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See the roadmap for your life as a long series of green lights and ease off the breaks
At every fork in the road ask yourself How would an undamaged badass version of me deal
with this situation Start visualizing this person when you think about yourself When you
imagine doing something picture this person doing it In time you will become that person
Within a pack of mammals status roles are often initially determined by an animals
intrinsic energy level The boisterous youngsters become the pack leaders These are usually
animals that have very low activation of the behavioral inhibition system The animals that
expend more energy in play foraging and socializing rise to leadership positions How can you
get your energy levels up This book has detailed how how to remove knots how to reverse
frailty and how not to leak energy
Dominant people proactively pursue their interests without being hindered by
unproductive social fears They have faith in their ability to succeed and trust that others cant
stop them They are not embarrassed easily Neither do they secondguess themselves or worry
about what others will think Dont stifle the pleasure principle and hide your desires just to get
along with others Like a rambunctious wolf cub learn to be okay with the social conflict that
arises when you try to gratify your wants
Dont be a zoo animal released into a wildlife park that still crouches within the invisible
confines of its old cage Having put yourself on a short leash you are the only one who can take
it off To beat the behavioral inhibition system you must be spontaneous and do the first thing
that comes to mind more often Dont be afraid to let your inner animal free Be resolute in
your opinions Charm people with pizzazz Make bold and audacious announcements about
positive things Show some backbone sing with your heart and live with guts and gusto
Chapter Conclusions
Ilustration Analogies used in this text
Being Pure of Heart Will Free You from Retaliation Apprehension
Let me leave you with a description of one final concept from psychology retaliation
apprehension This is when we feel worried that someone will take what we are saying or doing
in the wrong way and get offended Retaliation apprehension shows in your face breathing
and body language It is difficult to describe verbally but people recognize it immediately when
they see it
My brother has extraordinarily little retaliation apprehension This is why he can make a
personal joke about someone and they never get mad Often it seems that he can say
whatever he wants to anyone at any time and get away with it If were to say the same thing
in the same tone people would be miffed My brother can do this because he shows zero
concern about the other person retaliating This allows him to poke fun at people and things in
a playful way without offending
Retaliation apprehension is not just an admission of remorse for known wrongdoing It is a
state of mind we have even when we have done nothing wrong A tendency toward retaliation
apprehension can start very early in life Many adults have anxious attachment issues that
stem from their early relationship with their parents The child with anxious attachment is
preoccupied with what pleases and displeases their caretaker They see their relationship
with their mother and father as fragile and they feel at risk for rejection and abandonment
This leads to fear of and obsession with the emotions of others
PROGRAM PEACE Self Care Exercises to Reprogram Your Mind and Body
Refrain from scanning others for a hint of displeasure with you It is submissive The best
way to do this is to not think about it Drop any worries about defending yourself Expecting the
other person to like you and not being offended should be presumptive and implicit in your
demeanor Regularly dropping your defenses in this way should lower your cortisol blood
pressure and heart rate while raising your feelgood neurotransmitters and HRV It should also
make it easier to breathe with the diaphragm
Acting with zero retaliation apprehension is one of the most dominant things you can do
Still it must be authentic To do it properly you must have good intentions This is where being
pure of heart discussed in the last chapter comes in When you feel completely secure in the
fact that your actions are well intentioned and that you are a force for good fear of retaliation
wont even cross your mind It will make social harmony a default that you dont have to work
or strive for When using the pure of heart mindset your retaliation apprehension can be nil
even when your behavioral activation system is running at full force
Conclusion How to Play the Dominance Game
Humans have a strong instinctual predilection for submissive behavior When submissive body
language goes on for too long it makes us vulnerable to various forms of muscular tension
which in turn make us vulnerable to disease This biological propensity should be studied
through both basic and applied research and fully addressed by medical science There should
also be explicit social contracts that limit the extent of submissiveness we require from one
another in both personal and professional sectors The more awareness you and can create
the sooner this will happen
Hopefully this book has made it clear that the abysmal repercussions of submission and
aggression hamper human potential If we can minimize our tendencies toward destructive
status striving and the social tensions that eat us up inside we can increase our productiveness
If we can help others do this we can increase humankinds productivity and problemsolving
potential
If someone has better posture than we do we should still stand tall If someone has a more
powerful voice we should continue to speak powerfully If someone has a bigger smile we
should keep smiling wholeheartedly Comparing ourselves to others like arming ourselves
against others is for animals in submissive mode Put your sword anger and shield
rejection sensitivity down Let your burdensome armor retaliation apprehension drop to the
floor Recognize that the combination of being nonaggressive and nonsubmissive has made
you not only invulnerable but incomparable
If you are going to play the dominance game play it with a competitive spirit play it fairly
play it without malice and without exposing yourself to trauma Play it breathing
diaphragmatically all the while Dont flaunt your position or be embarrassed by it Dont puff
up when things go your way and dont shrivel up when they dont Think of yourself as
dominant without having to dominate Keep in mind that no one really wins in the end so there
is no reason to keep score Instead see competition as iron sharpening iron See it as
productive play that makes every participant stronger Turn contests into friendly cooperative
games in which everyone is a teammate whether they know it or not This will not only earn
you friends but it will also make you imperturbable indomitable and selfpossessed
Chapter Conclusions
Chapter Endnotes
Braem S Duthoo W Notebaert W Punishment sensitivity predicts the impact
of punishment on cognitive control PLoS ONE e
Moehler E Kagan J OelkersAx R Brunner R Poustka L Haffner J Resch F
Infant predictors of behavioral inhibition British Journal of Development Psychology
Gray J A The psychophysiological basis of introversionextraversion
Behavioral Research and Therapy
PROGRAM PEACE Self Care Exercises to Reprogram Your Mind and Body
Program Peace Paced Breathing App for iPhone and Android
Download the free Program Peace app as a companion to this book Using the app will train you
to breathe deeper and longer It also provides an easytouse interface without bloat clutter
ads signins inapp purchases or full version upgrades
Place the app next to a book computer monitor tablet or TV so that you can pace your

