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So, the Pathan Teaser dropped today around 11am and its kind of breaking the internet and drowning out Boycott Bollywood and Boycott Pathan noise - as its should. Have you seen the teaser yet? What did you think?
The first thing that caught my attention was that the narrative at the beginning was almost parallel to Shah Rukh Khan’s life. His last release was ‘Zero’ in 2018 which flopped (still made a profit) and people have been saying a lot of negative things like he is done, his mid-life crisis, etc. But give the man some credit, yes? He has been running the show and taking Bollywood to the world for last 30 years. How many times have people predicted that his reign was coming to an end with the launch of a new hero? And what happened? Nothing - without a single release in 4 years, he is still reigning here.
‘Zinda hai’ is more likely him confirming what us the SRK-ians have been saying all along. He is back and it seems it will be with a bang! With an action packed trailer and him looking better than ever, we are going to have fun. You naysayers can keep saying stuff, it hasn’t mattered to us in the last 30 years, and it won’t matter now.
With ‘War’ as a reference, I am not expecting a good storyline. In fact I am almost expecting a flawed story. At the same time with SRK & Deepika on screen, the acting will be much better than War for sure. And I hope that the action is as good as War if not better. I am excited!
I also had the awesome opportunity to go watch Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge on the screens today. People kept telling me that you have already watched it so many times, why go to the theatres again? Well, I am glad that once again I did not let the naysayers stop me because it was an experience of a lifetime!
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Let me tell you, it’s a weekday and I went for the Noon show not expecting much crowd. But only one man can draw the crowd like that with a 27 year old film. Yes folks, it was housefull! About 95% of the crowd were under 25 and I am pretty sure this was their first time watching DDLJ on a big screen like that. Yet I doubt there was anyone who was watching it for the first time.
The environment was electric - like being in a live concert. People were cheering throughout - not only for the entry scenes but for all the iconic moments of the film. There were people calling out the dialogues in advance and singing and dancing along the songs!
It’s an experience I cannot describe and something I will probably remember for the rest of my life.
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Friday, 26 August 2022
#MondayBlogs - Why I refuse to accept anything less than #SRK's brand of #romance
Debdatta Dasgupta August 26, 2022 0 Comments
He needs no introduction… the scrawny guy from Delhi who has entertained us for more than 30 years now. On tv, on big screens, on stage and even at cricket stadiums. A star that has the most ardent following all over the world an has brought multiple generations together. The King Khan. The Badshah of Bollywood. The King of Romance.
As someone born around mid-80s, I have loved Shah Rukh Khan right from Circus and since before I had any understanding of romance. Yet I wished someone would sing ‘Tujhe dekha toh yeh jaana sanam’ for me since my pre-teens and DDLJ has been a constant in my life - I watch it when I am sad and need a mood lift, I watch it when I have something to celebrate and I watch it when I can’t decide what to watch on OTT. I have dreamed of being someone’s Maya, someone’s Zaara, someone’s Mandira, and someone’s Naina. I have cheered for Aryan Khanna, just as enthusiastically as I have cheered for Kabir Khan. I have loved Kali as much as I have loved Jahangir Khan or young Sunil or Don.
In Chennai Express, Rahul is the protector. In Rab Ne Bana Di Jodi, he plays both a dutiful husband and over the top lover - the glass disguise work for Superman then why not ‘apna Raj’? In Jab Tak Hai Jaan, he is the lover who loves Meera the only way he is allowed to while playing the mentor and friend to Akira. In Kal Ho Na Ho, Aman loves Naina so much that he makes the way for Rohit. In Dil Se… he plays the lover who gives his life to stop the love of his life committing a grave mistake. In Pardes, Arjun saves Ganga over and over again while nurturing her. In Harry Met Sejal, yeah I watched that one too, Harry with all his faults does the right thing time and time again.
When I watched Chak De! India, emotions were running manifold. I mean come on, in a country that worshipped men’s cricket team for decades and all but ignored other sports and teams, Chak De! India focused on women’s hockey team. Watching the girls coming together despite all the hurdles was a high in itself. But with SRK playing Kabir Khan, looking all cool and delivering dialogues like, ‘team bananey k like taakat nahi, niyat chahiye,’… was a different high. It helped me look for things in my life that could be influenced to change for better with just intention.
When I watched Swades, I was blown away by SRK’s acting all over again. He did good and he also reinforced my belief in working at the grass root levels to make a change. Not every one of us have the capacity to make a change at a global level. And while Mohan Bhargav was already impacting the world with his work at NASA, coming back to a village in India that was hard to find on a map and working to change those lives… Well, it resonated. Working close to home, making small changes around yourself does have an impact.
Fan ended up being my top favourite movie because his role as Aryan Khanna is almost autobiographical, minus the Gaurav angle. The small moment where he portrays an ageing star worried about the lines marring his features - it is such a fleeting moment in the movie, but I cannot imagine the nerve it must have taken to take the vulnerability of his life and his profession and putting it up on the screens for all to watch… Aryan Khanna is perhaps one of his best performances.
He set the screens on fire with his abs in Dard-e-Disco at 42 and let me tell you as much as I enjoyed watching it on screen, it also made me think that it is never too late to do something you set your mind to. At a time when younger actors were debuting and being compared to SRK (yet again), he stayed rock solid with his stardom and appeared on screen in a new avatar. And he is going to do it again at 56 for Pathan. An actor who claims to be bad at dancing tried his hand at (or should I say legs?!) at hip hop in 2012. Well, at 38… I think I can do too - not because I was told, but because my star showed me that it can be done.
I have to admit, I was probably the only one who left the theatre with tear stained eyes after watching Ram-Jaane and every time I watch Kal Ho Na Ho, my mom consoles me for not being able to save Aman yet again. Yes, I am that kind of a fan when it comes to SRK because he has spoiled me when it comes to romance.
Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying he is flawless and hasn’t done some toxic things on screen. There is no denying that. And, let us be real, we do not love him because we expect to be romanced while wearing a saree on Swiss mountains, or dance in the rain, or being jet set to Europe for a holiday either.
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We love him because he is an actor who portrays softer and vulnerable characters. He is not the macho guy nor is he the perfectionist. He is the one in between who is giving us the balance that is closer to what we need. He is the actor who decided that if he couldn’t change the pay gap in the industry, he could do what is in his control - make sure that actress’s names appear first on screen giving them the show runner position. He is also the actor who shares a much bigger chunk of screen times with his heroines.
He is the dependable guy who will stand by you and tell you everything you need to know. He is not afraid to wear his heart on his sleeves. He may not be able to beat up anyone who bothers you, but he’ll probably take the beating for you to protect you. He is the one who will treat you like a queen not only while wooing you, but also once you ‘happily ever after’ begins. He’ll earn a living for you or he’ll help you cook and clean depending on what you want from him. He is the guy who will carry your dress’s trail to keep it from getting dirty or to save you from tripping because of it.
Though there are some situations from his movies that does add to the overall idea of his brand of romance - like Raj from DDLJ showed me that I could get rip-roaring drunk in a foreign country and still be safe with the right guy. But the overall brand is much more than the stories… It is what SRK brought to them. Whether it’s that manic love of Rahul in Darr or dreamer Rahul in DTPH - the intensity is in the eyes. Those eyes show the rage, the confusion and the sadness reeling us in to whatever character he is playing. He is rarely the white knight in shining armour... he is the next door boy who would have scraped their knees right alongside you, seen your snots and loved you anyway.
For years, SRK has transported us to a whole different world, with his expressive eyes and sensuous smiles, whenever we watched one of his performances. And that is why even with movies that have disappointed us, we keep going back.
Somewhere along these years I have come to expect that look that says 'I See You', that hand hold that says 'I have your back', those actions that say you 'I Love You' and that presence that promises 'Forever'.
And then when he is off-screen, he is just as charming and that just swoon worthy. You know I am right. The well-read actor behind all these characters just appeal to the bookworm in me. The well-spoken star off-the screen appeals to the introvert person that I am. He changes the energy in any room he walks into. The witty person at interviews woos everyone with his own words.
What I am trying to say is that it is not just his movies. It is what he brings to the characters on screen and the person we see off-screen too. It is the fact that he taught us not only to love and romance, but also to demand respect and learn to dream big dreams. It is not fleeting and it isn’t convenient, but it is the calm and constant through all the uncertainties of life. It’s the complete package... some call it a fantasy and I call it SRK's brand of romance.
It is why I refuse to accept anything less anymore.
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Monday, 18 July 2022
Debdatta Dasgupta July 18, 2022 1 Comments
Sometimes you meet a person and you just click—you’re comfortable with them, like you’ve known them your whole life, and you don’t have to pretend to be anyone or anything. - Unknown
It was a sunny December morning. We (I am my husband) took our daughter to her new school. She was about to start her offline school after 1.5 years, and I was worried.
We drop off our daughter and then I saw her. Just like me, messy hair, cotton Kurti, no makeup and a worried face. I went to her and started talking. She told me her daughter also goes to the same class as my daughter. And we started talking.
I still remember the thing she told me the very first time we meet…’I am a chatterbox”. And I was like, me too. And the epic chatting marathon started. Vani, is a true friend and an amazing mother.
While going to school to drop off and pick up my daughter, I came across a lot of other parents and teachers, who are constantly talking about this girl Name Nyaomi and how naughty she is.
My reaction was why the hell, everybody is gossiping about a 4-year-old. A child’s job description is to be naughty, why do we even expect anything else (read #OpenLetter to Nyaomi).
I deliberately wanted to meet her mother, Manjeera and I did. My first impression was, that she is so educated yet so humble. We became friends, just like that. We talked a lot about how Nyaomi is, and I constantly told her, I was also terribly naughty. Like any other mother, she was worried sick as everyone is constantly judging a 4-year-old with the parameter of an adult.
Here comes the beauty queen. We were going to a marriage function and I saw her in my building lift. We talked for a bit as her son and my daughter are the same age, and they live in the same building. We decided to organize a play date for the kids.
The very next day, she brought me some sambar, wearing shorts. My reaction was…. you wear shorts… a gale lag ja (It’s a long story, read: You are a slut).
Her son, Bunny is the Magic Jappi of our group.
I really don’t remember how and when we all (Vani, Manjeera, Karishma & I) became friends.
It is so difficult to get like minded people and I got three of them.
We are a crazy bunch, shouting, yelling, sometimes crying also, and always in the mood for a party.
We love our Chole Kulcha, especially me and Vani and while Karishma is on diet, and cursing us.
We had multiple parties, dramas, children fighting, crying, making peace, ladies complaining about our husbands, gifts and so much more.
I can’t thank you guys are enough for being there for me, not judging me for my craziness.
You guys are the precious gems that I found when I was not even looking, and I was apprehensive to form any kind of bond. You guys showed me that I shouldn’t lose hope to make new friends because of some bad experiences.
And the best thing about us is that we are not like some mothers who are constantly making their kids compete with each other. We understand that every child has their own strength and weakness and as a group, we cherish and encourage that.
This is a very rare quality to be found in today’s world, especially when some parents asked me what is my daughter’s rank in the playgroup exam.
I would like to give a glimpse of our WhatsApp chat:
To all the kids I thank you to make me enjoy the child within me
If it was not for them, I don’t think I would have ever met anyone.
The three months will be the best for making me fall in love with this city
And to trust in friends again
Yes true. All thanks to our ly piyu (that’s me)
To Priyanka, I credit you for being the skeleton of this group. Manjeera is the blood to energise it. Karishma gives the neuro electric spark to add a vibe.
Am probably the hormones which keep the group sane or insane.
Please keep the compliments flowing, especially about me.
I am late as usual (That is the thing, she didn’t reply)
Currently, we are in different parts of India, however, I know, I can call them anytime and pick up where we left off.
I can all them my friends for life.
I miss you guys like hell, I miss our parties, I miss the support you provided to me, and helped me in so many ways.
Every one of you has a unique and a genuine soul. I thank God for all of you and the time we spent together.
As Helen Keller rightly said,
I would rather walk with a friend in the dark, than alone in the light.
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Thursday, 30 June 2022
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Piu & I were in the same city together after a long time. So, we decided to catch up over some food & drinks!
Note: This is not a sponsored post. We paid for our own food & drinks there. This post is not influenced in anyway.
Piu & I met up late afternoon at South City Mall with nothing specific on the agenda, but to catch up on the latest in each other's life. We spent some time at the food court with coffee and then went on a window shopping spree. All the walking around made us a bit hungry and we decided to walk into Veneto Kitchen & Bar.
The restaurant has beautiful decor and feels very inviting immediately. That's what attracted us to the restaurant in the first place. The seating arrangement did feel a bit close, but the music playing in the background does give some semblance of privacy to the diners.
Since, it was after the usual lunch time and before the expected dinner rush, we were seated immediately and menus were handed to us. We decided to start with drinks. I ordered an 'Italian Smooch' mocktail while Piu ordered a 'White wine Sangria'
As we decided on our food, the staff were really helpful in helping us decide. We both were interested in trying 'Patate Al Forno Due Volte' but the dish comes with pesto sauce and I am not particularly fond of pesto. The staff member suggested that we get the pesto separately, that way I can have the dish without pesto and Piu can have with it.
Patate Al Forno Due Volte (as in the pic above) is - twice baked potatoes stuffed with ratatouille parmesan cheese and pesto sauce.
I like it even though without the sauce, the dish tasted a bit dry. So, I cannot really fault it. Other than the dryness, the dish was perfectly spiced and tasty.
The winning dish for us was - Vino Bianco.
Vino Bianco is chicken marinated in white wine, cooked with fresh morrel with chilli and garlic, served with garlic bread. Both Pui & I love garlic in our food, and it can never be too much for us. But this dish was perfection. Especially the chicken - it was exactly done and was quite juicy. It was a total delight.
For us though the best aspect of the whole experience was the staff who were friendly, helpful and always around without making us feel crowded. We sat there, enjoyed chit-chatting and enjoyed our food without feeling rushed and well care for.
I would totally recommend this place for a nice meal and a pleasant time.
South City Mall, Prince Anwar Shah Road, Kolkata
Timings: 12noon – 11:30pm
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Monday, 23 May 2022
Priyanka May 23, 2022 0 Comments
Hope you are doing well.
By the time you will be mature enough to understand this letter, I don’t think, you will even remember me. However, that is not going to stop me from writing to you today.
I hope your mom reads this letter to you or lets you read it by yourself when you are old enough to understand.
I know it seems weird to believe for kids that their parents were also their age once. Like you, I was a five-year-old girl once... lost, clueless and unable to communicate properly, desperately looking for a cocoon.
However, I didn’t get it. What I did get was criticism (not constructive), labels (in the 90s, most people did not know what to call someone who was different. So they just called me problematic, crazy, mad, etc...), and last but not the least, shame and guilt.
People drove my mother crazy with such talks, and most of the time they came from so-called family members and well-wishers.
I feel so much pain to admit this, but my mother was not able to cope with the immense criticism for her daughter, especially, when her elder daughter was the so-called good girl. Hence, what I received from her is beating, shaming and criticism.
And because my mother did this to me, I had no other option than to believe that I was problematic.
This all killed the creative, imaginative kid, and gave born to a very insecure child. And what I did to hide that insecurity, was be naughtier, reject all forms of institutionalised education, try to find comfort in my pain and tell myself I am not good.
It took me a lot of time (around 15 years), to come to terms with my uniqueness, my creativity, and the beauty of my imagination. I accept the fact that I am not like most other people and I love that about myself. And I have people in my life who love me because of all the things that make me different.
I am not ashamed or guilty to be myself. I am straightforward, blunt and have the guts to tell someone the truth to their face.
AND, I will not accept anything less than someone who accepts me unconditionally.
You are very young my dear.
Don’t let those bullies get the best of you, embrace your creativity, and don’t hide behind aggression and aloofness to mask your insecurities.
You have been criticized for things that are not wrong, like the way you sit and talk. You are from a multilingual family, and it is normal for kids from such families to speak a little late as they are coping with two or more languages.
People who criticize you do not want a child, they want a puppet to control and you are no one’s marionette.
I know for sure, that one day you will overcome all this. Embrace your choices, and move towards what makes you happy. You are blessed with an amazing mother who is trying her best to give you the childhood you deserve.
Be you Nayomi, be the best version of you.
With Lots of Love and Affection,
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Monday, 9 May 2022
#MondayBlogs - You are too sensitive!
Debdatta Dasgupta May 09, 2022 0 Comments
Have you ever been told - ‘You are too sensitive’ by people you consider as friends and family? That you over-react to things and situations?
If your answer is yes, then this post is for you.
If you have said it to someone close to you, then this post is for you too!
I went into therapy after I separated from my husband to be able to manage my depression, hyper anxiety and panic attacks. And man, did that open a pandora’s box. I discovered that I am an empath. That is also when someone told me that it is not good to be an empath because empaths give too much of themselves to and for others. That I should seek therapy to learn how to ‘turn it off’. And seek did I… Not to learn to ‘turn it off’ but to understand it.
Granted, why I am an empath doesn’t have a glamorous backstory to it. In fact it is downright sad. But what I now say is, Empathy is my super power, and no super hero ever had an origin story filled with rainbows and unicorns, neither is mine.
Being an empath means that I feel strongly and deeply. Not only that, I also absorb the energies around me, whether positive or negative, and often lock it in my body. At first, it was extremely difficult for me to understand what part of what I am feeling is my own and what part of it is something I am picking up from the people around. I struggle with that still, but I am trying to learn to control it, so that I do not have to feel overwhelmed and exhausted all the time.
It took me a lot of therapy to understand that being able to feel deeply and strongly is not a sign of weakness. My feelings and emotions are my own and nobody has the right to tell me what to feel or how to feel or how much to feel.
In the past have been told that I am too sensitive and that I over-react far too many times.
Sometimes from a well meaning friend who wished me well, but mostly from people trying to gaslight me (and succeeding) in order to avoid taking a look at their own actions. To the point where I started taking it as a personal character flaw and beat myself over it till I was exhausted. I started wondering if it would be so much better if I did not care at all.
That is, till I was was prescribed anti-depressants and I spent a week feeling nothing.
When I am happy, I feel that strongly too. I laugh. I dance. I celebrate and I am loud. Nobody complains then or tell me that I am over reacting… because everyone loves to have a good time. Yet, when I feel sad or hurt or betrayed, I am told I am being too sensitive and over reacting because it is too much work to even consider that I am human, I have a heart, may be hurt and I have a right to feel however I feel.
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If you are someone who has told people that they are too sensitive, take a moment and consider… why does it bother you that someone cares and feels?
Take a moment to stop and think what you are really doing by invalidating someone’s feelings.
I want you to think why do YOU feel the need to invalidate someone else’s feelings and what does it actually do for YOU?
Chances are that you are avoiding to take a look at you own behaviour or statements.
Chances are that the sensitive person in your life is absorbing your energies and putting it back up as a mirror to you.
Chances are that you are the one who doesn’t have the capacity to understand what you are putting the other person through.
Maybe, it is time for you to take a look inward rather than outward.
For those of you who have been told these gaslighting statements, remember that empathy is not a bad thing. Being sensitive is not a problem that needs to be cured. We need more of it in the world - the feelings, the understanding and the want to help instead of stone cold indifference & destruction.
If someone says these things to you, look at it for what they are. BIG RED FLAGS. The person saying these things maybe saying these to make you doubt yourself so that their actions are not closely looked at. They may even be manipulating you unknowingly - but that is what it is in the bottomline - manipulation.
Being a sensitive person in today’s world is a blessing to the rest of the population. We understand exactly. We care. And we are human.
So, next time someone tells you that you are too sensitive… own it ‘coz you feel and care when others don’t. That makes you a much better person. We could all do with more understanding and sensitivity!
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Monday, 25 April 2022
#MondayBlogs :: Have you ever been a tourist in your own city?
Debdatta Dasgupta April 25, 2022 2 Comments
I was born and raised (for most parts) in Kolkata. Yet, I did not know that Jorasanko Thakur Bari, the ancestral home of the Tagore family, was just an hour away from my home. I have never been to Kumartuli or to the Marble House Palace.
Yeah, we tend to take it easy, thinking we have all the time in the world to explore these places as they are so close to home. Do we though?
As someone who spent a good part of her life in Kurseong & Darjeeling for school & college… The hills are my second home. Yet, the first time I rode the Toy Train was in my final year of college when my group of friends made it a part of our day out. Joy rides on the Toy Train was what tourists do, not locals! Yet I had never been to Gangamaya Park or Rock Garden or Batasia Loop. I had never been to the Dali Monastery or Ghoom Monastery or Tinchuley Village. Till date I have not ridden the North Point Ropeway which a stones throw away from where I lived for 3 years during my college days.
Last year, when I came to Darjeeling, it was after 13 long years and it took a friend visiting from Siliguri for me to finally visit the Gangamaya Park and the Rock Garden. I was surprised how near it was and sad that I had not visited those places before. Since pandemic wasn’t over yet back then, I did not venture out of the town much.
This year though I have made it a point of going out on most Sundays and visit places that I haven’t been to and some places that I wanted to revisit. So far I have been to Lamahatta, Mangpoo, Mirik, Kurseong and finally made a trip to the Dali Monastery and Batasia Loop.
Each of the places I have visited, whether on my own or with someone, has surprised me and I kept asking myself, why the hell I hadn’t visited these places before. Limited finances of student life did come to mind, but we spend hundreds in a day to watch a movie and splurged on cold drinks and popcorns - amount of money that would have been sufficient to travel to these places in those days.
Beautiful eco park, serene little hilly village, and popular tourist traps - but they all had breathtaking views and a serenity that I love but miss in my city life. To take a day and be out in the nature was refreshing.
Now you may say, ‘but DD, I live in a metro/city and it’s all a concrete jungle, where do I find nature here?’
Well, I know I will try and visit the places I have lived an hour away from all my life but literally had no idea of their existence before when I go back to Kolkata. A museum, an author’s birth place, a zoo… whatever it is, I encourage you to go out and be a tourist in your own city. See the places you haven’t been to - unless you do you will not know what you are missing (or not missing). Try to see them from an outsider’s point of view. If nothing else, it will break the monotony of your routined lifestyle. The shopping malls, the movie theatres and the restaurants are not going anywhere.
Try and be a tourist in your own city/town!
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Monday, 11 April 2022
Priyanka April 11, 2022 0 Comments
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This is not a paid review; I have purchased this product with my hard earn money and using it for the last 3 years.
My Thoughts:
This is a real-life saver. I am using it since my daughter was 2 years old. If you have kids, you will automatically know the amount of torture the mattress endures.
Water and milk spillage is a regular event, apart from that, occasional nature's call accidents.
Any good quality mattress is expensive without any question and getting it professionally cleaned is also a headache and more taxing on the pocket.
Hence this product is really helpful, washing is very easy, washing machine cleaning in Regular Wash.
I got the king size, however, it is big, even if I got the queen size, it would fit the king size mattress perfectly.
Very good product, value for money and long-lasting. Worth buying.
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Monday, 28 March 2022
Priyanka March 28, 2022 0 Comments
The Product from BAJAJ VACCO has been crafted to make rotis / chapattis / khakras.
The roti/chapati-maker has been made of the tubular element. The Tawa has been made of food-grade Teflon-coated non-stick aluminium.
The roti/chapati-maker is safe having a heat-resistant handle.
It has a totally shock-proof body and is fitted with ISI marked lead and 6 amp. plug.
It has a pre-determined (fixed temperature) automatic cut-off feature which cuts off the heat supply and regulates the temperature.
Purchase Link: Amazon
This is not a paid review; I have purchased this product with my hard earn money and using it for the last 1.5 years.
I do love to eat roti but am terrible at making them. I heard many negative reviews for roti makers in general. I was tempted to buy a roti maker multiple times, but due to the negative review effects, I didn’t buy it.
Finally, one fine day, I ordered this from Amazon, thinking, how bad it could be. Even if it’s horrible, I can return the item.
To my surprise, it is quite good. The process of making chapati is a little tricky, the dough has to be wetter than the traditional way. There are plenty of videos on YouTube, where you can learn it, as I did.
As the roti maker is concerned, it is awesome, it is really shockproof, as in the building I stay in, there is a history of electric shocks. The roti size is decent and four Rotis will easily satisfy one person.
The time required for making Rotis is also considerably less than the traditional way.
If you are good at making Rotis the traditional way, this product is not for you, but for people who are not good at making Rotis, this is a lifesaver. Especially because you don’t have to clean any extra vessels.
Purchase Link: Amazon
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Monday, 21 February 2022
Debdatta Dasgupta February 21, 2022 0 Comments
What does it feel like?
To be told that what you experienced moments earlier, never happened.
To be told that everything is only in your head.
To be told that you were being too emotional.
To be told that you were over-reacting.
To be told that you were the one forgetting things.
To be told that you were not good enough for anything.
To be told that you were too stupid to ever succeed.
To be told that you were a waste of space and a terrible drain on resources.
To be told that you couldn't take a joke after constant body shaming.
To be told that it wasn't their intention to hurt you while repeating the same thing for the 100th time.
To be told that it was your fault that you were hurting.
At first I fought. I took it up as challenge. I tried to prove them wrong.
But how does one fight something that is being planted in their mind and doesn't actually exist? How does one win a challenge that shouldn't have been placed at all? How does one prove something that shouldn't need to be proven in the first place?
And how long does one have to fight (alone) and keep proving things?
I am sure I knew the answer while growing up. But then I fell in love - Yes, Blindly! - and lost my way in the tornado that my life was. Constantly working. From the moment I woke up, till I crashed into my bed.
Working (from home) a job, handling a household and shouldering the responsibility and welfare of 6 other fully grown adults, day after day… Working up to 18 hours a day to deal with everything (and never less than 12 hours a day) to be able to take care of all the responsibilities that were suppose to shared by your life partner, (yet you find yourself handling them alone) - 7 days a week and 365 days a year is bound to have some effect on a human being. Everyone knows that, right? Apparently not everyone.
Cooking, cleaning, meetings, and promotional activities - constantly laced with comments and rebukes that aimed at reducing the family nurturer, the 'ghar ki Lakshmi' in to something less than a sentient being still happens in the 21st Century.
All that along with intermittent love-bombing!
You go into a shell - the survival mode. Always being prepared and trying to reduce any chances of triggering another round of 'how useless you are tirade'. You start to dim that spark, that is so eternally you, so that every one else is under the spotlight while you hide in the shadowed corner. You do not let the spotlight be ever on you - even though it is your story, your life! Shrinking into a ball, not taking up space and yet making it easier for people to kick around.
And should you dare to question it, i.e., if you still have some semblance of self left, and ask why - the society around you (some even in guise of friends) will gather to remind you that all you are good for is to keep your mouth shut, adjust and compromise. A 'failure of a being' has no right to ask questions. You only get to continue to try and prove your worth in exchange of being 'allowed' to breathe.
Would you consider stop breathing if that is the only way to end the hurt and pain?
But there is another way… Stand up, break the invisible shackles and walk away!
(read invisible shackles as: expectations forced on you by those close to you and the society; the constant self doubt drilled into you; the crippling fear you feel; the unshakeable belief that you cannot make it on your own; the anxiety of how could ever do anything right on your own; the mind blowing concept of what will people say… in short - whatever it is that is holding you back in a life that is slowly sucking your spirit out.)
It is hard! The hardest thing you will probably do... When you finally have had enough, and realise that staying on will eventually kill you, much before your time; and when other people will reiterate that all you can do is stay and compromise. Try and remember, that there ARE people who will support you and help you... So, keep at it till you find someone who'll throw the life jacket when you are drowning. And then, swim... swim for the shore - your life!
And it starts getting better almost immediately.
Its been over a year since I walked out… And, now all I know is what it feels like…
To be told that you are strong.
To be told that you are a heck of a fighter to have survived.
To be told that you are worth more than ten of them.
To be told that you are loving and caring.
To be told that you have a right to take up space.
To be told that you deserve to have your needs met.
To be told that you are inspiring.
To be told that you have an amazing sense of humour.
To be told that you are a responsible person.
To be told that your are a logical and practical person.
To be told that you are loved.
To be told that you are seen.
To be told that you are cherished.
To be told that you are wanted and desired.
It is good for your body. It is good for your mind. AND, it is the most liberating thing for your spirit.
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If your clients are hoping to claim tax credits from charitable donations they’ve made over the past year, they might want to exert extra vigilance in vetting the entities they contributed to. Otherwise, they might find themselves at the wrong end of a denial by the Canada Revenue Agency (CRA).
The CRA has denied over $7 billion worth of tax credits and deductions because of “charity tax shelter” schemes. The scams, which typically promise to boost the amount of the donation through complicated financial schemes, have led the agency to review returns from more than 200,000 Canadians, reported Global News.
Those duped by tax-shelter schemes are attracted to a supposed win-win: they expect their contributions to make a bigger financial impact, which in turn would entitle them to a bigger tax break. But according to Smartgiving.ca, an online guide to charitable donations maintained by Toronto law firm Blumberg Segal, victims often lose their tax breaks and stand to face “very substantial” interest and penalties on taxes owed.
“Very little — if any — of the money Canadians have donated through such schemes made it to an actual charity,” Global News said, citing Smartgiving.
Some have tried to challenge the CRA’s rejections of tax-credit claims related to the schemes, but the fights have tended to be long-drawn and futile. The typical battle lasts eight to 12 years, according to Mark Blumberg, partner at Blumberg Segal. Over that time, the clock on the interest and penalties keeps ticking, and legal fees pile up.
“In 2006 it was the worst,” Blumberg told Global News. “It was $1.3 billion in receipts issued [by charity tax shelters].”
According to the CRA, the incidence of taxpayers being tricked has plummeted from 48,000 in 2006 to 400 in 2014 because of a “multi-year, multi-pronged” effort. The scams, which used to involve large donations from Canadians who got bad advice from tax professionals, now attract much smaller donations from “even less sophisticated” taxpayers, according to Blumberg.
Still, he cautioned, taxpayers have to watch out for other scams involving charitable donations. Fake charities may ask for contributions that would supposedly go toward causes like the environment or cancer research; for this reason, Canadian taxpayers should check whether an organization is registered with the CRA. They should also be vigilant against fraudsters who make illegitimate collections in the name of a well-known organization by calling the charity directly and confirming their affiliation.
Another danger comes from confidentiality rules in the Income Tax Act that prohibit the CRA from alerting taxpayers to tax fraud by a particular charity until after its registered status has been revoked.
“What this practically means is that if CRA is aware of a $500-million scheme that is not legally permissible, they are not allowed to say anything about it until after the charity has been revoked,” according to Smartgiving.
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“Do I have enough vodka to get through the day?” This was always the question before I got sober. If the answer was “yes,” I could focus on the little things like, what were my son and I going to have for dinner that day, or did I have an exam that day that I needed to start studying for (smh), or did I need to pay my phone bill that day or make arrangements to pay it later? If the answer was “no,” I was wondering what time the store opened, if my son was home he would have to come to the store with me. I tried to make it seem normal to him that we were walking to Rite Aid, yet again, to get the biggest bottle of vodka I could afford that day. Luckily for me, this only happened every other day. So, 50% of the time. That’s balanced, right?
By the end, I was hanging off a ledge by my fingertips. One strong breeze could’ve destroyed the semblance of a life I had, but I was hanging on for, not-so-dear, life. On the outside, I looked good. I was a single mom with a young son doing her best. I was in school, working on my engineering degree. I had friends, a nice place to live, a car, my son had everything he wanted, and I was seeing someone. On the inside, my son was going to my mom’s house every weekend so I could “study,” I was failing as many classes as I was passing. If my friends knew how much I drank, they probably would have made different choices. I couldn’t afford and eventually stopped making payments on my car and if my housing wasn’t covered by my crippling student loan debt, we would’ve been homeless. And my so-called relationship was with a completely unavailable, spiraling, alcoholic. If I’d had to hold down a job during this time, I’m sure my house of cards would have tumbled way before it did.
In early sobriety, I was told to listen and take suggestions for how to live and recover. So, that’s what I did. At first, I didn’t have much choice because I was in rehab, there were rules and a schedule but I still resisted, insisting that I should be allowed to do what I thought was important. I left school to go to rehab so I wanted to study so that I could still finish the semester. But I quickly learned that it was no good. My brain was not even capable of processing schoolwork. I had to let go and focus on what was the actual priority at the time: Getting sober and learning how to stay sober.
Once I was on a solid recovery track, I needed a job. I was blessed with a part-time job at my school. I focused on that for a while. I waited to get into transitional housing that would allow my son to be with me. When I was under the same roof with my son, I focused on him and on being completely sober around him for the first time since he was a toddler or younger. After that, it was time to go back to school to finish my degree and I was blessed with the opportunity to do that. Recovery, a job, school, and my son was enough to focus on for some time. Then I graduated, and was hired in full time at UofM. I added my health to my focus. I started going to the doctor and dentist and therapist and the gym. Please know that I didn’t do any of this perfectly. It was definitely a learning process and I made a lot of mistakes. In the beginning, there were still days when I could not get out of bed! The point is, I took one step at a time until I was ready to take the next one (or until my Higher Power thought I was ready.)
This is the example I use for everything since. Balance comes from prioritizing. The most important things have to come first in order for everything else to fall into place. My life is very busy these days but I have to make sure I take care of my health first, both physically and mentally (that includes my recovery,) or I can’t function at my highest level and I know this from experience. My son’s well-being and development is next on the list. I have to take care of his health and make sure he knows he is loved and that he is learning what he needs to. Then comes my job(s). I have to support my family and I want to do well and advance in my career. My friends and extended family are important to me so I find time to stay in touch with them even if I can’t be with them as much as I would like all the time. I am an introvert so I have to have time to myself also.
This is the big picture and of course there are lots of details and many decisions to make on a daily basis. But, the process is the same. Each morning, I wake up knowing that my recovery is most important because, without it, none of the rest would be possible. I plan to make time for meetings, and my sponsor and my sponsee(s). I am trying to lose weight and eat better now, so I am now making exercise part of my day. Last night and this morning I was more tired than usual so I went to bed early and slept in this morning instead of working out. This weekend, I have work and commitments so I will spend my time on them but I will make sure that next weekend I am free to spend time with my family and friends and do something fun. Last weekend, it was time to do something just for myself so I did that.
Did I mention that I have a 4 month old puppy? Life got a little crazy when we first brought him home a few months ago. I wasn’t working full-time then. I could make taking care of the puppy a priority. Now that I’m back to work, I have to rely on my family to help take care of him. There is no way I could manage all of this without help and support. While learning to prioritize, I was also learning to ask for what I need. If I need to be at work, I ask my family for support in taking care of my son and puppy. If I need to be at home, I ask my job to support my need to do that. If I need advice or emotional support, I call someone. One of the first things we are taught in early recovery is how to reach out for help and support. At first we need it to survive. Then we need it to thrive.
The thing to remember is, you are not in it alone. I learned to let my Higher Power guide my footsteps and the people who did this before me show me the way. I accepted what was really important and learned to act accordingly. I’m never doing it perfectly, but I’m progressing all the time.
This morning, I was doing a yoga routine that focused on balance. So hard! It turns out, there is a lot of oscillation involved with balancing, a lot of movement back and forth trying to come back to center. I was all over the place! But, I’m sure, the more I practice, the less I’ll drift off course and the easier it will be to come back to center.
Also related to balance in sobriety, here is one of our earlier blogs about taking it one day at a time. Enjoy!
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IFBB Professional bodybuilder, Jason Arntz, given five year suspended sentence for steroids
A South Brunswick bodybuilder received a five-year suspended prison sentence today for supplying a pill press to a steroid-manufacturing and distribution ring in the Hanovers and Florham Park in Morris County in 2007.
Jason Arntz, 38, was among 16 people arrested in March 2007 after a four-month probe centering on co-defendants Anthony Cuppari and his best friend, Michael Dente, both bodybuilders of East Hanover.
The scheme involved Dente manufacturing anabolic steroids in his basement, authorities have said. Arntz pleaded guilty in January to third-degree conspiracy to manufacture steroids, by supplying a pill press to Dente knowing he would use the machine to make capsules of the muscle-enhancing drug.
Arntz faced up to five years in prison, but he and defense attorney Robert Dunn asked for probation, saying Arntz has since “turned his life around,” and is remarried and has a young child.
“I’d like to apologize to the court,” Arntz said during his sentencing in Superior Court in Morristown. “I take responsibility for my actions. I just hope I can move forward.”
But because Arntz had a prior drug distribution conviction in Union County in 2001, as well as a prior disorderly persons offense in 2002, Morris County Assistant Prosecutor Vincent Leo sought a three-to-five-year prison term.
Judge Thomas Manahan rejected both requests, and decided to impose a suspended sentence.
“Those two brushes with the law did not impede Mr. Arntz from assisting someone he knew was manufacturing anabolic steroids,” Manahan said. “I do not find probation is an appropriate sentence. Having said that, I don’t find state prison – today – is an appropriate sentence. I’m going to keep you under wraps in a different way,” with a suspended sentence.
Arntz must stay out of trouble or he’ll be sent to prison, said the judge, adding, “It’s up to you how you comport yourself, but there won’t be any other chances.”
Arntz was also sentenced to perform 150 hours of community service and pay a $1,000 fine. Manahan urged Arntz to satisfy some of his community service by speaking publicly in schools or to groups about the dangers of steroids.
Cuppari, who pleaded guilty in February to distributing steroids to a juvenile and distributing cocaine to an adult, was the last of the group to have pleaded guilty, and now faces being sentenced on April 9 to up to 10 years in prison.
Most of the others, including Dente and another key figure, Joseph Costello, received probationary sentences.
Cuppari typically would face up to five years in prison and a $15,000 fine, but he faces double those penalties because the prosecutor’s office is seeking to have him sentenced under an “enhanced punishment” statute for distributing drugs to a minor, authorities have said.
Cuppari, a personal trainer who had been a volunteer assistant Hanover Park high school football coach, was the only one of the group who pleaded guilty to distributing steroids to a minor, and the only one to face enhanced penalties.
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The Coney Island, MO area has had 4 reports of on-the-ground hail by trained spotters, and has been under severe weather warnings 25 times during the past 12 months. Doppler radar has detected hail at or near Coney Island, MO on 45 occasions, including 5 occasions during the past year.
Name: Coney Island, MO
Where Located: 42.8 miles S of Springfield, MO
Population: 75
The Top Recent Hail Date for Coney Island, MO is Wednesday, May 18, 2022 (17th out of 45)
Hail and Wind Damage Spotted near Coney Island, MO
8/29/2022 2:50 PM CDT The severe thunderstorm warning for northwestern taney and southern stone counties will expire at 300 pm cdt, the storm which prompted the warning has weakened below severe limits, and no longer poses an immediate threat to life or property. therefore, the warning will be allowed to expire. however heavy rain is still possible with this thunderstorm.
8/29/2022 2:21 PM CDT At 221 pm cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located over kimberling city, moving northeast at 10 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and penny size hail. expect damage to roofs, siding, and trees
8/8/2022 7:33 PM CDT At 733 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from 11 miles west of ava to near taneyville to 6 miles east of hollister to indian point to 9 miles east of cassville, moving southeast at 25 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees. locations impacted include, branson, lake taneycomo, table rock lake, table rock state park, hollister, cassville, silver dollar city, kimberling city, forsyth, merriam woods, sparta, shell knob, kissee mills, reeds spring, rockaway beach, bull creek, indian point, branson west, galena, taneyville, hail threat, radar indicated max hail size, 1. 00 in wind threat, radar indicated max wind gust, 60 mph.
8/8/2022 6:56 PM CDT At 655 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from rogersville to 8 miles southeast of highlandville to near branson west to near galena to near purdy, moving southeast at 25 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
5/18/2022 10:26 PM CDT The severe thunderstorm warning for southern stone and east central barry counties will expire at 1030 pm cdt, the storm which prompted the warning has weakened below severe limits, and no longer poses an immediate threat to life or property. therefore, the warning will be allowed to expire. however heavy rain is still possible with this thunderstorm.
5/18/2022 9:44 PM CDT At 943 pm cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located 8 miles southwest of kimberling city, and is nearly stationary (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
5/18/2022 9:08 PM CDT At 908 pm cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located over kimberling city, moving east at 20 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include ping pong ball size hail and 60 mph wind gusts. People and animals outdoors will be injured. expect hail damage to roofs, siding, windows, and vehicles. expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees. locations impacted include, branson, lake taneycomo, table rock lake, table rock state park, hollister, silver dollar city, kimberling city, forsyth, merriam woods, shell knob, reeds spring, rockaway beach, bull creek, indian point, branson west, table rock, kirbyville, blue eye, coney island, powersite, hail threat, radar indicated max hail size, 1. 50 in wind threat, radar indicated max wind gust, 60 mph.
5/18/2022 9:04 PM CDT At 904 pm cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located over kimberling city, moving east at 60 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include ping pong ball size hail and 60 mph wind gusts. People and animals outdoors will be injured. expect hail damage to roofs, siding, windows, and vehicles. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
5/18/2022 8:55 PM CDT At 854 pm cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located near hollister, or near branson, moving east at 45 mph. spotters reported ping pong size hail just north of lampe (radar indicated). Hazards include ping pong ball size hail and 60 mph wind gusts. People and animals outdoors will be injured. expect hail damage to roofs, siding, windows, and vehicles. expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees. locations impacted include, branson, lake taneycomo, table rock lake, table rock state park, hollister, silver dollar city, kimberling city, forsyth, merriam woods, kissee mills, rockaway beach, bull creek, indian point, branson west, taneyville, table rock, kirbyville, blue eye, coney island, powersite, hail threat, observed max hail size, 1. 50 in wind threat, radar indicated max wind gust, 60 mph.
5/18/2022 8:50 PM CDT Ping Pong Ball sized hail reported 2.1 miles ENE of Coney Island, MO, most of the hail was quarter size but a few ping pong size hail stones were also occurring.
5/18/2022 8:29 PM CDT At 829 pm cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located over indian point, or near kimberling city, moving east at 20 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
5/15/2022 12:40 PM CDT At 1240 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from 8 miles north of taneyville to near forsyth to near roberson hollow, moving east at 30 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees. locations impacted include, branson, lake taneycomo, bull shoals lake, table rock lake, table rock state park, hollister, forsyth, merriam woods, kissee mills, rockaway beach, bull creek, indian point, taneyville, table rock, kirbyville, blue eye, coney island, powersite, protem, lampe, hail threat, radar indicated max hail size, 1. 00 in wind threat, radar indicated max wind gust, 60 mph.
5/15/2022 12:25 PM CDT At 1225 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from 7 miles south of sparta to branson to near urbanette, moving southeast at 25 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
5/15/2022 12:05 PM CDT At 1205 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from 6 miles northeast of reeds spring to near kimberling city to near beaver, moving southeast at 35 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 70 mph wind gusts and half dollar size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. expect considerable tree damage. wind damage is also likely to mobile homes, roofs, and outbuildings. these severe storms will be near, kimberling city, silver dollar city, indian point and branson west around 1210 pm cdt. branson around 1215 pm cdt. merriam woods and rockaway beach around 1225 pm cdt. forsyth and hollister around 1230 pm cdt. other locations impacted by these severe thunderstorms include lake taneycomo, table rock lake, roaring river state park, table rock state park, shell knob, bull creek, golden, table rock, emerald beach and kirbyville. thunderstorm damage threat, considerable hail threat, radar indicated max hail size, 1. 25 in wind threat, radar indicated max wind gust, 70 mph.
5/15/2022 12:01 PM CDT At 1201 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from 6 miles southwest of highlandville to near kimberling city to 6 miles northeast of seligman, moving southeast at 40 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 70 mph wind gusts and ping pong ball size hail. People and animals outdoors will be injured. expect hail damage to roofs, siding, windows, and vehicles. expect considerable tree damage. wind damage is also likely to mobile homes, roofs, and outbuildings. these severe storms will be near, kimberling city around 1205 pm cdt. reeds spring and branson west around 1210 pm cdt. branson and indian point around 1215 pm cdt. merriam woods around 1220 pm cdt. forsyth and rockaway beach around 1225 pm cdt. hollister around 1230 pm cdt. other locations impacted by these severe thunderstorms include lake taneycomo, table rock lake, roaring river state park, table rock state park, shell knob, bull creek, golden, table rock, emerald beach and kirbyville. thunderstorm damage threat, considerable hail threat, radar indicated max hail size, 1. 50 in wind threat, radar indicated max wind gust, 70 mph.
5/15/2022 11:49 AM CDT At 1148 am cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from near highlandville to 8 miles southwest of galena to near cassville, moving southeast at 35 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include golf ball size hail and 70 mph wind gusts. People and animals outdoors will be injured. expect hail damage to roofs, siding, windows, and vehicles. expect considerable tree damage. wind damage is also likely to mobile homes, roofs, and outbuildings. these severe storms will be near, kimberling city and reeds spring around 1205 pm cdt. branson west around 1210 pm cdt. silver dollar city and merriam woods around 1220 pm cdt. forsyth, rockaway beach and indian point around 1225 pm cdt. branson and hollister around 1230 pm cdt. other locations impacted by these severe thunderstorms include lake taneycomo, table rock lake, roaring river state park, table rock state park, shell knob, bull creek, golden, table rock, emerald beach and kirbyville. thunderstorm damage threat, considerable hail threat, radar indicated max hail size, 1. 75 in wind threat, radar indicated max wind gust, 70 mph.
5/15/2022 11:37 AM CDT At 1136 am cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from near clever to near crane to near purdy, moving southeast at 50 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include golf ball size hail and 70 mph wind gusts. People and animals outdoors will be injured. expect hail damage to roofs, siding, windows, and vehicles. expect considerable tree damage. wind damage is also likely to mobile homes, roofs, and outbuildings. severe thunderstorms will be near, highlandville and reeds spring around 1150 am cdt. kimberling city, silver dollar city and branson west around 1155 am cdt. indian point around 1200 pm cdt. branson around 1205 pm cdt. forsyth, merriam woods and rockaway beach around 1210 pm cdt. hollister around 1215 pm cdt. other locations impacted by these severe thunderstorms include lake taneycomo, table rock lake, roaring river state park, table rock state park, shell knob, bull creek, golden, table rock, emerald beach and kirbyville. thunderstorm damage threat, considerable hail threat, radar indicated max hail size, 1. 75 in wind threat, radar indicated max wind gust, 70 mph.
5/14/2022 4:23 PM CDT At 423 pm cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located near indian point, or near branson, moving southwest at 10 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees. locations impacted include, branson, table rock lake, lake taneycomo, table rock state park, hollister, indian point, table rock, blue eye, coney island, lampe, ridgedale, hail threat, radar indicated max hail size, 1. 00 in wind threat, radar indicated max wind gust, 60 mph.
5/14/2022 4:11 PM CDT At 411 pm cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located over hollister, or near branson, moving southwest at 5 mph (public). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
5/2/2022 10:44 PM CDT At 1043 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from 7 miles northeast of galena to 7 miles west of roberson hollow, moving east at 40 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts. expect damage to roofs, siding, and trees
4/11/2022 2:52 AM CDT The severe thunderstorm warning for taney, christian and stone counties will expire at 300 am cdt, the storms which prompted the warning have weakened below severe limits, and no longer pose an immediate threat to life or property. therefore, the warning will be allowed to expire. 40 to 50 mph winds will still be possible. a severe thunderstorm watch remains in effect until 400 am cdt for southwestern missouri.
4/11/2022 2:18 AM CDT At 217 am cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from 6 miles northwest of marionville to near aurora to near cassville to gateway, moving east at 60 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and nickel size hail. expect damage to roofs, siding, and trees
3/18/2022 4:50 AM CDT At 448 am cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from billings to near galena to indian point to 7 miles southeast of kimberling city, moving northeast at 35 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and nickel size hail. Expect damage to roofs, siding, and trees. locations impacted include, nixa, republic, branson, lake taneycomo, table rock lake, table rock state park, battlefield, hollister, silver dollar city, kimberling city, forsyth, marionville, clever, merriam woods, crane, kissee mills, billings, reeds spring, highlandville, rockaway beach, this includes interstate 44 near mile marker 69. hail threat, radar indicated max hail size, 0. 88 in wind threat, radar indicated max wind gust, 60 mph.
3/18/2022 4:38 AM CDT At 438 am cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from 6 miles west of billings to galena to near kimberling city, moving northeast at 35 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees. locations impacted include, nixa, republic, branson, lake taneycomo, table rock lake, table rock state park, aurora, battlefield, hollister, silver dollar city, kimberling city, forsyth, marionville, clever, merriam woods, crane, shell knob, kissee mills, billings, reeds spring, this includes interstate 44 near mile marker 69. hail threat, radar indicated max hail size, 1. 00 in wind threat, radar indicated max wind gust, 60 mph.
3/18/2022 4:29 AM CDT At 429 am cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from near aurora to near galena to 6 miles southwest of kimberling city, moving northeast at 35 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
12/5/2021 9:50 PM CST At 949 pm cst, a severe thunderstorm was located 7 miles south of kimberling city, moving east at 45 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
5/9/2021 9:56 AM CDT At 956 am cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located near kimberling city, moving east at 35 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include quarter size hail. Damage to vehicles is expected. this severe thunderstorm will be near, branson, silver dollar city and indian point around 1005 am cdt. hollister around 1015 am cdt. rockaway beach around 1020 am cdt. Other locations impacted by this severe thunderstorm include lake taneycomo, table rock state park, table rock lake, bull creek, table rock, kirbyville, blue eye, coney island, powersite and lampe.
4/28/2021 9:28 AM CDT The severe thunderstorm warning for stone county will expire at 930 am cdt, the storm which prompted the warning has moved out of the area. therefore, the warning will be allowed to expire. a tornado watch remains in effect until 300 pm cdt for southwestern missouri.
4/28/2021 9:28 AM CDT The tornado warning for southeastern stone county will expire at 930 am cdt, the storm which prompted the warning has moved out of the area. therefore, the warning will be allowed to expire. however heavy rain is still possible with this thunderstorm. a tornado watch remains in effect until 300 pm cdt for southwestern missouri.
4/28/2021 9:03 AM CDT At 903 am cdt, a severe thunderstorm capable of producing a tornado was located near kimberling city, moving east at 25 mph (radar indicated rotation). Hazards include tornado. Flying debris will be dangerous to those caught without shelter. mobile homes will be damaged or destroyed. damage to roofs, windows, and vehicles will occur. Tree damage is likely.
4/28/2021 8:51 AM CDT At 851 am cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located 10 miles west of kimberling city, moving northeast at 30 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and penny size hail. expect damage to roofs, siding, and trees
4/9/2021 3:05 PM CDT At 304 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from near gateway to near grandview to roberson hollow to self, moving north at 45 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and half dollar size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees. Locations impacted include, branson, lake taneycomo, table rock lake, bull shoals lake, roaring river state park, table rock state park, hollister, cassville, silver dollar city, kimberling city, forsyth, merriam woods, shell knob, kissee mills, purdy, reeds spring, seligman, rockaway beach, exeter, bull creek,.
4/9/2021 2:54 PM CDT At 253 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from 6 miles southeast of gateway to near urbanette to 6 miles north of carrollton to near harrison, moving north at 30 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include half dollar size hail. damage to vehicles is expected
11/14/2020 9:16 PM CST At 916 pm cst, a severe thunderstorm was located over hollister, or near branson, moving northeast at 55 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
11/14/2020 8:27 PM CST At 826 pm cst, a severe thunderstorm capable of producing a tornado was located near urbanette, or 8 miles north of berryville, moving northeast at 55 mph (radar indicated rotation). Hazards include tornado and ping pong ball size hail. Flying debris will be dangerous to those caught without shelter. mobile homes will be damaged or destroyed. damage to roofs, windows, and vehicles will occur. Tree damage is likely.
11/14/2020 8:22 PM CST At 822 pm cst, a severe thunderstorm was located over grandview, or near berryville, moving northeast at 55 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and half dollar size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
6/4/2020 5:51 AM CDT At 551 am cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from 7 miles northwest of roberson hollow to near urbanette to grandview, moving east at 50 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts. Expect damage to roofs, siding, and trees. Locations impacted include, table rock lake, table rock state park, roaring river state park, kimberling city, shell knob, indian point, golden, emerald beach, eagle rock, blue eye, chain-o-lakes, arrow point, coney island, lampe,.
6/4/2020 5:50 AM CDT Power lines and poles were reported down causing power outages in tow in stone county MO, 3.3 miles NE of Coney Island, MO
6/4/2020 5:18 AM CDT At 518 am cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from near crane to 9 miles west of galena to near cassville, moving south at 55 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 70 mph wind gusts. Expect considerable tree damage. Damage is likely to mobile homes, roofs, and outbuildings.
5/22/2020 11:05 AM CDT The severe thunderstorm warning for christian, western taney, stone and greene counties will expire at 1115 am cdt, the storms which prompted the warning have weakened below severe limits, and no longer pose an immediate threat to life or property. therefore, the warning will be allowed to expire. however small hail and gusty winds are still possible with these thunderstorms.
5/22/2020 10:55 AM CDT At 1055 am cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from near willard to near highlandville to near roberson hollow, moving east at 40 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees. Locations impacted include, springfield, nixa, ozark, republic, branson, lake taneycomo, table rock lake, table rock state park, battlefield, willard, hollister, rogersville, silver dollar city, kimberling city, strafford, forsyth, clever, merriam woods, sparta, fair grove, this includes interstate 44 between mile markers 64 and 90.
5/22/2020 10:28 AM CDT At 1028 am cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from near greenfield to marionville to 6 miles northeast of beaver, moving east at 40 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
5/3/2020 11:37 AM CDT The severe thunderstorm warning for southeastern stone county will expire at 1145 am cdt, the storm which prompted the warning has moved out of the area. therefore, the warning will be allowed to expire. a severe thunderstorm watch remains in effect until 400 pm cdt for southwestern missouri.
5/3/2020 11:32 AM CDT At 1131 am cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located over indian point, or near kimberling city, moving east at 35 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees. Locations impacted include, branson, table rock lake, table rock state park, silver dollar city, kimberling city, reeds spring, indian point, branson west, blue eye, coney island, lampe,.
5/3/2020 11:17 AM CDT At 1116 am cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located near kimberling city, moving east at 25 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees. Locations impacted include, branson, table rock lake, table rock state park, silver dollar city, kimberling city, shell knob, reeds spring, indian point, branson west, galena, mccord bend, blue eye, coney island, cape fair, lampe, ponce de leon, elsey,.
5/3/2020 10:57 AM CDT At 1057 am cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located 8 miles southwest of galena, or 10 miles northwest of kimberling city, moving east at 35 mph. additional strong to severe storms were located near madrid and south of cassville (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
5/3/2020 10:32 AM CDT At 1031 am cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located over indian point, or near kimberling city, moving east at 35 mph (trained weather spotters reported quarter size hail in kimberling city). Hazards include golf ball size hail. People and animals outdoors will be injured. expect damage to roofs, siding, windows, and vehicles. Locations impacted include, branson, table rock lake, table rock state park, silver dollar city, kimberling city, reeds spring, indian point, branson west, coney island, lampe, cape fair,.
5/3/2020 10:23 AM CDT Hen Egg sized hail reported 2.1 miles ENE of Coney Island, MO, at least hen egg sized hail in lampe. confirmed by pictures and video via social media.
5/3/2020 10:21 AM CDT At 1020 am cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located over kimberling city, moving east at 35 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include golf ball size hail and 60 mph wind gusts. People and animals outdoors will be injured. expect hail damage to roofs, siding, windows, and vehicles. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
1/10/2020 5:38 PM CST At 538 pm cst, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from ozark to near branson west to near silver dollar city to near hollister to near roberson hollow, moving east at 35 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts. Expect damage to roofs, siding, and trees. Locations impacted include, nixa, ozark, branson, lake taneycomo, table rock lake, table rock state park, hollister, silver dollar city, kimberling city, forsyth, clever, merriam woods, sparta, crane, shell knob, billings, reeds spring, highlandville, rockaway beach, fremont hills,.
1/10/2020 4:54 PM CST At 453 pm cst, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from near marionville to 12 miles southwest of crane to 8 miles east of cassville to 13 miles east of exeter to near beaver, moving east at 35 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts. expect damage to roofs, siding, and trees
10/21/2019 1:16 AM CDT At 116 am cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located over indian point, or near kimberling city, moving east at 55 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and nickel size hail. expect damage to roofs, siding, and trees
10/21/2019 1:08 AM CDT At 108 am cdt, a severe thunderstorm capable of producing a tornado was located 7 miles northeast of urbanette, or 9 miles south of kimberling city, moving east at 60 mph (radar indicated rotation). Hazards include tornado. Flying debris will be dangerous to those caught without shelter. mobile homes will be damaged or destroyed. damage to roofs, windows, and vehicles will occur. Tree damage is likely.
10/21/2019 12:40 AM CDT At 1239 am cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located near garfield, or 7 miles east of rogers, moving east at 60 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 70 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. expect considerable tree damage. Wind damage is also likely to mobile homes, roofs, and outbuildings.
8/26/2019 3:36 PM CDT At 336 pm cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located near reeds spring, or 8 miles south of highlandville, moving southeast at 30 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees. Locations impacted include, nixa, branson, lake taneycomo, table rock lake, table rock state park, hollister, silver dollar city, kimberling city, forsyth, merriam woods, crane, kissee mills, reeds spring, highlandville, rockaway beach, bull creek, indian point, branson west, galena, taneyville,.
8/26/2019 3:13 PM CDT The national weather service in springfield has issued a * severe thunderstorm warning for. western christian county in southwestern missouri. northwestern taney county in southwestern missouri. stone county in southwestern missouri. Southeastern lawrence county in southwestern missouri.
7/10/2019 2:06 PM CDT The severe thunderstorm warning for west central taney and southeastern stone counties will expire at 215 pm cdt, the storm which prompted the warning has weakened below severe limits, and no longer poses an immediate threat to life or property. therefore, the warning will be allowed to expire. however gusty winds are still possible with this thunderstorm.
7/10/2019 1:41 PM CDT At 141 pm cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located over kimberling city, moving south at 10 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts. expect damage to roofs, siding, and trees
7/5/2019 4:45 PM CDT At 444 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from 11 miles southeast of taneyville to 9 miles southwest of kimberling city, moving southeast at 15 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts. Expect damage to roofs, siding, and trees. Locations impacted include, branson, lake taneycomo, table rock lake, bull shoals lake, table rock state park, hollister, silver dollar city, kimberling city, forsyth, merriam woods, shell knob, kissee mills, rockaway beach, bull creek, indian point, branson west, taneyville, golden, table rock, emerald beach,.
7/5/2019 4:13 PM CDT At 412 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from near taneyville to 11 miles east of cassville, moving east at 15 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts. expect damage to roofs, siding, and trees
5/29/2019 1:12 PM CDT At 112 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from near branson west to near kimberling city to 6 miles west of roberson hollow, moving east at 40 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees. Locations impacted include, branson, table rock lake, table rock state park, silver dollar city, kimberling city, indian point, branson west, blue eye, coney island, lampe,.
5/29/2019 1:00 PM CDT At 1259 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from 11 miles southwest of galena to 6 miles southwest of kimberling city to near urbanette, moving northeast at 45 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and penny size hail. Expect damage to roofs, siding, and trees. Locations impacted include, branson, table rock lake, table rock state park, silver dollar city, kimberling city, shell knob, reeds spring, indian point, branson west, galena, blue eye, coney island, cape fair, lampe,.
5/29/2019 12:42 PM CDT At 1241 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from 6 miles north of beaver to eureka springs to near clifty, moving east at 35 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
5/18/2019 3:31 PM CDT At 313 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from near marionville to 11 miles southwest of galena to 7 miles south of kimberling city, moving northeast at 55 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees. Locations impacted include, nixa, branson, lake taneycomo, table rock lake, bull shoals lake, table rock state park, hollister, silver dollar city, kimberling city, forsyth, clever, merriam woods, crane, shell knob, kissee mills, billings, reeds spring, highlandville, rockaway beach, bull creek,.
5/18/2019 3:14 PM CDT At 313 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from near marionville to 11 miles southwest of galena to 7 miles south of kimberling city, moving northeast at 55 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees. Locations impacted include, nixa, branson, lake taneycomo, table rock lake, bull shoals lake, table rock state park, hollister, silver dollar city, kimberling city, forsyth, clever, merriam woods, crane, shell knob, kissee mills, billings, reeds spring, highlandville, rockaway beach, bull creek,.
5/18/2019 2:54 PM CDT At 253 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from near cassville to beaver to near eureka springs, moving northeast at 55 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and half dollar size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
12/1/2018 12:25 AM CST At 1224 am cst, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from 11 miles south of golden city to green forest, moving northeast at 55 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 70 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. expect considerable tree damage. wind damage is also likely to mobile homes, roofs, and outbuildings. locations impacted include, table rock lake, monett, aurora, mount vernon, silver dollar city, kimberling city, marionville, clever, crane, shell knob, sarcoxie, pierce city, billings, reeds spring, miller, verona, indian point, branson west, galena, mccord bend, this includes interstate 44 between mile markers 28 and 58. A tornado watch remains in effect until 500 am cst for southwestern missouri.
12/1/2018 12:17 AM CST At 1216 am cst, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from 6 miles east of carthage to near berryville, moving northeast at 55 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 70 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. expect considerable tree damage. wind damage is also likely to mobile homes, roofs, and outbuildings. locations impacted include, carthage, table rock lake, roaring river state park, monett, aurora, mount vernon, cassville, silver dollar city, kimberling city, marionville, clever, crane, shell knob, sarcoxie, pierce city, purdy, billings, reeds spring, exeter, miller, this includes the following highways, interstate 44 between mile markers 20 and 58. interstate 49 near mile marker 39. A tornado watch remains in effect until 500 am cst for southwestern missouri.
12/1/2018 12:04 AM CST At 1203 am cst, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from near duenweg to near forum, moving northeast at 55 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 70 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. expect considerable tree damage. Wind damage is also likely to mobile homes, roofs, and outbuildings.
8/11/2018 3:40 PM CDT The severe thunderstorm warning for stone and northeastern barry counties will expire at 345 pm cdt, the storms which prompted the warning have weakened below severe limits, and no longer pose an immediate threat to life or property. therefore, the warning will be allowed to expire.
8/11/2018 3:15 PM CDT At 314 pm cdt, severe thunderstorm were located near galena and near wheelerville moving northwest at 10 mph. other strong storms were located near branson west and southeast of hurley (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
8/8/2018 5:02 PM CDT At 501 pm cdt, a cluster of strong to severe thunderstorms was located over southern stone county, moving north at 15 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and penny size hail. Expect damage to roofs, siding, and trees. Locations impacted include, branson, table rock lake, table rock state park, silver dollar city, kimberling city, shell knob, reeds spring, indian point, branson west, galena, mccord bend, blue eye, coney island, cape fair, lampe,.
8/8/2018 4:50 PM CDT At 450 pm cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located near urbanette, or 10 miles southwest of kimberling city, moving north at 15 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
7/19/2018 7:18 PM CDT At 718 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from near taneyville to branson to 10 miles north of grandview to near seligman, moving south at 25 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 70 mph wind gusts. Expect considerable tree damage. damage is likely to mobile homes, roofs, and outbuildings. Locations impacted include, branson, lake taneycomo, table rock lake, bull shoals lake, roaring river state park, table rock state park, hollister, kimberling city, forsyth, merriam woods, shell knob, kissee mills, seligman, rockaway beach, indian point, taneyville, golden, table rock, emerald beach, kirbyville,.
7/19/2018 7:02 PM CDT At 702 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from near taneyville to washburn, moving south at 30 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 70 mph wind gusts. Expect considerable tree damage. damage is likely to mobile homes, roofs, and outbuildings. Locations impacted include, branson, lake taneycomo, table rock lake, bull shoals lake, roaring river state park, table rock state park, hollister, cassville, silver dollar city, kimberling city, forsyth, merriam woods, shell knob, kissee mills, reeds spring, seligman, rockaway beach, exeter, bull creek, indian point,.
7/19/2018 6:32 PM CDT At 631 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from near sparta to near wheaton, moving southeast at 50 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts. expect damage to roofs, siding, and trees
7/17/2018 3:38 PM CDT The severe thunderstorm warning for stone and southeastern barry counties will expire at 345 pm cdt, the storms which prompted the warning have weakened below severe limits, and no longer pose an immediate threat to life or property. therefore, the warning will be allowed to expire. however heavy rain is still possible with these thunderstorms.
7/17/2018 3:06 PM CDT At 306 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from 10 miles northeast of cassville to near beaver, moving east at 25 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts. Expect damage to roofs, siding, and trees. Locations impacted include, table rock lake, roaring river state park, silver dollar city, kimberling city, shell knob, reeds spring, indian point, branson west, galena, mccord bend, golden, emerald beach, eagle rock, blue eye, chain-o-lakes, arrow point, coney island, cape fair, jenkins, lampe,.
7/17/2018 2:40 PM CDT At 240 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from 6 miles southeast of purdy to gateway, moving east at 25 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts. expect damage to roofs, siding, and trees
7/5/2018 9:10 PM CDT The severe thunderstorm warning for west central taney and southern stone counties will expire at 915 pm cdt, the storm which prompted the warning has weakened below severe limits, and no longer poses an immediate threat to life or property. therefore the warning will be allowed to expire. however gusty winds and heavy rain are still possible with this thunderstorm.
7/5/2018 8:55 PM CDT At 855 pm cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located over indian point, or over kimberling city, moving southwest at 10 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and penny size hail. Expect damage to roofs, siding, and trees. Locations impacted include, branson, table rock lake, lake taneycomo, table rock state park, hollister, silver dollar city, kimberling city, shell knob, indian point, branson west, table rock, blue eye, coney island, lampe,.
7/5/2018 8:26 PM CDT At 826 pm cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located over silver dollar city, or near kimberling city, moving southwest at 10 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and penny size hail. expect damage to roofs, siding, and trees
6/26/2018 5:33 PM CDT At 533 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from near marshfield to seymour to 6 miles northeast of taneyville to near urbanette, moving east at 45 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts. Expect damage to roofs, siding, and trees. Locations impacted include, branson, lake taneycomo, table rock lake, bull shoals lake, table rock state park, marshfield, hollister, silver dollar city, ava, kimberling city, forsyth, seymour, merriam woods, sparta, mansfield, kissee mills, rockaway beach, fordland, hartville, bull creek, this includes interstate 44 near mile marker 103, near mile marker 105, and between mile markers 107 and 109.
6/26/2018 5:09 PM CDT At 508 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from fair grove to near strafford to near highlandville to near gateway, moving east at 45 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 70 mph wind gusts. Expect considerable tree damage. Damage is likely to mobile homes, roofs, and outbuildings.
6/14/2018 7:30 PM CDT At 730 pm cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located near kimberling city, moving northeast at 25 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
4/13/2018 5:28 PM CDT At 527 pm cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located near green forest, or 9 miles east of berryville, moving northeast at 50 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
5/27/2017 9:52 PM CDT The severe thunderstorm warning for southern stone county will expire at 1000 pm cdt, the storm which prompted the warning has moved out of the area. therefore the warning will be allowed to expire. however heavy rain is still possible with this thunderstorm. a tornado watch remains in effect until 200 am cdt for southwestern missouri. to report severe weather, contact your nearest law enforcement agency. they will relay your report to the national weather service springfield.
5/27/2017 9:41 PM CDT At 940 pm cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located near urbanette, or 10 miles southwest of kimberling city, moving east at 35 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees. Locations impacted include, table rock lake, kimberling city, shell knob, indian point, blue eye, coney island, lampe, a tornado watch remains in effect until 200 am cdt for southwestern missouri.
5/27/2017 9:22 PM CDT At 921 pm cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located near beaver, or 9 miles north of eureka springs, moving east at 35 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
5/27/2017 8:23 PM CDT At 823 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from near lanagan to rockaway beach, moving east at 40 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include quarter size hail. damage to vehicles is expected
5/27/2017 8:04 PM CDT At 804 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from 11 miles south of ava to near forsyth to 10 miles southwest of wheaton, moving southeast at 40 mph (trained weather spotters). Hazards include ping pong ball size hail and 60 mph wind gusts. People and animals outdoors will be injured. expect hail damage to roofs, siding, windows, and vehicles. expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees. Locations impacted include, branson, lake taneycomo, table rock lake, bull shoals lake, roaring river state park, big sugar creek state park, table rock state park, hollister, cassville, silver dollar city, kimberling city, forsyth, anderson, noel, merriam woods, sparta, dodge, shell knob, goodman, kissee mills, a tornado watch remains in effect until 200 am cdt for southwestern missouri.
5/27/2017 7:28 PM CDT At 728 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from near sparta to near galena to near seneca, moving southeast at 40 mph (trained weather spotters). Hazards include golf ball size hail and 60 mph wind gusts. People and animals outdoors will be injured. expect hail damage to roofs, siding, windows, and vehicles. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
5/27/2017 1:21 AM CDT The severe thunderstorm warning for southeastern stone county will expire at 130 am cdt, the severe thunderstorm which prompted the warning has moved out of the warned area. therefore, the warning will be allowed to expire. however heavy rain is still possible with this thunderstorm. a severe thunderstorm watch remains in effect until 700 am cdt for southwestern missouri. to report severe weather, contact your nearest law enforcement agency. they will relay your report to the national weather service springfield.
5/27/2017 1:09 AM CDT At 108 am cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located near roberson hollow, or 9 miles southeast of kimberling city, moving east at 30 mph (law enforcement. this storm has a long history of producing quarter to ping pong ball sized hail). Hazards include golf ball size hail and 60 mph wind gusts. People and animals outdoors will be injured. expect hail damage to roofs, siding, windows, and vehicles. expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees. Locations impacted include, branson, table rock lake, table rock state park, silver dollar city, kimberling city, indian point, blue eye, coney island, lampe,.
5/27/2017 1:00 AM CDT At 1259 am cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located 7 miles south of kimberling city, moving east at 40 mph (law enforcement. this storm has a history of producing quarter to ping pong ball sized hail). Hazards include ping pong ball size hail and 60 mph wind gusts. People and animals outdoors will be injured. expect hail damage to roofs, siding, windows, and vehicles. expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees. Locations impacted include, branson, table rock lake, table rock state park, silver dollar city, kimberling city, shell knob, indian point, branson west, blue eye, coney island, lampe,.
5/27/2017 12:48 AM CDT At 1247 am cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located 7 miles north of grandview, or 10 miles southwest of kimberling city, moving east at 25 mph (law enforcement. this storm has a history of producing quarter to ping pong ball sized hail). Hazards include two inch hail and 60 mph wind gusts. People and animals outdoors will be injured. expect hail damage to roofs, siding, windows, and vehicles. expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees. Locations impacted include, branson, table rock lake, table rock state park, silver dollar city, kimberling city, shell knob, indian point, branson west, golden, emerald beach, blue eye, arrow point, coney island, lampe,.
5/27/2017 12:40 AM CDT At 1239 am cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located near grandview, or 11 miles northeast of eureka springs, moving east at 25 mph (law enforcement. this storm has a history of producing quarter to ping pong ball sized hail). Hazards include ping pong ball size hail and 60 mph wind gusts. People and animals outdoors will be injured. expect hail damage to roofs, siding, windows, and vehicles. expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees. Locations impacted include, branson, table rock lake, table rock state park, silver dollar city, kimberling city, shell knob, indian point, branson west, golden, emerald beach, blue eye, chain-o-lakes, arrow point, coney island, lampe,.
5/27/2017 12:26 AM CDT At 1225 am cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located near beaver, or 10 miles north of eureka springs, moving east at 30 mph (law enforcement. this storm has a history of producing quarter to ping pong ball sized hail). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and half dollar size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
5/19/2017 4:55 PM CDT At 455 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from near fair grove to 6 miles northwest of roberson hollow, moving east at 25 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts. Expect damage to roofs, siding, and trees. locations impacted include, springfield, nixa, ozark, branson, lake taneycomo, bull shoals lake, table rock lake, table rock state park, hollister, rogersville, silver dollar city, kimberling city, strafford, forsyth, merriam woods, sparta, fair grove, kissee mills, reeds spring, highlandville, this includes interstate 44 between mile markers 77 and 90. A tornado watch remains in effect until 1000 pm cdt for southwestern missouri.
5/19/2017 4:11 PM CDT At 411 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from 7 miles south of ash grove to 6 miles north of grandview, moving northeast at 45 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts. expect damage to roofs, siding, and trees
5/19/2017 1:28 AM CDT The tornado warning for stone and northeastern barry counties will expire at 130 am cdt. the storms which prompted the warning have moved out of the area. therefore the warning will be allowed to expire. however heavy rain is still possible with these thunderstorms. A tornado watch remains in effect until 600 am cdt for southwestern.
5/19/2017 1:06 AM CDT At 106 am cdt, a severe squall line capable of producing both tornadoes and extensive straight line wind damage was located along a line extending from 7 miles northeast of cassville to 8 miles southwest of kimberling city, moving northeast at 35 mph (radar indicated rotation). Hazards include tornado. Flying debris will be dangerous to those caught without shelter. mobile homes will be damaged or destroyed. damage to roofs, windows, and vehicles will occur. tree damage is likely. Locations impacted include, branson, table rock lake, table rock state park, silver dollar city, kimberling city, crane, shell knob, reeds spring, indian point, branson west, galena, mccord bend, blue eye, arrow point, coney island, cape fair, wheelerville, jenkins, lampe, madry,.
5/19/2017 12:38 AM CDT At 1238 am cdt, severe thunderstorms capable of producing both tornadoes and extensive straight line wind damage were located along a line extending from 7 miles south of wheaton to seligman, moving northeast at 40 mph (radar indicated rotation). Hazards include tornado. Flying debris will be dangerous to those caught without shelter. mobile homes will be damaged or destroyed. damage to roofs, windows, and vehicles will occur. Tree damage is likely.
4/29/2017 3:01 AM CDT At 301 am cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located 9 miles west of kimberling city, moving northeast at 45 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
4/29/2017 2:22 AM CDT At 221 am cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located near reeds spring, or near kimberling city, moving northeast at 50 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
4/29/2017 2:13 AM CDT At 212 am cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located 9 miles southwest of galena, or 10 miles northwest of kimberling city, moving northeast at 50 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and half dollar size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees. Locations impacted include, table rock lake, silver dollar city, kimberling city, crane, shell knob, reeds spring, indian point, branson west, galena, mccord bend, hurley, blue eye, coney island, cape fair, ponce de leon, lampe, elsey,.
4/29/2017 1:38 AM CDT At 138 am cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located near seligman, or 9 miles south of cassville, moving northeast at 50 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
4/29/2017 12:24 AM CDT The severe thunderstorm warning for western taney and southern stone counties will expire at 1230 am cdt, the storm which prompted the warning has weakened below severe limits, and has exited the warned area. therefore, the warning will be allowed to expire. a severe thunderstorm watch remains in effect until 500 am cdt for southwestern missouri.
4/28/2017 11:46 PM CDT At 1146 pm cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located near urbanette, or 8 miles north of berryville, moving northeast at 45 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include half dollar size hail. damage to vehicles is expected
4/26/2017 1:34 AM CDT At 134 am cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located 10 miles east of cassville, moving east at 60 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
4/4/2017 9:09 PM CDT At 909 pm cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located over silver dollar city, or near branson, moving northeast at 40 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
3/9/2017 7:34 PM CST At 733 pm cst, a severe thunderstorm capable of producing a tornado was located near kimberling city, moving southeast at 45 mph. another storm capable of producing a tornado was located south of shell knob (radar indicated rotation). Hazards include tornado and golf ball size hail. Flying debris will be dangerous to those caught without shelter. mobile homes will be damaged or destroyed. damage to roofs, windows, and vehicles will occur. tree damage is likely. Locations impacted include, table rock lake, table rock state park, kimberling city, shell knob, indian point, golden, emerald beach, blue eye, arrow point, coney island, lampe,.
3/9/2017 7:22 PM CST At 722 pm cst, a confirmed tornado was located 12 miles southeast of cassville or near shell knob, moving southeast at 40 mph (public confirmed tornado). Hazards include damaging tornado and golf ball size hail. Flying debris will be dangerous to those caught without shelter. mobile homes will be damaged or destroyed. damage to roofs, windows, and vehicles will occur. tree damage is likely. Locations impacted include, table rock lake, table rock state park, kimberling city, shell knob, indian point, golden, emerald beach, blue eye, arrow point, coney island, lampe,.
3/9/2017 7:12 PM CST At 711 pm cst, a severe thunderstorm capable of producing a tornado was located 12 miles west of kimberling city, moving southeast at 30 mph (radar indicated rotation). Hazards include tornado and golf ball size hail. Flying debris will be dangerous to those caught without shelter. mobile homes will be damaged or destroyed. damage to roofs, windows, and vehicles will occur. Tree damage is likely.
3/6/2017 11:59 PM CST At 1158 pm cst, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from ava to 7 miles southeast of hollister, moving east at 65 mph (public. numerous reports of 60 to 70 mph wind gusts have been reported with this line of storms). Hazards include 70 mph wind gusts and nickel size hail. Expect considerable tree damage. damage is likely to mobile homes, roofs, and outbuildings. Locations impacted include, ozark, branson, lake taneycomo, table rock lake, roaring river state park, table rock state park, hollister, silver dollar city, ava, kimberling city, forsyth, merriam woods, sparta, shell knob, kissee mills, reeds spring, highlandville, seligman, rockaway beach, bull creek, a tornado watch remains in effect until 300 am cst for southwestern missouri.
