, whenever we are both free she always seems to have something else to do or someone else to spend time with. And it always seems that I am the one who has to initiate for us to spend time by surprising her at home or telling her I have tickets to something the day of.
It was an issue I have had with her before and brought it up to her saying that I don't feel an effort coming from her side. She said she felt terrible and knew she wasn't putting in an effort but that she really cared for me and actually is in love with me.
At that point, it kind of caught me by surprise because I actually cared a lot for her too and yes, love her too. So I guess I just forgave her for not showing effort and things were good for a while, we went out more, things were good.
But now it's going back to how it was. There's days where we don't talk at all and I have to find out about her day through social media.
Do I try to work it out with her still or is it time to move on?
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girlfriend doesn't put an effort in the relationship
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t3_smgkv
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relationships
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Thinking i should leave
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I am a 20 year old male and she is a 24 year old female. This is my first relationship and i think i should end it with this girl but really i am really conflicted. We have been going out for 4 months now and have had very few issues and everything was going fine. That is if you do not count the sexual part of the relationship.
Around the first month i tried to initiate sex and she said that we should wait. I waited two months and brought it up in a conversation that was again ended in "i do want to do that with you but...". She basically said that she wants to have sex but we will need to go away. She lives with her friend and her friends husband and I live alone. So i think she is just making me wait for some reason that she will not state.
I guess my biggest mistake was saying yes to being exclusive before we even had sex. At least from what I am reading it was a dumb idea.
Now we are another month into the relationship with no more talks about going away or anything. I doubt bringing it up again will change anything and i feel like this relationship is not going to work out. She just does not see sex as a priority or is using me or something is up that she just refuses to talk about. After three conversations of why is this not happening you would think she would have explained something.
We go dutch on all our dates so I doubt I'm actually being used. Anyway should i talk to her about it again for a third time or just give up? I really do enjoy my time with this women but, it seems stupid to be in a relationship without sex after four months.
I know that i have had zero previous relationships and am still a virgin but am i being ridiculous by expecting to have had sex by now? whenever i think about leaving I just wonder if i' the one being ridiculous here. Are my expectations too high or are we just not
compatible?
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We have yet to have sex and she always has some crazy excuse why we should wait or why we cannot. I have tried being reasonable and talking about it and she just makes excuses. Am i being unreasonable to expect sex sometime before four months in? I have zero relationship or sexual experience and I'm just not sure if this is the kind of thing to end a relationship over.
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t3_32c7ic
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travel
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Need advice for a trip to France. Few questions
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Hello, my family and I are planning a trip to France.
We'll spend 4 days at Paris and 2 days at Nice and we plan to drive from Nice to Paris on the last two days.
What route do you suggest (most scenic) and how long does this scenic route take (from Nice to Paris).
We have to buy a 'Paris Museum Pass'; Do you think it's worth it, since museums are generally the most populated places in Paris (I think, correct me if I'm wrong) We've read user reviews but I thought I could receive a first hand review from a hopefully unbiased individual
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Wanted to know the most scenic route from Nice to Paris and how long it takes to drive; And is the museum pass worth it.
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t3_2rli8n
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relationship_advice
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(M21) Just had my gf of two year (F21) dump me over the phone.
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I don't know if this is the right place to got but I'm broken and need help. So I had been feeling for a while that our relationship was going down hill but I didn't expect this. At this point I think it's important to note that we have been in a long distance relationship for about a year of this relationship. I have been asking her for I'd say maybe 4 months to talk to me more about what's going on in her life. We both go to different schools and are 5 hours apart so it's mostly texting and phone calls, rarely skype. (shitty internet on her end) While we argued and cried about this break up she said we can still be friends and once she figures out who she is, then maybe we can think about getting back together. Around Halloween 2014 I had pretty much the same conversation with her for the same reasons, but she talked me down and after a day I realized I was making a huge mistake and quickly fixed things and we seemed okay. I still love her, I am broken by this and I don't know what to do, I know she needs time and space and all I want is for her to be happy, but I just don't like sitting and doing nothing. Sorry for all the text I just need some help
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GF just dumped me wants to be friends I still love her what do?
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t3_1e5txd
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relationships
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Am I(19F) right for asking that my boyfriend (20M) be more romantic?
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So my boyfriend(20M) and I(19F) have been together roughly a year and on a compatibility level things are great. We don't argue unless it's important, we understand the other's priorities etc etc
The thing is, I like romance. I'm a cheeseball. He isn't, but I get it. I don't expect him to be something out of a movie. I guess I just expect better.
Here's the scenario. Basically right now I get pecks. If i want a longer kiss I have to ask. Fine whatever. When we have sex, it's like he just pounds into me. He doesnt touch me or kiss me or anything else. Just pumps away. When we do have an argument, even if he is wrong, it gets solved with "okay yeah i cant make it better, so let's get over it" but he never TRIES to do anything to make things better. When I fuck up I try to hold him and let him know I understand what I did. I make him feel appreciated cause I tell him. I am expected to do stuff cause I always have (drive him around, stock his fridge, make his fuckign appointments) but get no appreciation. If i asked him for a similar favour I get snappy responses about him being busy (which he is).
Also, whenever we go out, hes gross. He farts and burps and does all taht fun stuff cause it annoys me and he thinks its cute. He also says he does it cause he's comfy around me.. i like that but is it wrong for em to wish that he cared somewhat about what I thought?
I have talked to him about this but it never seems to get better.
Am I being unreasonable? If not, what do I do to fix this?
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My boyfriend is not romantic enough, am I right or unreasonable?
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t3_4a78u7
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relationships
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My [25F] fiancé [30M], will be meeting for the first time after a 6 month LDR, said I could have sex with anyone before we get married.
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Which is a good thing, right? Somehow it felt degrading for me.
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Fiancé loves me but wants me to explore my sexuality before we settle down while he stays faithful, I feel degraded and confused.
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t3_4cnufj
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relationships
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Me [22 M] with my now ex gf [18 F] broke up three weeks ago. Who I still sense she still has feelings for me.
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So i've been dating this girl for about 3 to 4 months but she broke up with me because I didnt really give her much attention at the beginning. But that was just one of the hints she gave among other ambiguous hints. She didnt give me an exact reason why she didnt want to continue the relationship. I realized pretty late that she wanted to get serious and she was attractive enough for me to keep so I started to become more attracted to her. One of the huge positives about her was that she doesnt smoke. Then comes the surprise break up. Figured I didnt want to waste any more of my efforts so I tried to get her back. Waited per week to talk to her but she never gave me an exact answer to why she made the decision. She would always ignore my questions, pressuring her to give me a damn good reason for me to give up on her. Already three weeks and ive had a friend call her once and tell her i still have feelings for her. Friend said she became emotional a little bit, sounded like she was crying a little. So thats when I realized she still misses me. So Im still adamant but Im wondering if you guys think i should leave her? She might have small trust issues concerning that her dad divorced her mom few years back. But she seems pretty sensitive whenever i ask her real reason to the break up. If you think its okay to proceed winning her back, considering her sensitive and emotional personality, how should i go about this? Mind you, we were doing great like a normal couple at first but she never told me what it was that was on her mind.
Appreciate your two cents
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Really mandatory? So she broke up with me but she still thinks of me. But also still doesnt want to continue the relationship.
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t3_3do4ku
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relationships
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Me [19M] with my GF [19F] she only loves me after she dumps me.
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We are both 19, in a long distance relationship.
Repost from: /r/Dating_Advice
I've been dating her for about a year now, she still remains the love of my life after all shes told me about a problem she has been facing, that I have been kind of having to deal with. When she starts to date someone, she loses interest and love until the relationship is terminated. She has dumped me roughly 3 times and every time she has come back to me crying for forgiveness, which I was always giving. We always ended up back together. I would always wait. Normally she would just wait until the dude wouldn't accept her back. But I haven't been like that so she started to openly talk about this. I honestly have no idea what to do. She openly admits that while she is with me, her feelings are meh. But as soon as she dumps me, she loves, she panics, she wants me back. I'm not too sure if the talk we just had even means I am dumped. I do not wish to lose someone so close with out even trying to do something about it.
What do the people of Reddit think?
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GF only loves me after she dumps me.
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t3_3e2m0w
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relationships
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My (19M) girlfriend (19F) of 5 months thinks she may be gay
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So about a week ago a few days before my birthday she came out and told me she thinks she might be gay. I've known she's bi from the start and I was ok with that but this really caught me off guard and I felt really betrayed. After I few days I told her I'd try to support her no matter what she decides but it's really killing me inside and she says she needs some time to think.
I'm not sure where to go from here or if I have any influence on her decision and I don't fully understand why she decided this because we clicked so well. Any advice would be appreciated greatly.
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gf thinks she might be gay, says she needs time to think and I'm lost
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t3_1owexp
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offmychest
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I put myself in a bad place as a thought experiment, then actually got upset. Now I feel embarrassed and stupid for doing it, especially when I have to explain it to people.
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Where to begin. I started this year in a new city after a 6-month horrible relationship with a man who likely has borderline personality disorder that I stayed in out of guilt.
After doing a bunch of work on myself and discovering various philosophies/mental tools to make myself happy, and pretty much clearing my mind and 'resetting' all I knew about myself and my flaws, I was feeling really good. Pretty confident and 'in the moment'. ADHD-PI-esque mind fog strangely better than before. Feeling quite sharp.
This was the first time I had ever lived alone away from immediate family; to be honest I had been a bit over-protected by anxious parents up until this point. Regardless, I am enjoying my newfound freedom and feel refreshed and independent until...
I decided to test my own mind and start thinking about horrible things again. Partly cos I felt strangely unnerved by how clear my mind was and partly cos I wanted something to focus on to ease my restlessness, like a worry stone to hold in my pocket so to speak.
Ended up feeling all sorts of awful and giving myself weird irrational fears and mental images that kept me from moving forwards despite wanting to. I had started going out and meeting new people but didn't really maintain a continuous flow of activity with every action being pro-active and productive as intended...ended up sitting around on the internet despite wanting to do more.
These weird irrational fears and bad feels put a dampener on my productivity, which then put a dent in my self-esteem, setting me back. I did stop playing these weird games with my mind, but the facepalm about having done all this weird counterproductive stuff, and the period of inactivity, remains.
I am in a better place now and am getting back in the flow, feeling settled and comfortable...but I cringe and feel embarrassed about disrupting my own head start...and meeting people in a less-ideal state, plus reinforcing relatives' views of me as dependent and clueless.
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Trolled my own mind this year and succeeded. Facepalming cos of it.
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t3_1cj0pc
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relationship_advice
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[20/f] Is it too much if I ask my bf (26/m) to save money?
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Have a boyfriend of 9 months. I recently came up with the idea of going to Tahiti with my bf one day (maybe in a year or two?), which is going to cost about $4,000 for two weeks.
I was thinking, if we both save $50 per week, we should be able to go on a holiday together after a year and a half?
The thing is, I know my boyfriend is unable to save much money at the moment because he's got many bills to pay when he can't work much.
The whole trip thing is just an idea I came up with while I was talking to a friend five minutes ago. She's going there this October. She showed me the photos and it's such a beautiful place and it'd be wonderful if I can go there with him.
I have told my boyfriend a few weeks ago that he should start saving money as I genuinely thought it'd be good to do so (which I regret by the way. I have no right). His response was that he wants to but he can't, which is fair enough. He works and studies full time, has no time to rest during the week. Even so, he makes just enough money to pay his bills, can't save much at all.
As I'm writing this, I realised how bad I am as a girlfriend to nag him to save money D: **Making him feel obliged to save is the last thing I want to happen.**
If we decide to save money together, I'll try to come up with some fun ideas like, chipping in $5 every time we pack lunch to uni/cook together, not drinking for a week and saving $10, cutting hair at home and saving $20 etc.
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1. Asking my extremely busy bf to start saving with me. Yes? or No?
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t3_fzizj
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AskReddit
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My wife and I were recently asked to be Godparents. We are not religious. Any redditors with similar experience and/or advice?
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My sister recently gave birth to her fourth kid, and my wife and I have been asked to be the godparents to said child. We were both brought up in the same small-town protestant church so our families have been operating under the assumption that we are religious. We are not. Compounding matters, this will be a Catholic baptism. Even before we were completely turned off by religion, the exclusionary nature of Catholic services left a bad taste in our mouths.
I have a decent relationship with my sister and her family and I don't want her to think this is some petty dispute about her conversion to Catholicism. The last baptism I sat through was excruciating. Words came out of the preacher's mouth but all I heard was "PARENTS - DO YOU PROMISE TO FULLY INDOCTRINATE THIS CHILD?" The whole thing just seemed incredibly forced. I'm having a hard time trying to figure out how to deal with this gracefully. The thought of standing in front of a congregation and declaring myself a hypocrite is definitely not pleasant. Advice and/or insight would be greatly appreciated!
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How do a should a non-religious couple gracefully respond to being asked to be godparents?
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t3_e3tv5
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AskReddit
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I think my best friend is thinking about suicide and I don't know that to do. Help!
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She's my cousin, we're fifteen, and spent pretty much our whole lives together. Generally she is the more gloomy or pessimistic one. She is in a bunch of hard honers classes at school, her mom is a bitch and in jail, her maternal grandparents are insane bible thumpers who she recently got into a fight with because they told her she was evil and would go to hell, and her dad is a douchebag who acts more like a controlling snobby teenage jackass than a parent. She has a lot to be stressed about. Well yesterday morning I got a text that said 'you know what, FUCK LIFE'. I asked what was wrong and got back 'i don't know...I'm not ok' she called me tonight and says she just wants to sleep, feels no motivation to do school work because she is just going to fail anyway, she doesn't want to be around her friends and she hates her family, she just wants to sleep, feels as though she has nothing to live for, and thinks about how easy it would be to just swallow a bunch of pills and die. I of course pretty much started to cry a little and try to tell her that things get better, but I didn't know what to say. We had to get off the phone cause I have a bedtime and she was tired, but I asked her to call me if she ever felt like that. I'm going to spend the night with her tomorrow and maybe talk to her then. I know I worded this badly, I don't even know what I'm asking! I just don't know what to do and I need help. What can I say to or do for her? I have to go to bed but please reply
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best friend and cousin is depressed and thinking about suicide and I have idea what to do.