See the roadmap for your life as a long series of green lights and ease off the breaks

At every fork in the road ask yourself How would an undamaged badass version of me deal

with this situation Start visualizing this person when you think about yourself When you

imagine doing something picture this person doing it In time you will become that person

Within a pack of mammals status roles are often initially determined by an animals

intrinsic energy level The boisterous youngsters become the pack leaders These are usually

animals that have very low activation of the behavioral inhibition system The animals that

expend more energy in play foraging and socializing rise to leadership positions How can you

get your energy levels up This book has detailed how how to remove knots how to reverse

frailty and how not to leak energy

Dominant people proactively pursue their interests without being hindered by

unproductive social fears They have faith in their ability to succeed and trust that others cant

stop them They are not embarrassed easily Neither do they secondguess themselves or worry

about what others will think Dont stifle the pleasure principle and hide your desires just to get

along with others Like a rambunctious wolf cub learn to be okay with the social conflict that

arises when you try to gratify your wants

Dont be a zoo animal released into a wildlife park that still crouches within the invisible

confines of its old cage Having put yourself on a short leash you are the only one who can take

it off To beat the behavioral inhibition system you must be spontaneous and do the first thing

that comes to mind more often Dont be afraid to let your inner animal free Be resolute in

your opinions Charm people with pizzazz Make bold and audacious announcements about

positive things Show some backbone sing with your heart and live with guts and gusto

Chapter Conclusions

Ilustration Analogies used in this text

Being Pure of Heart Will Free You from Retaliation Apprehension

Let me leave you with a description of one final concept from psychology retaliation

apprehension This is when we feel worried that someone will take what we are saying or doing

in the wrong way and get offended Retaliation apprehension shows in your face breathing

and body language It is difficult to describe verbally but people recognize it immediately when

they see it

My brother has extraordinarily little retaliation apprehension This is why he can make a

personal joke about someone and they never get mad Often it seems that he can say

whatever he wants to anyone at any time and get away with it If were to say the same thing

in the same tone people would be miffed My brother can do this because he shows zero

concern about the other person retaliating This allows him to poke fun at people and things in

a playful way without offending

Retaliation apprehension is not just an admission of remorse for known wrongdoing It is a

state of mind we have even when we have done nothing wrong A tendency toward retaliation

apprehension can start very early in life Many adults have anxious attachment issues that

stem from their early relationship with their parents The child with anxious attachment is

preoccupied with what pleases and displeases their caretaker They see their relationship

with their mother and father as fragile and they feel at risk for rejection and abandonment