3/6/2017 11:09 PM CST At 1109 pm cst, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from near crane to near washburn, moving east at 60 mph (public. numerous reports of wind damage have been reported with these storms across southwest missouri). Hazards include 70 mph wind gusts and nickel size hail. Expect considerable tree damage. Damage is likely to mobile homes, roofs, and outbuildings.
3/1/2017 2:31 AM CST At 231 am cst, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from 6 miles northeast of taneyville to 7 miles northeast of urbanette, moving east at 55 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
3/1/2017 1:37 AM CST At 137 am cst, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from near rogersville to 6 miles northeast of cassville, moving east at 70 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
9/16/2016 4:22 PM CDT At 421 pm cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located over kimberling city, moving northeast at 25 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
7/10/2016 8:21 PM CDT The severe thunderstorm warning for southeastern barry and southern stone counties will expire at 830 pm cdt, the storm which prompted the warning has weakened below severe limits, and no longer pose an immediate threat to life or property. therefore the warning will be allowed to expire.
7/10/2016 7:47 PM CDT At 746 pm cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located near kimberling city, moving northwest at 25 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding, and trees.
7/8/2016 1:57 AM CDT The severe thunderstorm warning for central christian. northwestern taney. barry and stone counties will expire at 200 am cdt. the storms which prompted the warning have weakened below severe limits. and have exited the warned area. therefore the warning will be allowed to expire. However gusty winds and heavy rain are still.
7/8/2016 1:49 AM CDT At 148 am cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from 7 miles north of merriam woods to kimberling city to near washburn, moving southeast at 50 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts. Expect damage to roofs. siding. and trees. Locations impacted include, nixa, ozark, branson, lake taneycomo, table rock lake, table rock state park, roaring river state park, hollister, cassville, silver dollar city, kimberling city, forsyth, merriam woods, sparta, shell knob, reeds spring, highlandville, seligman, rockaway beach, fremont hills,.
7/8/2016 1:14 AM CDT At 113 am cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from near billings to near verona to near neosho, moving southeast at 50 mph (trained weather spotters. these storms have a long history of downing trees and powerlines across western missouri). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts. Expect damage to roofs. siding. and trees. Locations impacted include, nixa, ozark, branson, lake taneycomo, table rock lake, table rock state park, big sugar creek state park, roaring river state park, hollister, cassville, silver dollar city, kimberling city, forsyth, clever, anderson, noel, merriam woods, sparta, dodge, crane,.
7/8/2016 12:58 AM CDT At 1257 am cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from near miller to near pierce city to near shoal creek drive, moving southeast at 50 mph (emergency management. these storms have a long history of producing wind damage across western missouri). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and nickel size hail. Expect damage to roofs. siding. And trees.
4/27/2016 1:30 AM CDT At 129 am cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from 9 miles west of humansville to 7 miles northeast of beaver, moving east at 40 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and penny size hail. Expect damage to roofs. siding. And trees.
8/23/2015 5:34 AM CDT At 534 am cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from near noel to near exeter to near branson, moving southeast at 45 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts. Expect damage to roofs. siding and trees. Locations impacted include, branson, table rock lake, lake taneycomo, big sugar creek state park, roaring river state park, table rock state park, hollister, cassville, silver dollar city, kimberling city, anderson, noel, shell knob, reeds spring, seligman, rockaway beach, pineville, exeter, bull creek, indian point,.
8/23/2015 5:20 AM CDT At 520 am cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from near noel to near exeter to 7 miles northeast of galena, moving southeast at 40 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts. Expect damage to roofs. siding and trees. Locations impacted include, branson, lake taneycomo, table rock lake, bull shoals lake, table rock state park, big sugar creek state park, roaring river state park, hollister, cassville, silver dollar city, kimberling city, forsyth, anderson, noel, merriam woods, crane, shell knob, goodman, kissee mills, purdy,.
8/23/2015 5:07 AM CDT At 506 am cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from 7 miles northwest of noel to near exeter to near clever, and are nearly stationary (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts. Expect damage to roofs. siding and trees. Locations impacted include, neosho, branson, lake taneycomo, table rock lake, bull shoals lake, table rock state park, big sugar creek state park, roaring river state park, monett, aurora, hollister, cassville, silver dollar city, kimberling city, seneca, forsyth, marionville, granby, anderson, noel,.
8/23/2015 5:00 AM CDT At 459 am cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from 7 miles west of lanagan to near exeter to near clever, moving southeast at 40 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts. Expect damage to roofs. Siding and trees.
8/7/2015 5:55 AM CDT The severe thunderstorm warning for southwestern taney and southeastern stone counties will expire at 600 am cdt, the storm which prompted the warning has moved out of the area. therefore the warning will be allowed to expire. to report severe weather, contact your nearest law enforcement agency. they will relay your report to the national weather service springfield.
8/7/2015 5:37 AM CDT At 537 am cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located near hollister, or near branson, and is moving to the southeast at 25 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. expect wind damage to roofs, siding and trees. Locations impacted include, branson, table rock lake, lake taneycomo, table rock state park, hollister, indian point, table rock, blue eye, coney island, lampe, ridgedale,.
8/7/2015 5:21 AM CDT At 521 am cdt, a severe thunderstorm was located over branson west, or near kimberling city, moving southeast at 25 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail. Hail damage to vehicles is expected. Expect wind damage to roofs, siding and trees.
7/24/2015 9:55 PM CDT At 954 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from 10 miles northwest of kimberling city to indian point, and moving south at 35 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts. Expect damage to roofs. siding and trees. locations impacted include, cape fair, indian point, kimberling city and lampe. this warning also includes table rock lake. A severe thunderstorm watch remains in effect until midnight cdt saturday morning for southwest missouri.
7/24/2015 9:20 PM CDT At 917 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from southwest christian county, and moving south southwest at 35 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts. Expect damage to roofs. Siding and trees.
7/20/2015 6:53 PM CDT The severe thunderstorm warning for western taney, southern stone, southeastern mcdonald and southern barry counties will expire at 700 pm cdt, the line of storms which prompted the warning has weakened. however, gusty winds and heavy rain are still possible with these thunderstorms over the next hour. frequent lightning can also be expected.
7/20/2015 6:39 PM CDT At 636 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from forsyth to seligman, and moving southeast at 20 mph (emergency management. a few trees have been reported down in and around the galena, cape fair, and kimberling city areas). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and penny size hail. Expect damage to roofs. siding and trees. locations impacted include, branson west, branson, forsyth, hollister, indian point, kimberling city, merriam woods, reeds spring, rockaway beach, seligman and washburn. This warning also includes bull shoals lake, lake taneycomo, roaring river state park, table rock lake and table rock state park.
7/20/2015 6:16 PM CDT Emergency management reported a tree down on highway dd se of kimberling city. time estimated by rada in stone county MO, 1 miles WNW of Coney Island, MO
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6/26/2015 10:53 AM CDT At 1050 am cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from reeds spring to golden, and moving east at 30 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts. Expect damage to roofs. siding and trees. locations impacted include, branson west, indian point, kimberling city and reeds spring. This warning also includes table rock lake.
6/26/2015 10:33 AM CDT At 1030 am cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from hurley to roaring river state park, and moving east at 30 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts. Expect damage to roofs. siding and trees. locations impacted include, branson west, galena, indian point, kimberling city, reeds spring and seligman. This warning also includes roaring river state park and table rock lake.
6/26/2015 10:16 AM CDT At 1015 am cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from crane to seligman, and moving east at 25 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts. Expect damage to roofs. Siding and trees.
5/17/2015 2:08 AM CDT At 203 am cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from walnut grove to ash grove to republic to 10 miles southwest of galena, and moving northeast at 60 mph (emergency management. several reports of tree and power line damage with these storms). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts. Expect damage to roofs. Siding and trees.
5/10/2015 12:46 PM CDT At 1243 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from branson west to hollister to 10 miles south of hollister, and moving northeast at 55 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and penny size hail. Expect damage to roofs. siding and trees. locations impacted include, branson west, branson, forsyth, hollister, indian point, kimberling city, merriam woods, reeds spring, rockaway beach and taneyville. this warning also includes bull shoals lake, lake taneycomo, table rock lake and table rock state park. 0. 75in.
5/10/2015 12:27 PM CDT At 1226 pm cdt, severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from 7 miles southwest of kimberling city to 12 miles south of kimberling city to 21 miles south of kimberling city, and moving northeast at 55 mph (radar indicated). Hazards include 60 mph wind gusts and penny size hail. Expect damage to roofs. Siding and trees.
4/3/2015 4:42 AM CDT A severe thunderstorm warning remains in effect for taney. southern stone. northwestern ozark. douglas and eastern christian counties until 515 am cdt. at 441 am cdt. severe thunderstorms were located along a line extending from 8 miles northwest of ava to taneyville to branson. And moving east at 55 mph.
4/3/2015 4:28 AM CDT The national weather service in springfield has issued a * severe thunderstorm warning for. east central barry county in southwest missouri. christian county in southwest missouri. douglas county in southwest missouri. Northwestern ozark county in southwest missouri.
4/3/2015 12:02 AM CDT The national weather service in springfield has issued a * tornado warning for. southeastern stone county in southwest missouri. southern taney county in southwest missouri. until 1245 am cdt * at 1159 pm cdt. A severe thunderstorm capable of producing a.
4/2/2015 11:48 PM CDT A tornado warning remains in effect for southern stone and southeastern barry counties until midnight cdt. at 1146 pm cdt. a severe thunderstorm capable of producing a tornado was located 13 miles southwest of kimberling city. and moving east at 45 mph. hazard. Tornado and quarter size hail.
4/2/2015 11:36 PM CDT A tornado warning remains in effect for southern stone and southeastern barry counties until midnight cdt. at 1134 pm cdt. a severe thunderstorm capable of producing a tornado was located over eagle rock or 19 miles west of kimberling city. and moving east at 40 mph. hazard. Tornado and quarter size hail.
4/2/2015 11:20 PM CDT The national weather service in springfield has issued a * tornado warning for. southern barry county in southwest missouri. southern stone county in southwest missouri. until midnight cdt * at 1117 pm cdt. A severe thunderstorm capable of producing a.
3/25/2015 7:04 PM CDT A severe thunderstorm warning remains in effect for taney and southern stone counties until 730 pm cdt. at 701 pm cdt. a severe thunderstorm was located 10 miles south of forsyth. other severe thunderstorms were located near blue eye and near protem. all storms were moving east at 40 mph. hazard. 60 mph wind gusts and quarter size hail.
3/25/2015 6:35 PM CDT The national weather service in springfield has issued a * severe thunderstorm warning for. southern stone county in southwest missouri. taney county in southwest missouri. until 730 pm cdt * at 631 pm cdt. A severe thunderstorm was located 8 miles south of.
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3/24/2015 6:26 PM CDT A severe thunderstorm warning remains in effect for southern taney and southern stone counties until 715 pm cdt. at 624 pm cdt. a severe thunderstorm was located 6 miles southwest of kimberling city. and moving east at 60 mph. hazard. quarter size hail. source. Radar indicated.
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fromnowonilivemad America the Beautiful, Cultural Puzzles, Moldova, Travel, Writing June 6, 2014 June 6, 2014 11 Minutes
The other day I was hurtling down the road to Chișinău in a rutiera being piloted in that take-no-prisoners manner typical of most public transportation in Moldova when the brakes were applied forcefully enough to obtain most passengers attention away from their smart phones and tablets (this visual will become more relevant in a moment) to seek the reason for our sudden loss in velocity. Traffic is pretty much non-existent on the one-lane highways that thread across Moldova, mostly because passing the car in front of you seems to be de rigueur once you’re close enough to read the license plate. (No matter if the car is doing 80, it must be passed because it is in front of you. You kind of wish they’d apply this same thinking to their education and economic policies.)
We slowed to a relative crawl for about five minutes before a crowd of people carrying balloons, flowers, and candles trailing a căruță provided the explanation: of course – a funeral! We edged our way slowly and respectfully round the procession and were afforded a nice view of the corpse, artfully framed by roses bunched atop yards of mounded tulle, lying in repose on the flatbed of the horse-drawn cart. The red lipstick was a nice touch, despite her obviously advanced years. Go out in style, I say.
Once the plodding hearse reached the rear view mirror, a number of signs of the cross were proffered before all heads bent in unison back to their respective screens. Ah, Moldova!
The random juxtaposition of old and new still takes me by surprise, even after two years. Living as I do so close to the capital and within the physical confines of a western-European designed and funded organization, I am less exposed to the old ways that remain tenaciously embedded in Moldovan village life. When a beneficiary dies here at the center an ambulance (or at least the Moldovan version of an ambulance) comes to collect the body, transporting it, I assume, to some other location for the family to retrieve later. (Since many of our beneficiaries’ family members live outside of Moldova this could take some time.)
I do have many PCV friends, however, who have attended the departed through the various processes that deliver them to their final resting place, as well as the traditional observances that trail in their wake.
Collect expired family member from scene of expiration if this does not happen to be the home. One incidence I heard about involved a brother and sister driving 2 ½ hours from their village into Chișinău to retrieve their father from the hospital where he died. Dressing him in his nicest suit, they then loaded him into the back seat of their compact car, positioned upright as there was not enough space for him to recline, which now causes me to wonder how many back seat passengers I pass on the highway might be corpses heading home for burial.
Place family member on table in prominent location in home. Surround him or her with all available chairs. Borrow some from the neighbors if possible. People will be coming and going and staying and talking and sitting in silence and praying for hours and maybe even days. There’s a lot to remember and honor and say.
Make enough food to feed an army. Or at least all your family, friends, neighbors, co-workers, local government employees and school teachers, resident Peace Corps Volunteer, the neighborhood alimentara owner, rutiera driver, and any other important village contacts who will come to pay respects. And don’t forget the house wine. And cognac.
Send someone for lumber to construct a casket. Send someone else to dig a grave in your family plot in the village cemetery.
Find a căruță if you don’t already have one. Transfer body to wagon bed. Surround with mounds of flowers. Collect people. Parade through the village, down the highway, uphill and down dale, to the final resting place. Place body in casket, wrestle casket into hole. Shovel dirt.
On day three, nine and forty, and then on the one and seven year anniversary of the departed’s expiration, repeat step 3. (Without the body, of course.) On the year anniversaries you must present a circular loaf of bread punctuated by a slender candle wrapped in a dish towel to all your visitors.
And then, of course, every year there’s Paștile Blajilor, or “Memorial Easter” as it’s called by us English-speakers. On this day, which is traditionally the Monday after the first Sunday following Easter, but usually encompasses that Sunday as well since most Moldovans have so many relatives piled up in the local cemeteries that one day won’t cover them all, families bring huge baskets of food to the cemetery and spend the day visiting, gossiping, and laughing, sharing their biscuiții and bomboane and perjole, most times while standing wedged between monuments and crucifixes and tombstones and knee-high wrought iron fences. Some families are perspicacious enough to crowd a permanent little picnic bench between graves so they have room to set out a nice spread. Oh and let me pour you some house wine. And a shot of cognac.
*My intention is not to poke fun at the Moldovan way of doing death. I am trying to convey the utter physicality of it, the deep involvement with the corpse, the practical elements that must be attended to by family and friends, the inability to delegate these tasks to “professionals,” whatever that term actually means besides just being somebody not connected to the dead person.
If you get the sense that Moldovans are much more involved with their dead than, say, your average Neptune Society-card carrying Californian or east coast Congregationalist, I dare say you’re on the right track. I have not spotted a funeral home anywhere in this country. Corpses are not yet an incorporated business here. Moldovans deal with their dead. They collect them and dress them and display them and transport them and dig the holes to deposit them in, and then continue to celebrate their life and influence and accomplishments long after the bodies have been placed in those graves. They spend a goodly amount of time looking back, remembering, leafing through old albums, telling stories. I guess it is a bit of a misnomer to call them “departed”, actually, as they seem to be hanging out in the penumbra of their family’s lives for decades past their expiration dates.
Recently, I spent a good couple of hours with the 86-year-old host-grandmother of one of my Peace Corps friends. The second time she hobbled out with an old shoebox full of photos, I gracefully acquiesced and settled in for the ride. We covered the story behind every frayed and yellowing picture, even those so faded I couldn’t make out a face. When there were duplicates – and there were many – she remembered another aspect of the personality of the person/s portrayed to relate to me. (Since most of her teeth were missing and she spoke a heavily-accented Moldovanești, I was only catching every third word anyway. She might have been telling the same story over and over again.)
Lest you attribute this persistence to the age and senility of my raconteur, let me assure you that I have been the recipient of such serial tales from the mouths of much younger, spryer folk: Nina, my host sister in Stauceni, celebrated the year anniversary of her husband’s passing my first summer in Moldova (and it was a celebration; let me say that outside of Terms of Endearment’s Aurora Greenway and my own 93-year-old grandmother, I’ve never known a happier widow in my entire life.) I was held sway for an entire evening by the story of their meeting, marriage, his war-record and drinking buddies, their children’s nativities, his long, slow decline from stomach cancer, and the details of his expiration, complete with photos and souvenir medals. There may have been some house wine involved, too. And this served up by a woman who didn’t much like her husband at all.
Once I was stopped in the training room by one of the social assistants here. She was weeping prodigiously and cradling the framed photograph of a handsome middle-aged man. She’s Ukrainian, so her Romanian is just barely better than mine, but I managed to parse out from the picture and towel-wrapped loaf of bread she pressed into my hands that this was the son whose car had been hit by a train five years ago. (She missed him so much that she observed his anniversary every year, rather than keeping to the requisite one and seven.) Despite the fact that I couldn’t understand most of what she said, she didn’t stint on his story. It was very important that I appreciate what an amazing son, brother, and father he had been. Her pain was so palpable that the tears were soon coursing down my face, too, and we ended the whole thing dissolved in each other’s embrace.
When my sister was killed in a head-on collision almost 30 years ago, a family friend identified her body at the morgue. Neither of my parents wanted to etch their memories with a stark, blue-lit close-up of her smashed-in skull or deflated ribcage. We held a memorial service at some generic, non-sectarian chapel, where we placed a framed picture on an easel front and center depicting her mid-laugh, eyes bright, hair a spun-gold halo, turning toward the camera, alive, rather than a dead body. Her friends took dutiful turns at the lectern at the front of the room, clutching sodden pieces of notebook paper and swabbing their faces with tissues. I don’t remember any member of our family talking; I think we were too stunned at that point, trying to assimilate the meaning of the sudden hole in our ranks. There was no body present; she was cremated and for some reason the remains were not ready in time for the event (how long does it take to burn a body? Is there a line? I picture a traffic jam of caskets, jostling for a lane…)
Later, I went with my dad to the crematorium to fetch her “ashes.” I put that in quotes because it is a nice little linguistic notion we have about a body that’s been burned – that all that remains is a neat, fluffy white pile of ashes. Not so. Because, of course, cradling the box on my lap through the car ride home, I couldn’t stop myself. I needed some notion of termination to take hold in me, a finale, in order to stop expecting her to pop around the corner and kid us about her creative April Fool’s gag. So, I opened it up. Carefully wrapped inside a sanitizing layer of plastic, I found chunks of concrete, similar to what you might have after going at a sidewalk with a sledgehammer. With teeny bits of irregular turquoise and deep garnet pebbles mixed in. And some silver (I surmised those were her fillings.) I sifted it through my fingers, thinking, This is you. This is all that’s left of you, Lorraine. Chunks of bones and tiny gem-like pebbles. It didn’t compute. I couldn’t make the transition between the articulated limbs, the smell and feel of her, that cloud of hair and puffy upper lip, the dim constellation of pale freckles across her nose and cheeks, her perfectly arched nails and knobby knees, with this box of crumbled cement between my thighs. If you don’t witness the burning, it’s hard to believe it really happened.
(Ironically, several years later our family benefited from a lawsuit filed against that crematorium. They were discovered to have indiscriminately mixed people’s remains during their processing, so the bones I was sifting through were not likely all, or even mostly, my sister’s.)
A couple of weeks after this, a group of us drove down to Laguna Beach with the box. I vaguely remember my current boyfriend and the man who had identified her body squabbling about who was going to scatter the contents (in the end, I think they divided it up.) I and my parents, brothers, assorted girlfriends and family friends watched from the cliffs above as they both paddled out on boogie boards, dodging surfers and swimmers, then stopped beyond the wave break, and proceeded to wave exuberantly. We all waved back until one of my brothers pointed out that they weren’t actually waving, they were busy tossing Lorraine across the water. No one said anything after that. The wind was loud and there was a table of people enjoying Caeser salads and a bottle of chardonnay not three feet away. It turns out that scattering dead people’s remains right off shore in California is not really legal. No sense in drawing undue attention.
Most years I don’t recall my sister’s expiration date until some days or weeks after it’s passed. I’m always gratified those years that I do remember, I don’t know why. I make a point of composing a little letter to her in my head, updating her on what’s been happening with me, how her neice is doing, the latest family travails. For some reason I don’t feel right doing this if I’ve forgotten on the actual day of her death – like I’ve missed her birthday party or to attend her wedding or something. Since she was cremated, there exists no dedicated place to visit, to bring flowers or to say a prayer. My mother and I have talked – at the 20 and 25 year anniversaries, I remember – of getting her friends together, looking up her old boyfriend, having a party. We still have yet to make that happen.
She is slipping silently away, becoming more ephemeral each passing year as I age and my ability to recall details fades. She died before the age of cell phones and camcorders; there is no recording of her voice. All of our videos are old school, silent and grainy like my memories, and the world they portray seems alien, with longer shadows and a clausterphobic feel. I wrote recently of losing a piece of her clothing that I had carted around with me for decades. I liked having that shawl as it gave me a tangible connection to her – something that touched her could touch me still. I fantasized that little flecks of her skin were still caught up in the threads. (This might actually be kind of gross if I hadn’t broken down and washed it years ago.)
I know that my family did the best we could, given our circumstance and the cultural medium we were steeped in, at the time of my sister’s passing. But I am aware of the movement growing within the States to bring the dead home, to wrest back responsibility for the passage of the corpse to its final resting place, be that fire or grave. I have a friend who kept her husband’s body at home in the bed where he died for the three days that his Buddhist faith proscribed before calling the authorities to collect him. It was a defiant act in a world chock full of rules and regulations around what should be, could be a far more intimate event.
I think the Moldovans have done well in blending progress with tradition in many areas. I fervently hope that I never see a funeral home built in this country. I admire them for their resilience and stoicism melded with an authentic propensity for feeling their emotions, year after year after year. The dead are not departed; they remain deeply embedded in the lives of those who remain.
It has been the ubiquity of social media, ironically, that has returned bits of Lorraine to me. Her closest friends have friended me, and they still post pictures and anecdotes about her, stuff I’ve never seen or heard, that serve to refresh her presence and allow her to again have an influence upon my day. I cry often. And laugh and smile and find myself caught up in an unexpected memory, a clear picture of how she was in a certain instance, on a certain day, and I fancy I can almost hear her voice whispering on the breeze.
That image sticks in my brain, I don’t know why: the busload of me and 19 Moldovans, inching by the wagon carrying the corpse with the bright-red mouth, framed in roses, trailed by a parade festooned with candles and balloons. Everyone pausing, looking out the window, heads turning slowly. Hands slowly tracing crosses from forehead, to shoulders, to heart. Then the van speeding up and all heads bowing down, again, to little screens cradled on laps in front of them.
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June 7, 2014 at 5:38 AM
That’s the kind of writing that you do best! It’s beautiful, Pear. We are such a sterile society; I think it hit it’s zenith in the 50’s and the 60’s were all about changing that. The pendulum just swung too far in the other direction and too fast, but lasting changes happened. Your generation and the succeeding one have no idea what life was like when we all wore girdles, hats and white gloves, when wearing white shoes after Labor Day was a huge faux pas. I hardly remember what it was like. I hope that there is a trend towards dying at home with your loved ones around you like Dennis did. One of the areas where the changes did stick is birthing. I remember them not allowing GG in the room when I was in labor. I had to beg to see you the day after I had you because the “nurses were busy”. I finally got to hold you about 24 hours after giving birth. You were presented to me, swaddled in several blankets like a burrito. They laid down a sterile cloth, wiped my breast of all germs, laid you on the sterile cloth and put my nipple in your mouth. This, as opposed to Andee with the whole famdamnly in the room watching her have Alex. Isn’t what you described called a wake? I can imagine preparing GG’s body for cremation, but I couldn’t bear it with Lorraine. I’m listening to “The Cloudsplitter”, the story takes place in the 1800’s. A one year old child is accidentally scalded to death when her sister drop a tub of boiling water on her. Her mother washes and dresses her little body in a clean nightgown to prepare her for burial. I really can’t imagine how painful that would be, yet it was part of living up until fairly recently. I think that is why people of later generations don’t really believe they’ll die and it can be very traumatic for them when death becomes a reality.
Thank you again for letting me know about Kevin. I wrote him congratulation for finally taking the step and assured him that daddy and I supported his decision. He expressed thanks and, and very touchingly said, now I can allow myself to dream again.
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June 9, 2014 at 8:00 PM
Yvette – Again, you have written something that has and will continue to make me think about the way we do things. Thank you for introducing me to other customs and way of life that keeps me in thought and sometimes wonder. Vicki.
June 9, 2014 at 8:25 PM
I am really gratified that my writing is reaching and touching you Vicki. It is the third goal of Peace Corps service to share our experiences with people back home so they can have a sense, also, of the bigger, broader world we all inhabit.
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June 11, 2014 at 7:09 AM
I used to think that it was unnecessarily morbid to embalm and display a body in a funeral parlor. But now I realize the connection between seeing the dead body and fully realizing that the person that used to inhabiti it has left. That’s horrible about the crematorium mixing people’s ashes, though I’m not surprised. Beautiful piece of work, Yvette. Moldova seems to be healing you in unlikely ways.
June 11, 2014 at 7:26 AM
I think you and I started a conversation about this topic at one point….maybe we’ll get to finish it someday
June 30, 2014 at 7:11 PM
Yvette, I continue to be glued to your posts. You are such an excellent writer and express your thoughts so clearly. I have forwarded your blog on to some of my friends who, like me, enjoy your magnificent gift for writing. I think of our trip often.
July 1, 2014 at 3:56 AM
Recommending my writing to others is the absolute best compliment you could pay me, Ann-Marie. I am honored. I, too, talk about that trip often. In the best of all possible worlds, someday our paths will cross again on a beautiful boat floating down an historic river amongst the company of interesting people!
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This strategy involves intentionally selling investments at a loss in order to offset (a) capital gains that resulted from selling securities or (b) up to $3,000 in non-investment income. However, there is a limitation to this practice. In order to prevent taxpayers from taking advantage of this perk, the IRS implements the “wash-sale” rule which nullifies a loss claim if the same or nearly identical security is re-purchased within 30 days of the sale.
Like with any plan worth implementing, preparation is essential—especially when time-sensitive moves and deadlines are involved.
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FILE – Rapper Kanye West speaks during a meeting in the Oval Office of the White House with President Donald Trump, Thursday, Oct. 11, 2018, in Washington.…
FILE – Rapper Kanye West speaks during a meeting in the Oval Office of the White House with President Donald Trump, Thursday, Oct. 11, 2018, in Washington. Kanye West was escorted out of the California headquarters of athletic shoemaker Skechers Wednesday, Oct. 26, 2022 after he showed up unannounced. Skechers says West, also known as Ye, also engaged in unauthorized filming at its corporate headquarters in Manhattan Beach and was escorted out by two executives. (AP Photo/Evan Vucci, File)
Ye kicked out of Skechers’ headquarters in California
Posted: Oct 26, 2022 / 06:54 PM PDT
Updated: Oct 27, 2022 / 04:22 AM PDT
FILE – Rapper Kanye West speaks during a meeting in the Oval Office of the White House with President Donald Trump, Thursday, Oct. 11, 2018, in Washington.…
FILE – Rapper Kanye West speaks during a meeting in the Oval Office of the White House with President Donald Trump, Thursday, Oct. 11, 2018, in Washington. Kanye West was escorted out of the California headquarters of athletic shoemaker Skechers Wednesday, Oct. 26, 2022 after he showed up unannounced. Skechers says West, also known as Ye, also engaged in unauthorized filming at its corporate headquarters in Manhattan Beach and was escorted out by two executives. (AP Photo/Evan Vucci, File)
Posted: Oct 26, 2022 / 06:54 PM PDT
Updated: Oct 27, 2022 / 04:22 AM PDT
MANHATTAN BEACH, Calif. (AP) — The rapper formerly known as Kanye West was escorted out of the California-based headquarters of athletic shoemaker Skechers after he showed up unannounced Wednesday, a day after Adidas ended its partnership with the artist following his antisemitic remarks.
The Grammy winner, who legally changed his name to Ye, “arrived unannounced and without invitation” at Skechers corporate headquarters in Manhattan Beach, southwest of Los Angeles, the company said.
“Considering Ye was engaged in unauthorized filming, two Skechers executives escorted him and his party from the building after a brief conversation,” according to a company statement.
“Skechers is not considering and has no intention of working with West,” the company said. “We condemn his recent divisive remarks and do not tolerate antisemitism or any other form of hate speech.”
The rapper’s Instagram account — which had been suspended over antisemitic comments — resumed posting Tuesday night. A new message showing a screen grab of a text message that appeared to be from a contact at a high-profile law firm spelled out when Ye could resume making apparel and new shoe designs.
Details of the message could not be verified; email messages sent to representatives for Ye weren’t immediately returned.
For weeks, Ye has made antisemitic comments in interviews and social media, including a Twitter post earlier this month that he would soon go “death con 3 on JEWISH PEOPLE,” an apparent reference to the U.S. defense readiness condition scale known as DEFCON. His posts led to his suspension from both Twitter and Instagram.
He apologized for the tweet on Monday.
On Tuesday, sportswear manufacturer Adidas announced that it was ending a partnership with Ye that helped make him a billionaire, saying it doesn’t tolerate antisemitism and hate speech.
The German sneaker giant said it expected that the decision to immediately stop production of its Yeezy products would cause a hit to its net income of up to 250 million euros ($246 million).
The company had stuck with Ye through other controversies after he suggested slavery was a choice and called the COVID-19 vaccine the “mark of the beast.”
Other companies also have announced they were cutting ties with Ye, including Foot Locker, Gap, TJ Maxx, JPMorgan Chase bank and Vogue magazine. An MRC documentary about him was also scrapped.
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Chronic diarrhea can be caused by dietary allergies or intolerances , stress, some types of parasites (e.g., Giardia , hookworms , roundworms and whipworms ), bacterial infections, pancreatic disease, inflammatory bowel disease, irritable bowel syndrome , some types of cancer, and diseases outside of the gastrointestinal tract (e.g., liver failure or heart disease). These types of health issues will need to be discussed with your veterinarian and can require prescription medication.
At-Home Treatment for Acute Diarrhea With Vomiting in Dogs
For dogs with diarrhea who have vomited only once or twice: Remove all food for 8-12 hours. To avoid dehydration, offer your dog small amounts of water frequently throughout the day. If needed, you can also offer some dilute, low-sodium chicken or beef broth or Pedialyte in addition to water. When your dog has not vomited for at least 8-12 hours, offer a small amount of boiled, white- meat chicken (no bones, skin or spices) and white rice. Wait two hours. If your dog has not vomited during this period, then you can offer another small meal of cooked chicken and rice. Continue this bland diet for 1-3 days, gradually increasing the amount of food offered at each meal and lengthening the time between meals until the stool consistency returns to normal.
You will need to do a gradual transition back to your dog’s typical diet in order to avoid another gastrointestinal upset. If the diarrhea continues for more than 24 hours or your dog’s condition worsens at any time, call your vet immediately.
If your dog suffers from frequent liquid bowel movements, or the current attack is severe and/or associated with vomiting, lethargy, abdominal pain or weight loss, make an appointment with a veterinarian. Diagnosing the cause of dog diarrhea can sometimes be as easy as running a simple fecal exam. But sometimes, it can be challenging and require different procedures such as blood work, abdominal X-rays or ultrasound, endoscopy, or exploratory surgery.
Here are several ways to reduce the occurrence of diarrhea in dogs:
Do not suddenly change your dog’s diet.
Do not give your dog bones as toys (firm, rubber chew toys are a better choice).
Do not let your dog play with small objects that could be swallowed.
Do not feed your dog table scraps.
Do not allow your dog to scavenge.
Always keep your dog up-to-date with deworming and vaccinations.
Many things can disrupt this well-balanced system, causing diarrhea or, less frequently, constipation. Some things, like eating too much grass , are not serious at all. Others can be a sign of a life-threatening problem, such as an indigestible object (like a rock) lodged in the stomach, or a disease like cancer. There are many reasons why a dog may develop loose stools, but most cases may be attributed to one of these 12 triggers:
Dietary indiscretion: Eating too much, eating garbage, or spoiled food. There’s actually a name for it in veterinary circles—“garbage toxicosis” or “garbage gut.”
Change in diet: It may take a few days for a dog’s digestive system to adapt to new proteins. That’s why many dog-food manufacturers recommend that you go slow when you switch from one brand of food to another.
Infections with common viruses such as: Parvovirus Distemper Coronavirus
Bacterial infections , such as salmonella
Illnesses , such as kidney and liver disease, colitis, inflammatory bowel disease , and cancer
How serious is diarrhea in dogs? The seriousness of diarrhea depends on how long the diarrhea has persisted and how many other signs accompany the diarrhea. If your dog has severe bloody diarrhea, or is showing more generalized signs of illness such as weakness, fever, vomiting, abdominal pain, or loss of appetite, or if dehydration accompanies the diarrhea, the cause may be more serious. For example, diarrhea is one of the first signs seen in parvovirus, a viral infection that can cause life-threatening illness in susceptible dogs.
One of the most common causes of diarrhea is a recent dietary change. Many pet owners may not realize that it takes several days for a dog’s digestive system to adjust to a new food. In more cases than not, if the new food isn’t slowly introduced into the dog’s diet, it will likely cause diarrhea. This often occurs when pet parents begin to transition their pup to an all-natural or a raw food diet . You can imagine that a dog who has eaten dry kibble their whole life will likely experience quite a shock when making such a big change. Experts advise to slowly introduce the new food, a little at a time, by mixing it in with the dog’s current food, until the old food has been entirely transitioned out.
Another extremely common cause of dog diarrhea is bad dietary habits. Most dogs enjoy eating just about everything, including things that they definitely shouldn’t be putting into their mouths. This includes garbage, spoiled food, and feces. Bad dietary habits also include overeating. All of these things can lead to an upset stomach, gas, or diarrhea. If your dog’s diet is full of processed chemicals, high sugar and salt content, and fatty foods, you’ll likely notice signs of a disruption in the balance of their digestive system. This disruption often leads to diarrhea. Additionally, dog owners must recognize when they are contributing to their dog’s bad eating habits. We all want our dogs to be happy, and when Fido gives you those big puppy eyes, it can be hard to say no. However, feeding your dog table scraps can quickly lead to a bout of diarrhea (or worse!). Feeding your dog table scraps can also lead to a number of behavioral issues, not to mention harmful side effects. For these reasons, among others, we recommend withholding table scraps and keeping your dog solely on a species appropriate diet .
Furthermore, too many commercial dog treats can also lead to diarrhea. Treats should be given sparingly, not multiple times a day. They should also be of high quality (i.e. all-natural, non-GMO, and soy-free.
Many dogs with food intolerance struggle with diarrhea and gas on a consistent basis. All dog breeds can have hypersensitivities to food that are rich in gluten, fat, and dairy. However, some specific dog breeds are more prone to these hypersensitivities. For instance, some Wheaten Terriers and Irish Setters are known to have gluten intolerances. On the other hand, some Schnauzers are known to be hypersensitive to diets that have a high fat content. Knowing specific characteristics that are tied to your dog’s breed can help determine underlying health conditions before they develop. Unfortunately, it can be rather difficult to figure out exactly what your dog is unable to tolerate. However, once it is determined, it should be consistently avoided.
Chronic (or long-term) diarrhea and digestive issues can lead to further problems in the future. Therefore, pet parents should consider adding foods and supplements that will help to ease the digestive system such as increased fiber, probiotics, etc.
Here is where things get a bit scary. While diarrhea can be the result of something relatively minor, it can also be an underlying sign of more serious conditions. Intestinal parasites like hookworms, roundworms, giardia, and coccidia can lead to severe stomach problems. Typically, dogs contract parasites by drinking contaminated water, or otherwise ingesting contaminated soil or stool. Puppies and dogs with weakened immune systems are also at a higher risk. In many cases, parasitic infestation can be difficult to detect. If for any reason you believe that your dog may have intestinal parasites, take them to the vet for a fecal exam and proper diagnosis. Only then can an effective treatment plan be implemented.
Dogs seem to love eating just about anything. Swallowing foreign objects such as toys, socks, grass, etc. can easily obstruct the intestinal tract and cause either constipation or loose stool. Once the foreign object is swallowed, the digestive system must work harder in order to allow it to pass. Many times, the only treatment is to wait it out, but please check with your vet if you notice your pet is in distress.
Be aware that intestinal obstruction resulting from ingestion of toys or bones can be associated with intense pain, vomiting and straining to defecate but passing only small amounts of watery stool, often with blood. An obstruction is a true emergency that requires immediate attention and treatment.
When in doubt or when concerned about your furry friend’s diarrhea, give your veterinarian a quick call. Your veterinarian can determine whether the problem is urgent based on the history and description you provide. He or she can also provide the best advice on how you can manage your dog’s health.
Bacterial and Viral Infections
A single bout of diarrhea is generally not a cause for concern. In fact, many acute diarrhea cases will resolve on their own or with basic home care in one to two days. If your dog had one somewhat soft stool but is otherwise playful and eating normally, you can wait to see what the next bowel movement looks like before taking further action.
You don’t want to let diarrhea persist beyond two episodes if your dog has a preexisting health problem such as diabetes, kidney disease or Addison’s disease; is very young; is a very small or toy breed dog; or is well into his or her senior years. These dogs can quickly succumb to dehydration, so you’ll want to notify your veterinarian right away.
Probably the most common complaint received by veterinarians is that of diarrhea. It’s such an easy condition to identify: The smell is unmistakable, as is its chocolate-pudding appearance. Most of the time, diarrhea is caused by a dietary indiscretion or stressful circumstances, and is self-limiting. Diarrhea is not a disease; rather, it is a symptom of a dysfunction of the gastrointestinal tract (GIT). When associated with bad food or food-borne pathogens, diarrhea serves to rapidly remove pathogens from the GIT before they have a chance to be absorbed and cause more damage.
While antibiotics treat infections, they’re can also lead to diarrhea in your dog. In fact, gastrointestinal (GI) issues are one of the most common side effects of many antibiotics. Antibiotics treat infections by killing the bad bacteria in your dog’s body. However, antibiotics are not able to differentiate between good bacteria and bad bacteria. Therefore, they, unfortunately, target both. Good bacteria are necessary for a proper balance in the digestive system and GI tract. Without good bacteria, your dog will likely experience abdominal pain and other stomach issues. If your dog has recently been put on antibiotics, their diarrhea may be linked to the new medication. Always follow the advice of your vet – many times, the medication should be given with food.
Probiotics —living bacterial cultures intended to assist the body’s naturally occurring gut flora in reestablishing themselves—may also help speed recovery. These live microorganisms are found in yogurt, for example, and are also available from your health food store or your veterinarian as high-potency powdered acidophilus cultures, which are more effective than yogurt for diarrhea.
The consistency and color of diarrhea reveal a lot about the cause of the problem and what is happening in your dog. Take very careful note of the color, consistency, and anything else that might help when you describe the symptoms to a vet. In many cases, diarrhea will resolve after a few days of home treatment, but it’s a good idea to give your vet a call if it continues for a long period or has any one of several signs that may point to a serious problem.
Do I Need to Take My Dog to the Vet?
What is diarrhea? Diarrhea is unformed or loose stools, usually occurring in larger amounts and/or more often. Diarrhea is not a disease but rather a sign of many different diseases. Diarrhea associated with minor conditions can often be resolved quickly with simple treatments. “Diarrhea may be the result of serious or life-threatening illnesses.” However, diarrhea may be the result of serious or life-threatening illnesses such as organ system failure or cancer. Even diarrhea caused by mild illnesses may become serious if treatment is not begun early enough to prevent severe dehydration and electrolyte imbalance.
At one point or another, every dog could experience a bout of diarrhea. In most cases, it isn’t a cause for total panic. If you have recently changed Fido’s diet, or if your dog has been getting extra treats from the dinner table, these factors might be clues to the culprit. However, there are certain things that you, as a pet parent, need to be aware of and keep an eye on. A great many cases are mild and, with your vet’s advice, may be treated without a trip to the office. There are many at-home remedies including rice water and pumpkin. You may need to consult a vet if your dog exhibits other symptoms such as vomiting, diarrhea does not stop, the dog is on a new medication, or things just don’t seem right. You know your dog, and only you know the subtle signs that something is wrong. Respect your instincts and if you think you need veterinary guidance, pick up the phone.
If any of the following circumstances apply, contact your vet immediately: Episodes of diarrhea are frequently repeated over several hours. Your dog shows extreme lethargy or lack of responsiveness. You suspect your dog has ingested a toxin. You see excessive amounts of blood in the stool (light spotting isn’t necessarily an emergency, but call the vet if it continues). Stool is black and/or has a tarry appearance. Your dog is on medication that may cause diarrhea (stop giving the medication and call your vet). You suspect your dog ingested a foreign body, such as a toy or clothing. Your dog’s gums are pale, white, bluish, or gray in color. Your dog’s abdomen seems painful and/or distended. You see worms in the stool (not an emergency, but a dewormer will be needed). Diarrhea occurs for more than 24 hours. If you’re in doubt, just call the vet. Diarrhea means “flow-through” … from the Greek dia meaning through, and rhein meaning to flow . It’s the body’s way of getting rid of toxins.
Using drugs to suppress this natural flow-through won’t cure your dog of his diarrhea in the long term.
Now … there are times you’ll want to consult a vet to be safe. For example, if your dog is:
Lethargic
Bloated
Vomiting repeatedly
Has a large amount of blood in his stool
Has eaten something dangerous like rat poison
But most acute diarrhea episodes last less than a day or two.
In order to prevent the development of serious conditions, familiarize yourself with the warning signs below.
Warning Signs Include:
Diarrhea that lasts for over 48 hours
Loss of appetite Increased lethargy Vomiting
Fever
Abdominal discomfort and/or increased sensitivity in the abdominal region (often seen as whining, panting, excessive drooling, or a distended abdomen –
Note well: If you notice these signs of bloat specifically, please consider this an emergency and take your dog to the vet as quickly as possible, as the condition can be potentially life-threatening.) If you notice any of the symptoms listed above, it is time to see a vet.
How to Stop Diarrhea
Now, you’re likely wondering how to stop Fido from having to use the bathroom so often. There are two main ways to treat diarrhea. The first is to let it run its course. Dogs with acute diarrhea can safely be treated at home. The second is to provide a supplement or medication to ease the issue. Of course, the main thing that pet parents must figure out is the cause of the dog’s diarrhea in the first place. Only then can an effective solution be determined.
A home-cooked bland diet may also be recommended by your veterinarian that often contains a combination of cooked rice or pasta and boiled chicken. This may be more tempting to your dog initially, but is not generally as therapeutic as the veterinary diet. This conservative medical approach allows the body’s healing mechanisms to correct the problem. As the stools return to normal, you can gradually reintroduce your dog’s regular food by mixing it in with the special diet for several days.
There are some probiotics and supplements that can be very helpful for dogs experiencing diarrhea. As the quality and effectiveness of probiotics and supplements are not always known, it is always recommended to ask your veterinarian before giving your dog anything of this nature.
After a fast, food is usually introduced slowly and many people start with binders, which can normalize stool consistency. Some tried-and-true methods include: Rice water : Boil high-quality rice in a lot of water, remove the grains, and offer the dog the creamy white soup that’s left. A splash of broth or a bit baby food will make it more palatable. White rice Canned pumpkin (plain, not prepared pie filling) has the odd distinction of being effective for diarrhea and constipation . Yogurt , which has beneficial bacteria, can help in dogs who can tolerate milk and milk products. Probiotics , live bacteria that aid digestion (these are also found in yogurt) Boiled potatoes , without skin Cottage cheese Plain protein sources such as egg (prepared with no butter or oil) or chicken (without skin) Herbs , such as fennel, have gut-soothing properties.
Bone broth is another great option for easing an upset stomach while simultaneously hydrating your dog. Dehydration is commonly associated with diarrhea, and chronic dehydration will only exacerbate the issues already present. Easing your pup’s stomach upset with a product that will also help with dehydration can prove to get Fido back on track ASAP. Dog owners can purchase bone broth or make it ahead of time. The bone broth can be frozen and stored for emergency situations. To make bone broth, simply simmer a whole chicken in a mixture of water and apple cider vinegar in a crock pot until the meat falls off the bone. We want you to note that if you are purchasing bone broth, we recommend purchasing a brand that is specially formulated for dogs. This way you’ll be able to ensure that there are no additives and nothing included that could cause further irritation and prolong the episodes of diarrhea.
If diarrhea is the only sign, a minimum number of tests are performed to rule out certain parasites and infections. If diarrhea is severe or associated with several other clinical signs, your veterinarian will perform a series of tests in order to reach a diagnosis and to determine how sick your dog has become as a consequence of the diarrhea. These tests enable your veterinarian to treat your dog appropriately. Diagnostic tests may include microscopic fecal evaluation, X-rays with or without barium (a liquid given to dogs that shows up on X-rays and can highlight abnormalities in the intestine), blood tests, fecal cultures or DNA tests, biopsies of the intestinal tract, endoscopy, ultrasound, and exploratory abdominal surgery.
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HIGH ON the list of results that liberals celebrated on Election Night was the victory of Democrat Tammy Baldwin in the U.S. Senate race in Wisconsin. Baldwin defeated Tommy Thompson, the former Republican governor and Cabinet official in the Bush Jr. administration.
Seeing the conservative Thompson go down to defeat would have brought a smile to the face of anyone who remembers his long tenure as governor, when he became nationally known as a champion of wrecking government welfare programs. Plus, his loss--and Barack Obama's win in the state--came only a few months after right-wing serpent Scott Walker handily won a recall election to remain governor.
But the fact that Thompson was beaten by Baldwin, one of the most liberal Democrats in national office today, was noteworthy. Contrary to the claims of mainstream Democratic leaders that the only way to defeat the Republican right is to run "centrist" candidates who will appeal to "swing voters," Baldwin won as part of a broader national trend in Election 2012: a general rejection of the retrograde Republican agenda, even in races where the GOP had an advantage.
Still, any left-wing activist who thinks Baldwin represents what they hope the Democratic Party will become should take a closer look at her full record, with all its compromises and contradictions.
Baldwin made history by becoming the first open lesbian to be elected to the U.S. Senate. She will also be one of 20 women senators in the next Congress, the most ever to sit in the Senate by a long ways.
She has been a representative in Congress since 1999 and has gained a reputation among liberals in Wisconsin and nationally as "one of the good ones"--a Democrat who has stayed true to what progressives believe are the real principles of the party.
This reputation is understandable in many respects. For one thing, Baldwin is one of the rare Democrats who explicitly supported a single-payer health care system. Her opponent Thompson actually ran attack ads with video footage of Baldwin telling a cheering crowd, "I am in favor of a government takeover of health care!"
For this alone, Baldwin would stand out from the crowd of much tamer Democrats. But her voting record as a House representative is near-perfect according to the standards of liberals. At every opportunity, she voted in favor of women's reproductive rights and against restrictions on abortion. She has consistently voted against authorizing new oil drilling and in favor of expanding renewable energy production. The list could go on.
Yet excitement about Baldwin among progressives and labor groups also illustrates some of the problems with Democrats on the liberal wing of the party.
For one thing, there are holes in her impeccable liberal credentials--and on issues that will be critical in the coming six years, like the U.S. conflict with China and Washington's war threats against Iran. Because one of their champions takes a conservative position on such issues, progressives can be drawn behind policies and political stands that contradict their ideals.
Second, liberals like Baldwin don't control the Democratic Party. When their beliefs clash with the policies pursued by a Democratic White House or the party's congressional leadership, they may (or may not) raise their voices in criticism, but they rarely if ever break with the Democrats.
Thus, liberal figures like Baldwin provide "window dressing" that lends legitimacy among the Democrats' more progressive base supporters for a party that, first and foremost, always serves the interests of the U.S. business and political establishment.
THE MOST prominent flaw in Baldwin's liberal image is her role among national Democrats in leading the anti-China charge. During her victory speech on Election Night, it took Baldwin just minutes to turn to China-bashing.
Baldwin was a primary author and sponsor, with Democrats and Republicans alike, of the China Hurts Economic Advancement Through Subsidies (CHEATS) Act. The bill was incorporated into legislation that President Obama signed into law last March. According to Baldwin's website:
American manufacturers deserve our full support in combating China's relentless pattern of international trade law violations. The simple fact is that China cheats. Chinese manufacturers aren't outcompeting Wisconsin manufacturers. Chinese manufacturers receive direct subsidies from their government to help them undercut American businesses...This cheating must be stopped.
The hypocrisy of these anti-China appeals is obvious. For example, Baldwin attacks the Chinese government for providing "direct subsidies" to Chinese companies and industries. But the U.S. government does exactly the same thing, supporting American corporations through quotas, tariffs and a variety of different forms of subsidies and support. The people of Haiti, for example, can attest to the ways that U.S. rice subsidies have ravaged their economy.
And if Chinese industry has advanced in the world economy, Corporate America had something to do with that. The truth is that U.S. business has made a lot more money off China's manufacturing success.
As David Whitehouse wrote for SocialistWorker.org, "[T]he intended consequence of the free-market, neoliberal revolution" has been that "[c}apital was free to nestle anywhere it could find the cheapest labor and resources. It is not surprising that China turned out to be a perfect place for Western capital to produce sneakers, toys, microwave ovens and electronics."
As for the claim that U.S. jobs are being lost to China, the real blame lies with U.S. corporations that carried out a decades-long drive to lower the wages and conditions of workers. Foreign competition has served as the excuse, but U.S. corporations have been the beneficiaries of the attack on labor. And now that the ruling-class offensive has moved most sharply against the public sector, it's clear that the American elite is driving the loss of jobs, not the Chinese government.
Blaming unfair international competition for aspects of the economic crisis isn't a new phenomenon. This same pattern took hold in the 1970s and '80s with the union-led push toward protectionism against imports from Japan. The net effect was that organized labor used its political influence to gain assistance for the very corporations that were laying off its members in huge numbers.
Another ugly consequence of the "Buy American" drive was intensified racism and xenophobia, as U.S. workers were pitted against Japanese workers. Measures like Baldwin's CHEATS Act are bound to ratchet up hatred toward China.
This is the wrong direction for anyone who wants to stop the loss of U.S. jobs and defend working-class living standards. Economic nationalism imagines that U.S. workers have more interests in common with the employers who impose concessions and layoffs on them than they do with the workers of other countries.
Instead of taking sides in a battle between America's 1 Percent and China's 1 Percent, we need solidarity across borders a common struggle of the global 99 Percent.
THE CHEATS Act isn't the only issue where Baldwin has been far from liberal.
For example, she has voted with the Democratic Party mainstream in favor of sanctions on Iran, once even co-sponsoring legislation to this effect. These sanctions have had real effects on ordinary Iranians while providing supporters of military intervention to build support for U.S. action. Yet Baldwin, in a debate with Thompson during the campaign, said she agreed with the position of the Obama administration that "all options are on the table."
Baldwin has also been a stalwart supporter of Israel. As the liberal Zionist J Street organization wrote in support of Baldwin this year:
In 2012, Baldwin voted for the bipartisan United States-Israel Enhanced Security Cooperation Act of 2012 that strengthens the United States' military and intelligence partnership with Israel....
After the election of Hamas in Gaza, Baldwin defended Israel and condemned Palestinian terrorism, voting in favor of the Palestinian Anti-Terrorism Act of 2006 to urge that "a stronger message must be sent by the United States to Hamas that we will not support a government that continues to embrace terrorism."...
During her 13 years in the House of Representatives, Congress has appropriated $34.9 billion in aid to Israel, which Baldwin has consistently supported...
In March 2011, Congresswoman Baldwin signed a bipartisan letter reaffirming her commitment to aiding Israel by supporting the Obama Administration's efforts to maintain high levels of foreign funding to Israel and the Palestinian Authority despite budget cuts affecting overall foreign aid appropriations.
What about domestic issues? As noted above, Baldwin stood out from other Democrats for having supported a single-payer health care system.
But when it came time to take a stand on the Obama administration's health care law--which does not provide health care for all and which trades limited regulations of the worst insurance company abuses for a mandate that will require millions of people to buy the defective products of private insurers--Baldwin abandoned genuine reform and supported her party.
As she told the Milwaukee Journal-Sentinel, "We have a bill that was passed. I worked on it. I voted for it. That's what our task is going forward. It doesn't matter the debates of a decade ago or even more recently...I voted for it, and now we need to put it to work and make it work for Wisconsin."
THIS LAST example leads to a broader point about the "good" Democrats--those who many progressives believe represent the true liberal roots of the party.
Actually, the liberal wing of the Democrats never wields power in the party as a whole. Its members may take quite progressive and even radical stands, but they always remain a minority, vocal or not, in setting government policy and passing laws.
This reality WAS especially clear in the career of former Minnesota Sen. Paul Wellstone, probably the most liberal member of the Senate from his election in 1990 until his death in a plane crash in 2002.
Wellstone's background in grassroots activism was more radical in some ways than Baldwin's. He was a professor at Carleton College who became the most prominent anti-Vietnam War activist on campus. He was known as a supporter of labor and the poor, walking the picket lines during the bitter strike of Austin, Minn., meatpackers against Hormel in the mid-1980s.
Wellstone won the nomination to run for Senate in 1990 largely because Democratic Party leaders thought the incumbent Republican, Rudy Boschwitz, was unbeatable. But Wellstone's populist campaign eked out a victory. As Lance Selfa later wrote for Socialist Worker:
Wellstone's first vote as a senator was against George Bush Sr.'s Gulf War on Iraq. But he soon began to succumb to the go-along-to-get-along atmosphere in Washington. For example, Wellstone won his Senate seat as an outspoken supporter of a single-payer system for universal health care. But in 1994, he backed the Clinton administration's lousy pro-corporate health care reform plan that collapsed before even reaching a vote in Congress.
As a Democrat, however liberal, Wellstone was part of a party that puts Corporate America first. Thus, he inevitably faced a Catch-22 situation. When he tried to remain true to his principles, he was dismissed as "unrealistic" and "irrelevant" by Republicans and Democrats alike. When he set out to accomplish something "realistic," he had to compromise his principles...
Wellstone's career shows what happens to even the best-intentioned people who join the Democrats, hoping to use this party of big business to change the system from within. They find that the system is stacked against them--and that it changes them, not the other way around.
Baldwin will face the same Catch-22--and it represents very bit as much of a problem about the "good" Democrats as their deviations from principled liberal positions.
The Democrats tolerate figures like Baldwin and Wellstone--sometimes grudgingly--as long as their more progressive stances remain on the margins and they fall in line behind the party when it matters. In fact, the liberal wing of the party provides an important service in giving it credibility with its far more liberal core constituencies, like unions and civil rights organizations.
At election time, this role is especially critical. The "good" Democrats build enthusiasm for the party in a way its moderate establishment never can--and then they deliver it to whichever candidates, liberal or conservative, the party chooses to run, from president on down. As Sharon Smith wrote in a commentary about Dennis Kucinich, the former House member and two-time antiwar candidate for the Democratic presidential nomination:
[L]ike a scorned relative who always shows up to family functions, Kucinich refuses to disengage from the Democratic Party establishment that...tolerates his presence only with gritted teeth. But Kucinich's loyalty to the party that holds him in such contempt will perform a useful service in delivering left-wing support for the party's chosen, corporate-backed nominee in 2008...
Kucinich must therefore be faulted for compromising his principles in one crucial respect. He remains beholden to the Democrats--a ruling-class, imperialist party that coexists in a power-sharing arrangement with the Republicans--offering voters no genuine alternative to the status quo.
Our movements can't rely on liberal Democrats like Baldwin, even if she somehow could play a leading role in setting government policy. We have to remain politically independent of the two capitalists parties--and rely on the power of protest and resistance.
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I had a “new bike day” the week of Thanksgiving last November. I haven’t talked about it much because I knew I wouldn’t be riding it until Spring time. I have my winter bikes. They are the only bikes I use for winter riding. This one was never intended to be used for winter riding. The only reason I bought it in November is because I didn’t know if this particular bike would be offered or still in stock come Spring time. It’s a Jones Plus SWB Complete. Jeff Jones dances to his own tune. He builds and designs bikes of his own design without a need to follow what other builders or bike companies do. He is known for his Space Frame designs with truss forks and handlebars unlike anything anyone else makes.
I first ran across Jones Bikes in 2007 when I was searching for an alternative to a flat bar handlebar to use on my Surly Pugsley I had bought in 2006. I was training to do my second Arrowhead Ultra 135. I have a history of tendonitis in my elbows and the flat bar positioning caused massive flare-ups. I found Jeff’s H-bar handlebar to be the solution. I’ve had his H-bar handlebars on two of my bikes since 2007. I use them on my Pugsley and my Xtracyle. Up until last summer you had to order a custom build if you wanted a Jones. He worked with titanium and steel, and did small runs of production frames in both titanium and steel. They were expensive. Last summer he released a production bike that was affordable at $1799. Although there is no way to get it for that price because you can only buy it directly from him. Shipping cost around $160. The real price of the complete bike is closer to $2,000 when you factor in shipping.
My riding habits have drastically changed over the past four years. Up until 2015, when I left a job I had been at for 14 years, I used bikes for transportation everyday. I didn’t own a car for 15 years. If I wasn’t riding for transportation I was doing long leisurely rides on pavement. Then I changed jobs, started to feel my age, developed a fear of the modern motorist and their inability to focus on driving, and stopped riding on pavement as much. Then in 2017 I bought a car. A requirement for a new job I had started. All my rides turned into leisure rides. I did very few rides for transportation. I started to ride the Pugsley for rides in the summer. It was my only “off-road” bike. There was an explosion of mountain trails in Duluth with multiple trailheads built only a mile from my house. I also had access to unofficial trails, old ATV trails and gravel roads near to my house. My road bikes got used less. For the first time since owning the Pugsley it became my go to bike all year round. Then last year I realized, “Hey, I have a car.” I can drive my Puglsey to one of the nearby National Forests, pack it up and do some bikepacking. I loved that. It wasn’t an ideal bike, but I love my Pugsley. It is sooooo familiar to me after years of extreme adventures.
This Fall I was contemplating replacing the 12 year old Pug with a modern fatbike. The Pugsley doesn’t go around corners on the local singletrack very well. I wanted a bike I could take bikepacking, ride singletrack, ride gravel, and just do it all. I wasn’t interested in a full on squishy mountain bike. I don’t like to ride singletrack everyday. I like to mix it up. I came very close to buying a Surly Ice Cream Truck. I really like the redesign they did last year. I was planning to buy a second wheelset so I could ride fat in the winter and plus size tires in the summer. That way I’d use it for summer bikepacking and gravel and singletrack. All the stuff I ride these days.
And then I starting reading up on the Jones. This is a mountain bike that can do it all. It ticks all the boxes for the bike I wanted. Plus, I’ve always wanted a Jones. I’ve always had the Jones Bars. Now I have the bars AND the bike that goes with it.
It arrived nicely packed. They recommend you have a certified mechanic do the final assembly. I’m very confident in my mechanic skills. So I did the assembly myself. Checking every bolt and nut. It only took me about an hour.
The same week it arrived Cedaero packs announced a 25% off any custom frame bag special for one day only on Small Business Saturday. Since Cedaero is local for me, I was already planning to have them do a custom fit frame bag for me. My plan was to buy everything I need to pack this bike up for bikepacking before Spring arrives. A frame bag would be the first purchase. I took the bike along. They took measurements and pictures of my bike, took an order for what extras I wanted and said it’d be done in a couple of weeks.
I picked it up three weeks later. It made for a nice 30 mile drive up the North Shore of Lake Superior to Two Harbors, Minnesota. Cedaero is part of three businesses, the other two being a bike shop, Spokengear, and a coffee shop called Cedar Cafe. I picked up the frame bag, browed the bike shop, and had a great cup of coffee in the cafe. One of the extras I paid for was to have screws to mount it to the downtube bottle mounts. The Jones has two bottle mounts on the downtube. One is a three hole mount. It’s a nice clean way to mount it to the bike without the use of straps on that tube.
Then the bike sat for the rest of the winter.
The first ride happened on a Thursday just over a week ago. The snow is mostly gone, but the trails are mud and ice. The first ride was all on roads. I knew the Jones would feel and ride different than any bike I’d ridden before. And it did. You sit very up right. The bars are wide and feel very close to you. It’s odd at first. But after a while I started to get it. The amount of control you have is astounding. There is no twitchiness to the steering or handling, but it is very precise. It inspires a great deal of confidence. I’m really looking forward to trying it on some local singletrack once the trails dry out.
I have a habit of changing out parts when I buy a bike “off-the-rack”. I told myself I would give this bike at least a few hundred miles before I changed anything. But the seat that came on the bike got swapped out after the first ride. My saddles of choice are mostly WTB saddles or SDG saddles. I happened to have a brand new SDG Bel-Air saddle that I swapped for the saddle that came on the bike. Huge improvement. The saddle on the bike had a strange boxy shape to the rear end of the saddle that just didn’t agree with my backside.
I took advantage of a few deals and coupons from REI to start acquiring gear for bikepacking with my Jones. I was looking for a good dry bag to use on my forks. Revelate Designs just so happened to release a brand new dry bag in February that met my requirements. It’s called the Polecat. I bought two and some straps from Revelate Designs. I plan to mount them to the forks with Problem Solvers Bow-Tie Strap Anchors.
Last summer I bought a handlebar harness from Revelate Designs to use on the Pugsley. I liked it a lot. But decided I would like to have a dry bag up there. I bought their Salty Roll Dry Bag to go with the harness.
The second ride on the Jones happened a few days after the first ride. The bike was already feeling better. The “oddness” of the seating position was fading and it was starting to feel “right”. I’m looking forward to getting in a lot more miles and a lot more adventures on this bike.
Stay tuned.
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Looks really nice!
Pondero April 6, 2019 / 8:14 pm
As usual, I admire your analysis and approach to choosing and setting up your bike. Every decision seems quite wise. The detailed description is appreciated. Before I build up (or make major modifications to) another bike, I think I should contact you for a reasoning check.
anniebikes April 7, 2019 / 8:33 am
I agree. Doug is very systematic in his approach and rationale when purchasing a new bike. When I bought my Clementine Doug confirmed that I did everything possible, besides a test ride, in my research. That meant a lot to me, coming from someone who thinks about bikes very similarly. Congats Doug on your new offroad summer set-up!
fourseasoncycling April 7, 2019 / 9:22 am
I just learned something about myself from these comments. I’ve never thought of myself as “systematic in my approach”. I don’t have money to buy bikes just to see if they work for me. I try to think through exactly what’s right for rather than read what’s right for others. I’m not swayed by what other people do. When I make a major purchase I want it to be the right decision for me because I always plan to keep it for a long time. I guess I care less about instant gratification and more about long term satisfaction.
Ron April 7, 2019 / 10:45 am
Such an amazing bike! Will be great to see you out riding it. I have been told by a few so called bike fit experts on how Jones products geo just won’t work on trails. They obviously have never rode a Jones bike! Hope to add one to my family of bikes one of these days. Great write up!
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I’ve never been one to listen to “experts”. Although, you could consider an experienced rider and builder like Jeff Jones an expert.
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Terry York September 25, 2019 / 11:33 pm
I’m standing on the edge of pulling the trigger on a Jones complete….. but I think I’m between a medium and a large these days. Endoed on my 90’s Bontrager medium a couple of days ago. Buying the wrong size would be a costly ooops! A Specialized dealer sized me as a medium, yet tasty riding thier ‘Roll’, I needed a large. Gahhhh! Nice write up btw!
fourseasoncycling October 5, 2019 / 12:01 pm
I called Jeff because it seemed I was between a small and medium. He talked for a long time and didn’t let me squeeze in any questions. He was making a lot of assumptions about me without asking any specific questions. It pretty much boiled down to I should buy the medium if I want a longer top tube and a small if I want a shorter top tube. Not having the ability to know which suited me without a test ride, I went with the small even though I wanted the medium (I don’t think of myself as a “small” anything even though I am). The small was the right choice for me. I think I wanted Jeff to tell me with total certainty, buy the small, or buy the medium. Instead he left it up to me.
watertankhikes November 4, 2019 / 9:20 am
FWIW, all the dozen or so bikes I have owned over the past couple decades have been size large. But my Jones LWB Complete is a medium, and it fits fine
John Neary November 10, 2020 / 7:35 pm
I purchased a Jones LWB this summer and love it, but am now looking for studded winter tires. Do you use studs on your, and if so, what type? I live in Juneau, AK where we have serious slush, ice and occasionally deeper snow.
fourseasoncycling November 10, 2020 / 9:32 pm
Congratulations on the purchase of a Jones LWB. For winter riding I have a fatbike and a dedicated commuter bike. The commuter bike gets studded tires. After 15 years of winter commuting my go-to studded tires are Schwalbe Marathon Winter. They roll nice on cleared roads because they don’t have big knobbies. I keep them on all winter (that’s six months a year here). They perform well in most conditions I encounter. My Jones doesn’t see snow. But it has become my most ridden bike the rest of the year.
John Neary November 10, 2020 / 9:56 pm
ah OK. I thought maybe your Jones was your winter bike. I’m inclined to go with a slightly wider tire than the Marathon so I can occasionally ride trails. Maybe the Kahva 2.5″.
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– There’s a link on YouTube to a 2014 Cup Final song. Was that in any way official? What did you make of it?
There were several cup final songs one by a local indie band The Shrugs called ‘Fair Maid’ which divided opinion but was really brave and creative, turning the club into a love story and by virtue of Walter Scott’s famous novel ‘The Fair Maid of Perth’ making the club feminine, which is a challenging thing for some men. By far the most spontaneous song was ‘Sweet Caroline’ which began as a cup final song because it was our manager Tommy Wright’s karaoke favourite. In the chorus “Good times never felt so good” the fans added the chant ‘Armageddon your having a laugh’ – this was a barbed attack on those in the SFA and the media that said the world would freeze over if Rangers weren’t playing in the top league.
– As I recall it, St Johnstone were one of the first in the UK to go into a new ground in the late 1980s. Are you old enough to remember the old one?
I had the perfect boyhood bedroom it was a freezing cold house on a housing scheme on top of a hill that overlooked the old and new ground. The old ground Muirton was special, it was next to railway marshalling yards that were lit up through the night and when there was a night game the floodlights would add to this haze of light that hovered just below my bedroom. Even before I was old enough to go to games this was magical. It was a traditional ground with terracing, crush barriers and half-time scores hung up on fencing. It is where I first saw Saints and that will stay with me until I die.
– Winning the Scottish Cup must have been a big deal for your club. Has much changed there since then?
Winning the cup was our destiny. We played the semi final against Aberdeen and won 2-0. Our top scorer on the cup run was a young guy called Stevie May who grew up locally in Perthshire and was a Saints fan. When he scored his second goal he ran to our end and kept pointing at his back, his name was May and his squad number was 17., The final was scheduled for 17th of May and many fans saw it as a portent of things to come. I now live in Glasgow but went home to Perth for a day just to savour the run-up – blue pies in shop windows, good luck cakes, flags flying outside shops and pubs. On the day I turned my back garden into a Saints theme bar and we then walked to the game and to our destiny. It was a very special day. In the run up I had started a Facebook group for those that didn’t make it, Saints fans that had died and never seen them in the Scottish Cup final. I was thinking of my dad who died when I was a kid and my Uncle Bill who took me to games and whose ashes are scattered at our new ground. The idea took on and thousands of Saints fans paid tribute to fathers, brothers, neighbours friends etc. Our manager Tommy Wright said he would be thinking about his disabled son Andrew who died as an infant. He promised that he would bring the cup to our end and caress it like a son. When he came to us with the cup you could feel a surge of emotion greater than anything I’d ever known in football.
– The name St Johnstone doesn’t make it immediately clear that the club is from Perth. Do you think that hinders the club at all, or being – effectively – a one club town, is this irrelevant? On one of our European runs we drew a Hungarian club – Vasas Budapest. The kick-off was delayed as they re-routed their team bus to Perth, they had initially gone to Johnstone in Renfrewshire, about seventy miles away. The name St Johnstone is derived from the former name for Perth – St John’s Toun – when it was the capital city of Scotland. I think it’s a great name, and we are still the only team in Britain with a ‘J’ in our name. When I was a wee boy my dada used to joke about that. He would know on my bedroom door and say, “Bad news son – Juventus have joined the Scottish League.”
– Has the club ever made any overtures towards Perth in Australia that you’re aware of?
Nothing official. The Australian Perth was originally settled by people from Perth in Scotland so there is a connection, and several streets share the same name. It’s a long way to go to games so I’m not sure what the benefits would be. A couple of loan players would be good but they would need to be proven internationalists, our youth development is pretty good and a youngsters would maybe get lost.
– Who would be your definitive St Johnstone player (ie, the one that best encapsulates what you feel about the club) and why?
Last month one of our Hall of Fame players Willie Coburn died. He played left back in one of our best ever sides in the early seventies. He stayed around the club all his life doing odd jobs and taking youth training. So his dedication was faultless. What I liked about him was his no-nonsense tackling. History brought him face to face with the greatest rights wingers in the Scottish Game Jinky Johnstone (Celtic) Willie Henderson (Rangers) Alex Edwards (Hibs) and always acquitted himself well. He featured in our greatest ever European victory beating Hamburg 3-0. That game led to us being invited to a tournament at the Bernabau against Real Madrid, where we went a goal up but eventually lost narrowly. So Willie played against the best of Scotland and Europe but never left Perthshire.
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Interesting in taking your hobby to the next level? Heath Farden talks about his latest project, in conjunction with Fat Dragon, where he is producing 3d printed miniatures and scenery. Read this article, and many more, in Issue 26 of The Campaigner. Get it now as digital download or in print while stocks last.
This past week on the tabletop
August 14, 2016 by Matthew Lee
07/08/2016 – 13/08/2016 What happened in the world of tabletop over the last week? Adam Beane Industries is running a Kickstarter for a sculptable filament to be used in 3D printers. Model and miniature sculptors may find this intriguing. Rule & Make are celebrating the release of Burger Up by running a competition. Post photos […]
This past week on the tabletop
March 27, 2016 by Matthew Lee
20/03/2016 –26/03/2016 What happened in the world of tabletop over the last week? Kotaku’s Tim Colwill provided a few thoughts on how to be a great dungeon master. Once you have read the article, take a look at the comments. Over on Stonemaier Games, Dave Banks provides a list of 20 ways to be a […]
Tristan Morris talks Proxy Army closure
May 2, 2014 by Matthew Lee
A few days ago Proxy Army announced its shutdown. They had been primarily looking at introducing affordable and adaptable 3D printing technology into the tabletop and miniatures hobby. The Campaigner talked to Tristan Morris, President and founder of Proxy Army, about the companies closure and the reasons behind it. What are the main factors […]
April 28, 2014 by Matthew Lee
The future of 3D printing in tabletop games took a step backwards today as Proxy Army announced it would be shutting down. As the company explained in their email to subscribers of their mailing list: Sadly, the time has come for Proxy Army Games to close its doors. While your support during our Kickstarter was […]
November 12, 2013 by Matthew Lee
The future of the tabletop hobby may be here. Proxy Army recently launched a Kickstarter campaign, Proxy Wars. It is a game system and miniature collection, but it is also a lot more. Behind this all exists a service, one that could possibly be the beginning in a revolution in how the hobby is accessed […]
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You receive an email from a website you regularly use asking you to click a link to change your password due to suspicious activity. You take a phone call from the IRS asking you to verify your bank account or social security number. You get a text saying a family member was in an accident and they need money for emergency room bills.
These requests appeal to your sense of trust and seem like legitimate things to ask of you, so there’s a good chance you’ll respond or comply. But beware; these are common social engineering scams, which are ploys to access your sensitive information or obtain money using psychological manipulation.
The best way to avoid being a victim of this type of attack is to recognize the signs and know how to protect yourself. Here are the most common social engineering scams:
Phishing, smishing, vishing. These words may sound like nonsense, but they’re all widely used ways to trick you into giving away your personal information. Phishing occurs when a scammer sends you an email with a seemingly legitimate link to click, such as an email requesting a password change. Once you click and enter your password, bank account number, or other sensitive information, scammers receive access—and you might not even realize it. Smishing is a similar scam via text, and vishing is via phone or voicemail.
Protect yourself. Don’t click links from someone you don’t know, or even from an organization that might look legitimate. Go to the actual website and reach out using their posted contact information. Similarly, if someone calls you out of the blue and requests information, tell them you’ll call their organization back using a verified number. If you call the IRS, for example, they’ll likely tell you it wasn’t actually their representative calling to solicit information from you. If you receive a text and don’t recognize the sender’s phone number, don’t respond, even if the text indicates it’s from someone you know.
Baiting or quid pro quo. As the term suggests, this method offers some form of bait to tempt you into divulging information or handing over money. It could be physical bait, such as a flash drive that seems legitimate, or digital bait, such as an enticing advertisement to click or a music download. In reality, these drives or links infect your computer with malware or direct you to unsecure websites.
Quid pro quo uses a similar tactic whereby the scammer offers a service or monetary incentive in exchange for your information.
Protect yourself. Simply stated, don’t take the bait. Remain suspicious of any link or ad sent to you. If you’re interested in finding out more, you can always Google the company or product and find their official contact information. Don’t insert flash drives into your computer if you don’t know for certain what is on them or who has had access to them before you. Be wary of anyone requesting personal information, passwords, or login credentials from you, even if they claim to be an IT specialist or government official. Verify a person’s identity before responding to a request.
Piggybacking or tailgating. To carry out this type of attack, the perpetrator will try to gain physical access to a restricted space or device by following an authorized person. Think about a delivery driver asking you to hold a door open so they can deliver a package to someone in the building or an innocent-seeming stranger at a coffee shop asking to borrow your phone or laptop to look up information. Once given access, the scammer can steal your private information in a short amount of time.
Protect yourself. Get in the habit of politely declining requests like these. You might want to be helpful and accommodating, but those are the precise traits attackers seek to exploit. You can always offer to look up directions or a phone number yourself, rather than allowing someone access to your device. And you can tell the delivery driver to phone the package recipient to gain entry to the office. Don’t be the person who falls for the trick just because you were trying to be kind to strangers.
Scareware. Social engineering scams aim to make you act quickly based on emotion, and this form of attack does exactly that. You’re working on your laptop and suddenly see a pop-up warning you that your computer has multiple viruses. It instructs you to download software immediately to protect your personal information and files. This is how they put the scare in scareware. It’s natural to click as quickly as possible to prevent the issue from worsening; however, by doing so, you’ve exposed your computer to the malware you were trying to avoid.
Protect yourself. First, be sure to install legitimate antivirus/antimalware software on your device and ensure that it’s always up to date to block pop-ups from coming through in the first place. If one does appear, allow yourself time to assess the situation and think things through before acting.
Scammers are hoping you’ll panic and react quickly, but if you pause for a moment you’ll probably be able to spot an attack. Look for misspellings, lots of exclamation points, altered logos, or unprofessional words that a software company likely wouldn’t use. If you see one of these pop-ups, don’t click it—don’t even click the “X” button to close it. Instead, close your browser window and force quit through the task manager (Ctrl + Alt + Delete on Windows).
Overall, the best way to stay safe from social engineering scams is to recognize these tactics, verify information and sources before acting, and avoid clicking or acting quickly based on emotion. Remain calm, evaluate the originator of any request for money or information, and don’t comply until you’re sure the request is legitimate.
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Spooky season is here and with it comes the desire to soak in all things horror. There are plenty of horror movies and novels to read this October, but if you’re looking for something a bit less time-consuming, short stories are an easy way to get in the Halloween spirit. The great thing about short stories is that many of them are available for free online, though it can be hard to know where to start. To make things easy on you, we’ve compiled a list of some of the darkest, spookiest short stories we could find. Below is a mix of contemporary and classic stories, with a few hidden gems sprinkled in. But ye be warned: These stories are not for the faint of heart.
“The Truth Is a Cave in the Black Mountains” by Neil Gaiman
Neil Gaiman is known for his magical realism and haunting prose, on full display in novels like Coraline, American Gods, and The Ocean at the End of the Lane. His short stories are as infectious as his longer works, and “The Truth Is a Cave in the Black Mountains” is a spooky morality tale about the ugly vortexes of greed and revenge. Anchored by an unnamed protagonist searching for a mysterious cave and his guide, Calum MacInnes, the story is full of misty locations, mystical creatures, and a hefty dose of the macabre.
Read it here.
“Children of the Corn” by Stephen King
We could do an entire list of Stephen King short stories, and it’s hard to narrow things down to just one. But “Children of the Corn” is a perfect one to single out since it has the horror master’s trademark ruthless terror on full, ghastly display. The story follows a couple who, on their drive to California, stumble across a ghost town in Nebraska governed by a cult of adult-sacrificing children. “Children of the Corn” spawned a movie franchise and ties into King’s larger Dark Tower mythos, but it’s a great work of horror fiction even on its own legs.
Read it here.