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t3_2kii4g
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relationships
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Me [19M] and my SO [14F] were split up and are restricted from seeing or talking to each other.
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I am a college sophomore [19M] and my former SO [14F] had just started high school when the split began. We had been seeing each other in somewhat secrecy for almost two years leading up to August 2014. My parents forbade the relationship but her parents were always fine with it...until recently. They had started reading her texts messages and saw how serious the relationship had become and decided to set me up in such a way to have my parents break us apart.
The rule I was given by her mother and father was that I cannot talk to her or see her until she is of legal age, which is seventeen (17) in the state she lives in. However, I was recently told that they won't allow it until she's eighteen (18).
We had both made promises to each other to be there when the time came, which I believe in my heart to be true. Since the split we both have found new relationships. However, I know who I love in my heart and I plan on returning but it eats me away almost every day.
I'm just looking for some advice on what I should do with myself. Do I give up and move on like I've been told by both her mom and my parents or do I hold on to the hope we can make things work out again?
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Me and my SO were split up because of age difference. Should I hold on to hope and work towards returning to her in three years or give up and forget about her, even though I love her with all my heart?
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t3_r9c6m
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AskReddit
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Would a new puppy help our anxious dog?
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My wife and I have a three year old Saint Bernard, who up until the age of two was pretty well socialized with people and dogs. About a year ago he started to become more protective of us and our home and would seem to be slightly agressive towards strangers though we've found that he's actually more frightened and avoids strangers. He's also become a little food aggressive with other dogs but still hangs out with other dogs if we're dogsitting or someone keeps him while we're away. Please note that there was nothing traumatic that caused the change in behavior, we've worked with our vet, a specialist vet at the vet school who works specifically with behavior problems, and two very qualified private trainers. He's also still working with a great trainer and going to be starting a weekly dog camp with this trainer who is very well qualified.
Now for the big question, would adopting another dog be a mistake or could it help even him out? I ask because we have the opportunity to give a puppy a home because someone we know isn't able to take care of her due to some new developments. What do you think Reddit?
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we have an anxious/protective three year old Saint Bernard and have the opportunity to adopt a mutt puppy. Would this puppy help his anxiety or could this make things worse?
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t3_3pst4w
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relationships
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I (19m) dont know what to do with my GF (20F)
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So I don't know what to do. The situation is that my girlfriend and I have been dating for the past year. We go to college together and live on opposite sides of the country. From the start the relationship has been rocky. Looking back I haven't been the perfect boyfriend but I also know she has never been able to let anything go and at times she feels controlling and maybe manipulative but id rather not get into that now. Anyway recently things have been really bad, I mean I dont know If i want to be in a relationship anymore sort of stuff.
We spent this past weekend apart as I was going to visit family, she had to go to the hospital with some health issues. It was also our 1 year anniversary. This coming weekend she says she has to go back to the hospital, unfortunately I already have a previous commitment to my ultimate frisbee team. I know im not being perfect but she is incredibly mad at me and threatening to breakup if I dont break off my commitment with the team. If anyone wants more details about our relationship feel free to ask so I can give more detail about our past since i didnt do a great job. Im sorry this is so poorly written I just dont know what to do.
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My girlfriend is asking me to stay with her in the hospital this weekend and breakoff a prior commitment i had to my team.
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t3_2gyck7
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tifu
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TIFU by making an awesome video but deleting it before I could show it to my friends.
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This is not the most dramatic or funny fuck up, in fact it's pretty depressing, but it is a fuck up none the less.
So me and my two friends are always playing xbox together and chatting on whatsapp. Today my friend Mo sent us a video in the group chat. It was a funny OTT trailer for a Hollywood blockbuster with footage that he had recorded of us playing Gta 5 that he had made using a movie editor on his phone.
Naturally, I had to one-up him so I downloaded an editor of my own and got to work making a similar film trailer, only this time with footage from left 4 dead 2. It took nearly two hours to make, but happily, the music I had chosen to go over the whole video synced up perfectly. I had completely unintentionally made it so each chorus of the song lined up with an actiony part of the trailer and the finished product came together really well.
I know it might sound pathetic but I was really proud of my work. "In a world where the dead walk the earth... 3 men must fight... For their right... To party" fast camera cuts of the chainsaw and then lots of shooting, typical style trailer. It was perfect.
Well when I tried to share the video to whatsapp, I noticed I could only send 2:50 minutes, but the video was over 3 minutes. So instead I uploaded it to youtube but the video came out terribly for reasons I can't fathom. It looked fantastic in the movie editor app but on youtube it was unwatchable. So I deleted that shitty video from youtube and my phone's memory. Big mistake.
When I went back on the app, I discovered the clip must not be saved on the app like I thought, and I realised I had just deleted the film I was so proud of. There was no way online I could find to recover it. I contemplated remaking the vid, but I knew it would never be that perfect, especially since L4D2 is so random. Now I'm playing Halo 3 online to cheer me up but the online population is pretty low and I've been sat here searching for a Big Team Slayer for 15 minutes. Feel pretty shitty.
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Made funny video with surprisingly high production values to share with my friend, ended up deleting it by accident and chucking my phone through the window.
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t3_3g03xu
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relationships
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Me [27 M] with my Girlfriend [26 F] 1 year + She is generally inconsiderate. Tells me she is afraid of me.
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This morning her cell went off at 7:00. It was in the living room. She was awake, but wouldn't get out of bed to turn it off for about 45 seconds. She turned it off, went back to bed.
My cell went off at 7:30. I turned it off right away and hopped in the shower, got dressed, made some tea, browsed my reddit. 8:25, I'm still waiting for her to be ready and we were 5 minutes late for work this morning. We would have been 3 minutes late, but I had to go and turn off every single goddamned light in the apartment.
On the drive to work (45 minutes each way) I'm listening to the (admittedly shitty) morning radio - she starts watching youtube videos of indian singers strangling cats (I can only assume, since I couldn't take my eyes off the road) on her phone.
I tell her that it is really annoying. She ignores me. I moved slowly to take the phone. She asks me 'wtf' and I tell her that it is really annoying. This is where she goes off on how she's always afraid of me and how I'll react.
She can't drive and won't learn. I have to drive her everywhere.
Every time we do any thing, I have to stand there waiting for her. I'm tempted to start carrying a stopwatch to keep tally. I reckon it would hit at least 30 minutes on a week day. I don't reckon this would help my relationship.
How do I get her to consider other people's (my) time as important?
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my girlfriend is an ass hole, calls me the ass hole when I tell her she's being an ass hole.
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t3_1l2zow
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relationships
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My girlfriend[17F] just left me[18M] for another guy out of nowhere, how do I get over the shock?
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My girlfriend and I have been together for six months now, and I am completely in love with her. She left to go to europe for a month, and I was eagerly anticipating her return. Once she got back, she ignored all my texts and calls, and changed her facebook status to "in a relationship " with another guy our age.
I had absolutely no idea this was coming, we had spoken on skype every night and I didn't doubt for a second that we were in love. When she finally returned my calls, she said we were done forever and that she was with him now, and no longer has any feelings for me.
Keep in mind she never hesitated to tell me she loved me, was a faithful partner, and anyone on the outside told us we were lucky to have such an amazing relationship. She has met and gets along great with my family and friends. I know we're young, but I honestly wanted to spend the rest of my life with her, start a family and everything. I truly believed she was the one.
When I saw that she changed her facebook I was completely taken aback and shocked. I immediately threw up, and have not been able to eat or drink anything for three days now because I keep vomiting (dry heaving as well because my stomach is empty). I can't stop shaking and I feel incredibly weak. I'm dehydrated and still in shock. My anxiety is through the roof. I have lost about seven pounds since Thursday. I am a complete wreck and everyday seems to hurt worse than the last. I have had to call in sick to work because I have no emotional or physical capacity to work.
I'm about done, please give me advice on how to get my life back.
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Amazing loving girlfriend of four months left me out of the blue for another guy, I've lost control of my mind and body and can't see anyway that it will improve
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t3_4l3151
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relationships
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My [20 F] boyfriend [20 M] said he'll have a few drinks but he's the designator driver. Am I overreacting?
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My boyfriend and I are attending my friend's birthday party. We agreed that he would be the designator driver for the night. However, he told me he would be having a few drinks just so he could have something to hold during the entire night.
We live in Australia and if you don't have a full license (he doesn't), your BAC should be 0. He's not going to be tipsy after a few drinks. I'm worried he'll be caught and have his license suspended. I told him he shouldn't be drinking at all that night but he's insisting he'll be sober by the end of the night.
Our conversation stopped there and I'm not sure if I should bring it up again. Taxis are out of the question since they're expensive (which is why he's the designator driver). What should I do? Am I overreacting?
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My boyfriend thinks it's okay to have a few drinks and drive when his BAC should be 0.
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t3_4xlpij
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Advice
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Relationship advice?
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So, to give a little context, my current girlfriend and I were friends for years before we ever hooked up and now that we are finally together, things are turning sour pretty quick. Found out she went to her exes house and slept with him while we were together and she's been leading this other guy on for years (since highschool). She keeps a lot of secrets from me and every time I try to talk to her about this stuff, she gets defensive and tries to make it about me. She says things like "Why don't you trust me?" When she knows she has lied before and has even gone as far as to make up stories about me and my ex trying to incriminate me in something, even though my ex lives in another state. Not only that, but when I say I'm not happy in our relationship, she says how much she loves me and wants me to stay. These are the obvious signs of manipulation or at least some kind of deep rooted issue, but I really do love this girl. I found out this stuff recently, but there were things that happened before too. My question is, do you think the relationship is worth saving? As I said, I've tried to forgive the stuff she did before, but this seems like it's going way too far and I've already given her chances to show she can change.
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Is it worth salvaging my relationship with my girlfriend, despite her cheating and lying?
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t3_w2t5p
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AskReddit
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People of Reddit, do you really form your opinions of a culture based on the posts you read?
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I've been reading a lot of comments on Korean life (and other cultures) and the crazy things that people have "experienced" or "learned." As a person who lives in Korea and constantly talks to the people (older and younger) around me in English and Korean, this makes me feel sick.
I have been reading about how backward this place is, and nothing can be farther from the truth. People of reddit, are we really aware of cultural differences and that they're not "strange?" Korea is a place that has been thrown into a global world, and is struggling to change and adapt to others views of them (like China banning so many traditional foods during the Olympics because of foreigners reactions). I have seen women's rights start to skyrocket, and gay rights are soon to follow. Korea has many transsexual stars even. Just because someone visited a place three years ago, that doesn't mean that it hasn't changed.
Please keep this in mind when you read a couple peoples' views on a country. In this globalized world, people are changing. Please realize this and accept that peoples and societies can change for the better.
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Acceptance of other cultures and their willingness to change is key
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t3_nukfx
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BreakUps
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help
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m21 here. Was with ex for well over 4 years. Ended 4 weeks ago.
So here I am. I'm lying on the couch just like i have been for the past 4 weeks. Cant stand the thought of sleeping in my bed without her. I'm no longer able to sleep at night (it's 6am here now), which makes the whole thing more unbearable - everything is worse at night. I'm drinking almost every day, and I just feel so lost and alone.
Our relationship was far from healthy the last two years. Jealousy and arguments became normal for me, and my whole life was centered around her. We knew all along that this couldn't go on, but we kept trying. It was the first real relationship for both of us, and neither of us could imagine a life without the other.
Its weird. I've always been the guy with the good advice who knew what to do. But now, I'm fucking lost. I'm moving to a new city in 4 days, which I guess is good. I cant stand the thought of interacting with new people though, starting school and all that.
This turned out to be more of a rant than I'd hoped, but its a cluster of emotions all tangled up, and I cant really sort it out. I guess I just need someone to say something. I have no friends I can really talk to. Our relationship made my friend list a lot shorter as well.. I feel like crying, but I cant, so I have that feeling you get when you're about to cry constantly.
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I feel like I'm walking under water. Its lonely and weird, and I just dont feel like I can handle this shit.. I think I'm looking for someone to tell me how to carry on
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t3_4ntx84
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relationships
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How does seduction occur [26M]?
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If the title sounds clueless it's because *I*, myself, am clueless. I just don't see how you get from Point A: not knowing a person to Point B: fucking, without being in a relationship. At what point in the stilted conversation does "So, hey, I've been thinking, you wanna bone?" come up? And what if you just wanna be acquaintances/strangers but also want to have a good time? What if it's someone I barely knew from high school for example?
I have never had sex with anyone that I don't know well. I want to change this fact but I don't know how:
* I don't drink alcohol due to a medical problem so bars are out.
* I don't use Tinder because I am scared to death of meeting someone who isn't legal
* I hate, hate, hate small talk
* I am not very talkative by nature (NOT to be confused with being shy)
Actually there is a girl at my workplace that I really want to make scream. But again, how do we go from some work-related conversation to talking about fucking? I guess I could ask her on a date, but what if I don't want a date?