This leads to fear of and obsession with the emotions of others

PROGRAM PEACE Self Care Exercises to Reprogram Your Mind and Body

Refrain from scanning others for a hint of displeasure with you It is submissive The best

way to do this is to not think about it Drop any worries about defending yourself Expecting the

other person to like you and not being offended should be presumptive and implicit in your

demeanor Regularly dropping your defenses in this way should lower your cortisol blood

pressure and heart rate while raising your feelgood neurotransmitters and HRV It should also

make it easier to breathe with the diaphragm

Acting with zero retaliation apprehension is one of the most dominant things you can do

Still it must be authentic To do it properly you must have good intentions This is where being

pure of heart discussed in the last chapter comes in When you feel completely secure in the

fact that your actions are well intentioned and that you are a force for good fear of retaliation

wont even cross your mind It will make social harmony a default that you dont have to work

or strive for When using the pure of heart mindset your retaliation apprehension can be nil

even when your behavioral activation system is running at full force

Conclusion How to Play the Dominance Game

Humans have a strong instinctual predilection for submissive behavior When submissive body

language goes on for too long it makes us vulnerable to various forms of muscular tension

which in turn make us vulnerable to disease This biological propensity should be studied

through both basic and applied research and fully addressed by medical science There should

also be explicit social contracts that limit the extent of submissiveness we require from one

another in both personal and professional sectors The more awareness you and can create

the sooner this will happen

Hopefully this book has made it clear that the abysmal repercussions of submission and

aggression hamper human potential If we can minimize our tendencies toward destructive

status striving and the social tensions that eat us up inside we can increase our productiveness

If we can help others do this we can increase humankinds productivity and problemsolving

potential

If someone has better posture than we do we should still stand tall If someone has a more

powerful voice we should continue to speak powerfully If someone has a bigger smile we

should keep smiling wholeheartedly Comparing ourselves to others like arming ourselves

against others is for animals in submissive mode Put your sword anger and shield

rejection sensitivity down Let your burdensome armor retaliation apprehension drop to the

floor Recognize that the combination of being nonaggressive and nonsubmissive has made

you not only invulnerable but incomparable

If you are going to play the dominance game play it with a competitive spirit play it fairly

play it without malice and without exposing yourself to trauma Play it breathing

diaphragmatically all the while Dont flaunt your position or be embarrassed by it Dont puff

up when things go your way and dont shrivel up when they dont Think of yourself as

dominant without having to dominate Keep in mind that no one really wins in the end so there

is no reason to keep score Instead see competition as iron sharpening iron See it as

productive play that makes every participant stronger Turn contests into friendly cooperative

games in which everyone is a teammate whether they know it or not This will not only earn

you friends but it will also make you imperturbable indomitable and selfpossessed

Chapter Conclusions

Chapter Endnotes

Braem S Duthoo W Notebaert W Punishment sensitivity predicts the impact

of punishment on cognitive control PLoS ONE e

Moehler E Kagan J OelkersAx R Brunner R Poustka L Haffner J Resch F

Infant predictors of behavioral inhibition British Journal of Development Psychology

Gray J A The psychophysiological basis of introversionextraversion

Behavioral Research and Therapy

PROGRAM PEACE Self Care Exercises to Reprogram Your Mind and Body

Program Peace Paced Breathing App for iPhone and Android

Download the free Program Peace app as a companion to this book Using the app will train you

to breathe deeper and longer It also provides an easytouse interface without bloat clutter

ads signins inapp purchases or full version upgrades

Place the app next to a book computer monitor tablet or TV so that you can pace your