“The Summer People” by Shirley Jackson
Shirley Jackson‘s best-known short story is “The Lottery,” but that was hardly her only contribution to the horror genre. She also penned The Haunting of Hill House, and is the author of thousands of short stories, most of them scary—not all in the horror vein, but in the discomfort of normalcy, the terror of the everyday. “The Summer People” is one of those stories, about a New York City couple who spend their summers in a country cottage somewhere in New England. One year, after their children are grown, they decide to stay longer than usual, to the confusion of the locals, who themselves all opt to leave. Soon, the couple realize things aren’t what they seem in the cottage that they’re now stuck in.
Read it here.
“Berenice” by Edgar Allan Poe
You can read most of Edgar Allen Poe‘s short stories on the PoeStories.com archives, but we’ve singled this lesser known story set in a Gothic mansion and filled to the brim with the slow, mounting dread his tales are known for. A man named Egaeus and his cousin Berenice live together in a gloomy old house, both suffering. Egaeus has a disorder that causes him to obsessively fixate on objects and Berenice has a degenerative condition that affects her muscles. Over their time together, Egaeus grows obsessed with Berenice’s teeth, an obsession that takes over his life.
Read it here.
“The Third Bear” by Jeff VanderMeer
You might know Jeff VanderMeer best for his Southern Reach Trilogy, including the novel Annihilation, turned into an Alex Garland movie earlier this year. This story, from the short story collection of the same name, is about a beast from another dimension, called upon by a witch to wreak havoc on a small village. It’s a gory, surreal story that fits well into VanderMeer’s gory, surreal bibliography. The entire book is creepy, but this one stands out for the frightening images it conjures, and the ritualistic witchery it evokes.
Read it here.
W.W. Jacobs’ horror story is one of the most famous short stories of all time, a key part of most high school English class curriculums. You’re probably familiar with the plot: A family of three is gifted an enchanted monkey’s paw that grants its bearer three wishes. As with any magical totem, it’s not as lucky as it may seem, and the family is tormented by their decisions. The story is famous, yes, but you might be surprised how scary it remains, even if you think you remember the ending. A simple knock at the door has never been so gut-wrenching.
Read it here.
Ray Bradbury‘s short stories are known for their beautiful prose and haunting speculativeness. The collection The Illustrated Man is full of stories about the future, outer space, and the horrors of the unknown; “Kaleidoscope” blends all three together in a story that is as lovely in its telling as it is bone-chilling in its implications. After a malfunction on their spaceship, a crew of men float aimlessly through space, never to be rescued, forced to face their own mortality. Bradbury gets in the head of one of the men, probing at life’s big and terrifying questions, in a way that feels breathlessly, painfully real. Too real.
Read it here.
“Escape From Spiderhead” by George Saunders
George Saunders is the modern master of the short story, evidenced in his terrific and award-winning collection Tenth of December. “Escape from Spiderhead” comes from that book and is one of the freakiest, most sadistic things you’ll ever read. It involves an experimental drug called Darkenfloxx, and the patients unto whom it’s torturously administered. The story mines the depravity of inflicted human pain, explores the relationship between physical attraction and personal affection, and has a lot to say about the uglier aspects of the human condition. Don’t look for a happy ending here.
Read it here.
H.P. Lovecraft is a titan of the horror genre, and also one of its most controversial figures. It’s hard to look past some of the vile things he wrote about his fellow man, but his stories live on as artifacts, and his vast influence cannot be denied. There are many Lovecraft short stories to pick from, but we went with “The Picture in the House,” a lesser-known entry in his prolific career. Set in a creaky old house somewhere in Lovecraft Country, the story is about the spooky old man who resides there, who may or may not be a cannibal.
Read it here.
“The Lady of the House of Love” by Angela Carter
If you love fairy tales, you simply must read Angela Carter, who is known for twisting, updating, and reimagining classic folk stories. Many are beautiful, many are terrifying; “The Lady of the House of Love” is both. It’s a retelling of the classic Sleeping Beauty story, except Beauty is a vampire countess in a tower in Transylvania. The countess lives in darkness by day and feeds on garden animals by night. One day, a British soldier stumbles on the tower, and a dangerous love story blossoms.
Read it here.
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As you explore different movements and alignments, your body responds. Then we use your responses as information to shape our next steps. Over time, we build up a map exactly like one of those detective maps with pins in it everywhere a crime was committed. Once we see the pattern, we’re able to make more effective changes.
What do the pins show? Could be a spot where you often feel discomfort. Or a spot where you move very easily, or not at all. Maybe a flash of insight into a behaviour pattern, such as sucking in your belly when you’re nervous. Taken all together, they let us make an informed hypothesis about what might help you get better faster.
I recently had a giant “A-Ha” moment, where a whole lot of evidence suddenly coalesced into a cohesive narrative that explains a lot about my body and my health. It’s kind of rocked my world a bit. Ok, a lot. Here’s what happened.
My TMJD (Jaw) Issues
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Your mechanical environment shapes your body
My TMJD (Jaw) Issues
See, I have a set of symptoms usually referred to as “TMJD” (temporo-mandibular joint disorder, aka jaw issues). My jaw clicks when I eat, I grind my teeth, and I have a lot of tension in my neck, shoulders and cranial muscles. It’s totally not awesome, and it’s one of the first things I started out trying to fix when I began my health journey. I’ve seen many dental (and other!) professionals in this process, and never had any noticeable changes in my jaw. I recently decided I needed to try a new dentist, and that’s when things got crazy.
The new dentist – we’ll call her Dr. G. – is known for her work in TMJD and I was pretty excited to go to my consult because I had a feeling it would be eye-opening.
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Her dental hygienist took one look at me and then made my head explode.
“You have a tongue-tie,” she said. “There’s your problem right there”.
“Ummmurghghgh,” I said.
After I spat, she explained that a tongue-tie is the term used when you have a bit too much of a connection between your tongue and the bottom of your mouth.
The problem with a tongue-tie is that it affects how your tongue works, which means that it messes up your swallowing mechanics (among other things). You may never have considered your swallowing mechanics before – I certainly had not. But of course, we swallow many, many times a day. The combined force of all that swallowing is not minor! And when your swallowing mechanics are off, it can have a big impact on your health.
Your jaw muscles tighten to compensate for the loss of the normal healthy support your tongue should provide.
And then this giant cascade of effects can take place.
You can get headaches (check). Or you might end up carrying your head forward of its ideal position (check). Your neck and shoulder muscles can tighten up (check). It’s possible that your airway may be narrowed which can cause major sleep issues and insomnia (CHECK). Your jaws, teeth and sinuses might change their shape (check). If you’re a baby, you can’t latch for nursing (I don’t know why I was only breastfed briefly, but I have a strong suspicion). You can get ear issues (check). And…you like to mouth-breath (check).
OH MY GOSH. I am a TEXTBOOK example of an adult with a mild tongue-tie, but it took 42 years for anyone to tell me about it, including the other TMJD professionals I have consulted.
The dentist confirmed the diagnosis and sent me for some imaging to get a better sense of what’s going on in my head.
My CT scan showed that my sleeping airway is only 6mm in diameter – normal is about 20mm. How do you think my body feels about that? I am honestly super, super impressed that it’s done such a good job of keeping me going with a constant stressor like that. And it also totally explains my persistent insomnia!
It’s crazy how well this explains my entire lifetime of health issues. Everything makes a lot more sense to me now.
What I find extra fascinating about this – as a movement teacher trained by a biomechanist – is how PERFECTLY my body responded to the constant loads created by my swallowing patterns. It literally has shaped itself around my swallowing, and allowed me to continue being alive, which is awesome. It’s super cool, even if I don’t appreciate some of the consequences a whole lot.
But it’s now time to see if I can reshape it!
I’ve decided to get the tongue tie ‘released’, which is a nice way to put it. I’m pretty conservative about surgical solutions to body issues since most of the time they don’t actually treat the cause of the problem.
For example, if you have a severe bunion, surgery may give you some relief but it won’t do anything to change the forces and loads that created the bunion in the first place. Plus, once you go and cut stuff, things never work quite the same way again, so you change your potential to heal naturally, whatever that might be.
However, in this case it seems like the tie actually IS the movement problem, unlike the bunion which is just the symptom of the movement problem. And I’ve done a bunch of research, all of which suggests that my worst case scenario is that, post-release, my swallowing mechanics don’t change. Since that gets me back to where I am right now, I feel like it’s worth a try.
Post-release treatment
That also means I’m now working with an Orofacial Myofunctional Therapist. We’re working on changing my tongue posture and preparing my tongue for its future on a normal length leash. I really like corrective exercises, but the tongue ones are ridiculous. So far I haven’t noticed any changes except that my tongue is sore and I’m getting better at keeping it stuck to the roof of my mouth, but it’s only been a week or so.
I’m very aware that swallowing mechanics are only a part of this – even if they’re a big part. Post-release, I plan to be working a lot with my upper body to see if I can create changes in the tension patterns that resulted from my swallowing habits. I’m excited about this journey and looking forward to sharing what I discover.
Your mechanical environment shapes your body
It is 100% absolutely clear that our bodies are shaped by mechanical forces.
Like trees being shaped by the wind, our bodies respond to a lifetime of mechanical inputs. Swallowing is one possible input – just like sitting in chairs, walking on natural surfaces, or wearing Spanx are inputs. If you want to create change in your body, you need to start thinking about the mechanical forces that are part of your daily life.
This isn’t always easy – and it doesn’t always happen quickly. For me it’s been a journey that started over 15 years ago! But with each new inquiry, I’ve learned something and invited more change and healing. And now I have a new and potentially transformative piece of the puzzle!
Tooth grinding, TMJD and all the related issues are very common.
Now I wonder how many other people are in the same boat as me: they have a tongue-tie or poor swallowing mechanics and no-one has ever offered this as a diagnosis. Tongue-ties are also fairly common – as much as 2% of the population can be affected.
As much as I’m appalled that no-one ever mentioned this to me, it also kind of makes sense. Tongue-ties are talked about a lot in the birth world (since a baby with a tongue-tie may not be able to breast feed), but even this is a fairly recent development. Even progressive dentists may not be aware of the possible association between a tongue tie/swallowing habits and TMJD. And there isn’t any proof that releasing an adult tongue-tie will have a benefit for TMJ-related issues.
But, if you happen to be suffering from tooth grinding, head-aches, poor sleep, and any of the many other issues that TMJD includes, it might be worth looking into your swallowing mechanics! I’ll be sharing my journey right here on my blog, and invite you to reach out to me on my Facebook page if you have any questions!
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Utilising the real-time success Lumen provided me with, I became reminded to avoid worrying and starting enjoying my body system – My Blog
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Utilising the real-time success Lumen provided me with, I became reminded to avoid worrying and starting enjoying my body system
Utilising the real-time success Lumen provided me with, I became reminded to avoid worrying and starting enjoying my body system
The best component about utilising the tool was being capable eat the foodstuffs i prefer – and also to find out how they truly are affecting me as my personal day continues.
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In the course of a stressful time, this is just what I need now. The good thing would be that i did not should do some of the perform – Lumen provided me with my personal customized step-by-step arrange, and all I got to do was actually need an individual air. Wizard.
Even though I only made use of Lumen for each week, it feels as if I accumulated many years of useful skills. We learned about just how my human body creates power using the items that I eat, and in addition discovered that We certainly didn’t have enough stamina before my exercise routines. Yikes. No surprise i desired to run home for a nap in place of heading to my personal work out class. Nevertheless, Lumen described the thing I wanted to do in order to enhance. Acquiring further certain, this particular technology helped me personally call my own body, the actual fact that i’ve a crazy busy schedule. Offering me a training in Biology 101, I was reminded of how my body performs (and exactly how it truly does work most useful). By way of example, we read the essential difference between lowest, average, and highest carbohydrate foods. And also determined what meals my human body loves to posses through the day. (definitely, my favorite suggested food was squash filled with parsley, garlic, feta cheese, and almonds. It was quite simple to prep, but tasty!)
Lumen also promoted me to take a look at every area of my personal wellness, like my personal sleep plan. You will findn’t come asleep really recently which definitely provided in my opinion experience bad. With Lumen, i obtained a wake-up phone call, given that it caused us to observe how my sleep had been generating myself become considerably motivated to eat healthier and do exercises. Having your human body’s suggestions for the palm of the hand is really a game-changer, as it enables you to in fact monitor your goals and advancement.
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Towards the end of my personal few days making use of Lumen, I considered better – both physically and psychologically. Utilizing my tailored diet plan, I achieved sufficient energy to work out, which in turn enhanced my personal psychological state. When you have a hectic schedule, its seriously such a relief attain some assistance inside office. By myself, I will use fast food, microwaveable dishes, and fast snacks that set myself experience slow and fatigued. Without a doubt, on opposite side of the range, absolutely the fact it’s a good idea for people to rob ourselves with the delicacies we love. Lumen helped myself manage both former and second, by reminding myself that my body demands healthy carbs and oils for the reason that it’s exactly what it must work. Fast, lightweight dinners do not always cut it – and neither do depriving our selves of what our bodies wish eat.
Although it does not take very long to utilize, Lumen nonetheless enabled me to spend some time to maintain me. (often, you just need a little drive.) It actually was a reminder that my body things, and that handling my body enables me to work better. I thought inspired to fall asleep considerably, exercise, and devour the proper items with this specific innovation inside my wallet. After a week of doing so, I happened to be capable imagine demonstrably and could manage the stress inside my life without experiencing like a nervous breakdown was actually coming on. Plus flingster com, I learned which will make some honestly yummy food! I could now render a tofu red curry like a professional.
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Thank you for your letter dated 5th September 05 regarding Chaplaincy programs in Queensland State Schools.
It is pointless, other than an exercise in robotics, in making reference to obsolete, impracticable and non-policeable policies, in lieu of answering pertinent questions relating to Chaplaincy programs.
If Chaplaincy programs in State Schools were not riddled with such inconsistency and bias advantageously affecting proselytising Christian Fundamentalist evangelism, answers from your department would be straightforward and enlightening. It is more than disappointing they have not been.
The AFA is willing to wait for conclusions of the ‘review of the Chaplaincy Services in Queensland State Schools in conjunction with the review of the laws relating to religious instruction’.
However, because of the unworkable system that has allowed for the existence of the present dismal situation, the AFA has no confidence that radical and necessary change will be an outcome.
On receiving the results of the review, they will be examined with their efficacy judged, by the questions we will then pose, receiving full and honest answers. This has not been a strong point of your department under the old system.
Minister, with all due respect, well might you state in you final comment; “Thank you again for your interest in the welfare of the students in Queensland state schools.” Your government has bowed willingly to religious pressure groups, whose only mission in life is to gain converts to a particular fantasy. They understand public apathy aids their cause. The Atheist Foundation of Australia Inc is proud to add its name to the list of organisations and individuals who have actual interest in the mental welfare of students and the democracy they will one day manage.
The Constitution for the Commonwealth states: 116. The Commonwealth shall not make any law for establishing any religion, or for imposing any religious observance, or for prohibiting the free exercise of any religion, and no religious test shall be required as a qualification for any office or public trust under the Commonwealth.
The question therefore has to be asked: Why have state governments taken it on themselves to override the intent behind the Constitution to promote Christian religion, and in the case of Chaplaincy, a divisive, backward thinking Fundamentalism, in State Schools.
President
Copies to:
Various parties interested in the Chaplaincy program
All letters on this subject can be viewed on the Atheist Foundation of Australia Inc Web Site.
Mr David Nicholls
President
Dear Mr Nicholls
Thank you for your follow up letter received on 9 August 2005 regarding your concerns with chaplaincy services in schools. The Honourable the Premier has also referred your letter received on 17 August 2005.
I recognise that you have additional issues you wish the Department to consider.
Previous correspondence forwarded to you conveyed information on the current practices required by Education Queensland when chaplaincy services function in a Queensland state school and when religious instruction is delivered. Your thoughts on the information provided have been noted.
A review of the Chaplaincy Services in Queensland State Schools policy is being undertaken in conjunction with the review of the laws relating to religious instruction, which was referred to in previous correspondence. Significant stakeholder groups from a range of religious groups and other organisations are contributing to this review. I will ensure the views outlined in your correspondence are considered as part of this review process.
If you wish to discuss this further, I invite you to contact Ms Maureen McNamara, Senior Education Officer on telephone (07)3237 9915.
Thank you again for your interest in the welfare of students in Queensland state schools.
Dear Mr Nicholls
Thank you for your letter of 2 August 2005 to the Minister for Education and Minister for the Arts, the Honourable Rod Welford MP, concerning the Chaplaincy program.
The contents of your letter have been noted and a response is currently being prepared.
Once this response is finalised, it will be forwarded to you.
Senior Policy Adviser
2nd August 2005
Minister for Education and the Arts.
Thank you for the letter dated 5th July 05 from, Murray Watt Senior Policy Adviser. Unfortunately, it brought to light far more questions than it answered.
It was disappointing Mr Watt considered the following to be a satisfactory explanation to our clearly expressed reservations; “The program operates according to the policy and procedures outlined in the Department of Education Manual:” Pure ‘Nuremburg’ defence.
The ‘Nuremburg’ defence of only following existing Government policy (Orders) is not at all good enough in sidestepping the rationale for continuing with the Christian Chaplaincy program. My statement, “The promotion of a particularly narrow religious view afforded by fundamentalist Christian Chaplains in a multicultural and multi-denominational society is unacceptable.” an extremely important and pertinent point, elicited no other comment.
The Nuremburg defence also covered a further statement of mine. “Education is about giving factual information to children, in preparation for being productive and happy adults. Chaplains promote a one-sided contorted picture of reality that works against this goal, especially in the matters of science and the formulation of healthy and non-divisive social attitudes.”
It is common knowledge to educated persons that Evangelical Christianity is infiltrating the public school system Australia wide. The response by Mr Watt;”Chaplaincy Services in Queensland state schools occur as a community initiative in those schools which identify a need and elect to have the program.”, is very illusory. Public apathy, people not aware, nor having the time or knowledge to care about school initiatives, creates perfect circumstances for pressure groups, in this case Evangelical Christians, to infiltrate and dominate. Using the phrase “community initiative” is double-speak at its best.
Even if Chaplaincy programs were to result from genuine “community initiative”, it is not the duty of governments to accommodate ‘faiths’ of any description. The ‘opt out’ policy and the over represented specific ‘faith’ input demonstrate a will by government to place children in its care in a position of potential indoctrination by one section of the Christian religion. It is obvious to students, that their schools promote one particular religion over others and no religion. This is scandalous.
It appears the Chaplaincy program is a cheap alternative to hiring properly trained counsellors. Utilising inappropriately trained personnel with high religious motivation, is saving money at the detrimental expense of young worldview forming minds. Instances where a Chaplain or indeed the average untrained mature adult can be of assistance to students in a non-religious manner cannot be construed as a template recipe for all or even most situations.
Because Evangelical/Fundamentalist Christianity is capable of supplying enough proselytizers beyond numbers of other ‘faiths’ or no-‘faith’, is very poor reason indeed in allowing a mass presence in State schools.
It is not the intention to apply critical evaluation of the answers, by Mr Watt, to all nine questions the AFA asked, but to concentrate on the more obvious flaws.
The question re taxpayer input was prefixed with ‘Generally’ and included, ‘also’. Leaving that aside, doesn’t the government wonder why “religious societies and denominations” monetarily support Chaplains? Has the obvious answer, ‘To gain converts.’ somehow been missed?
“(4) Are Chaplains obliged to ‘believe’ in a fundamentalist view of Christianity?” The question was sidestepped, but was an admission that the government does not know or does not wish to know.
(5) What is the controlling mechanism preventing chaplains proselytising their religious point of view in school hours? The answer highlights that a Catholic, Anglican or Baptist student is obliged to attend a fundamentalist Chaplain’s class as they come under the heading Christian. Maybe the government is unaware of the enormous differences in theology of those three ‘faiths’. How better to have a captive audience capable of manipulation into the fundamentalist mould. Children of nominally Christian parents, a large proportion of society, more than elsewhere in their lives, experience exposure to specific religious induction. The actual question therefore was left unanswered.
As a reality-check, here is part of a letter from the ex VPHS student mentioned previously. It expresses concerns, the reasons for asking questions (4), (5) and (6) which as of yet, have not been adequately answered.
“Hey
It is the ex student from Victoria Point High here again. Just an update on the situation because I saw your piece on the website. I was recently informed that he is distributing Jack Chick style pamphlets to students (particularly worrying is he was distributing a pamphlet on the biblical story of Sodom, i.e. the whole anti-homosexual thing I imagine was implied). On a previous occasion he distributed to someone, I know, an Exorcist comic. I think this well shows his levels of fundamentalism as he will often get preaching information off the internet and it will all be laughable fundamentalist arguments such as the atheist test, or this jack chick stuff. Also, I hear he is quite low on funds now and is running a fundraising campaign within the school. He not only witnesses to people on parade, he is commonly invited to many functions (i.e. school camps, excursions, etc) and he walks around the school at lunchtime introducing himself and talking to people about god among many other things.
I do know people inside the school, which is currently where I am getting my information. But i would like to keep them anonymous to protect them.
Yes, I understand the need for concrete information and if it is needed, I am willing to go public.”
If the government is really interested in seeing what it has unleashed in its schools with the chaplaincy program, I suggest all persons responsible for the welfare of children, read at least the ‘Tract on Sodom’.
(6) What is the controlling mechanism preventing Chaplains recruiting children for extra curricula activities that may reflect or lead to a particular monotheistic point of view? The ex student’s letter and commonsense tell a story reasonable people would accept over un-policeable official policy described in the answer by Mr Watt.
(8) Is involvement with any religious aspects of the Chaplaincy a mandatory obligation for students? The answer by Mr Watt did not mention the ‘opt’ out option.
(9) Do students have to opt in or opt out of the religious aspect of the Chaplaincy? This answers the question but did not explain that the various sects of Christianity are all obliged to attend Chaplaincy classes.
I have contacted Mr John Corbett, Principal, Victoria Point State High School by phone and informed him of some AFA reservations. It was a cordial conversation of some length.
Minister, the letter by Mr Watt was less than straightforward and I implore you to examine the Chaplaincy program in detail. Children are the future of society and there is no more an important task than preparing them for mature thinking adulthood. The responsibility Education Ministers have over their lives cannot be greater in any other part of government. The Atheist Foundation of Australia Inc can see no valid reason for continuing this poorly thought out program. It is open to abuse and its premise is not consistent with providing factual knowledge to developing minds.
At the very least, even though nowhere near sufficient a solution, ‘opting in’ to all Chaplaincy exposure must be implemented immediately.
Lastly, a real danger exists with evangelical/fundamentalist Christians ensconcing themselves in positions of power within the Education system. Decisions in need of rational thought superseded instead, by favour to strong religious ‘conscience’, are well capable of usurping democratic process. In such instances, difficulties in shutting the gate may prove not only troublesome, but also impossible. Has this scenario eventuated already?
The AFA is deeply disturbed by the existence of the Chaplaincy programs in Queensland and Australian State schools in general as well as the protection afforded it by evasion, denial and obfuscation.
A forthright reply is expected.
President
Copies to:
Various parties interested in the Chaplaincy program
5th July 05
President
Dear Mr Nicholls
Thank you for your email received on 3 May 2005 and your letter received on 6 May 2005 concerning chaplaincy services as provided at Victoria Point State High School and in Queensland state schools in general. The Minister for Education and Minister for the Arts, Anna Bligh MP, has asked me to respond to you on her behalf. I sincerely apologise for the delay in replying to you.
Chaplaincy Services in Queensland state schools occur as a community initiative in those schools which identify a need and elect to have the program. The program operates according to the policy and procedures outlined in the Department of Education Manual: SM-03 Chaplaincy Services in Queensland State Schools. I have enclosed a copy of this policy for your perusal.
As you have raised a number of issues I will address each question separately.
(1) Is the situation at the Victoria Point State High School (VPSHS), as reported by a student correct?
This year Victoria Point State High School held their Anzac Day ceremony on 22 April. I am advised that a number of students did not attend the ceremony as their parents had requested their non-participation on religious or conscientious objection grounds. These students were supervised in the library for the duration of the ceremony.
At Victoria Point State High School, assemblies are held once a fortnight with the agenda determined by student leaders in conjunction with the Principal. The chaplain has addressed regular whole school assemblies on two occasions since July 2004.
(2) Is the situation at VPSHS reminiscent of all, some or a few state schools?
Each chaplaincy service at a Queensland State School is developed through a local chaplaincy committee in consultation with the total school community including administrators, teachers, parents and local religious groups. Therefore, they will differ in the services and the activities the chaplain will provide.
Policy requires that, ‘Chaplaincy services must reflect local circumstances, respond to local needs and be consistent with Education Queensland policy and procedures.’
(3) Is the Chaplaincy program funded by the taxpayer, directly or through payment to a controlling religious body?
The Chaplaincy Services in State Schools: Guidelines state, ‘Generally, the financial resources needed to support such services also come from outside the school, with the participating religious societies and denominations making the major financial contributions. However, other community groups, the school and the school’s Parents and Citizens Association may also make significant contributions to the establishment and maintenance of the service.’
(4) Are Chaplains obliged to ‘believe’ in a fundamentalist view of Christianity?
Chaplains are the staff of an employing authority, which is accredited for the purpose by the Minister for Education. The employing authority has responsibility for the employment conditions and payment of the chaplain’s salary. Each accredited authority has its own ethos and determines the criteria by which they employ their staff.
(5) What is the controlling mechanism preventing chaplains proselytising their religious point of view in school hours?
Religious instruction occurs in state schools in accordance with Section 26 of the Education (General Provisions) Act 1989. Legislation requires that students only attend religious instruction classes if they are members of the religious group/s providing the instruction or have parental approval to attend. This is clearly stated in point 2.2 of the chaplaincy services policy.
(6) What is the controlling mechanism preventing Chaplains recruiting children for extra curricula activities that may reflect or lead to a particular monotheistic point of view?
The local chaplaincy committee determines the major areas of responsibility and activity for the chaplain within the school. These activities require the approval of the school principal and extra curricula activities would generally require parental permission for students to attend.
(7) Are other ‘faiths’ or no-faith programs allowable by Education rules? If not, why not and who makes the rules considering we do live in a multicultural and multi-denominational country?
Faith programs can be delivered by religious groups from within the Christian and non-Christian traditions. The requirement of legislation pertaining to religious instruction is that the religious group must have members in attendance at the school in order to deliver a ‘faith’ program.
It is also a requirement of legislation that the principal of the school arranges alternative activities for students who do not attend religious instruction.
(8) Is involvement with any religious aspects of the Chaplaincy a mandatory obligation for students?
Point 2.11 of policy states:
‘Schools offering chaplaincy services should advise parents and students of:
(a) the various chaplaincy services available in the school
(b) arrangements for accessing chaplaincy services and
(c) their right not to participate.’
Following your query, parents at Victoria Point State High school will be reminded that they are able to notify the Principal confidentially if they do not wish their child to be involved in activities led by the chaplain.
(9) Do students have to opt in or opt out of the religious aspect of the Chaplaincy?
If a chaplain is providing religious instruction he/she would do so in accordance with legislation for religious instruction in school hours. This legislation requires that students who are members of the religious groups delivering the program would attend instruction unless they opt out at the request of a parent. Students who are non-members can attend if parents request in writing that their child opt in.
A chaplain may be involved as a support person in a school activity or educational program, which may have some religious content. Parents are advised when these programs or activities occur so they have the opportunity to request exemption for their child if they wish.
The Government recently canvassed community opinion regarding this issue. Please refer to the enclosed consultation paper titled Education Laws for the Future which was circulated and discussed at a range of forums throughout the State. One issue canvassed in the consultation paper was whether bodies such as the Humanist Society should be permitted to deliver classes to students in the time set aside for religious education classes. The feedback from this paper is currently being collated and will assist future decision-making.
I invite you to contact Mr John Corbett, Principal, Victoria Point State High School on telephone (07) 3820 5888, should you wish to obtain further information in regard to this matter.
Thank you again for your interest in Chaplaincy Services and the welfare of students attending Queensland state schools.
Senior Policy Adviser
Please quote: MCU
30 May 2005
Mr D Nicholls
President (National)
Dear Mr Nicholls
Thank you for forwarding the Premier a copy of your letter of 3 May 2005 addressed to the Honourable Anna Bligh MP, Minister for Education and the Arts concerning the access Christian Chaplains have to children in Queensland State schools, in particular, the Victoria Point State High School. I have been requested to reply to you on the Premiers behalf.
The contents of your letter have been noted.
Please be assured that Ms Bligh will give your correspondence her full consideration.
Again, thank you for bringing this matter to the Premier’s attention.
Chief of Staff
10 May 2005
Mr David Nicholls
Dear Mr Nicholls
Thank you for your email of 3 May 2005 to the Minister for Education and Minister for the Arts, Anna Bligh MP, concerning the access Christian Chaplains have to State School students and the issue of prayers at Victoria Point State High School Anzac Day parade.
The contents of your letter have been noted and a response is currently being prepared.
Once this response is finalised, it will be forwarded to you.
Office of the Minister for Education and Minister for the Arts
Ref: 05/42230
3 May 05
Minister for Education and the Arts.
I write to you regarding the access Christian Chaplains have to children in Queensland State schools and in particular to Victoria Point State High School.
We have received correspondence from an ex-student of VPSHS expressing concerns about the obligatory nature of religious involvement. The complaints concern prayers at a school Anzac Day parade and the recruitment drive at the fortnightly Assembly.
Students wishing exemption because of the religious content in the Anzac Day Parade were obliged to attend.
At the fortnightly Assembly, the Chaplain promoted extra curriculum activities. This has the hallmark of directing children towards a particular religious worldview.
Their have been a growing number of complaints of this nature from both parents and students. The AFA is disturbed that State education appears to be encouraging a breakdown in the ethos of keeping Church and State separate identities. The promotion of a particularly narrow religious view afforded by fundamentalist Christian Chaplains in a multicultural and multi-denominational society is unacceptable.
Education is about giving factual information to children, in preparation for being productive and happy adults. Chaplains promote a one-sided contorted picture of reality that works against this goal, especially in the matters of science and the formulation of healthy and non-divisive social attitudes.
It is our understanding that Chaplains have to ‘believe’ in a specifically religious fundamentalist interpretation of Christianity to obtain their position. Children have very pliable minds and can be influenced and manipulated by people seen as the adult authority, we therefore request the following information:
(1) Is the situation at the Victoria Point State High School, as reported by a student, correct?
(2) Is the situation at the VPSHS reminiscent of all, some or a few State Schools?
(3) Is the Chaplaincy program funded by the taxpayer, directly or through payment to a controlling religious body?
(4) Are Chaplains obliged to ‘believe’ in a fundamentalist view of Christianity?
(5) What is the controlling mechanism preventing Chaplains proselytising their religious point of view in school hours?
(6) What is the controlling mechanism preventing Chaplains recruiting children for extra curriculum activities that may reflect or lead to a particular monotheistic point of view?
(7) Are other ‘faiths’ or no-faith programs allowable by Education rules? If not, why not and who makes the rules considering we do live in a multicultural and multi-denominational country?
(8) Is involvement with any religious aspects of the Chaplaincy a mandatory obligation for students?
(9) Do students have to opt in or opt out of the religious aspect of the Chaplaincy?
The questions and the concerns expressed in this letter are of vital importance and interest to many people. As children are at the formulation stage of democratic ideas, the hope is that public knowledge on the mechanism and reasoning for and about having Chaplains in schools is freely available, forthright and comprehensive.
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Its almost laughable that anyone would view our home as a quiet retreat center. We have four active, gregarious children, ministries, work schedules, smart phones, email, and a DVD player, for heaven’s sake. My home is filled with people frequently, and I like to think it rings with laughter and joy regularly. There is always laundry to wash, fold, put away, dishes to do, bills to pay, and calls to make. It certainly doesn’t feel like a retreat center, it feels like a bustling bed and breakfast that provides maid service, taxi service, and homework assistance.
But when my parents walk through my doors and sigh and it all rolls off. I’ve found myself wondering since they left the last time if I could keep that feeling of peace and retreat here. It has been elusive, like chasing a butterfly that darts each time I think I’ve laid hold.
So, here are some things I’m working on to try to capture that feeling of retreat.
1. I’m asking the Lord to quiet me.
I realize afresh that my state of mind sets the tone for my family and as I fix my mind on Him the noise I make in this place is less clanging like a gong (1 Cor 13) and more like a melody. I’m beginning and ending my day with Him and His word.
2. I’m asking the Lord to show me the “things” in our lives that need to go.
3. I’m asking the Lord to help me see excess and clutter.
More stuff doesn’t equal more peace. It means more to maintain and put away and it often leads my heart further away from my husband, family and Lord.
I desperately long for our home to be a place of peace. It may never be our retreat center, but it can be a place of peace.
Have you made the decision to turn something off recently?
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Teaching primary students, pencils have been a HUGE headache for me in the past. Every single day someone would find their pencil missing, or needed it sharpened when I was in the middle of teaching a small group, and when I placed new pencils in the sharpened bin half the class seemed to all of a sudden be missing a pencil! To solve these pencil problems I started a new system based on some ideas I'd read about on Facebook and Pinterest, and now I never have to think about pencil problems!
At the beginning of the year, I provided every student in my class with a pencil case from the dollar store. I labeled them with each student's name so there could be no mix-ups!
Inside every case I included seven sharp pencils and one eraser. The second year I did this I changed it up to 5 pencils and it has worked just fine!
At the end of every week, my lunch helpers collect the pencil cases and sharpen all of the pencils. Any student who still has all seven (or five) pencils AND their eraser gets a small treat back in their case - an eraser, sticker, small wrapped candy. Any pencils missing, or nearing the end of their usable life, are replaced at this time and pencils are NEVER needing to be sharpened throughout the week! (Insert happy teacher face here!) I shared this idea at the beginning of this school year, but I'm so thrilled with how well it is going I needed to revisit! Pencil problems - solved!
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JanCT March 29, 2016 at 7:11 PM
I use almost the exact same system! We use pencil boxes instead of pouches. I'm always amazed at how excited the students are to get a sticker and a Friend of Pencils card. Thanks for starting a new linky!
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom March 29, 2016 at 7:18 PM
Isn't it awesome?! It has truly saved my sanity (and my pencil budget!!) this year! Thanks for linking up. :)
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Unknown April 28, 2016 at 11:43 PM
I love this idea. You would never believe how many pencils end up on the floor at the end of the day! I can't do this this year but will keep it in mind for the fall. I have a diabetic child so I never ever use candy or any type of food for a reward. It has certainly been challenging this year!! Thanks! :-)
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom April 29, 2016 at 10:11 AM
Oh, I can believe it!! I can tell you that my students have been just as excited and motivated by a sticker, special pencil or fun eraser as they have been for a candy. Any little surprise gift works wonders!
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One Giggle September 22, 2016 at 5:46 PM
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom September 22, 2016 at 5:52 PM
Thanks, Diane! It truly has been a sanity saver! :)
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Unknown May 11, 2017 at 5:16 PM
I have a silly question...where did you get your pouches? I love this idea
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom May 11, 2017 at 5:18 PM
Thanks for stopping by! Not a silly question at all! I got them from our dollar store, Dollarama. :) It is a routine that I will establish year after year. It has made my life SO much easier!
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Unknown May 11, 2017 at 5:31 PM
I can't wait to try it next year. Going to add a few items. Dry erase marker and eraser.
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom May 11, 2017 at 5:32 PM
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Unknown June 4, 2017 at 10:00 PM
Did you have to buy any additional pencils as you restocked the pouches or did the students provide enough at the beginning of the year?
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom June 4, 2017 at 10:02 PM
Thanks for stopping by!
I actually purchased all of the pencil cases using some of my classroom funds. I believe they were $1.25 each at our dollar store. You certainly could request that families send one in, but I would definitely have a few extras on hand, just in case!
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Shona June 11, 2017 at 7:26 PM
I do something similar, using pencil boxes and tucking one inside each chair pocket. I also include crayons, scissors, and one glue stick. For the pencils, though, I include a couple 'regular' pencils with erasers, as well as a 'golf' pencil, and one thicker primary pencil. I don't have assigned seats, so the 'tool kits' (as we call them) belong to everybody, and are everybody's responsibility. This works better some years than others. Love the idea of personalizing it, though, AND regularly checking and giving rewards. Might try that next year!
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom June 12, 2017 at 10:21 AM
I do have community bins for the other supplies, like glue sticks and colored pencils, but this has been the best system I've ever used for regular pencil management!
Thanks for stopping by!
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TeacherSherri June 11, 2017 at 9:25 PM
What happens when all 5 are broken or need sharpening before then end of the week?
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom June 12, 2017 at 10:20 AM
The whole point of this system, for me, is that I am not playing the "Rescue Ranger" and my students need to show responsibility for their supplies. Almost never does anyone have a week where all 5 pencils are broken or so dull they can't work with them, and if that happens my students are quick to help each other out by lending to a friend or making a trade.
Hope that helps! Thanks for stopping by!
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Unknown June 22, 2017 at 3:07 PM
What are your ideas for doing something like this ,but for middle school? I have 130 7th graders. Any ideas to modify your (awesome) idea?
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom June 22, 2017 at 3:18 PM
Oooh, great question, Erin! What if you teamed up with the other teachers who see these kids and organize so that each of you is only responsible for managing one of the groups? That's a win-win for everyone! :)
Let me know if you come up with something and I'll add it to the post for others!
Thanks for stopping by!
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Unknown July 6, 2017 at 9:10 PM
I teach middle school ELA and what I do is I assigned each student a number, which I use all through out the class, and so at the end of the period I check the bags, and then teach the students at the beginning of the class to make sure everything is there. That way I'm not doing the work. They soon learn who else has their bags, so it's funny to watch them react to a friend or someone else losing 'their supplies'.
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom July 7, 2017 at 4:08 PM
Some ideas have been added by other readers! Check out the comments section! :)
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Unknown June 30, 2017 at 9:59 PM
What do you do about that student who has no pencils in his or her pencil pouch. I'm thinking I would just give them one. What if the 5 pencils in the pouch at the end of the week are pencils I had given him or her rather than the 5 they started the week with? I hope this makes sense.
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom July 1, 2017 at 11:40 AM
Hi there!
I can tell you this almost never happens! I had one student who would occasionally hand the pencil case in at the end of the week with only one or two pencils. While my position is that any missing will be replaced at that time, we almost always found them hiding in his desk. Throughout the week, though, I don't provide pencils. The whole point of this system, for me, is that I am not playing the "Rescue Ranger" and my students need to show responsibility for their supplies. If someone is missing theirs, they borrow from a friend until their supply is replenished.
Thanks for stopping by!
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Unknown February 1, 2018 at 8:10 PM
I love this idea. I have one boy who likes to be Edward PENCILhand and he ends up breaking them. I tell them to use a crayon. It's worked. I boy only took 1 week. Still working one.
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Unknown February 1, 2018 at 8:12 PM
I have one that "lost" all his pencils one week and he was told to use a crayon. Turns out all his pencils were hiding at the bottom of his desk and he was to lazy to look. So now if they are out they know to use a crayon. But it's only happened 2 times I think.
I don't have a helper. I make the kids turn them in to me and I just bring them home and put a ticket in it and on Monday they get to pick their own piece of candy. WORKS GREAT. LOVE IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Takes me maybe 10 minutes to get through 20 bags.
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom February 3, 2018 at 1:12 PM
Glad you're enjoying this, Tonya! Thanks for stopping by and leaving some thoughts! :)
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TA July 2, 2017 at 9:17 PM
Did anyone come up with a middle school adapatation?
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom July 3, 2017 at 11:08 AM
No one has shared anything with me. I would think that it could work the same way, unless you see different classes throughout the day. In that case, I was thinking it would work if you teamed up with the other teachers who see these kids and organize so that each of you is only responsible for managing one of the groups? That's a win-win for everyone! :)
Let me know if you come up with something and I'll add it to the post for others!
Thanks for stopping by!
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Unknown July 6, 2017 at 9:51 PM
Do you have a student check each bag at the end of the week?
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom July 7, 2017 at 8:51 AM
Yep! That's explained in the post. I have lunch helpers who do all the sharpening at the end of the week. :)
Thanks for stopping by!
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Unknown July 7, 2017 at 1:02 PM
Sorry, I meant do the students put the surprise in the bags or do you?
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom July 7, 2017 at 4:07 PM
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Unknown July 6, 2017 at 10:34 PM
As far as the whole high school or middle school thing goes....could you simply number the pencil pouches instead of name them? Then you would still need only 30 pencil pouches and you're teaching your kids that their classroom is a communal space and therefore supplies need to be treated well. That would also mean that groups of kids would be assigned one pouch to take care of which may hold them more accountable with their peers. Just a thought?
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom July 7, 2017 at 8:51 AM
That's a great idea, Abby! Thanks for sharing!
Glad you stopped by!
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3BearsMama June 2, 2019 at 2:05 PM
I was about to comment about how brilliant this was even for high school students. I have tried giving my students pens and pencils at the beginning of the quarter only for them to lose them that same period. (Read - throw them across the room and try to make baskets - Steph Curry look out) This is absolutely brilliant. I'm off to the dollar store!
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom June 2, 2019 at 6:02 PM
Glad you're excited to try this, 3BearsMama!! Hope it works as well for you as it has for me!
Thanks for stopping by,
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kashsmama July 6, 2017 at 11:24 PM
How do you keep them from taking pencils from someone else's case?
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom July 7, 2017 at 8:52 AM
A classroom culture of kindness, respect and caring for each other! It has never happened!
Thanks for stopping by!
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Mrs. Woods July 7, 2017 at 12:25 AM
Love this idea! Though I don't think it would work well, as it is, in my middle school. All my students have different teachers for each subject and different schedules, so teaming up with even a few other teachers wouldn't work. I am still going to think about some type of adaptation. Pencils are in high demand in my intervention classes!
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom July 7, 2017 at 8:53 AM
There are a few suggestions in the comments, Shirley!
Thanks for stopping by!
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Karen W July 7, 2017 at 1:52 AM
Door middle school, how about using numbers on a clear pencil pouch. Number your class list and the student gets the pack corresponding to their number. At the end of class you dismiss clad in number order and do a quick check that everything is there and issue a sticker. If all class pouches are correct for a set time, they ca n earn a classic prize for team work
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom July 7, 2017 at 8:53 AM
I think that's a great idea, Karen! Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Thanks for stopping by!
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Teacher Carol July 7, 2017 at 5:42 AM
I am a teacher in Spain. Our schools are ruled in a slightly different way. Each student has a pencil case and his/ her own pencil, eraser and sharpener which has a small compartment for the chips. We help them labelling their pencils (so when they fall to the floor or get confused they can find it back) and they sharpen them themselves anytime they need it without even standing up. I suppose you could do the same with the pencils in boxes too, as long as they are labelled
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom July 7, 2017 at 8:54 AM
The labeling just takes so much time... this eliminates that for me!
Thanks for stopping by!
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Unknown July 7, 2017 at 6:58 AM
Nice idea for an elementary classroom. Wouldn't work in a high school class...
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom July 7, 2017 at 8:54 AM
Yep! This is an elementary blog!
Thanks for stopping by!
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Unknown July 7, 2017 at 10:20 AM
Do you have them keep the pencil bags in their desk or a centralized location so they don't get lost? I have a feeling my kids would take the bag home and lose it.
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom July 7, 2017 at 10:35 AM
My students just keep them inside their desks. They know that they're NOT to go home and it has never yet been a problem!
Thanks for stopping by!
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Debbiezg July 8, 2017 at 1:14 AM
Thank you! This is a great idea and I think it will help solve my pencil problem in 2nd grade.
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom July 8, 2017 at 9:01 AM
Glad to help! Thanks for stopping by!
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Colleen Lynch July 8, 2017 at 11:25 AM
When my dad retired he became a substitute teacher. This was always a problem for him. His solution was to offer kids a pencil to borrow for the hour but they usually ran off with them. So he began a system if you borrow a pencil you leave your shoe with him and it is returned when the pencil was returned. It solved the pencil consumption problem for him. Not sure about sharpening? He would have liked your idea!
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom July 8, 2017 at 3:05 PM
Yeah, I've heard the shoe suggestion quite a bit, but I'm not sure how that would go in a lot of classrooms these days... It is a safety issue and I can think of several families that would have a problem with their children being centered out that way!
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Unknown July 24, 2017 at 3:37 PM
I am a middle school teacher and tried the shoe thing. I had a girl who had a crush on a boy in the class, steal his shoe instead of taking her shoe back. BIG mess. No longer do that.
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Unknown July 8, 2017 at 4:13 PM
I'm not a teacher but a mom. My daughter and my niece both do homework at my house after school and I really like this idea. Last year was our first year of school and a BIG learning experience for all of us. Everyday was a struggle to find pencils, crayons, scissors, glue, etc... I am thinking of trying this and teaching them to be more reponsible with the tools they need for homework. Thanks for sharing.
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Unknown July 8, 2017 at 4:22 PM
I am not a teacher but a frustrated mom. My daughter and niece do their homework at my house after school and I really like this idea. Last year was our first year of school and a BIG learning experience for all of us. Everyday we would have to search for the pencils, crayons, scissors, glue, etc... I am really thinking of trying this with them this year in hopes of saving time and my sanity. Thanks for sharing this idea.
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom July 8, 2017 at 4:24 PM
I love that this is helpful for you at home, April! Thanks for taking the time to leave me a comment! So glad you stopped by!
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Unknown July 9, 2017 at 10:17 AM
What time of day would you have your kids sharpen? I am going into first grade and trying to figure out what instruction period I would have to cut into for any job. Thanks!
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom July 9, 2017 at 2:05 PM
Hi there!
I actually have older students come to my classroom during the lunch break to help out with home communication and other small jobs daily, and I have them do the sharpening during the recess break, so no instructional time is impacted at all!
Thanks for stopping by!
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Unknown July 9, 2017 at 11:59 AM
Do you let the students use their own pencil sharpeners to sharpen pencils throughout the week?
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom July 9, 2017 at 2:07 PM
If my students have personal sharpeners and use them correctly (no piles of shavings inside their desk or pencil case) then I have no problem with them being used throughout the week. That said, I don't encourage my students to bring them since they are usually more of a headache than a help!
Thanks for stopping by!
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Angela July 10, 2017 at 8:35 AM
This is exactly what I was looking for! Thank you for sharing :) I am excited to try it with my first graders this year :)
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom July 10, 2017 at 1:35 PM
I'm so glad this is useful to you, Angela! Thanks for stopping by!
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mmvossbsu July 10, 2017 at 12:44 PM
Love this idea wonder if you could use Pringles cans that you could cover in decorative paper
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom July 10, 2017 at 1:36 PM
I think you could use any sort of container you wished! Glad you stopped by!
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Lianna July 10, 2017 at 7:28 PM
I am a teacher and a mom. My daughter was in Kindergarten last year, and I provided her with a pencil pouch with 5 pencils that were neon color and labeled with her name. Every other day it was her job to sharpen the pencils at home. She used the same 5 pencils for about 2 months! The reason I did this is because of all the germs that get spread by students sharing pencils from the "sharp" and "dull" bins that the pencils were located. She only got sick once during the entire school year!
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Unknown July 11, 2017 at 12:14 AM
This is such a neat idea! I'm definitely giving it a try this year, but with our small pencil boxes. Thanks for sharing!
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Unknown July 24, 2017 at 3:34 PM
I am a middle school teacher. I am trying something new. I have a "pencil up" process. When a student needs a pencil, typically a student gives away one that is really used. So I allow them to "pencil up". The student who is responsible and gives the used one away, get the brand new pencil from me.
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Unknown July 28, 2017 at 11:56 AM
I had a problem with pencils in first grade and I'm moving to second grade this year. I super love this idea! I give all my students a number, so I will put their number on their own bag. Also, I think I may velcro the bags to the side of their desks. That way they won't be dropping or losing them, but I can still remove them to check and refill at the end of the week. I can see how this could work because I always try to use positive reinforcement and it works well. Thanks for sharing your awesome idea! :)
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom July 29, 2017 at 7:05 PM
That's a great idea, Annette! Thanks for taking the time to share! :)
Glad you stopped by!
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Unknown February 1, 2018 at 8:18 PM
We have had a couple times where the child has "LOST" their bag. I told them to look in their desk. I've looked in their desk couldn't find it. Finally started taking everything out and there it was. Blending into the bottom. Our bags are black with a white number but you couldn't see the number so it blended into the black bottom.
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Unknown August 4, 2017 at 11:10 AM
I love this idea and would like to use it this year! My only concern is time. How long does it take your helpers to go through all the pencil pouches, sort and sharpen pencils, and add in treats?
Thanks!
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom August 4, 2017 at 9:33 PM
I have my helpers do this on Fridays during the lunch recess break. I would estimate that it takes them between 20 and 30 minutes, depending on how focused they are. My helpers were younger this year, so it took them a little longer than the 8th grade helpers. It really just depends on your help!
Thanks for stopping by!
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Anonymous August 24, 2017 at 2:27 PM
I switched to pens (yep, even for math) a few years ago and never looked back! It's been my favorite management/procedures change in 13 years of teaching elementary school. The learning curve is quick, and kiddos who use their pens incorrectly are asked to just use a pencil for the rest of the day. This curbs the problems almost immediately. I do a little instruction first on crossing out answers instead of scribbling, which is great because then I can see their mistakes. It's harder to convince the parents of the transition than the kiddos, they love it!
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom August 24, 2017 at 3:20 PM
Interesting! Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts!
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Unknown September 17, 2017 at 6:41 PM
I've been teaching for more than 20 years and this idea was a game changer for me! I love that it helps increase respect for property, and helps children become more responsible. Thanks for sharing!
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Mrs. Beattie's Classroom September 17, 2017 at 6:43 PM
I'm so glad you've enjoyed this tip, Laura! Thanks for stopping by and taking the time to leave me a comment! :)
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Unknown August 9, 2018 at 8:31 AM
I did this with middle school - 1 pouch per group in each of my 4 classes. It worked for a while but some kids were sneaking pencils from other classes- (the pouches hung from hooks behind their group of desks- I refused to be the pencil police so i scrapped the idea). . I’m thinking of trying it again but having a student pass out the pouches to each group and me collecting them with a quick check at the end of class. They are clear so it is easy to see that there are the correct number of pencils. I made each student supply 1 pencil and I added 2.
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Unknown August 23, 2019 at 1:11 PM
I use clear pencil pouches - donated from our dentist!! (The tootbrush, toothpaste, floss, coupon gift pouch we get after an appointment.) It's clear and makes it super easy to see what is there or not there.
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Arthur Berry was described by Time (Magazine) as “the slickest second-story man in the East,” truly one of the most famous jewel thieves of all times. In his years of crime, he committed as many as 150 burglaries and stole jewels valued between $5 and $10 million. He seldom robbed from anyone not listed in the Social Register and often did his work in a tuxedo. On an occasion or two, when caught in the act of a crime by a victim, he charmed his way out of being reported to the police.
Like most people who engage in a life of crime, he was eventually caught, convicted and served 25 years in prison for his crimes. Following his release, he worked as a counterman in a roadside restaurant on the East Coast for $50 a week.
A newspaper reporter found him and interviewed him about his life. After telling about the thrilling episodes of his life he came to the conclusion of the interview saying, “I am not good at morals. But early in my life I was intelligent and clever, and I got along well with people. I think I could have made something of my life, but I didn’t. So when you write the story of my life, when you tell people about all the burglaries, don’t leave out the biggest one of all… Don’t just tell them I robbed Jesse Livermore, the Wall Street baron or the cousin of the king of England. You tell them Arthur Berry robbed Arthur Berry.”
So it all boils down to one simple fact. You are in control of your time and the only person responsible for it is YOU!
Here are six terrific truths about time:
First: Nobody can manage time. But you can manage those things that take up your time.
Second: Time is expensive. As a matter of fact, 80 percent of our day is spent on those things or those people that only bring us two percent of our results.
Third: Time is perishable. It cannot be saved for later use.
Fourth: Time is measurable. Everybody has the same amount of time…pauper or king. It is not how much time you have; it is how much you use.
Fifth: Time is irreplaceable. We never make back time once it is gone.
Sixth: Time is a priority. You have enough time for anything in the world, so long as it ranks high enough among your priorities.
We discovered a short movie called First Thing In The Morning and we have added it to our watch every day.
Now you have the knowledge what will you do with it? Will you use it more wisely, invest in your education, travel, start a new business? We would love to know and you can share it with us right here by leaving a comment below.
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Springs Insurance Group was launched in 2020 by sisters and co-agents, Kristie and Susan. The agency was opened so customers in the Colorado Springs area can get outstanding service while protecting the things that are important to them. When you need help choosing the right insurance products and services to protect the people and possessions you care about, you need personalized attention from someone who treats you like family.
We are a family-oriented agency that loves being part of the community and building local relationships. When we’re not in the office, you can find us enjoying the outdoors! Skiing, fishing, and outdoor adventures were a staple in our upbringing, and we share those same passions today.
When customers come to our agency, we want them to feel welcome. Our team is comprised of caring and knowledgeable individuals ready to assist you with your insurance-related needs. When you want to explore options for protecting your home, personal property, or financial future, my agency is happy to help you choose insurance that fits your lifestyle and goals. Give us a call today!
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Springs Insurance Group was launched in 2020 by sisters and co-agents, Kristie and Susan. The agency was opened so customers in the Colorado Springs area can get outstanding service while protecting the things that are important to them. When you need help choosing the right insurance products and services to protect the people and possessions you care about, you need personalized attention from someone who treats you like family.
We are a family-oriented agency that loves being part of the community and building local relationships. When we’re not in the office, you can find us enjoying the outdoors! Skiing, fishing, and outdoor adventures were a staple in our upbringing, and we share those same passions today.
When customers come to our agency, we want them to feel welcome. Our team is comprised of caring and knowledgeable individuals ready to assist you with your insurance-related needs. When you want to explore options for protecting your home, personal property, or financial future, my agency is happy to help you choose insurance that fits your lifestyle and goals. Give us a call today!
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Helps protect you and your vehicle if you’re involved in a car accident. At a minimum, you’ll likely need bodily injury liability and property damage liability to meet state auto insurance coverage requirements and help protect your finances if you cause an accident that injures another driver or damages their property. We also offer uninsured motorist coverage to help with your expenses if you’re hit by a driver without insurance. If you’re looking for coverage to help protect your vehicle, you might want to consider collision coverage and comprehensive coverage, which help pay repair costs if your car is damaged in a covered loss. And, optional coverages, like new car replacement coverage or loan/lease gap coverage help protect your investment in a brand-new car. I can help you choose a combination of coverages that fulfill state requirements and meet your needs. Give me a call to get a car insurance quote today!
Home Insurance in Colorado Springs
Helps provide protection for your house (dwelling) and your family’s liability as well as the things you own in and around your home such as “other structures” (detached garage, fence, etc.), your personal property (furniture, clothing, etc.) against covered perils such as fire, theft, wind/hail and more. Call me today for a homeowners insurance quote and I’ll help you get the protection your home needs and the savings you deserve with our money-saving discounts.
Helps protect the portion of your condo, co-op or townhome for which you are responsible for (inside structure, permanent fixtures, cabinets, etc.) with dependable coverage. Condo policies are HO-6 compliant, and cover family liability and personal belongings against covered perils such as fire, theft, vandalism and more. Contact me today for a quote!
Renters Insurance in Colorado Springs
Helps protect your personal belongings inside or outside your apartment from accidents such as, fire, theft, vandalism, and cover family liability. Give me call today to review what type of coverage makes sense for where you live and what you own.
Motorcycle
Motorcycle Insurance in Colorado Springs
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Our motorcycle policies include the basic coverage you may need, like liability coverage, which includes passenger liability coverage and uninsured motorist coverage. You can further customize your motorcycle policy with collision coverage and comprehensive coverage to help protect your bike. And, if you have a customized ride, you can help protect your aftermarket gear with optional equipment coverage. Contact me to learn about motorcycle insurance discounts and to get started with a quote for a policy that fits your needs.
Business Insurance in Colorado Springs
Allstate Business Insurance protects your business in ways other insurance might not. A business owners policy (BOP) usually includes three common types of coverage to help protect you and your small business: property coverage, general liability coverage and business interruption coverage. In addition to these basic coverages, the Allstate Business Owners Policy can be customized with additional protection to help cover more aspects of your business. I can help you tailor a policy to fit your small business’s needs. As a small business owner myself, I understand how important it is to protect what you’ve worked so hard to build. Call me for a free review of your current business policy and to learn more about insurance solutions to help protect you, your business and your employees.
Protect the life you want, for those that matter most. A life insurance policy can help provide financial security for your loved ones by covering expenses like the mortgage, college tuition, and other everyday living costs. Call me today to learn about the different types of coverage Allstate offers.
ATV Insurance in Colorado Springs
Help protect yourself and your all-terrain vehicle against the unexpected. We offer bodily injury liability coverage and property damage liability coverage on your ATV insurance policy. If you injure someone else or damage their property while driving your ATV, liability coverage helps pay the other person’s medical or repair bills. If your ATV is damaged in a crash, collision coverage may help. Collision coverage for your ATV helps pay for repairs if you hit another object, such as a fence or a tree. Finally, you may want to consider comprehensive coverage for your ATV in case it’s stolen, vandalized or damaged by hail or fire. Give me a call to get a quote on an ATV insurance policy today!
Boat
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Helps cover your boat on and off the water. Watercraft liability coverage helps pay for another person’s expenses if you injure them or damage their property with your boat. If you’re injured in a boating accident, watercraft medical payments coverage helps pay for your medical bills. Need to repair damage to your boat after an accident? Property coverage for your boat helps cover a crash with another boat or object (like a pier or buoy). It also helps cover theft, vandalism or fire. Help protect your boat against these covered perils during the on- and off-season. We also offer additional coverage for things like your boat trailer, fishing equipment and even towing or fuel delivery when you’re stranded. Need a boat insurance quote? Give me a call today!
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Kristie is an outdoor enthusiast and especially enjoys mountain trails in her Jeep. She has been involved with Colorado History as a Leadville museum tour guide growing up and enjoys exploring historic landmarks in Colorado and al
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Kristie is an outdoor enthusiast and especially enjoys mountain trails in her Jeep. She has been involved with Colorado History as a Leadville museum tour guide growing up and enjoys exploring historic landmarks in Colorado and also around the United States. As a country music fan, she enjoys smaller venue concerts and summer festivals with friends and family. She enjoys DIY projects and working on her home. Her favorite activity is exploring and finding new adventures with her two grandchildren! When they aren't out on an adventure, she enjoys teaching them how to bake like her grandmother or how to do DIY projects like her parents taught her. Family is important to her and she spends time with her mother, son and daughter-in-law as well. She is especially excited to be working with her sister Susan and is enjoying more adventures together.
She brings a unique perspective to the agency having worked as a volunteer fire fighter and a paramedic on a 911 ambulance service. She also has specialized education and experience in Gerontology and can assist customers with unique aging needs and questions. She has been involved in with the Alzheimer's Association, Drive Smart, Prevention of Alcohol and Trauma in Youth, the Children's Hospital Jungle Mobile, Fire Prevention educational programs and others as a chair person, board member or volunteer.
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Susan and her husband Scott are outdoors enthusiasts and love to travel. Football season is one of their favorites and they like to travel to different states to see professional football games. Susan is always up for a new advent
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Susan and her husband Scott are outdoors enthusiasts and love to travel. Football season is one of their favorites and they like to travel to different states to see professional football games. Susan is always up for a new adventure. She loves to bake and specializes in homemade apple pie. Her pup Nitro is spoiled and she is a passionate dog lover. She also enjoys spoiling her great niece and nephew.
Susan has worked in the auto industry for over 15 years and is well educated on the variety of autos, accessories, and specialized coverage that may be needed to protect your vehicles. She also understands the unique weather in our area and can assist in hail coverage for your auto, boat or camper. Having personally experienced evacuation and property damage during the Waldo Canyon fires, she understands the importance of accurately documenting your home and valuables to see replacement coverages are adequate for each customer. Susan would like to schedule an appointment with you to review your policies and to help see you have the coverages you need.
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Ed West
Ed is the customer service specialist for our office and is usually the first face/voice you will encounter when you interact with our agency. Ed has served in various customer service positions for over twenty years and has been
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Ed is the customer service specialist for our office and is usually the first face/voice you will encounter when you interact with our agency. Ed has served in various customer service positions for over twenty years and has been in insurance a little over eight years. Ed has earned his Allstate Service Champion certificate which distinguishes him as an outstanding service representative. Ed’s customer service philosophy is “Treat all customers like you would want your mother or grandmother treated.” Ed is also a proud veteran of both the U.S. Army and the Air Force. He has been married for over thirty years to his wonderful wife and they have two adult daughters. Outside of the office, Ed loves to cook, is a huge movie fanatic and has been known to often engage in a rousing game of Othello. If you don’t know about Othello you better ask somebody! The simplicity of checkers combined with the strategy of chess; what could be better? Please contact Ed with your service needs and he will be more-than-happy to assist you.
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Troy started his career in insurance in 2006 and joined our agency in Colorado Springs in 2015. Whether you are looking to protect your family or your belongings, Troy is committed to taking the time to understand your specific in
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Troy started his career in insurance in 2006 and joined our agency in Colorado Springs in 2015. Whether you are looking to protect your family or your belongings, Troy is committed to taking the time to understand your specific insurance needs. Outside of the office, he enjoys fishing, hunting, and sports.
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Our team
Agency Owner
Kristie is an outdoor enthusiast and especially enjoys mountain trails in her Jeep. She has been involved with Colorado History as a Leadville museum tour guide growing up and enjoys exploring historic landmarks in Colorado and al
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Kristie is an outdoor enthusiast and especially enjoys mountain trails in her Jeep. She has been involved with Colorado History as a Leadville museum tour guide growing up and enjoys exploring historic landmarks in Colorado and also around the United States. As a country music fan, she enjoys smaller venue concerts and summer festivals with friends and family. She enjoys DIY projects and working on her home. Her favorite activity is exploring and finding new adventures with her two grandchildren! When they aren't out on an adventure, she enjoys teaching them how to bake like her grandmother or how to do DIY projects like her parents taught her. Family is important to her and she spends time with her mother, son and daughter-in-law as well. She is especially excited to be working with her sister Susan and is enjoying more adventures together.
She brings a unique perspective to the agency having worked as a volunteer fire fighter and a paramedic on a 911 ambulance service. She also has specialized education and experience in Gerontology and can assist customers with unique aging needs and questions. She has been involved in with the Alzheimer's Association, Drive Smart, Prevention of Alcohol and Trauma in Youth, the Children's Hospital Jungle Mobile, Fire Prevention educational programs and others as a chair person, board member or volunteer.
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Susan and her husband Scott are outdoors enthusiasts and love to travel. Football season is one of their favorites and they like to travel to different states to see professional football games. Susan is always up for a new advent
read more...
Susan and her husband Scott are outdoors enthusiasts and love to travel. Football season is one of their favorites and they like to travel to different states to see professional football games. Susan is always up for a new adventure. She loves to bake and specializes in homemade apple pie. Her pup Nitro is spoiled and she is a passionate dog lover. She also enjoys spoiling her great niece and nephew.
Susan has worked in the auto industry for over 15 years and is well educated on the variety of autos, accessories, and specialized coverage that may be needed to protect your vehicles. She also understands the unique weather in our area and can assist in hail coverage for your auto, boat or camper. Having personally experienced evacuation and property damage during the Waldo Canyon fires, she understands the importance of accurately documenting your home and valuables to see replacement coverages are adequate for each customer. Susan would like to schedule an appointment with you to review your policies and to help see you have the coverages you need.
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Ed West
Ed is the customer service specialist for our office and is usually the first face/voice you will encounter when you interact with our agency. Ed has served in various customer service positions for over twenty years and has been
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Ed is the customer service specialist for our office and is usually the first face/voice you will encounter when you interact with our agency. Ed has served in various customer service positions for over twenty years and has been in insurance a little over eight years. Ed has earned his Allstate Service Champion certificate which distinguishes him as an outstanding service representative. Ed’s customer service philosophy is “Treat all customers like you would want your mother or grandmother treated.” Ed is also a proud veteran of both the U.S. Army and the Air Force. He has been married for over thirty years to his wonderful wife and they have two adult daughters. Outside of the office, Ed loves to cook, is a huge movie fanatic and has been known to often engage in a rousing game of Othello. If you don’t know about Othello you better ask somebody! The simplicity of checkers combined with the strategy of chess; what could be better? Please contact Ed with your service needs and he will be more-than-happy to assist you.
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Troy started his career in insurance in 2006 and joined our agency in Colorado Springs in 2015. Whether you are looking to protect your family or your belongings, Troy is committed to taking the time to understand your specific in
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Troy started his career in insurance in 2006 and joined our agency in Colorado Springs in 2015. Whether you are looking to protect your family or your belongings, Troy is committed to taking the time to understand your specific insurance needs. Outside of the office, he enjoys fishing, hunting, and sports.
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Saturday:
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Yes, we have text messaging services.
What languages do you speak?
We have staff members available who speak the following languages: English
Do you have more than one location?
No, this is our only location.
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French unions, students and undocumented workers have been in the streets day and night to reject the anti-labor reform pushed through the government without a vote. This struggle helps all of us fighting austerity, racism, & police terror. Militancy & solidarity are our greatest weapons.
It’s class war–which side are you on?
-Read about the ongoing, militant struggle that the corporate media does’t want you to know about. CLICK HERE.
-Sign on to the CALL below.
-Plan a solidarity action for June 14, 2016, when a General Strike has been called in France. See FB Event.
….List of French consulates in US
….For those in NYC: French Consulate 934 5th Avenue between 74th & 75th Streets, Manhattan; 4:00 p.m. EDT. FB Event. This action precedes an important Report back from US Solidarity delegation to 19th Anniv. Celebration of RUE MUMIA-ABU JAMAL in Saint-Denis, France- 6:30 pm; Get the flier for both actions.
-Pass a SOLIDARITY RESOLUTION. See example from USWA 8751: Boston School Bus Drivers (sent for nationwide May Day march). “A message to the French working class-Solidarity across the Atlantic.” Version translated to FRENCH>>Click here .
Picture taken in solidarity with French workers struggle!
Taken after UE150 DHHS workers speak-out forum in
Butner, NC.
Call for Solidarity with the Uprising of French Workers and Students
Part of US delegation at Paris May Day march
We, the undersigned, express our support for the ongoing mobilization of France’s workers in a coalition led by the General Confederation of Labor (CGT), and of the Nuit Debout movement consisting primarily of youth and students, against austerity attacks contained in that country’s so-called Labor Reform Law. This law, which was pushed through by the government and corporate vultures, will only serve to drive down the standard of living for current and future generations.
The demand to retain a 35-hour work week, with overtime paid after that, is part of the continuum that includes the often raised ‘30 hours work for 40 hours pay’ as a solution to unemployment in the U.S., and the current low-wage workers’ demand for $15 an hour and predictable scheduling.
The multinational French working class is using many forms of strikes, occupations and street protest, all of which illustrate who has the real power in society. On one day, no corporate newspapers were printed and on another, 40% of mass transit was shut down. This is happening despite the extension of a state of emergency (six months after the concert hall tragedy), the extreme militarization of the French police forces, and use of chemical gases– such as our sisters from SEIU 1199 and our brother from APWU suffered from while in Paris waiting to join the 2016 May Day parade.
We call on United States and other countries’ unions and other workers’ organizations, community groups and youth groups to exchange information with the French CGT and student leaders via satellite, radio, and written interviews with reliable translators. We further urge everyone to support the June 14 general strike in France via resolutions, educational meetings, and rallies at the nearest French consulate. [Those of us in the New York City area intend to gather near the French Consulate at 934 5th Avenue that day between 4:00 and 6:00 p.m. EDT].
To sign on to this call, please contact the Ad Hoc Committee to Support French Workers c/o Johnnie Stevens at nysckrs@gmail.com.
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Everything happened so fast… And even if people could have seen it coming, what could they have actually done? David was one of the ‘lucky’ ones. Far from the chaos, yet he felt the impact all the same. Now, trying to understand everything that happened, he found himself returning to a place that called to him.
A place that offered the best possible chance for his survival… The Woods.
In spite of everything, David is determined to survive.
So with his trusty ax he spends his days chopping and preparing wood –
Keeping the fire stocked to stay warm and fend off from the creatures of the night –
And to help clear his mind and relax, even play his guitar –
However, don’t get too comfortable. When Winter ends he will find himself having to fend for himself all the more with fishing, trapping, and hunting.
But in the end, will this be enough?
Welcome to the Woods. In the first Part of Woods you have the seemingly easy task of simply keeping a fire going, and protecting yourself from the cold in winter. Chop wood, feed the fire, and survive. A simple task at first, but once Winter wanes, the challenge is increased as David will have to learn to fish, make traps to catch small animals, and eventually learn to hunt to survive. Along the way, learn about Davids story from his past and why he must survive.
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Rachel M. Johnson is a lover of all things pop culture. She's been writing about music and entertainment online for years.
Charmed is a beloved WB series that ran from 1998 to 2006, and initially starred Shannen Doherty, Alyssa Milano and Holly Marie Combs as the Charmed Ones. In 2001, Doherty left the show and Rose McGowan filled the role of the third sister. Paige Matthews was introduced as the half-sister to Phoebe and Piper, and assumed her place within the Power of Three. Throughout the course of her five seasons on the show, Paige undergoes multiple style and hair transformations that made it exciting to watch.
Let's take a look at just how much Paige's hair evolved over the series.
When the character of Paige was first introduced in Season 4, she wore her dark hair shoulder-length and often kept it sleek and straight. The deep brunette shade highlighted her porcelain skin beautifully. Paige would wear it smooth and flipped outwards, and would also sometimes pin it partially back. She would switch it up and add some curls and body to her hair during the season, but it was usually styled straight. The length and color complimented her facial shape and skin tone and really brought out Paige's beauty.
Did You Know? Before Rose McGowan nabbed the role of Paige, both Saved by the Bell alum Tiffani Thiessen and Jennifer Love Hewitt were considered to replace Shannen Doherty (Prue). Creators ultimately decided to introduce a fresh face to the show instead.
Season 5: Curly Red Lob
At the start of Season 5, Paige decided to completely change up her hairstyle and color and embrace a bold new shade: deep red. She stepped away from the brunette color the Halliwells were famous for in favor of a more daring hue. Paige cut her hair into a sexy lob, and often wore it in voluminous curls. The style really worked for the character, as she was fun and daring and the cut emphasized that fact. The color paired perfectly with her fair skin, and it looked great whether it was worn in curls or sleek and straight.
Did You Know? During her first few seasons on Charmed, McGowan earned $55,000 per episode, which was then increased to $102,000 per episode from Season 7 onwards.
By Season 6, Paige's dark red lob had grown out and become a lovely shade of strawberry blonde. The character was never afraid to play around with her hairstyles and colors, and adopting this soft shade was a fabulous call. Her ever-changing locks went well with her evolving style, and each major hair transformation added to the uniqueness of the character. During the season, Paige would often leave her hair long and straight but would switch it up with some body and curls.
Did You Know? In order to play the role of Paige, McGowan wanted to "look super non-threatening" to win over audiences. She reportedly gained 10 pounds to do so. "People had to fall in love with my character as quickly as possible or Charmed would die. I thought about how big the crew was and how they would all be out of a job if I failed."
Season 7: Back to Brunette
Season 7 brought back Paige's natural brunette shade, and she often wore her shoulder-length locks in waves and curls. Once again the color accented her porcelain skin and more natural make-up, and her overall style seemed to get more chic and sophisticated. It seemed that during this season the character truly blossomed with her style and look. Paige would sometimes style it with a delicate, pin-back look that really brought out her stunning features.
Did You Know? One of Rose McGowan's favorite episodes from Charmed was Season 7's "Charmed Noir" because she loved anything from the 1940s time period and the episode revolved around that theme.
For the final season, Paige stuck with her dark tresses but embraced a sexy side bang and more voluminous style. Her long, wavy locks cascaded over her shoulders and really gave her a sensual and sophisticated feel. She experimented with bangs that she often kept side-swept, framing her face gorgeously. During this season Paige really embraced body in her hair, which was evident whether it was sleek, wavy or curled. She also wore it in ponytails and pinned back, and the bangs complemented these styles wonderfully.
Did You Know? In 2017, Time recognized McGowan as one of the Silence Breakers (the magazine's Person of the Year) for speaking out about harassment and sexual assault.
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Covering Ag since 1981. The faces, places, markets and issues of dairy and livestock production. Hard-hitting topics, market updates and inspirational stories from the notebook of a veteran ag journalist. Contributing reporter for Farmshine since 1987; Editor of former Livestock Reporter 1981-1998; Before that I milked cows. @Agmoos on Twitter, @AgmoosInsight on FB #MilkMarketMoos
Dairy checkoff is ‘negotiating’ your future: Train wreck ahead. Stop the train. Correct the track. (DMI Net Zero – Part One)
Posted on September 26, 2022 by Agmoos
By Sherry Bunting, Farmshine, Sept. 16, 2022
Dairy farmers are being used without regard. Their future ability to operate is right now being negotiated, and they are paying those negotiators through their 15-cents-per-hundredweight mandatory checkoff with no idea how the negotiations will ultimately affect their businesses and way of life.
Inflated baselines and an inflated methane CO2 equivalent assigned to cows is setting the stage for a head-on collision, a train wreck on the misaligned track laid by DMI’s Innovation Center for U.S. Dairy.
In fact, the Net Zero Initiative has been designed to help everyone but the dairy farmer. It sets up a methane money game for carbon traders at the expense of those dairy farms that have long been environmentally conscious with no-till, cover crops, grazing, and other practices already on their farms.
Such farms will be of no use in what is shaping up to be a focus on harvesting reductions, not attaining neutrality, in DMI’s Net Zero Initiative (NZI).
Small and mid-sized dairy farms that are already at or near carbon-neutral could show smaller reductions for the industry to harvest.
Conversely, the largest dairies installing the newest biogas systems are realizing even this route could become a dead-end because the credits are signed over and sold for big bucks, a few bucks get kicked back to the dairy, but the methane capture becomes the property of other industries outside of the dairy supply chain.
If the industry does not act now to stop the NZI train for a period of re-examination, adjustment and correction, then the current trajectory may actually move food companies clamoring for reductions ever closer to alternatives and analogs that boast their climate claims solely on the fact that they are produced without cows.
This is a big money game that is operating off the backs of our cows, and the checkoff has been at best complicit as a driver.
RNG (renewable natural gas) operators are signing up large (3000+ cows) dairies left and right for digesters and covered lagoons to capture methane piped to clustered scrubbing facilities to be turned into renewable fuel for vehicles or electricity generation. Meanwhile dairy protein analogs are being created without cows by ‘precision fermentation’ startups partnering with the largest global dairy companies.
In turn, millions if not billions of dollars in carbon credits are generated while farmers and their milk buyers will be left figuring out how to show their reductions when they are left holding the inflated methane bag.
Six organizations, four of them non-profits under the DMI umbrella, officially launched the Net Zero Intitiative (NZI) in the fall of 2019, five months after Ag Secretary Tom Vilsack made headlines talking about it in a Senate hearing while he was pulling down a million-dollar salary as a DMI executive in 2018.
NZI is the proclaimed vehicle for negotiating the terms for U.S. Dairy to continue, terms based on showing carbon reductions that many family farms may find difficult to meet — especially if the farm is already at or close to carbon neutral.
As DMI’s sustainability negotiators data-collect all previous reductions into farm-by-farm comprehensive baseline estimates, where will those farms find new reductions?
According to DMI staff, over 2000 dairy farms have already gone through their environmental stewardship review via the FARM program to establish their “comprehensive estimates.”
The six organizations, four of them filing IRS 990s under the national dairy checkoff, that launched NZI are: Dairy Management Inc. (DMI), Innovation Center for U.S. Dairy, U.S. Dairy Export Council (USDEC) and Newtrient, along with the other two organizations being National Milk Producers Federation (NMPF), and International Dairy Foods Association (IDFA).
They have collectively bought-into the global definition that inflates the CO2 equivalent used for methane, effectively committing the cow to perpetual GHG purgatory.
Because the NZI structure is based on continually showing GHG reductions, no farm is insulated with a get-out-of-jail-free-key — not even the largest farms with the most advanced biogas systems.
Why haven’t checkoff funds been used to defend the cow – to get the numbers right, to get the current practices farmers have invested in counted toward reductions not baselines, and to get the methane CO2 equivalent correct — instead of giving in to this notion that feels an awful lot like ‘cows are bad and we are committed to making them better?’
Perhaps it was ignored or embraced because this inflated methane CO2 equivalent gives the suite of tech tools being assembled by DMI’s Newtrient a bigger runway to show reductions — a money maker for the RNG biogas companies and others that will in many cases end up owning the carbon credits after paying the farmer a nominal fee.
Carbon trading rose 164% last year to $851 billion, according to a Reuters January 2022 report. A big chunk of this is coming from the methane capture and fossil fuel replacement of RNG biogas projects, mostly in California but popping up elsewhere at a rapid rate and mostly traded on the California exchange.
Farmers are getting some money for these projects, but they don’t own the carbon credits once they are sold or signed over. When they are sold outside of the dairy supply chain, this reduction becomes someone else’s property, so it is no longer part of the dairy farm’s footprint nor the footprint of their milk buyer.
Likewise, this inflated methane equivalent — along with the emphasis on reductions, not neutrality — has some processors wondering if they’ll be able to come up with the Scope 3 reductions they need in ESG scoring.
They are facing upstream pressure from retailers and consumer packaged goods (CPG) companies as well as asset managers to show reductions, and they have counted on big numbers from their Scope 3 suppliers, the dairy farms.