Last time it was with a friend of mine and we just met for lunch. I proposed going back to her place, she agreed, and we starting dirty talking and before we knew it clothes were coming off. Perhaps that's it? But then there's the whole "oh, you were just setting me up to get into my pants." Maybe I shouldn't care about that?
Argh, hrlp me.
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I am sexually frustrated, largely because I don't know how to initiate sex.
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t3_2je1yd
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relationship_advice
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Am I [27f] settling with my boyfriend? [27m]
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I forget what a relationship is supposed to feel like! My boyfriend and I have been together for two years, living together for one.
I have always been more affectionate than my boyfriend is. I said I love you first, he didn't answer. He eventually said it, but I am still always the one that initiates it, and half the time his response is silence. He rarely tells me I'm pretty. I used to really love these things, and now it doesn't really bother me anymore that he doesn't do it.
We enjoy doing everyday things together like watching movies and going out for dinner, but he doesn't really share my passions. I would be happy to pursue these things with friends who share these interests, but he gets angry and aggravated if I want to do things without him.
We enjoy spending time together and we have the same sense of humor. We are generally pretty happy together. But I feel like I have these unreasonable expectations in a way. Are any of you out there in relationships where you love the same things in life and you truly feel loved every day? I have never experienced this and I don't know that I could find it at this point. I feel like I am less myself than I was two years ago.
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I love my boyfriend but I don't know if I am as happy as I could be. Is the grass sometimes actually greener?
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t3_363g6n
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tifu
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TIFU by taking an exam
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So, today was the day of an English A level exam. As I am an English student, this meant that two and a half hours of my morning were spent in a hall with about one hundred other people frantically writing.
More importantly, a minor disagreement with my parents the day before meant that my mobile phone had been confiscated. As I wasn't very happy with this, I decided to take it back without their knowing, but hid it under the sole of my shoe to make sure they didn't find it if they were to check my pockets. It sounds odd, but this is something they've done in the past so I thought: "better safe than sorry".
Fast forward to the exam, i'm busy writing about drama and poetry I suddenly realise that I can hear my ringtone. For the curious, this is what could be heard:
Thankfully, because my ringtone volume was low and it was muffled by my foot, very few people actually heard it. But there were definitely a couple people around me who were asked to 'test their might' halfway through their paper.
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Phone went off in the middle of an exam, but ringtone was muffled as it was under the sole of my shoe.
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t3_3heb5m
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relationships
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Trying to figure out if this girl likes me!
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Little backstory here, I (18M) am absolutely horrific with the opposite gender. I have never been good reading hints from women and have a low self esteem.
Anyways me and one of my buddy's were hanging out in my car yesterday at the local meet-up spot. And this girl; one of my cousins friends, (16F) who I have known for about 2 months now and gotten to know pretty well, walks over to my car and gets in the backseat.
We were just chatting when my buddy got out of my car to grab something from his car. She climbs over the seat and into the passenger seat. It seemed like she was flirting with me. She then grabs my phone and starts to take about 40 selfies on it.
Fast forward about an hour of chatting and potential flirting when she asks me if I have a "babe". I replied no and she kept on prying, and even asking my buddy. I mean like really prying. She then asks if she is my "babe" (somewhat jokingly, I think). I got all red faced and embarrassed and quickly replied no.
Anyways, just looking for your opinion and help! Thanks
Sorry if there are a ton of mistakes. First time poster, long time lurker. Also on mobile.
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Gorgeous girl takes a ton of selfies on my phone, potentially flirts, and pry's me if I have a girlfriend then asks me if she is my girlfriend (jokingly.... I think..?)
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t3_33iv5q
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Advice
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What are ways you've channeled anxiety into positive outlets?
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24 y/o F here. I have noticed a huge increase in personal anxiety over the last 5 years. I suspect this is a hereditary thing, as I have never had anxiety issues before and this type of thing runs strong in my family.
I have had a mild flare up of acne over the last couple years and my anxiety (not completely related to the acne) is causing me to pop pimples and pick at my skin non stop. It's really awful and my face looks so gross it's embarrassing. I don't know how to stop. I've tried cutting my nails short, growing them out really long, wearing make up to disguise the acne from myself...nothing seems to work.
Aside from the typical "see a dermatologist or psychologist" response, does anyone have some good ideas on how I can channel my anxiety and stress into a healthier habit?
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I can't stop picking at my face as a result of bad anxiety. Suggestions?
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t3_2yh07v
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relationships
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Me 20 F with boyfriend 20 M, together for over a year, want to tell him that if like to spend time together but not just studying and at the end of the day
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A little background: I'm not reall ambitious, I do my school work, I get by. My boyfriend is much more ambitious and very intelligent, I love him to death and he feels the same way. But because he's always so busy and I rank beneath work in the pecking order, unless i go on a date with him (which is pretty rare because of our schedules) I only get to spend time with him studying or late at night after studying. There's no way I'm giving him an ultimatum it's completely unnecessary as I think this is something pretty minor and it can be dealt with quite easily, how do I tell him I'd like him to make a bit of time for me during the day where we can hang out like we used to before we started getting serious. Reddit please give me some advice.
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want to spend more time with my man during the day, but don't know how to tell him without sounding needy af
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t3_547t3h
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relationships
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I (28M) keep screwing up and my wife (29F) has had enough
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I've been with my wife now for 10 years, married for 2 and a bit. Since we married we have 2 beautiful children together.
But over the last 10 years i have been a less than savory character.
Basically over the last few years i have been lazy, I haven't done things i'd promised to do, I don't think before i act, I've kept conversations hidden, talked to girls my wife does not trust behind her back and unfortunately had a moment of weakness where i was talking about playing strip poker with a (F)co-worker.
In the last year she has given me a child with a second on the way. I want to be there for my kids. i want the happy family every movie shows.
I know I've done wrong and by all means shouldn't be forgiven, I desperately love my wife and have apologised repeatedly. I know an apology wont make things better but its all i have. My word means nothing to her anymore. I want to rebuild our relationship to a point where we can get past my stupid-ness and forget it ever happened.
My wife is talking about divorce but wanted me to post here to see what you guys think.
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I'm ruining my marriage by being a moron and keeping things from my wife
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t3_3yhr2s
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relationships
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[18M] Can't get hard with my girlfriend. What do I do?
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I am am a vergin and we are both 18. My girlfriend [18] isn't. So I find my girlfriend very attractive and out of my league, but whenever we try and have sex, I just can't get hard.
This hasn't ever been a problem when I masterbate. For some odd reason, when I'm with her, I just can't get hard enough to do it.
She can certainly turn me on, but I feel more emotional arouses then physically. I feel kind of embarrassed, and I don't know what to do.
She has tried to give me a blow job and hand job before too and I just couldn't get all the way there. Any advice?
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My girlfriend is hot, but I can't get worked up enough to have sex. How do I fix it?
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t3_2isfad
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relationships
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My (17M) friends (17F,17F) seem mad at me and I don't know why!
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Hi everyone!
As the title says, my friends who I have known for 2 1/2-3 years are acting cold and distant to me :( and i really want to invite them to my birthday party (turning 18 tomorrow, yay :D) because we have so much fun!
Just some back story, these 2 girls are like the sisters I never had! Always caring and helpful and when we go out we have the best time ever! In fact I went out with one on Sunday and she seemed so excited! I messaged them (not about the party) yesterday and they just ignored me, they seemed quite irritated when they got back and I'm debating if i should just stay home tomorrow ( yes I have other friends, but like going out with them the most). I haven't talked to one since end of May due to the massive amount of work and i think she understands.
So in conclusion I would like to know if i should invite them tomorrow and what I could have done to make them angry.
Thanks in advance :)
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Long time friends seem mad at me out of the blue and i want to invite then tomorrow to my birthday but scared I'll be annoying.
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t3_41xguv
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relationships
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[M]y friend (30) is cheating in our friendly poker table, and exposing it is complicated
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Straight to the point, I've noticed that one of our friends is cheating the rest of us in our friendly poker table. I'm 100% sure about that, and was showing it to another friend who approved as well.
Our friendly poker table consists of bunch of foreigners who moved to New York and became friends. Not childhood friendship proximity, but we got close enough over the last couple of years.
The guy in question is old-timer in the city and is more popular than me in the 'gang'.
It drives me nuts that he cheats his good friends. Yet, if I'll say anything it will can have severe outcomes that will affect me negatively as well, as the guy is well-known and very much connected to our community in NY.
On the other hand, these guys are my friends as well (some more than the others), and I feel bad he is cheating them, and in addition if they ever find out and will figure out that I knew, they might be really mad at me.
I cannot try to expel him from the group, and also don't consider not coming to poker nights myself, as this is part of our culture and entertainment.
So reddit, how do I play this hand?
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A friend is cheating in our friendly poker table, he is more popular than me and outing him can affect me negatively outside of the poker table. If I'll tell nothing/stop coming without saying why, he will continue to cheat my friends. Also, I cannot get him un-invited to the table without explaining why.
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t3_2p5foh
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personalfinance
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Need Advice Regarding Potential Move (CA)
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I am a student currently in the fourth month of a 12 month lease in a house shared with 5 other intolerable roommates, located in a financially poor area of town. It is, however, walking distance to my school. Cost of rent is $825/month, all inclusive until the end of August. My plan at the start of the lease was to stay till the end of April and lease out the remaining months of the contract.
I've recently grown tired of putting up with my roommates poor habits (which I have addressed multiple times), and am looking into moving to a new home. I have found a nice house shared with a couple listed at $985/month, all inclusive. This house is much nicer and the housemates are very similar to me in terms of expectations. It would require me to commute 25 minutes to school so that adds on $108 monthly for transit costs.
If I moved, it would require me to find someone to sublet my current room immediately. I am wondering if this would be a smart move for me, from a financial and well being point of view. My roommates are not bad people per se, we just have different standards on cleanliness and sharing household items. I am trying to negotiate down the price of the new home. I am also wondering if I am able to sublet my current room at a rate higher than what I am paying? I gave my landlord pre-dated cheques so any subletter I find would be paying me directly.
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Paying $825 for rent with annoying roommates. Want to move at a cost of $985+108 in transportation. Good or bad?
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t3_2t20t1
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relationships
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Me [22 M] with this chick i hung out with once [20 F] Ideas on what to do next
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Ok so i met this one from the wide reaches of the web, seems alright she smokes the good stuff like me and actually hung out with me. however, theres no car, no job and she lives like a half hour away. Me im kinda of a homebody that doesnt fit well anywhere, so i tried online to find chicks to hang out with. So im asking if i should hang out with this one again? nothing really acomplished first go, perhaps the cold shoulder. Also if i am to hang out with her again i have no idea what to do with her, like im driving elsewhere to unfamiliar turf and no one i know. So ideas?
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Hung out once, kinda far, what should i do next?
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t3_3g6ysj
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tifu
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TIFU by being a young innocent kid with curiosities
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I thought about this after reading the whole bottle post.
I'm going to try and remember as much as possible so bear with me.
So here I am, innocent little OP, wandering around, then I go into the bathroom.
I see this blue little suction-like thing.
It's a small, rather simple machine. Must be a toy right?
I pick it up, start playing with it, dipping it into the sink and start squirting it back in. I do this a few times and stop for a reason I can't remember. I got bored I guess.
Anyways, it was not until today that I realized that it was a fucking DOUCHE.
I really hope this doesn't get popular, I'm already embarrassed by it :/
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young me decided to grab a douche and play with it
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t3_1vqne3
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relationships
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I [20M] am not sure if I'm crossing a line with my best friend [22M] by becoming better friends with his girlfriend [21F].
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Over the past three or four months, I've started to become closer with my best friend's girlfriend. We have a lot in common, musical taste, world views, we have a lot of the same problems and anxieties too. I love talking to her, and try to as much as I can when I see her, which is only when she's with her boyfriend.
The last few times we've hung out she's said that I should text her more, and that I should go hang out with her at her place if I have nothing to do before I go to school.
Normally, I'd have no problem with this, but her boyfriend is my best friend, and honestly, I see him as more of a brother, we grew up together, and he's always been there for me; but he gets a bit jealous of people paying too much attention to his girlfriend.
I would really like to become better friends with her, because she's the only person I feel one hundred percent comfortable talking to about anything that's bothering me, but I'm afraid that if I start seeing her more without her boyfriend around that he might misconstrue our relationship, and I'm worried that if I just ask if it's alright with him, he might get the idea that there is something going on.
Am I crazy for thinking that I'm crossing some kind of line, or am I justified in thinking that I might be?
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Is it wrong of me to become better friends with best friend's girlfriend?
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t3_3rmj9d
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relationships
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I (18M) just ended a perfect relationship with my girlfriend (18F) of one year.
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I don't know why, I don't know what I was trying to accomplish. I got off work yesterday, and drove to my girlfriend's house. She had left her wallet in m car, so I was dropping it off. I told her I was leaving and wouldn't be back. I told her I didn't care anymore. I told her I thought she was stupid. I told her I didn't love her anymore.
I lied. I love her more than anything. But I have a problem, every little thing that people do, sets me off. This time, she told me I shouldn't(Not that I can't), buy another car. I feel shitty. I don't know what I was doing. Half the time I never want to leave her, the other half I can't stand her.
I know she frequents this sub, so I hope she sees it, and that she knows I still have feelings. I guess what I want to say, is I'm sorry, Karma.
And I'm askig Reddit, what do I do about this. Do I try to rekindle it? Do I wait? Do I leave? I'm lost, hurt, scared, and confused. I've been reduced to nothing. Because I made the biggest mistake of my life. How do I fix this?
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Broke up with girlfrind in the worst possible way, don't know how I feel.
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t3_2wuvvl
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relationships
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I [17/M] am having doubts about our relationship with my GF [17/F]
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Hey reddit, I was hoping that you would help me with a dilemma.
So the story is, that me and my GF [17] have been going out for almost 2 months and it was going great, until last sunday/monday.
Well the story basically was that we were walking slowly, and we started kissing in the park. Thats when i said: "I love you". And then there was a long pause, when she finally said: "You don't love me."
Okay, I was a little shocked and we talked about it a little while, why she said that and she said that she has had a few very unhappy relationships, in which she got hurt.
So I walked her to a bus stop and said goodbye and went home, but the next day we started talking and well, she said that she can't say that she loves me, because she is afraid of attaching and getting hurt again. She also said she is in a depression-like state, with all the stress from school and everything else, and she doesn't know what, when and how she wants anything. So she said that maybe it would be best that we should remain friends for a while, and see where it goes.
I was a little disappointed, but i said that if she really thinks that way, and she really is having problems, then i would be glad to help her, even as a friend, because i really care about her. She thanked me and said that she really likes to talk with me.
So we are still friends, and although we don't talk daily like we used to do, we still text and snap each other often. But here comes the real question
Her two best friends are having a birthday party today, and I am also invited there, although I only know one of the birthday girls. So reddit, do you think I should go there, or should I stay home?
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Kind of went on a pause with my gf, having doubts about going to a party tonight and our relationship.
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t3_fbvsr
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AskReddit
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Am I obligated to turn it down really low?
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Hello Reddit,
I have a question on dorm room etiquette. A few weeks ago I got a great speaker system for my computer with a nice subwoofer. So I've been playing my music using this. The first time I used it I admit I turned it up really loud so I could test out the speakers. It was a matter of minutes when the person in the next room over started slamming on the wall. I assume this is his passive-aggressive way of saying "Turn it the frack down!" So I turned it down to a more reasonable level. Within another few more minutes he slams on the wall again even louder. The only way I could get him to stop slamming on the wall is to turn it down so low that I get no bass out of my system whatsoever. Now every time I use my speakers I start them out at a reasonable volume. However, no matter the situation the guy in the next room will slam on the wall until I turn it down to the barely audible level. Its all the time, no matter the time of day, he just slammed on the wall a few minutes ago and it is 12:30pm on a Sunday.
Now here's my question. Am I really obligated to, in a college dorm situation, turn down my music to the point that its barely audible because the next room over demands it in a passive-aggressive way?
I can understand not wanting pounding music right next to your room, but really do I have to turn it down as low as he wants?
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In my college dorm, the room next door constantly slams on the wall when I play music until I turn down the music so low that its barely audible. Am I obligated to turn it down as low as he wants?
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t3_3c72za
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relationships
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Me [24 F] with my boyfriend [23 M] 7 months, should I break up with him? Don't feel important
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Basically we've been dating for around 7 months. In the beginning we saw as much of each other as possible, constantly phone/texting etc. The honeymoon phase. This lasted the first 2 months roughly.
Things calmed down a bit and we settled into a routine.
Then about 4/5 months in? He got a saturday job, so I didn't see him weekends. (Fine whatever). Then a few weeks later no saturday job, and suddenly he's only seeing me 1 day a week.
He went 3 days without speaking to me about 3 weeks ago, I had to go to court to give evidence against my abusive ex and he didn't even ask how it went.
He is just making me feel low on his list of priorities, I've spoke to him about this and nothing has changed.
But I'm also extremely insecure about every aspect of myself due to a very abusive ex of 6 years. I don't feel good enough to be with my boyfriend. I feel like it's my fault my boyfriend has lost interest. I don't know how he feels about me. One minute I feel like he doesn't care, then he does. I'm worried I jumped into dating too soon after finally getting rid of my ex. (Met 8 months after).
I adore my boyfriend, he treats me well when we're together, and I am happy. I just want to see each other more which I have told him and nothings changed. I feel needy when I bring it up. ;x
Should I be breaking up with him? Or is there any ideas to fix this problem? I feel like I'm more the problem here to be honest.
I've sent a text saying that we need to talk, and I've wrote down everything that I'm feeling, would it be a bad idea to just show it to him and ask for his thoughts?
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I have no idea what's going on in my relationship, should I break it off?
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t3_2xzrd7
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relationships
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I [16M] think I'm addicted to the internet and it's ruining my life.
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All my life I've been hooked on the computer to the point of near-obsession. It has never been as bad as it is now, however. Being a sophomore in Highschool, however, things have progressed to a near-addiction to where I've considered dropping out a few times for my obsession over my computer, yet realized how silly that is of me to think when I'm almost complete with my years of school anyway.
I consistently can't focus without something from my computer coming to mind and my mind beginning to wander, I lack the focus in school and in anything besides the internet and video games. I write this and think "I can quit this or moderate it and succeed in school," but thinking and writing are different from doing and accomplishing it. How would I go about dealing with this addiction and helping myself get rid of it?
It's keeping me from completing schoolwork and being generally social.
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My computer habits are taking over my life and it feels like I have no control over it.
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t3_ul2wu
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AskReddit
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What's the nicest thing a stranger has done for you?
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For me, it would definitely have to be the girl that saved me from having the whole world see my panties. A few months ago I was on campus at the library and I was wearing this very cute sundress. My backpack was sort of heavy and would often make my dress come up a bit. A few times I had to pull my dress down because it was getting dangerously high up. As I'm in the library I put my bag down for a bit so I could quickly print something out. After I finished, I put my backpack on and headed for the printer. I don't know how I didn't notice but my backpack had caught onto my dress and pulled it up in the back and up to my waste. I was wearing a thong. Well as I'm walking to the printer, a girl comes up behind me and puts her arms around me and whispers "Don't be afraid. Your dress got caught on your backpack. Nobody else saw." She swiftly pulled my dress down and I whispered back "Thank you so much". I grabbed my paper and left. I never even turned around to see who it was or what she looked like. I honestly don't think anyone else would have done that or done it in such a discrete way.
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My butt was exposed to hundreds of people due to a wardrobe malfunction and a nice girl pulled my dress down in a matter of seconds to save me from complete and utter embarrassment.
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t3_2alvcc
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Advice
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Unsure on how to deal with best friends and girlfriend
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It was my best friends brothers birthday recently, me, another good friend and my girl friend were all invited as we are to all of the parties. I had too much to drink and ended up being half asleep throughout the day and going to bed early in the night.
In the morning i was informed by my girlfriend that both my best friends and my best friends brother had groped her boob. She did not inform me of the occasions with my best friends to a great degree but she told me that my best friends brother had had his hand on her leg for a while but she had pulled away after he had groped her.
I do not have a clue of what to do, i don't want to cause a divide between my friends and girlfriend as they are all i have left in terms of good friends. I trust my girlfriend a huge amount and she has been telling me since that she is sorry.
I trust my girlfriend a huge amount but an incident prior she has told me that for a night she was holding another boys hand at a party the whole night. I understand she was drunk and that she did not mean it but this event has made me question whether that should cut it.
Please if anyone can help me out that would be amazing, i just don't know what to do. I hope you can ignore my crappy writing style
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My best friends and my best friends brother groped my girlfriend as i slept
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t3_1knkgp
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relationships
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Me (24F) broken up with by ex (21M) this summer, struggling to move on
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I was together with my ex-BF for 1,5 years, and although we had our ups and downs we were very close. We started dating when I was in a difficult period in my life, and he really helped me through it. However, we weren't really compatible in the long run (I wanted a more serious different relationship, we couldn't find a comprimise that worked for both of us), and we broke up this summer. I know it's all for the best and I should find someone who wants the same things as me, but it still hurts so bad.
While I was with my ex, I felt lonely and unfulfilled by our relationship and often thought about ending it. But now that it's over I miss him so much, and can only seem to remember all the great things about him. Is there anything to help break this cycle and feel more positive about the break up?
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Broke up recently, feeling depressed and lonely, longing for him every day and night. How do I break this cycle and start recovering?
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t3_2rpnzx
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relationships
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My girlfriend (15F) and I (15M) have had problems in the past, and now I'm conflicted on what to do
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This is nothing too serious, but for the past year or so my relationship has not been the best but I love her and there are a lot of upsides to the relationship. She has done multiple things to break our trust like doing sexual things with another guy while we were taking a "break" (aka no title but we were basically together, still acted the same), kissing a different guy, sending naked pictures to a group of male and female friends. I always find out from other people about these things and then she denies until I bring up the proof. She also expects me not to be friends with certain girls because of jealousy and her own insecurities. She knows all of these things upset me and they haven't happened more than once, but I still struggle on whether I want this relationship. I've tried to end things before or bring the problems to her attention and try to fix them but it usually never works. I would really appreciate advice on what to do.
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GF and I have trust issues lots of problems, but there is upsides to the relationship so not sure what to do
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t3_43r4tb
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relationships
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Me [21M] with my girlfriend [20F] of 18 months; not sure if I am being unreasonable
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So, me and my girlfriend have been dating for a year and a half. We are both in college, but we go to different schools that are about 4 hours apart.
Its around the time in the school year when we plan housing for the next school year, so we have both been starting to work on that. The issue is that she wants to room with a guy that she hooked up with in freshman year (as well as two other guys in an apartment).
They're friends now and I completely trust her and know she wouldn't cheat on me. Its just that the idea of her living in a small apartment with a guy who has been with her makes me very uncomfortable. I am pretty sure that he would not try anything either, but at the very least he is attracted to her in some sense. The idea of him walking around in underwear, or her coming out of the shower in a towel (things that make home feel like home) really bothers me, all things considered.
She said she would find others to room with if I really felt that uncomfortable about it, but I also don't want to ask her to find others if I am indeed being unreasonable. I just want to ask people who aren't directly involved if they think I am being unreasonable if I ask this of her.
Thanks a lot guys!
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Girlfriend at a different school wants to live with a guy she has hooked up with. I am not completely okay with that.
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t3_y8bar
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AskReddit
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Reddit! Tell me the stupidest thing you have ever done for money. I'll start.
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**
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Ate a roach found in a desk for 72 bucks, planned to swallow, instead send a tsunami of vomit upon a dozen people, go home early with pride and an empty stomache.
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t3_3mp4ty
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relationships
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I think my SO is lying to me about smoking...
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My So (M/30) and I (F/30) have been dating for a little over 6 months. When we first started dating we discussed how we both used to be smokers. For the first month, we began smoking together. While obviously unhealthy, it was our little thing while we talked and got to know each other. Both of us stopped at the same time. At this point, he was living about an hour away.
Since then, he has moved about a mile away and I stay at his place about five times a week. I have total trust in him. This morning, he had to leave for work early. I opened his nightstand and found a pack of cigarettes at the bottom, opened with about half left. I can't help but think he still smokes on the nights I am not around.
While I don't like the idea of him smoking at all as we both agreed to stop, I could deal with it if he wanted to occasionally. My issue is that I think he is hiding it from me, and, therefore, lying. It makes me extremely uncomfortable that if he can keep this from me I have to wonder what else he is keeping from me. And I can't confront him since I probably (admittedly) shouldn't have been in a position to find them anyways. Am I overreacting?
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I think my boyfriend is hiding from me that he still smoked occasionally which makes me wonder what else he could be hiding from me.
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t3_3sw4he
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relationships
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[24M] been seeing [21 F] for a few weeks, blows me off, should I end it?
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I've been seeing this girl for about 3 weeks or so now, but last weekend she asked if we could be exclusive I said yes. I work out of town so I don't get to see her throughout the week but we talk every night and on a few occasions she mentions she gets butterflies. So I figure things are going well with us, so all week we plan on seeing each other Friday and both talk about how excited we are.
Theres a setback at work and won't be back until saturday night but we still talk about seeing each other saturday. I get home, text her im home, get ready, don't hear anything back. Called her, nothing. So I go out with friends text her hope she's having a good time tonight. She responds with " Im busy, sorry. I'm sorry" figure shes drinking with friends no biggie, tell her its all good.
She texted me at 5am saying she left her phone at home but she texted me that night, so I figure she was drunk but sounds fishy to me like shes lying?
So at this point I'm confused because up unto this point she seemed really interested in me but she blows me off and maybe lies? I'm considering just calling it off now because I'm fairly frustrated.
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she acts like shes falling, plan on seeing each other on weekend when I get back in town, she blows me off.
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t3_1kdv3t
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AskReddit
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Did she cheat? What do I do? Can I know?
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My girlfriend recently got back from Germany. She told me she was taken advantage of by an old high school friend. She claims she was drinking, passed out, and woke up naked. She say's she has to go to the doctor to get checked for sti's now.
My girlfriend is very smart, independent, capable and logical. I felt like she was lying to me when she told me because she claims this happened but did not do anything logical afterwards. She didn't tell anyone there (old host sister, friends etc.), (nobody else was around before or afterwards). She didn't seek any medical attention for sti's or other problems. She did not report it to police.
I already have trust issues, and this is the third time she's gone to Germany in the almost 3 years we have been dating, and I thought she might have cheated the first trip.
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Think my girlfriend is making something up to cover for cheating on me in Germany.
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t3_1b3h3r
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Advice
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Didn't get the girl, and it ended up wing a good thing! (Story in description)
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So I decided after a full TWO YEARS that I would finally ask this girl out, she's super nice, loves animals, blah blah blah, you get the picture. But after we figure out I'm going to pick her up and we'll go to Applebee's, my mom reminds me about asking her parents first (I totally forgot that part, doh!). And when I asked her about that sort of agreement, she brings up that her mom said she can't date until she's out of the house. I'm not sure when she was planning on telling me this, or if she was going to, but I feel like a had the best bullet dodge ever. So I learned that I will ALWAYS ask the parents, especially the father first.
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ALWAYS ask the parents first before you ask a girl out.