The problem for dairy processors and dairy farmers comes down to the central definitions of methane equivalent and carbon asset ownership — the rights of farmers to own their past, present and future reductions, whether or not they’ve signed them over as offsets to a milk buyer or a project investor and whether or not they’ve sold the resulting credits on a carbon exchange, and whether or not they’ve installed new practices that are now part of a baseline but represent a new investment every year as they operate their businesses.
Back in June, the American Dairy Coalition added this concern to their list of federal milk pricing priorities because of the impact this climate and carbon tracking will have on milk buying and selling relationships and contracts — and the lack of clarity or fairness in this deal for essential food producers at the origination point that is closest to nature, the farm.
ADC worded their “carbon asset ownership” priority this way: “No matter where a dairy farm’s milk is processed, that farm should be able to retain 100% ownership at all times of its earned and achieved carbon assets, even if this information is shared with milk buyers to describe the resulting products that are made from the milk.”
For its part, IDFA took a swing last Friday, going one step farther to recommend global accounting methods that would allow the dairy supply chain (farmers and processors) to retain carbon credits even if they are sold on a carbon exchange or signed over to an asset company that invested in an on-farm technology.
IDFA executives penned the Sept. 9 opinion piece in Agri-Pulse laying out the concerns of their members who are starting to realize the future consequences of the rapid and inflated monetization of methane — and the race to sell carbon credits — leaving dairy processors unable to get those credits they were counting on from the farms that supply them with milk, while at the same time being stuck facing the cow’s inflated methane CO2 equivalent in their downstream Scope 3 even while they try to get reductions in their own controlled areas of Scopes 1 and 2.
When dairy farms no longer own their reduction or cannot show a large reduction because they are already virtually neutral, processors become concerned about how they will gain the Scope 3 reductions that are part of the ESG scoring the large retailers and global food companies are pushing.
All of this has come down through the non-governmental organizations like World Wildlife Fund (WWF), investment and asset management sector via the World Economic Forum (WEF), the global corporate structures through the Sustainability Roundtable and through government entities via the United Nations Agenda 2030. DMI has been at those tables for at least 14 years.
“It is becoming clearer every day that the global accounting standards underpinning GHG measurement and reporting are biased against the very people making the (GHG) reductions,” the IDFA executives wrote in their opinion.
In other words, while some farmers are beginning to profit from GHG-reducing practices that are turned into offsets and traded on the carbon markets, the system is tilted against them because it leaves them without the offsets they traded and leaves them in a position of having to continually reduce in order to secure a position in the value chain.
IDFA points out that under the current rules, once the offset is sold outside of the value chain as a carbon credit – it is gone. The current GHG accounting system says only the buyer of that reduction can claim ownership.
Those farms can no longer claim their own reduction, and it means the company buying milk or other commodities from a producer cannot integrate the reduction into the description of their final product.
This weakens U.S. Dairy, the IDFA opinion states, and it makes dairy farmers less competitive sources of pledge-meeting carbon reductions for retailers and manufacturers – setting real dairy up for fake dairy dilution with the inclusion of whey proteins and other pieces of milk that are being produced in fermentation vats by genetically modified yeast, fungi and bacteria, as well as other analogs.
A bigger problem not mentioned in the IDFA opinion may be the inflated baselines that leave farms that have implemented best practices years ago positioned to show smaller reductions.
While the American Farm Bureau earlier this year lobbied against proposed SEC accounting intrusions for quantifying ESG scoring, it has been silent on the issue of carbon asset ownership for food producers. AFBF has also said little about the recently signed climate bill (Inflation Reduction Act).
National Milk Producers Federation, on the other hand, as reported last week, sang its praises for being right in line with where the industry’s Net Zero Initiative is going.
DMI voices its pride to have been leading the way, positioning its Innovation Center as founded by dairy farmers. They have conceded that dairy farms impact the environment and launched NZI as a collective pledge to reduce that impact.
In other words, DMI submitted to the idea that cows impact the environment, but never fear, through NZI, the Innovation Center and Newtrient, farmers will make them better, and turn them into a climate solution.
This is a fool’s errand given the inflated methane equivalent and the movement of carbon reductions to entities outside of the dairy supply chain such as paper mills, bitcoin miners, and the fossil fuel industry.
Did dairy farmers have a say in any of this? Not really. They were kept in the dark as this was developed over the past decade or more, and the boards representing them on the six organizations that launched NZI (four of them under the checkoff umbrella) have been duped.
Farmers are largely unaware of the NZI train, and their silence as it runs down the track becomes a further signal to the industry and to the government that they approve of the track they are on.
As the industry sits at this crossing, the Net Zero train full of dairy farmer passengers is barreling high speed down the track DMI has laid.
This train must be stopped because the future-bound track needs to be re-examined, adjusted and re-aligned so that the passengers are not ejected by the train wreck – the accelerated consolidator — that lies ahead.
Fundamentals must be vigorously revisited. Every passenger on that train, every dairy farm, must be recognized as an essential food producer, get credit for their prior investment in current practices, and be able to retain ownership of their carbon assets as part of their farm’s footprint — even if these assets have been provided, sold or signed over as offsets to milk buyers or project investors or traders on an exchange.
Furthermore, this train – built with farmer dollars – should protect the so-called founding farmers from being denied a market based on the size of their GHG reductions. If a carbon neutral farm can’t show reductions to its milk buyer, will that buyer look for other downstream vendors who can fulfill their Scope 3 reduction needs?
Will those vendors be other farms with larger perceived GHG reductions or will they be alternative analogs created without cows?
Nestle announced this week it is partnering with Perfect Day toward that end. In fact, the proliferation of plant-based, cell cultured, DNA-altered microbe excrement analogs for dairy protein and other elements are entering the market on big GHG reduction claims based on being made without the cow and the inflated methane CO2 equivalent she has been assigned!
The current standard for methane CO2 equivalency is inflated by orders of magnitude. Dr. Frank Mitloehner has addressed this repeatedly and other researchers back his view with efforts to change it.
As Mitloehner and others point out, climate neutrality should be the goal, not net-zero. Furthermore, the current methane CO2 equivalent is calculated based only on the much greater warming effect of methane vs. CO2. However, the current calculation does not account for the fact that methane is short-lived in Earth’s atmosphere — about 10 years compared with 100 to 100 years for CO2 and other GHG. It also does not account for the cow’s role in the biogenic carbon cycle.
Remember, DMI and company have ignored or embraced this definition. At the same time, the Innovation Center’s data collection of progressive accomplishments are included in the baselines from which new reductions (opportunities) must be found.
These two trains run in opposite directions for a future head-on collision on a mis-aligned track.
The bigger the perceived GHG problem, the bigger the reduction through technology, and the bigger the monetization of that reduction outside of the dairy supply chain. At the same time, this creates an even bigger problem for farms that are unable to participate in biogas projects, farms that don’t fit the Innovation Center’s 3500-cow-dairy-as-solution template, farms that may be carbon neutral or close to it already.
DMI and company have played fast and loose with the truth.
Farmshine readers will recall the glaring error reported more than a year ago in the white paper written by WWF for DMI. It showcased these biogas projects and the 3500-cow dairy template it proclaimed could be Net Zero in five years, not 30.
That paper inflated U.S. Dairy’s total GHG footprint by an order of magnitude! A Pennsylvania dairy farmer brought the error to Farmshine’s attention. In turn, the magnitude of the error was confirmed by Dr. Mitloehner who then contacted DMI. A corrected copy of the white paper magically replaced all internet files with no discussion from DMI or WWF. That number was changed, but all of the assumptions in the paper were left as-is.
Put simply: DMI does not appear to be concerned about inflating the size of dairy’s perceived GHG problem. The bigger the perceived problem, the bigger the reduction that can be monetized, but that is now happening outside of the dairy supply chain.
Posted on January 21, 2022 by Agmoos
Dr. Frank Mitloehner is a foremost authority on animal science and greenhouse gas emissions. Find him on Twitter @GHGGuru and @UCDavisCLEAR (Screen capture from American Dairy Coalition webinar)
By Sherry Bunting
‘Net zero’ seems like a simple term, but it’s loaded, according to Dr. Frank Mitloehner, professor and air quality specialist with the Department of Animal Science at University of California-Davis.
He firmly believes dairy can be a climate solution, but the first step is to accurately define dairy’s contribution to the climate problem. Setting the record straight is his prime focus, and he also researches ways dairy, like every industry, “can do our bit to improve.”
Presenting on what ‘net zero’ really means for dairies, Mitloehner answered questions during the American Dairy Coalition (ADC) annual business meeting in December, attended by over 150 producers from across the country via webinar.
Based in Wisconsin, ADC is a national producer-driven voice with a regionally diverse board. President Walt Moore, a Chester County, Pennsylvania dairy producer, welcomed virtual meeting attendees, and CEO Laurie Fischer shared a federal dairy policy update.
She said the ADC board is nimble, moves quickly, and wants to hear from fellow dairy farmers. She encouraged membership to make ADC stronger and shared about the organization’s federal policy focus in 2021 — from pandemic disruptions and assistance, Federal Order pricing, depooling and negative PPDs to real dairy label integrity, whole milk choice in schools, and farmers’ questions and concerns about dairy ‘net-zero’ actions.
“Too often, farmers think they may not understand something, so they don’t speak up,” said Fischer. “But we get calls and so much great advice from our farmers. We know you get it, you know it, because it is happening to you.”
From this farmer input, the net-zero topic became the ADC annual meeting focus.
“We are rethinking methane, and this is influencing and shaping the discussion,” Dr. Mitloehner reported. He urged producers to use the information at the CLEAR Center at https://clear.ucdavis.edu/ and to do better networking, to have a better presence on social media.
This is necessary because the activists are well-connected, and methane is the angle they use in their quest to end animal agriculture. He said Twitter is a platform where many of these discussions are happening. His handle there is @GHGGuru and the Center is @UCDavisCLEAR.
“This is something I have told the dairy industry. They say ‘net-zero carbon’, but they shouldn’t say that because it is not possible, and it is not needed. We need to be saying ‘net-zero warming’. That’s the goal. Then, every time you reduce methane, you instantaneously have an impact that is inducing a cooling effect,” said Mitloehner.
‘Climate neutrality’ is the more accurate term he uses to describe the pathways for U.S. dairy and beef. But it requires getting accurate information into policy in a fact-based way.
It requires arming people with the knowledge that the constant and efficient U.S. dairy and livestock herds produce no new methane, that they are climate-neutral because not only is methane continuously destroyed in the atmosphere at a rate roughly equal to what is continuously emitted by cow burps and manure, that process involves a biogenic carbon cycle in which the cow is a key part.
One of the issues is how methane from cattle is measured, he said. Current policy uses a measurement from 30 years ago that fails to acknowledge the carbon cycle and ‘sinks’ alongside the ‘emissions.’
Mitloehner said accurate information is beginning to change the narrative. This is critical because methane is the GHG of concern for dairy, and the narrative about it has been incomplete and inaccurate.
As a more potent heat-trapping gas than carbon dioxide, methane becomes the ‘easy’ target to achieve the warming limits in the Paris Accord. Methane was the focal point of ‘additional warming limits’ during the UN Climate Change Summit (COP26) in Glasgow in November.
Putting together the inaccurate narrative alongside international agreements to specifically reduce methane, it becomes obvious why cattle are in the crosshairs. Producers are already in the middle of this in California as methane regulation and carbon credit systems began there several years ago.
As the narrative is beginning to change, Mitloehner sees opportunities. He described the current California ‘goldrush’ of renewable natural gas (RNG) projects where large herds both in and out of state cover lagoons to capture and convert biogas into RNG. The state’s investments and renewable fuel standard provide a 10-year guarantee with the RNG companies typically owning the offset credits that can be traded on the California exchange from anywhere.
“We are far and away an outlier because of our efficiency in the U.S with all livestock and feed representing 4% of the GHG total for the U.S,” Mitloehner confirmed. “Dairy, alone, is less than 2% of the U.S. total.”
This is much smaller than the 14.5% figure that is thrown about recklessly. That is a global number that includes non-productive cattle in India as well as the increasing herds in less efficient developing countries. This number also lumps in other things, such as deforestation.
He said the true global percentage of emissions for livestock and manure is 5.8%. Unfortunately, activists and media tend to use the inflated global figure and conflate it with these other things to inaccurately describe the climate impact of U.S. dairy and livestock herds as 14.5%.
The efficiency of U.S. production and the nutrient density of animal foods must be part of the food and climate policy equation.
Methane is not GHG on steroids
“Without greenhouse gases, life on earth would not be possible because it would be too cold here,” said Mitloehner. “We need GHG, but human activity puts too much into the atmosphere, and the toll is large concentrations.”
The way all GHGs are measured has to do with their intensity as determined 30 years ago when scientists wanted one global warming potential (GWP) unit to compare cows to cars to cement production and so forth. They came up with GWP100, which converts methane to CO2 equivalents based on its warming potential.
Methane traps 28 times more heat than CO2, but it is short-lived, Mitloehner explained.
“Looking just at the warming potential, you get this idea that methane is GHG on steroids and that we need to get rid of all of it and all of its sources,” he said.
But is this the end of the methane story? No.
Sinks and cycles must count
Mitloehner described how ‘methane budgets’ look at sources and their emissions but ignore the carbon sinks that go alongside and ignore the chemical reactions that result in atmospheric removal of methane as well.
“Plants need sunlight, water, and a source of carbon. That carbon they need comes from the atmosphere to produce oxygen and carbohydrates,” he said, explaining how cows eat the carbohydrates and convert them to nutrient dense milk and beef. In that process, the rumen produces methane.
“Is this new and additional carbon added to the atmosphere? No it is not. It is recycled carbon,” he said.
“Say you work off the farm. You drive and burn fuel, adding new CO2 in addition to the stock in the atmosphere the day before. Stock gases accumulate because they stay in the environment. Currently, agencies treat methane as if it behaves the same way. But methane is a flow gas, not a stock gas. It is not cumulative,” said Mitloehner.
If the same farm has 1000 cows belching today and 1000 belching 10 years ago, those 1000 cows are not belching new methane because in 10 years it is gone from the atmosphere. It is cyclical.
“The take-home message is the carbon that our constant livestock herds produce is not new carbon in the atmosphere. It is a constant source because similarly to it being produced, it is also destroyed. The destruction part is not finding its way into the public policy system… but it will in the future,” he predicts.
Methane drives Paris Accord and COP26
Methane targets are driving intergovernmental agreements wanting to limit the “additional warming impact” of nations and industries.
Currently, cattle are viewed as global-warmers because they constantly emit methane. However, as Mitloehner drilled numerous times, this is not new methane, it is not additive, it is not cumulative. It is recycled carbon.
“If you have constant livestock herds, like in the U.S., then you are not causing new additional warming,” said Mitloehner.
Burning fossil fuels is much different.
“Fossilized carbon accumulated underground. Over 70 years, we have extracted half of it and burned it, so where is it now? In the atmosphere. We added new and additional CO2 that is not a short-lived gas. It is a one-way street from the ground into the air,” he explained.
The problem for dairy and beef producers is their cattle are being depicted as though their emissions are additive, cumulative, like fossil fuels, which is not true, he said.
Signs the narrative is changing
One promising sign that the message is getting through has come from Oxford researchers acknowledging the constant cattle herds in the U.S. and UK are not adding new warming.
They acknowledge the GWP100 “grossly overestimates” the warming impact of cattle and are working on a new measurement that recognizes constant cattle herds are not adding new warming, said Mitloehner.
Another promising sign is that the International Panel on Climate Change (IPCC) issued a statement recently acknowledging that the current GWP100 overblows the warming impact of cattle by a factor of four. This new information is not in current policy, but it is making its way there.
Tale of two bathtubs
Mitloehner believes it is important to visualize climate neutrality. He described two bathtubs. One has a CO2 faucet with no drain, the other a methane faucet with a drain. Open the faucets, and even at a slow and steady rate, the CO2 bathtub continues to rise, while the methane bathtub drains as it fills to remain at a constant level.
He also explained that over the past 200 years the U.S. hasn’t seen any real change in that methane bathtub because prior to settlement in America, 100 million ruminants — buffalo and other wild herds — roamed. Today, there are around 100 million large ruminants in the U.S. dairy and beef industries.
What has changed is the U.S. does have more liquid manure lagoon storage that is producing more methane than solid manure storage. “But we know of ways to further reduce that,” he said.
Mitloehner pointed out how the current GWP100 poorly estimates the warming impact three example scenarios. If, over 30 years, methane is increased 35% from a source, or reduced 10%, or reduced 35%, the GWP100 would show significant continuous addition of cow-sourced methane in CO2 equivalents for all three scenarios because the destruction of the methane – the drain that operates with the faucet – is ignored.
The proper way to look at this, if the methane increased a lot, is that it would add a lot. But if it is balanced, then there is no new or additional warming. And, in that third scenario, he said, “where we pull a lot from the atmosphere when we reduce methane, it has the same impact as growing a forest.”
Bottom line, said Mitloehner, “We can be a solution and take it to the market and get paid for that,” but current policy does not yet reflect the neutral position of the constant and efficient U.S. herd.
Bullish about the future
‘Net zero’ is a term that is not yet clearly defined, said Dr. Frank Mitloehner several times during the American Dairy Coalition annual meeting by webinar in December. He sees the real goal as “climate neutrality,” to communicate the way constant U.S. dairy herds contribute “no additional warming,” in other words “net zero warming.”
The climate neutrality of U.S. cattle must be part of public policy, he said. Only then will dairies truly be on a path to marketing their reductions as ‘cooling offsets.’
Mitloehner, a University of California animal scientist and GHG expert is bullish about the future of “turning this methane liability into an asset, so if we manage toward reducing this gas, we can take that reduction to the carbon market,” he said.
“When we hear ‘net zero’, we think about carbon, but that would mean no more GHG is being produced, and that is not possible. I have told the dairy industry this for years. Why is (zero GHG) not possible? Because cows always belch, and we can’t offset that, and furthermore, we do not need to offset that because it is not new methane,” said Mitloehner.
On the other hand, “If we replace beef and dairy made in the U.S., this does not create a GHG reduction at all. This is because we are the most productive and efficient in the world,” he said.
Just stopping beef and dairy production here in the U.S. — and picking up the slack by producing it somewhere else or producing something else in its place — creates ‘leakage.’ This leakage, he said, is where the biogenic carbon cycle becomes disrupted. In other words, the bathtub has a faucet that is out of sync with the drain.
Mitloehner touched on the strict California standards that mandate a 40% reduction of methane be achieved by the state by 2030. Again, methane is targeted because of its warming potential per the Paris Accord.
The good news, he said, is California is using incentives to encourage covering manure lagoons to capture a percentage of the biogas bubble so that it doesn’t go into the atmosphere but is trapped beneath the tarp and converted into renewable natural gas (RNG) that can be sold as vehicle fleet fuel to replace diesel.
Because this RNG comes from a captured and converted methane source, it is considered a most carbon-negative fuel in the state’s low-carbon fuel standard.
Those credits equate to $200 per ton of CO2 replaced with a carbon-negative renewable, said Mitloehner.
“This is a huge credit. This is why dairies are flocking to get lagoons covered to trap and convert. These credits are guaranteed for 10 years in California, but the anti-agriculture activists are fuming over them,” said Mitloehner.
Of all California investments made toward achieving the 40% methane reduction goal, dairy has received just 3% of funds, but has achieved 13% of reductions so far.
This “carrot” approach has incentivized the biogas RNG projects assuming $4000 income per cow, making an estimated $1500 to $2000 per cow per year on a 10-year California fuel standard guarantee.
Mitloehner noted that the carbon intensity of the reduction is presently viewed as greater when RNG is used in vehicles vs. generating electricity, but right now there is not enough RNG suitable for vehicle use. He sees the fuel use increasing in the future and explained that dairies anywhere can sell into the California market if they capture biogas and convert it to RNG.
The state’s 10-year guarantee has stimulated companies seeking to invest in RNG projects on large dairy farms, where they then own or share the credits.
Mitloehner answered a few questions from producers about the caveats. If the bottom and top of the lagoon are covered, what happens to the sludge that accumulates? He acknowledged there is no satisfactory answer to that question presently.
Another drawback is the technology only works for larger dairies because smaller lagoons won’t have the same breakeven. Community digester models are emerging as well, he said, but they also use clusters of large farms working together.
Soil carbon sequestration
Mitloehner cited soil carbon sequestration as a way dairy farms of any size can be a solution.
It’s the process by which agriculture and forestry take carbon out of the air via the plant root systems that allow the soil microbes to take it into the soil — unless the soil is disturbed by tilling or it is released through fires. With good forest and grassland management, as well as low- and no-till farming practices, carbon can be sequestered to stay in the ground forever, according to Mitloehner.
“Agriculture and forests are the only two ways to do this,” he said, adding that USDA seeks to incentivize practices that take and keep more of the atmospheric carbon in the soil.
Answering questions from producers, he noted that he has not yet seen a scheme that would incentivize soil carbon sequestration through marketing offsets, but the discussions are heading in that direction.
“Many of the environmental justice communities are running wild on this. They do not want farmers to get any money for it. They are putting on significant pressure and threatening lawsuits, so it’s not settled yet,” he reported.
There is also a lot of confusion around soil carbon sequestration and “regenerative” agriculture. One big problem is that producers who are doing some of these things, already, won’t get the opportunity to capitalize on those practices when offset protocols are eventually developed — if those practices are not deemed “additive.”
“If you are doing something now and are not covered by a policy of financial incentive, then four years from now, if it is developed, they’ll say you don’t qualify because you are already doing it,” said Mitloehner.
“They are calling it ‘additionality.’ It’s about the change to doing it to qualify. That seems crazy, but it’s like if you bought an electric vehicle 10 years ago when there was no tax credit, you don’t get a tax credit now for already owning an EV because the improvement is not ‘additional,’” he explained.
What about the burps?
For farms with under 1000 cows, other technologies like feed additives can be used on any size dairy with effects realized within a week, said Mitloehner, noting one product that is commercially available and several others on the docket.
If a 10 to 15% reduction can be achieved in enteric (belching) methane reduction, then it will be marketable. Right now, these reductions are not marketable. If an offset protocol is developed for this in the future, it will be taken to the carbon market, he said.
In the meantime, incentives are being offered within supply chains, according to Mitloehner. Companies like Nestle, Starbucks and others are doing pilot projects and buying feed additives for the farmers within their supply chains to reduce their products’ GHG. He said there is some evidence these products can enhance components and feed efficiency. This is a big area of research right now.
A question was also asked during the webinar, wondering about Amish farms using horses instead of tractors. Are they contributing to cooling?
Mitloehner replied that he has not yet seen a calculation for this, and while the impact of horses would be less than the impact of burning fossil fuels, there is still an environmental impact to calculate.
Since the international focus is on ‘additional warming impact’, methane is – like it or not — the target. Whether a dairy farm is managed conventionally or in the Amish tradition, the cows, the methane, and how governments and industry measure the ‘additional warming impact’ of cow-sourced methane, is still the crux of the issue for all dairy farms. If efficiency is reduced, then the ability to position the dairy farm as ‘cooling’ may be more complicated, or less significant, he said.
In addition to accurate definitions that acknowledge climate neutrality of constant cattle herds producing no new methane, Mitloehner’s wish is for federal policy to also take productivity (and nutrient density) into stronger consideration when evaluating emission intensity “instead of just counting heads of cattle.
“This can be good for large or small dairies with a high or low footprint. When the relative emissions are determined by how you manage the dairy, the hope is that this is more about the how than the cow.”
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‘GHG Guru’ talks about cows as key to ‘climate neutrality’
Posted on June 9, 2020 by Agmoos
Innovation in the face of disruption, that was one of the themes of the Alltech ONE Virtual Experience last week. In fact, Alltech CEO and president Dr. Mark Lyons talked about how innovation has been the driving force behind 35 years of the annual “ideas conference”.
This year, due to COVID-19 preventing the conference from happening in-person, innovation turned the ONE conference into a virtual experience for the first time with participation by over 23,000 people from 144 countries.
“We live in a time of great opportunity, we have younger people asking questions, and when farmers get those questions, they should answer them and not defer,” said Dr. Frank Mitloehner. Friday’s ONE keynote speaker.
Dr. Mitloehner is a University of California-Davis animal science professor and air quality specialist as well as world renown greenhouse gas (GHG) emissions expert. He talked on his favorite subject: “Clearing the air: Debunking the myths of agriculture.”
Mitloehner is a foremost authority on air quality emissions and how to mitigate them within the context of livestock and agriculture, and he is an integral part of a benchmarking project for the environmental footprint for livestock.
The project he deems most important of his career is “getting animal agriculture to a place where we consider it climate neutral,” he said, adding that climate was top-of-mind before COVID-19, and will be again. “There’s a lot of interest in this.”
But the path to climate neutrality begins with proper accounting for methane and how it behaves in the biogenic cycle.
“The one missing entity is the media on this,” said Mitloehner. “We are seeing a major new narrative about animal agriculture and the accurate quantifying of methane, but it is problematic that media are not reporting about it.”
Despite lack of media coverage, Mitloehner expects the new narrative to take hold.
He gave a vivid example of why accurate measurement is needed. Speaking in Ireland recently, he compared photos of the Emerald Isle to photos of Los Angeles to photos of a coal-fired power plant in Europe.
Ireland is so green, with pastures, hedges and forages everywhere, he said. But the way carbon is conventionally quantified, Ireland would have the largest carbon footprint of the three examples.
“But the change in how we perceive GHG is materializing as we speak. We have to think about methane not just produced but also degraded, and how GHG is sequestered,” Mitloehner explained.
In the old way of quantifying carbon by looking at methane budgets (left side of graphic), not only are methane’s short-lived properties as a ‘flow gas’ ignored, but also the sequestration (shown on the right side) provided by agriculture and forestry as part of a biogenic cycle. Screenshot from Friday’s keynote presentation by Dr. Frank Mitloehner during Alltech’s ONE Virtual Conference.
Using the old way, “They don’t think of sectors like forestry and agriculture serving as a sink for GHG,” he said, comparing the three GHGs — carbon dioxide, methane and nitrous oxide — in terms of their heat trapping capacity.
“So they look at methane and translate it to a CO2 equivalent. That’s what people have been doing since 1990,” he said. “At that time, scientists had several footnotes and caveats, but they were cut off and people ran with the slides without the footnotes. That is a dangerous situation that has gotten animal agriculture into a lot of trouble actually.”
He explained that CO2 is a long-lived climate pollutant, whereas methane is short lived. Methane is different. Unfortunately, when methane emissions are calculated globally for sectors each year, they don’t consider the whole picture.
“If we don’t get this question right, and the livestock moves, then we have ‘leakage,’” he said. “Most people add it up and stop discussion there, but they shouldn’t. On the right side of the graph are these sinks, and they amount to a respectable total, so the net methane per year is a fraction of the total number they are using.”
Another difference is the life span of these gases. CO2 lives 1000 years, nitrous oxide hundreds of years, methane 10 years, Mitloehner explained. “The methane our cows put out will be gone after 10 years, it is produced and destroyed.”
Dr. Mark Lyons brought up all the talk about “planetary diets” and the “spin and marketing” of eating for you and the planet.
Mitloehner said “the inference of diet on environment is greatly overplayed for PR purposes. The impacts are much lower than some people say who want to sell their alternatives. If and when comparing food groups, it must be done fairly. A pound of beef has a different footprint than a pound of lettuce, but it also has a vastly different nutritional profile.”
Another example he gave was dairy vs. almond juice. “Using the old way of assessing the impact of dairy milk, it is 10 times greater, but almond juice has a 17 times greater water footprint. You can make any food shine, but drill into it and there is no silver bullet. People will continue to eat animal sourced foods and the sound argument is to allow us to produce what people need and crave in the lowest impact possible and that is the route we are going.”
The good news, he said, is that for every one vegan, there are five former vegans. The retention is not good.
He talked the virtual ONE attendees through the process of where carbon comes from and where it ends up. This is why GHG from livestock are significantly different from other sources such as fossil fuel.
Plants need sunlight, carbon in the form of CO2, which is made into carbohydrate, cellulose or starch, ingested by the cow into the rumen where some of it is converted into methane. And after a decade, that methane is converted back into CO2 needed by the plants to make carbohydrate.
“The carbon from our methane originates in the atmosphere, goes through plants, to animals, to air, and again, on repeat,” said Mitloehner.
In this biogenic cycle, if there are constant livestock herds, “then you are not adding carbon to the atmosphere, it is all recycled,” he explained. “What I’m saying here doesn’t mean methane doesn’t matter, but the question really is: Do our livestock herds add to additional methane for additional warming, and the answer is NO.”
This is a total change in the narrative around livestock, and it will be the narrative in the years to come, according to Mitloehner. Because dairy and beef herds have declined so much since the 1950s and 1970s — producing more animal protein at the same time, “We have not caused an increasing amount of carbon in the atmosphere but have decreased the amount of carbon we put in the atmosphere,” said Mitloehner.
The difference between animal agriculture and fossil fuels is a cycle vs. a one-way street.
“Each time you drive to work, you put CO2 into the atmosphere that lasts 1000 years, and it is a stock gas that adds up each day,” Mitloener said. “Everytime we put it in the atmosphere we add to the existing stock. This is why the curve always goes up, because it is a long-lived climate pollutant. Methane on the other hand is flow gas. Cows can put in the air Monday, but on Tuesday a similar amount that is put in is also being taken out. By having a constant number of cows, you are not adding methane into the atmosphere. The only time you add is throughout the first 10 years of its existence or by increasing herd size.”
He quoted researchers from Oxford University who are also communicating this science and technical papers to the public. But again, the media in general are ignoring it.
What really gets Mitloehner energized are the concepts like biogas and use of it as a renewable fuel in vehicles, for example, and other technologies where dairy and livestock operations can take their climate neutrality and turn it into a cooling effect by counteracting the warming caused by other sectors.
“The current way of accounting for it is a flawed way of looking at it, because it does not account for the fact that keeping methane stable, the amount of warming added is actually zero,” he said. And this is where to build incentive to make up for other sectors that are actively adding to the warming.
“If we were to reduce methane, we could induce cooling,” he said. “We have the ability to do that. This is how agriculture, especially animal agriculture, can be the solution to the warming caused by other sectors of the economy and life.”
Mitloehner measures to quantify the impact of mitigation technologies to see if we can get to that point of reducing other emissions. He talked about California law mandating reduction of methane by 40% by 2030.
“They’ve reduced by 20%, using the carrot instead of the stick. The state incentivizes the financing of technologies that mitigate,” said Mitloehner. “We are now at 25% of the 40% total reduction. If we can do it here, it can be done in other parts of the country and the world… and it means our livestock sector will be on the path of climate neutrality.”
If you have a ‘beef’ with GHG reporting, contact Dr. Mitloehner on Twitter. You can follow him there @GHGGuru. He urges farmers to get involved, get engaged.
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Ok, now that you have spent countless hours looking at pictures on Google images, researched every local breeder, and watched numerous YouTube videos of adorable Teddy’s bouncing through the grass, you think you are ready to take the plunge into Teddy Bear puppy ownership! However, before you go on a PetCo shopping-spree trying to prepare for the arrival of your little bundle of fur, here are seven things you should know about Teddy’s BEFORE you decide to buy.
1. Teddy Bear Puppies are NEEDY
Teddy bears are typically a cross-breed between a Bichon Frise and a Shih Tzu, both of which are extremely devoted companion dogs. Combining these two breeds seems to have formed a type of “Super Companion” dog that is the most loyal and loving dog in the world. One of the greatest things about Teddy Bears is how much love and dedication they will show you. When you have your own Teddy, you will know without a doubt that you are their best friend in the whole world, and there is nothing they would rather do than spend every waking second with you. This “super ego-boost” will be adorable for the first couple months of ownership, and you will have no problem dropping whatever it is you are doing to roll around on the floor and play with your little pup. However, after the 180th time that your little guy wants to play “underwear-tug-of-war” during your favorite TV show, or while you are busy writing e-mails, you will wish that your puppy would just develop an independent hobby.
Don’t worry, this will not mean you love your little guy any less, it just means you are a normal human that needs alone time once in a while, not a super-dog with an unlimited capacity to chew dirty laundry.
Fortunately, your puppy will be small and will sleep A LOT the first couple of months; this means that you can wear him out by rolling around on the floor a few minutes or playing “chase me around the furniture” a few times. As they grow older, and bigger, they will seem to have an endless amount of energy and will be “Christmas-morning” excited every time you even walk near the front door. You will need to take them outside and allow them to explore and run around at least once a day (but they would prefer four or five times). I have a theory that our little Teddy’s idea of heaven is running around outside 12 hours a day, sleeping on my lap for 11 ½ hours, and licking the dirty dishes in the dishwasher for the other 30 minutes.
3. Potty training your Teddy will take several months
I thought potty training would be E-A-S-Y. I said to myself: “Don’t worry; you are going to be such a good teacher that your little guy will be completely trained by the end of the week. In fact, you are going to be so ‘on top of it’ that he’ll probably even pop up on his two hind legs and pee right in the toilet just to earn your respect and admiration.”
Reality check time. Potty training is H-A-R-D. Just when you think your little guy has it all figured out, he relapses and poops right under your bed. Plan on potty training taking at least 2 months to get any consistency, and 5-6 months before you stop having to worry about accidents. But just like anything else, if you work really hard at it, it will happen sooner or later.
4. You’ll need plenty of chew toys during teething
It’s pretty surprising to see your puppy chewing on something small and hard, only to find out that it is one of his baby teeth that has fallen out! Once a Teddy is 4-6 months old they will start teething and it will be necessary to invest in some chew-toys if you don’t want your wooden furniture to look like you bought it second hand from a family of hungry Beavers.
One thing that our Vet recommended and really helped our little guy during the teething process was buying a frozen “knucklebone” that he could chew on a couple of times a day. It was a lifesaver and occupied him for a good 30 minutes twice a day. You can buy them at your local butcher or grocery meat counter. Just be sure to store them in a zip-lock bag and re-freeze them immediately after your pup is done. Each bone lasted us about 2-3 weeks before you would want to replace them.
Other than knucklebones, there are plenty of other chew toys that you could get your Teddy Bear puppy. However, most of the “non-edible” chew toys made of fabrics, plastics, and cloth did not hold his attention long and he lost interest in them after only a couple hours. The chew toys that he would stick with the longest were the organic, edible, toys: raw-hide bones, knee caps, bully sticks, or anything else with flavor that took a LONG time to chew down.
5. You will need to invest in a retractable dog leash
Unless you live in the country, with lots of wide-open spaces and no traffic, then be prepared for the biggest fear in your life to change to “Puppy running into the road”.
As mentioned in item #2, you are going to have to take your Teddy outside to run around nearly every day. For the first couple of months your puppy will be a slow and awkward runner, you won’t have to worry about him “out-hopping” you. You’ll be able to let him wander around, as long as you stay between him and the road. Then one day your puppy will seem to have morphed into an Olympic level sprinter whose favorite new game is: “You can’t catch me!” It’s at this point that you will want to invest in a retractable leash.
With Teddy’s, a retractable leash is much preferable to a traditional leash because of the amount of running your Teddy will want to do. These types of dogs aren’t traditional walkers, they want to run as fast and as far as their stubby little legs will take them. Having a retractable leash means that you will spend 90% less time during your runs untangling the leash from your Teddy’s feet. Until you have untangled a leash 35 times during a 10-minute walk, it’s hard to really know how valuable a retractable leash is.
You don’t need to go overboard and get a monster leash designed for large dogs, but you also won’t want to get the smallest size either. Teddy’s have a tendency to forget they are on a leash and run full-speed until the line runs out and they are yanked backward into reality. I recommend getting one of the retractable leashes designed for dogs up to 26 lbs. It will be more than strong enough to handle your little guy and you won’t ever have to worry about it breaking while on a walk.
The first few weeks my wife and I were so afraid of hurting our little guy that one of the biggest arguments of our marriage was when I taught him to jump off of the 24-inch couch. We treated our puppy like he would break a bone of you hugged him too hard. It took us about 3 months before we realized that these dogs are basically indestructible.
Now, let’s be clear, I don’t mean that you should attempt in any way to hurt or harm your dog, or even put him in any potentially dangerous situation based on my advice. I simply mean that these dogs are a lot tougher and more durable than they look. In fact, they were originally bred as therapy dogs to be used for individuals with disabilities. They made perfect pets not only because of their extreme loyalty and companionship but also because they have softer bones which won’t break as easily as other dog breeds. In fact, I once inadvertently lifted my dining room chair leg up and sat it down right on Buddy’s paw (and I am not a light guy!). I felt terrible and my wife was sure that he was going to need life-saving foot surgery. He ending up walking gingerly for a day but was back to running around like normal within 24 hours.
It’s ordinary to be concerned about accidentally hurting your puppy, but don’t worry too much, Teddy’s are pretty tough.
7. Prepare yourself to love them more than you ever thought you could love a dog
There is something about Teddy Bears, and many dog breeds, which strikes a chord with the human heart. Their level of devotion, companionship, unwavering love and happiness all make it virtually impossible not to love them. One of the greatest feelings in the world is seeing the excitement in your little guy’s eyes when you walk in the door after being gone all day. They make you feel like the most important person in the world every time you come home.
It is possible to love your Teddy too much though! Don’t obsess about their safety, check their breathing every 5 minutes during their nap, or call your neighbors to check on them when you are out. They will be fine!
Treat your Teddy right, and you will have a best friend for the rest of their lives. And don’t be surprised when you find yourself talking to them in a baby voice or letting them lick your face! It’s hard to say no when you feel so much love for your pup!
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February 26, 2014, 9:19 pm
Brilliant article for anyone getting a shichon/ teddy bear pup…I got my Brucie
May 28, 2014, 9:49 pm
I have one!! she is the light of my life!!!
September 1, 2014, 2:44 pm
hi i was wondering if u could recommend a place in Michigan where I could purchase a teddybear for my family…
September 21, 2014, 11:07 am
You have just described my yorkie! All 7 of these are absolutely true on my yorkie. I have had him for8 years now and have gone through everything you have described.
October 22, 2014, 6:04 am
This describes my little Emma exactly! She is 10 months old and I just love her more than I ever though I would. I’ve become that crazy dog mom. She is currently resting up for another long day of taking naps while wedged into tight places, chewing her Nylabone, sprinting around the apartment, and begging for food. Awesome article! I would tell anyone who is thinking of getting a teddy bear to read this.
April 21, 2015, 4:02 am
I love teddies! They’re so cute, but my family is still debating whether or not we should get one.
May 17, 2016, 1:53 am
I hope you got a Teddy, you will NEVER regret it! Best wishes in your search.
May 25, 2015, 8:24 pm
I really really really really want a teddy bear dog thanks so much for giving me some tips before I buy one.
ane g.
October 1, 2015, 7:12 am
I’ve had a shih tzu & currently a 15yrs old bichon. I love both breeds so when I heard about this breed I knew I had to have one???? We’ve had her since she was eight wks. She’s now two yrs & has brought so much joy & happiness to our home. We are now searching for another one to be a companion, but as anyone ķnows who has one,a good Teddy Bear puppy is very hard to find. It took us @ least a year to find a healthy, well bred puppy.
Any good reputable breeders in the Pittsburgh & surrounding areas who have healthy litters for sell
October 21, 2016, 5:09 am
I looked for years! It seemed that every so called breeder was a puppy mill front. Finally found my Gus from a breeder near Punxsutawney. She was a little nutty, but not Amish. Gus was socialized and everything checked out. He was the best decision I ever made…. and I have 3 kids lol. I have her info if you are still interested. I’m just north of Pittsburgh, so the drive wasn’t terrible and totally worth it.
January 17, 2018, 4:41 am
Where in punch we have friends there . Looking for this breed!
January 6, 2019, 4:25 pm
October 22, 2015, 1:24 am
I have a teddybear.. Her name is Sydney n u described her perfectly I love her more than I ever thought I would. I can’t wait to get home to her everyday n I miss her so much through the day n I’m pretty sure she misses me just as much????
November 18, 2015, 11:12 am
Hi, I have a 12.5 month old Teddy Bear who is very agressive we it me. He bites my hands even tho I ball up my hand, or make limp hands, make high pitched bark. I’ve tried time out in small gated room for several minutes, holding him down at neck and waiting for him to divert his eyes (he doesn’t do that so much), muzzling his mouth with my hand. When he’s in that mood nothing seems to work. It’s usually at night before bed, but lately it has been in am as well. Any other tips would be appreciated. BTW when he is not doing this, he is sitting on my lap chewing a deer antler, or bringing me toys to throw.
February 26, 2018, 5:01 am
Are things better now? I know you wrote this a while ago. I was just wondering if it’s gotten any better
November 29, 2015, 11:49 pm
Loved your article about teddy bear pulpies. Have had mine 1 day. And already see what your talking about!
December 21, 2015, 5:04 pm
Our family just got a Teddy Bear last week and we are SO IN LOVE!
Wonderful breed! This article has me a little concerned about keeping up with him, but we will!
March 2, 2016, 5:15 am
This article is brilliant! Nala is about a year and a half and we have had her since she was 12 weeks. The energy and running around comment made me actually lol as it is incredibly accurate. Every item on the list is spot on though. I couldn’t imagine having another type of dog we are actually thinking of getting another teddy. I would add as a helpful comment to all new owners that anything on the ground that fits in those little jaws is fair game so make sure those lightning cords are put out of reach!
April 21, 2016, 10:55 am
You have described my dog, Snowball!! He’s a Bichon and everything on your list except the potty training. He picked up on that right away!! He’s by my side everywhere we go, very loyal to me!! I bought him for my sons, but he is my dog! He’s 5 and we walk everyday. He goes with me in my golf cart everywhere!! I feel guilty leaving him. I was thinking of getting another dog to keep him company, but I think he will get jealous!!
September 5, 2020, 8:10 pm
Would likecyobhave one very small dog , how I go about?
May 13, 2016, 4:04 pm
I can tell you first hand teddy bears are more than a pet… I just recently lost my Coco she was my world she was 5 and I am devastated my life is not the same. The love I shared with her was out of this world teddy bears my Coco are the best dogs anyone could ever ask for!! I feel like I lost my child because that’s what they are and they make it that way so if your prepared to have another baby or your first (so to speak) Teddy Bears are the perfect choice
Mike S
May 15, 2016, 1:05 pm
Love our reddy bear. Potty trained in 2 days. We have a doggie door and a fenced yard. Will not eat people food. Will not go out the front door without a leash and permission. Loves the motorhome. The only problem with him is that he doesn’t like to eat.
September 6, 2019, 8:00 pm
Our shih tzu didn’t like to eat. We tried everything. We finally found a very low fat can food and would boil chicken. Even though it was a hassle he thrived on it and lived to be 19 years old. It seemed the fat content in his food would upset his tummy so he didn’t like to eat.
May 17, 2016, 1:49 am
I got my Teddy, Tripp Brodie on March 17, 2013, he is my joy, right next to my grandchildren!! I don’t agree with the statement that the Teddies are harder to potty train… my Tripp camp home on St. Patrick’s day and was 100% housebroken by May (we used bells on the door, he has now decided that he likes to bring a ball and drop it in our lap, then we ask him if he needs to go out and he goes and rings his bells).They are high energy but he will play for hours while I am working from home. He is more social than any dog I have ever experienced, we travel with him frequently and never has he had an accident in a hotel or visiting friends. Tripp is 9 lbs but not tiny, his bone structure is small. His best friend is my best friend’s 110 lb Doberman. He doesn’t realize he is little. He is a jumper, big jumper. He is friendly with everyone he meets and loving beyond words! Tripp is a trip and a Blessing!!!
June 25, 2016, 2:40 pm
OMG I have had a Teddy Bear for 2 months now and this article is spot on. He is indeed the most lovable dog in the whole world.
August 27, 2016, 1:12 am
tisha colston
September 12, 2016, 1:51 pm
how much you feed a teddy bear dog
September 28, 2016, 10:16 am
Hello. I want a teddy so bad. I have a cavapoo now, how well do they play with other dogs? Also what is the normal adult weight and size? I appreciate all the info on teddy’s. I hope I can get one.
I loved the article, it was a good read. Is there a breeder in North Carolina?
January 28, 2018, 7:29 pm
I live inOrmond Beach. Do you have names of breeders near Daytona? And can you please tell me the cost of the teddy bear dog?
November 5, 2018, 2:55 pm
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October 9, 2016, 8:02 pm
I am looking for a teddy bear puppy. I live in Florida does anyone know of any breeder in the area ?
Thanks
November 10, 2016, 4:20 pm
umm thats my dog dude!! wtff
November 10, 2016, 5:06 pm
I am interested in a teddy bear puppy!di you have any available? Where are you ? I am in Laplace, la please what is your price for a female?
December 11, 2016, 1:23 am
Hi I’m looking for an teddy bear dog or teacup dog for my son he has several mental health issues he loves dogs they seem to calm him down he was diagnosed with ADHD OCD mood disorder Asperger’s autism. I know he will love to have an dog if you can help me find one. Thank you
December 3, 2017, 1:17 pm
I am interested in a teddy bear or a Maltese poodle preferably black and one doesn’t get over 7 pounds and a breeder in New Jersey
December 11, 2017, 5:18 pm
I am looking for a small breed that is lovable, non shedding and not a barker.
Is the Teddy bear the perfect baby for me.
December 12, 2017, 4:52 am
I just got a teddy bear dog like two weeks ago she’s 1 mon and 2 weeks old my nephew’s dog had pups and I bought one now I got her home with me I love her so much and she is so intelligent so smart and a quick Learner she already learned how to do her pee pee and poop on a poo poo pad and she’s eating hard food because she’s teething now her fangs are coming out and she decides to use me for her teething purposes I just speak to her and she looks at me and she listens and she’s I don’t know how to explain it so smart and so intelligent when I tell her something she does it she’s just amazing I couldn’t ask for a better puppy and breed been searching for her for 3 years I am a cancer survivor in remission it’s going on 3 years my Son tells me ma if you beat this cancer I will buy you a dog still waiting so I decided to get my own she can sometimes be a meanie to she starting to bark at her toys I even have a cat she’s 2 years old and they get along just fine in fact my cat protects her I guess because she still a baby I love my baby’s I love them both to death I call them my babies now that my kids are grown and gone
December 13, 2017, 8:48 pm
Where can u get one
January 2, 2018, 3:39 am
we have a schnau tzu, your article of the Teddy Bear was dead on to our Milly, but Milly was so easy to potty train, we live in MI, got her mid January and it was snowy and cold to, trained at 8 weeks, what a blessing that was, but, we’re thinking she needs a companion, maybe 2 would be easier than 1. or, if not I guess we just have two babies. We would like to try to get a Teddy Bear, can anybody help me find one in MI? We really would like one within 6-8 month’s for Milly. any suggestions would be appreciated. thank you!
February 14, 2018, 4:40 am
I’m a disabled elderly woman who had the sweetest Teddy Bear ever. I’m looking for another, she was stolen from my apartment when I was moving. I didn’t think I’d ever want another pet but I’m very lonely without her. I put her picture out everywhere and offered a reward…but nothing. I live in Michigan and I do live on a fixed income. Do you know of any reputable breeders in my area. Thank you. Your book has been very helpful! I’m so glad to know I’m not a bad potty trainer!
March 1, 2018, 6:02 am
Well love this blog and its all true so true!!! However, you seems to make this breed type seem so much needier than any other dog. Honestly, I have had one for 4 years and they are the smartest, most content, trainable dog ever. I have large breed dogs though that act way needier than she does so she is pretty content. We do treat her with a lot of love and care, I mean who wouldn’t with such sass, poise, and cutness, but I must say you really cant go wrong with this breed!!
March 1, 2018, 6:05 am
April 12, 2018, 2:35 am
Hi, I’m trying to find Shichon breakers in NJ. Can you supply contacts. Your map doesn’t work for me. Ty
April 16, 2018, 2:52 am
I am retired and have all the time and love for a teacup or tiny Teddy Bear puppy to be my companion.
I live in St Louis and want to know where nearest breeder is located.
I prefer a white dog. Interested also in Havanese, Cotón du Tulears, Bolognese puppy or young dog . Any information would be appreciated. I have a Vet that would give me excellent references to own a puppy.
April 18, 2018, 10:28 pm
What a great article
. I will let my dad read it. I didn’t even know about teddy bear dogs .. I have a one and didn’t know it. Wondered why he was so adorable.. Thank you
May 5, 2018, 6:29 pm
Everything you said about teddy bear pups is spot on. I got one in oct 2017 and he is by far the best and smartest pup
I have ever owned . I have had any puppies in my life and believe me best, smartest and cutest ever.
May 10, 2018, 3:39 am
How big do they get??
Weight??
May 26, 2018, 11:46 am
Guys I know a website where you could purchase puppies! You don’t even need to go around town searching for a pet store that doesn’t look… That great. :/
Go to Premier Pups (You can just type that and you’ll be able to find it)
June 9, 2018, 3:19 am
Thank you this really helped me my cutie patoutie
June 12, 2018, 2:09 pm
I just got my own Teddy bear his name is Baylee, so cute and the most effectionist puppy ever. Love my little guy so much
July 21, 2018, 12:41 am
Absolutely right on astticle! My teddy Sophie is wonderful, however, she has stranger issues. Wants to bite anyone who isn’t her family. Never ever had a dog like that before and don’t know what more to do? Any ideas as we are open to them? This article describes her perfectly! She is our security system and any noise she is ready to pounce! Also barks a lot!!! She loves antler bones and terrorizes all her stuffed toys but loves to play fetch with her ball. She has to sleep very very close to her people….my husband or I, and she takes the whole bed! Coat is high maintenance but wouldn’t trade her for the world!!!! She loves her buddies. Snowball, my daughters Bichion and mother’s Bichion, Casper!!!!
August 11, 2018, 11:22 pm
do these dogs have ear problems???
October 12, 2018, 9:27 pm
I would like to know if a Teddy Bear pup or dog sheds a lot. Also, are there small Teddy Bears that get no more than 12 to 15 pounds. I have had shih zues and loved them so much. I am not 80 and in great health and I thought a small pup would keep me walking and exercising, and I could love one to pieces. It does get lonely here even though I keep busy. Whatever you think I would appreciate knowing.
December 1, 2019, 7:06 pm
They do not shed at all. They are hypoallergenic
November 7, 2018, 3:11 am
I have had My teddy bear since 2009, got him at 8 weeks old and he was potty trained in less Tham two months, he has had a accident only when he gets very nervous and scared like the vaccum or I go outside for more than 10 minutes without him. Other than that they are a PERFECT DOG, I would like to know how long do they usually live and what health problems do then=y end up with. Me 12 year old shit-zu has had seizures since he was 5 and is very sickly now and will have to put down soon. My teddy is good at 9 years old but wonder what his problems will be and when. I love both these breeds , very different but get along great together. Everything in the article is right, and they are definitely different than any other breed, so Loving! Wish I could have 3 of them but I wouldn’t be able to give the attention they all would need. Very smart dogs and understand every word you say.
March 12, 2019, 1:14 am
Brilliant. Filled with lots of helpful tips and tricks for your furry little friends. He helped me potty train my little Truffles.
June 7, 2019, 2:26 pm
What is there life span? How much will they weigh fully grown??
December 1, 2019, 7:05 pm
Up to 15 yrs. weigh is between 8-15 lbs. ours is a year old & is 9 lbs. such a sweet dog. They are hypoallergenic & do not shed at all. My mom is VERY allergic to pet dander & has never had issues around Marley. She is such a sweet dog. Ours has been very hard to potty train but I heard that’s not unusual for small dog breeds. Shichons are so sweet. They love to be right next to you and curl up on your lap or by your feet. We have 3 kids & she is very tolerant. Our 5 yr old puts her in her doll stroller all over the house. Ha.
September 2, 2019, 5:10 pm
I am possibly interested in buying a female Teddy Bear puppy. My 14.5 year old female bichon is scheduled to be “put down” sometime this week. I cannot fathom not having a dog in my home.
September 11, 2019, 6:28 pm
We are looking for an older, house-trained dog.
Any suggestions?
September 20, 2019, 5:57 pm
I am interested in female Mini Teddy Bear puppy. I live in CA, but have access to Nevada, Arizona and TN.
Thank you,
October 13, 2019, 12:06 pm
Glad I saw this I was beginning to think my teddy had a problem so vocal so fast and needy only 3 months old. Love her very much worried all the time she would get hurt so tiny.
January 26, 2020, 7:07 am
Do not try to have relations while your Teddy Bear Dog is free. They WILL join you.
Other than that, our Teddy Bear is the coolest, most loving little fucker we’ve ever had.
February 22, 2020, 3:24 pm
Our little man is the sweetest, most loyal dog we have ever had. And we have had several breeds. He loves us so much and we really do love him . The article says they are difficult to train but our Bear learned within a week or so,to ring the rope bell to go outside . He is very intelligent. Needy? Yes. But, hey so worth it. I would never have any other breed .
April 6, 2020, 11:40 pm
We have a teddy bear, he is now 10 years old. He was the easiest dog we have ever trained. He came to us at about 10 weeks. By 12 weeks he was potty trained. He taught himself to walk at your right heel and stops when you do. He does not bark, well 3 times in 10 years. He communicates by a low whine or grumble. He lets us know when it’s time to potty, eAt and go to bed. He is a typical male dog if there’s a mud puddle it need a good stomping. And as said, he love everyone.
June 5, 2020, 7:38 pm
I love my Teddy best investment I ever got was a ballI could sit on the couch and watch TV and all I have to do is throw it in should go catch it that was our day we go out in the yard and throw it in she go get it that was our day I love her to death she sleeps under the covers it only took me about two months to potty train her geez best little thing I could ever want she weighs 13 pounds and I couldn’t ask for anything any better so my advice is get a ball
June 8, 2020, 2:35 pm
My friend has a Teddy Bear, but I need a hypoallergenic NO-shedding puppy. Are they? The long potty training may be a problem. What are their long-term health issues?
Thanks! Just lost two dogs. Chow and rescue lab mix. Used to big dogs, but can’t take all the shedding anymore.
July 1, 2020, 4:59 pm
Where are breeders for Teddy Bear dogs in central Florida? I want to see the mother and father.
July 5, 2020, 1:47 am
Your website is awesome & I love your writing style! We’re thinking of adding a Teddy to our family. My husband’s only stipulations are to have a hypoallergenic dog that doesn’t drool much. In your experience, do Teddys meet these two criteria?
Thank you in advance for your help,
July 11, 2021, 2:03 am
Hi Tina, I just read your comment to David regarding Teddy Bear 🧸 puppies. I realize you wrote this a year ago and oh I sure hope you found a healthy and loving baby that does not drool or shed, because Teddys just don’t. One reason I’m reaching out is to say hi to hopefully a Teddy Bear momma and next is to ask if you found a great breeder. If you did maybe you could share the info if it’s not on the West Coast since I’m in the Southeast.
Hope to hear from you~
July 28, 2020, 3:09 pm
January 10, 2021, 2:20 pm
Did you ever find a teddy bear puppy in this area? I live in Navarre.
August 16, 2020, 6:04 pm
Wish to meet a good breeder. Our 14 year old bichon (female) Needs companionship and so does her retired parents.
November 12, 2020, 12:34 am
Im looking to buy this puppy for my sister for Christmas.are their a liter ready?.this will be a big surprise for her.she have been looking for one for a very long time…help plz!!!!
November 30, 2020, 5:06 pm
Anybody know of a place for Malshi or Shichon breeders in New York or around that area?
January 31, 2021, 4:14 am
I got one hes a blast
January 31, 2021, 3:45 pm
Can work eight hours a day and have a teddy bear
February 19, 2021, 7:55 pm
What is the average price? Can they b trained before we could bring it home?
JoAnn Dill
March 25, 2021, 2:45 am
Please tell me where I can buy a female teddy bear puppy. I live alone but have two grandchildren ages 17 and 19. This would mean so much to me.
March 31, 2021, 3:53 pm
April 6, 2021, 6:45 pm
How much will he cost. I would like to purchase a real puppy
July 3, 2021, 2:06 pm
Hi am looking for a female puppy teddy bear puppy am in North East Indiana thanks please get ahold of me asap thanks
July 23, 2021, 10:41 pm
I couldn’t have written this article better myself if I tried—all of these things are so true and my 13 year old teddy. He is without a doubt the highlight of my life.
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NEW YORK (Reuters) -The International Olympic Committee (IOC) has acted irresponsibly in regard to missing Chinese tennis player Peng Shuai, the Sport & Rights Alliance said on Wednesday.
The three-times Olympian and former doubles world number one has been the subject of international concern after she posted a message on social media last month alleging that China's former Vice-Premier Zhang Gaoli had sexually assaulted her.
IOC President Thomas Bach said Peng was safe and well after a 30-minute phone call with her on Nov. 21, after Western governments and the global tennis community expressed concern for her wellbeing. The 35-year-old had not been seen for nearly three weeks since making her allegations.
"The behavior of the IOC in relation to Peng Shuai's sexual assault allegations and disappearance has been irresponsible and shows just how hollow its understanding of human rights really is," Andrea Florence, acting director of the Sport & Rights Alliance, said in a statement.
"The IOC's eagerness to ignore the voice of an Olympian who may be in danger and to support claims of state-sponsored media in China shows the urgent and critical need for an IOC human rights strategy."
The Sport & Rights Alliance, comprised of non-governmental organisations and trade unions, aims to promote human rights in sport.
It said the IOC must put athletes' needs first with the 2022 Beijing Winter Games due to start in just over two months, and called upon it to use its influence to push China to investigate Peng's claims in an "independent and transparent" manner.
"The main purpose of the call was to enquire about the well-being and safety of Peng Shuai. In the 30-minute conversation, she was very clear in confirming that she is safe and well," the IOC said in a statement.
"Safeguarding the well-being of athletes is paramount to the IOC and the Olympic Movement. We have agreed to stay in touch, and she agreed to meet in Beijing in January."
The IOC added that Peng has "asked that her privacy be respected in all aspects".
The Human Rights Watch said last week that the IOC was more interested in keeping the Games on track than it was about athletes' welfare.
Senior IOC member Dick Pound responded on Tuesday, telling Reuters the criticism was "complete nonsense".
"What seemed to change after that (call) was all of the wannabes that were unable to get in contact with her sort of said 'well the IOC botched it' and 'this was all organised by the Chinese' and so on," Pound said.
The Beijing Olympics are scheduled to run from Feb. 4-20.
(Reporting by Amy Tennery in New York, editing by Ed Osmond)
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Walking into the Scholastic Book Fair as a kid made me tingle with anticipation. All those Apple paperbacks lined up just so, each of them a whole little world contained in its pages. And then there were the scented erasers, which I collected like trading cards but refused to use. Ever. At 9 years old,... Continue Reading →
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Job interviews are one of the most hard things we go through. Its subsequent to a driving test; youre in the drivers seat and the recruiter is ready to pass or fail you. The difference in the midst of a driving test and an interview is that its hard to know for sure what the recruiter is going to be looking for. It can afterward be difficult to know how to prepare for the moment your sitting across from your interviewer. The in imitation of are some tips for coming out on the winning side of the interview, and impressing the recruiter along the way.
Prepare for the difficult questions you will be asked. reach not put your faith in your trusty wit to come happening in the same way as bright upon the spot answers, it probably wont happen. see into what types of questions are typically asked in interviews, and plot answers ahead of time. Practice reciting the answers as well, you will mood more confident subsequent to them. make sure to have stories of your achievements that will exploit the recruiter qualities their company looks for. substitute excellent resource for your arsenal would be to research the company and its values. You can thread your knowledge of the company into your answers.
The most important aspect of the interview is the first impression. So, create positive that you are dressed to impress, in imitation of a countenance that shines. The once is an imperative: you must scheme to be their early. bump likes to strike us like we are in a rush, so pay for yourself plenty amount of time.
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(CNSNews.com) - Because the Mueller team was investigating the President of the United States, this was not a "typical" obstruction of justice case, the report says.
The report says some of Trump's actions, such as firing the FBI director, "facially" fell within his authority as president.
"At the same time," the report states, "the President's position as the head of the Executive Branch provided him with unique and powerful means of influencing official proceedings, subordinate officers, and potential witnesses -- all of which is relevant to a potential obstruction-of-justice analysis."
However, the report makes it clear that Trump was unsuccessful in getting his subordinates to carry out his will.
"The President's efforts to influence the investigation were mostly unsuccessful, but that is largely because the persons who surrounded the President declined to carry out orders or accede to his requests," the report said.
For example, the report notes that then-FBI Director James Comey did not end the investigation into Trump's former National Security Adviser Michael Flynn; Attorney General Jeff Sessions refused Trump's request to "unrecuse" himself; White House Counsel Don McGahn twice refused President Trump's request that McGahn call Rod Rosenstein and tell him to fire Robert Mueller (Trump disputes this; he said he never used the word "fire"); and Trump's former adviser Cory Lewandowski never followed through on Trump's request to direct Attorney General Sessions to publicly announce that the Mueller investigation was "very unfair" to Trump.
The Special Counsel says this investigation was atypical for other reasons as well: There was no underlying crime of collusion or conspiracy; and the president's thoughts and feelings often were on full public display.
"Unlike cases in which a subject engages in obstruction of justice to cover up a crime, the evidence we obtained did not establish that the President was involved in an underlying crime related to Russian election interference," the report said. "Although the obstruction statutes do not require proof of such a crime, the absence of that evidence affects the analysis of the President's intent and requires consideration of other possible motives for his conduct."
The report also points to the president's many tweets and public comments:
"[M]any of the President's acts directed at witnesses, including discouragement of cooperation with the government and suggestions of possible future pardons, took place in public view. That circumstance is unusual, but no principle of law excludes public acts from the reach of the obstruction laws. If the likely effect of public acts is to influence witnesses or alter their testimony, the harm to the justice system's integrity is the same."
The Mueller report said although the team investigated a series of "discrete" actions, "inferences...can be drawn about his intent" from "the overall pattern of the President's conduct towards the investigations."
"In particular, the actions we investigated can be divided into two phases, reflecting a possible shift in the President's motives, the report said:
The first phase covered the period from the President's first interactions with Comey through the President's firing of Comey. During that time, the President had been repeatedly told he was not personally under investigation.
Soon after the firing of Comey and the appointment of the Special Counsel, however, the President became aware that his own conduct was being investigated in an obstruction-of-justice inquiry. At that point, the President engaged in a second phase of conduct, involving public attacks on the investigation, non-public efforts to control it, and efforts in both public and private to encourage witnesses not to cooperate with the investigation.
Judgments about the nature of the President's motives during each phase would be informed by the totality of the evidence.
However, the report concludes:
Because we determined not to make a traditional prosecutorial judgment, we did not draw ultimate conclusions about the President's conduct. The evidence we obtained about the President's actions and intent presents difficult issues that would need to be resolved if we were making a traditional prosecutorial judgment. At the same time, if we had confidence after a thorough investigation of the facts that the President clearly did not commit obstruction of justice, we would so state. Based on the facts and the applicable legal standards, we are unable to reach that judgment. Accordingly, while this report does not conclude that the President committed a crime, it also does not exonerate him.
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Wayne’s parents are friends with a woman who’s son and his family own the Coles Bay Caravan Park (that was a mouthful) so we had heard a little about the place beforehand. Picturesque is an understatement. We had beautiful weather for the 2 nights we were there and Tasmania yet again stunned us with it’s beauty.
Wineglass Bay is the main event of this place and would you believe we didn’t get to see it ? We went to a few lookouts, the Lighthouse lookout being one of them and it was gorgeous, we could see the tip of Wineglass Bay and thought that we’d get to drive there to see it in it’s glory. The fact is, it’s a 2 hour walk (or longer) that isn’t pram friendly and we don’t have a backpack for Frankie. Sarah doesn’t like walking for long lengths of time, and depending on the state of my foot (story for another time, yet a long boring one for those that know me well) determines how long I can walk for too. Given all that, I thought Wayne would be able to do it anyway, but we ran out of time ! Seems so strange writing this, because it’s unbelievable and Wayne didn’t want me to write it, but it’s the truth and our family blog.
We DID however see so many beautiful beaches, the coastline is incredible, the rock formations so diverse in colour, we drove to little towns again and saw different landscapes & had really nice hot chips ! The first night we were there Wayne took the girls to a Penguin tour at Bicheno which was about 45 mins away. The tour didn’t start until 9pm and as per usual no pram allowed as the track is dark and bumpy. Frankie is wide awake in dreamland at that time anyway, so I was happy to stay back while Wayne spent some time with the big girls. The penguin tour (so I was told) was brilliant. Penguins are very routine based and each night when they come out of the water they walk in one straight line until they get to their little igloo huts, and if the tour guides are lucky they place you in the exact spot where the penguins walk. The penguin’s don’t break formation so they will literally walk over your feet.. The girls were pretty excited for this to happen, however not tonight ! They got pretty close though, just not that close. One little Penguin brushed past Lulu’s leg and she was happy with that. They were fairy penguins (smallest in the world) and there were many of them. Unfortunately no camera’s allowed at all, so don’t have any pictures to show, just the memories of the girls. I hope they don’t forget it. It was a late night, home after 11pm and Sarah was basically sleep walking through the caravan door when they got home !
Tasmania is flying by at this point, we’ve been out and about almost every single day and we’re all getting a little exhausted. We found a caravan park in a town called Hadspen which is about a 10 min drive from Launceston. We set up and then quickly went back out to do a short river cruise along the Cataract Gorge. The cruise was perfect for us as it was extremely family friendly and it was a quick 50 mins. Frankie is good when we only have to contain her for short periods of time ! The start of the cruise was pretty nice, we had a nice skipper who was telling us a little history about Launceston and Frankie was running around the boat constantly, not even taking time to stop once she threw up ! About half way through the tour he stopped the petrol motor and we continued cruising just using the electric motor as it was quieter when entering the gorge itself. C’mon Tasmania ! Is there nothing about you that’s ugly ? Cataract Gorge was simply stunning. We had a beautiful day, it was almost 6pm by this stage and the sun was warm, the water looked amazing. I’m quickly running out of adjectives to describe the beauty of a rock basically, but it’s just so bloody beautiful.
The next day, Olivia woke up feeling very excited. When we were still in Perth planning our trip, Olivia came across a tour called HollyBank Treetop Adventures. She had been waiting to do this for months and the day was here ! Originally it was myself that was going with her as Wayne is scared of heights, but due to (My Left Foot) I wasn’t in the best place and Wayne agreed to do it. They had so much fun.. I’ll let Wayne explain now though as I wasn’t there !..(meanwhile back at the van… Sarah, Frankie and I did some washing, we had a picnic, played some craft and watched Tinkerbell).
Hollybank – Wayne’s words – I made the booking the day before and was told that Olivia must be at least 35kg’s to ride alone, and if not, she could ride tandem with me providing our combined weight did not exceed 135kgs. She was relentless, “We need to weigh ourselves, I need to know”. We eventually found a pharmacy with reliable scales, she was to light to ride alone and thankfully I was light enough……..just… for us to ride tandem. She even put me on rations that night to ensure we could ride tandem the next morning.
Olivia and I set out early for our morning ride amongst the tall Tasmanian timbers. She was so excited, she must have told me half a dozen times her stomach was filled with knots and she didnt know how she was going to get through the day…but she really wanted to do this with me. So we get to Hollybank and we are early, this is not good, Im thinking I need coffee and Olivia cant sit still, after a long walk around the grounds, two times through the looped promotion video and a discussion with the assistant as to why the coffee machine wasnt working, the guide calls the group in, about a dozen in all. Olivia is the only child and we are the only tandem.
Before we know we are in harnesses linked together and ready to go. We do a small test platform and set out for the trees. Its a fair walk and we arrive at a circular platform which is clamped to a tree trunk. A couple of cables run to another circular platform into the trees, we had six platforms to travel. It starts of easy we are about 15 metres up and travel about 20 metres to the next platform. So I sit back in my harness, Olivia sits on my lap and away we go. Its awesome, I just wanted to keep going. On the second stage we are suspended mid way for a photo, Olivia is not sure until I tickle her, good photo. Each stage gets longer until we get to the fifth stage, this is a 400 metre run, along and above a creek, at the highest point we are 50 metres up and flying along at about 80km/hr, very cool. The worse thing was the walk back to the shop, but an awesome activity………
Also learnt that theres no such thing as Tasmanian Oak, originally a collection of eucalypts were branded shipped back to the mother country for sale, but it didn’t move. So as a marketing spin they re-branded the timber Tasmania Oak picking up on the English Oak thing and they couldnt keep up with the demand. I guess it just stuck.
Let’s start with the swiss village. I’ve never been to Switzerland, but I hope to one day. The village in Tasmania was disappointing and basically a waste of time. There you go , Tasmania does have 1 bad tourist attraction. I can’t even explain it to be honest, some shops were closed, the ones that were open had limited stock, the coffee was terrible.. however the bakery did make the best sausage rolls we’ve ever tasted. The girls played a quick came of mini golf in the rain and then we left and headed to Beaconsfield.
Beaconsfield seems to be a large town and only really knowing about it from all the TV footage after the mine collapse, it does feel surreal to be standing there and seeing where this actually happened. I remember when Brant & Todd came up from the mine and ‘clocked out’ with their time cards, and we were now standing there looking at that actual spot. Pretty incredible. The museum is good, and full of blokey mine stuff which Wayne loved. The girls had a little activity sheet that the staff had given them so that gave them something to do while wandering around. Frankie wanted to walk up the ramp and down the ramp, up the ramp and down the ramp. We spent over an hour walking around and by this time I think we were all a little tired. We decided to give the Platypus tour a miss as we were told we had missed the guided tour and it’s not certain that we would actually see a Platypus, so we headed back to the caravan park.
Launceston was also where we had our windscreen replaced and that took half a day! Had to be done though… Launceston and the Tamar Valley was truly beautiful and I can see why Rebecca Gibney lived there!
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February 19, 2013 at 12:16 pm ∞
haha Love that Liv put Wayne on ‘rations’ the night before. Glad they had so much fun. Love all the photos of my nieces, but how cute is that picture of Frankie sleeping on you? AND I remember when you lived in Canberra and we were watched the interview on 60minutes of Brant and Todd.
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Uggs have been a staple in everyone’s wardrobe for a number of years now, and never has this been so prominent than during our current spout of horrible weather, where every woman, child, baby, sometimes men and even dog has been seen wearing a pair. (Uggs for pets don’t officially exist, but if you happen to see ‘P’Uggs‘, Uggs for dogs on the shelves in the near future, you heard it here first).
But what is the secret to the Ugg success? How have a boot, originally made popular in the ’60’s by pro surfers in the southern hemisphere to keep their toes warm after a winter session, become such a trademark success? Ugg’s aren’t even very practical, especially not when wet from rain or sleet, when they end up looking like a soggy puppies. They are also highly priced and definitely not animal friendly as they are made directly from sheepskin. Aesthetically, they aren’t exactly very glam or flattering, and yes they may be comfortable and practical but so are Crocs apparently, and lets hope last summer is the last time we ever see those ghastly creatures.
The 00’s certainly were the decade when the world of celebrity set the standard for fashion and new styles were decided from what came straight off the backs, or feet of whoever was in the public eye. Maybe the success of Uggs was down to their celebrity endorsement when everyone from SJP, Kate Hudson and Pamela Anderson was seen wearing them in the early noughties. Although Pammy soon renounced any affiliation to the boots when she found out what they were made of. Well ‘duh‘ Pamela, maybe she just sticks to the rip-offs from down the market now.
Despite numerous recent articles deeming the Ugg one of the great fashion disasters/fads of the last decade, on the contrary it seems as though they have actually been à la mode for a sufficient amount of time now to be crowned of the bigger success’ of recent times. So much so in fact that Ugg Australia have recently announced that they will join the long list of companies to collaborate with Tamara Mellon’s Jimmy Choo. Quite a surprisingly collaboration really, and it will definitely be interesting to see the product range, short furry heels? Heely Ugg boots? Appartently there will be 5 different styles in this range and prices will start at a predictable £495. This range will be available in all department stores and directly from Ugg Australia themselves.
Clearly with fashion conscious marketing moves such as this, the Ugg is here to stay for the forseeable future as we tread comfortably through the snow into 2010.
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The ancient Creed established at the Councils of Nicaea (325 A.D) and Constantinople (381 A.D.), known as the Nicene Creed, is the plumb line for the true, orthodox faith. It summarizes and preserves the 2,000-year-old core beliefs of Christianity, especially regarding the nature of Christ, the Trinity and the Church.
Believers Eastern Church acknowledges the Nicene Creed as the official statement of faith for our church. It is a regular part of our worship services.
We believe in one God,
maker of heaven and earth,
and of all things visible and invisible.
And in one Lord Jesus Christ,
the only begotten Son of God,
begotten of the Father before all worlds;
God of God, Light of Light,
very God of very God;
being of one substance with the Father,
by whom all things were made.
Who, for us men and for our salvation,
came down from heaven,
and was incarnate by the Holy Spirit
and was made man;
and was crucified also for us under Pontius Pilate.
He suffered and died and was buried;
and the third day He rose again,
according to the Scriptures,
and ascended into heaven,
and sits at the right hand of the Father;
and He shall come again, with glory,
to judge the living and the dead;
whose Kingdom shall have no end.
And we believe in the Holy Spirit,
the Lord and Giver of Life;
who proceeds from the Father;
who with the Father and the Son together
is worshiped and glorified;
who spoke by the prophets.
And we believe in one, holy, catholic and apostolic church.
We acknowledge one baptism for the remission of sins;
and we look for the resurrection of the dead
and the life of the world to come.
This resource from Believers Eastern Church helps explain the depths of the Nicene Creed, its history and theology in an accessible language which will make this timeless text relevant.
The faith of Believers Eastern Church is rooted in the Apostle’s doctrine and holy traditions of the ancient Church, as revealed in the 66 books of the Holy Bible, the inerrant and infallible Word of God. We are evangelical in nature and believe that the Church universal has only one faith, continued unbroken through the teachings of the ancient Church Fathers, as preserved in the Nicene and Apostle’s Creeds and affirmed by the seven Ecumenical Church Councils, especially Nicaea, Constantinople and Ephesus.
Adhering to the biblical faith of the ancient Church is orthodoxy; therefore, we do not claim any unique theology or worship practice but hold fast to that which has been the common, Scripturally-based faith from the beginning. However, each generation needs to practice and teach this orthodox faith in a way that is understood and applicable by its culture and era.
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.”
To be a Christian means to follow Jesus Christ as revealed in the Holy Bible. Christians believe Jesus is God and have put their faith in His sacrificial death on the cross for our salvation. We actively follow Him as our Lord and Saviour. We believe in the Trinitarian worship as revealed in the Scriptures: the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit.
To be a Christian also means to be part of the Holy Church. We then live out our faith as members of the Church rather than as individuals separate from each other. We also look forward to the time when Christ returns for His Bride, the Church.
As a natural response to God’s love and forgiveness of our sins, worshiping and obeying God becomes the center of a Christian’s life. Jesus’ primary commandment was to love God and people. Learning to love as Jesus intended us to and doing so are the ongoing pursuits of a Christian’s life. This includes living a life sharing Christ’s love with others and keeping ourselves free from sin.
Believers Eastern Church is profoundly committed to the evangelical faith that brings transformation into the image of Christ (2 Cor. 3:18) and partakes of the divine nature according to 2 Peter 1:4. This spiritual journey of theosis is best accomplished through embracing the sacramental life and worship where God alone is the audience. The more we gaze into His face in worship, the more we become like Him.
Love and Mission
“Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. And you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ ”
True faith is more than a set of doctrines or a theological framework, but a life lived with the Triune God at its center. Love for God is demonstrated first and foremost by a life of worship, both as individuals and as members of the Body of Christ.
However, love of God results in love for others. This love encompasses those within the Church and those without. We love our brothers and sisters as Jesus would and we lay down our lives for those who do not yet know Him as Jesus did. This includes those in our surrounding areas as well as the utter most parts of the world.
Services and Sacraments
The center of “church life” for every parish and believer is Sunday worship. Here we gather for the express purpose of worshipping God through the ministry of the Word and through Holy Communion. Holy Communion has been the central focus of worship since the Apostles and remains so for Believers Eastern Church.
Prayer meetings and special services are also a regular part of Believers Eastern Church life.
We also believe and practice the sacraments as revealed in the Bible with Holy Communion as the most important. God ordained in his Word specific practices that the early Church referred to as ‘means of grace.’
Participating in the services and sacraments of the church are important because as we worship God according to the pattern that He gave us, He interacts with us and transforms us into the image of His Son. This is known as spiritual formation.
Liturgical Year
Christmas and Easter are only two days of what is known as the Christian or Liturgical Calendar, which Believers Eastern Church follows and has been practiced since the early days of the Church.
The events of the Liturgical Year center on the life of Christ and help us orient our time and seasons around Christ Himself. Every Sunday is a day set aside for us to remember what Christ did for us through His death and resurrection and form the basic building block for the liturgical year.
Beginning in with the season of Advent, we prepare our hearts for Christ coming, which we celebrate at Christmas, followed by Epiphany, the Great Lent, Holy Week, Easter, Pentecost and the Ordinary Season.
We also follow the Revised Common Lectionary which arranges daily reading of Scripture according to the events in the liturgical calendar. Following the daily readings will enable you to read through most of the Bible in a year and the Sunday readings for worship services will do so in three years.
Personal, Family and Corporate
Living a holy life dedicated to worshipping and walking with God is a necessary part of every believer’s life. As we make God more and more the center of our life and allow His will to become our will, we experience what the Church Fathers referred to as theosis, Christ’s incarnate life being lived in and through us.
Our books, Guiding Principles of Believers Eastern Church and Theosis will explain how to walk with and experience Jesus Christ on a daily basis.