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t3_18icnf
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BreakUps
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Why am I still thinking about her? [M] 22
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Here I am, 3:38 AM, 3 years after getting dumped by a girl who by all logic, I should never have been with in the first place. We seemed to have little in common now that I think about it, but we were in love for almost 2 years. Suddenly, she's gone, running off with my "friend," giving me **zero** closure. I have a new girlfriend now, (when she's around, I don't think of her, unless I'm thinking something like, "wow, your so much better than my ex because...") but I still stop and stare at pictures of her if I come across them (before I delete them obviously). I still think she's absolutely gorgeous. Her looks haunt me. She has that impossible body, super tiny waist, big boobs, amazing eyes and face. I'm so mad at how she hurt me, but I long for the feeling of when we were together, but why? I really think she's an awful, cowardly, manipulative person. Please explain this to me.
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I **hate** my ex, but I can't stop thinking about her and getting all worked up over it, 3 years later.
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t3_vjmjh
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Parenting
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I'm at my wits end with my 3 year old. She refuses to touch her dinner all. the. time.
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My 3 year old daughter will be 4 in August. She has a history of NEVER eating her dinner. Very rarely she will eat. She'll eat hot dogs, sometimes chicken nuggets, never a cheeseburger (she'll pick off bread from the bun) or chicken or pork or meatloaf or anything else I try. She won't touch mashed potatoes or mac and cheese, but thank heavens she'll eat broccoli and corn, so that's what I try to stick with when I REALLY need her to eat something.
This is ONLY at dinner. Breakfast is great. Lunch is okay. Dinner is terrible. We eat dinner at 6. I pushed back our afternoon snack to 2:30, and by dinner she and her sister are practically starving (I thought moving the snack time would help her eat, but nope.) I try to include her. She helps me pick out what we eat for dinner, then she still wouldn't eat it. I try to get her to help me cook dinner, she isn't interested. She was excited the first couple of times, then just didn't care. I've sat with her and tried to talk with her ("How about you eat *half* of your pork and your potatoes?" "No!"), didn't work. I tried having her sit there alone until she had to take her bath and go to bed, didn't work. I tried saving her dinner and giving it to her at breakfast, didn't work. Tried cutting her snacks all day, still nothing.
I've taken toys, movies, books, trips to see friends, all of it, and it still isn't working. I realize she's young and this is her power-struggle, but this is driving me nuts. She hardly touches a thing. I don't know if I should just give up and let this continue until it stops, or if I should try something a little more drastic.
I don't know what to do. She's only 3, almost 4, is it too harsh to try a much longer time out than her usual 5 minutes? I just don't know.
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My 3 year old daughter refuses to touch her dinner every night with very few exceptions. No way of including her or punishments I have been able to think up are working. Not sure if I should just give up and keep going on the way we're going or if I should try a harsher punishment or different diet or ANYTHING.
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t3_1b2bjz
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travel
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Help exchange... Can I trust it?
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It seems too good to be true. Yes, some locations will suck in terms of trying to go see the sites, but we plan to use it for a week or two at a time and then travel or do weekend trips.
I guess my main concern is that the site is a fake and my girlfriend and I will actually find no work. Can you share with me your experiences with it? can I trust the hosts summaries I see? Is it a good idea or is there something better? Large concern is we will be on a budget and we need to know to either work over the summer to get money for Europe or spend some of our time there doing Help Exchange and couchsurf to ease the costs!
Thanks! Talking with real people is always better than reading reviews (even if the reviews say help exchange is good)
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I have trust issues and worry about going to Europe or planning something and it falling apart.
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t3_2qb3ll
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relationships
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I [19M] lied to my trust issed best friend [F20], need help fixing this.
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Alright, my best friend has trust issues with just people in general. It takes a lot for her to believe anything I say and this morning I did something I usually never do and I lied to her.
Before I start the story let me say my friend hates my ex girlfriend with a passion. She wants me to have nothing to do with her, and for awhile I didn't. I was getting over her. About 3 days ago I became friends with a girl named Trista. She was cool and we were hanging out and becoming close, but were still just friends. This morning I went to go see my ex girlfriend and while I was there we hooked up.
Now me and my best friend, Kate, tell each other pretty much everything, so I messaged her saying I got laid and we should celebrate (We usually tell each other when we get laid, it's stupid, but it's tradition) and then she asked "who" I panicked, knowing she hates my ex and I'd only get her pissed off I used Trista as a scapegoat . Then came the questioning "That's weird, didn't you just meet her?" and this and that, I eventually caved in and told her the truth, she didn't take it too well and did what she always does when she's pissed:
- Denied being mad (when she's really furious)
- Said she didn't care (when she really does)
- And told me to do whatever I wanted and how she was "tired of
hearing about my shit."
Not knowing how to deal with this I called my friend and asked him for help. He told me to just leave her alone for a bit, and message her later today, cause there was nothing I could do. So I listened and told her I'd message her later, she had no problem with that. And now I don't know what to do. Guilt is eating me up inside and I'm worried that she'll never believe anything I tell her, I also don't know what I'm gonna say to her when the time comes to message her. Please help me Reddit.
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Lied to my trust issued best friend about sleeping with a girl when I really slept with the hated ex, now I need help to save my ass.
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t3_3xr5lj
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relationships
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Why am I [27/F] always cheated on and thrown aside and easily forgotten?
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Every man I have ever dated has cheated on me in one form or other. I typically go for the nerdy type which I didn't think would do this to me, because they always seem so sweet in the beginning and we have so much in common.
My first college boyfriend actually cheated on me with 4 women and a guy.
My second one did not call it cheating but I did. He would constantly hang out with my roommate when I was gone and once we broke up he asked her out and now they are married.
(Between these two guys was a guy who was different, not really the nerdy type - a Navy guy. We were not official but he made me believe we could be and treated me like I was special so I was just waiting for us to become exclusive, and he told me that he was single because his girlfriend had to go back to New York. I later found out that they had never broken up.)
My third was a guy who never would have done this, but then his personality changed when I left for the summer and he started Tindering (but thankfully didn't have a meet up) and talking about wanting to have sex with and looking at the nude modelings of his waitresses at the Tittybar he often visited. Which isn't physically cheating but it was in my opinion mentally cheating.
When I get into a relationship I fall hard and fast. I am a very sweet girl, I don't cuss, I am honest, and I try to make the relationships fun (outings and vacations) and always treat them right and do sweet things for them. I am a gift giver so I like to give some small gifts when I can afford them, and enjoy sharing their passions and teaching them mine.
Maybe a downside is that I always want to spend time with them, but I always encourage them to make time for their friends as well.
I am just so tired of being hurt, and every time I am I am cast aside so easily and replaced quickly.
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Why do I always get hurt and cheated on by guys when I am a sweet person?
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t3_esw8b
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AskReddit
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My cousin just took her US Naturalization oath today. What's a good gift I can give her to welcome her to US Citizenship?
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Also, what should I tell her about the rights/responsibilities/privileges that she now has? Also, if anyone has any experience with applying for a US Passport immediately after taking Naturalization, I'd love to hear your stories. We need it for a trip to India at the end of January. We have an appointment at the Passport Agency on Tuesday, and would love to get our passport the same day. We need to take it to the Indian embassy to get a new visa, and that itself is a headache for former Indian nationals (you need to get a cancellation certificate of your old Indian passport), you have to apply for an 'Entry Visa' instead of a 'Tourist Visa' that non-Indians get (and even children of former Indians can now only get the 'Entry Visa.')
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What's a good gift for a newly minted US Citizen? Anyone have any experience with getting a new US Passport ASAP?
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t3_2ty18o
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AskReddit
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Looking to relocate to the Western United States. Can you help by giving your opinions and experiences??
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My wife and I are looking at moving out west. A little back story we moved from Colorado Springs, CO to Charleston, SC about a year ago and we are looking to move back west. I haven't been to a whole lot of places out west and really just need some good advice and opinions of where to look. We would like a good city life, with good public transportation, and of course mountains near for skiing/snowboarding.
I have been contemplating somewhere back in Colorado, Salt Lake City, UT, Seattle, WA, Portland, OR, Jackson, WY, Possibly Great Falls, MT, or Boise, Idaho? I would also entertain the idea of British Columbia, Canada if it isn't that crazy hard to have dual citizenship.
What are your guy's opinions and experiences in these places? Please don't hold back!
Thanks a lot!
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What's the best place out west to raise a family and ski/snowboard
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t3_18dvhs
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Cooking
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Why does my pasta always come out bland?
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I'm pretty new to cooking, for the most part, but I've had a few successes by going strictly by the recipes and amounts instructed. I love pasta, and what I've been trying to do is to play around with very basic, "eyeballed" pasta recipes, instead of strictly reading from measurements. For example, I saw a comment the other day that described a very, very simple pasta recipe with only a few ingredients:
* Spaghetti/Linguini
* Butter
* Parmigiano-reggiano cheese
* Black pepper
Cook the pasta, mix in the rest. Simple, right? Apparently not. I cooked the pasta perfectly, tossed in what seemed like an appropriate amount, mixed in a few handfuls of the shredded cheese, a few pinches of black pepper, and... it tasted like cooked pasta. I might as well have added *nothing* in there.
So I tossed in more cheese, a little more butter, a pinch of salt. Still, nothing.
I dumped the rest of the damn cheese into the pasta, gave it a bit more black pepper and finally I... tasted trace amounts of cheese and perhaps a little butter flavor.
I'm always very wary about going crazy with any kind of flavoring or spices, because it's so easy to ruin a dish that way, but it seems like - unless I dump an entire bottle of seasoning into my pasta, making it taste like a giant ball of gross, spicy noodles - I can't get my pasta to taste like *anything* other than just pasta.
Has anyone else had this problem? It's got to be the amounts, right? Is there some kind of proportional rule-of-thumb I can use to know how much I should put in pasta based on the amount of pasta there is?
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How do I find a happy medium between plain, cooked pasta and a pot overflowing with black pepper and seasoning?
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t3_4it45i
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college
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I could really use a second opinion on two colleges I need to make a decision over
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My dream is to study computer science, however I was rejected from that major at UT Austin (still admitted to the university however). I was admitted at WashU St. Louis for that major but only at full tuition price. I could either a). Go to UT and transfer into their math or electrical engineering program (the computer science major is impacted so transferring into that major is not happening) and pay in state tuition or b). Enroll at WashU for computer science but only at full tuition. I know UT sounds like the more reasonable option but my issue right now is if I enroll in UT I'm gambling in the sense that transferring into math and engineering isn't a guarantee so if I don't get into either program I could be screwed. Also I feel like I would be settling for a math or electrical engineering major when my dream is computer science. Does anyone have any suggestions?
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rejected from major at cheaper school but still admitted to the school. Should I settle for a different major at the cheaper school or go to a more expensive school for my desired major?
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t3_2sdcpr
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relationships
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[25/M] What do you do when it feels like your only friend is bad for your health and you're at fault
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I moved last year but hasn't gone too well on the social front. I've never been great at maintaining friendships (I'd been working overseas for the last 3 years and basically came back to the USA with zero social network outside of family), and while I've tried my best to get out there, I'd define most of the people I know socially more as acquaintances. The type we'd get together for on a large gathering but no in private/individual basis; except for one person. One person who would actually ask me how I'm doing and invite me out to events.
But sometimes she makes me incredibly anxious. She lives a busy life and I know it but sometimes we'll be having a text conversation and she'll drop off for a few days, and the longer it is, the more anxious I get while waiting for a response from her. I know this isn't how a friendship should work. Of course she's not aware of this at all but I know there's absolutely no real reason to tell her, she is how she is and I doubt any of her other friends deal with this kind of internal issue.
In a way, I just want to cut her out and take the lonely road (for now) because the anxiety gets too much sometimes. On the other hand, I obviously don't want to lose what amounts to basically my only friend.
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I suck at friendships; only friend makes me anxious by my own damn fault.
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t3_2qxxzl
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relationships
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Me [21 M] with [20 F] friend and housemate (her ex) [21 M], How do we approach the subject of us dating with him?
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Hi everyone,
I have been talking to this girl (L) a lot recently, we talk on the phone for hours and it feels like there's so much chemistry. We met in person when she was with my housemate (R) for about 7 weeks when they broke it off. She said that she didn't feel like it was a relationship, they didn't get on and he wouldn't be intimate with her.
I asked her out on Christmas day (cheesy I know) and she said yes and that she had been thinking about saying something to me for a while.
It's the Christmas holidays (we're both university students) so we haven't been able to meet up but we've talked on the phone for hours every night and message constantly. Recently we started video calling and we both still feel as happy and comfortable as before.
It's a week and a half until we can meet up for the first time and L has said that she wants to speak to R in person to tell him what's going on because it will probably be a bit awkward for a while.
I'm leaving it up to her to say something but do you guys think I should say something aswell? R and I have been friends over the 3 years that we have been at uni and I don't believe he will be angry. I'm just not sure what to do. I haven't been in a relationship for a while and I'm not sure if there's some kind of protocol to follow in this type of situation.
Any advice on how we could manage this would be very appreciated.
Thanks!
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Planning on getting with roommate's ex, want to know how to approach the subject/situation with him.
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t3_3klofp
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relationship_advice
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How would I [20M] avoid giving the wrong signals to a girl [18F].