Part of living a holy life includes living with Christ as the center of our homes. The practice of family spiritual disciplines and the ‘family altar,’ a regular daily time dedicated to worship and prayer are foundational for having a Christ-centered home.
Also, it is impossible to walk with God and reject His Holy Church, which He gave His life for. Learning to walk with and worship with other believers as Christ’s Body is essential for knowing Christ.
Being ordained for ministry within Believers Eastern Church is reserved for members of the Church. BEC has two ordinations to the priesthood; the first is being ordained as a Deacon Father and the second as a Priest.
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These girls are known as the Miyagami Academy Maximum Authority-Wielding Very best Student Council or otherwise identified as Greatest Student Council. They make up an organization that is element student council, part ninja attack squad, and portion "it" girl crowd.Flipside, the anime does have to make hard choices about the protagonist and his prospective relationships. In the game, you select his name (or hers if you play the PSP edition), his dialogue, and whom to date. What is the anime to do? Need to it pick one girl and make that the official pairing, igniting a waifu war for the decade? A harem, on the other end, won't fit the tone. Particular person three the anime went with no relationships, abstaining from any difficult choices. The protagonist has no character and the relationships are surface deep. - Comments: 0
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So controlling dosing is some thing that's been problematic with cannabis in an edible format, which is why you never see it in the legal regime because that part hasn't been totally figured out by a lot of people.Meadow delivers leading-high quality health-related #cannabis to patients in significantly less than 1 hour all over California. Arizona's Medical Marijuana law makes it possible for registered individuals to grow up to twelve cannabis plants in an enclosed locked facility, if they live further than 25 miles from a state-licensed Healthcare Marijuana dispensary. Does that mean the Arizona State government will send out personal representatives to your home to show you, step by step, how to grow your health-related marijuana plants effectively? Well, of course, that's precisely what that implies - and the develop master from the state residence will be riding his unicorn up to your door, so be positive to have lots of white chocolate macadamia nut cookies on hand because you know how these unicorns are - they will consume as several of those cookies as they can get their little …hooves on. - Comments: 0
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When consumers squeeze the sides near the best of the vial, the container opens.A patient access pathway (PDF 153KB) for medicinal cannabis has been created following consultation with stakeholders, which includes health-related specialists, health practitioner organisations, buyers and overall health consumer groups, and business.Under the pathway, patients in South Australia can be supplied medicinal cannabis items prescribed by their healthcare specialist and dispensed by a pharmacist.According to the historical record , the use of cannabis and hemp as a medicine dates back thousands of years, as evident in several ancient manuscripts, including the bible, Greek, Arabic and Chinese writing among numerous other individuals. The earliest archaeological proof of hemp cultivation dates to 10-12 thousand years B.P. in Taiwan 3. In 2016, a pouch of cannabis in Central Asia was recovered and carbon dated to about 2700 B.P. and laboratory evaluation confirmed the presence of psychoactive THC, and other cannabinoids now recognized for their health-related efficacy four.Some people are not very good candidates for this type of treatment. Your practitioner ought to be able to tell you if this is correct for you. As with any medication, pregnant females must seek the advice of a doctor prior to use and those with schizophrenia must use cannabis only below the supervision of a psychiatrist.Seek the advice of the advice of your physician if you are a long-term user of medical cannabis and intend to cease employing it, or if you are concerned about dependence on or addiction to cannabis. Your physician can help you handle any withdrawal effects that you may possibly encounter. 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Medicinal marijuana will turn into accessible on prescription within the coming weeks after Property Workplace Secretary Sajid Javid agreed to loosen up drug laws. 17. Hall W. What has study over the past two decades revealed about the adverse overall health effects of recreational cannabis use? Addiction. 2015110(1):19-35. Cannabis researcher Chris Bennett wrote in an write-up in the US drugs magazine High Times: 'The ancient anointed ones had been actually drenched in this potent mixture.You can book a consultation with a medical cannabis clinic. These clinics employ knowledgeable healthcare staff to support you design the proper therapy program for you. They can also direct your selection of different strains and even assist you adjust doses. They may also be a licensed producer and in a position to fulfill your authorization.The Yellow Springs facility will include 25,000 square feet of increasing space plus 25,000 square feet of offices, harvesting and packaging rooms, according to Bachtell, who also has marijuana expanding and retail operations in Illinois and Pennsylvania.Individuals save a lot of funds with a Recommendation for Cannabis because they are exempt from a generous portion of the new cannabis taxes. Under the new laws powerful in 2018, California taxes cannabis flower and concentrates heavily, at both the state and municipal levels. General tax rates vary, usually from 25% to 45%, depending on the jurisdiction. The state tags on 15% in excise and cultivation tax, then there is sales tax on prime, and each and every municipality may add on however another 10% to 20% for good measure. At the end of the day, medical marijuana card holders will save hundreds, if not a handful of thousand dollars per year on taxes alone.This is the biggest obstacle to investing in cannabis. Even even though marijuana is permissible in 29 US states for either medical or recreational use, the federal government still views it as a Schedule I substance. To place this into context, the category is reserved for drugs that have no accepted medical use. - Comments: 0
Nutrition Farming® is the future of sustainable medicinal cannabis production. Research into the cognitive impairment brought on by cannabis use and its effects on safety has shown a range of results. A 2013 study concluded that marijuana use has a adverse effect on understanding memory, consideration, reasoning, and concentration. In a flight simulator study, pilots showed impaired abilities at 1, 4, and even 24 hours soon after marijuana consumption. And a 2016 meta-evaluation of 21 research in 13 countries, which incorporated benefits from more than 200,000 participants, located that marijuana use (either self-reported or located in blood, urine, or saliva tests) was connected with at 20 to 30 percent greater risk of a motor automobile crash. Opioids, which often lead to addicts experimenting with illegal substances such as heroin, have triggered much more deaths by accidental overdose than any other drug in US history, top to a national public overall health emergency becoming declared in October final year.It has considerably higher pay focus to the healthcare regions of bud and the way that it has the capability to gain weblink your illness rather than where you're ready to buy it. The usage of all cannabis to get a drug originated tens of thousands of years ago In the beginning, it is going to be enjoyable, but after the effects are finished, slumber may possibly possibly be difficult.Regardless of whether you are preparing to get a medical card, wait for recreational weed, or just watch from the sidelines here are a handful of answers to these, ahem, burning concerns. Miss Paltrow joins a expanding wave of celebrities cashing in on the new relaxed cannabis laws.We use the newest technologies to make superior California Healthcare Marijuana ID Cards. There are a lot of simple and homespun remedies at your fingertips for freshening up some sad, brittle pot. First, go grab yourself some tupperware — if you have the glass kind like Pyrex makes , even much better. Pop your parched cannabis in there. From here you have numerous alternatives. You can lightly wet a Q-tip or a cotton ball and spot it in with the herb. After you seal it, the moisture from the cotton will get absorbed by the cannabis. Make confident that the cotton isn't touching your cannabis, even though, as you want it rehydrated, not wet. However, with this strategy you have to be cautious about over-moistening the marijuana, since as well considerably wetness can make it moldy As long as you check in on it each day, you need to be capable to get it back to a good, lush green in no time.Medicinal cannabis is at present legal in the majority of states in the US, Canada, Uruguay, the Netherlands and Australia amongst other people. Nabilone, a synthetic cannabis-kind drug marketed in the UK as Cesamet, is a hospital-only therapy for nausea and vomiting brought on by chemotherapy — and is a final-resort alternative.However, the funds suffered a sharp pullback of about 6 per cent and 9 per cent respectively on 4 January following comments from US Lawyer General Jeff Sessions that he could rollback on measures beneath the ‘Cole Memo,' which loosened federal rules on health-related or recreational use of marijuana.Nutrition Farming® is the future of sustainable medicinal cannabis production. If you treasured this article and you also would like to obtain more info concerning visit our website nicely visit our website the page. Keywords and phrases ought to focus on your nearby location to far better target search engine customers. For instance, writing a post titled ‘Why you ought to pay a visit our website to a healthcare marijuana dispensary in Ft. Lauderdale' is a lot more helpful than ‘Why you ought to go to a medical marijuana dispensary'.There are numerous ways to start off a conversation with your medical professional If you feel awkward bringing up the subject of medical you suffer from a chronic medical situation and have not located adequate relief from pain and other symptoms utilizing classic medicines, you may possibly be pondering about trying health-related cannabis (also commonly referred to as medical marijuana) as component of your therapy technique.Get California Healthcare Marijuana Card On the web. Final year, the All-Celebration Parliamentary Group for Drug Policy Reform (APPG) estimated as many as 30,000 people in the UK use cannabis for medicinal motives each day. At The Healing Clinic, we provide state compliant services and compassionate healthcare care by physicians who think in the rewards of cannabis and are satisfied to help patients who qualify and could seriously benefit from the program.If your situation qualifies you to use health-related cannabis in visit our website your state and you don't have any contraindications that make usage risky, but your principal care doctor is not comfy making a cannabis recommendation, ask him or her for a referral to one more clinician. Medical cannabis practitioners can also be tracked down on the web via sources such as the Medicinal Marijuana Association.Significantly of the focus in preventing lung cancer has been on cigarette smoking, but inhaling any sort of smoke, which includes marijuana, can enhance the threat of this painful and deadly disease. Marijuana can be taken orally, for instance, by getting cooked into brownies and cookies, and this may possibly be a better option than inhaling smoke. Take care that any sweet treats containing marijuana are not inside reach of youngsters or any individual else who might eat them by mistake be aware that marijuana effects are typically stronger and longer lasting when it is eaten than when it is smoked. - Comments: 0
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The MMIP (Medical Marijuana Identification Program), or MMICP (Health-related Marijuana Identification Card Plan) (also referred to as) are administered by county health departments 11. Be reminded that the program calls for you to preserve your card on you at all instances although in possession of cannabis for healthcare use. Although many strategies are accessible for consuming health-related cannabis, smoking continues to rank amongst the most popular. In a report last September it named on simply click the following website page Government to end the criminalisation of these who utilised the drug as medication and mentioned its remedy in UK law as ‘a hazardous drug with no medicinal worth is irrational and incoherent'. We use the newest technologies to create superior California Healthcare Marijuana ID Cards.Our mission is to support educated and informed discourse on the topic of psychedelics, such as psychedelic neighborhood, microdosing, psychedelic identity, and numerous other subjects relevant simply click the following website page to our mission. simply click the following website page Third Wave does not encourage illegal activities. Any data we give is for education and info only. This site is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical tips, diagnosis, or remedy. Always seek the guidance of your doctor or other Simply Click The Following Website Page certified wellness provider with any inquiries you could have relating to a medical condition.Nutrition Farming® is the future of sustainable medicinal cannabis production. But analysis published in April suggested her selection was right - that standard cannabis customers are 5 times more likely to develop a significant mental well being disorder. Nonetheless some medical specialists have said that up to one hundred,000 Australians are in need of the healthcare marijuana, but at this stage they are forced to go through illegal channels to get it.Ms Coxon desires to see health-related trials testing cannabis oil on individuals who are awaiting cancer therapy, arguing such folks have practically nothing to lose. The Government is anticipated to reach a decision on whether doctors will be in a position to prescribe medicinal cannabis in the subsequent fortnight.To read more on simply click the following website page stop simply click the Following website page by our own web-page. There are also important contraindications for use. Pregnant and nursing females must not use marijuana, nor should individuals with particular other medical and psychiatric situations or individuals with a history of substance abuse. There is no definitive proof that marijuana acts as a gateway drug" in the way it is often discussed, mentioned Kohanna, but it does have a potential for addiction. About 9 % of recreational users become addicted.Speak to your major care physician about your specific overall health troubles to figure out if you might advantage from health-related marijuana. She will speak by means of all the issues connected to medical marijuana usage and might suggest remedy or refer you to a specialist.Employers are not essential to accommodate you if you never have a valid prescription and are obtaining your marijuana from an illegal or "gray market" supplier. This distinction was confirmed in French vs. Selkin Logging , exactly where a termination was upheld by the courts since the employee did not have valid documentation beneath the Marijuana for Healthcare Purposes Regulations (MMPR).Health Secretary Jeremy Hunt has backed the legalisation of cannabis in the wake of the ordeal of epileptic Billy Caldwell , right after his supply was confiscated at Heathrow Airport final Monday despite the 12-year-old getting utilized the banned substance considering that 2016 to handle his seizures.So far, 25 states and D.C. have passed laws to let folks use healthcare marijuana with suggestions from their doctors. The federal government has decided not to challenge these laws to any wonderful extent. But folks who acquire marijuana in a state exactly where it really is legal (for medicinal or recreational use) cannot take it across state lines into a state where it is not legal. So it remains a confusing issue.In a desperate search for a resolution, Faye read on the internet that cancer individuals have been using cannabis for the vomiting and nausea triggered by their remedies. Health-related marijuana eases discomfort in far more than 90 per cent of elderly sufferers, new investigation suggests.It really is also crucial to realize that healthcare marijuana is prohibited under federal law but in states with controlled health-related cannabis laws, sufferers with physician's suggestions don't generally require to be concerned about this. In 2014, Congress budgeted no income to enforce the federal anti-marijuana law (the Controlled Substances Act of 1970) in states exactly where cannabis is legal. The US Drug Enforcement Agency (DEA) points out that the laws are meant to safeguard against drug rings and are not meant to target individual men and women using cannabis for authorized therapeutic factors.The use of health-related marijuana is at present legal in 20 U.S. states and the District of Columbia. In these jurisdictions, men and women for whom medical marijuana has been particularly advisable by a doctor must carry a (medical) marijuana card that indicates their use of the substance for a clear medical goal. - Comments: 0
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What is challenging for one particular person, of course, can be an investment opportunity for yet another. The legal cannabis industry in the United States was estimated to have grown by a third in 2017, to $9.7 billion, according to the Arcview Group, which follows the industry. Arcview stated two.3 million folks in the United States employed marijuana for healthcare purposes last year and that an additional 1.eight million did so recreationally in states where it was legal. The Mormon you Can try these out religion has a health code known as the 'Word of Wisdom' which prohibits the use of alcohol, tobacco and illegal drugs. Ebb and Flow - A nutrient reservoir periodically floods the containers where your plants are developing. The resolution then gradually drains back into the reservoir. 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We share all our understanding and secret tips from years of expertise.Investors place $500 million into private cannabis organizations last year, stated Troy Dayton, the chief executive and a co-founder of Arcview, which also has an investment arm. Given that 2011, his group, which consists of 600 investors, has made $155 million worth of investments in the cannabis industry, from growers and dispensaries to businesses that make ancillary items, like vaping devices. Some $50 million of that investment capital, nevertheless, was invested just final year.In Canada, there is a method of licensed producers of healthcare marijuana Only these producers can provide the medical market place, and their merchandise must meet strict requirements set by Health Canada. This way, you can be confident you're obtaining a protected product each time.Meadow delivers prime-quality medical #cannabis to individuals in much less than 1 hour all more than California. This is created from the hemp strain of the cannabis plant, although the marijuana strain, containing THC, remains illegal in the UK. You have to be 21 and more than to buy cannabis legally at California dispensaries. With Healthcare Cannabis Card, individuals aged between 18 and 21 can purchase weed from any legal supply in California. It has significantly higher pay interest to the healthcare locations of bud and the way that it has the capability to gain weblink your illness rather than where you are ready to purchase it. The usage of all cannabis to get a drug originated tens of thousands of years ago In the starting, it is going to be enjoyable, but after the effects are finished, slumber may possibly be tough. - Comments: 0
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Seniors with Dementia or declining mental health can frequently begin to neglect their private care and hygiene. Pro-tip: As a final resort, wipe your wet hands on your garments. At least they are most certainly cleaner than wherever you are now. Wielding a handheld shower in a tight shower that lacks a soap dish or shelf may possibly lead to some bathroom gymnastics. She said, 'Rug Doctor's function to assess the nation's hygiene habits has thrown up some shocking stats, specifically how tiny care individuals take to remove bacteria and grime inside their properties.Fourteen gallons of water per use appears rather unnecessary relative to the amount of cleaning common public restrooms get. If you loved this informative article and you wish to receive more details about why not look here (http://ambroser77393.wikidot.com/blog:399) assure visit our own site. However, the Crohn's and colitis affected population applauds this work to make obtaining a bathroom less difficult. One more paper from the very same university found mobile phones are riddled with ten times more bacteria than a toilet seat.Rising vapours from cleaning agents or disinfectants can attack plastic toilet seats and lids, as a result the toilet seat ought to constantly be lifted or, if necessary, removed when cleaning the ceramic pan. The surface of our toilet seats is non-porous, which means they already supply optimum hygiene. Consequently, mild and preferably, organic cleaning agents are advisable for cleaning and care. Abrasive and aggressive cleaning agents containing chlorine and acid have to why not look here be utilized.From towels to toothbrushes and almost everything in between, your bathroom is exactly where you get cleaned up — so should not you want to preserve issues there as clean as possible? Even if you feel you happen to be the queen of clean, take a moment to scroll via the following bathroom hygiene suggestions and take into account adjusting your own bathroom accordingly. Far more than a couple of of the following ideas had been eye opening for me, and I am taking them all into accord to bring my bathroom hygiene to the subsequent level.In an average office building, we share a bathroom with more than fifty individuals, but sadly some customers are not as hygienic or respectful as they could be. A hygienic bathroom comes with patrons cleaning up behind them. 6. Be certain to constantly clean up and wash your gear at the finish of your shift or at the end of a workday.Wear flip flops or sandals to the pool. When you take your household to the pool, make positive you each put on a pair of flips flops or sandals that are simple to put on and take off. 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Be careful bending over to pick up a dropped bar of soap — you may possibly just hit your head on the toilet or sink.The study authors note that the timing of hand washing is essential. It's clear to wash hands following using the toilet, right after sneezing or ahead of consuming or handling food. Other essential times for hand washing are after changing a diaper or cleaning up right after a pet, or right after touching garbage cans, cleaning cloths, cutting boards, dish rags and utensils that could have come into contact with raw food.6. Maintain the tech out of the bathroom. No matter how careful you are, contamination of your phone is quite a lot unavoidable. No 1 desires bathroom germs pressed against their face. If you are finding it tough to cope with washing or general hygiene, contact your neighborhood authority or a local carers' organisation, or get in touch with the Carers Direct helpline on 0300 123 1053. 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If you have never grown any weed before choosing cannabis seeds can be a daunting activity. There is no need to worry you can simply order seeds on-line without having any issue in the UK. Owning the seeds in itself is not even against the ‘law'. We all know how sensible a law against plants is. LED - Complete spectrum LED lights are much far more power efficient and do not get hot, so you can mount them closer to your plants and won't want fans to remove heat. You can also use a single set of lights for each the vegetation and flowering phase. Adhere to the suggestions of the manufacturer for how many lights you are going to want for your growing footprint.As cannabis businesses increasingly appear to commercial horticulture for established practices (and industrial horticulture continues to make headway into the cannabis market), sophisticated metrics will http://kandispino7433.wikidot.com/ play an integral part in evaluating each cannabis yields and efficiencies. Growers who want to stay competitive would do properly to track yield in relation not only to space, but also to power utilised, and to study lighting's effect on plant improvement.It is printed with superior print good quality enabled by ICC profiles and highest image resolution at 300 DPI. We use thick, 30 Mil PVC, card stock to provide tough and lengthy-lasting cannabis cards. All our cards are secured with Holo-Kote system (visible when flexed or held at an angle in direct light). Normal US credit card size makes it possible for to carry the card in your wallet or pocket.Even though a lot of techniques are obtainable for consuming medical cannabis, smoking continues to rank among the most popular. Legal issues are frequently a unfavorable consequence of marijuana use, and it actually isn't worth the danger. 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Seizures at the border with Mexico have also been going down, some thing the US Drug Enforcement Agency (DEA) told the BBC was "a reflection of the availability of higher quality, legal cannabis in the US".According to Kohanna, the Vice President of Occupational Health and Chief Health-related Officer at AllOne Health, healthcare marijuana is not a black-and-white problem thus, it is neither a miracle drug nor a safety nightmare. Rather, its use poses each prospective benefits and workplace security risks, each of which employers must contemplate when creating their policies and procedures around employee drug use and drug testing. Starting on January 1, 2018, mmj individuals have complete legal access to each cannabis product, but recreational users, in several instances, do not. Some municipalities and dispensaries limit full access to potent strains and concentrates. Some great dispensaries with special pricing are healthcare use only. 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Emphasize how you responsibly use cannabis inside your state healthcare marijuana program. This may well support adjust the unfavorable stereotypes your physician has been inundated with their entire lives. Five states like Kentucky, South Dakota and Missouri are taking into consideration legalizing the drug for medical use, joining the 30 other states that have already accomplished so. A Healthcare Marijuana Card1 is a legal document issued by a licensed California doctor, which allows for the legal obtain of cannabis within the California and Nevada States. To obtain California Health-related Marijuana Card , one particular should be a state resident and get a licensed health-related doctor's written recommendation for cannabis to treat their situations and symptoms2.Residence Secretary Sajid Javid intervened in the case, given that saying he would be launching a assessment into how health-related marijuana is regulated for medicines, but he stressed the drug would remain illegal for recreational use. 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Alternatively, by acting on its own specific tiny chemical targets (and simply because it will therefore work as an impostor to a naturally occurring transmitter), the drug is probably to modify the configuration of the networks of brain cell connections.However, the study is not unanimous in its conclusions. A 1994 survey of 9,000 personnel found no association between current or remote use of marijuana and the threat of function-associated accidents. The bottom line is that many concerns stay about the effects of cannabis on cognition, behavior, and security, and employers will require to take all of these potential risks and positive aspects into consideration.Cannabis (also identified as marijuana, weed, pot, dope or grass) is the most extensively utilised illegal drug in the UK. Increasing marijuana shares some dangers with other agricultural crops, such as pests, fungus and mold growth on plants, and poor harvests. 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Stereophile's first change in editorial leadership in 33 years calls for a restatement of the magazine's core principles.
Stereophile was founded in 1962 by J. Gordon Holt, on the premise that the best way to review an audio component is to listen to it. Following Holt as editor, John Atkinson turned that premise into a viable concern—a real magazine—and, in 1989, added a regular suite of measurements to Stereophile's otherwise subjective mix.
With his commitment to listening first, JGH created a new genre of audio publications; many others followed in its wake, of which only a handful survive. For Holt, it was a question of expediency—measurements weren't telling the whole story. JGH was not against science. On the contrary, he embraced the pursuit of quantifiables, if inconsistently, and regretted it when the subjectivist-critical world he'd created lost its bearings. Perhaps I flatter myself, but in this respect JGH seems like a kindred spirit.
I've spent most of my professional life doing science or writing about it—but this task is different. Music isn't science, and the experience of music—its emotional impact—is Stereophile's chief concern. For the moment, forget about the bits, bytes, and electrons, the clever firmware encoded on field-programable gate arrays and assess how the music makes you feel. Then switch out a component—just one, since we do have a methodology—and do it again.
There's no doubt that we owe a debt to science-based designers of fine audio equipment. But it's our right as music lovers to judge how successful a component is in conveying music's emotion. Were you deeply moved or left cold? Fifty-seven years since JGH's audacious experiment, I suppose we could, if we wished, apply science to that question, perhaps by hooking listeners up to an MRI machine as they listen to the same music with different DACs or preamps. That would be interesting, but it would be too expensive to do routinely, and it would probably result in boring copy.
Stereophile's reviews are what you might call narrative listening journals, documents of sonic/musical experience composed by skilled listener-writers. As a college professor taught me years ago when I was still studying theater: Watch, respond, and figure out what it was that made you respond that way. Substitute "watch" with "listen"—that's what Stereophile does.
The argument objectivists make against this approach is that it's soft and uncertain—too many sources of bias: How can you be objective? But that's just it: we can't. The same humanity that gives us standing in assessing how well emotion is conveyed renders us imperfect judges of said conveyance and the reasons for it. Ours is a human assessment, not a scientific one. But is this not also true for many other things—living, eating, loving?
Learning to assess audio components is a bit like learning how to live: Pay attention to how you move through the world. Assess your own responses. Develop your sensibilities. Accept uncertainty as a fact of life. When was the last time you attempted to measure how much you love your children?
Let us not, however, give the floor over entirely to the artsy music-appreciator crowd. Despite my just-stated humanist perspective, I have a little bit of scientist pride left.
Hence, measurements.
Measuring error may be low, but there is much uncertainty in measurements' relevance to the conveyance of emotion. Subjective assessment is uncertain, but its connection to what we wish to assess—our emotional reaction to music—could not be more direct.
And speaking of uncertainty: We're not against statistically valid listening tests. We're just more aware than most of the challenges of doing them well and their tendency, as typically performed, toward missing effects that are subtle but real. Plus, as the cliché goes, absence of evidence is not evidence of absence.
Stereophile, then, is a subjectivist journal that measures. As Herb Reichert would likely point out, listening is our yin (bringing spirit) and measurements our yang (offering form).
We are fortunate to have on our team some of the best ears in the business, allied with the best pens—and one of the best and most experienced measurers of fine audio equipment. This potent combination is why Stereophile is the most popular high-end audio magazine in the world.
This column is about values, so let me not forget to mention some other important ones. Stereophile practices an old-fashioned, strict separation between its editorial and business sides. You can't buy a review in Stereophile. No advertising contract or other financial transaction can ensure a Stereophile review. The best way to get a review is to make an interesting product that promises excellent sound. Good value matters, too, and so does having a track record of excellent customer support.
Editorial independence gives Stereophile a credibility that keeps readers coming back. It's not just readers, though: Our integrity is one reason a good review in Stereophile means as much as it does, and why ads in Stereophile still have impact.
A final point: Stereophile writers hold a wide range of opinions. I don't tell them what to think or write. With thanks to my colleague Jon Iverson for providing the metaphor: Stereophile is a clubhouse where people can come together over a shared love of music—but with widely disparate views on pretty much everything else: tubes or transistors, classical or rock'n'roll, digital or analog. We gather to respectfully but energetically discuss and engage—then toast our shared love of music with a favored beverage, beer or scotch or protein shake.
Welcome to the club. Take off your shoes. Stay a while.—Jim Austin
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We are the lucky ones!
Submitted by Anton on June 18, 2019 - 11:31am
As an audiophile, all I need to do is sit back, relax, and be a subjectivist.
I don't need to measure anything, I don't have to design anything, all I have to do is consume the music, dance, and be happy!
Surely, I would not want a pure subjectivist to design or build my gear. I can't imagine a pure subjectivist-designed piece of kit: "This capacitor is pretty, and I don't like the connotation of the word 'resistor' at all. Impedance sounds like it might hold back music, let's got with zero impedance..."
So, thank God for objective measures in construction and design!
Put me down as someone who realizes it takes "both" flavors to make the hobby work. As Laozi, said, "It takes both yin and yang to make the Tao go round!"
I guess, then, people could start to argue about how rigorously we apply our subjectiveness in an attempt to be subjectively objective, and that's fun and all until someone tries to make a claim that 'has to' apply to all listeners. Then, it becomes a religious argument and saps the joy.
But, then, I consider limoncello to be a "system enhancing solution," so take this all with a drop of yin, or yang, or whatever it is floats your boat.
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Thank what?
Submitted by ishis on June 18, 2019 - 8:16pm
Thank Stereophile for doing measurements, not some imaginary, irrelevant deity. (that is a very annoying expression that should be stricken from the language of intelligent people)
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Hmmm, a term comes to mind...
Submitted by Anton on June 19, 2019 - 7:51am
Suck it?
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Have the collection of the world's scientists
Submitted by avanti1960 on June 19, 2019 - 10:02am
since the beginning of human existence been able to determine the exact mechanism of the creation of the universe?
Have they been able to completely map and identify the composition of the building blocks of physical matter including subatomic particles, energies and their relationships?
Since the answer to both questions is no- how is it that the collection of the the most intelligent people in the earth's history haven't been able to understand them- yet those that do not believe in a creator believe they came from nothingness through random chance and accident?
The history of physical science is stumped but it happened by accident....?
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There are some...
Submitted by Anton on June 19, 2019 - 10:16am
There are some people who can simply say "Thank God" as a figure of speech and not imply it as an endorsement of the supernatural.
It is a phrase used as an interjection to express relief, thankfulness, etc.
If I said, "holy cow!" would people think I was endorsing Hinduism, or that I venerate cows as spiritual epitomes?
This makes me wonder, are there people out there who think that the Christian savior's full name is "Jesus H Christ?"
Do they think we believe in the Devil if someone says, "Bloody hell?"
Come on, people.
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Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 19, 2019 - 12:43pm
'Thank God' there is Stereophile ....... 'Holy cow' there are so many objectivists ....... What the 'bloody Hell'? :-) ..........
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Submitted by RH on June 19, 2019 - 12:13pm
You can appeal to the supernatural to "explain" anything.
That's a "bug," not a "feature."
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Tightly Wound
Submitted by RoryB on June 20, 2019 - 5:19am
Did someone with a Christian fish on their car cut you off in traffic? Or are you always just this unpleasant and quick to take offense? You don't have any special information about God's existence (or not) that the rest of mankind doesn't have, and still to this day it is up to each person to decide what they think about this, not up to you.
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Directing this message to all involved
Submitted by Jim Austin on June 20, 2019 - 5:28am
Let's steer this conversation way from religion, shall we? Also: politics. Jim Austin, Editor Stereophile
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Music is all about feeling ...........
Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 18, 2019 - 12:48pm
Music is all about feeling :-) ............
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Can't even remember what it was I came here to get away from
Submitted by Robin Landseadel on June 18, 2019 - 1:05pm
What I like around here is that it's subjective + measurements. I'd like to see more of that everywhere. The issue, for me, is finding out what specific measurements correlate to good sound. "If it measures good and sounds bad, -- it is bad. If it sounds good and measures bad, -- you've measured the wrong thing." So this process, which Stereophile has been better at for longer than anyone else, is in part attempting to find out how measurements correlate to sound quality, which is all by its lonesome a worthy endevor.
Of course, what is considered "Good Sound" is, ultimately, subjective in the very narrow sense of really belonging to only one listener. Lots of folks are looking for a reasonable recreation of "live sound". Different for a headbanger than a Mozartian.
Once I heard the colorations of microphones independent of a mix + master + gear + room , I became aware that you can't really "get there from here". When monitoring a performance for a recording, I'd take the headphones off, walk into the room where the musicians are performing, and enter a different world. And it didn't matter if the microphones were mine or somebody else's, same thing. The best recording engineer I worked with used monitoring gear that would be comfortable for long sessions [if headphones] and not burn your ears off. I remember going to Skywalker, WATTs in place, auditioning a live recording that was recorded/played back via a Panasonic 3700. Took 15 seconds before the engineer/producer decided to replace them with a cozy pair of British Mini-Monitors.
Surviving the session is more important than maximum fidelity.
I don't expect to hear "live sound" from a melange of microphones and black boxes with blinking leds. What I hear now [if I'm listening 'critically'] are a lot of the artifacts of a given recording/playback chain. That's what attempting to make a living as a recording engineer has done to me. I am happier to hear a reasonable rendition of a microphone feed than a nearly plausible representation of "live music". If I want "live music" I play some or get out of the house and hear some. But a lot of attempts at a simulacrum of the real thing make me aware of the attempt, which breaks the spell.
When I'm playing my Martin I don't have to wonder if the sound is real. When I'm listening to music through a Marantz 8b, I hear how the resolution is nearly perfect in the mid-range but loses its grip at frequency extremes. I always hear the deliberate hardness of the sonic presentation of Klipsch speakers [nice dynamics, though], always hear the audible compression of classic acoustic suspension speakers [nice mids and bass, though]. Whenever I listen to an LP these days, I notice how the "gas"---resolution, bass, treble, dynamics---runs out before a side is over. "It's Always Something", like Roseanne Roseannadanna always sez.
On the other hand, the stuff that used to bother me [a lot] about "digital sound" feels like it's fading out. Once 24/192 became the de-facto standard for DACs, things improved "tout suite".
Right now, I'm looking for minimum irritation in music playback. I've got hours & hours of time at work where I'm listening to my personal stereo. This is one aspect of audio that has become considerably less irritating over time. The notion of having access to nearly every record in the world via something you can stick in your pocket or handbag is some kind of a dream. The notion that one of these little devices will be, in the near future, the best sounding of any source components is my dream right now. I can think of many aspects of digital audio that would be best realized in a battery-powered device working off of micro sd memory chips, or whatever the "next thing" in storage is that's gonna be faster, denser and physically closer to the DAC. I'm looking forward to that.
I've been a subscriber before, and there's a good chance I'll be a subscriber again.
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Jim
Submitted by rt66indierock on June 18, 2019 - 6:07pm
I can't imagine auditioning any piece of equipment that isn't quiet enough to fully resolve a CD at low listening levels.
I never heard of Gordon Holt or John Atkinson for that matter until recently. I knew what pleased me emotionally at home and what I could listen to for long periods in the office without fatigue. Good reference albums and recordings volume matched have always gotten me where I wanted to go musically.
Surprisingly there was talk at t.h.e. Show about quantifying emotional involvement. Jason may have missed it.
I hope you come to RMAF.
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Submitted by John Atkinson on June 19, 2019 - 7:27am
rt66indierock wrote:
I never heard of Gordon Holt or John Atkinson for that matter until recently.
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Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 19, 2019 - 8:15am
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DAEP school .........
Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 19, 2019 - 9:05am
Should he be sent to a DAEP school? :-) ..........
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Submitted by rt66indierock on June 19, 2019 - 4:26pm
I’m the one with an Audio Alternative Education Program. First classes were held at t.h.e. Show in Long Beach California. Step one, go to Room 408 and tell me which pair of speakers is playing. The half that could tell the difference were sent to three rooms on the third floor and told to tell me the demo tricks being played on them in each room. I’m an easy grader, those who spotted at least one trick per room passed. This group would be worth teaching more about audio. Would you have passed?
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Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 19, 2019 - 4:36pm
I'm afraid to take any tests ....... I would be a nervous wreck ........ Just ask any of my past teachers, if you can find them :-) ........
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Submitted by rt66indierock on June 19, 2019 - 4:52pm
I like applying that kind of pressure. Just think of the fun I have with folks who read The Absolute Sound.
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I'm glad that ........
Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 19, 2019 - 7:14pm
I'm glad that you were not one of my teachers :-) .......
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Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 19, 2019 - 7:19pm
I thought that TAS readers have 'golden ears' :-) ........
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Submitted by rt66indierock on June 19, 2019 - 4:00pm
John, I first noticed you in a 2000 University of California Psychology paper I found in 2009 researching high resolution audio. You have been to Portland Oregon; I grew up there. I had access to information and people Lynn Olson wrote about in “The Soul of Sound.” I didn’t see any reason to pick a magazine sorry.
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Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 19, 2019 - 4:23pm
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Why
Submitted by rt66indierock on June 19, 2019 - 4:46pm
Why would I do a Google search for John Atkinson? I met him at RMAF 2016 and he has been more than generous with his time since then.
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Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 19, 2019 - 4:54pm
Just for information, for anybody, if they are interested ........ There are videos and other detailed information posted online :-) .........
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Submitted by rt66indierock on June 19, 2019 - 5:21pm
You can just ask him.
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He is a man of ..........
Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 19, 2019 - 7:07pm
My guess is, he is a man of few words and a lot of knowledge :-) ..........
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Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 19, 2019 - 8:08pm
Next time you see him ask him, whether he likes his favorite Stone IPA or the supposed to be the top rated, Union Jack IPA :-) ........
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Submitted by rt66indierock on June 20, 2019 - 12:35pm
He has an open invitation to visit me in the copper state and drink what ever he desires.
In your case my beer tests are harder than the audio tests. They involve field work.
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Thanks but .........
Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 20, 2019 - 12:56pm
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Submitted by rt66indierock on June 20, 2019 - 3:27pm
In that case you have to ask yourself three questions. Would Gordon Holt recommend Bud Lite? Would John Atkinson? Would Jim Austin?
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Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 20, 2019 - 3:47pm
Gordon Holt, as I understand likes Martinis ........ JA1 likes IPA ........ Jim Austin, I think, likes Bourbon ...... I will go with the choice of the majority of the American beer drinkers :-) ........
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"I never heard of Gordon Holt or...
Submitted by rschryer on June 20, 2019 - 4:32pm
...John Atkinson for that matter until recently."
You mean they're not the same guy?
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No, they are not the same guy ........
Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 20, 2019 - 6:45pm
John Atkinson is an Australian actor ........ Gordon Holt was a former Scottish football player ...... Wikipedia :-) ........
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What? Where?
Submitted by ednazarko on June 18, 2019 - 6:25pm
Where are those damn shoes? I took them off and now I can't find them!
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Submitted by RH on June 18, 2019 - 7:52pm
I enjoyed this column Jim, and agreed with a bunch of it. I'm always
looking to balance the subjective and objective parts of the hobby.
I think another comment put it well: it's all subjective in the listening! (But...shouldn't be all subjective in the engineering).
And speaking of uncertainty: We're not against statistically valid listening tests. We're just more aware than most of the challenges of doing them well and their tendency, as typically performed, toward missing effects that are subtle but real.
I can't help but mention again (I think the last time it was about JA's similar view), that that seems to beg the question. At least if one accepts or understands the justification for controlled (blind/double blind) testing in the first place.
If you take a difference between A and B to be real and audible, but can't detect this in controlled (e.g. blinded) conditions, how would you still decide it is real and audible? By what other method?
If you are ultimately wedded to going with subjective impressions no matter the results of the blind testing - "if blind testing doesn't validate my sighted impressions, then the blind testing was wrong!" - then this doesn't really seem to be having respect for blind testing. It would just obviate blind testing. When this is done it tends to leave the impression one is only paying lip service to the value of the scientific method, not truly being consistent with science.
I'm just trying to understand how you would square this because I very often see people using "I respect science BUT..." to make exceptions for every pet belief under the sun that doesn't hold up to rigorous scrutiny. Subjective experience is very powerful and everyone wants to drop the skeptical bar for their own most cherished experience or beliefs. I know I feel that pull.
(And I'm not arguing that the average audiophile/listener SHOULD start bothering with blind testing. But since you seemed to have raised the subject in your article, along with a particular claim...I'm guessing you don't mind comment on it)
"Plus, as the cliché goes, absence of evidence is not evidence of absence."
Ok, I apologize for being all picky here, but absence of evidence is evidence of absence. That's the case when the evidence one would expect if X were true is missing. We use this principle all the time.
Claim: there's a pink cat under my chair.
I look under my chair: no cat. Evidence of absence.
Claim: "Your house suffered a catastrophic all consuming fire today while you were at work.
I get home from work, and the home is entirely intact, clean, nothing burnt, no smell of smoke, no evidence of fire. Evidence the fire was absent.
I like the mix you have going at Stereophile!
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Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 19, 2019 - 7:20am
Lot of times listening impressions correlate very well with the measurements ....... That is the reason why Stereophile is grrrrreat : -) .............
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Yes Bogolu, that's nice when
Submitted by RH on June 19, 2019 - 7:55am
Yes Bogolu, that's nice when it happens. Measurements correlate to some degree with what we hear; otherwise no speaker manufacturer would have any instruments to measure anything.
And I quite enjoy reading the subjective reviews in Stereophile. I've found them helpful sometimes in my own auditioning process.
I can't interpret speaker measurements with anything like the degree of experience John Atkinson has, so his comments in the measurements section are welcome. He also seems to have a keen ear in identifying issues, as a reviewer.
Ultimately, while I find the measurements section in stereophile to be educational, and enlightening to some degree, I don't purchase speakers on the measurements but on my own subjective impressions.
The Devore O series speakers were excoriated by some DIYers in these comments pages as being "wrong, wrong, wrong!" in every design parameter - nothing any educated speaker designer would build and the measurements "show it." And yet upon encountering those Devore speakers they became among my very favorite! If I looked strictly to measurements, and to the interpretation of those measurements by nay-sayers, I'd never have bothered to seek those speakers out. Rather, it was the subjective reviews I read that made me think "that's describing the type of sound I think I'd like." And that's what sent me seeking the Devores, and they remain on my list of possible speaker purchases.
So I still value subjective reviews. Which is one reason I still read Stereophile. (And why Stereophile is such a nice mix of subjective and objective - measurements)
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RH, thanks for your
Submitted by Jim Austin on June 20, 2019 - 5:04pm
RH, thanks for your thoughtful post.
There's a lot here, and I don't have time to respond to all of it, but I will make some comments.
Perhaps the hardest part of what I wrote is a deep conceptual shift. Those of us who are used to thinking as scientists often struggle to grasp that other perspectives can be just as legitimate. Just as likely to yield verifiable facts? No--but that is not the only valid pursuit. Humanists--and humans--have been gathering knowledge through other (less rigorous) means for millennia. Science is unique and special, but it's not the only game in town, and it cannot address all interesting questions, or anyway, probably shouldn't.
So that's the key conceptual shift: To realize that when it comes to music--even technologically mediated music--in a conversation between a committed scientist and a committed poet, the scientist doesn't automatically have the upper hand. There are dissertations to be written on this--probably have been written--but I have to end somewhere.
Now, "Absence of evidence is not evidence of absence" is actually an informal but pretty damn fine restatement of a principle of statistics. Here's a restatement from an AES paper by Les Leventhal: "Properly speaking, a statistical conclusion about H0 from a significance test cannot justify 'accepting' the scientific hypothesis that differences are inaudible." That article is: "How Conventional Statistical Analyses Can Prevent Finding Audible Differences in Listening Tests," Leventhal, presented at the October 1985 AES Convention in New York. Preprint 2275. Here, H0 is the null hypothesis, the hypothesis that the effect under test is inaudible. Leventhal is saying, in other words, that a failure to detect audibility is not evidence of inaudibility. It is merely a failure to detect audibility.
The reason I know about him is that he published an "article" in Stereophile, in the form of the world's longest letter. Highly recommended for those who know a little statistics and have unexamined faith in dbt.
If you are ultimately wedded to going with subjective impressions no matter the results of the blind testing - "if blind testing doesn't validate my sighted impressions, then the blind testing was wrong!" - then this doesn't really seem to be having respect for blind testing. It would just obviate blind testing. When this is done it tends to leave the impression one is only paying lip service to the value of the scientific method, not truly being consistent with science.
If blind-testing failed to validate my sighted impressions, then blind testing failed to validate my sighted impressions. It doesn't prove that my sighted impressions were wrong. There is only one way I can think of that a blind test could refute sited impressions. Let's say I insist, after listening, that two sources sound precisely alike. I conclude that they are the same--that they cannot be distinguished. Then someone else does that blind test and distinguishes between the two sources to impressive statistical certainty. THEN my sighted impressions have been refuted: It's audible after all. But it doesn't work the other way: If I hear something and then fail to pass the test, that doesn't mean I didn't hear it. It means that I failed to establish that I DID hear it. That's different. You can refute the null hypothesis. You cannot confirm it.
I really do believe in science--deeply. Over time, a preponderance of evidence can yield certain conclusions highly unlikely. When that happens, and it contradicts something I believe, I alter my beliefs. Many scientific-minded folks, though, are too uncritical--unscientifically uncritical--of statistical methods. We also tend to be arrogant in that we come to think that science is the only way to know things. Yet many people go through their whole lives without once practicing the scientific method--and yet they do know things.
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Stereophile has a perfect leader .........
Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 20, 2019 - 6:21pm
Mr.Austin ....... You are a perfect leader to keep Stereophile going forward :-) .......
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Thanks Jim
Submitted by RH on June 21, 2019 - 8:32am
I understand you don't have time to keep a conversation going and the following is not an attempt to drag you in to a debate. It's just my reaction to your own thoughtful post.
My response about "absence of evidence" wasn't meant as a rebuttal of the entire principle. As a matter of strict skepticism, we can not logically disprove any empirical proposition by empirical inquiry. That's the nature of empirical inquiry in terms of theory-building. As Quine cautioned, any result of testing a hypothesis can be rejected by the addition of another ad-hoc hypotheses. In other words, say we have the hypothesis: "If X chemical is present in water we will be able to detect X through our usual Y method."
Then, if you fail to find "X," instead of concluding X is not present, you can always add the hypothesis "Method Y is not sufficient to detect X."
Strictly speaking, any such additional hypothesis undermining a test results is possible. But (again as observed by Quine)...given we can always add another ad hoc hypothesis in this manner, this could be the undoing of science (and knowledge!). Which is why in our "web of belief" we get pragmatic about this stuff.
The problem is the dowser, the homeopath, the flat earther, the psychic, the energy healer (and on and on) all tend to share this trait of rejecting the usual empirical tests - which won't support their claims - by adducing ad hoc hypotheses which "invalidate" the tests and leave their powers unscathed.
And I start getting uncomfortable - epistemically speaking :) - when we in this hobby start to look more like we are in that camp. Where we find ways to rationalize away negative results in tests that we generally would not do so in other areas. For instance, my son has been involved recently in a double-blind, placebo-controlled study for a new allergy treatment. Neither we, nor the doctors who were also "blinded" in the experiment protested this procedure, either by saying "it's an insult to say our reports can't be trusted with the knowledge of which drug we are on. We aren't biased!" Nor did we invoke ad hoc hypotheses after the result came in, to explain away the results. Why? Because it would take ignoring all we seem to have learned about the role of human bias in distorting our empirical inferences, and why it's a good idea to control for this bias when possible. And that this problem of bias/inaccurate inferences expands far beyond the realm of medical research.
It just seems obviously special pleading to think my own hobby is exempt from the variable of bias. In fact, we can "know" that it is not exempt because - just like the cheap-wine-in-the-expensive-bottle experiments - you can show this variable of bias. As an example people have been fooled in to thinking A cable sounds different from B cable, when in fact no cables have actually been switched and they are identifying "differences" in the "sound" of the same cable!
So, yes, strictly speaking you are right that blind testing would only show "you have not been able to identify sonic differences under the conditions of the test."
But then, since that's the case in every possible experiment, we can't be paralyzed from drawing inferences from our experiments.
It seems the pragmatic approach is to simply admit that if you do enough testing you should be able to draw provisional conclusions about an "absence." Or at least, an absence of evidence (which would in practical terms guide your expectations in the same way as "absence" would).
So, as we are being picky here about the inferences we can draw from blind testing, what I am not seeing in your reply is any suggestion of a "way out" of the mess that seems to arise when rejecting the implications of blind tests.
In other words: We KNOW that bias is a confounding variable in reaching our conclusions. Blind testing is as far as I know the most rigorous attempt to control for that variable. If we bring in the hypothesis that blind testing itself is unreliable, what is the alternative? Just letting those variables flourish in our conclusions?
That seems, as I've pointed out, to be special pleading just for the area of audio. And it is suspiciously just the type of special pleading we'd like to employ to safeguard our subjectively-derived beliefs - similar to how any number of fringe belief systems do the same.
I am not ruling out your point of view on this, or suggesting blind testing is infallible. It's all tough and often frustrating stuff.
But...these are the questions that come to mind when presented with the ways many audiophiles reject the implications of blind testing, and default to personal anecdote and subjectivism.
(And...I always have to be at pains to point out, the context of this discussion is one in which we take it we are talking about how to get maximal possible confidence in a conclusion, as when for instance doing science. This is NOT simultaneously the claim that the every day audiophile needs to, or should, be weighed down with the requirement of doing blind testing. No...we should all be free to buy what we want, for our own reasons).
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Submitted by ChrisS on June 21, 2019 - 10:06am
You will have all the "answers".
Or you will keep asking the same questions again and again and again.
(Or put in another way, what you want, you will never find here.)
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RH, I would rather you didn't enjoy...
Submitted by ChrisS on June 19, 2019 - 1:28am
...my music for me.
Nor anyone else for that matter.
Please take a college level course on research methodology and test design to know why no one uses DBT for audio reviewing.
No one.
And take a course on the physiology of hearing and perception while you are at it...
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We have some objectivists in our local Hi Fi club...
Submitted by Anton on June 19, 2019 - 8:01am
We have some avid objectivists in our audio club here.
They have helped me solve the greatest mystery in all of Hi Fi: How does an objectivist choose his (it's always a he) Hi Fi gear?
By listening to it!
I know! LOL, right?
Did they double blind their listening and do instantaneous DBT switching prior to purchase? No. Did they buy the speakers with the best measurements? No. Do they eschew vinyl for only 24/96 digital? No. Do they talk about their favorite pressings of beloved LP's? Yes.
If it weren't for the internet, we'd all be subjectivists.
Then again, maybe our club's are phony objectivists and all the real objectivists just stay home, relax, and listen to digital audio on their well-measuring gear knowing there's no better measuring gear, so they would never join an audio club to chat about how audio gear sounds.
For the objectivists here: how did you pick out all your gear?
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Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 19, 2019 - 8:27am
By reading the reviews and measurements in Stereophile :-) ..........
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Submitted by Anton on June 19, 2019 - 9:01am
They shouldn't really need the review part, right?
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Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 19, 2019 - 9:14am
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Then they wouldn't be objecitivsts, eh?
Submitted by Anton on June 19, 2019 - 9:35am
"Both" is fine, but then you are implying someone who claims to be an objectivist is simply lying or deluded.
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Submitted by RH on June 19, 2019 - 10:59am
"For the objectivists here: how did you pick out all your gear?"
The problem in answering to that call is that the term "objectivist," especially when used by a "subjectivist," tends to be larded with strawmen. As if raising issues of measurements, or worse, daring to defend the idea of blind testing at all, entails being some form of "Spock" who dismisses all subjective experience and pleasure, and thinks "everything sounds the same." (Yes, those very strawmen are raised quite often, here and elsewhere).
So my first question to you is: What do YOU mean by "objectivist?"
I don't know if I'll fit your criteria, but given I have some skepticism about some claims in high end audio, and will sometimes question the objective evidence for some audio claims, and even defend the (limited-by-practicality) utility of blind testing, I'm often assessed as an "objectivist" who thinks we should only buy gear on measurements or via blind testing.
Anyway...to your question. Personally I generally go by the "extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence" heuristic.
If you tell me your house is lit via the power supplied by the local power company, I'm happy to accept that claim, given there's nothing controversial about it, and plenty of evidence that "power supplied to homes by electricity distribution companies" is a real thing.
If you tell me your house is lit by the energy provided by the perpetual motion machine in your basement...well...then I have every reason to be skeptical. Evidence at the level of personal claim or anecdote won't do.
Transplanting this heuristic to high end audio. For me, I'm happy to believe people hear differences between speakers, because there's objective, measurable evidence that speakers tend to alter the signal depending on their design. And much of that has been well correlated to what we actually hear.
We can still be fooled by sighted evaluations even with speakers, but as a practical matter we can't all go blind testing speakers and given the established plausibility that two speakers would sound different, I'm ok with going on my subjective evaluations. (Or believing other people hearing differences).
Things get a bit stickier turning to, say, amplifiers. At that point, among people with the requisite expertise - in electronics, and/or psychoacoustics etc - controversy arises as to the audible differences between some types of amplifiers (e.g. say between a competently designed SS amp operating within it's specs vs an expensive high end SS amp).
In that case I start to become more cautious about my conclusions, or about the claims made by sighted listening tests.
But...I use tube amps! To one branch of the "objectivist" side tube amps are a nonsense design. Why would anyone need a tube amp when cheaper and likely-to-be-more accurate solid state amps are available?
Well...because some of us like tube amps for various reasons. I like the aesthetic, the concept, and often the sound. I'm appealing to my subjectivism here.
If someone asks me "Have you blind tested your tube amps against solid state amps?" I'll admit: No, I haven't bothered to. My old CJ and Eico amps sure *seem* to me to produce a slightly different sound from my SS amps that I enjoy more. But I'll be the first to admit my evidence for this is only subjective and anecdotal, and for someone looking for a more confident, rigorous evidence I don't have it. And that's ok, I have no problem with that more "objectivist" person wanting that type of rigor. I get it. For me, I'm ok with going along with the fact that my tube amps are sufficiently "old school" design that even "hard objectivists" will generally tell me they are likely to interact with different speakers in ways that would change the signal. So even from an engineering stand point, it seems it's entirely plausible that my tube amps do "sound different."
Then we get down to claims about cable differences, especially AC cables and various audiophile tweaks. Some of these claims become even more controversial. When I see an almost uniformity from "objectivists" with engineering credentials saying "those technical claims are B.S and here's why!" I become skeptical of the claims made by the manufacturers of these products. I can't help but notice how the claims and anecdote-based "evidence" start to mirror pseudo-science, alternative medicine, and a myriad other dubious areas.
So...the skeptical/critical thinking hat goes firmly on. Now I'd prefer to see the type of evidence for those claims that *should be possible* given the claims. And which is readily available for other audio components like speakers and often amplifiers (and DACs...)
And if I'm dealing with an area I'm cautious and skeptical about, yes sometimes I will do my own blind testing. I've blind tested DACs/CD players (positive for identifying differences!), video cable (negative), high end AC cables (negative), and music servers (negative). I've found doing these occasional blind testing enlightening, sometimes fun, and it's saved me some money and some audiophile angst.
But what components I choose to put in my system and enjoy is of course entirely up to me, and no one should be telling me otherwise.
I had a strong subjective perception of an audible change with for instance a high end AC cable, which "went away" upon blind testing it. I chose to go with the blind test results and save money. But I could also have chosen to say to myself "you know what? Even though I can't detect this in my blind test, it just seems to change my perception when I put it in my system in a way that makes me enjoy my system more. So...I'll buy the thing."
That's just as much my right to make that subjective value as not buying it. BUT...I would not therefore claim to anyone else (or myself) that my subjective impression constitutes GOOD EVIDENCE for the claims made by the cable maker. If I or anyone else really wanted to get to the bottom of what is "really" happening, then it makes sense to get more rigorous, with measurements, controlled listener tests etc.
So...subjectivity...I'm all for it and ultimately use it in how I buy my stuff. But I would scale my *confidence* and *claims* about the the reality of what's happening on the quality of the evidence.
As to other "objectivists" you have to realize this hobby comprises a broad spectrum of views, a continuum, so you have to allow for nuance in people's positions and not try to box people in to false-dichotomy extremes.
Even among those who are very measurements-driven, there are differences. You WILL find audiophiles who do in fact look almost strictly to measurements in their buying decisions. And who do in fact employ blind testing, including ABX. Go to hyrdogenaudio forums, or Audio Science Review, and you'll see people sharing lots of blind testing for audio codecs, DACs, headphones, amplifiers etc.
Good on them, if that's how they want to do things.
Then there are those who will not buy strictly on measurements, but who will be guided by a decent knowledge of measurements to weed out speakers that aren't accurate in the way they want, and narrow their prospective purchases - ultimately deciding via listening which of those finalists to buy.
So, we audiophiles come in a broad spectrum - from "purely subjectivist" to "purely measurement/ABX-oriented objectivist" and everything in between.
Jim Austin's article above was trying to point out that you don't have to be in either extreme. A point I hope that doesn't go lost here.
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Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 19, 2019 - 1:19pm
The signal is getting lost in the noise :-) ........
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Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 20, 2019 - 7:48am
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Anton: Since you asked a question of "objectivists"....
Submitted by RH on June 20, 2019 - 11:12am
...and I replied in detail, I'm wondering if my reply was helpful or made sense to you?
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Submitted by JoethePop on June 19, 2019 - 8:56am
I read your magazine because of the “narrative listening journals” which I usually find highly interesting and well written, as well as the measurements with J.A.s assessment of them.
Yes, in the end, what matters most is what I hear and how, or if, it moves me; not the engineering behind it (though I find the engineering fascinating). The question always is, will I like what the reviewer likes? Will the sound have the same emotional impact on me that it did for him/her? This is where measurements can be invaluable. Because of the loss of so many brick/mortar stores, it is very difficult to audition and compare equipment these days. J.A.’s measurements, and perhaps most importantly his assessment of what they may mean to the sound produced, are the perfect balance to the subjective review.
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It all gets bogged down.
Submitted by Anton on June 19, 2019 - 9:37am
When you say: '"The question always is, will I like what the reviewer likes? Will the sound have the same emotional impact on me that it did for him/her? This is where measurements can be invaluable."
Can you explain?
I don't see the way that measurements would provide me with data about the emotional impact.
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Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 19, 2019 - 9:49am
Let me give you one example ....... Recently reviewed BAT tube amplifier has high output impedance ...... Any such designed amplifier has very low 'damping factor' ....... hence, very little control over the loudspeaker transducers ....... One of the results is, bloated and boomy bass frequencies :-) ..........
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So, then, why would an objectivist care about sonic impressions?
Submitted by Anton on June 19, 2019 - 10:04am
Wouldn't an objectivist simply see the measurements and skip the listening impressions?
You mentioned how it measured, so the subjective review would either be 'wrong' or unneccessary, it would seem to me.
Not trying to be silly, just that your review of the measurements said it all.
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Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 19, 2019 - 10:34am
HR who reviewed that BAT amplifier, mentions in his review that, that BAT amplifier did not work well with his Magnepan loudspeakers ....... Most of the Magnepans have 4 Ohm resistive load ........ That BAT amp has virtually no control over the Magnepan, planar magnetic transducers :-) ..........
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Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 19, 2019 - 10:29am
BTW ...... I could have guessed, how that BAT amp may sound with low impedance loudspeakers, without reading the review and, just looking at the measurements ........ It is still interesting to read the review, since HR reviews with several different components including speakers, amps, DACs etc. :-) ...........
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Submitted by Herb Reichert on June 20, 2019 - 2:26pm
I read all the “well I guess you like the sound of distortion” comments associated with my review of the BAT VK65SE amplifier. And I laughed. Why? Because nobody seemed to notice that the BAT’s voltage amplifier and output stage used the exceedingly linear 6H30 and the 6C33B triodes. Both tubes generate plate curves that would be the envy of any transistor.
Likewise, no commenters noticed that the VK65SE employed only 3dB of global feedback! Therefore, the output impedance will naturally be higher and the damping factor will be lower than an amplifier with more feedback.
What do these complainers think? Victor Khomenko is incompetent? That he attended the prestigious Leningrad Polytechnic Institute and received an M.S. in physics and electronics, specializing in electronic emissions; plus spent his entire life in engineering; and could not figure how to achieve low THD or output impedance? Both “problems” are easily remedied with 20-30dB of global feedback. But at what musical-sonic price?
People said the same “I guess you like the sound of distortion” thing about First Watt SIT-3 designed by Nelson Pass. The SIT-3 is an ingenious study in simplicity and how to design a linear solid-state amplifier without feedback – by a proven master. But none of the commenters auditioned the amp or acknowledged the wizardry of its design. They judged the SIT-3’s effectiveness without ever using it for its intended purpose.
Please understand, all of today’s designers could easily make their amps measure and sound any way they want. Achieving good measurements is little more than high school math. Making an amplifier that will satisfy a broad range of users long-term is extremely difficult. And impossible if the designer has no clue what a high-quality amplifier should sound like.
Rest assured: Victor Khomenko and Nelson Pass measured and listened. But, if you only look at THD and damping factor - you will never understand what they achieved.
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Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 20, 2019 - 11:57am
BTW ....... I'm not a 'Bear' ....... I checked with my family and friends, before posting this comment :-) ........
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Submitted by Herb Reichert on June 20, 2019 - 2:29pm
my typo
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Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 20, 2019 - 3:07pm
No problem, thanks ........ I made that up anyway ......... I just checked with my bathroom mirror and made sure that I was not a bear, before posting that comment :-) ..........
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Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 23, 2019 - 7:09am
If HR wants to be adventurous, he could review the new Parasound Halo JC-5 stereo amp ....... It costs less than that BAT amp, BTW :-) .........
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Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 23, 2019 - 8:30am
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Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 20, 2019 - 12:04pm
As I suggested to you (HR) on an another forum, may be you (HR) could consider reviewing the Audiolab 6000A integrated amp? ........ 6000A was favorably reviewed in Hi-Fi News ........ 6000A has a very low output impedance of 0.01 to 0.03 Ohms ..... hence, a very high damping factor ........ Amazon sells Audiolab 6000A for $900 :-) ..........
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What do these complainers think?
Submitted by rt66indierock on June 21, 2019 - 12:45pm
Herb these complainers think you cannot identify a prestigious university. I’d be bitterly disappointed if the State University I graduated from was ranked as low as Victor Khomenko’s is in the world rankings. They also think you got the name of the university wrong. And finally, they are tired of your appeals to authority.
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Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 22, 2019 - 11:53am
The greatness of the University is determined by how much student loan debt you have :-) ..........
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For those who are interested ...........
Submitted by Bogolu Haranath on June 22, 2019 - 1:17pm
For those who are interested ........ Stereophile has published an article written by RD, about Victor Khomenko, his partner Steve Bednarski and BAT :-) ..........
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What was the design brief for ...
Submitted by Ortofan on June 22, 2019 - 4:23pm
... Victor Khomenko and Nelson Pass - to develop an amplifier that was subjectively "pleasant" or objectively "accurate"?
https://www.stereophile.com/content/manufacturers-comment-0
Could Nelson Pass design an amplifier that both measures as well as the Benchmark AHB2 and has the perceived sound quality of the SIT-3?
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"I don't see the way that
Submitted by Kal Rubinson on June 19, 2019 - 11:02am
"I don't see the way that measurements would provide me with data about the emotional impact."
Really? I see many that infuriate me. :-)
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Re: It all gets bogged down.
Submitted by JoethePop on June 19, 2019 - 11:36am
Measurements will never guarantee emotional impact, too many variables involved to claim that. They become invaluable to me (again including J.A.’s assessments) in avoiding speakers that I most likely will not like, regardless if the reviewer loved them.
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The Object is Delight
Submitted by sommovigo on June 19, 2019 - 7:22pm
If the object of listening to live music is enjoyment, uplift, communion, eargasm ... there’s no reason to change standards when changing the ‘venue’ from live to home electronics. And as there is no reliable measurement for the experience of delights (among which are enumerated some, above) except as filtered through the human being in the throes of eargasm ... of what use to the listener, the music enthusiast is an FFT (etc), at all?
Measurements are useful to the designer, but seem fairly irrelevant once the component finds its final resting place in the listening room of the music lover.
“He who tastes, knows ...”
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Facts are simple & facts are straight
Submitted by Robin Landseadel on June 25, 2019 - 3:07am
"Science requires us to have the courage to let our beautiful theories die public deaths at the hands of ugly facts. "
This is from an article from "Slate" about differences between Left and Right in politics. It applies to this thread as regards DBT. BTW, I'd like to see a DBT test, comparing the final track on an LP compared to the same track from its Digital source. In any case, here is an example of a study, Published in Science magazine, where an outside attempt to replicate that study failed to get the same result. Science magazine refused to post the rebuttal of the study they disseminated. I'm sure there's a lesson here to be learned that won't be:
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That's weird..
Submitted by RH on June 25, 2019 - 9:35am
I had been in dialogue with "ok" and all his comments have disappeared.
Server issues again?
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OK deleted his own comments,
Submitted by Jim Austin on June 25, 2019 - 11:39am
OK deleted his own comments, replacing text with a period because our system does not allow people to remove their own comments. Rather than leave those empty comments up on the site, I deleted them.
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Ok, thanks.
Submitted by RH on June 25, 2019 - 2:01pm
Ok, thanks.
An editor's work is never done!
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So then we'll just contnue...
Submitted by ChrisS on June 26, 2019 - 12:04am
...having Stereophile help us enjoy our music.
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JA's As we see it
Submitted by rzr on July 15, 2019 - 7:26am
I would like proof that Stereophile is the most high-end audio magazine in the world. IMO, You are in the top 5. I subscribe to other audio mags and I wish Stereophile would adopt some of the other publications features to make it better. For example:
1) A couple of the other magazines have many more pages, many more reviews, and the magazines themselves have a 25% larger format, and 1 of them is $2 cheaper per issue.
2) As for reviews, you claim there is a checklist for a company to have their product reviewed, but last year, Art reviewed a friends product.
3) I still can't get over the Totem review you guys messed up years ago and then tried to make it right by saying Totem's most entry speaker was 1 of their best.
4) You have reviewers that are so biased on certain formats that they will never give an open-minded review of a product outside of their bias.For example, check out this months Letters claiming Fremer hates/dislikes SET amps. In response, Stereophile defended Fremer. The Letter could have gone much further stating Fremer hates anything DIGITAL! I will never read another Fremer review outside of an analog product.
5) A lot of space is wasted per issue. For example: in this months Follow-up, you did 2 follow ups on the Joseph and Revel speakers. You did a very good job on the Revel follow up and appropriate. The Joseph speaker that you did a follow up on was not the same speaker as the original, but the Revel review was. The Joseph speaker had new technology in it so in my mind, this should have been a new review of a new speaker.
6) Reviewers should have good/great audio rooms. A dining room or living room isn't a good room. If the reviewers room is on the small side, then they should review small systems, or components that are designed for their size room.
7) Measurements? Why do we need them? What is the SQ difference if 1 product has .004% distortion and the other .0004%? No other expensive HOBBY magazine that I know of has measurements: auto, photography, audio. Other mags dig into the technology of the product but they don't disect it. In the end, they let their SENSES (eyes, ears, feel) dictate if the product is good, not by a graph or scatter plot.
8) It's almost always unfair to say a component is the BEST you have heard in your system. Why? Because the last time you reviewed a like component, your reference system was probably different that what you have today.For example: if you reviewed a DAC 4 years ago, your system was probably comprised of different components than what you have today. Maybe a few cables were changed or maybe your amps/preamp were changed, or worse, maybe you moved to a place with a better room. To actually state for certain that 'X' component is the best I have heard in my system, your system and listening room must be exactly the same.
9) when will a reviewer produce a negative review? NEVER (except for the Totem fiasco). I'll read a review of a $50k-$100k speaker and there will be parts of the review that are negative, but in the end, it's a glowing review. The reviewer always tilts the review to be positive.
10) Why doesn't Stereophile produce a segment on each of the reviewers listening rooms? Its size, room treatments, dedicated circuits, flooring, wall materials? TAS and HIFI+ have done this for years and it gives the reader insight on why a system sounds the way it does in the review.
11) Stereophile should create a cook off between products: amp vs amp, DAC vs DAC for example. But, the format should be done similar to how the car magazines do it. When say Road & Track compares 3 sports cars, they have 20 different criteria they evaluate and give each criteria a rating. These magazines aren't afraid of giving a car a bad rating either in each category or as a whole, and even if they are comparing the best with the best, somebody will always come in second and third. By the way, these car reviews are not done blind, each car reviewer knows what car they are driving. Same goes for audio. A good reviewer should leave their bias's at home
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The short answer is, there's not much difference! Both of these words mean "every person," and in dictionaries, the meaning of everyone is often given as everybody, and vice versa. However, it's worth mentioning that many people think everybody is a little more casual (more informal) than everyone.
What is the difference everyone and everybody?
Everyone and everybody mean the same. Everyone is a little more formal than everybody. Everyone is used more in writing than everybody: She knew everybody in the room.
How do you use the word everyone?
Everyone (one word) should be used when referring to all the people within a group. A good way to remember this is to note that the pronoun everyone may be replaced by everybody. See the examples below: The new protocols will affect everyone positively.
Has any of you vs Have any of you?
As "any of you" or "any one of you" refers to a specific component of a group, "has" is certainly correct. As others have pointed out, "have" is also correct. As always, English is highly sensitive to what we might call "empathy toward others' expectations and hopes."
Which is correct anybody has or anybody have?
Although “anybody” is in the third person singular, and hence the correct verb form used with it must contain an “s” (as in “anybody who has read the book …”), “have” in the situation described above is the only “correct” option.
Does anyone know correct?
Originally Answered: Which one is correct: anyone know or anyone knows? "Any one" is a pronoun and is singular.As a third person singular noun ,the question sentence should start with the auxiliary verb "does". So the correct answer is "Does anyone know"?
Does anyone of you or do anyone of you?
Originally Answered: Which one is correct, "Does anyone of you have a pen" or " does anyone of you has a pen”? When you use the auxiliary verb does you have to use the verb have with it. “Does anyone of you have a pen?” is correct.
Who know or knows?
The difference is between singular designation (1) and plural (2). When uses as a responsive question, “Who knows?” will be the correct version. Who knows is correct but depending on the tense you could also use who knew or who would know.
When to Use knows and know?
"Knows" is the singular, present-tense form of the verb. I think he knows exactly what you mean. However, there are certain sentence structures where "know" will be used with a plural form against a singular subject: How did Jacob know what you were planning?
What do you call a person that knows it all?
A pantomath is a person who wants to know or knows everything. ... In theory, a pantomath is not to be confused with a polymath in its less strict sense, much less with the related but very different terms philomath and know-it-all.
Does anyone know meaning?
Anyone does know; Although the form "subject + does + verb" is not popular, it is pretty grammatical. This form is principally used to emphasize a fact, particularly to contradict a previous assertion, with emphasis on "does": "I don't think anyone knows."
Does anyone use or uses?
Yes, he uses a dictionary. So basically, if you include do/does, go with the singular form of "use".
Does anyone need or needs?
In the first sentence, "anyone" is the subject of the verb, and it is a singular pronoun, so it takes a singular verb ("needs"). ... The second sentence can informally be abbreviated by dropping the "Does", which means that "Anyone need any help?" is the correct form.
Does anyone remember or remember?
Only the second is grammatically correct: Does anyone remember global dimming? In order to write the first, you would have to make "anyone" the one being addressed, in which case it would get offset by a comma: ... I have no idea what "global dimming" is.
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Most of what I thought I knew about grizzlies literally went out the window on June 6, 1998. That morning I was flying along the west coast of Hudson Bay with a team of four park officers for our first five-day foot patrol in newly-established Wapusk National Park. Better known for polar bears, Wapusk (Cree for “white bear”) lies just east of Churchill, Manitoba and you pronounce the word like you’re clearing your throat, with the emphasis on the first syllable.
The park is part of the world’s largest peat wetland, the Hudson Bay Lowlands, described by Zac Unger as an “inhospitable jumble of tundra, bogland, and thick willows”. It isn’t what’s usually considered grizzly bear habitat and the nearest grizzlies were then thought to be a very long way northwest, up in Nunavut’s Thelon Game Sanctuary. So when I looked down from the Canadian Coast Guard helicopter we were bumming a ride on to see a brown shaggy mass galloping along a beach ridge my first thought was “Funny, I can’t see the horns on that muskox”- a species which had been shot out there a century earlier, but which was still within the realm of the plausible. My next thought was “that’s not a muskox”. We took a few low passes over what was clearly a mature male grizzly in very good condition: I can still remember his body fat rolling as he ran, trying to put as much distance as possible between himself and that loud, red Bell 212.
I’d like to say that we were the first to see a grizzly in the park, but that distinction belongs to two USFWS personnel who photographed one in the same area two years earlier while surveying goose nests. However, our sighting got quite a bit of attention. Old-timers told me of sightings to the far northwest years ago, and a First Nation elder confirmed that there was a Cree name for that bear but it was not known from the park area (some families have since told me otherwise: grizzlies were there once, but they didn’t talk about them to anyone). For most folks though, and certainly within recent memory, these grizzly sightings were something new. It was news in a bigger sense too since grizzlies were thought to have been extirpated from the province of Manitoba during the 19th century.
Twenty years later it’s clear that our observation was at the beginning of something big. Soon grizzlies were seen every year in the park by scientists, park staff, and trappers. Over the past few years they’ve come closer to Churchill too, and – unsurprisingly – begun to come into conflict with people. At least two defense kills have taken place, and in July 2018 one that broke into a cabin was captured and released north of town wearing a GPS ear tag transmitter. Despite all this, after two decades of repeated observations grizzlies are still legally classified as “extirpated” under Manitoba’s Endangered Species and Ecosystems Act: a status that won’t change until evidence of breeding is documented within the province. So far, that hasn’t happened. No, it’s not an established population of grizzlies in Manitoba yet, but this is how that starts.
Wapusk’s grizzlies probably dispersed from established populations to the northwest in Nunavut and the Northwest Territories, though their historic distribution is not particularly well documented. Their range is also apparently expanding in other areas of the Arctic too. Very little is known about grizzlies in northern Manitoba. How are grizzly bears making a living up there? Where do they den? What has driven their most recent range expansion? Is it likely to continue, and if so, how far? Optimistically, could they ever make it around the Bay and back to the Ungava Peninsula or Labrador? No evidence of breeding has been seen in the park, though given the very large home range of barren-ground grizzlies in the central Canadian Arctic, the bears observed in northern Manitoba are very likely part of a larger, continuous regional population of barren-ground grizzlies. These bears appear to be benefiting from a warming Arctic, at least temporarily, though precisely why isn’t clear. There’s probably not just one cause either since there have been repeated range expansions and contractions by barren-ground grizzlies over time. One possible clue about what could be driving the dispersal was revealed by my kids late last summer when they went berry picking near Churchill. They filled a bucket with blueberries in less than an hour. I was stunned because twenty-five years ago I measured berry production in the same area when I was a graduate student and it would have taken at least a whole day to fill that bucket back then.
While food is important, grizzly bear survival usually comes down to human tolerance, so the human dimensions of this situation are probably going to determine how thoroughly grizzlies establish themselves in northern Manitoba. Some communities, such as Baker Lake, Nunavut, initially had a hard time adapting to them when they showed up in the early 2000’s. Inuit there faced increasing conflicts with grizzlies, mainly over caribou meat they’d harvested and often processed at their cabins. Remarkably though, the community showed impressive restraint towards bears considering many of the town’s residents are survivors of the mass starvation that occurred in the 1950s and ‘60s when the caribou they depended on failed to show up. Some in the region have described this expansion as a wave of grizzly bear colonization that moved past Baker Lake almost two decades ago and is now hitting Churchill. I’ve heard the whole gamut of responses to grizzlies there, ranging from fear of the unknown to intense curiosity about something new. Attitudes have shifted since 1998 when a Park Management Board member told me to get out there with a trap and a rifle and get rid of the grizzly we saw. There’s still caution but now there’s also pride as Churchill residents realize that they now live in the only place where all three North American bear species have actually been observed living together.
It’s easy to give in to despair about the Arctic since things are now changing so fast up there. As climate change impacts accelerate in the Arctic there is no shortage of surprises, and most are profoundly negative from the perspectives of many people who care about the Arctic environment and its inhabitants. That bear showing itself to us twenty years ago is one of the few positive surprises though, at least from my point of view. To put what it means into perspective, grizzlies have probably gained more ground in the Canadian Arctic in the past three decades than they lost in the lower 48 states during the 20th century. Of course, from a species conservation perspective this comparison is probably a false equivalency since in the Arctic it’s unlikely they’d ever reaching anything like the density or numbers they did in places like California or the Great Plains.
Nevertheless, one lesson I’ve drawn from the still-unfolding story of grizzlies in Wapusk is that we need to rethink our perspectives on environmental change and get a bit more comfortable with the notion of being surprised by how the natural world responds to what we’re throwing at it. Many surprises in the conservation world are definitely unwelcome and while some are genuine losses (e.g. the rippling aftershocks of whitebark pine’s demise in Yellowstone), maybe we should be less hasty condemning all such events. After all, a species that’s become an iconic symbol of lost wilderness down south now has a new frontier of its own up north and it appears to be making the most of it. While it’s probably a sign of some ecological changes that are pretty serious (especially for polar bears), is the presence of grizzlies in a place where we didn’t expect to find them a bad thing in itself? I have a hard time seeing how it could be, and I’m really curious to see the next chapters of this story.
Speculating about what that might look like is risky, but there are a few things I’ll be watching for on the western coast of Hudson Bay that are relevant to bears. Wapusk’s Arctic species will lose habitat and probably settle into new equilibria where they’re increasingly dominated by boreal forest species. This means more berries and increasingly shrub-dominated tundra. That will probably appeal to moose, grizzlies, and black bears, but less so to caribou. Fish populations will probably change: Pacific salmon species are moving rapidly into the western Arctic, for example. I don’t know if we’ll see them in Hudson Bay (or even Atlantic salmon moving westward) but that would obviously be game changer for terrestrial bears. Sea ice is inexorably declining in Hudson Bay, and not in a smooth linear way, so the region’s polar bears may hit very hard times with little or no warning. I wouldn’t want to be a bear of any species around there when that happens, but I’d bet that after the dust settles most of the bears left walking that shore will be brown with long claws, and perhaps carrying some polar bear DNA too. If those bears can come to an accommodation with the coast’s human inhabitants they’ll probably do just fine for a long time to come.
Douglas Clark is an Associate Professor and Centennial Chair in Human Dimensions at the University of Saskatchewan’s School of Environment and Sustainability. He served as the first Chief Warden of Wapusk National Park from 1997-2000.
And here is an important addendum from Doug: Grizzly bear-human conflicts are increasing in Churchill and nearby communities in Nunavut. In those places community members are very interested in working with Dr. Clark to monitor and better understand what bears are doing- especially around their remote cabins. Consequently we're seeking support to purchase at least 60 remote cameras for community members to deploy at their cabins, creating a regional citizen science monitoring network to understand and prevent conflicts between people and bears in this remote region. Anyone wishing to support this effort should email Dr. Clark at d.clark@usask.ca
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I got to conduct the 300 piece marching band at the University of Wisconsin in Madison
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Had an INSANELY GREAT time at my alma mater, the University of Wisconsin in Madison, this weekend. I got to conduct the 300 piece marching band playing my songs in the stadium packed with 82,000 people, and got to do it 3 times! This jumbotron shot happened during “Boogie Wonderland“ at the pregame show. I also got to conduct “I’ll Be There For You” during halftime, and both songs during a pre-pregame Badger Bash outside the stadium. Haven’t gone through the literally thousands of shots people have been sending me so there will be much more posted later of this incredible alumni weekend. But this particular moment was such a thrill I wanted to get it right up. And I still haven’t even gone through shots and vids from my whirlwind week before in Detroit doing my live show and being in Motown 60, fulfilling every childhood music dream I ever had. So lots more to post as the days go by. Go Badgers (we won the game against Northwestern)! And Onnnn Wisconsin!!
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Inspired by some other DIYers revamping chairs like this, and this, and this, and especially this, I've been keeping my eyes peeled for cheap chairs to revamp as a fun project.
I ran by UW surplus today and found this guy for $15
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Great! I figure this will be a perfect place to start.
Problem... I couldn't get the darned thing in my car. My car door frame was just too frickin' small! I had 8 different people walk by and tell me what a great chair I had as I was trying to shove the piece at different angles into my vehicle. All I kept thinking was that I was going to have to leave this 'great chair' on the street if I couldn't figure out a way to get it home!
Finally, I decided to bungee it into my trunk. Of course, I never added more bungees to my car, so I only have one old bungee! Luckily, I have my dog's car hammock which has loops that go over my car's head rests. I connected three of these loops to each other and used these as another strap to hold the chair in my trunk. As I was re-jiggering everything, it started raining. of course. Sigh!
I spent the whole car ride home worrying that the old bungee I had was going to snap and I would cause a crazy traffic jam over a $15 chair. blargh. Hopefully, this will be a fun project. I hope it's worth it!
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Anonymous said...
If I'm not too late...I suggest you research that piece before doing anything. Danish modern, period, and in what appears to be original condition - I strongly suggest you do the research. Its likely to be a pedestrian made for export piece (and if so then go to) but its lines make me stop, I've seen a design very much like that before in a book on design (I can't remember which) - best to be sure before you begin though.
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By Anna Belfrage / April 1, 2015 April 28, 2018 / 2 Comments / Historical People, History, Life and death, Writing / 18th century, Gustav III, murder at the ball, physical impediments, royal cuckoo
Gustav III by Roslin
Most people know very little about Swedish history – and that comment is valid for most Swedish people as well. If people know anything at all, they may have heard of Queen Kristina (because she abdicated and converted to Catholicism) or her bellicose father (Gustav II Adolf, for modernising warfare and pillaging the European continent). Some have heard of Karl XII, that warrior king of ours who supposedly was shot to death with a button. (Hmm. Will revert on that one) And then, of course, there’s the king of operatic fame, that graceful dandy who did everything he could to yank his backward, rustic kingdom into more sophisticated times. So, ladies and gents, today I give you Gustav III, the man who gave the elegant flourish a face in Sweden. Well, he gave Sweden a lot more than that, including the the Royal Opera, the Royal Ballet, the Royal Theatre and the Royal Swedish Academy (of Nobel prize fame) as well as a couple of fantastic theatres and a number of beautiful buildings. But what he’s famous for is his death, shot in the back while enjoying his Masquerade Ball. Oh yes; and then there’s the matter of his son…
Gustav was the son of Adolf Fredrik – the dude who ate himself to death, see here for more about him. Maybe his father’s early demise made Gustav more than aware of the dangers of excesses – at least when it came to food – and he remained slender and in good shape throughout his life. The clothes he was wearing when he was shot indicate a man we would consider slight, a tight fit to both the coats and trousers that would display an agile and wiry physique. Didn’t help much…
Our young hero was in Paris, imbibing the sophistication of all things French when his father died. He hastened home immediately, and a year or so later he pulled off a bloodless coup that effectively muzzled parliament, making Gustav III an absolute monarch. Ultimately, this high-handed behaviour would cost him his life. Many were the men who were more than upset at seeing a return to a form of government based on the divine rights of the king – no matter how enlightened a despot Gustav III might be.
This little coup of his is considered one of the better examples of a well-planned hostile take-over. Even historians who have little fondness for Gustav III, can’t but admire just how elegantly he played the masses on that sunny day in August of 1772 when he effectively deposed parliament and replaced it with himself. Not, Gustav III hastened to assure the confounded spectators, out of any genuine desire to rule, but because he felt it necessary to defend “our common Swedish liberties”. People hear what they want to hear, and Gustav III was handsome and gracious, a man who happily paraded himself before his subjects, more than aware of the importance of good PR.
Of course the man wanted to rule! He wanted to sink his hands into the rustic mess that was Sweden and shake it into appropriate Continental shape. Gustav III wanted glitter and glamour, he wanted French fashion and French food, Italian statues and architecture. His passion in life was the theatre, and to this day, two of the theatres he built remain in existence. The king himself was no mean actor and an even better director, filling his court with masques and operas, with emotional tragedies and lighthearted comedies, with dancers that capered about like fauns, with handsome men and delightful ladies.
The Swedes were okay with the theatrics, and they liked the delightful ladies part. A lot. The rest, they were less enthusiastic about. The King himself was not a ladies’ man. In fact, he seems to have been rather uninterested in the more erotic aspects of life, this due to a “physical impediment” that had his lady mother quite convinced her precious Gustav would never sire any children.
Fortunately for Sweden, Gustav had two younger brothers who more than made up for his deficiencies in the erotic areas, lining up an impressive collection of mistresses. It was to Duke Carl and Duke Fredrik Adolf that Dowager Queen Louisa Ulrika set her hope when it came to grandchildren, but for all their enthusiastic bedding, neither of these two gentlemen left any legitimate children. Their older brother, however, did – despite the impediment. Or did he?
Sofia Magdalena by Roslin
Let us backtrack a bit: In 1766, the then twenty-year-old Gustav had informed his mother that he intended to go through with the planned marriage to Sofia Magdalena, Danish princess. Gustav’s mother was not pleased. Her future daughter-in-law was not her choice. As to the princess herself, she wasn’t given any choice, and arrived in Sweden in November of 1766.
Where Gustav was outgoing and energetic, Sofia Magdalena was shy and phlegmatic. Where he was a man with a genuine appreciation of the arts, she was deeply religious and somewhat staid. He was happiest in front of an audience. She preferred being alone. In Gustav’s own words, he perceived his bride as being “ice cold”. She, apparently, never expressed an opinion. With so little in common, it is no surprise the newlyweds were far from happy. They lived separate lives, had as little as possible to do with each other, and where Gustav lived his life in the public eye, his wife preferred to melt into the background. So incompatible were they, that the marriage was not consummated. Not something anyone found particularly strange, given that little impediment.
By the late 1770s, Gustav had begun to realise his brothers weren’t about to fill a nursery. The royal line was threatened by extinction, so Gustav took a deep breath, downed a cup or two of fortifying wine, and … turned to his stable master for help. Said stable master was a Finnish gentleman named Adolf Munck, who, by all accounts, was well endowed and more than experienced in bedsport. In fact, Munck had the reputation of being a major rake, quite an achievement in an environment as libertine as that of Gustav III’s court.
Claiming “inexperience”, the king demanded Munck’s assistance in the royal bedchamber. And here I must just stop and take a breath, wondering how on earth this played out and just what poor Sofia Magdalena might have thought of all this. It’s not as she could close her eyes and think of England…
As per Munck’s memoirs, he was obliged to “physically touch and guide” so as to ensure consummation took place. His contemporaries were far more crude, as can be seen in this caricature. The Dowager Queen was more inclined to believe the artist than her son’s version – especially given the very expensive watch Sofia Magdalena presented Munck with. When the court announced the Queen was expecting, the Dowager Queen called a meeting with her younger sons, explained that she wasn’t about to let the bastard of an up-and-coming Finn usurp their royal rights, and actively went about spreading the rumours that her eldest son, the king, was a cuckold and the expected child a bastard. After all, she added sadly, she knew for a fact her eldest son was incapable of ever fathering a child. Nice lady…
Predictably, Gustav III flew into a rage.He banished his mother from Sweden, but was convinced to allow her to stay if she issued a writ, stating all her previous statements had been malicious gossip, which she did. Except, of course, that when some months later, a little prince saw the light of the day, the Dowager Queen sent Gustav III a letter in which she expressed she was happy for him but hoped that the scales would soon drop from his eyes and have him realise the baby was no prince. This time, the rift between mother and son became permanent. Only when Louisa Ulrika lay on her deathbed were they reconciled – ironically with the then four-year-old crown prince present…
By all accounts, Gustav was fond of his son, little Gustav Adolf. He was even more fond of son number two, born four years later, but this child was not destined to live. Gustav took his death very hard – so hard some of the more cold-hearted among his companions took it for an indirect admission that only the youngest boy was Gustav’s true-born son. Gustav recovered from the loss of his son and went back to his life of arts and theatre, of planned spectacles and lavish parties. And to ruling his nation, of course.
Gustav III was in many ways a competent ruler. Influenced by the Enlightenment, he revised the judicial system, restricted the use of the death penalty, advocated religious liberty (to a point), implemented laws to protect the poor, promoted free trade in some areas, reviewed fiscal policy and even allowed a certain freedom of press. In 1778, he presented all his achievements to Parliament and was hailed and lauded by its members. Some of the savvier members, however, noted that the king repeatedly drove home that it was he, not Parliament, that held the power. These savvier members were less than happy with the development, and when next the king called a Parliament, in 1786, his opponents had prepared themselves. This time, each and every one of the king’s suggestions were either rejected or so modified the king himself retracted them. Gustav’s solution to the dilemma posed by the uncooperative Parliament was simple: he ignored them.
In 1788, Gustav resorted to that most ancient of distracting devices, he declared war on Russia. Some of his more level-headed aristocratic officers were appalled, and mutinied. This gave Gustav just the excuse he needed. Swiftly, he squashed the mutiny and called a Parliament, explaining that in the present circumstances the future of Sweden was at stake unless he was given unlimited (well, more or less) powers. These hot-blooded aristocrats needed to be brought to heel, he added, throwing an elegant sop at the feet of the other three Estates (The Swedish Parliament consisted of four Estates: The aristocracy, the clergy, the burghers and the farmers) Parliament agreed – or at least three of the Estates did – and the act of Union and Security was passed, whereby the king was given almost unrestricted executive powers. Parliament, however, wisely chose to remain in control of the purse strings.
Gustav III won his war with Russia. Life, in his opinion, was pretty good, albeit that he was very concerned about the development in France. He should have been as concerned about certain events in his own country. The disgruntled aristocrats had had enough, and under Gustav III’s very nose, a conspiracy grew. It is said that the conspiracy numbered close to 3 000 people. “Never has a conspiracy had so many members, never has the vows of secrecy been so carefully kept.” At some point, the more daring among the conspirators decided the king had to die. That caused a couple of swallows: regicide is never pretty, and as most of the leading conspirators were aristocrats, they definitely didn’t want to inspire something similar to the bloodbath presently drenching France. Still, at some point they nodded solemnly and agreed: the king must die.
The clothes Gustav III was shot in
On March 16, 1792, Gustav III held a magnificent Masquerade Ball at the Royal Opera House. Everyone was there – including a number of the men charged with the task to kill him. One of the involved men suffered a case of cold feet and sent the king a warning, but Gustav III did not take it seriously – he received such warnings too often to do so. No sooner did he enter the large ballroom but he was surrounded by a group of men in black masks and black cloaks. Moments later, a shot went off, and the king cried out “Je suis blessé, tirez-moi d’ici et arrêtez-le!” (I am hurt, carry me away from here and arrest him).
The king was immediately transported to a separate room and placed on a sofa. All other exits to the Opera were sealed. Meanwhile, the king was doing his best to make light of things, conversing with the few people allowed in to see him, joking about the spreading stain of blood on his cloak and the sofa. At long last, arrangements were made to carry him back to the palace. He is said to have laughed – if weakly – when lifted, saying that here he was, being carried about like the pope.
By the morning, the man who had fired the gun, a certain Anckarström, was under arrest. He had actually managed to flee the Opera, but his gun was left behind, and a gunsmith recognised it. Anckarström immediately confessed to murder, but denied the existence of any conspiracy. However, other people were arrested, and pretty soon the extent of the conspiracy became clear, even if most of those arrested refused to name anyone.
The king, however, still lived. The shot had hit him in the lower back, to the side, and the physicians were hopeful of saving his life – at least initially. But when infection set in, it became apparent to all that the king would die, and a slow painful death it was, until at last, on March 29, he expired. So died a king who lived and breathed art, whose love of song and language left behind a legacy of poets and composers. So died a king who insisted on his divine right to rule, yet applauded the birth of the United States of America (Sweden was one of the first nations to recognise the fledgling state, the king having expressed that were it not for the fact that he was a king, he’d be more than happy to join the courageous effort to create a new country). An enigma in some ways, a sunny extrovert in others. A man who always knew that the world it is a stage, and a king must live and die, forever in the public eye.
Anckarström being flogged
Anckarström was executed. For three days, he was whipped publicly before being beheaded before a huge and silent crowd. The rest of the conspirators went back to their normal lives, and the fourteen-year-old Gustav Adolf was crowned as king. But was he truly the son of Gustav III? Wasn’t there an uncanny resemblance to Adolf Munck? Gossip flew unhindered now that Gustav III was dead, and among those who spread the rumours about the new little king’s parentage were his uncles and aunt.
When, in 1809, Gustav Adolf was forced to abdicate (he was blamed – to some extent deservedly – for the loss of Finland), he did so to safeguard the crown for his own little son. Parliament was having none of it, barring Gustav Adolf’s children from the succession. Yet again, that infamous little impediment came into play, and instead of the ten-year-old potential grandson of Gustav III, Parliament chose to give the crown to Gustav’s senile brother, Duke Carl, who ascended the throne as Carl XIII. Gustav Adolf and his family were sent off to exile, and instead of a true-born heir to the Swedish throne, a certain French marshal, Jean Baptiste Bernadotte, was adopted by Carl XIII.
Many years later, in 1882, Gustav Bernadotte (soon to be Gustav V of Sweden) was to marry the great-granddaughter of Gustav IV Adolf, Victoria of Baden. A vindication of sorts, even if by then the man who lived his life in the shadow of his father’s impediment had been dead for fifty years. As a consequence of this wedding, Gustav Adolf’s remains were brought back to Sweden, together with those of his son and his baby grandson, and re-interred. Somehow, I think they were beyond caring by then.
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2 thoughts on “The royal impediment – of a king and his heir”
February 26, 2021 at 12:39 pm
Wow a whole lot of Swedish history I, like many Brits knew nothing about.
This sounds fascinating, as intriguing as our Tudor period and of course everyone has heard of the antics of Henry VIII and Queen Elizabeth I.
But to us British, Swedish history is mostly unknown. Even the invasions of Britain from Scandinavia seems to be mostly from Norway or Denmark, rather than Sweden.
There are so many mini-series on our (British) monarchy, or of the French monarchy. I wonder if there are Swedish equivalents. It certainly sounds like these would be well worth watching.
February 26, 2021 at 3:37 pm
Glad you found it interesting! Gustav III is a fascinating figure. His son (Whether he was his yes or no) came to a bad end and was forced to abdicate and go into exile.
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An RV fire is something I hope you don’t ever have to deal with, especially when one is a full time RVer! For those that are traveling either part or full time in our homes on wheels, an RV fire can ruin a vacation, possibly create injury, could lead to financial loss or even death in the worst case scenario! RV fires are the leading cause of motorhome loss for the millions of them that are on the road.
So what are some of the RV fire causes? What are some of the most common hazards that you need to be aware of in order to avoid losing your home on wheels?
5th Wheel Fire at a Campground
The Main Causes of Fire While the RV is in Motion!
There are two concerns while the RV is moving and that is the engine compartment and the areas around the tires and axles.
The Main Causes of Fire While the RV is Parked!
There are two concerns while the RV is parked and those are the RV type refrigerators and electrical issues concerning electrical shorts and faulty wiring.
Let’s look a little further into these and other causes!
A pinhole-sized leak in a radiator or heater hose can spray antifreeze on hot engine parts. Antifreeze contains ethylene glycol concentrate and water. When the water boils off, the remaining ethylene glycol can self-ignite at 782 degrees F. During your monthly fire inspection, check all hoses for firmness, clamp tightness, and signs of leaking.
Rubber fuel lines are commonly used to connect metal lines to the electronic fuel injection system, or to the carburetor in older coaches. Check all the lines and connections between the fuel tank and the engine on a monthly basis. If there is any sign of a leak, have the lines replaced and the entire system inspected by a qualified mechanic as soon as possible.
A hard-working engine manifold can get as hot as 900 degrees F. The heavy insulation in the compartment reflects the heat back to the top of the engine, and a fire can easily break out. Inspect your radiator and have any problems repaired by a qualified person as soon as possible.
Grease, oil, and road dust build up on the engine and transmission, making them run hotter. The grime itself usually doesn’t burn, but if combined with a fuel leak or short-circuited wire, a fire could start. Keep your coach’s underpinnings clean, and it will run cooler, more economically, and longer.
Be sure you have the latest update for your Norcold or Dometic refrigerator! You need to have the latest high temperature cut off switch installed. You can go to the manufacturer site to verify if your upgrade has been installed. Also, be sure you have good ventilation through the outside vents. 12-volt cooling fans can be installed to help the unit run more efficiently.
A dragging brake can create enough friction to ignite a tire or brake fluid. Some of the worst fires are those caused when one tire of a dual or tandem pair goes flat, scuffs, and ignites long before the driver feels any change in handling. At each stop, give tires at least an eyeball check. When tires are cool, tap your duals with a club and listen for a difference in sound from one tire to the next. You can often tell if one is going soft.
Driving with propane on can add to the danger if you are involved in an accident or have a fire. Most refrigerators will keep food cold or frozen for eight hours without running while you travel. Shut the propane off at the tank.
If you store your coach, be sure to check the flue before starting your refrigerator on propane. Birds and insects can build nests and clog the flue, causing a fire or excess carbon monoxide to enter your coach.
Batteries produce explosive gasses. Keep flame, cigarettes, and sparks away. Be sure your battery compartment is properly vented. Keep vent caps tight and level. Check your battery monthly. Replace swollen batteries immediately. Use extreme care when handling batteries, they can explode.
Have any wiring in your coach done by a capable electrician, and use common sense in using any electrical aid. Check all 12-volt connections before and after every trip. Most coach fires are caused by a 12-volt short.
Be sure to be using an electrical management system for your RV! Never plug your shore power cord into an RV park pedestal without knowing if the electricity you are receiving is what your RV needs. You must check out this post for more information on this!
Gasoline and propane can pose an immediate, explosive danger. Though diesel fuel is less volatile, it dissipates more slowly, so it remains a danger longer. Deal at once with any leaks or spills, and use all fuels in an adequately vented area.
Even if the flame on your galley stove goes out, gas continues to flow and could result in an explosion. A stove should never be left unattended or used to heat your coach. Open propane flames release high levels of carbon monoxide.
In a compact galley, all combustibles, from paper towels to curtains, are apt to be closer to the stove, so use even more caution in your coach than you do at home. A box of baking soda, the ingredient in powder extinguishers, can be used in lieu of a fire extinguisher for minor galley flare-ups.
It can happen anywhere!
Make sure all travelers know what the smoke alarm sounds like and what to do when they hear it. Test your smoke detector regularly.
Have at least two escape routes: one in the front and one in the rear of the coach. As soon as they’re old enough, teach children to open hatches and emergency exits.
Review with everyone the “Stop, Drop, and Roll” rule so they know what to do when clothing is on fire.
Make sure visitors can open the front door. Not all manufacturers use the same lock and latch assembly.
Choose a rallying point where everyone will meet immediately after escaping, so everyone can be accounted for.
Show travelers how to unhook electricity (screw-on cords can be tricky) and how to close propane valves, in case either of these measures is called for.
Practice unhooking your tow vehicle as quickly as possible to avoid spreading the fire to other vehicles.
Re-emphasize to everyone aboard that objects can be replaced, people can’t. Never stay behind or re-enter a burning coach to retrieve anything.
There are plenty of fire and life safety tools that can save lives, but for them to be effective, they must be in working condition and you must know how to use them properly.
You should have three fire extinguishers for your coach, one in the galley, one in the bedroom, and one outside of the coach in an unlocked compartment or in your tow vehicle. Make sure family members know how to use the extinguishers and understand which extinguishers are effective on various fires.
During your monthly inspection, check the fire extinguisher gauge to determine if there is pressure in the extinguisher. If the gauge indicates empty or needs charging, replace or recharge the extinguisher immediately. To test non-gauged extinguishers, push the plunger indicator (usually green or black) down. If it does not come back up, the extinguisher has no pressure to expel its contents. If you need help testing your fire extinguishers, check with your local fire department.
Do not pull the pin and expel the contents to test your powder extinguisher. If you use a portion of the powder extinguisher, have it refilled or replaced immediately. When you have a fire extinguisher refilled, ask to shoot off the charge first (most refill stations have a special place where this can be done safely). This lets you see how far it shoots and how long a charge lasts.
Invert and shake your dry-powder or dry-chemical extinguisher monthly to loosen the powder. The jarring of the coach does not loosen the powder; in fact, it packs the powder, which may make your extinguisher ineffective.
Deadly, invisible, odorless CO usually results from exhaust leaks or misuse of heating devices. Be sure to put your CO detector in the bedroom. The proper location is on the ceiling or an inside wall, at least eight inches from the ceiling and at least four feet from the floor.
Liquid petroleum gas, like gasoline fumes, tends to pool in low spots in the coach until a spark sets it off. Newer motorhomes are equipped with an automatic shut-off for when its sensor detects an LPG leak. If you have a leak, be sure to shut the propane off at the tank.
The first rule of RV firefighting is to save lives first and property second. Get yourself and your family to safety before attempting to extinguish a fire. Only if you can do so without endangering yourself or others should you use firefighting aids on that are on hand.
Get help. Adults and older children should know how to dial 911 or 0, and how to get emergency help on any CB, VHF, or ham radio available.
It’s crucial to know your location so firefighters can find you.
If you have a quick-disconnect fitting on your water hookup, these hoses can be unhooked instantly to fight a fire. If a nearby coach is burning and you cannot move your coach but can safely stay close enough to keep it hosed down, you may be able to save it.
Thanks to Mac McCoy for this information! He has served 33 years in the fire service. Mac has taught civilians, military, firefighters and law enforcement firefighting skills and techniques in the United States and abroad.
Howard and Pam
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Tim on June 17, 2020 at 12:39 PM
No mention of a propane leak detector. Do you recommend them?
Howard on June 20, 2020 at 8:57 PM
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Propane leak detectors are required to be installed by the manufacturers if the RV has a propane system. Yes, they are extremely important! Also, they have expiration dates that need to be checked so a replacement can be made when needed.
Edmund A Hoag on January 21, 2018 at 7:59 AM
Im not sure if you know that macCoys health is not good. I have known mac for years and as a brother firefighter and friend the industry is losing the best. Tell all the people you know to wish Mac the best and send him prayers
Howard on January 21, 2018 at 12:35 PM
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Thanks for stopping by our website and checking in.
I had not heard that Mac was in poor health. His website URL has expired so that must mean he is not on the Rally circuit as he had been just a few years ago. Pray for Mac! His advice to RVers on fire safety is very helpful!!
sally on January 27, 2016 at 11:16 PM
This is a great Article!!! Thank you so much, so many things to consider when full timing, alot of people do not consider.
Maureen Lynch on September 30, 2015 at 5:47 PM
Such great advice!
I spent time with Mac the Fire Guy in Tucson in March, attending his sessions during RV 101 Boot Camp and again at the Escapade. I was also at his sessions at the FMHA Rally in Pomona, CA.
He promotes the use of a PVC stick to hold the heavy Exit window open and an ABS tube cut to fit over the sharp track on the Exit window. He also says that if we don’t make those for our rigs within 48 hours, we won’t do it.
I’m typically in Thousand Trails campgrounds these days, currently in Kenisee Lake in Ohio. Were you here a few weeks ago? I thought I saw a rig similar to the one pictured here.
Howard on September 30, 2015 at 10:00 PM
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Thanks for stopping by our website! Glad to hear this information reinforced some things that Mac shared with you at his live event.
Yes, we were in Kenisee Lake back in late August/early September. We enjoyed our time there!
Happy travels to you as well!!
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That means if Nasus kills all of the large monsters in a single jungle clear with his Q, he can rack up 72 stacks alone.
ultimate, Nasus is stronger than most champions in the League. Engage him only if you have a clear advantage. Wither is a very effective counter to attack damage champions, so try to avoid getting caught alone by it.
Does Nasus gain size with stacks?
The changes to Nasus’ W on Patch 10.7 are an AD carry’s worst nightmare. On top of that, a buff to his R, Fury of the Sands, will increase his model and AoE size by 5% every 100 stacks of Q. With Nasus players averaging upwards of 400 stacks a game, the Curator of the Sands will become one big boy in the late game.
How do I stop Nasus from getting stacks?
What I’d do on Darius is:
Consider going phase rush to counter wither.
Keep him off the wave early, set up a slow push and crash it into his tower around level 3.
Turn the bouncing wave into a freeze.
Keep this up.
When you break your freeze, or once Nasus becomes strong enough to contest it, just shove and roam.
Is Nasus strong early game?
He can be incredibly hard to stop if he is ahead. While he is drawing pressure, his team can siege or fight elsewhere. Incredibly weak early game. This means he needs to play safe and avoid trading until he’s got quite a few levels under his belt.
How old is Nasus?
Nasus is over 3796 years old and less than 3900 years old. He fought alongside Setaka for 3 centuries before she died in the battle of Icathia, which happened around 2500 BN or 3500 years ago. Renekton’s older brother and both became Ascended at the same time.
Who is Nasus counter?
The best champions that counter Nasus are Gnar, Illaoi, Camille, Karma, Wukong. You can find all the matchup tips we use in this guide on the Mobalytics App. For plus members, you can get specific matchup tips for the champion you’re playing versus the enemy laner at your fingertips while you load into the game.
What is Nasus the god of?
Overview. Nasus the Curator of the Sands is based on the Egyptian god Anubis, featured in the game League of Legends. His abilities revolve around dealing damage over time as well as inflicting large scale damage onto foes, using his Avatar of Death ability.
Sylas. Sylas is one of the toughest matchups to deal with for Nasus. His low cooldowns, sustain, and high base damage make him a huge threat for the scaling top laner. Look into using your Petricite Burst (P) early on to damage Nasus when he attempts to last-hit any creep.
Is Nasus weak early game?
Nasus is a really good split pusher and should be looking to split push and open up the map during the later parts of the game. He can be incredibly hard to stop if he is ahead. While he is drawing pressure, his team can siege or fight elsewhere. Incredibly weak early game.
Nasus is a top-lane fighter. He really struggles in the early game but once you reach the late game and have a lot of stacks from Siphoning Strike, you have the potential to one-shot enemies. The way you get stacks from Siphoning Strike is by using the ability to last hit minions.
Who scales the hardest in league?
Kassadin Kassadin is the ultimate scaler in League of Legends. He is really bad early on, but with every Ultimate upgrade (levels 6, 11 and 16) he becomes stronger and stronger. The longer the game goes and the more gold and items Kassawin has under his belt, he becomes stronger and stronger.
Nasus is an imposing, jackal-headed Ascended being from ancient Shurima, a heroic figure regarded as a demigod by the people of the desert.
Nasus is an AD champion that mainly deals physical damage. His primary source of damage is his Q – Siphoning Strike, which gains permanent stacks of AD each time Nasus slays a minion. However, Nasus’ E – Spirit Fire deals magic damage and scales with AP, so you can also play Nasus full AP.
Irelia Top vs Nasus Top Build & Runes Irelia wins against Nasus 48.32% of the time which is 0.11% higher against Nasus than the average opponent. After normalising both champions win rates Irelia wins against Nasus 1.02% more often than would be expected.
Gameplay. Nasus literally means “nose” in Latin – referencing his golden wolf head’s long nose. During development he was simply called Anubis Head or ‘Ammon’ “hidden, unseen”.
Is Nasus weak early?
Right, when a late game champion cannot be bullied out of lane because 12% lifesteal exists. When a late game champion can fight you at level 2 or 3 because his W is well balanced ability. You can’t freeze against Nasus because his E exists.
Can anyone beat Nasus late game?
While Nasus is a late-game powerhouse, he can be stopped by various champions during the laning phase to ensure he doesn’t snowball. On top of that, there’s plenty of available items to lower his sustain or help you kite him to death since he doesn’t have any movement abilities in his kit.
Is Nasus hard to play?
Nasus is very vulnerable in the first few minutes of the game, which can be difficult for new players. He will not deal enough damage with Siphoning Strike until players can collect a fair amount of stacks.
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Whether you are buying a house, a new car, or starting a new business, you need funding. Personal loans will come to your rescue at this point. Did you know that more than 23% of Australians have or will have some personal loan? Surprising, isn’t that?
The need for loans has spiked with the increase in vacations, desire for holiday homes, new cars, and overhaul of homes combined with inflation. But what type of loans are available, you might wonder. This article will solve your queries regarding the various personal loans available. You’ll also understand when you can take out a loan.
1 Reasons to take a personal loan
2 Types of personal loan
2.1 1.Unsecured loan
2.2 2.Secured loan
2.3 3.Fixed-rate loan
2.4 4.Variable-rate loan
2.5 5.Student loan
Reasons to take a personal loan
There are several reasons to take out a personal loan. You might often face a financial crunch, so you might need a loan to pay your utilities merely. Moreover, you might need loans to achieve your financial goals and accomplish specific dreams on your bucket list.
Succinctly, here are some of the reasons you might need a loan:
To buy a new car
Property investment
Purchase furniture and appliances
These and much more reasons exist to get a personal loan. With the prices of goods and services skyrocketing, it is only prudent to apply for a loan.
Types of personal loan
Several options exist for choosing the right personal loan. You need to ensure you analyze your needs, financial situation, and several other factors before picking the type of loan. Moreover, you must ensure you read your documents’ fine print.
While you are analyzing, you’ll find it helpful to know that the following types of loans exist:
1.Unsecured loan
You can take up an unsecured loan if you don’t want to use your asset as collateral. They have lower interest rates. But they can be expensive if you fail to repay your loans on time.
2.Secured loan
You can take up a secured loan if you have assets to put up as collateral. Collateral can involve paper of your house, cars, jewellery, or any other asset. If you fail to repay your loan, the lender can take possession of your asset.
These loans have low-interest rates and low repayment fees.
3.Fixed-rate loan
A fixed-rate loan is a type of loan with a fixed interest rate. This means you can get a loan without worrying about fluctuating interest rates. Moreover, your repayments will remain the same throughout your loan cycle.
4.Variable-rate loan
A variable rate loan means your repayment will fluctuate depending on the market interest rate. In this case, it can prove beneficial if the interest rates dip. The contrast is proper. You can find yourself in a hassle due to the sudden hike in interest rates.
5.Student loan
These are loans you take when studying at a university. The rising university tuition and accommodation fees mean that you need financial help to be a good student. In these loans, you might avoid an upfront fee, and it can be deferred for five years.
This loan offers you a line of credit. You can borrow money from the bank and overdraw your account to an agreed amount. You pay interest on the money you use.
Personal Loans can prove lifesaving if you have a medical emergency. Also, you can use it for your leisure requirements. You need to bear in mind that several types exist. However, irrespective of the type, you will incur interest, charges, and fees during your loan term. So, you need to read your loan documents carefully.
You can access several types of loans: secured, unsecured, student, fixed-rate, variable-rate, and overdraft. You must check the fees, interest rate, repayment dates, and borrowing amount. So, research thoroughly before you take out a personal loan.
Author Bio:
Alison Lurie is a farmer of words in the field of creativity. She is an experienced independent content writer with a demonstrated history of working in the writing and editing industry. She is a multi-niche content chef who loves cooking new things.
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If you’re one of the nearly 44 million Americans estimated to have a mental health condition, the 2010 health law is supposed to help you get treatment.
Yet actually getting that help depends, new research suggests, on who you are and, to an extent, on your racial background. While more people overall are getting mental health care, it’s still harder to do if you are not white.
Researchers analyzed National Survey on Drug Use and Health data from 2005 to 2014 and predicted how many people were likely to face “serious psychological distress” — a severe mental health issue that the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention estimates affects about 3.3 percent of non-institutionalized Americans. They treated that as a proxy to evaluate how people with mental illness access care generally. Then, they measured how many people received mental health care treatment — at least one inpatient, outpatient or pharmacy visit — during those years, comparing whites, Hispanics, blacks and Asians.
The findings were published Monday in Health Affairs.
“There was some hope that with the [health law] boosting coverage for everyone — and in particular, minorities who have historically been left out of insurance coverage — you’d see a little more help for folks in those groups,” said Timothy Creedon, the study’s main author and a doctoral student at Brandeis University.
This KHN story can be republished for free (details).
But the research finds that hope has not yet panned out.
The breakdown: Whites were still the only racial group in which a majority of people with severe psychological distress get treatment. They were also the only group whose access to mental health services grew by a statistically significant amount, from near 50 percent to about 55 percent, after the federal law was implemented.
Hispanics and Asians are now more likely to find care than they used to be. But the growth wasn’t significantly more than recent trends predating the Affordable Care Act would have suggested — implying the health law didn’t really make a difference, the authors argue. Blacks are no more likely to get mental health treatment than they used to be. And in all three of those groups, more than half of people facing severe mental illness still don’t get treatment.
Unequal access to mental health care isn’t a new problem.
Given how common mental illness is, that matters. For one thing, it’s a drain on the system, said Jeanne Miranda, a professor of psychiatry and biobehavioral sciences at the University of California, Los Angeles, who researches mental health and health disparities but was not involved with the study.
“People with mental health problems that go untreated do more poorly at work, and in health care can cost more. If you have heart disease and are depressed, you’re going to come out worse,” she said.
These findings suggest that, when it comes to mental health, the health law’s coverage expansions haven’t closed the care gap, said Benjamin Le Cook, the study’s coauthor and an assistant professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School.
But that said, the analysis stopped in 2014, one year after the health law took effect. “You’re not going to see an impact and major changes in terms of detecting racial and ethnic disparities this early. So we need more time to see how things work out,” said Charlene Le Fauve, deputy director for the National Institute of Mental Health’s Office for Research on Disparities and Global Mental Health. “One year is just not enough data.” La Fauve was not associated with the study.
Since then, factors have come into play that could make a difference. For instance, more states have expanded Medicaid, the insurance program for low-income people. And buying coverage on state or federal exchanges is easier than it was when the health law’s online marketplaces first launched. These changes could benefit historically underserved groups. Plus, since 2014, people have continued learning how to use their plans and what benefits they have that they might not have known about.
In addition, minorities are often more likely to be poor, less likely to be treated by doctors of their same race and, in many cases, less likely to know they have a condition that requires professional care, Miranda said. Those all build upon each other. Doctors also sometimes discriminate against which patients they’ll see, recent research suggests, declining minority patients more often. If people think their doctors don’t understand or empathize with their background, they’re less likely to come in for care, Cook added.
Unless such awareness issues and cultural gaps are addressed, too, getting more people covered — while a first step — isn’t enough, note the researchers.
Miranda echoed that concern. “If you walk into a place, and everybody looks white, and you’re not, or they don’t speak your language, that’s huge,” she said.
Cook said policymakers need to think creatively about ways to connect people with health care, not “let the mental health system off the hook.”
“There are some different ways that racial and ethnic groups think about mental illness. And that may be culturally driven, and the system should figure that out,” he said. “They should work with those communities to figure out how to manage that.”
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If you’re one of the nearly 44 million Americans estimated to have a mental health condition, the 2010 health law is supposed to help you get treatment.
Yet actually getting that help depends, new research suggests, on who you are and, to an extent, on your racial background. While more people overall are getting mental health care, it’s still harder to do if you are not white.
Researchers analyzed National Survey on Drug Use and Health data from 2005 to 2014 and predicted how many people were likely to face “serious psychological distress” — a severe mental health issue that the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention estimates affects about 3.3 percent of non-institutionalized Americans. They treated that as a proxy to evaluate how people with mental illness access care generally. Then, they measured how many people received mental health care treatment — at least one inpatient, outpatient or pharmacy visit — during those years, comparing whites, Hispanics, blacks and Asians.
The findings were published Monday in Health Affairs.
“There was some hope that with the [health law] boosting coverage for everyone — and in particular, minorities who have historically been left out of insurance coverage — you’d see a little more help for folks in those groups,” said Timothy Creedon, the study’s main author and a doctoral student at Brandeis University.
This KHN story can be republished for free (details).
But the research finds that hope has not yet panned out.
The breakdown: Whites were still the only racial group in which a majority of people with severe psychological distress get treatment. They were also the only group whose access to mental health services grew by a statistically significant amount, from near 50 percent to about 55 percent, after the federal law was implemented.
Hispanics and Asians are now more likely to find care than they used to be. But the growth wasn’t significantly more than recent trends predating the Affordable Care Act would have suggested — implying the health law didn’t really make a difference, the authors argue. Blacks are no more likely to get mental health treatment than they used to be. And in all three of those groups, more than half of people facing severe mental illness still don’t get treatment.
Unequal access to mental health care isn’t a new problem.
Given how common mental illness is, that matters. For one thing, it’s a drain on the system, said Jeanne Miranda, a professor of psychiatry and biobehavioral sciences at the University of California, Los Angeles, who researches mental health and health disparities but was not involved with the study.
“People with mental health problems that go untreated do more poorly at work, and in health care can cost more. If you have heart disease and are depressed, you’re going to come out worse,” she said.
These findings suggest that, when it comes to mental health, the health law’s coverage expansions haven’t closed the care gap, said Benjamin Le Cook, the study’s coauthor and an assistant professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School.
But that said, the analysis stopped in 2014, one year after the health law took effect. “You’re not going to see an impact and major changes in terms of detecting racial and ethnic disparities this early. So we need more time to see how things work out,” said Charlene Le Fauve, deputy director for the National Institute of Mental Health’s Office for Research on Disparities and Global Mental Health. “One year is just not enough data.” La Fauve was not associated with the study.
Since then, factors have come into play that could make a difference. For instance, more states have expanded Medicaid, the insurance program for low-income people. And buying coverage on state or federal exchanges is easier than it was when the health law’s online marketplaces first launched. These changes could benefit historically underserved groups. Plus, since 2014, people have continued learning how to use their plans and what benefits they have that they might not have known about.
In addition, minorities are often more likely to be poor, less likely to be treated by doctors of their same race and, in many cases, less likely to know they have a condition that requires professional care, Miranda said. Those all build upon each other. Doctors also sometimes discriminate against which patients they’ll see, recent research suggests, declining minority patients more often. If people think their doctors don’t understand or empathize with their background, they’re less likely to come in for care, Cook added.
Unless such awareness issues and cultural gaps are addressed, too, getting more people covered — while a first step — isn’t enough, note the researchers.
Miranda echoed that concern. “If you walk into a place, and everybody looks white, and you’re not, or they don’t speak your language, that’s huge,” she said.
Cook said policymakers need to think creatively about ways to connect people with health care, not “let the mental health system off the hook.”
“There are some different ways that racial and ethnic groups think about mental illness. And that may be culturally driven, and the system should figure that out,” he said. “They should work with those communities to figure out how to manage that.”
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The customer experience profession is evolving to recognize the importance of going beyond the customer. If a company’s culture doesn’t include employee experiences then it will be difficult to mature a CX program. Host Steve Walker welcomes Karyn Furstman, CCXP, XMP, and vice president and Head of CX Strategy & Solutions at Designit, for a discussion on building a customer-focused culture through employee experience.
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Start with what’s working
“I’m a big proponent of seeing what’s good and what is working. I think that the best laid plans start with understanding. So as I come into organizations and I work with organizations, I talk about and do a lot of listening. So talking with the employees, not again, just on the front line, but people in the back office. And how are what are the things that are inhibiting them from doing their jobs today? And start with what’s working and build from that.”
“…if you don’t have a vision or a North Star, it’s hard for people to see how they’re contributing to something that’s going to be kind of for the common good… I often see with companies when they’re talking about I have a governance model, but it’s the front line in the C-suite. But they miss that real important level of people that are the ones that actually are in the work every single day and hear the actual employee feedback and the frustrations as they go through their daily work.”
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I think it's safe to say that if you want your customers to have great experiences, then your employees need to have great experiences as well.
You can't deliver on customer experience unless you have engaged, inspired employees around the customers. As we know when employees are engaged, customers will advocate brand for you, and your employees are the ones who are going to help deliver that experience.
Building a customer focused culture through employee experience. On this episode of The CX Leader Podcast.
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The CX Leader Podcast with Steve Walker is produced by Walker, an experience management firm that helps our clients accelerate their success. You can find out more at walkerinfo.com.
Hello, everyone. I'm Steve Walker, host of The CX Leader Podcast and thank you for listening. It's never been a better time to be a leader and this podcast explores the topics and themes to help leaders like you leverage all the benefits of customer experience and help your customers and prospects want to do more business with you. As a CX professional, I get excited watching companies across the globe realize the value of providing exceptional customer experience. It's why I continue to say it's never been a better time to be a CX leader. But our profession is evolving to recognize the importance of going beyond the customer, knowing that if your company's culture doesn't include employee experiences, then it will be difficult to mature your CX program. Well, I'm delighted to welcome to the podcast. Karyn Furstman, vice president and head of strategy and solutions at Designit, a Wipro company. And she's going to help us understand the importance of starting with employee experience to bring a customer centered culture to your organization. Karyn, thanks for being a guest on The CX Leader Podcast.
Thanks. It's great to be here, Steve.
You know, you and I know each other a little bit, but for those of us in my audience that have not heard of you before, maybe you could just take a second and give us just a little bit of your background. So always interesting to hear how CX pros got to this position in their career. So we always like to do that with each guest. And then maybe if you have a little extra time, you could tell us a little bit more about Designit as well.
Absolutely. Thanks, Steve. Yeah, I talked about this customer experience profession and how I got here as in some ways leading me to ultimately where was my home in terms of having a career that is my passion. I grew up with parents owning two small businesses, one each, and I worked in their each of their businesses growing up. And I got that customer in my blood very, very, very early on. And what's happened since is I've worked in many professions that all are in and about the customer experience in one way or another. I started in advertising, I moved into communications, and then as I moved over to client side in financial services beginning, I actually was in brand product marketing and then CRM back in the day and all of these different types of positions that were all around the customer experience before customer experience was actually a discipline, if you will. And I was tapped on the shoulder to lead and become the chief experience officer for a banking institution back 25 plus years ago. And I felt like my career had come home. I felt like helping companies truly transform from the customer perspective and bringing all of those aspects together is something that has become my passion career. I've done it with multiple industries. I've done it in with a vendor solution. I've done it in consulting as where I am now. So it is it's been a great journey for me, but it's still underscores the importance of how you take care of your customers and your employees every single day and build it into the fabric of your organization, which is what we're going to talk about today.
Yeah, it's it's interesting that and I always like to ask our guests because there seems to be a couple of kind of patterns where people got to here. But one thing you said that was kind of interesting to me is that you grew up in an entrepreneurial family. And I think in some ways a lot of people that go to business school, they might know a lot about finance and marketing, but they might not know a lot about customer service and just basically taking care of customers. And that's something that every entrepreneur learns pretty quickly, that the essence of business in fact, Drucker wrote this back in the 50's, he said that the real objective of business is to attract and keep customers. And so it's kind of no wonder that at this point we're all kind of in the customer experience business. But your path kind of through marketing, communications, advertising, branding is one of the ways that we've gotten there. And so interesting. Well, tell us a little bit about Designit and what you guys are doing there today.
Yeah, absolutely. I as I said, I'm the lead of VP of strategy and solution designit. We call ourselves an experience innovation company. And essentially we bring the best of whether it be marketing, design, technology solutions all together around improving and embedding customer and employee into everything we do to help our companies. We have research, we have design, we have all components that will help. Kind of if you think about CX as as the wrapper, if you will. One other thing that I would love to mention is that the CXPA is something also that kind of, as I began to develop additional experience in the arena, got involved very early on in the board and as the chairman of that organization. And it's really been great to see how that profession has used that community as a way to improve itself and kind of that whole for the people, by the people. So just a little bit of a plug there for the CXPA, but I just am truly a supporter of it and it's just it's been an amazing experience to see the transformation of that affiliation.
No, I'm glad you brought that up. We're we're very closely aligned with CXPA and do a lot of that. So I'm always happy to plug the CXPA on the podcast. And in fact, if you're a new listener and you haven't heard about the CXPA, I highly suggest that you go out and check it out. It's Customer Experience Professionals Association, CXPA, and we have lots of guests that are affiliated with them and they do a tremendous service for the profession. It really kind of speaks to how our profession has matured over the last decade, that now we have a certification and a professional organization. Well, Karyn, let's let's get into our topic today, which is really about how customer focused cultures have to embrace the employee experience. It starts with the employees. So maybe just tee it up for us a little bit. With your background, what do you see as the foundation of customer focus in a company?
Yeah, I think it's great. And as we talked before, Steve, this is one of my passion topics around customer experience because you can't deliver on customer experience unless you have engaged, inspired employees around the customer. So it was really something that is very much near and dear to my heart. As we know, when employees are engaged, customers will advocate brand for you, and your employees are the ones who are going to help deliver that experience. So the foundation of customer focus in a company comes to a couple of things. I call it the "What" and the "Who." I'll start with the what, because it's really important. And as we talk today, I'll continue to emphasize this. But I think the what around the customer focus has got to start with a CX vision. And so many times when I talk with companies and I am asked for advice on, Hey, my CX program is not maturing, it's not sticking, a lot of people don't have that North Star or that vision in place. So I start really with the what because it translates then into the who, which is the people and the employees who deliver that experience. Right? So so many companies are trying to engage employees and do so many things and it's absolutely important, but it has to be in service to something. So there has to be a container with which all of the components will help to drive that customer experience and that every single employee, whether I am frontline facing, whether I am an operational leader, whether I'm a C-suite executive, I know what my role is in delivering and supporting that customer experience.
I really like the What and the Who. Kind of reminds me, are you an advocate for having sort of some sort of brand around your actual program inside a company?
So what you'll hear from me today is the answer of it depends. I think that it depends on the culture of the organization. Ironically, I'm a big believer in capitalizing on what is working in an organization, and so thinking about how to start as an example, if the company is supported by things around nomenclature, I think it's always good to do that, but I don't think that putting a name around it for Namesake is going to make it really a critical thing to stick. It's more about the actual components underneath it, and we'll talk a little bit about that in terms of really some of the key components in delivering that employee experience in support of the customer again.
So what are some of the markers? What would be some of the signs from your standpoint that would indicate whether they already have or they're on the verge of or maybe they can't create that kind of a culture?
Yeah, I think I mean, I talk about them as leading and lagging indicators. So there are on the lagging indicator side, I'll start there. Metrics around, of course, employee engagement and how often you're getting that feedback from your employees, how much your customers love you, what is employee, and then tying those to business metrics like employee retention and customer retention. But the big thing is really I say the leading indicators which really are threefold. One, going back to the organization has a strong vision, a strong CX vision that is supported in part by their business objectives, their business mission. And I think that the definition of that with the organization is so critical. So that's one that is just, again, very, very important in so many times I see overlooked in terms of what do we want to be as a CX leader in our space or across multiple spaces? The second thing is actually then taking that vision and bringing it to life so that every single employee again knows how to deliver it and to understand it and continue to improve it. And that's kind of where the continuous improvement piece comes in. So things like how am I trained on customer experience? What are those behaviors? How am I recognized around the customer experience? Again, so often and it's very important because employee engagement can be this huge, huge arc. Everything from recruiting pack practices all the way through to recognition and incentives and absolutely important elements. But then how do you tie it to the customer experience and the behaviors that support that employee experience? So you might, as an example, as you're looking at your recruiting efforts, be looking at people that are really great results driven people, but they may not have some of those inherent traits and the customer components around the behaviors that speak to the experience.
The third piece on the lagging and the leading indicators that I talk about is the data. So what are the outcomes that we're seeing from that? And this really stems from a very strong voice of employee program and voice of customer program. This isn't just about once a year survey and understanding. Again, that's back to a leading indicator I'm sorry, a lagging indicator, but the actual leading indicators of understanding through all of the components to hear what employees are saying. How engaged are they in meetings? How are they able to solve customer problems? Are they having to use 12 screens to try and support a customer that's on the other end? Just trying to understand why they can't make a flight change for their upcoming trip. Right? I call it the heroics about employees always having to scramble to try and do what's right for the customer. And if it's really hard day in and day out and you're not fixing things very similar to the customer problems, right, then you're not going to be able to continue to motivate those employees. And in fact, they will leave because it's too hard for them to do their job.
Yeah, there's an awful lot of bad process and bad training that gets solved by the the heroics at the end. Right. And it's not a it's not really a feasible strategy to create a customer centric culture. If that's what you're relying on, you've got to use that.
Exactly. And similar to voice of customer, right? Surveying. If you're surveying your customers to understand how you can improve the experience and you don't do anything about it, it's exactly the same on the employee side.
Yeah, it's the definition of insanity.
Right, exactly.
The other analogy I love is I'm going to start my exercise and fitness program next Monday, but I'm going to weigh myself every day between now and then. You know, if all you do is measure but you don't kind of implement or bring it back to some sort of impact or meaningful change in the way you're doing business, then it doesn't really matter how much you measure.
Exactly. And back to your point initially in the conversation around customer, going back to many, many years ago on the customer experience, on the employee experience side, the whole component of employee experience tied to customer strength has to lead to long term value. And if you do these things, it's been very much scientifically proven that it not only increases your employee engagement, your customer engagement, but it drives long term business results.
Yeah, it really goes back to the service profit chain, which is 94 or something like that at Harvard Business. And today's generation wouldn't even know about Sears, but it was a study around Sears, the department store. And yeah, that's really what we're engaged in just at a at a much higher level today.
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My guest on the podcast this week is Karyn Furstman. We're having a delightful conversation about how you build customer centric culture through your employee experience, which is a really, really kind of a key topic for where we're at as a profession today. Karyn's a vice president and the head of CX strategy at Designit, which is a Wipro company. So let's work on some of your indicators and take that another step. If I'm sort of running a CX organization that's maybe not as mature as some of what you're describing, what are some of the kind of early on steps or what are the ways that you would start to put some of these thoughts into action to improve the employee experience, to drive a customer centric culture?
Yeah, absolutely. I start actually with ironically, starting with what's working. I'm a believer in as I've done this and worked with companies and done this inside companies, that expression throw the baby out with the bathwater. I'm a big proponent of seeing what's good and what is working. I think that the best laid plans start with understanding. So as I come into organizations and I work with organizations, I talk about and do a lot of listening. So talking with the employees, not again, just on the front line, but people in the back office. And how are what are the things that are inhibiting them from doing their jobs today? And start with what's working and build from that. Very specifically, what I believe is really important and what I hear so many times is the how do I break down the silos? I've got a department over here, I've got my product organization, I've got my sales organization and no one's talking. And that's a lot around, how do you start to build a collaboration model and a governance model that will capture those inputs and outputs to the organization? So very specifically, I believe in I call it kind of three tiered of a governance model. The first is I start with the front line forums are always really important. So those people who are day in, day out, having customers come to them and help to solve their problems and create a better experience for them. The second layer is around the operational leaders. To me, that's sometimes where the rubber meets the road, right? Because it is where the policies are made, it's where the policies are delivered.
So having a forum in that part of the organization cross functionally. And then third, of course, is your C-suite executives and the three of those forums working together in a very structured, ongoing meeting cadence, if you will, where it is the experience forum, regardless of what level we're at. And I think that that is something that I've seen has been really successful to start having some of those conversations that don't happen in the silos. And so it's also then in service, I always say in service back to that customer experience, vision and the roadmap that's been developed and how are we as a team and as a company helping our employees deliver that experience and what's getting in their way? I have a great example of as we were doing some of this work at an organization that I was leading the CX organization, and we essentially had an exercise to have executives call customers when they had a particular complaint or question about their particular service. And what was interesting is it wasn't just about them hearing the customer concern, it was then listening in on what the employees had to do. Again, back to the heroics to understand that concern. But the third thing that was interesting in that example was they found out that the phone numbers that they were calling for customers were not the right phone numbers and they were disconnected. And so it took that actual experience to then drive another improvement project forward that employees could get behind.
Yeah. Well, you gave us an MBA there in CX, Karyn. Thank you. There's there's so much good stuff there that I hope our listeners can tease out. But you started with beginning with what's good. You know, this is one thing I always tell to new clients or new new people that are new to the business. You know, if you have a successful business, you're obviously doing something right with your customers. And so just kind of going in and finding that out and then, you know, you don't have to just fix problems. You can really enhance your competitive differentiation as well. So it's it's not just about fixing the problems, but it's also about building confidence and building upon the things that you already kind of naturally do well. And what customers reflect you.
For and the byproduct of that as well, I think, Steve, is that it it gains traction more quickly because it's not seen as okay, here's the next thing and it's a flavor of the day. Rather, it's things that have helped and build our heritage and capitalizing what is good in the organization. So I think it has a another positive effect that way as well.
I really like the the three tiered governance model and I think there's lots of ways… The other thing you said, it was funny, like you said, that the operational leaders are where the policies are formed, but the root word of policy is also politics. You know…
…that's where the politics get going, too. Right. And who gets in. And that's what the power of CX and I think EX is, is that it? It allows us all to agree on what's important. It's not necessarily what's good for for my department, it's what's good for the customer. It's…
Exactly.
…what's good for the front line employee. Right.
But having that vision kind of back to that vision, if you don't have a vision or a North Star, it's hard for people to see how they're contributing to something that's going to be kind of for the common good. And back to the your analogy on on football with that kind of that operational leader or the coaches, if you will. I often see with companies when they're talking about I have a governance model, but it's the front line in the C-suite. But they miss that real important level of people that are the ones that actually are in the work every single day and hear the actual employee feedback and the frustrations as they go through their daily work.
So, no, you're absolutely right. And I mean, again, that's why football is a great analogy because customer experience in a complex, large, growing, fast moving organization in a competitive marketplace is a very complicated team sport. You know, it goes back to your who. The only way we can really deliver value to our customers is through our our front line employees and their knowledge and their ability to take care of clients in a way that keeps them coming back. So it is a complicated team sport we play.
Yes, exactly. But a fun one.
Oh, that's what I love about it. If it was easy, anybody could do it, right?
Exactly. Exactly.
Karyn, we've reached that part of the podcast where I put every guest on the spot. So you're special. You are a podcast number – what are we – 209.
Woo hoo! I'll remember that.
This is the time where we ask our guests to give their best tip, their take home value. And the concept is that it's something that our listeners can go and take and apply at their program and make it better. So Karyn Furtsman, what is your take home value for podcast number 209?
Yeah. Boy 209. I want to just start by saying I think it is an incredibly opportunistic time to be thinking about this conversation. All that has been written about the great resignation to me should be pivoted into what is the great employee experience and how can we have our own employees become our beloved employees that will recommend us and tell their friends and families about what a great company it is to work for? So I just think that that is just I think it's a huge opportunity this time. The tip that I have are actually two, but one leads into the next. The first thing I believe in is getting your organization aligned on nomenclature. I so many times see companies defining certain things even as it relates to what is customer experience and what is employee experience. So starting with that basics of defining with your teams and then having a shared understanding of that around the vision. In terms of picking a specific area, I would say start with something and again, leverage what you already have, but I always believe in celebrating success. So have some recognition that you are able to celebrate and talk about some of those customer wins or some of those opportunities where you've taken some of the angst out of the employee experience or some up. So they don't have to perform the heroics every single day and celebrate those in every way that you can. And I think that it's just really important for leaders to understand that as well, because they can actually then coach around the customer experience as well. So rather than just taking coaching for coaching sake, using some of those wins and some of those opportunities to actually drive the more positive experience into the employee that serves the customer experience. So start somewhere, whether it's recognizing or training and celebrate the little wins, but do it with a foundation of the basics that everybody understands.
Karyn Furstman is vice president and head of CX strategy and solutions at Designit. Karyn, thanks so much for being a guest on the podcast. It was a pleasure to have you.
Thank you. It was wonderful to be here in chat with you, Steve. Really appreciate it.
And if any of our listeners would want to continue the conversation, can you just tell them how you might be found? I know I found you on LinkedIn and…
Yeah. Karyn.furstman on LinkedIn as well as through Designit. I think you're you're able to find me as well.
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This blog is reposted from the National Sustainable Agriculture Coalition (NSAC), of which, CalCAN is a member. View the original post here.
Organic agriculture continues to be one of the fastest growing sectors of American agriculture. In 2020, the organic food market experienced incredible growth, with sales over $56 billion, a 12% increase from 2019. The organic seed market has also grown in recent years due to the demand for organic food as well as a dramatic rise in gardening during the COVID-19 pandemic. This strong demand for organic food translates into new and growing market opportunities for farmers across the country. Behind the organic label are organic farmers – small and large – who follow strict standards to become certified, and who have needs unique to their growing practices and markets.
The Organic Farming Research Foundation (OFRF) and Organic Seed Alliance (OSA) recently released the National Organic Research Agenda (NORA) and State of Organic Seed (SOS). These two reports are published every five years to examine organic farming challenges across the US and provide comprehensive assessments and recommendations for ensuring the ongoing growth and success of organic farming. More than 1,100 producers responded to the survey and an additional 100 producers attended 16 listening sessions across the country.
NORA details organic research needs with the goal of informing future investments that support the success of organic farmers and ranchers and those transitioning to organic production.
Findings from NORA showed that organic producers lead the nation in the adoption of soil health management and climate-friendly practices. One striking outcome of the survey is that 68% of respondents, including 76% of respondents who grow field crops, use cover crops regularly, compared to just 10% of conventional field crop farmers. 31% of respondents use some form of intercropping, a practice that is relatively rare among non-organic farmers.
Organic weed management, soil health and fertility, and co-managing soil and weeds with less tillage emerged as top challenges, followed closely by pest and disease management, maintaining yields, and managing production costs. A majority of organic farmers registered concern about climate change,which is already accentuating soil, weed, pest, and disease challenges.
Survey respondents cited other organic farmers (82%) and non-organic farmers (61%) as their most valuable information sources, and focus group discussions elevated farmer-to-farmer mentoring and networking, farmers’ conferences, and other farmer-drived venues as most effective for learning and information exchange. A major opportunity clearly exists to support the organic sector through farmer-to-farmer education, training, mentoring, and technical assistance.
The NORA survey also revealed an urgent need for technical assistance to help transitioning farmers address a broad range of production, marketing, and other challenges. The relatively small number of transitioning farmers in the survey (71 as compared to the more than 1,000 already certified organic farmers) illustrates the steep hurdles that farmers face when considering the transition.
Finally, the greatest concern for survey respondents was organic integrity and fraud. 77% of survey respondents indicated they were concerned or very concerned about organic integrity and fraud (on both domestic and imported products marketed as organic). The process of becoming organically certified can be expensive, but it is an essential step for farmers wanting to meet the growing demand for certified organic food in the US.
SOS details trends in organic seed sourcing, challenges faced by organic seed producers, public investments in organic plant breeding, and more.
Organic farmers produce food differently, and that means they need different seed for the crops they grow. They need seed developed to thrive without synthetic chemical fertilizers and pesticides, and that is adapted to their local climate and soil conditions. Organic seed is also a regulatory requirement. The United States Department of Agriculture’s (USDA) National Organic Program requires the use of organic seed when commercially available.
OSA’s recent findings show no meaningful improvement in organic producers using more organic seed compared to five years ago. The report lists a number of reasons why, including specific varieties that are unavailable in an organic form, insufficient quantities in seed, and a lack of desirable traits. OSA’s findings also show an increase in organic producers identifying process/buyer contracts as a barrier to sourcing organic seed, meaning a buyer contract dictates a specific variety be grown, and too often the variety isn’t available as organic. This lack of progress puts both the viability of the organic seed industry and the integrity of the organic label at risk. In particular, the largest organic operations still use relatively little organic seed, and data suggests that organic certifiers’ enforcement of the organic seed requirement could be strengthened.
However, significant public investments have been made in organic plant breeding and other organic seed research initiatives. More than $39 billion has been invested in these types of projects in the last five years alone. This represents the largest public investment in organic seed systems that the Organic Seed Alliance has ever recorded. Some of the largest sources of funding include USDA’s Organic Research and Extension Initiative (OREI) and Sustainable Agriculture and Research Education (SARE), and other federal funding programs.
This year in the NORA report, OFRF analyzed production and non-production challenges by region, farming experience, and race/ethnicity. Researchers then went on to compare the experiences of both Black, Indigenous, and People of Color (BIPOC) and white farmers, which revealed BIPOC producers are experiencing many organic production challenges at a higher rate than their white counterparts.
However, a low percentage of survey respondents (4%) identified as BIPOC. This number closely aligns with the 3.6% of organic producers in the National Agricultural Statistics Service (NASS) who identify as non-white. This disproportionately low percentage of BIPOC organic farmers shows an urgent need to better engage and assist current and aspiring BIPOC organic farmers in the organic sector.
BIPOC organic farmers reported challenges related to a range of production and non-production issues, especially costs of production and of organic certification, accessing labor, capital and financing, and meeting NOP certification and record keeping requirements. For example 31% of NORA survey respondents cited certification costs as a substantial challenge, and that figure jumped to 58% for BIPOC respondents. In order to improve racial equity in the organic sector, the NORA survey made many recommendations including:
Adopting a higher organic certification cost share percentage and funding limit for BIPOC and other historically underserved producers;
Providing more funding to 1890 historically Black land-grant institutions, 1994 Tribal land-grant universities, and Hispanic-serving colleges and universities (HSCU) to increase their technical assistance capacity and ensure their personnel are included as equal partners in the development of organic education strategies across agencies; and
Ensuring that members of the BIPOC farming and food system community take leadership roles in the development, evaluation, implementation, and enforcement of policies and programs to address these needs and objectives.
Organics in the Farm Bill
As we approach the 2023 Farm Bill, there will be many opportunities to strengthen the organic sector and address the concerns of organic farmers highlighted in the NORA and SOS reports.
Increased funding and support for organic research is central to increasing the production and adoption of organic crops. Programs like the Organic Agriculture Research and Extension Initiative (OREI), which received permanent mandatory funding in the 2018 Farm Bill, are vital to the future of organic farming.
One of the unique costs faced by organic farmers is the fee associated with the annual organic certification. Programs like the Organic Certification Cost Share Program (OCCSP) help alleviate some of the costs of certification for small and mid-sized organic farm businesses and need to be greatly expanded in order to better serve already existing organic farmers and farmers looking to transition to organic.
Organic integrity was the top concern listed by farmers in the NORA survey. All organic products, whether produced within the US or imported, are required to meet US organic standards for production and handling. However, mechanisms for ensuring compliance and inspection do not appear adequate to protect organic producers from competition with fraudulent products. The 2023 Farm Bill should include additional resources and authorities for the USDA National Organic Program to track both domestic and imported organic products and ensure that they fully comply with US organic standards.
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Creativecation is not about forcing your creativity, it’s about the opposite. That’s what I call a “creativecation,” and below is my recipe for creating a fruitful (and “flow-ful”) getaway.
Being a creative means that you are in constant chase of “flow” – you know, that state in which you are so absorbed in an activity that nothing else matters. This is the moment when you can create effortlessly. Finding this state of flow is tricky, because it doesn’t just happen every day. You limit the possibility of getting into the flow if your work eats up your daily creativity limit. What can you do to find that ideal flow state again, especially after weeks and weeks of spending all your creativity on your day job? Or thinking you just can’t find enough time?
Before I tell you about my solution, the method that unlocked my creativity in a way that enabled me to publish 9 books in less than 5 years, run a successful blog, and publish interviews on HuffPost with such people as the actor Penn Badgley, DJ Martin Garrix or TV personality Dr. Oz, I have to raise a flag here:
this tool is not about forcing your creativity, it’s about the opposite. That’s what I call a “creativecation,” and below is my recipe for creating a fruitful (and “flow-ful”) getaway.
What does creativecation means?
It’s a creative vacation where you can get away from your life (even for a day), choose an atypical setting, and shut out daily stressors, social media and all distracting factors. You replace these with everything that makes you feel happy, relaxed and recharged, so at the end of the day finally you can focus on your creative work and get into the zone.
I’ve been always good with stimulating my creativity. Finding an outlet for everything I was going through was a life changer for me 11 years ago. The feeling of getting lost in time became my favorite feeling. I did everything to stimulate it: I would close all shutters at 1PM, light 15 candles, and listen to classical music via earphones. It worked and it became my safe place to turn for comfort when I did not get it otherwise.
You can imagine what happened when I lost my appetite for writing back in 2015, when I burned out and experienced PTSD-like symptoms thanks to social media. I am not saying that all creative people experience burn out, but I’m saying that if you use all your creativity in a demanding industry, it can happen. There’s no surprise here. In 2015, I hit rock bottom and had an emotional breakdown brought on by seeing the Word icon on my laptop. I couldn’t even open it or face the writing process at all. I was devastated as hell. Life became very dark for a while, and there was no outlet to express what I was going through.
Then, one day, I found myself on a flight and inspiration struck for some reason. So many words were pouring out of me that I was just hoping that my phone’s battery wouldn’t die. I remember saying, “OMG! I am not broken,” out loud. I was so happy that a spark of creativity had come back. That was the moment when I realized that I can’t be broken; I just needed to understand what unlocked my flow and creativity, and why that always seems to happen during my travels when I can get all my long-time procrastinated-on writing done.
That’s when I started directly testing and analyzing the flow state, and came up with the concept of creativecation.
When I look back at all the interviews I’ve done with creatives, they often say “I am the most creative when I am relaxed.” That make sense! My first creativecation was in Vienna, and my second was in Budapest at a 5-star hotel. Each of them was a totally different experience and stimulated my creativity in different ways: in Vienna, exploring charged me up, and in Budapest, swimming, wellness, and the luxury of room service helped me create a stress-free environment. Both times, I started writing at 8pm, and finished by 1-2am with just short breaks. By the end of the creativecations, I finished writing the end of my 9th book, and I wrote two articles I’d been pushing from week to week.
Let’s see what happens when you stop complaining about not being in a creative mood, and instead you go and trick your creativity. Find at least one day where you focus only on yourself: exclude all stress for the day, be super kind to yourself, and give yourself the things that you know make you happy.
My recipe for a fruitful creativecation in 10 simple steps:
Focus on you and you alone: To ensure no distractions, make sure you go solo.
Get out of your usual setting (even better, try leaving town)
Speaking of distractions: put your phone on airplane mode only. No speaking on the phone, no checking social media, no e-mails, no work.
Get inspired: go explore the city or countryside, take pictures, go to an art exhibition, read a book, do whatever gets you inspired
Recharge: try wellness activities like getting a massage, swimming, exercise, eating well, exploring, doing what makes you happy
Make sure you don’t make yourself too tired
No alcohol is allowed
A creativecation is a treat: use it that way. No need to overdo it, but definitely try to block out a day or two every few months when you can leave all the stress behind, and can create your ideal, stress-free day that normally doesn’t exist. By the way, you can only do it if you know how you like to start your day, what makes you recharge, and what your creative routine entails. Get started today and mark your first creativecation on your calendar!
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My feature in-person interviews on HuffPost and other publications are introducing industry leaders such as TV personality Dr. Oz or Ryan Serhant, DJ Martin Garrix, Actor and Entrepreneur Joseph Gordon-Levitt, Youtuber Jake Paul, VC Tony Conrad, actor Penn Badgley, talent manager James Chardon, creative director Matt Komo, or psychologist Philip Zimbardo to gather insights about how they build new types of businesses around the world, and how they continue thriving, and also growing mentally and emotionally after achieving success.
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When Dr Jayanta Kumar Banerjee returned from England as an FRCS, he went straight to the Ramakrishna Mission Hospital in Dehradun to start his practice. He was accompanied by his wife Shipra, who was an anesthetist.
They could have set themselves up in any Indian city and flourished. A doctor with foreign qualifications was a big thing in the early 1970s as it is today. But Dr Banerjee was deeply inspired by Vivekananda and imbued with the spirit of service.
It was to be a lifelong commitment. When he died on February 2 at the age of 82, he had been one of the leading lights of the Association of Rural Surgeons of India (ARSI). His wife passed away some years earlier. Both went largely unsung, their contribution as public-spirited doctors being largely unrecorded.
Perhaps finding that the hospital in Dehradun wasn’t challenging enough, the Banerjees in 1977 set up a facility with three beds in an abandoned godown in Mehrauli, in the then largely rural hinterland of Delhi. They wanted to reach people who really needed their medical skills and didn’t even have the capacity to reach a hospital run by the Ramakrishna Mission.
It was in that shed-like godown the Rural Medicare Society had an idealistic beginning with the opening of the Rural Medicare Centre (RMC) where the very poor could go for surgeries and consultation.
They were joined by Dr S.K. Basu, a gynaecologist, among other doctors, thereby taking good medical skills to the people who desperately needed it.
In five years the RMC had expanded to 11 beds and gone from the shed to a building to cope with the increasing number of patients. It began to take the formal shape of a hospital with an operating theatre, an ambulance and doctors from different specialties visiting.
In 1995, a yet bigger hospital got built. It had 18 beds, two operating theatres, a radiology facility, and a laboratory. The land, at Said-ul-Ajaib in Mehrauli, came thanks to the then Lieutenant-Governor of Delhi, P.K. Dave.
The RMC now has 30 beds. Thousands of patients turn up to consult several well-qualified doctors. In the spirit in which it was founded, the fees for an OPD consultation are just `130 and an entire surgery is performed for as little as Rs 13,000. Very poor patients who can't pay at all are treated free.
We at Civil Society discovered the RMC when Dr D.P.S. Toor, who had been reading the magazine regularly, contacted us in 2006. “Come and see our work,” he said.
It was not till January 2007 that we went to the RMC — with a patient, a young woman who had been turned away from other hospitals and was about to die. Dr Toor and Dr Seema Mehrotra saved her life. After a serious surgery and a week spent in the RMC, the bill back then was just Rs 16,000!
Civil Society did a cover story: ‘Amazing Hospital!’ We first spoke to Dr Banerjee for that story and several times after that as he became a friend. With a stroke behind him, he had retired in Dehradun.
“In England I saw what defined a developed economy was equality in access to facilities,” said Dr Banerjee. “In India, on the other hand, there are facilities only for a few with the vast majority being forgotten and having to fend for themselves.”
It worried him that the benefits of economic growth did not percolate fast enough. “We have eight and nine percent GDP growth these days, but it is only for 20 percent of the population. What does that 20 percent of the population do to enable others to share in its prosperity?”
Rural surgeons reach out to patients, making it easy for the least empowered to access them. They create medical facilities with the least of resources, training local people to be paramedics and performing surgeries with inventive techniques in remote locations under challenging conditions.
Dr Banerjee believed that public healthcare in India called for several small hospitals like the RMC. “You need 30 and 40-bed hospitals staffed with qualified physicians and paramedical staff and sustained by local communities. You also need to train local people,” he said.
Conversations with him over the years were invariably on the phone. He waited for a visit to Dehradun, promising good fish, a date we never managed to keep despite many attempts.
Like a good surgeon, Dr Banerjee was clear- minded and decisive. He would tend to be domineering too. But he did nothing to promote himself or his many achievements. So, there were no national awards, no accolades, only the quiet farewell by colleagues and family far from the limelight that a dedicated people’s surgeon could have expected.
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The entire city had Cav’s fever and I chose to sleep in not once, not twice, but THREE days this week after being out late celebrating the nights before. My consequence was having to train after work and just being totally exhausted. I still managed to keep some of the training magic alive, despite feeling very tired and distracted.
75 total miles and just over 10 hours of training. I didn’t take a rest day this week, but on Wednesday and Sunday I did a short 5K run both days and kept having to tell myself that it was OK. I used to think running anything under 4 miles wasn’t even a workout and that it was a complete waste of time. I think I came up with this idea somewhere in my full marathon training, but it’s time to get rid of that notion. It’s great active recovery and it was amazing to be done training for the day after just 30 minutes!
I was really looking forward to Saturday because my mom and I were doing a 30-mile ride with Lake Metroparks along the Lake Erie Harbor. It turned out to be beautiful weather and the sights were as promised. It was nice to cruise along in the sun while watching the lake as your view.
I took the world’s dumbest spill while out riding on Saturday though. I was going pretty fast, but we were off a deadend street so thankfully there were no cars around. I turned over a huge pile of gravel — like the kind you fill your driveway with — and my bike completely slid out from underneath me. I had no defense whatsoever and my feet were still clicked into my pedals. I caught myself on my left elbow and scraped it up. It looked worse than it was, but it’s still pretty tender a few days later. Note to self – be very, very careful on gravel.
I thought it was ironically appropriate that someone posted on the Cleveland Triathlon Club Facebook page about having a “Why am I doing this” type of week. I felt similar and was just so tired. I’ve mentioned before that I am following a free 70.3 training plan from pro-triathlete, AJ Baucco. He commented on the Facebook post and I thought it was worth repeating here:
“It’s all about balance and living “in the sport”. That’s the kind of stuff that fosters long term development. If you don’t train for a week, it’s just a week. 7 days out of thousands and thousands of days in your athletic career. The goal should always be to remain happy with the sport and eager to remain active.”
Let me reiterate that last part to anyone reading and needing a boost (myself included): “The goal should always be to remain happy with the sport and eager to remain active.”
I often wonder to myself “What am I going to do after the Ironman?” or “Do I think I will ever do another long distance race again?” or even “Will I keep doing triathlons after this summer?” …and I have no idea how to answer any of these questions and it can be overwhelming at times. I start panicking that I will stop working out altogether after the race and lose all my fitness and drive and just become boring. But when I read “…you should be eager to remain active.” That hit me hard. That’s what I want. That’s what I should aim for.
Even if I stop doing races or if I never compete in triathlons ever again — I still want to be active. I still want to keep swimming, biking and running because I love it and because it’s fun and because it’s good for me. I still want to go paddle boarding and rock climbing and zip lining. I feel better when I’m active. It makes me feel good and I always want to have that in my life. I don’t know what’s next after Ironman 70.3, but I do know that I want to be eager to remain active. That’s the bigger picture I should be chasing!
Let’s head into week 17!
Happy training friends!
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David Osage must rescue the mysterious young Navigator – she’s the key to sending the Fosk-ha away forever. But he has to keep his sister from turning into a monster, even though they need that monster to fight the enemy. Although uneasy, Earth’s fighters must form an alliance with an alien overlord who has an agenda of his own. Can they choose the winning side, and if they do, can they live with it?
The Fosk-ha have never lost a war, but the battle for Earth will be like nothing human or alien has ever seen.
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Scott Moon has been writing science fiction and fantasy all his life. He's a police officer, husband, and father. If he had to chose between saving a dog and a cat, he'd save both but he would like the dog better., Scott Moon has been writing science fiction and fantasy for the better part of four decades. When he is not writing, his favorite pastimes include spending time with family, fitness, music, and art.
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Passionate, free-thinking and unconventional, Miss Brodie is a teacher who exerts a powerful influence over her group of ‘special girls’ at Marcia Blaine School. They are the Brodie set, the crème de la crème, each famous for something – Monica for mathematics, Eunice for swimming, Rose for sex – who are initiated into a world of adult games and extracurricular activities they will never forget. But the price they pay is their undivided loyalty . . .
Miss Brodie is beloved by her pupils, decried by her colleagues. Her unconventional teaching methods and unusually close relationships with her pupils worry some. As for the chosen few, the Brodie set, they at first revel in their distinction. But they soon learn their loyalty may be misguided.
This is a short novel, easily read in a day, but it’s length doesn’t make it any the less absorbing or impacting.
Miss Brodie is narcissistic, kind, selfish, considerate, moody and happy all at the same time. The line quoted at the beginning of the synopsis says it all. She wants these girls to adore her, to be malleable, to bend to her will. She needs them as an extension of herself, and to live out missed dreams of her own.
The reader is allowed access to the elusive and exclusive Brodie set, those girls chosen by Miss Brodie to be nurtured and educated the Brodie way. She is deliberately careless with their education, openly going against convention. In her chosen few it is as if she is trying to manipulate them to her will, to adore her during her prime, to reinforce her ideals about herself and to justify her actions. She is open in her affair, a rebound to a lost love. The ramifications of this affect not just her and her lover but the girls in different ways.
The girls themselves are a wonderful mixture of characters. Muriel Spark shows them as both adolescents and as adults. The fact that Miss Brodie has access to them at a time when they are most impressionable is perhaps the greatest danger, and this is shown in the story. The effects of being part of the Brodie set are seen in the future, though surprisingly with some positive results.
There is some intrigue throughout the story as it becomes apparent that one of the set betrays Miss Brodie to her employer, who is keen to see the rebellious teacher ousted.
Jean Brodie talks through the majority of the book of this time at school being her prime, and that the girls are lucky and honoured to be able to share her prime with her. Viewing her actions there are a range of emotions elicited. Annoyance that she manipulates the set to her own advantage, to make herself feel better, to justify her prime. There’s also sadness that she shows, sometimes all too clearly, that she is desperate to hold on to her youth, to her vitality and to the position which defines her. She is at heart a lonely woman, unable to express it in way that is not without narcissism.
The Prime of Miss Jean Brodie is a novel that is read quickly but which stays with the reader for much longer. More emerges from it as time goes by since reading. This was my first Muriel Spark novel, it won’t be my last.
About the author
Muriel Spark (born February 1, 1918) was born in Edinburgh, Scotland. She began writing seriously after the war, beginning with poetry and literary criticism. In 1947, she became editor of the Poetry Review. Her first novel The Comforters was published in 1957, but it was The Prime of Miss Jean Brodie (1962) which established her reputation. After living in New York for some years, she settled in Italy in the late 1960s. She became Dame Commander of the British Empire in 1993.
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March 26, 2018 at 10:13 am
It’s been a long time since I read this. I do think Spark is masterful at short, high impact novels that really stay with you. Time for a re-read!