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So I have known this girl for a week now and hit it off pretty well. She's cute, smart, and funny and we click well together. The past week I've been getting to know her through grabbing lunch (Note we are both college students) or meeting at the library to study. Now it should be noted that my intentions in this relationship have changed a bit. Last Friday we met at a party and I went into it with the initial intention of getting laid. At the end of the night I got the kiss but didn't try to escalate because I felt she didn't want to. I saw her the next night at a football game and hung out with her some more, still getting to know her. Then during the week I fucked up by getting to know her, slowly escalating through activities couples would do as mentioned earlier. The issue is I'm just not ready for a relationship now. Now obviously I have sent out the wrong signals, I understand that. We are both attracted to each other and she's enjoyable to be around so how do I make clear I'm looking for a FWB not a relationship?
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How do I deescalate what could turn into a relationship into a FWB or just friends situation?
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t3_x45s5
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relationships
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22[M] feeling emotionally distant from 21[F] SO
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For the 3 years of our 4 year relationship, I was head-over-heels for this girl, but she was not really as into the relationship as I was and she ended up breaking it off. After a year long break, we started talking again and decided to get back together, but this time she's the one that's more emotionally invested and I feel increasingly detached. She's been wonderful to me this time around, and if I felt what I used to feel for her, we would have a great relationship. But I'm worried that I'll never fall back in love with her, that I've moved on, even though I still care for her. Is there any way to nurture those feelings that I once had? What should I do?
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Fell out of love, am concerned I won't feel the same about her again.
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t3_jlzql
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self
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Left the "Nest" and scared out of my mind.
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Hi Reddit, I've been needing to say something, but I haven't really got anybody to say it to. Despite the fact that it's unlikely this will be a post people respond to, it's nice to have a general "someone" to talk to.
I just left home for the first time (apart from dorm living) to move one state away. I'm applying for jobs, and living with my boyfriend, who I've only been dating for a month. Probably not the very wisest move, but it's going very well and I am trying my best to be cognizant of issues that might arise and head them off with discussion. I thought everything out long and hard before I did this, and I took the step knowing I could return home at any time without any real financial consequences or risks to my plan for the future. My parents were understandably not pleased, but let me go and are helping me as much as they can. I am, to put it simply, not even very independent at all. My boyfriend is supporting me, my parents are offering support, there are tons of people to come to my rescue at the slightest problem.
Nevertheless, I can't relax. I don't know if it was because of the days of dire warnings my parents gave, or perhaps due to the fact that if anyone else in my family knew they would be ashamed of me, but this decision still feels like the end of the world. I moved in successfully, I'm having a great time and the job hunt is going very well, but I am still in constant terror thinking the sky is going to crack open because I did something that my "elders" did not completely sign off on.
This is bigger than anything I've ever done, and I'm scared shitless, Reddit. I'm trying to remind myself that in the grand scheme of things, this little move is negligible. It's not even permanent, I have a set date that I am moving back in with my parents to finish school.
Is it normal to be freaking out this much? Further, is it valid? SHOULD I be as scared as I am, is it really a big deal?
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I am probably way too anxious.
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t3_3gbrud
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jobs
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Changed mind about job I'm supposed to start on Monday.
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Reddit, I need help.
I recently interviewed and accepted a job at a local office. A very good friend of mine suggested I apply for the job (a receptionist position), so I did. The hiring director repeatedly suggested that I was overqualified but eventually hired me anyway after I assured him that I would enjoy the work.
Well... I'm supposed to start Monday. I really am overqualified for the job. I have a degree and am a master's student. Today I was unexpectedly offered my dream job in a town I love one state over. I've already decided that I will live in regret if I don't take the second offer. Even if that job falls through, the whole thing has made me realize how very much I need a change. I don't want to live here anymore, and I'm really not cut out to be a receptionist.
But.... I feel horrible about backing out of an offer at the VERY last minute. I'm supposed to work Monday! How do I handle this situation? My friend will hate me. I mean... Do I suck it up and work for a while? What do you suggest?
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accepted job that I will be miserable at, but that my best friend recommended me for, only to have an amazing and unexpected offer pop up out of nowhere. Not sure how to handle this.
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t3_d8ouq
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AskReddit
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What's your best (worst) story of a romantic moment where the mood was stupidly ruined?
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Being christians, my wife and I had very limited physical contact throughout our dating/engagement -- no sex, obviously. This made the wedding day (and night!) very special. So we get married, everyone we love is there, the day is going fantastic. But at the reception, the cheap restaurant we had rented for the evening had an equally cheap house pianist. After a while, my friends realized this guy was just playing pre-recorded crap from his keyboard! It gave the whole evening a surrealist twist which I enjoyed. He was a lousy singer, the whole thing was kinda kitsch... Picture a 53-year old Eastern European in an outdated blazer who is enjoying himself a lot. We let him be. Despite the fact that, whenever my wife and I would kiss, he would play (a pre-recorded version of) "Jesus Christ Superstar". Every time we kissed. Like a surrealist running gag.
In the weeks before the wedding, I had recorded a love song to my wife for the first dance. When the time comes, everyone is just in awe of this beautiful moment where two lovebirds in a warm embrace are celebrating their love with their loved ones. Fabulous, exponential love. Most romantic moment of my life. I'm holding my wife closely, and as the song finishes, we get closer and closer, and right when our lips gently meet and everything is quiet, we hear the keyboard blowing through the speakers, with this silly song, once again. I froze in a fantastic state of disbelief. Surrealism had bitten back. I turned to the pianist, heavily signaling to cut the crap. And then I burst out with laughter.
The pianist did not touch his piano for the rest of the evening... It's been 7 years, and everyone at my wedding remembers this guy.
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First dance on my wedding day was ruined by kitsch pianist.
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t3_2ckcjq
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relationships
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I [21 M] no longer love my SO [20 F] but her mother is dying.
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We have been dating for about 10 months. Her mother was diagnosed with cancer a few months back. We've always had a good relationship, we've had a lot of fun and laughs even despite her mother's illness, and I was able to help her through some bad emotional times that she has had dealing with her mother's illness.
That was up until a few weeks ago, when I started to realize that I didn't love her anymore. I'm a fairly independent person and didn't expect to be in the relationship for as long as its been. I was contemplating when to break it off with her...when she learned that her mother didn't have long to live. Like around a couple months.
Obviously this news has been extremely hard on her and I've done everything I could to ease her pain, but my feelings for her are still gone. The last thing I want to do is burden her with a break-up on top of everything else but...I don't want to be with her anymore either (and I know she still cares about me a lot). I know how selfish that is of me to think but it's constantly on my mind how I might be held back by this girl (who is a complete sweetheart and deserves everything) as I'm trying to start my life outside of college.
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Gf's mother is dying, but I don't love her anymore and don't want to be in a relationship...any advice?
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t3_1mf0ur
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relationships
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Just broke up with my (19f) boy friend (21m) of a year.. devastated and extremely upset.. I deserved it though.. cheating and lies ensued.
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We've been rocky for the last month or so, and this morning we broke up. I have to say, I am either the best girl friend (dependence-wise) or the worst girl friend (clingy, insecure etc).
I really, really fucked up.
I had, what I will call now, a minor drug problem with coke, which evolved probably a few months after getting serious with him. I knew he hated it and I would hide it from him. One night I did the absolute worst thing I could have done: I got really high and slept with one of his best friends.. in his fucking house. I, and his friend, kept it a secret for 8 months (until today). It didn't last long before we stopped and said it was wrong. This secret ate me alive inside day after day. I told myself I would only tell my ex when we were going to break up for good. And that's what I did.
Other things have happened too, but this was the worst, by far.
His friend won't admit it happened, and the rest of his friends all think I lied to hurt my now ex even worse.
Now please, before you are quick to judge, and tell me I deserve to be broken up with, I have never regretted cheating more than this day. I feel like the biggest sack of shit, and I am just fucking empty inside. Seeing him cry like when I told him, everything inside me went dead.
I guess, through this post, I am not looking for sympathy or for you to tell me how horrible I am, I know what a piece of shit move that was and I didn't deserve him for those 8 months after. But I would like advice from others who have also lost a relationship due to them cheating, and how they felt during and after.. I really need some help.. advice.. relation with other people.. I feel empty, dead, and I almost still can't believe this actually happened. I've never wished more than to turn back time and just fucking change.
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I cheated on my now ex boy friend of a year with his best friend in his own house.
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t3_1cxzzd
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relationship_advice
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Trying to pick up where a conversation left off
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So there's a girl in my English class (19), and I (18M) pretty much let her know that I think she's really awsome and I asked her to dinner last Thursday. She said she had plans, so I went with it and asked for her number, she willingly obliged, and I was able to help direct her to the office she needed to go to.
We started texting a lot about what she likes, where she's from, what we prefer with regard to music/food/etc. Now I've got pretty much nothing to lose from this, and I'm hoping it ends up as just a fun date. No big deal if it ends before it starts, but I'd like to at least attempt to get her out on a date.
The dilemma: She's not very great at texting. She seemed to start to kill the conversation towards our second day of extensive texting. It would be just simple things like "hahaha that's funny." And I'd usually follow up and try to carry the conversation. We started asking random
questions and she didn't respond to one at all, so I figured it might be a sign she's trying to end it. Sent her another later that I figured she'd respond to. Still nothing. 3 days later and I'm still racking my brain at if I've done anything, and how to actually bring myself back into the picture.
^^^maybe ^^^send ^^^600 ^^^emails ^^^(´・ω・`)
Like I said, I've got nothing to lose, and it isn't a huge deal... except she's ridiculously good looking and really bright.
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Got girl's number, she seemed interested, started texting, not responding
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t3_f5kei
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relationships
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1.5 Year Relationship turns sexless in early 20s?
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I started dating my current girlfriend in my mid college days. We started out great and made some deep personal connections.
I really believe we have made each other into better people since we started dating. She was a virgin out of sexual ignorance and apprehension and is now as sexually knowledgeable and potentially functional as anyone else her age. She has also gotten considerably more attractive in the past year of dating, losing about 30 pounds and getting really fit.
She taught me a lot about myself and has helped me work through some pretty big flaws.
Here is the issue. Despite my continued adoration of her and desire to please, she now (and has been for the past 5 months or so) brushes off 95% of my romantic advances. This is not just limited to sex. Making out, cuddling, non-penetrative sex acts, even hand holding all seem to bother her.
She acts very much like she doesn't enjoy intimacy, often being passive aggressive when I am upset at yet another rejection. On many occasions where we are intimate, the act consists of me spending 30+ minutes on her with no reciprocation (if I even suggest the idea she acts indignant, roles away from me and falls asleep claiming that "you could just give yourself an orgasm whenever you want anyway." We have had very candid discussions on several occasions about this. She has said that on many occasions she had "just had sex with [me] to appease [me]" and that "[she] didn't really have any interest".
I am in as good or better shape as when we met and have not let myself go in any way. I see her every day and make romantic (sexual and non sexual) comments and actions towards her every day. I am not the perfect boyfriend, but I don't see any reason in particular why a girl who cared for me and who was sexually normal would avoid me like this and have never had this problem with past relationships.
It has now gotten to a point where I am essentially the only sexual person in the relationship. It hurts me to see our relationship going this way but I cannot see it making it in the long run.
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Like most everything about a girl but she has no sexual interest in me anymore and is sexually selfish when she does display interest. Anything I should try and do to fix or should I just move on?
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t3_orl8i
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relationships
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Should I tell my GF about this incident? (Details inside)
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Hey guys I'll make this short and sweet for you guys - we're both 18 years old and have been dating for about 3 months now officially, but seeing eachother for about 5 months now. We're seniors in highschool.
**Backdrop:** Right now she's in the Ukraine for a month to work out some dual citizenship thing. She's been gone for about two weeks now and we've been constantly skyping, texting, and calling despite the time difference
**The Dilema:**I told her I was going to a party of one of our friends and at first she protested claiming that I was sick a week ago and it wasn't good for my immune system (there would be alcohol there), we playfully argued about it for a bit and she eventually said she was fine with it, but I should still text her throughout the night - I agreed.
So throughout the night I kept texting her, but while I was there, and friend of mine (that's a girl) kept talking about how *I should break up with her and how she hated the fact I had a girlfriend*...she's not the nicest drunk. Either way she kept encouraging me to drink more and more until the point she said *"we should sleep together! not like sleep sleep, just sleep together!"*
And so I did. Nothing sexual happened at all. Clothes were still on and everything. I would compare it to brothers on a hotel bed.
So my question is: **should I tell my girlfriend about this incident?** I don't think it's a big deal, but I feel like it would be better coming from me then someone who witnessed it. On the otherhand, I wouldn't be very stoked if I found out my girlfriend had slept with another guy, even just as friends.
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I went to sleep in the same bed with a friend of mine that's a girl. Nothing happened between us, we just slept. Both girls don't like eachother very much - Should I tell my girlfriend?
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t3_4ealhu
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relationships
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I [23m] struggle with comforting my SO [22f]
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I have been with my SO for a little over 3 years now and we have a wonderful baby girl together (little over 2 months old). I have struggled with comforting my SO throughout our relationship and this has caused quite a few strains on us as a couple.
Basically I am really messing things up between us by the way I attempt to comfort her and I am searching for an alternative way to go about this without making the situation worse. I want to be able to give immediate support and attempt to comfort her right away as I deeply care about her.
When she gets upset she tends to close herself off. I do attempt to ask her what is going on and try to physically comfort her. She does not like this as I take too long to get to this point, I have issues with anxiety and clam up really bad when she gets unhappy. This causes me to have a major delay in all reactions that I give her, including not really being able to say anything. I also struggle with getting her to say what is upsetting her so I often don't know what is wrong. By the time I am actively trying to comfort her she is beyond upset and no longer wants me to attempt to rectify the situation. She has explained to me that she does not like the ways I attempt to comfort her and from her viewpoint I don't try at all (I try my hardest every time).
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What are some alternative comfort measures when dealing with someone you care about that is upset?