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March 28, 2018 at 11:25 am
I hope it’s as good on the re-read. She is as you say, very good at impacting characters in a relatively short page count.
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March 26, 2018 at 10:30 am
That jacket! So long since I’ve read it but I’m afraid Miss Jean Brodie will always be Maggie Smith for me. She played that part as if she was born for it.
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March 28, 2018 at 11:26 am
Isn’t it great. It’s not the cover of my copy, which I couldn’t seem to find anywhere. I’ve never seen the film though I must now.
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March 28, 2018 at 11:32 am
One of the few film adaptations that works, I think.
March 26, 2018 at 11:55 am
I might give this another go having read your review as I’ve never managed to get beyong the first 20 pages or so. Thanks!
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March 28, 2018 at 11:27 am
I can see why you didn’t get any further. I think I just got used to the writing and let it carry me away. I hope you like it if you read it
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March 26, 2018 at 1:06 pm
Great review. This was my first Spark, read a few years ago. I liked it, but it won’t be my favourite, MJB is such a fantastic character though. I should probably reread it though I’m planning on getting to The Bachelors, and The Ballad of Peckham Rye before the end of April.
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March 28, 2018 at 11:28 am
Thanks. Well it was your reading Spark that inspired me. I have The Bachelors that I hope to read by the end of April and then Loitering With Intent for September
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The article is about the introduction of sports car driving. It is a type of car that can be driven in a race or on a track. The article will talk about the history, types, and some famous sports cars.
The first sports cars were made in the late 1800s and early 1900s for drivers to participate in races and other competitions. They were created to be lightweight with an engine that was fast enough to compete against other cars on the race track. The first car was called “Ferrari” and was created by Enzo Ferrari, who later founded his own company in 1947.
What to Wear: Dress for the Driving Experience
When dressing for the driving experience, it is important to keep in mind that you will be sitting in a car for an extended period of time. You want to be comfortable, but also look put together. Try to avoid clothing that is too tight or restrictive, as it can be uncomfortable when you are driving. A loose-fitting blouse or shirt paired with a comfortable pair of pants or jeans is a good option. If you want to wear a dress, make sure it is not too short or tight and choose a comfortable shoe option like flats or sandals.
Car safety is an important topic for beginner drivers. It is important to know which car will provide the best protection in case of an accident.
The safest cars are those that have a high safety rating and good crash test ratings. The best beginners car has a five-star safety rating, as well as other features that make it easy to use and drive. The best cars for beginners are those that are easy to maneuver, have four-wheel-drive, and have a low center of gravity with good car lowering springs.
There are many factors to consider when purchasing a sports car. You need to know what you want out of the car, how much you are willing to spend, and what kind of performance is best for you.
You have to consider the type of performance that you want. Do you want a car that will let you go fast? Do you want a car that can take curves well? Or do you just care about comfort?
The price of the sports car is also an important consideration. You need to know your budget and how much money is available for this purchase.
How to Maximize Performance with Sports Cars Tuning Mods
The whole point of tuning a car is to make it perform better than it would out of the factory.
There are many ways to upgrade a sports car, but there are also many things that you need to know before you start. If you want to make modifications to your car, then you will want to pay attention to the following points:
What kind of engine do I have?
How much power does my engine produce?
How much money am I willing to spend on this project?
What is my driving style like?
Do I want more power or better handling?
Driving a sports car can be an exhilarating experience. But it can also be a dangerous one if you don’t know what you’re doing.
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Perhaps it’s the coronavirus rebounding when we had started to hope in the spring that we’d be back to something like normal in September. Perhaps it’s the unrelenting cascade of wildfires, hurricanes, and drought that has made it impossible to ignore that climate change is here, that it’s not some distant, over-the-horizon event.
On top of all that, there’s a growing mismatch in expectations between executives who want us back into the office as soon as possible and workers who are balking. Robert Half’s August 2021 report revealed that 71% of 2,800 senior managers say they will require employees to be ‘fully in-office once COVID-16 restrictions are lifted’. Only 12% said they would leave it up to employees to decide, and the remainder plans a hybrid approach.
But it’s clear that the stress is mounting. Sarah Lyall, in We Have All Hit a Wall, reports on some studies from late last year:
“Malaise, burnout, depression and stress — all of those are up considerably,” said Todd Katz, executive vice president and head of group benefits at MetLife. The company’s most recent Employee Benefit Trends Study, conducted in December and January, found that workers across the board felt markedly worse than they did last April.
The study was based in part on interviews with 2,651 employees. In total, 34 percent of respondents reported feeling burned out, up from 27 percent last April. Twenty-two percent said they were depressed, up from 17 percent last April, and 37 percent said they felt stressed, up from 34 percent.
“People are saying they’re less productive, less engaged, that they don’t feel as successful,” Mr. Katz said.
“When people are under a long period of chronic, unpredictable stress, they develop behavioral anhedonia,” Dr. Wehrenberg said, meaning the loss of the ability to take pleasure in their activities. “And so they get lethargic, and they show a lack of interest — and obviously that plays a huge role in productivity.”
Nearly 700 people responded to The Times’s questions, and the picture they painted was of a work force at its collective wits’ end. We heard from a clergyperson, a pastry chef, an I.C.U. nurse, a probation officer, a fast-bard worker. Budget analysts, librarians, principals, college students holed up in childhood bedrooms, project managers, interns, real estate agents — their mood was strikingly similar, though their circumstances were different. As one respondent said, no matter how many lists she makes, “I find myself falling back into deep pajamaville.”
Jill Lepore provides a magisterial recounting of the history of burnout in Burnout: Modern Affliction or Human Condition, starting with the Trojan War and the first use of the term in the modern workplace:
Burnout may be our contemporary condition, but it has very particular historical origins. In the nineteen-seventies, when [psychologist Herbert] Freudenberger first started looking for burnout across occupations, real wages stagnated and union membership declined. Manufacturing jobs disappeared; service jobs grew. Some of these trends have lately begun to reverse, but all the talk about burnout, beginning in the past few decades, did nothing to solve these problems; instead, it turned responsibility for enormous economic and social upheaval and changes in the labor market back onto the individual worker. [Anne Helen] Petersen argues that this burden falls especially heavily on millennials, and she offers support for this claim, but a lesson of the history of burnout is that every generation of Americans who have come of age since the nineteen-seventies have made the same claim, and they were right, too, because overwork keeps getting worse.
Lepore hints that burnout is an inevitable wrinkle in the human condition, but then suggests it may be a modern malady, like obesity, diabetes, and heart disease. Death by overwork is a real thing.
Is there hope? Are there steps we can take to lessen the stress?
In 2020, 71% of employees experienced burnout at least once. Across Humu’s enterprise customers, 62% of employees have reported feeling overwhelmed by work responsibilities, and 32% have said they are emotionally drained. And research from Qualtrics shows that stress and burnout are the main reasons people are thinking of leaving their jobs in the coming months and year — a time economists have already dubbed “The Great Resignation.”
Work overload is only one cause of burnout. Too often, organizations fail to acknowledge — let alone address — other dimensions. The Maslach Burnout Inventory, the first clinically based measure of burnout, also measures cynicism and feeling ineffective at your job. And our research at Humu shows that lacking a sense of meaning and not receiving the emotional support you need to thrive are also strongly related to feeling stretched too thin.
Organizations that don’t help their people feel a sense of purpose, belonging, and progress amid these forces will see burnout persist — or worsen. Here are seven specific steps leaders and managers can take to create a healthier work environment for employees.
[The 71% figure comes from Asana's Anatomy of Work Index.]
Fosslien offers seven steps organizations should take, which boil down to these five (in my recasting):
accept that workers are facing potential burnout (or are in recovery from a recent bout), so do everything to help decompression and minimize anxiety
clarity about work goals is more important than ever, and will help people feel like progress is being made, even if some goals need to be relaxed or sidelined
increase autonomy so that people have control of their work, which reduces stress and anxiety
a sense of belonging is central to countering burnout, so work to help keep connections between team members active and supportive
ask questions and take action, for example 'what one thing can I do to better support you?'.
In essence, we should acknowledge that we are swimming in flood waters, running from the flames, and searching for a watering hole in the desert: burnout is as threatening as the natural disasters on the news.
If burnout is a condition we can catch and recover from, perhaps we should approach it as a contagious disease, like Covid. But instead of social distancing, the protocol should be social closeness, heightening our sense of belonging, and deepening the connections between us.
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If the predominant model promotes workers as capital resources, the implication is units that perform without the necessary care at the possibility of other meaningful outcomes. The implication here is an alternative set of leadership values and character traits to reset what work cultures could really be about and to solve what problems.
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Is your vacuum cleaner broken? Your car not running quite right? Need a new computer, built from scratch?
Rob Kubes is your go-to guy.
“I’ve always been that guy who takes things apart to see how they work,” he says. “When my mom’s vacuum cleaner broke, I’d order a new belt and fix it.”
Now, as an Operations Manager at Level Green Landscaping, Rob helps put things together.
Turns out he’s pretty good at that, too.
Rob started at Level Green three years ago as a supervisor in construction.
He showed up with a background in all things construction, from asphalt work to building fancy outdoor kitchens.
His uncle owned an asphalt company where he worked for several years.
“When he sold the company and I started working for other asphalt companies, I realized something,” he says. “I don’t like asphalt.”
But he’s always loved running machines, so he started work for a company that did hardscaping as well as asphalt.
He worked on big patios and driveways and built solid brick walls.
“Seeing the end result was a beautiful thing,” Rob says. “You’ve got this magnificent wall that’ll be there forever. You see the beforehand and then you see the end result and it’s such a great transformation.”
He was hooked.
Now, as Operations Manager, he gets to use all that knowledge he gained over the years, and pass it on.
“I keep everything rolling along,” he says. “I organize all the bits and pieces.
“The biggest thing is knowing my guys‘ strengths and weaknesses,” he says, “then making sure the right guy goes to the right job so things get done efficiently. I’ve gotten to know the guys, so I know who to put where.”
He spends a lot of time training new crew members, drawing on years of experience running skid steers and excavators, installing sprawling patios, and perfecting painstaking masonry work.
“I know exactly how hard this work is,” he says. “Hardscaping is hard, heavy work. They don’t call it easyscaping.
“I take time to explain things,” Rob says. “I’ve done so many jobs so I’ve witnessed a lot of different ways to do things.”
But he also has to spend some time behind a desk.
That’s fine with him.
“The other side of me is a computer guy,” he says. “I’m having a lot of fun. Office work all day is not my forte. But with this job, I get to be outside with the guys and I get to do some computer work, too.”
The hardscape and excavator expert is discovering a new appreciation of plants and flowers, learning a lot from his peers along the way.
“I love seeing the results of the seasonal color we installed over the last few weeks,” he says. “Seeing all the color on all the properties — it looks beautiful.”
Rob and his wife, Janett, have two sons, Michael, 7, and Liam, 3.
Their English bulldog, Sparky, is a laid-back people lover who spends all his time at the dog park not romping with other dogs but going from person to person to get attention.
Meanwhile, you’ll often find Rob on the go with his two boys, hiking, swimming, fishing, jumping on trampolines, or gaming and munching pizza at Chuck E. Cheese.
He loves tinkering and is the family go-to guy for computer repair. He’s even built a few himself, from scratch.
“It’s kind of like putting Lego pieces together,” he says, making it sound easier than it probably is. He’s always updating the family computer so it’s better and faster for his kids’ games.
“They Take Good Care of Us”
Rob loves that Level Green co-owners Bill Hardy and Doug Delano care enough to take employees out to lunch and spend much of the time chatting about everybody’s families.
“I love the culture at Level Green,” he says. “I’m surrounded by intelligent people who know their jobs well.
“The owners are always around, which isn’t the case at all companies,” he says. “There’s a real family atmosphere here. They take good care of us.”
Rob is just one of the dedicated team members we have here at Level Green Landscaping. And we’re always looking for hard-working, talented people to join our team.
Are you ready to work for a company where they ask you about your kids?
Written by Douglass Delano
Doug Delano (and Bill Hardy) opened Level Green Landscaping LLC in 2002 to offer Washington DC, Maryland and Virginia reliable commercial landscape maintenance services.
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Seafood is considered to be an essential food delicacy worldwide. It is also healthy and nutritious. In some counties like including Japan and Europe, seafood is very expensive, but they source seafood at cheaper rates in different parts of North America. Seafood is one of the best choices when you have a party or even a corporate event, and you can also have these delicacies delivered to your best friends as a tasteful gift.
With the availability of the internet, it is not possible to have fresh seafood delivered right at your doorstep. The internet is one of the innovations that ever happened to mankind. The truth is that it has changed our lives for the better. This is why the internet is currently indispensable because there is a lot you can accomplish. Having this in mind, the seafood delivery companies have introduced online seafood delivery services. This gives a great chance to seafood enthusiasts because it has made it possible for them to order seafood, choose what they prefer, and enjoy eating and decide on where the delivery should be made. Just at a click of a button, you can order your seafood.
Ordering seafood online for delivery is a convenient, easy, and affordable way for you to get your seafood. If you are a seafood lover, you must enjoy most seafood, including lobster. You probably get irritable with your local seafood store for selling you stale seafood. The truth is that you want to enjoy nicely tasting, fresh seafood, but sometimes you can seem to get some at your local store.
Well, this situation has been taken care of by the availability of online seafood delivery services. It is now possible to log in online and order fresh seafood as per your preference, and then the delivery service provider will ship it to you. You can now buy and enjoy fresh seafood. You should ensure that you eat only fresh seafood. Seafood can cause serious food poisoning if you eat while not fresh. Therefore when you feel like enjoying some fresh foods, make sure that you source from the best supplier who will sell fresh seafood.
There are many companies that supply fresh seafood through online orders placed through their websites. The seafood is caught fresh and then delivered overnight. There are also additional advantages of ordering your seafood from an online store. Take, for example, a company that delivers lobster. Some of them will include cooking manuals that you can refer to when preparing it; they will give you craw crackers, lobster napkins, and bibs so that you can use them when enjoying this delicacy.
Most online seafood companies will deliver live lobsters through the online orders that are placed on their web. As the client, you only need to specify that you need them to live. Seafood delivery is easy and also a hassle-free way that has given seafood lovers a chance to order and have fresh seafood delivered.
One of the considerations when ordering your seafood online is to compare the prices online. Some online seafood companies give discounts, and others will offer free shipping services when you order from them.
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There are no girls over the age of 12 in some villages in Nepal . . . or at least there weren’t before She Is Safe started working in them. In these remote areas, girls for centuries have been purchased and sent to India because of their beauty. Once they reached a certain age, they were destined to soul-numbing sex slavery in brothels. However, over the past several years, She Is Safe and its coworkers have been fighting to prevent these girls from being sold, training them in a trade or skill and enabling them to be safe in their homes.
One of those girls is Asita.* She had been forced to marry as a child and her husband was abusive. Despite the shame and embarrassment, she planned to run away with her two daughters. Tragically, her husband kept the youngest daughter, so she returned to her parents only with her oldest child.
Then, Asita joined the Vocational Training sponsored by She Is Safe where she learned the trade of sewing. She proved to be a very gifted seamstress. After the training, she received a sewing machine and started a profitable business which allowed her to provide for her family. Now Asita is saving to be able to find and get her other daughter back.
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Over the last couple of weeks, I’ve been assisting in the hunt for a new employee. It’s for a technical position, so there are some minimum skill-level qualifications for the job. We advertised on LinkedIn, mainly, but also other places. I even posted the job on my social feed.
We ended up with some 200 applications. Most we rejected immediately because the applicant did not meet the minimum qualifications. I guess I can’t blame people for trying, but it doesn’t really make sense to apply for a job if your resume misses the mark completely.
We ended up with about 30 people to call back for 10 minute interviews conducted via Skype. At each interview, I reviewed the resume quickly before it began. So I already understood the minimum that you get from the resume: experience, education, where the person lives, age, and so on. (If you don’t have a LinkedIn account, it’s already clear that you are not serious about job hunting.)
What is the interview attempting to discover? I’m looking for personality, attitude, erudition, more detail on skills, a general sense of collegiality, and a deeper understanding of the person in question. In the course of doing this, I saw the same mistakes over and over. Also, some people took the extra step to be memorable and compelling.
As a result of these conversations, here are some pro-tips. Consider this as a follow up to my advice for young unemployed workers.
Don’t try to fake your skill level. Many people would try to exaggerate their knowledge of a software platform. They quickly find themselves in the weeds as they attempt to fill in details. This is the moment in which the person’s word becomes non-credible. This is a devastating thing to happen at a job interview. You are far better off saying what’s true: “I don’t know that software, but I’ve used similar systems. I’m also a very quick study on software. If I get this position, I’ll study up and be prepared before I begin.” And if you do not understand the question, there is nothing wrong with asking for more detail.
Don’t be ambiguous on crucial details. The purpose of the interview is to discern a greater degree of truth about you and your suitability for the position. Ambiguity sets off alarm bells. If you won’t move to do the job, just say so and then explain why hiring you as a remote worker would be good. If you are unemployed currently, it’s best to just say so and perhaps offer a reason why. If you won’t consider the position for less than a certain amount of money, and you are asked this question, be upfront about it.
Don’t flatter the interviewer pointlessly. It’s fine to say nice things about the institution and the individuals. It’s a plus that the person being interviewed knows about where he or she is applying. But laying it on too thick, going on about the glories of the interviewer as a person, is odd. It signals that the person being interviewed might imagine that a job is really about connections and favors rather than productivity and skills. A job is not a favor, much less a sinecure; it is an exchange of value for value. It doesn’t speak well of any employer that he or she would be swayed by flattery.
Do be a warm human being. I get that people are nervous for an interview. But if you look on camera like a deer in headlights, that’s a problem. Try to relax and be a normal human being. Smile, for example. Laugh and be charming, if you can. In one interview I conducted, the person was walking around her apartment with smartphone in hand and earbuds. I found it charming and enlivening. I was left with the impression of someone who is active and scrappy and that’s good.
Do ask questions. It should be obvious that any prospective employee has questions about the job. Ask them! It’s surprising how few people actually do this. Maybe they fear that asking questions would signal some doubts about the whether you want the job. Actually, the opposite it true. It suggests that you are a careful shopper of employers. You are looking for a good fit. It’s irresponsible to accept a job that is not right for you. You want to make sure. That’s a good thing. It impresses any prospective employer that you are asking for more detail on the work environment, the expectations, the lines of communication, the office hours, and so on.
Do sell yourself. It’s right to think of the employer as a prospective buyer. The seller is yourself. You are selling your labor services. Ideally, the buyer (the employer) wants to believe that he or she will obtain more in service than will be paid in wages. The employer also wants to believe that the employee will benefit from the exchange too. Your job is to make the sell. That means selling yourself. Maybe this sounds odd but think of yourself as a piece of talking furniture in a furniture store, and the employer is a customer that walks by. It’s up to you to get their attention and make the case, effectively saying, “pick me, I’m wonderful, you will be happy with your decision.”
Do tell a story. Part of selling yourself means presenting yourself as more than just a resume. One way to do this is to tell a story of how you created value at your current job. You can tell about a challenge you faced, a method you found to solve the problem, how you worked to transition from an old system to a new one, or whatever comes to mind. It needs to show that you are earnest, creative, hard working, and interested in making progress happen. Resumes can’t do this. The job interview is the right time to make your skill set come to life. One approach that is popular is the STAR method for organizing your stories. To present the situation, task, action, and results might seem overly formal but the structure is a good exercise to practice before the interview.
Do say that you would love to have a job offer. This might seem strange but only one person out of the 30 or so people I interviewed actually said something like: “This job sounds perfect for me. I’m excited about it. I hope you choose me. I think we’ll both be happy about this.” I was trying to figure out why people don’t say such an obvious thing. It might be that they are waiting to look at the salary, that they have some doubts, that they have several other applications out there. All that is fine. But you still need to get the offer. It’s your human right to decline it, of course, but in order to say no, you first need the opportunity to do so. At the very least, then, you should openly say that you will like an offer. People who say this stand out from the pack.
People apply for jobs too infrequently. Once they have what seems to be a secure position and good pay, they take themselves off the market. Then something goes wrong, and they scramble and get desperate.
This is not the way to go about it. Digital tools like LinkedIn mean that you can always stay on the market. There might be something better out there. You don’t know until you try. It is not somehow a betrayal of your current employer to be on the market. You can always say no. But, face it, if the offer is good enough, you might take it. Staying on the job market also means that you can refine your talent in doing interviews.
Fear not that you will be turned away. It’s not an absolute rejection. Employment decisions are made on the margin. You might have been the second choice of hundreds of possible candidates. That’s a good thing. It’s a highly competitive market out there right now, and you will improve with each interview. Remember, the one person ultimately responsible for your ongoing employment and earning power is you.
Jeffrey Tucker is a former Director of Content for the Foundation for Economic Education.
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Reed College has announced that it has selected Oregon Attorney General John Kroger as their new president. The Oregonian is reporting that Kroger will likely step down before his term ends in January – he will start at Reed in July – and noted that Kroger had announced last October that he wouldn’t be seeking re-election due to health concerns.
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The age of superheroes ended 20 years ago. Since that time, all new powers have been minimal, allowing the police to easily deal with villains even in the absence of heroes. But then, one day, 48 teenagers across the world receive a letter, which reads:
My name is Daniel Storm. You may know me as CEO of Void Corp., the premier superpower research firm. If you didn’t know me, now you do! Introductions are not the reason for this letter, though. I am pleased to offer you a spot in my new private high school. Located in the eastern United State “dead zone” (an area not covered by any satellite), it boasts state-of-the-art facilities, including its own movie theater, water park, and other amenities in addition to top-notch dorms, meals, and classrooms. I don’t neglect the actual teaching, either. I have pulled some of the greatest teachers I could find to staff this high school. Now you may be thinking “so this sounds like a really good school, but I can’t afford anything like that.” Well, it may be expensive, but I’m paying. Yes, you read that right. Void Corp. will pay all expenses, including a private jet to the school, room and board, and meals. Now I bet you’re thinking “Wow! How do I join?” That’s simple. One week after receiving this letter, a Void Corp. private jet will land at the nearest airport to your home. To enroll, just get on that plane! No parents or siblings allowed, though (even I don’t have that much money). I hope to see you all there!
The people receiving this mysterious letter are from all backgrounds, nationalities, and ages. However, all of them have one thing in common: they all have superpowers, powers of a level not seen for 20 years. And their powers will be needed.
Hello! This is my first time creating an RP, so hopefully that introduction made sense. All our characters join Daniel’s school and learn about their powers in the process. Other than that, this can go in any direction. Again, I’m new at this, so please feel free to correct anything I mess up.
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Appearance: Damion is about 6’ 1’’, with red eyes and short black hair. His skin is very pale, and glows slightly in the dark. He generally wears casual clothing, but often wears a black cloak to hide his unnatural skin. He also usually carries a small, hand-carved wooden flute with him.
Personality: Damion is a loner, preferring to be by himself. He is indifferent to many things, and tends to be curt and to the point when he does interact with people. However, he is always observing other people and the environment, and knows much more than he lets on. He loves to compose music and play it on his flute, but only does it in private.
Background: Damion does not remember his parents, except that he ran away from them some time ago and that he carved his flue with them. He has lived on his own, drifting across the country and taking odd-jobs for money. When Daniel’s letter (somehow) reached him, he joined the school more for the free dorm and meals provided than for the education. However, he also saw it as an opportunity to learn and increase his chances of finding stable work. He knows he has a superpower, but doesn’t know his true potential.
Power: Damion can control and create light. Basic uses of this power include making directed beams or flashes of light. However, Damion is also able to “harden” light he is in contact with (which he can turn back into normal light). Hardened light acts like a solid material, essentially allowing him to create things like walls and beams out of thin air. In addition, Damion can turn his own body and some other things (such as clothing he’s wearing) into light. While transformed into light, Damion still retains complete control of his body and powers, allowing him to move extremely quickly. In case people think Damion is OP, his power has three main weaknesses: darkness limits the amount of light he can create, any light he creates or controls has to move in a straight line, and normal light must move at light-speed, while hardened light acts like a normal material (e.g. Damion can not create flashes of hardened light, he must continually move while turned into light).
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Alex followed Adira silently as the two crept across the field. Or, rather, they thought they were silent. If they had actually paid attention to themself, they would have realized that they were making quite a bit of noise. They hadn't had too much experience sneaking around, after all.
Suddenly, Adira stopped walking and turned to face them. "We've just reached the training ground," she whispered, "so please be quiet and move with great caution. It might be rigged."
As Alex opened their mouth to reply, a voice sounded from behind them. It was Damion.
"Move with great caution," he mocked. "Like you were doing that before. Any fool could have seen you. Where are you going, anyway?"
"The training grounds," Adira responded curtly.
"We haven't had any training sessions yet. Something isn't right." With that, Adira turned again and walked into the building, her walk showing her extreme annoyance.
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Normally I'm good at being stealthy, but with Alex it was practically impossible. I'm surprised we didn't get noticed by anybody in a higher rank than Damion, which, admittedly, isn't a very high bar.
"SO what are we going to do now?" Alex whispers.
"Train. Obviously." I smile, eyes narrowing. Damion follows us in.
"Psh. Yeah, good luck with that."
"Oh hush. It's not like we've got anything better to do." I reply.
"Uh, yeah we do. Like, STAYING WHERE WE ARE MEANT TO BE??" Damion reaches out to me. I brush him off.
"What's the fun in that? Listen, if you aren't going to train then leave me here." I lower my voice to a mumble. "At least I need the practise."
So I was thinking that Adira is secretly insecure about her powers...? Oh and also, Tafinx? I was looking at Damion's personality sheet and I think that Adira and Damion would do well together as a couple. Thoughts?
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Yeah, that might be a good idea. She's certainly the most person for that position. also, I'll probably post later today, but I can't right now.
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Alex shrugged at Damion and followed Adira into the middle of the training ground. She turned to face them, her face showing some kind of negative emotion that they couldn't identify.
"Okay, you first. Let's see how you stand against my amazing powers." Was Alex wrong, or was there a hint of worry in her voice? Ah, it didn't matter. They pulled a pen and notebook out of their pocket and quickly drew a black circle. They stared at the paper, and the circle slowly rose out of it. But it wasn't a circle but rather a sphere.
Alex grabbed the sphere and threw it straight at Adira's face, catching her by surprise. She concentrated for a moment and reality changed, deflecting the sphere and throwing it back at Alex. They caught it easily and began to throw it again.
But before they could finish the motion, they froze as a voice echoed from behind them.
I was thinking Mr. Storm or one of the teachers shows up and barges in on them. Perhaps they don't get in trouble, and instead, he tries to tempt them into doing something they shouldn't? I don't know.
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(March 7, 2019 - 10:07 pm)
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"Well, how did you get in here?" Turning at the voice, I noticed that someone was standing by the door. He was neatly dressed, but a large-brimmed hat, gloves, and sunglasses hid his features. What was more disturbing, though, was that I was keeping one eye on the door the whole time, and I didn't notice him. "Who are you?" I asked, my voice showing no signs of my concern.
"My name is Geigue. I used to be Mr. Storm's personal bodyguard until me appionted me head of security for Void Corp. However, that job involved too much paperwork and too little fighting, so I asked to work as the PE teacher and night guard here. Really though, how did you get in here? All non-residential buildings are locked from 10 pm to 6 am for security reasons."
Alex smiled and held out a keycard they had drawn. "I drew a way in." "Not bad, but you still shouldn't be here." Geigue suddenly appeared behind Alex, moving faster than I could see. "Training is fine and all, but rules are rules. Are you going to leave now, or will I have to make you?" Geigue's voice is calm and unexpressive, but I could still hear the threat in it. "Its alright," I said, grabbing Adria's arm. "We'll leave now."
Dragging Adria, I pulled her outside and all the way back to the dorm with Alex following me, tuning out her repeated compliants. Once I had gotten her in her dorm, I let go. "What did you do that for? I was going to just stay!" "Neither of you would have lasted five seconds," I said. "That guy was able to move faster than I could see. I've never seen anyone with a superpower of that strength. If he's the security here, there's no way we're getting into a building after hours." "Well then, what are we going to do?" Alex asked. "We still havn't had any training yet." "Mr. Storm is coming tomorrow. Hopefully he can clear that up. I need to get back to Connor, my roommate. I'll see you tomorrow." So saying, I walked back to my dorm.
"What is it, Geigue?"
"I caught three students in the gym after hours. One of them has a creation power. They could be trouble."
"You worry too much, Geigue. If they were that dangerous, Daniel would have said something. But just the same, keep an eye on them."
"I've already planted a Link in the creation power kid. if anything happens, I'll know. ... Terra, is this really a good idea? I know what Daniel said, but ... how can we know for sure?"
"We can't, Geigue. That's why the students' can't know about it. Knowing that they all have strong powers and that we're going to train them is one thing, but if they knew the reason why we were doing this or who we are, do you think any of them would help us?"
"Probably not. Well the, goodnight, Principal Terra. I have to make sure Daniel's flight here is uneventful."
"When is anything involving Daniel uneventful? Good luck, Geigue."
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damion comes back deep in thought.
"So what were they doing?" I ask
"Oh..... Sorry" He says "They said they were training but some guy caught us."
"What?" I ask trying to get more informstion.
"IT was nothing. He just gave us a warming."
"Oh well okay" I yell at myself in my head. Why was I asking so many questions? Damion was obviously uncomfortable.
"So why are you here?"
"What?"
"I mean your powers"
"Oh sorry well, I have fire powers...." I say quietly.
"Why are you ashamed of them?" He asked suprised
"It's just my-" I cut myself off before I can say more. I like Damion but I don't really know him. He shouldn't have to know what happened. Yet somehow I end up saying "They control me more then I control them" a blue fire apears in my hand. "It happens off of emotions and how I feel. I can't fight it off."
"Um..." Ilook up as Damion is just staring there.
'Ugh! I'm sorry I'll just go to bed!" I say then muttering under my breath I say "No one knows what it's like." I turn and head to my bathroom cursing as I go. This is worse than home.
@Tafinx I was thinking Damion and Connor could be like best friends? They kind of reflect eachother. After all they are in the same dorm!
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As Alex lay in bed, trying and failing to get to sleep, Adira spoke up from across the room.
"I still think we should have stayed."
"Nah, that guy was creepy. We would have gotten in so much trouble."
"Our powers are a match for his. It was three on one!"
"No, like Damion said, his powers were really strong. And I think there's something off about him... I think he did something to me."
"Did something? Like what?"
"I don't know. I just feel... off. The only thing I can think of is, well, you know how in fantasy stories people always get marked? It feels somewhat like that."
"Alex. He couldn't have marked you or whatever. You're just feeling off because it's your first day at a new school. Now, good night. I'm tired of talking to you."
And perhaps you're feeling off too. You really don't need to be so aggressive, Alex whispered to themself, lacking the courage to actually say it.
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I lay awake in my bed. Alex sleeps peacefully on the other side of the room. I checked. They're deeply asleep. An idea pops into my head. Slowly and silently, I slip out, locking the door behind me.
"Powers over reality, eh? Let's see how good I can try to be." I whisper to myself. Slowing time for everything else, I make my way over to the training grounds for the second time that night. Suddenly, I feel a pair of eyes watching me. I bend light to make myself invisible, and the feeling disappeared. I take a step. An echo of my footfall sounds just after my step, and it sounds heavier. It must be the guard from earlier. Somehow, he knows when I move. I look down. I'm treading on a thin layer of dirt. Of course. They dust the streets after dark. I mentally curse.
"Fine. I give up. What do you want?" I hiss, letting myself become visible. The guard steps out from behind a large tree.
"I'm surprised you detected me."
"Yeah, and I detected you Linking my... acquaintence earlier. What's that do?" The guard lowers his glasses. I fight a reaction when I see his eyes areblood red. Completely blood red.
"You are powerful, Adira. That's for sure. Mr. Snow will be pleased." I step away from him, assuming a casual but ready stance. Ready for anything. "A Link watches over the person it's attached to. It makes sure they are safe, and it keeps us guards from accidentally damaging the Linked person. We do that sometimes. A lot of us have quite rampant tempers. I should have Linked you. You're more valuable than the other."
"We're equal, thanks." I shoot back. "They've got powers, I've got powers. Nothing can change that." The amused look in the guard's bloody eyes says I may be wrong. I take another step back. "Right?" He chuckles.
"Ah, Adira. You haven't thought ahead enough. You've got reality powers, haven't you?" He looks up from his glasses, a broad smile on his face. Suddenly, I'm back in my dorm, breathing hard. Ah, yes. My lovely emergency teleportation. I could've gotten more out of the guard if I hadn't left! It wasn't even on purpose! I've got to train that out of myself sometime. Alex moans and sits up. Seeing me standing defensively and breathing a bit quickly, they fly out of bed.
"Adira! What's wrong??" They almost shout. I swear, they need to take it down a notch. A few notches. But I take their arm.
"We - I need to get Damion. Something's very wrong here."
And the plot advances.
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I was just about to head over to Connor when adria and Alex burst into my dorm. "What is wrong with you two?" I asked, slightly annoyed. "Is probably past midnight already. can't I get some sleep before the commencement at 10?" "Something's very wrong here." Adria siad, obviously stressed and out of breath. "I just went over to the training grounds ..." "Again? Did you not learn your lesson the first time?" "Let me finish! I ran into the guard, Geigue, again. He 'Linked' Alex, and ... and ..." "Calm down, and tell me everything that happened." After Adria had finished, I thought for a second. "Yes, something's definitely wrong. But what are we going to do? Its not like we can just start fighting everyone. Besides the fact that we'd lose, we don't even know what's going on. We should probably ... Alex, is something wrong?"
As soon as I said that, noticing Alex's eyes flickering, everything went black for a second. Then, all three of us, plus Connor, were standing in the gym again, with Geigue right in front of us. "I thought you'd be trouble," he said, smiling. "But I know everything a Linked person knows. That's my power, you know. I can Link things together in different ways. I used an Observation Link on Alex, and now I can see though their eyes, hear through their ears. You kids are probably more trouble than you're worth, if you even suspect our secret. I guess I'll just kill you now ..."
Suddenly, a transparent dome appeared around us and Geigue. A figure also appeared in front of us, dressed in a completely concealing black and purple costume. A costume I recognized immediately. "Void Walker," I wispered to myself. "Chairman of the League of Heroes. I thought he was dead."
Ignoring us, Void Walker turned to Geigue. "You did a great job. Your clothes are perfect, your voice is perfect, even your power is close enough to fool Terra. You even got Geigue's eye color. However, you missed one thing: Geigue wasn't here today. He's on board Mr. Storm's flight." "I don't know who you are, but I'll kill you too!" The fake Geigue snarled, dissapearing. "You don't know me? How sad." Geigue appeared in front of Void Walker, a bolt of energy in his hand. But the energy and his hand went right through Void Walker. "My Room is deployed. If you knew who I was, then you'd know that, if you're within my Room, I've already won. Scythe." A chunk dissapeared from the fake Geigue's arm, and he fell down, howling. "Go now, and tell your master that I forsaw the rise of the new heroes and new villians. These children are under my protection, under Terra's, under Geiuge's. We will not allow you to harm them. Growling, the fake Geigue dissapeared. Void Walker then turned to us. "Recall." In an instant, we were back in our dorm. "What just ... how are you here?" I asked, confused. "Mr. Storm will explain everything in the morning. But be on your guard. If a villian already got here, then even this school may not be safe." So saying, Void Walker dissapeared. "So, what just happened?" Connor asked, probably the most confused of any of us. "No. No questions or anything." I said, walking over to my bed. "I can't even process how many things just happened right now. I need to sleep on it." I layed down on my bed and instantly fell asleep, oblivious to anything the other three did.
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I watch Damion collapse into his bed and the other two leave. I guess I'll get answers in the morning. I fall back in bed but I can't go to sleep. I've heard that name before. Scythe. I Don't get it. How would I know that? I slowley drift off to sleep.
In the morning I wake up at 8:30. Damion is still out. I get ready and wear black pants, a fire shirt and a black sweatshirt with a flame symbol on it. I don't really want to meet the Storm guy but I guess I could alway run away.
Damion gets up at about 9:00 and I imeatietly question him.
"Dude what was that last night? With Scythe and was that really Void Walker? What does being Linked mean? Why were you even up?"
He looks at me and holds his hand up. "I'll tell you when I'm done getting ready."
I sigh and wait.
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Void Walker says blatantly "Recall" and I watch as the other students disappear, then I sneak away from the door and almost have a heart attack when I hear the hero state my name "Jakob." I turn around to face the man who had saved countless lives, probably ended some too.
"Y-yes?" I ask, internally cursing myself for the stutter in my voice.
"Why didn't you do anything?"
"There was too much metal."
He tilts his head to the side "What?"
I look at my hands "If I did anything I could have killed them all."
"And you know this how?"
Suddenly the floor becomes more interesting than the hero standing in front of me "I-" memories cloud my mind and I force myself to speak, my voice barely more than a whisper "I didn't mean to."
Void Walker looks at me for a minute before reaching out his hand, I instinctively flinch away but all he does is pat my head. "I know." Then he waves his hand at me and says "Shoo, go sleep, you have classes in the morning." his voice is surprisingly gentle.
I shoo. When I get back to my room I find Jax snoring his head off on his bed. I sigh and sit on my bed, watching the sparks dance between my fingertips. What do I do now?
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*walks in 9 posts late with a hot chocolate and a piece of toast* Sorry I haven't been active on here guys *takes a sip of hot chocolate* I've had a bad bout of writer's block but I think I'm good now
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Alex collapsed on their bed and stared up at the ceiling. Why had so much crazy stuff happened that night? First the Link, and then the guard wasn't actually a guard, but rather a villain, and then Void Walker showed up. Void Walker. Like, that guy was the center of bedtime stories! The ultimate hero! And he had come to them, to this school. What on Earth was going on here?
As the thoughts swarmed around their mind, Alex somehow sank into sleep. They were woken abruptly the next morning by Adora turning the lights on.
"Seriously? What was that for?" they asked.
"Alex, it's 8:00. We have classes in two hours, and I want to talk to the others before then. Now get up and come with me!"
Groaning, they pulled themself out of bed, threw some clothes on, and followed Adira out of the room.
So I was thinking, aren't Adira's powers kind of OP? I mean, she can become invisible, manipulate items, even teleport! Are there any limits on her powers?
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Yes. Every time she usues them she temporarily loses part of her mind. It takes a while for her to go insane, but she will if she uses her powers to much. Complete loss of her mind lasts for about an hour.
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Previous research has shown that men and women, on average, have different risk attitudes and may therefore see different value propositions in response to new opportunities. We use data from smallholder farm households in Mali to test whether risk perceptions differ by gender and across domains. We model this potential association across six risks (work injury, extreme weather, community relationships, debt, lack of buyers, and conflict) while controlling for demographic and attitudinal characteristics. Factor analysis highlights extreme weather and conflict as eliciting the most distinct patterns of participant response. Regression analysis for Mali as a whole reveals an association between gender and risk perception, with women expressing more concern except in the extreme weather domain; however, the association with gender is largely absent when models control for geographic region. We also find lower risk perception associated with an individualistic and/or fatalistic worldview, a risk-tolerant outlook, and optimism about the future, while education, better health, a social orientation, self-efficacy, and access to information are generally associated with more frequent worry— with some inconsistency. Income, wealth, and time poverty exhibit complex associations with perception of risk. Understanding whether and how men’s and women’s risk preferences differ, and identifying other dominant predictors such as geographic region and worldview, could help development organizations to shape risk mitigation interventions to increase the likelihood of adoption, and to avoid inadvertently making certain subpopulations worse off by increasing the potential for negative outcomes.
Published Paper, Presentation Slides
Husband and Wife Perspectives on Farm Household Decision-making Authority and Evidence on Intra-household Accord in Rural Tanzania
We use OLS and logistic regression to investigate variation in husband and wife perspectives on the division of authority over agriculture-related decisions within households in rural Tanzania. Using original data from husbands and wives (interviewed separately) in 1,851 Tanzanian households, the analysis examines differences in the wife’s authority over 13 household and farming decisions. The study finds that the level of decision-making authority allocated to wives by their husbands, and the authority allocated by wives to themselves, both vary significantly across households. In addition to commonly considered assets such as women’s age and education, in rural agricultural households women’s health and labour activities also appear to matter for perceptions of authority. We also find husbands and wives interviewed separately frequently disagree with each other over who holds authority over key farming, family, and livelihood decisions. Further, the results of OLS and logistic regression suggest that even after controlling for various individual, household, and regional characteristics, husband and wife claims to decision-making authority continue to vary systematically by decision – suggesting decision characteristics themselves also matter. The absence of spousal agreement over the allocation of authority (i.e., a lack of “intrahousehold accord”) over different farm and household decisions is problematic for interventions seeking to use survey data to develop and inform strategies for reducing gender inequalities or empowering women in rural agricultural households. Findings provide policy and program insights into when studies interviewing only a single spouse or considering only a single decision may inaccurately characterize intra-household decision-making dynamics.
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There's a peri-urban contact zone 60-120 minutes drive from Melbourne, and 30-60 minutes around the regional centres that ring Melbourne. In the contact zone, broadacre farming of the past is giving way to a new mix of more intensive and small lot farming, lifestylers and expanding towns. New people are interacting with those that have lived there 40 years, or 4 generations. The sense of what is important is contested.
With rapid change, what the environment needs and should be allowed, in the midst of competing needs, is up for grabs.
A Landcare Network like Geelong Landcare Network is tuned into these development pressures. Its members see the impact of urban growth on a landscape they have known a long time. When GLN's Committee of Management questioned where the Network needed to break new ground, they spoke from deep inside the contact zone:
How do we seed new forms of organising,
communicating and leading community action?
They want new ways of engaging people and leading them. And they know they only have the resources to nurture the seeds that are already appearing. That's good strategic thinking.
GLN's situation will sound familiar to just about every Landcare group and Network in the peri-urban contact zone (and beyond). How do we talk to the rest of our local community? How do we create opportunities for people to be involved that work for them, the way they work now - time-poor, families to look after, or running a property with just a couple of people? How do we marshal the effort and the smarts in our Landcare group to initiate new communication and organise events that suit people, when there's just a few of us?
As Geelong grows into its surrounding rural areas, many new residents don’t have time for committee work. Younger people don't want to be on a committee. But they do want to make a difference. It's a quandry, a conundrum.
They're chipping away at it in the Geelong Landcare Network. They have 4 questions inside that big one above to work on, so they have a lot on their plate:
Which new residents should we target?
How do we rebrand Landcare?
On what issues do we most want to make a difference?
Read why these questions are important for Geelong Landcare Network in the doc at right, the write up of their first session with CLEA).
No report on progress yet, just that there's been a lot on, and changes in the CoM, but they're committed to getting back to it in 2019.
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On Campus: The ever-growing campus of CCU in Conway is a far cry from its humble beginnings in borrowed classrooms of 1954. Today, nearly 11,000 students are enrolled.
What a home!: Brooks Stadium, named for the children of benefactor Bob Brooks of Hooters’ fame, seats 21,000 and is vastly larger than its predecessor.
Brooks (left) and former CCU President Ronald Ingle (right) at the 2003 dedication of Brooks Stadium.
Brooks Stadium in 2003 at the first football game in school history.
The CCU Chanticleer football conference championship-winning team poses with its trophy.
ESPN comes to town, highlighting the school’s football program and the community at large, to a national audience.
Left to right: Chauncey, Chris Johnson (former Exec. Dir of the Chanticleer Athletic Foundation), AD Matt Hogue, donors Stacy and Wyatt Henderson (former board of trustee’s member) and Dr. David DeCenzo.
Matt Hogue, VP of Intercollegiate Athletics, was named Athletics Director of the Year (20/21).
Former CCU President, David DeCenzo, enjoyed serving from 2007 to 2020 during an exciting period of growth for CCU’s athletics.
AD Matt Hogue (left) and CCU Pres DeCenzo (right) flank Jessica Alexander (center) at a 2019 women’s golfing Hall of Fame recognition.
A Long Road: After a grueling, 64-team playoff series, CCU coach Gary Gilmore led his team to a national championship in 2016, beating every NCAA college baseball opponent in tournament play in the U.S.
Women’s athletics share the glory at CCU, which supports and offers scholarships in 19 men’s and women’s NCAA collegiate sports.
Women’s Track & Field competitor Erica Peake in 2012.
CCU Women’s soccer’s Ashleigh Gunning, was named Big South Player of the Year in 2007.
The CCU Athletics Department has grown to include most all of the major NCAA sports over the school’s nearly 70-year history.
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The FMRQ has zero tolerance for psychological harassment (bullying). The first thing to do if you believe you are the victim of psychological harassment is to:
make detailed notes of the events (dates, locations, individuals involved, words spoken, gestures made, emails exchanged, etc.).
To help you recognize and take action if you believe you are a victim of psychological harassment in your training site, here is an algorithm. Click on the scenarios for which you wish to obtain information:
My staff physician seems to be picking on me
My staff physician treated me rudely
I experienced a humiliating assessment
A conflict with a colleague is making my life miserable
My staff physician is making advances to me, it’s uncomfortable
Although some progress has been made, psychological harassment is still present in training sites, and has a detrimental impact on the psychological well-being of its victims. The culture has to be changed in training sites and the medical profession as a whole, particularly so that harassment situations are reported and dealt with appropriately, in a timely manner.
Effective intervention in harassment cases is an accreditation criterion for training sites
The Royal College of Physicians and Surgeons of Canada (RCPSC) and the College of Family Physicians of Canada (CFPC) have made psychological harassment a criterion for accreditation, i.e., all training sites must implement measures for responding rapidly and effectively in such situations.
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Dr. Anas joined HMC in 2006 after finishing his BSc in Pharmacy from the University of Jordan. In 2009, he obtained MSc degree in Clinical Pharmacy, International Practice and Policy from the University of London. He acquired an Executive Diploma in Health Services Management from GSM London in 2013. He then completed his PhD in Clinical Practice and Medication Use in 2015 at King's College London.
Dr. Anas has several publications in international peer-reviewed journals. He is currently a reviewer for the International Journal of Clinical Pharmacy. Dr. Anas served as a speaker, presenter and scientific committee member in several national and international conferences/events. He is a core member in HMC Institutional Review Board in addition to various hospital and corporate committees focusing on pharmacy practice, medication use, research, patient safety and service quality.
Our Accreditations
HMC is the principal public healthcare provider in the State of Qatar, delivering the safest, most effective and most compassionate care to each and every one of our patients.
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The Provo Rooftop Concert is the place to be tomorrow night (Friday, June 6th). Take a look at the incredible line up featuring We Are the Strike, Van Lady Love, and Cory Mon.
What is the best way to get to the Rooftop Concerts? By bike, of course. Ride on down to the bicycle valet (just West of the rooftop), and your bicycle will be safe and secure – watched over by volunteers from the Provo Bicycle Collective and Provo Bicycle Committee. No cost for the concert. No cost for the bike valet.
Plus, be sure to pick up your free BikeProvo.org wallet card while you’re there. Tape it to your mirror, put it in your wallet, or ride with it in your spokes to remind you that today is the perfect day for a ride. See you at the concert!
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Dylan Cindrich #bikewalkprovostories This winter’s erratic weather patterns, snowy single digits lows to sunny mid-sixties highs, ice and puddles, hasn’t discouraged Dylan Cindrich from continuing his daily ride to classes at BYU’s Main Campus. Last year Dylan bought a nice set of Bontrager fenders for his Trek Verve 2 hybrid bike and some waterproof clothing that has made all the difference. No longer does he need to commute in his car on those inclement weather days, and tells me he even sometimes finds the bad weather amusing. Dylan began bike commuting when he first started high school in Portland Oregon. He didn’t want to be seen with his mother dropping him off in front of the new school, and the distance being too great for walking he decided to start biking. “Portland is a pinnacle of bicycle culture,” he interjects, “people like riding their bikes there.†It was “a pretty ride, by a golf course, and bike friendly streets with sharrows.†After graduating in 2017 Dylan entered BYU and moved to Provo, mostly walking to classes, but within a year he received the call and left Provo to begin serving a two year mission in Texas. Dylan’s father knew his son would be covering more than a few miles during his tour of service, so he made a phone call to a local dealer and ensured that a new Trek Verve 2 was waiting and paid for when Dylan arrived. The climate and culture in Texas is somewhat different from that of Portland, PeopleForBikes puts Portland’s overall city ranking in the 92nd percentile and one can expect rain 140 days a year on average in the N/W coastal city, but biking is biking wherever the road takes us, and Dyland was ready to roll. In his new environment he faced much hotter and drier weather with little need for rain gear and fancy fenders, when Dylan returned to Provo two years later it was another story. Today he continues to biking for transportation, using his car only for trips to the grocery store (still he’s considering buying a rear-rack and saddle bags) or for those longer trips, like to see friends in Alpine. And there’s much more to his enthusiasm. (continued in comments)
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The fabric tightly hugs your child around you, like another additional layer of clothing.The wrap was made to distribute your baby’s weight evenly over your hips, back, and shoulders, whereas carriers often put the burden on the back.
It is beneficial both for you and your child. It gives infants the support they need without sacrificing the parent’s comfort.
Boba Wrap allows you to easily carry your child while you’re traveling or while you work at home, or whenever you just have to run a few errands.
If you want to find out more about Boba Wrap, we’ll be reviewing its benefits and how different it is compared to other brands.
Before you continue, you may want to watch this video of Heidi Johnson on YouTube that gives a quick overview. Afterward, you’ll want to read the rest of the article for a more comprehensive review.
What is Boba Wrap? Diy Boba Wrap
Boba Wrap was founded by husband and wife Elizabeth and Robert Antunovic. It started back in 2007 when their family was traveling across Europe. Now, it has grown to accommodate thousands of customers across the globe.
They are even certified as hip-healthy for babies by the International Hip Dysplasia Institute. The wrap can help properly position the baby so that their spine and hips are well protected.
Their first product — the Boba Wrap, is a sort of stretchable fabric meant to carry the baby. This allows the babies to be as near as possible with their parents or caregivers. The baby will be able to snuggle closely to their parent’s chest, giving them the warmth and comfort they need.
A parent’s scent is one of the most comforting things for a baby. Top it off with getting warmth and hearing your heartbeat, and you will have one happy baby.
It’s ergonomic and breastfeeding-friendly. You can still use them even if your child is a toddler but they work best when used in newborns. Apart from Boba Wraps, they also offer Boba Carriers as well as accessories.
If you never had experience how to tie baby wraps, their website also provides wrap tutorials and tips.
What is Boba Wrap made of?
Boba Wrap is made from a blend of fabric having 5% Spandex and 95% cotton. These two materials make it stretchable and soft.
For reference, the Boba Wrap is about 5.5 yards long. Even though it is stretchable, it’s not as elastic as other materials, which is just fine as it’s enough to carry your baby. The best thing about this is that even with repeated use, it will not snag. You will have the ability to use the wrap until your child reaches 35 pounds.Some parents found no issues when they tried it on their toddlers.
Although the fabric is breathable, the blend of cotton and spandex can make it too warm to wear during the hottest days of summer. Otherwise, it is perfect to be used outside in colder weather. It provides you and your kid enough warmth. If you’re planning to use it during summer, just make sure that your child is wearing light clothing.
Cleaning is also effortless because of the material. Additionally, it dries quickly, and it is easy to place it on your bag when you are not using it. It doesn’t take up too much space like the other items on your baby bag.
Boba Wrap gives you 11 options. You can choose from 9 different colors and 2 prints.
Colors include light gray, bloom, vintage blue, sangria, navy blue, dark blue, and dark grey. If you’re not into plain colors, they’ve included a wrap with polka-dotted prints and another one with rainbow patterns.
How does it fare to other baby wraps?
Boba Wrap aims to provide comfort to the parent and the child without needing to sacrifice quality and durability. However, Boba Wrap isn’t the sole baby wrap that offers these. If you have a baby to take care of, choosing which to go for can be hard.
In this section, we’ll have a look at how Boba Wrap performs against other competitors. For this review, we selected two of the most popular — Moby Wrap and Solly Baby.
The Moby Wrap is made of 100% cotton and is about 6.6 yards long. It can carry babies that weigh from 8 pounds to 35 lbs. It can also be machine washed.
The cotton makes the wrap more breathable and comfortable during warm days. It can stretch too, so you can use it until your baby becomes a toddler.
Moby Wrap also enables parents to configure the wrapping in four different ways. This makes it more accommodating as your child develops. You can use Moby Wrap to carry them facing inwards, at the front, or on the hips.
If you compare the material, Moby Wrap is more comfortable in terms of breathability. Concerning thickness, the Boba Wrap is thicker compared to the Moby Wrap. The latter is more suitable to be utilized during the hot summer months so that you and your baby will be comfortable.
However, the Moby Wrap does not have a lot of room for stretchability compared to Boba Wrap. With the Boba Wrap, it is possible to tie it a tight as possible because it will easily stretch as soon as you put the baby inside the wrap. This is easier to deal with compared to using Moby Wrap, where you have to tie it just right since it doesn’t stretch as much. Plus-sized parents will also find the Boba Wrap more accomodating. It’s also easier to use as your child grows.
Additionally, Boba Wrap’s weight range accommodates babies from 5 pounds up to 35 pounds. On the other hand, Moby Wrap ranges from 8 pounds to 35 lbs. The stretchability factor of Boba Wrap makes it possible to be used by babies that are beyond 35 pounds.
Both products are good, but if you’re looking for a more versatile baby wrap, the Boba Wrap is more recommended.
Solly Baby is another wrap carrier that has become popular over recent years. They are also recognized by the International Hip Dysplasia Institute for being hip-healthy. The length is at 5.5 yards, just like Boba Wrap.
The material is made of 100% Lenzing Modal. For those people who aren’t familiar with the fabric, it’s made from Austrian Beechwood tree pulp. This Austrian fabric is then weaved and processed in L.A.
Lenzing Modal is much more breathable compared to cotton. It can circulate air better than most fabrics since it’s lighter. It’s also moisture-wicking, so it can keep you cool during summer while keeping you comfortable during winters. Diy Boba Wrap
However, in comparison to Boba Wrap, Solly Baby has a steeper learning curve. Tying can be harder even if there are tutorials available online.
Moreover, the fabric can be too thin for some parents. It doesn’t stretch as well as Boba Wrap’s, so finding just the right tightness when making the wrap can be more challenging.
Though Solly Baby’s fabric is sturdy, the thicker feel of Boba Wrap might be more reassuring for some parents. It’s also more long-lasting from wear-and-tear.
Since Solly Baby can only accommodate up to 25 pounds, you may not have the ability to use it when your baby turns 9 months old. On the other hand, Boba Wrap can accommodate up to 35 pounds, making it usable until your child becomes a year old.
To help you decide whether Boba Wrap is recommended for you, we have summarised the advantages and disadvantages.
Fabric is soft
Elastic
Usable even by 1-year-old infants
Recommended for plus-sized parents
Wrapping has a learning curve
Fabric can be too hot during summer
Petite-sized parents will find it too long
Whether you’re a first-time parent or not, the Boba Wrap is an excellent investment. You can use it on your newborn baby until they become toddlers.
The material is durable and elastic. It can keep you warm, so make sure you wear light clothing during hot days. It is machine washable and dries fast. You can use it in different ways. Furthermore, it’s easy to store them.
Although it is not perfect, the advantages of using Boba Wrap outweigh its flaws. It is durable compared to other infant wraps. It’s comfortable not only for your baby but for you as well. Say goodbye to backaches! Diy Boba Wrap
Where to purchase Boba Wrap?
Boba products are available on their website, boba.com. It’s more recommended to buy from them directly rather than from resellers for secure transactions.
Is there free shipping available?
There are no shipping fees once you reach the minimum purchase amount. Bear in mind that every country will have a different minimum amount.
To check, just look at the top of the website. The information bar should have the minimum amount displayed. This minimum spending amount will also be different if you’re a wholesale buyer.
Can Boba Wrap offer returns?
Returns are free as long as you purchased from their website within 60 days. You do not need to worry about additional fees since they will cover the shipping of their domestic exchanges and returns.
Can Boba offer a warranty?
Yes. You are eligible for a one-year warranty on all Boba products as long as there’s a manufacturing defect.
Is there international delivery?
Yes! Boba ships in the USA, Canada, and the majority of the European Union. For those who have specific questions, you can email them at hi@boba.com.
Do they have a support contact?
They’re a legit company and very customer-centric. Their customer service staff can be reached through hi@boba.com, or you can call them at 888-567-9727. They also have a live chat on their site from their team. It’s available from 10 am to 4 pm (MST).
What is the sizing of the Boba Wrap?
Boba only offers 1 universal sizing for their Boba Wrap. It’s 5.5 metres long (about 5 meters). If you will need a longer size, they also offer waist extenders.
Can it be used while nursing?
Yes, you can use these while you are nursing. There are tutorials on how to do it.
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Not long after I started living in Tokyo, I reached for an old 50mm lens to find that the view it provided through the viewfinder was cloudy. I took the lens off and held it up to the light, and could easily see that a large area of the inner lens elements was covered in a grey-white mold. I took the lens to the camera store and it cost me as much as the lens did to get it refurbished and the mold removed. I can’t remember exactly when this was, but my guess is around 2002 or 2003, at least before 2005, because I can’t remember ever talking about this in my now 16-year-old podcast.
Shortly after this, I bought my first Humidity Controlled Dry Cabinet, which is still running perfectly well after probably around 18 years of use. The reason I decided to talk about this today though, is because the addition of my new microscopes got me thinking about humidity again, as they were sitting on my work table in my studio, and just entering the rainy season for this year, the humidity was gradually climbing. At first, I tried to figure out a configuration of my 18-year-old cabinet that would enable me to store my microscopes in that, but because it is a wide configuration, with shelves that are fixed at both edges, there was no way for me to just make room on one side of the cabinet.
After a few weeks thinking about what to do, I decided that the best option was going to be to buy a new cabinet with shelf configuration options that would allow me to store both of my microscopes and hopefully all of my camera gear. I have downsized a lot over the last few years, and no longer have the large 200-400mm lens to store, which was the last lens that required the wide configuration of my old double-sided cabinet, so I initially toyed with the idea of just using the one new cabinet, but then I started to think about my options for storing the chemicals and other supporting apparatus that I’ve acquired over the last month or so as I got into microphotography, and I figured I’d store that in my old cabinet, so I’ve now got them both, side by side in the corner of my studio. I’m happier with this decision, as the original cabinet was not broken, and will probably give me at least a few more years of loyal dryness, if not longer.
To put things in perspective, Tokyo rarely goes below 40% humidity, but when it does, it’s generally not for long, and usually during the winter months. The average humidity for December through to February is about 48%. It climbs to an average of 63% in April, a little higher in May, then hovers just below 80% from June until September, 70% in October and back down to 60% in November. I’ve heard that you need to start thinking about protecting optics if your gear will be stored in 60% humidity or higher for prolonged periods. If you live in a country where people generally keep air conditioning on in all rooms during the more humid months, or you live in a predominantly much dryer climate, you really don’t have anything to worry about.
The exception to that would be, for example, if you tend to leave your camera gear in a camera bag, and you get the bag wet, either through rain, or perspiration, and just leave it to dry with your gear inside. That is looking for trouble. If your bag is wet, take your gear out and put it in a dry place, and allow your bag to dry, generally leaving the gear compartment and any pockets open. I’d also recommend keeping some silica gel pouches inside if you are in a borderline climate. If you know that you are not in any danger of suffering from mold due to humidity, and you have anything better to do, you can probably stop listening around now. If this is a concern for you though, listen or read on, and I’ll share a few more details and considerations that lead to my recent purchase.
The first thing I found with interest when I started looking for my recent dry cabinet, was that there is a new kid on the block. When I bought my first cabinet, the market was relatively restricted. My first cabinet has a logo on it that says Dry-Cabi and was made by a company called Tolihan Corporation. They are still in business, but their prices are considerably higher than the company that I bought my new cabinet from. Spec-wise, they are very similar, with a few nice added details in my new cabinet, which made the decision to defect quite easy.
The size of dry cabinets is graded by their volume in liters. Both my first and my recently purchased cabinet are 155L models. The 155L wide cabinet from Dry-Cabi is now listed at $680 at the current exchange rate, and my new cabinet cost me just $450. For domestic listeners, here in Japan, that’s ¥75,350 and ¥49,805 respectively. The new cabinet is branded here in Japan as Hokuto, from the Arvex Group, but they seem to be branded differently in other countries, and I have not been able to find out if the one’s I found on Amazon.com are from the same manufacturer, but other than the brand name, they look identical, so I will provide some links later.
I ordered the HP-155EX directly from the manufacturer, and it arrived two days later, boxed up as you can see in the photo to the left below. I was able to carry this up my stairs by myself, but it’s a good weight at 25.5 KG or 56 lbs, so keep in mind that you may need some help with this if you ever buy a cabinet as large as this.
Rather than trying to pull the cabinet out of the top of the box, or laying it down, I decided to cut the box down both of the two front corners that you see here and then peeled that front face away to get access to the cabinet. There was a layer of polystyrene on each edge and corner braces to keep it protected in transit. Having removed the packaging, I walked the cabinet out of the box and removed the final polythene bag that it was in to reveal the shiny new cabinet.
Before we look at how I stocked the new cabinet, to the right above is a photo of my old Dry-Cabi while it still contained my camera gear. As you can see, it’s not completely full since my downsizing, and this was why initially tried to move everything to the bottom section of the new HP-155EX. I had carefully measured my two microscopes together to ensure that they would fit into the top compartment of the HP-155EX, and they did, as you can see in the next photo.
Top of HP-155EX with Microscopes
I removed both of the trays from this top section and found initially that the metal flap that the magnets on the door attach to actually prevent me from simply sliding my microscopes straight in vertically. I have to tilt them forward and ensure that the camera port is inside the cabinet before righting them vertically and positioning them next to each other in the cabinet. I also actually still place their covers on for extra protection from dust when I won’t be using them for a few days.
Also, note the fancy LED lights along the right front edge of the cabinet. These help to see what’s in the cabinet to a degree, so they are more than a marketing gimmick that I’d initially expected them to be. In the below-left photo, you can also see the bottom compartment of the cabinet. The top compartment is about two-thirds the height of the bottom section. The thing that I really like about the new cabinet is that the shelves all pull out pretty much completely, allowing me to place lenses behind each other, rather than having just one lens on each row, which is how I used my Dry-Cabi. This really helps to place your gear very efficiently, though the lens feet on my two macro lenses take up an extra row, and I’ll try to figure out what to do about this at some point.
I’m keeping my three main camera bodies on the next shelf down, and you can see my EOS R5 sporting my microscope adapter at the front of this shelf, and my Rollieflex to the left. My EOS R has been living in the back-right corner with the 50mm ƒ/1.2 lens attached, as I often grab that to get shots like these for the blog etc. In the right photo below you can see my Rollei filter case, my Canon RF 100-500mm lens and the two RF mount Extenders, as well as some RF mount extension tubes that I picked up and will report on at some point soon. I found it interesting that the third-party manufacturers beat Canon to the market on the Extension Tube front.
I have a very shallow shelf between the two shelves in the last two photos on which I’ve stored my filters and macro rail etc. Back in my old Dry-Cabi, you see that apart from my old Yashica TLR camera, I have pretty much filled it with stuff that I’m using for my microphotography. The Vortex mixer that you can probably just make out to the right of the middle shelf there, has a rubber cover on the top that you push the test-tube down on to mix its contents, and I’m pretty sure that if I left this out in the heat and humidity of the Tokyo summer, that rubber would go all sticky and probably completely break down over the course of one or two years. The chemicals and things like citric acid that I’ve bought also won’t fair well in the humidity, even though I have put them in relatively well sealed containers.
My Dry-Cabi Repurposed
Here also is a photo of the control panel and hygrostat that is positioned in the top-right corner of the HP-155EX cabinet. When you haven’t pressed any buttons, the number you’ll see is the humidity inside the cabinet. Pressing the top button turns on the LED lights inside the cabinet, and shows the temperature inside the cabinet, both of which are nice little features.
To see the target humidity you long press the SET button, then move it up or down using the top two buttons, then press the SET button again to store the value. I have mine set at 35%, as you see here. They say that for camera gear around 40% is a good humidity, and for electronics, setting the cabinet at 30% is good. So, as our cameras are also electronic goods these days, I take the middle ground with 35%.
Finally, here is one last photo of both my old Dry-Cabi and the new Hokuto HP-155EX playing nicely together in the corner of my studio. I feel much better with the humidity setting in for the summer now that my microscopes are inside this new cabinet, and it’s also helped me to clear away my work table of all the microphotography gadgets that have found their way into my studio, mostly during May before I went down-periscope to create my new MBP Fine Art Border Tools plugin for Photoshop that I talked about in the previous episode. I’ve peered into the microscopes a few times and actually watched something that looked like a very small damselfly shed its exoskeleton with my Stereo microscope one-morning last week, which was fascinating.
Also, if you are wondering why I left the shorter cabinet in the corner rather than switching it out for the taller one, that’s because a strong earthquake could cause the taller cabinet to completely topple over if it was in the corner because there is nothing in front of it to stop it. Where it is though, you can see the corner of my desk in the bottom corner of the photo. That might stop the cabinet from toppling over completely if I’m lucky. Of course, it would all depend on the direction of the shaking, and a quake strong enough to topple over that cabinet would probably be pretty devastating anyway, but here in Japan, these are things that we have to keep in mind, in addition to the high humidity.
Anyway, we’ll start to wrap it up there, and I’ll leave you with a few thoughts on what you might want to look at if you decide you need one of these and look to pick it up from Amazon.com. The one that I found that is the closest to what I bought is from a company called Ruggard, although it has a capacity of 180L, so it’s actually slightly larger than mine. Another slightly smaller cabinet that I found is from a company called FORSPARK at 125L. They also have a nice looking 80L cabinet if you don’t have too much gear to keep safe. If none of these fit the bill, scroll down on any of these pages and you’ll see some similar cabinets that might work for you.
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Rich Ball on 2021/07/09 at 01:14
Martin – I made one business trip to Japan before I retired. I was struck by how humid it was. In hindsight I now understand why so much of the used gear from Japan has fungus problems. Does you new cabinet have provisions for bolting it to the floor? At one time i considered buying a gun safe for my camera gear. They all have provisions for bolting them to the floor. It would have been great for theft protection. I gave the idea up because of the weight. Humidity controlled ones are available and quite expensive.
Also I posted a comment on your Helicon stacking software post. It disappeared. Did I do something dumb or is it lost somewhere in your system.
I note that Tokyo is entering another lockdown for the Olympics I guess.
Stay well and all the Best – Rich Ball
For sure Rich, any gear that is not stored in a dry cabinet will develop fungus damage. The cabinet I bought doesn’t have an official way to bolt it down, although it could be done quite easily by removing the feet and then sealing the holes properly. The cabinet does have strengthened glass and keys to lock both doors, so it’s relatively safe, but probably wouldn’t stand up to a hammer blow or two, which would negate any benefits of bolting it down as well.
Tokyo has actually never been fully locked down. The government doesn’t have any laws that enable them to do that. It’s all based on asking people to stay at home, and most people are still commuting into the city. Still, the new daily cases are relatively low though, and the vaccinations are gradually rolling out, so hopefully, we have some light at the end of the tunnel.
Regards,
Rich Ball on 2021/07/13 at 01:31
Martin – I’m afraid my comment was incomplete. I apologize for that. The reason I asked about bolting the cabinet down was to prevent the tip over scenario in an earthquake. Tokyo is in a pretty active earthquake zone. The Seattle area had an earthquake in 2001. It was only 6.8 magnitude and the epicenter was some 40 miles away but it did do significant damage. The building I was in was torn down because of the damage. I hope your apartment is up to current standards for earthquake design.
Aah, I see. Thanks for the update Rich. Our apartment is relatively new and follows the required standards, but it’s still a concern. Unfortunately though bolting stuff down isn’t possible in a rented apartment. The only options, which we do with our refridgerator and crockery cabinet is to put an extendable pole between the top of it which pushes against the ceiling. That is something I could certainly consider for the new dry-cabinet as well, although the pole would need to be over a meter long. I’ll see what I can find. Thanks for getting me thinking about this again.
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Nadi is a Sanskrit word which means channels. Through Nadis, the energies such as prana flow. All nadis are spread throughout the astral body. It is said that there are thousands of nadis throughout the human framework responsible for various functions. Among them the three followings are very important. They are –
These principal nadis originate from the base of spine to head. Ida on the left, the Sushumna in the centre and the Pingala on the right. The exact physical area is the spinal cord within which in the subtle body these nadis flow and perform various functions.
Reference from Shiva Samhita – It is important to know here the reference for an ancient scripture. According to the Shiva Samhita out of 350,000 nadis, 14 are important and among them, the three just mentioned are the three most important. The three principal nadis are Ida, Pingala, and Sushumna. Ida lies to the left of the spine, Pingala is to the right side of the spine. Sushumna runs along the spinal cord in the center through the seven chakras. When the channels are unblocked by the action of Yoga the Kundalini energy uncoils and rises up through Sushumna from the base of the spine. Therefore, Nadis play a very vital role in Yoga, as many of the Yogic practices, like Shatkarmas, Mudras, Pranayama, and Bandha are intended to open the nadis. We should know that the ultimate aim of Yogic practices is to direct prana into the Sushumna nadi to, enable the Kundalini to rise to attain liberation.
Anatomy of Ida, Pingala and Sushumna – Ida nadi has within it another finer nadi called the inter-ida nadi and also Pingala nadi has another finer nadi within it called the inter-pingala nadi. Within these finer nadis the ionic density is high, but outside and surrounding them is a region where the ionic charge is low. The implication is that the finer nadi is surrounded by a semi-permeable membrane which allows negative and positive ions respectively to enter but not to leave. This is similar to cellophane wrapping around food which allows moisture to enter but not to leave the food. Concerning the Sushumna nadi, the spiritual channel, there are three nadis within Sushumna: the innermost/finest one called Brahma nadi and the one surrounding it called Chitrini nadi and the outermost/third one is Vajra nadi. Please remember that they are not concrete physical entities, but are separate one from the other by virtue of differences in ionic concentrations. The nadi within Sushumna which plays the most important part is the Brahma nadi as within this nadi are all Chakras.
Pranayama related to Nadis – Ida and Pingala are linked with each other and also with the breath. Generally, these nadis contain impurities and toxins which cause tensions of many kinds – physical, emotional and mental.Therefore, the nerve channels should be purified by means of Pranayama. The Hatha Yoga Pradipika states – If the breath (prana) cannot pass through the Sushumna due to impurities, then how can the state of unmani (purified consciousness) take place and how can there be any perfection? When pranayama is perfected then dross and blockages are completely removed. When the nadis are purified by the practice of pranayama, vital energy can be sent to any part of the body.
Characteristics of Ida, Pingala and Sushumna – The three Nadis have different features and actions. For example – at one time Ida or Pingala flows actively. After one hour or one hour and a half they interchange and the other begins to flow actively. When one flows actively the other flow passively. At the time they interchange, it is time when Sushumna begins to flow little bit. But this time period is a minute or two. Mostly Sushumna is dormant and become active when both Ida and Pingala flow together. The image can help us understand the features of the three Nadis clearly.
Importance of Sushumna – Sushumna is subtler than Ida and Pingala, but it also contains within it the three qualities of Tamas, Rajas and Sattva corresponding to the inter-sushumna nadi. The deeper we go into Sushumna, the more refined it becomes, until we reach the centre which is beyond all three Gunas. The exterior of Sushumna relates to Tamas, as it is inert. Within this lies Vajra nadi, which relates to Rajas, within that is Chittra nadi which relates to Sattva. Deeper than all of them is the subtlest Brahma nadi and this is the pathway through which Kundalini energy rises up. The aim of Swara yoga and other Yoga, is to activate all the layers of Sushumna nadi by harmonising Ida and Pingala which is the dualistic aspects of nature and energy. Then only one can go beyond the limitations.
There are some other important Nadis which perform different functions. We mention some of them hereunder (resources from Prana and Pranayama by Swami Niranjanananda Saraswati) –
Gandhari – It flows from the corner of the left eye to the left big toe. It is situated on the side of Ida and supports it. Gandhari can be stimulated by Baddha Padmasana.
Hastijihva – It flows from the right eye to the left big toe and carries energy to and from the lower part of the body. Hastijihva and Gandhari support Ida and together form the left channel.
Yashaswini – It flows from the right big toe to the left ear and supports Pingala.
Pusha – It flows from the left big toe to the right ear. Pusha and Vashaswini support Pingala and together form the right channel.
Alambusha – It begins in the anus and terminates in the mouth.
Kuhu – It begins in the throat and terminates in the genitals. Seminal essence is transformed to soma by this nadi. Kuhu is awakened by the practice of Vajroli.
Shankhini – It begins at the throat and terminates in the anus. It flows on the left side of Sushumna between Saraswati and Gandhari. Shankhini is activated by the practice of Basti (Yogic enema).
Saraswati – It is the nadi situated on the tongue. Those who possess gifted speech have an awakened Saraswati.
Payaswini – It flows on the right side between Pusha and Saraswati and is complementary to Pingala. Its termination point is the right ear. The sect of ascetics called Kanphata Yogis awaken this nadi by wearing large earrings.
Varuni – It purifies toxins in the lower pelvic area along with Kuhu. It terminates at the anus and is activated by Basti and other Kriyas.
Vishwodari – It resides in the area of the navel and flows between Kuhu and Hastijihva. It is related to the adrenal gland and the pancreas and is activated by Nauli Kriya and Uddiyana Bandha. It improves the flow of prana throughout the body, and helps in the rising of prana along Sushumna.
With Love and Gratefulness (Founder Rohit Kumar)
Source – Ancient texts of Yoga, words of Swami Sivananda, Swami Satyananda, Swami Niranjanananda Sawaswati and personal study.
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The Minister of Defence reported to the Supreme Commander-in-Chief on the completion of the partial mobilisation.
October 28, 2022
President of Russia Vladimir Putin: Please, Mr Shoigu.
Defence Minister Sergei Shoigu Shoigu SergeiDefence Minister : Comrade Supreme Commander-in-Chief,
Starting September 21, the military enlistment offices, together with the executive authorities of the constituent entities of the Russian Federation, have been carrying out the partial mobilisation effort, which involved calling up 300,000 people and deploying them to military units.
Each of the regions in our country put in a significant effort. Regional governors as well as other levels of executive authorities, including municipal and regional bodies provided invaluable assistance and support.
In the course of the partial mobilisation, more than 1,300 representatives of executive authorities have been called up, as well as over 27,000 entrepreneurs. As many as 13,000 Russians volunteered to fulfil their duty before any mobilisation notices were served to them. The average age of mobilised Russians is 35.
At an early stage, there were problems with various types of supplies and subsistence for the mobilised. These problems have been resolved. All those deployed to their units are provided with the required supplies, uniforms, equipment, and food at the same standard as professional military personnel serving under contract.
Particular emphasis is being placed on the proper training of newly mobilised reservists. At present, 218,000 people are in combat training as part of crews or units in training centres and grounds.
After completing the training, 82,000 reservists were sent to the area of the special military operation, including more than 41,000 who joined units there. Those who see action will receive the status of combat veteran and the corresponding package of social benefits. All recruits called up under the mobilisation have been deployed today. No more notices are being served. The target you set – 300,000 people – has been achieved. No additional objectives are planned. Military enlistment offices will continue to staff the troops for the special military operation only by accepting volunteers and candidates planning to join the service under contract.
This concludes my report.
Vladimir Putin: Ok, thank you very much.
I would like to thank everyone who has taken part in this great work. You said yourself that there were certain problems and difficulties in the first stage. This was probably inevitable, considering that no such event has taken place in our country for a long time.
But nevertheless, the necessary conclusions need to be drawn. The whole system of military enlistment offices has to be upgraded. This work, as you know, directly bears on interaction with the regional authorities. It has to be built up to a modern level. I know that the Defence Ministry is taking these steps in conjunction with the Government of the Russian Federation: the steps that have been taken and made it possible to eventually overcome these difficulties and reach the parameters that were necessary to complete this work.
The most important thing today is to equip, train and coordinate, and everything else that has to do with making people feel confident if they have to take part in direct combat operations.
Please tell me these figures again. As of today, all the people we have mobilised…
Sergei Shoigu: We have 218,000 at training grounds undergoing joint combat training.
Sergei Shoigu: 82,000 people are already in areas where the special military operation is being conducted. Of these 82,000, 41,000 are operating as part of the military units.
Vladimir Putin: Actually, 41,000 are active in combat units, and the rest are still being trained, one way or another.
Sergei Shoigu: Yes, Mr President. We are devoting special attention to this, because we need to send trained and equipped troops.
Vladimir Putin: Absolutely, this is what we should do.
There is something else I would like to say in this regard. We have an Armed Forces development plan that is in place and is being implemented. It is being implemented at a pace and to the extent that it was planned and agreed to at all levels.
A lot has been done to develop the Strategic Missile Forces and equip the Ground Forces and other troops with modern weapons, including long-range and high-precision ones. All this is in place and has shown itself in combat conditions to the best advantage. Much has also been done to build the Navy.
Nevertheless, based on the experience of the special military operation, we need to review and make adjustments in developing all the components of the Armed Forces, including the Ground Forces. I ask you to work out the details of that task within your Ministry and discuss all the issues at the expert level so we can prepare and adopt all the necessary decisions within a short time, so that they are also compatible with the plans for the development of defence industry enterprises.
Vladimir Putin: Let's agree that in December, at the annual board meeting, after all this work, I'll repeat, including at the expert level, that you will report on these proposals and be ready to adopt them.