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t3_1mlk41
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relationships
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How do I tell if my (23M) and this girl (22F)s relationship is more than friends?
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I will preface this with I'm not very experienced in the casual dating scene. I admit I really don't know how it works.
Anyway, this girl and I went to college together and recently found each other again after I moved to her area. She comes over on Sundays to watch breaking bad and we've grabbed dinner a couple times over the last month.
Just yesterday she asked me to a baseball game, only me and her. I feel like a high schooler but I don't know her that well and I really can't read into whether or not she sees us as just friends or if we're going on dates in a casual manner.
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Is it a date or an outing between friends?
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t3_541dej
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relationships
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My SO(18F) and I(21M) just broke up. Looking for advice, tips, personal stories, jokes, anything is greatly appreciated!
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Im an emotional wreck, and typing this out has helped me calm down tremendously. I require your guys help to get through this. I've never felt so emotionally lost.
Me and my girlfriend of 2 and a half years just split up today. I know that we are both young but that doesn't change the fact of how heavy this breakup weighs on me. We spent literally EVERY second We had available together. I know for a fact there arent that many couples that have retained a level of intimacy that we had managed to keep for so long, but look where it ended... We both thought we were going to marry soon and end up sticking with each other one way or another, as immature and stupid as it may sound.
I will spare you all the details but basically she and I both have personal issues-myself with anger management, her with sex addiction and other underlying issues that caused her to act out(was seeing a 37 year old tourist looking dude for 4 months behind my back) and I guess the problems have finally surfaces in our relationship and we've agreed that seeking professional help for our issues would be best.
We are going to remain friends and plan on going to therapy together and separately. The hardest part for me is that I can say that I still love her unconditionally, but she no longer shares the same connection. Hoping one day, in the future, once our issues are resolved, we will get back together once again, starting over in a new, non-toxic relationship.
Peeps of Reddit, do you have any advice to weigh in with? How many of you out there have been able to successfully rekindle a once broken relationship? I'd do anything and everything, but I also want the best for her and if that means leaving her be, then so be it... Thank you for your time Reddit
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Broke off relationship of 2 and a half years due to toxicity. Heartbroken, but trying to have a positive outlook. What advice or words can you pass onto me, Reddit?
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t3_4ybxlw
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relationships
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Me [25 M] with my Girlfriend [22 F] of six months want's a break because I'm not ready to say I love you..
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So we have been dating for 6 months. I've had 2 shitty relationships and she has been in a couple relationships.
Normally she is friends with a guy and by the time they eventually date, he is head over heels and she just needs to catch up.
Now we come to the issue, she want's to say it and seems to be worried that I don't feel the same about her, even though I've explained that I feel it but not comfortable saying it, I don't even say it to my family etc.
She texted me after an argument about this last night to tell me she needs a break.
Honestly, I'm all sorts of pissed that she says she cares about me but can't call me to discuss this properly and secondly because she unilaterally made this decision when I've repeatedly asked for some patience.
Now I don't want to force someone to be with me if they don't want too but it feels like it's now a say it or that's it situation.
Am I wrong but I'm definitely very confused.
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She wan't to say it but doesn't want the awkardness.. I love her but haven't been ready to say it yet. She want's a break. Thoughts?
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t3_2hwdx0
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relationships
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Me [24M], her [23F], I like her, but I'm scared, Gone out a few times
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Thanks in advance everyone!
Anyways, I'm 24, she's 23, Last time we had any contact was 6 years ago in high school, She wouldn't give me the time of day then, but now she said yeah let's go out. I like her… A lot. She's really nice, and sweet, and makes me laugh and all that warm fuzzy stuff, and every time we're by ourselves it's always a fun time, no sex, but just a fun time together. Introduced her to my friends and they all like her too, I think lol. I got hurt pretty bad at work, and my sister in law kinda made it awkward by telling her all sorts of stuff about my life, stuff I didn't want her to know.
Now after that happened she will text me every now and then, not like it was, which I understand we both work during the day and stuff like that which is cool so gotta earn money to have fun and stuff, but now when we do spend time together she doesn't want to do it with just me anymore. For instance last night I went to my friends house, I texted her hey how are you, and stuff like that, ask what she's doing that night, nothing too serious, well she shows up and it felt kinda awkward. I don't know how to ask her what's going on or anything like that.
I know it was nothing serious which is cool, it's taken me two and a half years to be comfy talking to women again let alone asking if they wanted to go out and do something, but just trying to figure it out.
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I like her, but I'm scared to see if she likes me too or if we are just friends. I don't want to ruin the friendship and make things bad.
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t3_3llxfs
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relationships
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I (22/f) wants friends to hang out with, but not sure where to even start
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I'll try to keep this as short as possible. I've always had friends, usually from school, but the past few years I have less and less of them. Either it be from growing apart, fights, or just too much distance because of people moving and going away to college.
I go to college right now, but I am taking all online classes for my degree (it's cheaper and allows me to be able to work more) so I don't really go to campus often.
I have a boyfriend who I usually hang out with but he is away at college 10 hours away. It sucks.
Especially while he is away, I just want people to hang out or go out to bars with. The some friends I do have still are either always busy with other plans or just too tired to hang/go out.
My question is simply this: how do I make friends? The people in the area I am from kinda get freaked out from random people going up to talk to them (I've seen that on different articles I've searched about this) so that really isn't a great option.
I feel like a loser writing this, lol, but I know I need to go out more and I have no one to do it with.
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don't have friends to hang/ go out with and having trouble to figuring out how to make new/more friends
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t3_30lv10
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relationships
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I am confused as fuck
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I am a 20 year old male, and have a female friend who's 21. We started hanging out 3 years ago, but lately things have changed.
I have been feeling that she doesn't like being around me, I always see her happy with everyone but she has such a shitty mood when around me.
I started feeling angry at her, thinking deeply in how her personality has changed a lot and now she doesn't even care about me. I have been dealing with this for 8 months.
But now, in my birthday, despite of the awful relationship status and blocking me when I try to say that I love her (Of course I do, we all love our most close friends) she surprised me in private with a fucking cake and everything. She struggles to have money but still she went for this and now i don't know what to do or how should I feel.
I have been feeling that I should send people to go fuck themselves because they make me feel lonely and sad as fuck, and she was one of them until now. On top of that, i have been feeling numb and empty and my days are now gray and dull. Now she does this and my feelings for her have returned because it means so much to me. What do I do?
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Op is male 20, fem friend is 21, relationship is bad for months. I feel angry. I want to go trough her. In my birthday she hugs me and gives me a fucking cake. What should I do?
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t3_301hcc
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relationships
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Me [24 M] with my [20 F] girlfriend, she just told me she has a child
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okay. so today I am shocked , confused and completely overtaken by the situation.
I love my girlfriend very very much, and planned to marry her in the future. although she has completely different tastes than mine (she likes parties, I hate them. she hates fantasy, I love it and live for it).
today she just said she has a dark past she needs to tell me. so she started by saying she had sex with a boy in high school (I never had sex with past relationships because I believe in sex after marriage) but i was ok with it. after all I wanted to remain a virgin until marriage, not her.
but then she goes on and tells me, the boy she introduced as her brother, is actually her son from that relationship in which the guy just baled after hearing from pregnancy. he (his son) is officially his brother, but she doesn't plan to let it stay like that and says she loves him ( i would never ask her to anyway, thats too cruel for the child).
but then there is me, and I can't support a child. nor emotionally or monetarily. so although i was ok to break all my "perfect girl" rules for her. I'm completely overtaken by this one and yeah i need help.
also it has not been really long into the relationship. but I like to plan ahead and I don't ever go into a relationship that I don't want marriage for. yeah most of the time it doesn't lead to it. but if i know I can't marry her why bother stay.
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My GF told me her brother is her son. what should i do.
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t3_o0f6s
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Advice
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Ex stole lots of valuables for drug money -- can this go to court?
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Without getting too far into the details of the why's and how this all came to be....I had to leave a guy for doing heroin behind my back, and refusing to stop. He had a key to my parents' house where I was staying, because he had built a deck with my dad some time ago. Towards the end of our relationship, when I started noticing unusual behaviors, things started going missing. For instance, He had come over and I had $300 of tip money in a drawer...later, after he was gone, I noticed all the money was gone. After the break up, he went batshitcrazy and broke into the house at night (via windows, despite having a key-- drugs, man), tried to kill me, then himself, police involved, yada yada yada. He moved to Idaho with his mom shortly after to presumably escape trials and stuff.
Now, to my question. A little bit after, my mom noticed her engagement ring, diamond earrings, and some cash were all gone from her dresser. We've searched up and down and it is definitely not in the house. After speaking to some of his friends, I learned that he had recently bought a lot of really expensive heroin right before the craziness happened, and it seems really obvious that he must have stolen my mother's things.
Because I have a police report of him breaking and entering, is there anyway to sue him for money to replace my mom's engagement ring? Since he's in Idaho now, do I need to report it to police there?
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Ex stole my mother's engagement ring (among other things) for heroin money. We have a police report of him breaking and entering; can we sue him for money to replace the ring?
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t3_27bfl3
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relationships
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One of my closest friends [26/M] and I [23/F] have great chemistry. He doesn't want to take the risk of losing our friendship. I do.
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So, its not that I don't care about our friendship. It's just that I think we could be so great together. I've never had this sort of chemistry with anyone. So to me, it is worth the risk.
I know he is interested because we drunkenly made out a few weeks ago. And he kind of fell back for a few days, which is when I found out that he was hesitant to pursue anything with me due to concern of ruining our friendship.
So, here's the deal. I don't want to go out of his way to pressure him into pursuing anything with me, so like I won't go ask him on a date. I'll continue on with our friendship. However, because I know he is interested in me, I want to 'playfully' begin the process of seducing him and see if I can slowly over time change his mind. Does anyone have any advice on how I would go about doing this? Like I said, I don't want to just jump his bones and demand he date me, for that would surely eliminate both options of staying friends and dating. But I do want to make some subtle moves to maybe plant the seed that he may want to take the risk one day.
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Trying to subtlety seduce my close friend without coming off too strong and adding too much pressure. Any fun, playful, or subtle ways to do this?
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t3_2f6hvy
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tifu
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TIFU by being a gentleman.
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So this happened about an hour ago while I was returning home from coaching via the metro.
So I listening to some legendary Dream Theater and thus was wearing my ear phones. I really can't hear much through them, which is a good thing most of the time. I also tend to speak louder than usual when I wear them.
So, moving on. I'm standing there. Listening to The Count Of Tuscany. ( you guys should really listen to it, if you're into progressive). On my right there is this person standing. Let's call the person Robin (which is a unisex name, and you'll see the reason soon enough).
Robin was short and had a clean face. Robin was wearing a rather colorful and gay outfit seemingly Polka Dots. I didn't care much. Robin was wearing blue slippers and had long hair and I couldn't see much of Robin's face.
So, after nearly 10 minutes, Robin's stop has come. Robin said: "Excuse me." I might've heard it the second time around because Robin was really trying to get through me.
So there I fucked up. I said and quite aloud: Sure, Ma'am.
Robin looked up. Took me about 5 seconds to realize that Robin really wasn't a ma'am. Robin was a he. FML. Robin is looking deep into my soul with those tiny eyes.
There were smiles on almost on all faces I could see. Some might've even giggled. By this time, there was that long strings solo from the song. Time had paused.
Finally after a intense 10 seconds, he finally got out. I let out a sigh of relief. And I was the hero on the metro. And then I switched to playing A Nightmare To Remember.
Fellow stranger, I say to you. If you're out there, I'm really sorry.
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Excused a "ma'am" who really was a man on the metro.
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t3_3phq1a
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personalfinance
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Work won't issue me a phone and has no reimbursement program. Can I claim a phone as a tax-write off?
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Please don't take this as me trying to get my personal phone paid for by work. My current cell phone situation is I still split a family plan with my parents, and don't intend to get rid of that phone, I call them frequently and we all appreciate the unlimited minutes between each other. I also want to keep that phone as my "personal" while separating it from a "work" phone (in case of any auditing). Basically the whole reason I'm prefacing this is because I don't want this to turn into some lecture on how my current way is wrong.
Basically situations have arisen where working from home is a necessity sometimes. Whether it's being on an abnormally early call (before transit starts running) or inclement weather forcing me to work from home, I've had to use a good amount of my minutes on work calls. I have no problem using my personal when WFH is by choice, but these are really piling up. Unfortunately how my reporting structure works, my day-to-day report is different than manager so the person approving doesn't see this, and we're in an end-of-year budget freeze to try to maximize profit. Is there a way I could buy a cell phone and claim it as a work expense on my taxes? What proof would I have to provide when filing, and would I need any sign-off from my company? I should also add, a landline would cost roughly the same as a Sprint unlimited plan for me.
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red-tape blocking me from getting a work-issued phone, what would be necessary for me to claim a **separate** cell phone as a business expense on my taxes?
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t3_fernz
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AskReddit
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What is the coolest way your parent/s have stood up for you?
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I have MS, Multiple Sclerosis, which in a nutshell is a disoder in which my nerves don't communictae with my brain properly.That being said...
I was in the ER with bladder retention. I was 18 years old but because of my petite frame and baby-face, looked about 15-16... and because I couldn't pee for 2 days I also looked 6-7 months preggers. While waiting for my mom to get to the ER, some lady called me a "dirty whore" who should learn to "keep her legs closed".
I didn't know how to take it. No one had talked to me like that before.
Now, my mother is a lady of great charisma, and polished grace. She is beautiful, intelligent and remarkably witty. She's the kind of woman who when walks in a room, everyone notices, and likes. She's a force of nature, and certainly not someone you would piss off. when she got to the hospital, I told her what the woman said, and Mom walked over to her and said,
"She that precious girl over there, curled into a ball and sobbing? That's my daughter, and she is not a pregnant whore. She has Multiple Sclerosis, and is suffering from bladder retention. At the moment, all she feels is pins in needles all over her body. She feels like someone is squeezing her middle which is already filled so much that if she doesn't get help soon, her kidneys could fail. She has a dibilitating disease that is quite literally killing her, and is stuck here, in this town, because the best medical staff is here. I believe that you owe her an apology." the lady mumbled a mortified "I'm sorry" and my mom said, "and if you so much as look at her again, I'll knock you out cold, you lousy bitch."
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My mom threatened to knock out a women whicle wearing a dress worth thousands, and diamonds worth more, in the middle of an ER because the lady called me a whore.
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t3_43w8yb
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relationships
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Me [ 19 F] with my friend I guess [20 M] around 2 weeks
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So I met this guy in a class of mine and we clicked instantly. I thought we would be good friends, but then two days later he texts me to ask me out. I accept, and we stay in this weird limbo for two weeks where there is the promise of a date, but we actually hadn't gone yet. Then, we went on a date. It went well, but I realized that he was kind of boring and I'm not super interested in him. I then texted him that I just wanted to be friends. Don't get me wrong, I think he's relatively good looking, but I just don't think we'd be good together.
I also do not have time to be in a relationship with anyone right now. I thought I did, but I honestly don't see the point in being with someone I'm not really interested in?
He hasn't made an effort to speak to me since?
I don't know what to do, I really want to be his friend, especially because we have a mutual friend, and because I hate knowing that he's hurt because of me.
I've never dated or kissed anyone before (lame, I know). Are my standards weird/too high?
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I want to be friends with someone I went on one date with, but he doesn't seem to want to talk to me anymore? Are my standards weird/too high?
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t3_33rwzy
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relationship_advice
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I [22/F] have a crush on my friend [22/M] and we cuddle a lot. Is it possible he likes me?
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I've known this handsome man with an awesome personality for a year. We've grown to be really good friends and we party and have deep, late-night convos together with our friends. He visits my dorm, which I share with two of our friends, everyday and we all chill for hours in our living room. I've realized that he and I sit closely next to each other a lot. I love resting my head on his shoulder and more recently I've been actually cuddling him while sitting on the couch with him (even in front of my roommates). He never seems to mind, and he's even said that he felt comfortable. When ever I have an arm or leg wrapped around him he'd caress it, which I don't think is something friends do. Is this touchiness indicative of lust/feelings?
Aside from the heavy physical contact, I appreciate his personality and sense of humor. He laughs at my jokes and we just talk about everything from personal struggles to childish things. He's said a few months back to some of my friends that I'm the prettiest girl in our group (this was before I realized I liked him). We just really click! I love being around him and he said he loves being around me (and my friends). The difference between how he treats my friends and myself is that he calls them his siblings, but he's flirty with me.
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Friend and I are really close, emotionally and physically. I like him, what might he be thinking?
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t3_3omhkd
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relationships
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Me [23 M] with my GF [22 F] 3 yrs, says we are too unalike but won't give me an answer when I ask her what our future is
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My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 yrs as of this past June. We live together and have some classes together as well. I thought things were going great but today she told me we aren't the same anymore and she doesn't love me like she used to. She says she doesn't have friends because I never want to do anything and feels like she isn't doing anything important in her life. We both are in college full time (graduate in December) and also work part time jobs.
She told me this has been bottled up for awhile and doesn't see a future with us like she used to. I told her I would work on myself and go out to meet new people and try to do more stuff but she insists that my personality is not changeable and she will always feel like I'm doing those things just to please her. When I try and ask her what she wants, she says she doesn't know. Can you guys offer some advice? Is it truly over?
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My girlfriend [22 F] told me [23 M] we aren't alike and that she doesn't love me like she used to. She wants to do more things and meet new friends but feels like I'm holding her back. When I ask her what she wants to do, she tells me she doesn't have an answer.
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t3_2a3k1o
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relationships
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i [27m] dont know if i trust my gf [26]?
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Alright so I've been with this girl for a long time, both of us have had our problems in life before we met and we've confided trust in eachother and stuff, but I don't, I cannot trust her around other guys?
I have these visions where she cheats on me, and I just simply can't trust her to not cheat and in my books that is the absolute worst thing someone can do to their SO. I feel so left out sometimes and I know it's not right because obviously everyone has their alone time and stuff but when she isn't texting me back etc. or is acting strange/hazy on details I worry. I know it isn't right but I can't change this attitude, she gives me no reason to suspect her other than a few hiccups like once she told me after the feeling was gone again that she missed her ex's friendship who ended the relationship by cheating on her?
Am I looking at it all the wrong way and should I try even harder not to worry or is it normal to have that small 'what if?' Mentality.. After all, all humans make mistakes and I know how even the most loyal people can change after some alcohol or something. I guess I'm just looking for an answer of what to do, I'm stuck :/
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gf has given no real reason to not trust her yet I can't help but not trust her around guys as cheating is the lowest thing in my books. I love her but I'm scared of getting hurt and I have vision of her cheating on me etc. just looking for whether this is normal and any tips to improve the way I look at it I suppose?
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t3_djyjj
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AskReddit
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Does anyone have a worse friends with benifits story? (NSFW)
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A throwaway for obvious reasons. I was friends with this girl from college and we became fuck buddies. We would essentially call eachother up every time we were in the mood and it worked quite well. Since school kept us busy, we didn't have to pursue real relationships and could have a release for stress and someone to talk to as well.
Anyway. She has always been very hesitant about blowjobs. Just won't do them. So I called her up and she told me we couldn't have sex because she was on her period. I always just say "okay...we'll talk later" but I was thinking maybe I could get lucky with a blowjob. I basically asked her "can we do other things" and she said yes. I thought I was golden.
I go over to her place after my last class and she suggests we take a shower. I have never had a blowjob in the shower so I agree. We are making out pretty hardcore and I think she is moving her hand down to get herself going when she pulls out a bloody tampon. Blood begins to drip down her leg and into the water and there came a foul odor of which I had never smelled before. I live in a frat house and I can deal with most odors but this was too much. I tried to hold it back but I started puking all over the shower. I had just eaten pizza unfortunately so it covered the entire bottom of the shower.
I apolgize profusely and she asks why the hell I threw up in her shower. I told her I had no idea she was going to take out her tampon and it caught me off guard. She then replies "well, how are we have to have sex when I am on my period of I have my tampon in?" Then it all clicks. I felt so incredibly dumb. The only response I could think of was "I thought you meant you were going to give me a blowjob." She then tells me to leave and I get out and walk back to my dorm in a towel carrying my clothes.
Needless to say she won't return my calls or Facebook messages.
So have at it reddit? Has anyone had it worse?
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thought i was getting a blowjob. saw a bloody tampon and it smelled so bad that I vomited in her shower and was asked to leave.
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t3_2yrrpk
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relationships
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My [19F] girlfriend of 3 months just broke up with me [22M] over text..
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I kinda saw it coming because she has been acting very distant lately, and I live about an hour away from her so we only see each other like one day a week or two. So she just texted me and said she doesn't want to be together anymore, and that hurt a lot, but I don't even know if I should text her back. Should I even respond, or what? She wasn't really mean about it or anything but at this point I'm just feeling crushed and I'm not sure how or if I should even respond. I'm not thinking in a very clear headed manner so I feel like anything I do want to say to her would just be unnecessary, to say the least, so any outside opinions would be greatly appreciated.
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girlfriend broke up via text, not sure how to respond.
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t3_409s2x
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GetMotivated
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[Tool] COIN FLIP: You have a 50% chance of winning chance of winning $150. You also have a 50% chance of losing $100. Do you take the gamble?
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Logically, the gamble is beneficial.
0.5($150) - 0.5($100) = +$25
WOO HOO! Twenty-five imaginary fucking dollars guaranteed! FUCK YEAH! Math demands you flip the motha-fucking coin!
But if we were truly rational, we wouldn't have any trouble getting and staying motivated. In reality many people aren't interested in flipping this coin because the likely possibility of losing $100 is a TERRIBLE outcome. You would be pissed to lose $100. You imagine the worse outcome, and that dissuades you from taking the risk.
**What does this mean?**
We are ***LOSS AVERSE***. Losing $20 is more emotionally **powerful** than finding $20. Getting dumped is way more emotionally **burdensome** than getting a boyfriend/girlfriend is exciting. The death of a loved one is way more emotionally **crippling** than the birth of a child is wonderful.
**SUMMARY**: We perceive losing something to be **dramatically worse** than gaining that same thing.
**How can this information help you?**
When you want to motivate yourself to something, reframe the motivation in the form of avoiding loss.
Trying to go to the gym? Don't think, "I want to go to the gym to GAIN a good body".
Think, "I want to go to the gym so I don't LOSE the body I'm trying to build".
Afraid to talk to the cute girl/guy sitting next to you on the bus?
Don't motivate yourself by saying, "She's/He's so attractive, I'd love to meet/date/slam this person"
Motivate yourself by saying, "If I don't talk to her/him, I'm going to LOSE this once in a lifetime opportunity. We may never cross paths again!"
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Humans perceive losing something to have greater emotional magnitude than gaining that identical thing. Use this to your advantage by framing your motivation as avoiding a loss rather than seeking a gain.
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t3_4auasa
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relationships
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My wife [27/f] and I [28/f] are meeting my dad's [67/m] first girlfriend after my mother's passing ~18 months ago. What should the conversation look like?
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So, I have absolutely no idea how to approach this. My mom and dad were married 33 years. My father (John) met a woman (Mary) online approximately 18 months after my mom (Sue) died of cancer. This was about 4 months ago. 2 months ago, he says he wants us to meet Mary. Due to my busy work schedule and his unwillingness to make the drive here (he lives about an hour away), we're just now meeting, this Saturday. We're meeting at a nice restaurant where my dad wants to "talk for a few hours", which makes me a little suspicious. He hasn't talked about Mary much other than to tell me her name, that she's been married before, and where she's from. Are they getting serious? Does he just want to make sure I'm included? I don't know.
My dad and I get along ok for the most part, we would speak on the phone weekly and get together for lunch once or twice a month. That all changed when he met Mary. I haven't spoken to him via phone for well over a month and he hasn't had lunch with me since he met her. One thing I do know is that my father is quite gullible, especially in the vulnerable parts of his life, which is making me nervous.
I've spoken with a counselor about how to approach this, and didn't get much advice other than "Be polite and get to know her", with some specifics like "do you have children", "where do they live", "what attracted you to each other". I very much want to get to know Mary and at the same time I want to find out what the intentions between she and my father are.
How do I get to the 'meat' of the topic without sounding like I'm an investigator and remaining polite? It probably sounds like I'm approaching this completely incorrectly and that is true to a degree, in part because at the time of my mom's death I asked if he would ever enter another relationship and he lectured me on being 'disrespectful'.
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My dad's changed after meeting a woman, what does the first conversation with her look like.
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t3_10qk6o
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relationships
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Does she like me and should I ask her out. M(16) and F(17).
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Ok. So I am in high school, obviously, and there is this girl I have recently developed feelings for. She is only a few moths older than me (I turn 17 in a week) and I think she might like me too.
At school, she is in one of my classes. At first I didn't really know anyone in this specific class and it appeared that she didn't either. The first time I walked into the room I noticed how beautiful she was. Being too nervous to sit next to her on the first day I sat on the opposite side of the classroom. I continiued this pattern for around a week and a half.
One time I walked in the room and I thought to myself that I just had to get to know her. So I sat In an empty seat right next to her and struck up a conversation with her. Needless to say, I was very happy.
So after a few weeks I feel very comfortable being around her and talking to her. I attempt to flirt with her and it seems she does the same to me. When talking we frequently hold eye contact and she plays with her hair alot.
Then after class we both walk the same way so I walk with her and continiue laughing and talking. There is a fair/carnival coming to where I live in like a few weeks after I turn 17 and I thought I would ask her to go to that.
So Reddit, I like her and I believe she likes me. Can you all tell me if you think the same thing and should I ask her out?
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There is a girl who I have recently met and would like to know if you guys think she has feelings for me.
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t3_27ognr
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relationships
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I (M 20) don't understand why my boyfriend (20) doesn't want to see my junk when we FaceTime.
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Let me start this off by saying that my boyfriend and I are very in love and are very much sexually compatible. We've been together since February, and have been somewhat long distance for the entirety of it, however, we make visits every 2-3 weeks/whenever it's affordable.
We've never sexted or had video chat sex, but it isn't like we're not into that kind of stuff. He's shown me his stuff over FaceTime before, and I've shown him mine. However, each time I do, he says he doesn't want to see it, claiming it's because he's not with me to do anything about it, or that he'll see it later that week in person. Part of me is rather offended by this, because he does get off to watching porn while looking at other guys' dicks, but for some reason refuses to do so while looking at mine.
I should also mention that we did go through a bit of a rough patch about a month ago when I found messages between him and a few guys sending each other dirty texts - no pics, just text. I blew up his spot about that, and he was extremely regretful and remorseful, so much so that he even threw up 3 times when faced with the very real possibility of me breaking up with him. He deleted the numbers of the guys he's hooked up with, and has unfriended nearly every gay guy off his Facebook. Now, I have since forgiven him, and we're past it, but I felt it could be relevant to the issue I'm having at the moment.
I want to confront him about this, but I don't want to make a big deal out of something that I could very well just be being a baby about. What do you guys think?
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my boyfriend doesn't like to get off to video sex with me, however, has no problem doing so with porn. Should I say something to him?
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