And in conclusion, I would like to thank all those who have joined the Armed Forces. I want to thank them for their loyalty to their duty, for their patriotism, for their steadfast determination to defend our country, to defend Russia, and that means their homes, their families, our citizens, our people. I ask you to convey these words of gratitude to the troops.
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Toyota Chief Scientist and Toyota Research CEO Gill Pratt recently shared his thoughts about the climate crisis, as well as the need to reduce carbon emissions in the transportation sector. The executive is quite knowledgeable about sustainable vehicles, as evidenced by the three cars he currently owns: a Toyota Sienna Hybrid, a RAV4 Prime Plug-In Hybrid (PHEV), and an all-electric Tesla Model X.
In a post on Medium, Pratt urged readers to follow the science and acknowledge that a diversified approach to battling climate change is more preferable than a transition to pure electric cars like his Model X. The executive cited the cost of battery production, the need for natural resources, and the emissions of battery manufacturing as reasons for his stance. He also noted that while he loves his 300-mile Model X, his vehicle’s large battery is pretty much wasted on an everyday basis since its range is usually not utilized fully.
Toyota Chief Scientist & @ToyotaResearch CEO Gill Pratt dives into why we need all types of electric vehicles — not just battery electric vehicles — to reduce carbon emissions https://t.co/4ZjaUOEB2m
— Toyota Policy (@ToyotaPolicy) July 21, 2021
“I love my Tesla Model X BEV. But commuting 30 miles in it every day — the average US commute — and recharging it every night is wasteful of the carbon reducing potential of most of its over 300 mile range battery. Sometimes we take the Tesla on long trips. But most of the time, 90% of its battery cells aren’t doing any good, and would reduce carbon much more if they were harder at work in other types of electrified vehicles, including HEVs or PHEVs,” the Toyota Research CEO wrote.
With this in mind, Pratt argued that it would be more efficient if batteries are distributed to more “right-sized” electrified vehicles instead, including hybrids and PHEVs. The cells that could go on one Tesla, for example, could instead be used for several electrified cars. “We hardly ever put gas into our RAV4 Prime PHEV, which has a battery ⅙ as large as our Model X BEV. For the same investment in batteries as our single Model X, five other RAV4 Prime customers could reduce their carbon footprint too,” Pratt explained.
The Toyota executive did note that he is a proponent for increased battery production, the lowering of the carbon footprint of electric power plants, and the expansion of rapid charging stations. However, Patt also argued that in many countries, a lot of the easier carbon reduction of electric power plants had already been achieved by converting them to natural gas, effectively lowering their carbon output by half. Replacing the plants with new nuclear, wind, and solar facilities would be more difficult and more costly, added the Toyota Research CEO.
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Ultimately, Pratt noted that he and Toyota believe that the transition to pure electric vehicles, such as those planned in Europe and areas like China, is not the right way to battle climate change. He then noted that in the fight for sustainability, carbon should be seen as the enemy, not the internal combustion engine, as PHEVs and hybrids would, in some parts of the world, generate comparable or even less emissions than pure electric cars.
“I believe, as does Toyota, that it would be a tremendous mistake for governments around the world to prescribe narrow solutions like insisting that all vehicles be BEVs. Instead, the better solution is to allow manufacturers to innovate across a diversity of drivetrains and drivers to choose the low-carbon drivetrain that suits their circumstances best,” he wrote.
While the Toyota Research CEO’s points are notable, the scientist did neglect to mention several developments that are currently ongoing in the battery sector. Battery production costs are going down at a rapid pace, with EVs closing in on price parity with their internal combustion-powered counterparts. The emissions of battery production are expected to be improved over time too, as companies like Tesla innovate and adopt more sustainable technologies such as cobalt-free batteries. Large batteries such as those used in the Toyota executive’s Model X are likely not wasted either despite not being used for their maximum range every day. Battery recycling technologies such as those being developed by Redwood Materials, which is aimed at creating a closed-loop battery supply chain, play a role in making batteries more sustainable as well.
Toyota Research CEO Gill Pratt’s points could be read here.
Toyota exec and Model X owner argues against a pure electric vehicle transition
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Ask any relationship expert what they believe the foundation to a lasting relationship is and chances are that trust will appear near the top of the list.
Second to that, the most popular article on this website by some margin is one I wrote titled, Dealing with your girlfriend getting hit on. The comments section of that article currently features over 100 in-depth questions and answers and the recurring topic throughout is that of trust in a relationship.
This article aims to condense some of the advice given in response to those real-life relationship concerns, as well as give some further insights as to why trust can become such a big issue in a relationship and how you can learn to be at peace with it at all times…
Where trust issues arise from:
As with many beliefs and insecurities, trust issues form as a result of cultural learning and past experiences. The past experiences can either be personal experiences, in this case being betrayed in a past relationship, or they can develop by observing external examples of mistrust in society.
There is also a correlation between how much we trust our romantic partners and how much we trust ourselves. A lot of people find it hard to trust their partner because they know how easy it is to be unfaithful, whether in reality or simply in theory.
A third cause is related to our own self-esteem. Unless we believe one hundred percent that we embody the perfect partner and that our relationship is as happy and fulfilling as it can be, there is by definition a fear that there is someone out there more suited to our chosen partner.
Related emotions – jealousy and fear:
Although there are varying evolutionary and psychological theories surrounding jealousy and fear, in simple terms they are both products of our own self-esteem. Jealousy and any related insecurities stem from protection, neediness and scarcity: the thought that if someone steals my loved one away from me, I will be left with nothing.
The only way to fully trust your girlfriend or boyfriend is to rid yourself of any fear of losing them. The feelings may not always be rational because trust issues have a habit of burying themselves deep in our subconscious. I have even had married men, men who are with women that have supposedly committed their entire LIFE to them, who still have this fear of losing their partner and show signs of mistrust every time their wife is away from them for any length of time. This sounds absurd on the face of it but confirms the fact that subconscious feelings of mistrust can often be greater than any logical or justified feelings.
Setting the boundaries of your relationship:
Aside from negative experiences in past relationships, trust issues arise in a new relationship because people make assumptions for their romantic interests without fully knowing their true beliefs. This pertains to the earliest stages of a romantic relationship developing, where people often assume the people we meet share the same values and beliefs as us regarding monogamy and relationships by default.
There is a vast spectrum of what may be acceptable or unacceptable between a couple and there is also usually a large grey area in the middle. The only way you are going to have a satisfactory level of practical trust with your partner is if you have a clear and mutual understanding of what is and what is not acceptable in your relationship. A common example is how flirtatious each of you is allowed to be with members of the opposite sex.
Having said that, whilst the above compromise may work for many couples out there, it is still suppressing the root cause of any trust issues. In theory, as long as two people are clear and honest about wanting to be in a monogamous relationship, there should be no need for any boundaries, as any misaligned scenarios will be wholly innocent.
Wanting to know everything your partner gets up to:
This statement is not to be confused with having a genuine interest and excitement to know what your partner gets up to in your absence. This is concerning the people who want to know intricate and unnecessary details from their girlfriend or boyfriend (if they’ve been on a night out for example) and then become aggrieved if they later find out they haven’t been told everything.
If you expect your partner to tell you EVERYTHING – especially if they agree that they will – then trivial details that accidently get forgotten suddenly set off insecure detective mode! It is almost as if we only believe someone is being honest with us if we can build a fully formed picture of their experiences in our mind. This is of course in the hope that those extra details will ensure that the major ones never get neglected.
A common situation that men in relationships come to me about is in trusting their girlfriend when she is out socialising with other men, or perhaps if she is still in touch with an ex-boyfriend.
If your girlfriend or boyfriend knows that you will overreact or judge them if they do one of the above two things, even if their actions are wholly innocent, then chances are they simply won’t tell you about them! This may not be in a malicious or sinister way, but simply to prevent any unnecessary relationship aggro. Of course, if you do then discover what they have been up to, it suddenly becomes a lot less innocent, regardless of their intentions.
The only way to encourage your partner to be completely open with you is to ensure that they know you will never overreact, or more importantly, judge them if they tell you potentially undesirable facts.
Fully trusting your girlfriend or boyfriend:
If you know that you experience frequent feelings of jealousy or distrust, it is not something you are likely to be able to rid yourself of in an instant. You can however slowly work on overcoming or desensitising yourself to those negative feelings through repetitive cognition. This is achieved through a combination of being reassured by your partner’s trustworthy actions over time and by not fuelling any anxieties with trust illusions or hypothetical scenarios.
I’ve said time and time again that the most important aspect of a relationship is actively making it as fulfilling as it can be at all times. Doing this and believing it wholeheartedly to be true will conquer all conceivable issues a couple could have. Doing this correctly means mistrust can only manifest if you self-sabotage your own image, much like the causes that lead to being cheated on.
I personally don’t fear anyone whisking Heidi away from me because I don’t believe there is anyone who could! Consequently, I trust her unreservedly and never feel the need to accuse, question or interrogate any of her behaviour. This may sound mildly arrogant but it is a direct result of working hard on both myself and our relationship so it is the best it can possibly be at all times. As soon as I start to lose that desire to continually enrich our relationship, is the first sign that the relationship might be subsiding.
It takes a considerable amount of time to get to a level of complete ease and trust in a relationship, but there are a few things you can do to aid the process.
The best temporary measure is to simply suppress any insecurities you may have as soon as they arise. Prevent yourself from displaying unwarranted signs of mistrust towards your partner and the people outside the relationship you fear. This won’t condition a perfect relationship as described above but it will condition a healthy one in the meantime. It will let your partner know that you trust them, which in turn will emotionally pull them closer to you rather than push them away.
“I trust my partner but I don’t trust the people around them”:
A final factor that can affect one’s trust in a relationship is social intelligence. Someone can trust their partner on an emotional level, but still fear them getting taken advantage of due to possible vulnerability, naivety or lack of social maturity.
If your partner is attractive, they WILL get attention from other members of the opposite sex. All you can do is ensure that they are equipped with the basic social tools to be trusted in any social situation and not risk being taken advantage of. These social tools include things such as being decisive, assertive and never alluding to relationship status.
Going back to an earlier point about allowing your partner to be completely open and honest with you, remember that trust is not circumstantial and you want your girlfriend or boyfriend to be able to tell you anything because they WANT to, not because they feel that they HAVE to!
Trusting your partner’s emotional fidelity is just as important as trusting their physical fidelity. Remember that even if your partner has previous reasons for you not to trust them, what becomes of that is wholly dependent on your input and approach to the relationship now.
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Jon says:
13th August 2010 at 4:23 am
I found over my relationships that trust steadily gets better until you get cheated on which sends it crashing back to square one.
It seems you have to always have 1 eye on them doing something wrong so you never get taken for a mug. What I mean is that surely if you trust them without any kind of checking in on them then they will do whatever they please? Maybe its me but some people just naturally seem to be a lot more trustworthy than others. Theres a lot to take in with this post so I will read it again for sure.
13th August 2010 at 8:45 am
It’s true when people say that trust is something that is built over time and you’re right that once that trust is disrespected, it’s a lot harder to regain it! This is called a ‘positive feedback loop’, whereby every time we trust someone correctly, that positive trust is reaffirmed to us and it becomes stronger the next time. As mentioned in the article though, the majority of whether that trust is respected or not is dictated by our own role in the relationship.
Regarding your second point, I understand what you are saying but there are ways to go about “checking in on your partner” that are respectful and trustworthy. Like you say, blind trust is usually a route towards being betrayed and worse, convincing yourself that you aren’t being betrayed! There is definitely a balance to be found but the important thing is to never tip over into the insecure, detective side of things. As mentioned in the article above, if the relationship is positive and conducted correctly, you will know what your partner is up to anyway and there shouldn’t be any concerns of mistrust.
People can definitely come across as more trustworthy by their manner and communication skills as well as their previous track record. It doesn’t necessarily convert to who is actually going to be more trustworthy in reality but I guess these are the sorts of things that will determine the kind of partner you are looking for in the first place.
Thanks for commenting as always,
Darth says:
13th August 2010 at 4:03 pm
you need a ‘like’ button:) i had to catch up on the past few articles, but they are great, as always. you seem to have an endless supply of relevant relationship topics. keep on keepin’ on!
14th August 2010 at 10:43 am
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Thanks for your praise and for sticking with the website!
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14th August 2010 at 12:06 am
This is a great article Sam and one I will definately recommend to others.
I like how you have diagnosed where trust issues come from and how to slowly overcome them along with the bigger picture. I feel I am qualified to comment from the other perspective of the person not being trusted that might give some food for thought to some of your readers.
My ex fiance had a terrible time trusting me and everytime I returned from being apart for however length of time, after pleasantries he would immediately go into the detective persona you speak of, questioning every little thing I might have done. Of course I had nothing to hide but it really makes you feel unappreciated and disrespected as a woman to not be trusted. In this day and age with social media I think it’s even easier to drive yourself crazy with that attitude and snoop around a loved ones private life. Of course I mean private life meaning the things we don’t have to share all the time like you say in the article.
At the end of the day, although there were other reasons it was firstly my ex-fiances mistrust for me that slowly pushed me away like you say.
That’s why I think this article is so important so thankyou for writing it Sam.
On a slightly random question is there a difference between mistrust and distrust? It has been a while since my grammar schooling days and I got briefly confused when choosing my words there.
14th August 2010 at 10:45 am
Thanks for sharing your story. There’s a lot that can be learnt from understanding what it feels like to be unfairly mistrusted. Hopefully some of the people who have trouble with trust who read your comment will be able to empathise with how it feels to be on the other side and use some of the advice given.
It’s interesting how you mention these symptoms evolving as social websites become more popular. I know lots of people who check their partner’s e-mails and private messages all the time. Whilst these people commonly justify their actions by proclaiming “well they shouldn’t have anything to hide anyway”, the basis behind feeling the need to check them secretly in the first place is a gross product of mistrust and insecurity. It’s definitely the first sign that there is distrust in the relationship so you are right to highlight it.
As for the definitions, I was always taught that “distrust” is a more extreme version of “mistrust”. Mistrust is used to describe suspicion or vague doubts about someone’s authenticity, whereas distrust describes a complete lack of trust. In terms of relationships, persistent mistrust will eventually lead to distrust, which is a lot harder to repair.
Thanks for commenting,
Paul says:
17th August 2010 at 12:59 am
Could you talk more about the “social tools” you refer to? What do you mean by “never alluding to relationship status”?
17th August 2010 at 7:28 pm
The social tools I was referring to are the ways we communicate to others that we are happily in a relationship and not interested in anything more than friendship. There are a lot of assumptions that are made when a man approaches or interacts with a woman and as women get older and more socially experienced, they become a lot more intuitive towards what a man is sub-communicating when he interacts with her.
The most common way that a female will learn to diffuse seductive social situations is to simply refer to her boyfriend and relationship in conversation. This can be directly if someone is being particularly forward towards her.
Alluding to relationship status means making out that you are more available than you actually are. This can be a cause of social naivety (underestimating or misunderstanding someone’s intentions of attraction or seduction for example) or it can be intentional due to not actually being completely content in their current relationship.
If a girlfriend or boyfriend (typically the younger generation who aren’t as socially experienced yet) worries about any of the above, then by helping them learn those social tools they will feel a lot more comfortable in all social environments where they are likely to be pursued.
Thanks for your question,
Paul says:
17th August 2010 at 8:34 pm
Thanks Sam,
I’ve sent you an e-mail with more detail.
17th September 2010 at 9:13 pm
I have a question:
My gf and I have been going out for 2 years now. She’s on a study abroad program for the next 3 months. We’ve been apart for 1 month now. Before she left, we discussed our relationship status, and we agreed that we both want to be together for the long term. We’ve also talked marriage as well. Anyway, we have a slightly modified relationship for the study abroad term. We are allowed to dance, flirt, accept drinks from members of the opposite sex- normally we wouldn’t. My gf didn’t want any rules at all because she didn’t want to be constantly worried about them because in a totally monogamous relationship she wouldn’t feel comfortable flirting, dancing and accepting drinks from guys. She said that If we truly trust one another, and want to be with each other, we won’t need any rules because everything will follow. She said the most she could see doing is making out with someone, but sex or anything romantic is naturally off limits for both of us. She said making out was highly unlikely and probably wouldn’t even happen.
Anyway, one night she had too much to drink and one of the guys on her trip offered to walk her home. Apparently when he dropped her off, they made out. She doesn’t remember exactly what happened though, but she did come to me and tell me about the issue, so I can trust her in that sense.
I feel hurt because I trusted her not to make out with anyone, and it seems as if she had. Of course, I don’t know the whole story/ situation so I don’t want to jump to any conclusions, but I’ve been thinking very negatively about trust and everything.
Do you have any advice/ opinions about the situation? Do I have any valid reasons to not trust her? I feel as if she’ll make some poor decisions with alcohol in the future on the trip, and that worries me.
18th September 2010 at 6:32 pm
In a long-term relationship there are inevitably going to be times where the relationship has to deviate from its natural setup. Prolonged time apart is the most common of these.
Purposefully modifying a monogamous relationship in these circumstances, whilst usually done with good intentions, can lead to several damning situations though. Exemption from responsibility and an overall confusion about the true setup and mutuality of the relationship are two possible consequences.
The fact that your girlfriend is in a new and presumably exciting environment could make any confusion even more poignant.
Your girlfriend telling you about what has gone on already does show that she is thinking about the relationship and your feelings, despite what happened. Although it may seem slightly counter-intuitive, she should actually be praised and encouraged to continue to be so open with you.
The reason I mentioned in the beginning of this response that purposeful modifications to a relationship are not necessary is because they won’t actual deter from what may or may not happen whilst you are apart… How you act and embrace the relationship DURING the time apart is what will prevent any momentary emotions taking over.
What this essentially comes down to is balancing how often you speak to each other along with how much you miss each other (the times you are not speaking to each other). If her making out with other guys goes against the core values and setup of your relationship then you can let her know how it makes you feel, which is fine as long as it is not done in a needy or defiant way. Do you know how she would feel if the roles were reversed?
The trust aspect only comes into play when both of you know exactly what is and what is not acceptable in your relationship and this shouldn’t be clouded by circumstances such as being abroad or drinking alcohol!
Thanks for writing and let me know how the rest of the time apart goes,
Cora says:
3rd April 2011 at 4:55 am
This was a great article, and one of the more genuine ones that I have yet read. I especially agree that the feeling of mistrust is often a direct result of past experiences and that the mistrusted partner in question may feel unfairly judged as they are stamped with the consequences of the actions of men or women before them.
My question is, what is the limit to which the partner with the trust issues should be justified in being upset about. Is it right for men to flirt/look just a little? Because they are men? Or is it right for women to enjoy it when another man hits on her? Because it makes her feel special?
Where is the limit in what we should and should not be jealous about?
5th April 2011 at 1:59 pm
That is a great question. When it comes to boundaries and trust in a relationship, it is more the intent behind the action rather than the action itself and this differs between relationships.
Flirting is fun, attractive and validating so in itself is not necessarily a harmful thing towards a monogamous relationship. If there is any sexual intent or intentional disrespect for a partner as a motive for flirting then that will most definitely be harmful.
The limit of what is acceptable will be different for each couple. Whilst unwarranted jealousy is something specific to work on in a relationship, there is a responsibility as a loving partner to not fuel any insecurity or feelings of mistrust that a partner might feel. In this case the limit will be the point where you know that what you are doing will be seen as disrespectful by your other half.
Thanks for reading and for the interesting discussion,
Julie says:
9th April 2011 at 2:52 am
So I’m currently having a hard time with my boyfriend. I ask him every couple of months to confirm his feelings for me, and ask him if he will always remain faithful to me, and other misc. questions that are similar. It’s driving his nuts, and it kills me to put him into these bad moods where he is stressed out pushes away from me. We were both unhappy in relationships when we met, and I’m sure that must have something to do with my insecurities. What can I do to trust him to the point where I don’t bother him with these questions?!
10th April 2011 at 3:03 pm
Asking direct questions about a partner’s feelings and faithfulness are always going to come across as untrusting. Even if they are asked with genuine intentions, think about how they will be interpreted. It is basically saying, “However much I trust you, I have suspicions that you aren’t sincere.” Although those feelings may stem from past experiences, your boyfriend is still going to feel them as a direct scrutiny of his character.
The first thing to do is to make a conscious effort to prevent yourself from asking probing questions like the ones you mention. When you feel the associated emotions building up, let some of the rationalisation of how it affects your relationship help prevent you asking them.
A far better alternative to gauge his feelings and commitment is to take some time to plan something special and thoughtful for him, whatever that may be. His reaction to something like that will be a far more genuine reflection of his true feelings.
You can then encourage him to show his feelings more often through expression, rather than having to verbalise them to you. You can tell him how much you love being reassured of his commitment and desires, although never demand anything from it.
As the above article discusses, it isn’t your boyfriend that you have to trust, it is yourself, or rather your judgement that you must learn to trust. Some of the short fixes will hopefully help achieve that in the long run.
I hope some of that helps and thanks for writing,
Julie says:
10th April 2011 at 8:28 pm
Thank you Sam for your advice, it’s much appreciated!
Jimmy says:
22nd July 2011 at 1:58 pm
I am currently in an akward and hard situation. I have met a 21 year old girl who was 3 weeks from moving 3k miles away from where we met and decided to stay so we could attempt to try and be a couple. Do to her circumstances we were forced to live together right away. I am 26 myself. I knew we were making a mistake from the beginning and we talked about it. I myself havent been in a relationship for 4.5 years do to rough past relationships. I would first like to say your article was unbeleivably helpfull. I do however have a problem trusting her still and i feel its easy to get caught up so easy after only being together for 2 months. I beleive we really do have alot in common past/future etc. But i am bumbed she does have a few things I dislike, going to the beach with friends and guys while im at work without the offer. Constant mood swings and confrontation over minor things. I would like to get into more detail in a later post. But curious on your thoughts and insight.
26th July 2011 at 12:01 am
A relationship progressing quickly and somewhat unorthodox (living together immediately in your case) is always going to be testing, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that it is flawed by default. A relationship is only “moving too fast” if each person’s feelings and intentions are in conflict.
To start to trust your girlfriend more you want to start by creating a better mutual understanding in the relationship. Knowing how each of you is feeling and what sets off the mood swings and any confrontation would be the first step to solving those issues.
With regards to your girlfriend going to the beach with friends without you, does it appear to be malicious or simply a misunderstanding or conflict of interests? It’s actually healthy for each person in the relationship to have their own social life as well as a joint one, as long as it is an addition to the relationship and not a replacement for it. Your girlfriend may be doing this simply to take some of the intensity off of living together so soon in the relationship.
Whatever the reason is, it is in your hands to make an active effort to become more involved with her social life and friends. At the same time, if you are making a conscious effort to keep the relationship relaxed and fun like it should be in the first few months, then living together and any issues of mistrust should be circumstantial factors and not defining issues.
Thanks for writing and feel free to provide the other details you mentioned if you would like more specific advice.
Jimmy says:
26th July 2011 at 2:53 am
Thanks for the reply,
Well tonight was tough. This past weekend we went to meet the fam (hers).
Went well somewhat, untill we had a minor disagreement and we had a weird vibe. I always try to push through it and talk about it calmly. She gives me the cold shoulder. I try and ignore that and give her time which ive recently discovered she is not emotionaly ready but want to stay trying and were both understanding of this. She had a break up 6 months before our relationship and i had asked her if she was ready for this with a yes she replys so i mKe an effort of letting myself emotionally go for the better of the relationship. Yes i know its fast but feelings grow fast living together. Back to my tough night, she went to see her xbf to aquire left behind belongings and talk about previous details. I get a text saying she received a call from some girl saying that shes been dating me for a while. Obviously not true. ( either a crazy secret admirer or desperate attempt from a friend of the xbf.) but entirely confused by the whole thing because she now obviously doesnt know what to beleive and scarred of this. I said lol to the whole thing not knowing what to make of it. Not sure what to do let her go/try and explain and hope she comes around? Any info is helpfull and thanks for dealing with the scrambling of words
28th July 2011 at 7:39 pm
Hi again,
The relationship does sound rather tense at times from what you’ve described, which is probably heightened further if your girlfriend still seems emotionally affected by her past relationships.
If you can make an effort to take some of the pressure off in the relationship, then it should help calm some of that tension which seems to be causing conflict. I know you live together and as a result, your feelings for each other have developed very quickly but it seems that a lot of the fun and attractive aspects of the relationship are getting clouded by instances of conflict and the necessity to constantly be solving them.
You don’t have to verbally explain any of the above but try and make your time together a bit more light-hearted and fun until you both naturally develop a conflict-solving strategy, whilst still being understanding of her emotional needs and desires.
If the mystery text example comes under the guise of some of the above issues then the same advice applies. If it is something that is genuinely upsetting for your girlfriend then there’s nothing more you can do other than be resolute in your sincerity. Perhaps you can also find out more details such as who sent it, along with their reasoning, to help your cause but try not to give it any more attention than is required to gain your girlfriend’s trust in the matter.
John says:
11th August 2011 at 5:28 pm
Hi first of all, i would like to say ur article is extremely helpful but im still having trouble trusting my girlfriend. We have been together for 5 months now and we both just went on a trip to China. However, we are in different places. We always keep in touch txting and a few times webcamming and phone calls, but sometimes we seem to not answer my txts as fast. i wait for over 5 hours from 7 to 12 midnight for her to reply. She said she forgot her cell phone and has told me she is a very forgetful person. I say i understand but in my heart i feel as though she might be lying to me. She is an attractive girl and says she likes to hang around guys more than girls because she believes guys are more “i dont care” type while girls are more “selfish” type. i dont know wat she means by that. I would appreciate some guidance here and i admit your work.
12th August 2011 at 2:30 pm
The time it takes for someone to respond via text-message varies considerably. The important thing to notice is HOW she responds when she does. Does she write like she misses you? Does she always seem keen to hear from you? These are the important things to note, not how long it took her to reply.
Trust in a long-distance relationship, or even if you are just temporarily away from each other, is about letting your girlfriend know that she has a fulfilling relationship with you but that it doesn’t rule her life. You want her to think of you and receive a spike of positive emotions, not feeling that she ever has to check in on you or reply just to appease you.
The best advice I can give to prevent worrying about what she might be up to or thinking of during the times you don’t hear from her is to keep yourself busy. Take your mind completely off of waiting for her to respond and simply look forward to when you do get to speak to each other and make that time really enjoyable. Forcing her to change her ways whilst she is away, unless she actually wants to, will likely do more harm than good.
All the best and thanks for reading the website,
Kirby Torres says:
14th August 2011 at 3:12 pm
Thank you for this article it has really helped me a lot. I have some trust issues with my girlfriend that during the times that I am not with her I feel like she is doing something wrong and I also wake in the middle of the night thinking that she might have someone else in her life, or she has another boyfriend. how can I get this FEAR that I have of loosing my girlfriend???? hope you can help me.
16th August 2011 at 5:02 pm
It is important to distinguish between trust and fear in these instances. Assuming your girlfriend has never given you justifiable reasons not to trust her, the first step is realising that all of these fears are solely created in your mind and are not a true reflection of your girlfriend’s trustworthiness.
People deal with these sorts of anxieties in a number of ways and you want to find a way that works for you in relaxing, or somewhat contradictory, busying your mind during these times. Then, each time you are with your girlfriend, reaffirm to yourself just how great your relationship is (a result of constantly being the best boyfriend you can be) and also reaffirm how trustworthy your girlfriend is. Enjoying your relationship and acknowledging the reality of the situation over time will start to act as a positive feedback loop, rationalising a lot of these fears as illusory.
I hope that give you some ideas to start with but useful advice for any relationship is to always be acting on the thoughts that enrich your relationship, whilst disregarding all the thoughts that you know do not enrich it.
All the best and thanks for reading,
Glenn says:
12th September 2011 at 1:15 pm
Hi Sam, I am in a relatively new relationship (2 months). I have been having an issue recently where my girlfriend will not tell me about social events within her life. It’s not that I want to know every detail it’s just that I am trying to take a general interest in her life and want to know more about her friends and co workers.
Recently she attended her first concert, which was with a male coworker. I had no idea she was going to this concert. She never mentioned it to me personally. I found out about it on Facebook when she made a post about going to see this artist. The next day we took a long drive to go visit someone (an hour and a half away) and she didn’t say anything about the concert the entire way. I played dumb about not knowing because I feel something as eventful as a concert should be brought up by her on her own and tell me how fun it was or what songs were played etc. I don’t want her thinking I was snooping her page and that’s how I found out. I feel as if there is a strong lapse in communication within our relationship. I tried talking to her about this later that night, stressing that in the future I would like her to tell me about her social life because she WANTS to and not feel obligated to. She replied by saying that she doesn’t want to feel like she has to report to anyone and just wants to do her thing. I want her to be more open with me without seeming like an over obsessive controlling boyfriend, which I am not. I trust my girlfriend and this is the only thing really hurting our relationship. I highely doubt she is cheating on me, she is very loving and doesn’t do anything to hide our relationship.
I tried to give this time, but just a couple days ago we were talking on the phone, and she was telling me about her day and that later tonight she was going out with her “coworker somewhere.” I didn’t ask with who or where. I know her coworkers are all males. I just don’t want to be that boyfriend that is always asking these questions that make it seem as if I am keeping tabs on her. How can I get her to stop being so vague about who she is hanging out with by say “my co worker” and just say things like “my co worker Steve and I are gonna check out this bar tonight?”
What is your advise?
15th September 2011 at 6:56 pm
I know exactly where you are coming from and whilst I can tell you are interested in your girlfriend’s social life for the right reasons, it is very easy to come across as insincere when talking to her about it.
You can’t force your girlfriend to willingly be more open but you can convey interest in ways that show you are interested in what she is getting up to and not why she is getting up to it. As you say, you definitely want to avoid ever coming across as suspicious or overbearing.
As the relationship is still fairly new, your girlfriend may naturally become more open as the two of you start to integrate your social lives more. Meeting some of her other friends and colleagues and making a good impression with them is one way of becoming more involved overall.
Aside from that, there is always a right way and a wrong way to get your girlfriend to express herself more readily. Even the example you give regarding Facebook can come across as showing confident interest as opposed to snooping: it is all in the delivery of how you mention it and the tone behind it.
How often and how specific your girlfriend is in talking about her other plans and experiences reflects directly to how sincere your interest comes across. You should be just as excited to tell her about what you have been up to since you last spoke as you are to hear about what she has been up to.
Thanks for commenting and let me know how things progress.
lara says:
5th October 2011 at 11:40 am
i have been going out with my boyfriend for a bit over a year, neither of us have been in a real relationship before and we have both been hurt by other people, we love each other alot! but are going through a tough time right now, i trust him but sometimes i just slip up and become the ‘controlling girlfriend’ i hate this and we both seem to blame ourselves.. i am determined to change this because i want this to work and i know it can but we want to be a bit less serious less pressure on our relationship, please help thank you
7th October 2011 at 11:36 am
Trust has two foundations: first is an understanding of each other’s desires and happiness in the relationship, and the second is being considerate towards each other’s feelings.
As you both came into the relationship with similar experiences, it should make it easier to empathise and work on these things together.
It is great that you both love each other so much. One way to take some of the intensity or pressure off is to keep the relationship in perspective. Think of the relationship as two people linked by trust and intimacy through CHOICE, rather than the two of you being constrained to each other.
However long a couple have been together, suppressing that urge to act controlling or insecure acts as a positive feedback loop within the relationship. Sharing your feelings rather than showing your feelings works in this respect.
You both seem to be on the same wavelength and wanting the same things from the relationship. Taking a moment to think rationally whenever you feel any negative emotions starting to manifest should solidify that trust over time and in turn increase your empathy towards each other.
All the best and thanks for writing,
Dax says:
5th October 2011 at 9:17 pm
very enligtening article. I believe its a two way street when it comes to trust so here’s my question: is it possible for women in a relationship to make male friends and view and treat them as if they were females?
7th October 2011 at 11:37 am
If I understand your question correctly, I assume when you say “treat them as if they were females” that you are specifically referring to desexualising them (i.e. having no sexual attraction towards them).
It is not a case of having to treat them as a different gender. Men and women differ in a whole host of ways, so it would be difficult to view a masculine male in a feminine manner.
What matters is that the woman (or man if the example is reversed) in a relationship puts that relationship above any potential romance elsewhere!
This will initially be a subconscious decision based on how fulfilling that relationship is. Once a woman is completely fulfilled within her relationship, being attracted to other men isn’t a threat to that relationship because she will always be ‘more attracted’ and decidedly faithful to her chosen partner.
I hope that answers your question,
Tyler says:
8th October 2011 at 7:19 am
I feel that my trust issues are the typical trust issues guys have with their gfs. My gf and I have recently broken up so I can work on my insecurities outside of a relationship. First of all, is that a typical thing for a gf to want (Breaking up so I can work on inner-problems I have outside a relationship?) Anyways, we were together for nearly 3 years and before her I put all my trust into my previous gf who cheated on me with a male “friend” she had. I fear now that any male “friend” my gf will have would be an attraction to her and ruin our relationship by kissing or such. I feel that cheating on someone is something as simple as kissing, so I worry that if my gf is out at bars and such now that we’re not really together guys will offer her drinks and maybe some kissing becomes an option or something. She tells me that this is a time for us to work on things, not for her to screw around on me, but I can’t get myself to know that nothing is going on. I need some guidance as how to know that no cheating will happen with guys at the bar, or any of her male “friends”. Thank you so much for the article and the advice in advance.
11th October 2011 at 9:26 pm
A woman will only advocate a breakup if the relationship isn’t working for her, regardless of whose “fault” it is. The way you have phrased it makes it sound more like a typical “going on a break” situation.
Going on a break represents a conflict in emotions and an imbalance in affection and attraction. I imagine this is where your girlfriend is coming from and although going on a break can be the awakening that some couples require, you must make sure that it actually initiates CHANGES in the relationship.
In your case, you know the main reasons for the break but if the relationship is going to work, you ultimately want to work on things TOGETHER. Some fundamental factors for trust in a relationship are reassurance, support and a belief in each other. These things are far easier to achieve together. As your example shows, the insecurities become more intense when you aren’t certain of the status of your relationship.
Although it was your girlfriend that instigated the break, you can be the one to lead the relationship from here; in fact, this is probably what she WANTS you to do!
As I’ve written about in other articles, being hurt in a past relationship has no bearing on whether you will be hurt in your current one, unless you let those past emotions continue to have an emotional hold over you and your new relationship.
Think of ways you can make this relationship better than your past relationships in every way, and create a level of understanding and trust beyond what you had before. The sooner you can do this the better, as the next step is discussing these revelations with your girlfriend in a decisive and confident manner.
There is no need to have a big, emotional discussion; actions speak louder than words in these instances. As soon as you can agree to be together again, you can start living the relationship “in the moment”, without worrying about the past, or about what your girlfriend ‘could’ get up to.
All the best and thanks for writing,
13th October 2011 at 5:21 pm
Hey Sam! Just found this website today and the timing could not have been any better. I feel as though you wrote this article specifically for me because I can associate myself with practically everything you wrote! Now down to my point: I’ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend (Rose) for 7 months, however a month ago my parents decided to move to Europe, so I was forced to come along due to lack of shelter, money, and numerous other necessities. So naturally, going from seeing one another almost every day to using only Skype and email… well, I’m sure you understand Up until the move, I have been perfectly happy with how things were.
However, ever since the move, I’ve started having frequent bouts of severe jealousy and suspicion about what Rose is doing. She tells me everything, suffering through every question of every tiny detail that I ask her, and she does it without complaint. However, about the same time I moved, she began talking to some older guy (a friend of my brother’s and his girlfriend, with whom she is also friends) and naturally – unfortunately even – I became immediately suspicious and jealous. Knowing that there was another guy she regularly talked to, a guy I did not know, brought me to the point where (and I will carry the shame and regret till the day I die) I snooped onto her Facebook to check on what they were talking to each other about. I should have mentioned that by the way, that they spoke through Facebook, but I digress. There I found that he was, in a very obvious and rather blunt manner, flirting with her. She also flirted back, but it was very light and there wasn’t anything in what she said that suggested being anything more than just friends. However, it was clear that he had thoughts that suggested otherwise. It seemed to me (and not the jealous me) that he had hopes of taking advantage of me being 4,000-some miles away from her. However, she spoke of me a lot to him and about how she loves me and how she misses me very much, so it wasn’t as though I didn’t exist in the situation. However, he failed to take the hint and continued to flirt.
My jealousy was getting more and more severe to the point where one could call it depression. Rose constantly asked me what was wrong, however I always told her it was being apart from her that was causing my moodiness. I just could not bring myself to tell her that I had snooped onto her Facebook to check on what the two of them were saying, because that would mean I did not trust her and I didn’t want her to know that. One night however, it got so bad (my depression that is) that while she was sleeping while we were on Skype I wrote her an email about what I had done and why, and how it bothered me so much that there was another guy that made her smile and that she (a bit of a strong word but I can not think of another) devoted herself to talking with him. Also, I had wrote that it was by no means an excuse for my behavior. Well (and this is just one example of how amazing she is) she forgave me for it and said it was no big deal, that I was just curious and everything was fine.
She continued to talk to him and I continued to get depressed more and more, until one night I had told her that I was going to break up with her, not because of her, but because of me. I am by no means an idiot, thank god, so I could see just how my depression, anger, and jealousy were affecting and hurting her, and so I decided that the best thing to do was to break up, because then she wouldn’t have to deal with my bullish*t (pardon the use of improper language here :P). However, she convinced me to stay with her, telling me how she loves me and that she needs me in her life. It also helps that despite saying it, deep down inside, I did not want to leave her. On top of that, without even me saying or asking, she promptly deactivated her Facebook without a complaint and told me she stopped talking to him.
However, again I wasn’t convinced and I reactivated it, checked the messages, and discovered that she had told him her Skype name and that she invited him to continue talking to her from there. Again, I told her this and she promptly created a new one just for me (She doesn’t use the old one anymore). Now, by this point you’re thoughts towards me, both you Sam and other readers, are no doubt purely negative. In fact, I would not be surprised if there will be comments telling me how despicable and untrusting I am, and how she would in fact be better off with someone else, a fact I constantly remind her of. However, she is aware that it is her choice and despite everything I make her go though, she continues to stay with me. Also, I’m really really sorry this is so long haha, but I have a lot to say Anyway, so now she stays on this one Skype account and she never went on her Facebook since then. I feel horrible though because of how I’m controlling her life.
At first I was really afraid that because Rose talks with my brother’s girlfriend so much, that my brother’s gf will either tell the older guy Rose’s number or Rose will ask for her for his to continue talking. This fear, however, has lessened over time thankfully, however it has only succeeded in opening a doorway into a world full of doubt and mistrust. Today, after I had woken up at 6 in the morning to find Rose up at midnight (6 hour time difference from Europe to the United States’ East Coast) texting people. I don’t know who, I didn’t want to ask because I wanted to stay away from reinforcing my mistrust in her even more, however it caused me to send her some things while she was sleeping via text that finally prompted her to want to break up with me, due to my lack of trust in her. Despite everything I had previously said, this caused me to beg her to give me one more chance, a chance I am determined to not throw away.
Rose means everything to me. She was the one who saved me when my first girlfriend of three months turned lesbian and promptly dumped me, something that cut me deep to my core. I was never big on relationships in the first place, to be honest. Before I had even gotten into one I already had my mind set on searching for ‘the one.’ Well, when my first dropped me, I became severely depressed, losing all motivation and inspiration, essentially losing the will to not only make it anywhere in life, but to also DO anything with my life. Normally I would try and lighten the mood with some light joke about teenagers and love, but for once I won’t Anyway, Rose was the one who stood by and lent me not only her ear and her shoulder, but also her heart. I love her deeply, to the point where I would jump in front of a bullet for her and not think twice. I just don’t want to lose her, and when she had told me we were over, well, I panicked and began begging for another chance, as well as making promises that I will change and that I will trust her from now on. However, I’m afraid that despite what happened, despite what I had said and promised (and I did mean it), the moment will again arrive, where she’ll go out with friends or I’ll find her up at night texting a mysterious person and I’ll becoming mistrustful of her as well as jealous and depressed.
What do I do, how do I go about doing it, and how do I calm and relax myself and let go of these mistrustful and jealous feelings? I DO NOT want what happened today to happen again, and so I am willing to do whatever it takes to get there, to get to trusting her, but I just need something that I can think of that will allow me to let these feelings go. Does that make sense? Basically, when I again begin to feel these negative feelings, I need something that I can think of or do that will stop them from growing any bigger.
I’m terribly sorry about the length of this post, honest I am. I’ve never been good at summarizing and for your sake, Sam (and for the sake of other readers), I deeply regret not working on that skill. Ah well! In any case, I do hope you can help me with my trust and jealousy issues, and that I can finally again be happy for my Rose that she has a social life that doesn’t keep her cooped up in her house talking to me on Skype/through text all day. Thanks again!
25th October 2011 at 1:21 pm
Apologies my response rate has been slower than usual. I’ve been away speaking at a few seminars and have had a lot of private clients recently. I will reply to your post as best I can but if you want a more detailed and faster response in the future, I do offer a premium email service for a small fee. If you’re interested, use the contact form at the top of the website to contact me directly.
Now, to your questions…
A relationship can easily become distorted when there is a sudden change in how it functions. A long distance relationship definitely requires a lot more effort to keep the relationship as fulfilling as possible in every way you can.
Signs of jealousy and constantly wondering what your girlfriend is getting up to are common when suddenly parted in this way: you’re used to being a big part of each other’s lives and knowing those lives intricately and so it is a big change.
As for dealing with trust in a long distance relationship, a lot of the same principles apply, as listed in the main article. You do have to have an even more astute level of communication with each other to make it work though. If your girlfriend seems to purposefully hide details during common conversation then that is something to discuss together, however I think you’ll agree that some of your actions have breached a lot of the relationship’s boundaries of mutual respect.
One thing that is consistent amongst long distance relationships is if you are constantly seeking closure of some sort whilst apart (in this case it is every time you have a suspicion about your girlfriend) it’s going to drive you crazy and ultimately impair the relationship. You have to be even more self-assured and accepting whilst in a long distance relationship than if you were physically together.
With all that said, you now have the opportunity to properly turn over a new leaf. As you’ve acknowledged, you are with what sounds like an amazing girlfriend who has put up with a lot of mistrust and insinuation. If you don’t believe that she genuinely wants to be with you and only you after all this, then there isn’t much anyone can say to further convince you; you must convince yourself!
The first step now is to restrict the actions that exasperate any negative feelings you have. Make a promise to yourself not to check your girlfriend’s private messages again and not to mention any other guys in the context of mistrust when speaking to her anymore. This may be a tough exercise at first where you’re constantly biting your tongue but the less time you spend nurturing your worries, the less intense they will be! If you instead spend your time treating your girlfriend like a proud and secure boyfriend should (several parts of your comment inform me that you do know what that correct mindset is if you work at it) then you will always be pulling your girlfriend closer rather than pushing her away.
Long distance relationships are actually great for personal development. They highlight a lot of the insecurities that may get hidden in more typical relationship setups. They also give you the time and space to work on those insecurities without directly affecting your relationship.
It may sound like a naïve approach but constantly assuming the best from your girlfriend whilst simultaneously treating her in a way that would reflect such a mindset, is the best way to solidify trust. Think of gaps in your girlfriend’s daily accounts as irrelevant to your relationship, rather than as clues leading towards suspicions.
You’ve got a great opportunity to put the last few months behind you and start the relationship with renewed excitement, attraction and most importantly, trust!
All the best and like I said, if you want to discuss anything further then feel free to contact me via the website’s contact form and we can sort something out.
Ryan says:
27th October 2011 at 11:01 pm
Well, this article certainly has opened my eyes to some things. I am in a long distance relationship.
My girlfriend is headed off to Ibiza (A tropical vacation spot in Europe) she is but 16 years old and myself 17. I know I am young, and she is younger and I. I really do love her, and im sure she loves me. As we have been in constant communication for 10 months.
The thing that bugs me is that she PROMISES me not to touch alcohol, but still, deep down, it just bugs me. I really don’t know how she would be able to acquire alcohol at a vacation spot which requires one to be 18 to consume it but, it really just bugs me for no good reason. Maybe it’s because the people she lives around tend to get drunk by it. I honestly don’t mind her drinking a controlled amount in a safe environment, but it just scares me.
I know she would never cheat on me in real life or otherwise, or else she would not be wasting my time in this relationship. (If she did have the nerve to waste my time in this manner, I would promptly break up, and honestly, just laugh at myself for having been so dumb as to get into the relationship in the first place.)
I do ponder her with the SAME nitpicking questions over and over again, I even ask her friends, (whom most of which I know) and they give me the same answers. ‘she never has touched alcohol! Never will! :)’ ‘She would never cheat on you!’ ‘she’s one of the most trustworthy people I know!’ We’ve broken up four times and have gotten back together promptly in the past, but it was due to a huge mis-trust between us. I feel my trust with her has grown stronger over time, despite the weakness that was show in the past.
But yeah, thank you for the article, it has really helped. Are there any good ways to boost my self confidence, my confidence in her, and how well I trust people? This may have been a bit much, sorry if I have not summarized right. But thank you sam.
31st October 2011 at 4:42 pm
I’m glad you liked the article and you sound like a really clued up guy.
In this case, it is easy to become your own worst enemy. The thing with trust is that although it is something that grows stronger over time, you almost have to give the other person 100% to start with, rather than the other way around.
Unless your girlfriend does anything to oppose that trust then you must try hard to frame everything as her being trustworthy and your relationship being solid. If your girlfriend chooses not to drink alcohol, or even if she ends up drinking some, it shouldn’t matter if everything else is in place.
Talking to her friends about those sorts of issues isn’t necessarily bad, as long as you are showing that you care about your girlfriend, rather than you not trusting her. If her friends like you and think you are good for her then they won’t want you to get screwed over.
A great mentality to have is to assume complete trust in the people that are important in your life and project the image of a guy who won’t accept anything on the contrary. This is a mindset you actually hinted at in the middle of your comment but you have to start fully believing it. People like being trusted and a girlfriend in particular will want to live up to positive attributes that you place on her.
All the best and thanks for writing,
17th November 2011 at 2:36 am
Hi Sam, great article. I have lots of issues trusting my girlfriend. I am 35, she is 41. I met her online and we got together while she was in the states. She went back to Canada and we agreed to be exclusive and to be in a long term relationship. we developed deep feelings for each other and we want to build a family. Here is the kicker, we both discussed our previous relationships in depth and details. Crazy!! I know. She admitted to have cheated on one of her boyfriends twice. One of the men was a married man. She had an affair with him for a year. The other one was an old boyfriend that she was with, three weeks after the married man. She kept in touch with the married man after the fact and the guy ended up introducing his wife to her at a social function (shameless, I know). They became acquaintances and my girlfriend even helped them get a condo in Florida (doing research, exchanging e-mails with the wife, etc.). A whole mess. When she talked to me about it she did not seem remorseful a bit. She said that the boyfriend she was with was a long distance relationship and that the sex was unfulfilling and that he was an alcoholic on top of that. My question was, why did she not leave him then? Why have an affair with the married man, travel every month to Bahamas to have unfulfilling sex with the boyfriend and come back to keep having sex with the lover. Complete lack of moral boundaries. She said she did not know, that it was not as easy and that the affairs just served the purpose of fulfilling her sexual needs. Wow. I was floored hearing her talk like this. We have been together for 9 months already and physically about 4 months all together. I am a very moral guy. I don’t lie and I don’t cheat. I have caught her in numerous lies, mostly involving keeping in touch with her ex boyfriends. Contacting them for stupid stuff, but why do it behind my back? She remained best friends with the boyfriend she cheated on twice (he does not have a clue) and I was fine with that. She lied to me too many times and I broke up with her because I told her it is hard enough to have a long distance relationship, to add mistrust to the equation. I told her that her past is a red flag that she is capable of doing deceitful things (the affair happened 7 years ago). She said she has changed, but why after telling me all this, would she keep lying to me? I came back with her and gave her another chance. I told her she needed to earn my trust again. How can she do that? And how can I trust her?
20th November 2011 at 12:54 am
The main reason why people do not recommend discussing past relationships with a new partner is because it can so easily influence how you perceive and how you treat them. Knowing those details is not a bad thing though as long as you can keep your views on it rational.
Every past relationship is a learning process, whether that process is acknowledged or not. Just because your girlfriend has cheated in the past, does not necessarily mean she will do so again. Everyone is capable of doing deceitful things… It is merely circumstances, moral strength and the nature of their relationship experiences that dictates whether they actually will.
Verbal trust is not always sincere and someone who has ‘successfully’ lied in the past can get into the habit of lying, even if there is no real need to. What you want to do is actively change your girlfriend’s philosophy towards relationships and honesty. This is achieved in a number of ways, which all ultimately come down to ensuring that your relationship is the best relationship she has ever been in!
Rather than putting the onus on your girlfriend to EARN your trust, reframe it as your duty to be someone that she WANTS to be trusted by. Respect is a term that encompasses this mindset; you want your girlfriend to wholeheartedly respect you and the relationship! Think of it like there was something about her past relationships and boyfriends that led to her cheating, rather than her being inherently untrustworthy.
As for sparking change in the little lies she tells, that once again comes down to your attitude with her. People get into the habit of telling small lies due to previous social experiences and by subconsciously weighing up the risk-reward of telling such lies. You want to encourage your girlfriend to be more open with you, which is achieved by having a completely non-judgemental attitude.
Try and get to the point where you are not in any way judgemental about her past or about her keeping in touch with ex-boyfriends so that she knows and believes this is the case. She will consequently be far less likely to hide stuff from you whilst the relationship is simultaneously happy and fulfilling.
Her disposition towards cheating is hard to forcibly change but what you can do is continue to create a relationship that she wants to honour, respect and continually be a part of. Mould the ground-rules together, don’t stipulate them!
I hope some of that helps and thanks for reading the website,
20th November 2011 at 4:43 am
Thanks for your response Sam. Very good points. While I agree that she might have lied to me in order to avoid being attacked, in my mind it does not justify her lying. You see. I am a rare breed of man. I tell her everything. Whether she wants to hear it or not. She knows everything. She would never be blindsided by anything and I expect the same treatment in return. I prefer a crude and screwed up truth than a beautiful lie. But that’s how I was raised. One of the things, and might be the main thing, she admires about me (according to her), is that I am a stand up honest guy. She always knows were she stands with me. The problem is that she is not. She was raised under different standards. She was raised with different morals and with a total lack of boundaries. I understand I am not all high and mighty or perfect, but is it crazy for me to expect the same respect from her as I give her? We are in a fulfilling relationship but it is hard to not think about her past when her past is what molded her to be the person she is today. She has acknowledged her faults, which is a big step and she claims she wants to change and she admires how I live my life, but I do see the struggle and I do see some of her old self (lying being one of the issues) flashing before my eyes. Like I said, she was able to do pretty screwed up things before me. She has been a mistress twice. Once with a married man while she was with a boyfriend; and before that 2 years with a man who was in a relationship with another woman and never broke up with her. She was the mistress for two years. When I asked her why would she accept to be the other woman, she said she thinks is because it was a challenged and she thought she could win him eventually and pulled him away from the other woman. Wow. This shows a huge lack of self esteem. I adore her because I see beyond these flaws. I truly believe she has a good heart, but she has not had the opportunity to assert herself and really think about what she wants and what she has done. She always chose to forget and keep going. Never learning from her mistakes. I really appreciate your response and she read it and agreed a 100% but like I told her… “does it justify the fact that you lied to me?” her response was NO. It does not justify it but it does explain why I did it. I agree and look forward to keep working with her. She is worth it. I appreciate the response and the time you took to answer it.
22nd November 2011 at 11:00 pm
Hi again,
You have summed up the discussion perfectly and not only do you sound like an honest and caring guy, you seem to be fully aware and understanding of the whole situation. I am sure you can enjoy a very fulfilling relationship if you both continue working on yourselves and the relationship together.
One thing that caught my attention in your response was the term “justified”, as in whether your girlfriend’s actions were justified or not. From a psychological point of view, every behavioural trait is justified at the time of event. Even if your girlfriend knows in hindsight that lying is not the best choice, she had very real reasons to do so at the time, even if just to avoid personal anxiety. This is a similar process for how we all make decisions on our own behaviour and like you say, it plays a big part in the person we are today.
You have partially answered your own questions when you talked about your respective backgrounds and why you might have developed traits that your girlfriend has not. People can change very easily though and you can certainly be the basis for her renewed outlook. In most cases this won’t be an overnight occurrence but it seems that you are already positively influencing her attitude.
The key from now on lies in cognitive awareness and if you do catch your girlfriend lying, letting her come to her own conclusion that telling the truth is more beneficial for everyone, not by accosting her but by being emotionally strong, attractive and reassuring.
All the best and let me know how things work out,
Justin says:
27th November 2011 at 5:11 am
Hey, I’ve been dating a girl online for about 4 months now.
I got real bad trust issues. I’ve been cheated on before, so it’s like everything you said. It’s hard to trust anyone now.
But, do you have any suggestions on how to trust her more? She is in Kentucky, I am in California…The separation makes trusting her even harder for me….I love her like crazy, and I really want to trust her 110%…I really do, I want nothing more then to just feel okay and not worry when she is hanging out with a guy friend.
Thanks so much for your help already,
30th November 2011 at 9:53 pm
In a situation like yours it can be difficult to always be secure with the relationship regarding trust.
Remember that trust is a mutual thing. What you want to do is find the balance between letting this woman know your true intentions and interest, and not being overbearing or needy. Remember this is a new woman. Each new woman should start with a default 100% level of trust, rather than a level skewed by past relationships.
In such circumstances it is also useful to be more explicit about what the boundaries of the relationship are. You want to know exactly where you both stand and what is expected rather than assumed. If you do have a discussion like this then you want to keep it as casual as possible rather than making it a major issue or becoming too intense.
The main part of trusting each other is ridding the relationship of any assumptions. The more honest you feel your partner is with you, the more you will be able to trust her.
I hope that helps and thanks for reading,
bob says:
30th December 2011 at 1:29 pm
are there any techniques that may help me not to worry when my gf goes out and help me to trust her more because everytime i have a gf i struggle to trust them for no reason, i think this is because i know how easy it is to cheat, i hate feeling like this and just wanna be able to relax when she is speaking to other lads or when she goes out ?…
1st January 2012 at 11:52 pm
Rather than dwell on an arbitrary statistic of how ‘easily’ people cheat, instead think about why exactly people cheat. Trusting someone is not about knowing whether they could or would cheat, it is about having a solid level of commitment and respect where neither of you would WANT to cheat. Of course, cheating is only one example of mistrust in a relationship and it is more about being secure in yourself than actually what your girlfriend gets up to.
Being able to relax when your girlfriend goes out is all about thinking the best of a situation rather than thinking the worst. Men who are completely at ease and trusting in their relationships never entertain any unfounded negative thoughts that creep into their heads. These can be thoughts created from past experiences or from hearsay but they are rarely accurate either way.
Trust is created when you are both together for times when you are apart, not the other way around. If you have a great relationship the rest of the time then it is purely a case of reframing any negative thoughts with more realistic, positive ones whenever necessary.
I hope that helps and thanks for commenting,
Unknown says:
17th January 2012 at 11:24 pm
Hey there, I read the article and found it pretty useful, but i seem to still not understand how i can change. I’ve been with my girlfriend for about 5 months now, and i feel i can’t trust her, she’s had a lot of flings with guys in the past, and i’ve been hurt a lot by past relationships and flings. I want to be able to trust her when she talks to guys, or hangs out with them with her friends, but part of me is scared to let go, scared to give her my full trust. I say i do and i tell myself i am, but i can’t seem to. I know if I keep doing this and acting like i’m obsessed she will eventually leave me, and i don’t want that. what can i do?
19th January 2012 at 2:23 pm
Although trust seems like an easy state to achieve in theory, it comprises of so many related emotions that can easily become overwhelming. Gaining full, mutual trust in a relationship is a gradual process, especially if you have had negative experiences in the past.
One technique that helps aid the process is to disregard the bigger picture along with the past experiences and deal with each testing moment in the relationship separately. Each time your girlfriend mentions talking to another guy or anything similar, think only about conveying confidence and security for that one event. ‘Fake’ confidence breeds real confidence over time and making your girlfriend feel that you trust her at each moment in time, even if you have previously discussed any worries you might have, will start to create a genuine level of mutual trust before long.
All the best and thanks for reading the website,
24th January 2012 at 9:33 am
I been with this girl for about 3 years now, we plan on getting married. Like any other couple we had are ups and downs. She cheated on me before i gave her a second change she mess around again and now just recently she messed around again. talking to other guys on facebook and not letting me see her page. I found a number in her phone after i found dat she told me everything (but i do not think that its everything). I gave her another change but now im always asking question, dont like her going out alot, you know asking as if she cheated on me but i know that will drive her away i love her and want to be with her i really believe she change but if she didnt i want to know can you help me???
27th January 2012 at 1:45 pm
This issue comes more down to authority and respect than simply trust. Whilst it is great that you have given your girlfriend a second chance and are intent on improving the relationship, be careful not to let her think that she can get away with actions that clearly disregard your relationship ideals.
Each time you forgive and accept her behaviour, you are reaffirming the fact that you will stay with her regardless of what she does. Instead you want to stand by your morals and let her know that although you are completely committed to the relationship, you won’t accept certain boundaries being abused again. This shouldn’t be in a threatening way, but more in a way to let her know that if she wants to be in the relationship with you, she should know how to treat you and vice versa.
Thanks for commenting,
joe says:
24th January 2012 at 9:56 pm
I have been with my girl for 4 months and it is my first real relationship. At the start she went to a party and got really drunk then a lad made a move on her as she was sleeping .. resulting in them having sex. It took her 3 weeks to tell me and by that time I had attached myself to her and I gave her one chance .. we was great but a month down the line I found that she was textingthis lad that had fancied her for 5 years, and insisted that he wasn’t suggesting her getting with him.. after this I found that he was then that caused more trust issues.. then at a recent trip to a club, another lad that had declared his like to her offered to buy her a drink and though I wad her ex.. which j wasn’t happy about one bit. But we spent that weekendtogether and we seemed fine.. but the next dayshe was being really off with me, killing conversation and not replying.. I am lost as to why. She finally come out and said I am suffocating her but most of the time she is the one that suggests we meet ect .. she hasn’t replied to me all night after me stupidly suggesting that she doesn’t care. It really hurts me because of the past and that she is so blunt with me. I love this girl to pieces and often wonder how on earth I have got her as I have a lot of self esteem issues that I can seem to get over I am really trying but she isn’t trying as much as I, even after suggesting she wants to start a family with me. This is really killing me and it being my first real partner I am lost as to how to tackle this situation :(.. any help would be brilliant because she has made me more confident but I feel that my lack of self esteem and struggling to trust her is breaking us up. Sorry for the essay any help would be amazing !
27th January 2012 at 1:49 pm
The drunken incident at the beginning of the relationship seems to have set a precedent about how much you trust your girlfriend. If you really do want to give your girlfriend a second chance, then you have to start with a clean slate and not make any assumptions about her actions from now on.
It sounds counter-intuitive but the more freedom you give your girlfriend (whilst still letting her know that you care), the more she will respect both you and the relationship.
I am fairly sure this is what she is referring to when she said that you are “suffocating” her. It is not how much you see each other, but how relaxed you both feel whilst with each other.
Taking what she has already said on board, it is fine to discuss with her why you have some of those feelings of distrust, but eventually you want to agree to work together on those issues. That would be for her to not exasperate any of your feelings, and for you to not make any premature assumptions with regards to trust. If you both sincerely want to be together then that level of communication and understanding should be fairly easy to balance.
Thanks for commenting,
John says:
28th January 2012 at 8:10 am
Hi Sam, great article and very useful follow up to people’s comments… thanks.
Perhaps you can shed some light on my situation too?
I’m in a difficult place right now and feel I may have left it too late to save my relationship, which has been constantly undermined by irrational trust issues on my part.
I met my girlfriend 18 months ago while traveling and we immediately started being together 24/7. After the trip, I moved to her country (she is of a different nationality and ethnic/religious background) simply to “be with her.” I have lived in different places before so the adjustment from that point of view was not too difficult.
However, even while we were still traveling I started to have serious trust issues. These stemmed, I believe, at least in part from her telling me about her past relationships and a rather Bohemian lifestyle. Personally, I am not against that kind of lifestyle, but for some reason it led to extreme jealousy on my part: initially I would seek more and more details about past events in her life, use these to irrationally question her fidelity to me, and worry incessantly that she would be unfaithful. Thoughts of her with other guys from the past would constantly loop through my head.
In response, she cut off contact with “certain people” in order to calm me and to a certain extent it worked, I largely stopped obsessing about her past. In addition, I should say that while we have been together she has never done anything to warrant suspicion on my part, in fact, she has never been anything but loyal and honest.
So over the last few months, I can say that my fears about her have dissipated in that regard. However, they appear to have triggered another problem: she now feels I am too controlling. In trying to placate my worries and trust issues she has started to feel she is unable to have any independence in her life: as she put it, she feels in a “cage.”
I have tried to relax and be less controlling, but a few weeks ago she said she wanted to go to another city to visit some friends alone. Stupidly, I got drunk that night and we had a major argument with me accusing her – irrationally I know – of not wanting to be with me and looking for someone else.
Anyway, we calmed things down over the following days, but resolved to have some time apart. We have now been away from each other for two weeks, though still talk regularly on the phone.
In this period, I have had time to think and I realise that my actions toward her in the past were totally unwarranted, wrong and very harmful to what otherwise would be a fantastic relationship. I also am no longer obsessing anywhere near as much about her cheating on me or torturing myself with imagined images from her past.
If and when we get back together, I understand what I need to do: be more self-confident, trust her and give her the independence she needs. My question is, how should I do this? How can I avoid slipping back to being jealous, controlling and possessive?
We have both talked about a fresh start, to going back to being the self-confident, happy, easy-going people we were when we met, but do you think that all of these problems may have irrevocably damaged our relationship? Or can we put them all behind us and move on?
We both deeply love each other and both agree that love shouldn’t be this harmful.
Thanks,
31st January 2012 at 10:37 pm
There are only a few instances where a relationship is ever truly beyond redemption. If both people in a relationship are listening and willing to give the other a chance, past misgivings can easily be forgotten.
The time you’ve had for reflection seems to have worked well and treating the relationship as a “fresh start” sounds like a good idea. The main effort will be in truly putting the recent negative moments behind you and making sure they don’t crop up again, even in discussions. Renewed trust comes solely from actions: how you act from this point forward!
The conclusions you have come to in your comment convey the right attitude to have from now on. Keep those mindsets at the forefront of your thoughts and constantly remind yourself what the right attitude for a mutually fulfilling relationship is. As long as you put priority on those beliefs over any contradictory or irrational behaviour, you should be able to prevent slipping back into any jealous or controlling ways. You know exactly the version of you that your girlfriend desires, how you want to be and how you want the relationship to be. You simply have to keep reaffirming those three things and take the renewed relationship one day at a time.
All the best and thanks for reading the website,
Hayley says:
15th February 2012 at 1:42 am
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months now. In this three months we have been through a lot of good and bad moments. My whole family loves him and he is everything I have ever wanted. However, I feel like I keep messing up and that is not like me at all. Even though I haven’t cheated on him He doen’t trust me and wants me to come up with ways of how I am going to show him he can trust me again. I feel like I have repeated myself a million times with telling him I wont drink without him, I wont go to parties without him, and I wont talk to guys. I feel like I need to come up with something more meaningfull. I was hoping you could give me some ideas on what else I could do for him. He means the world to me and I am scared to lose him.
Thanks,
17th February 2012 at 2:51 pm
It’s great to hear that you’ve found someone you like so much. It is also interesting to discuss this topic from a different perspective: someone wanting to help reduce their partner’s issues with trust.
Although your willingness to not drink, speak to guys or attend parties without your boyfriend sounds admirable, it actually doesn’t help his trust issues; in fact it actually nurtures them.
The other potential concern is that it frames you as the cause of any problems in the relationship, whereas that is not the case at all. With this method, in the long run you might find yourself worrying about what exactly you can and cannot do, and what details you can and cannot tell your boyfriend!
Trust issues in the absence of proof are not an issue with the relationship but an issue with the self. Assuming your boyfriend falls under common trust patterns, it is not the actual act of you talking to other guys that is a problem, but that he feels inferior, helpless or insecure at those times.
Instead of playing into his insecurities and restricting your own lifestyle, you can help your boyfriend by reassuring him of your affection at times when he is least trusting. For example, if you are out with other people or having a drink without him, sending him a text message to let him know you are thinking of him does wonders. As long as it is done with sincerity and respect rather than justifying yourself, it will solidify trust.
To get to that point where he is accepting that you are a free woman and don’t have to be kept tabs on, you might have to confidently discuss your position. I know you say you feel like you have repeated yourself a million times, but you do want to come to a compromise. The onus should not be solely on you to keep the relationship mutually fulfilling.
Take some time to think of ways you can confidently assure your boyfriend of your feelings for him and let him know that you can be trusted at all times. He will feel far more secure in the relationship once he believes that you are trustworthy because you respect the relationship, and not just because you are forced to be trustworthy by limiting your lifestyle. In the long run this is what is going to enrich the relationship and increase his trust for you, rather than postponing those feelings and risk something innocuous getting blown out of proportion further down the line.
All the best and thanks for commenting,
21st February 2012 at 4:32 am
Wonderful post! I’m not sure if you’re still responding to replies but I would love your help. I’ve been with my love for 2 years now, we are best friends and do everything together. This past 6months have been hard on our relationship because he is now at a university where he has met new girls (says they are easier to talk to) which are his friends. See we have diffrent values, I believe it is inappropriate to speak with the opposite sex about sex and ones personal relationships. I just think it opens the door for misleadings and having our relationship seem vulnerable. I’ve expressed my feelings and conserns but my love says this is how friends talk. So my question is are my values irrational?
22nd February 2012 at 6:12 pm
All values and beliefs can be rationalised by the person who holds them true, so it is not for anyone else to judge them. The important thing is to understand where they personally come from and how they are useful. It is also important to remember that they are your values and may not be shared, and certainly shouldn’t be imposed on anyone else, least of all a romantic partner.
You do not have to share the exact same values to enjoy a fulfilling relationship, but what is important is that you respect each other’s values. In this case, good communication will probably play an important role.
You say that your real concern is the relationship might become vulnerable or misrepresented. Those are the factors that you want to help your boyfriend empathise with, as a completely separate discussion from the fact that he has made female friends. If you try too hard to influence his behaviour then you are likely to encounter resistance, which can lead to contempt.
As I mentioned, when it comes to values and beliefs in a relationship, think carefully about whether they are mutually beneficial. With regards to trust, you want to make sure that your views are not based on insecurities and that everything you do is because you truly believe it is the best and most enlightened way to conduct your relationship, for your sake and your boyfriend’s.
Thanks for commenting and reading the website,
24th February 2012 at 6:17 am
22nd February 2012 at 12:22 pm
I’ve been dating this guy for about 5 months now, our relationship is going pretty good for the most part, we’re still learning about each other. But recently I’ve been having some insecurity and jealously problems. My boyfriend is very honest with me and tells me whatever I want from his past, but now I’m afraid I know too much because it has been really eating at me. I keep constantly thinking about it and comparing myself yo the other girls. Which I know this is not good at all. This is not like me either and lately I’ve been jumping to conclusions about things. For example he didn’t tell me he was with another girl doing a project til after I asked what he was up to. I don’t know if that is wrong of me to jump to conclusions because he didn’t tell me right away. Usually he does tell me things and he said he just really wanted to get the project done and make it to class and forgot to tell me, he didn’t think it was a big deal. Normally this isn’t a big deal granted I would have been fine if he told me before but from my point of view I thought it was shady of him. Now he has not given me a reason not to trust him, so I don’t know why I am acting like this. Although I do believe it may have to do with my past relationship, which I read in your article and you’re right I can’t bring that into this relationship because it will destroy it and push him away. your article is very helpful I just need some guidance on this one.
24th February 2012 at 4:15 pm
Although some information from your boyfriend’s past may seem undesirable to know, you can never “know too much” if you want an honest and trusting relationship. As long as you understand that the past is the past and what counts now is the trust you share in the present, it is always best to have everything out in the open, free of judgement.
In the same way that there are reasons why you are no longer in your past relationships, there are also reasons why your boyfriend is no longer in his previous relationships. You are together now and have the opportunity to have the relationship exactly as you both want it. There is no reason to compare yourself to other women. You are the girlfriend that he chooses to be with now, which puts you in the ascendency by default.
Jealousy and insecurities fall along a linear scale. They can increase or decrease in intensity but it is always a gradual process. The easiest way to start heading in a positive direction is by maintaining positive affirmations and remaining rational at all times.
It helps to give your partner the benefit of the doubt in most cases, whilst they remain trustworthy. The more you start jumping to conclusions, the more you will start to torment yourself by creating imaginary scenarios. You can actually influence what conclusions you jump to, so try to always make those conclusions positive. You have already acknowledged that your boyfriend is honest and trustworthy, so try and reframe every situation with that to be the absolute truth.
If something really is a big deal or threatening to the relationship, it will always be shrouded in contempt or secrecy. There won’t be any ambiguity if you make an effort to remain level-headed in such instances. If your boyfriend acts like something genuinely isn’t a big deal, then chances are that there really is nothing to worry about.
It sounds like you have a great relationship. Learning about each other in a relationship never ends; it is within your control to make sure it is always learning based on positive assumptions and not negative ones.
Kat says:
7th March 2012 at 9:18 pm
Great to read all of your responses. I have some similar issues that have been brought up in previous posts on this thread about trust but hope you can take some time to look at this and give me your insight.
I have been in a relationship for a little over a year. We live together now and we have some great times but when we argue it’s bad.
My bf told me a lot about his past and discussed things openly with me. He never really wanted to know about mine. Unfortunately, his telling me about these past relationships (I’ll give examples) has made me insecure, I think he wants someone like these gfs from the past, and like you mentioned in other response I end up believing in situations I create in my mind etc. One example, his ex-wife got implants and a tummy tuck (with child support he was paying her) and became a stripper. He was friends with this woman (before we met) on Facebook and made comments about her body (she has implants too), and carried on about her (they never dated). This made me think he wanted someone with a bigger chest and liked women that were looking for attention. I am the same age as him, I am attractive and in shape but now that I know these things I have started to question my attractiveness etc.
He also told me he had a brief “situation” with another woman his friend set him up with just for sex and he then had to tell his friend about the sex. They (my bf and the woman) made videos etc at first he said because she wanted to but then later said he did because he thought it would be cool to see him with her versus porn, he even showed me what she looked like on Facebook, and she was not attractive, but he hasn’t made one with me and keeps making excuses why he doesn’t.
Also, the same friend took him to a strip club and paid for a lap dance for him. Of course the girl was young and had implants.
He also used to watch a lot of porn. And has told me about that.
I find I think about these things from the past and ask him questions about them, think that he is thinking about them. At this point I just want to forget about these things and almost wish I didn’t know them. I logically know thear are in the past, but emotionally I let the thoughts tear me apart.
He has a job where he is now going to have to travel, which make me uncomfortable, wondering if he is going to go to strip clubs, which he says he won’t. His ex wife was always texting him and asking him for hugs and I asked him to put a stop to that as it was inappropriate, and he did stop it.
I just don’t like him being around her, and unfortunately his best friend is married to her sister so she is always around! It drives me crazy that his best friend knows about this other woman he set him up with just for sex. I feel like I have to compete with the past and I have trouble trusting in what he says he finds me attrative, I am the best he’s been with etc.
He has not cheated, we are together most of the time. We have shared interest and get along on all other aspects. I want to be able to not let the past keep getting in the way.
Any advice would be appreciated!
13th March 2012 at 12:08 am
Once negative or illusory thoughts about a relationship start creeping into your mind, it is easy for them to snowball and get out of hand. Your worries are not so much about trust as they are about self-acceptance and self-esteem.
Although I can think of counter-arguments to each of the negative assumptions you’ve mentioned, it is only you who can break the pattern and let the logical thoughts you mention take precedence over the emotional thoughts. Even if someone showers their partner with compliments, they will only seem sincere if that partner already believes those compliments to be true.
One thing I will say is that regardless of any positive attributes his past girlfriends might have, he is no longer with them for a reason. His ex-girlfriends do not have any bearing on your relationship and the less you bring them up or even put thought to them, the more content and relaxed you will be in your relationship.
I can only speak from personal experience but a woman being completely comfortable in her own body is infinitely more attractive than a woman being what is considered “the perfect shape and physique”. This is true for the majority of men I know. Looks and indeed cosmetic surgery are by definition superficial, so it is a lot more important that you regain your love for your own body. I have a feeling that you will start believing your boyfriend’s attraction for you once you do, which will in turn allow you to regain that level of trust.
Take care and thanks for reading,
Kat says:
13th March 2012 at 2:37 pm
Hi Sam, I really appreciate you insight. It was very helpful reading it. I know you are right that I have to break the current thought pattern because I am not relaxed and content.
Thanks again!
18th March 2012 at 1:20 am
13th March 2012 at 5:41 pm
I’m very glad I found your site. Your articles have been very helpful!
So I guess the #1 way to be able to fully trust your partner is by having a good amount of self-love and self-esteem yourself huh? Because if you love and accept yourself 100%, there will be enough space between you and whatever undesirable situation arises with your partner that you will be able to deal with it in a rational and healthy way rather than letting it attack your self-esteem. Also if you love and value yourself you will know that you will get through any challenge just fine.
I like how you said that you’re not afraid of anyone whisking your partner away because you don’t think anyone could and in another article, that you have to believe that you are the BEST option. That’s really something I’m working hard toward.
My boyfriend and I moved in together (to a different state with no family or friends) about 2 years ago and we went through a difficult time in the beginning. I had never lived on my own before, (he had), so I had some trouble adjusting to new responsibilities. During that time we had a few horrible arguments.
About 3 months after living together in a whole new city, I found out that my bf had subscribed to a dating website. I found this out by looking through his phone because one day I just had this feeling that I needed to and sure enough first thing I saw was the website account. He had been emailing a few girls, just normal “getting to know you” type of stuff. I was devastated. I’ve always had trouble with my self-esteem but that nearly destroyed it. I confronted him about it and he told me everything. He said he was just curious “what else was out there” because I’ve been his only real gf and that the fights we were having contributed to him straying. He said he never met up with anyone and deleted the account. After that I was in hell. Always wondering what he was doing when I wasn’t around. Long story short, he did the same thing (joined two other dating sites) and browsed the craigslist personals ads on a few different occasions and months in between an after that. I found out about all of them by looking through his email, cell phone or computer.
The last straw was this past September when I checked his phone and saw he had joined another website. He said he was just looking for “friends” this time but I didn’t buy it; they were all girls. Anyway, before, I had resisted breaking up because I was afraid of being alone but this last time I was ready to break up and to accept being alone. It was then that he said that he wanted to be me and that he wanted us to be happy and put everything behind us. We had a long conversation and I agreed but I made sure to tell him that it was the last chance because we would not survive another situation like that. He promised that he was committed to me and our relationship and that he was going to be faithful from now on.
I know some people would judge me and say that I’m stupid for staying with someone who has hurt me in the same way more than once but here’s the thing: what he did was only online, and consisted of normal ‘getting to know you’ conversations, nothing sexual. It was still very wrong and was cheating but I’m glad that it wasn’t physical and that I found out about it in time to put a stop to it. And the other thing is that I, myself, went through a phase of doubting my partner and made similar mistakes of my own, so unfortunately both of us made the stupid mistake/decision of being unfaithful to each other at some point. I’m grateful though that neither of us had any kind of long term affair or sexual affair because that, we would probably not have survived. Through my experience I’ve learned a lot about myself, my partner, and a lot about forgiveness and compassion. It’s a complex situation that people wouldn’t understand unless they went through it themselves.
The thing I’m struggling with now is that even though he has been loving and faithful for the past 6 months like he promised, I sometimes still feel the need/urge to check his phone, email or computer to make sure that he’s being faithful. I haven’t found anything at all suspicious since the last time, which I’m very relieved about, yet I feel that an involuntary part of me does want to find something, so that I can feel self righteous, leave him and have the egoic satisfaction of thinking that he’s a bad person for hurting me. I know it’s ridiculous and dysfunctional! This reminded me of the article where you talked about your friend who checked his gf’s email everyday and was overjoyed when he finally found proof that his gf was cheating and he could justify his mistrust. I do not want to get to that point.
I hate checking my bf’s things..it makes me feel like a slave to circumstance and mistrust..it makes me feel like an insecure loser and I feel guilty for not fully trusting him and going behind his back to keep tabs on him. He says he trust me fully so why do I have trouble trusting him fully? I want to stop looking through his stuff because I know that if I keep doing it’s just going to cause stress in our relationship and even worse, bring about the very situation that I DON’T want to happen again.
If you could please offer me some advice I would be very grateful. How can I get rid of the urge to check up on him? How can I tell if that need is legitimate (that something is wrong) or that it’s just worry and fear based on the past? And how do I leave the past in the past and move forward in a healthy way? (like you said in one of your articles that the cheating in the past no longer matters and that if you both choose to stay together and work it out, you have to leave it in the past.) Does it all boil down to my self-esteem, self-acceptance? Would my need/urge to “protect” myself and to be in control by looking through his things dissolve after I’ve learned to love myself 100%?
Sorry for the lengthy reply. I just REALLY want to stop sabotaging myself and my relationship because despite our mistakes, I know we do really love each other, otherwise we wouldn’t have survived our difficulties right? I just want to do my best to give our relationship the best chance possible.
Thank you very much for you time! I really appreciate it.
18th March 2012 at 1:31 am
Developing solid self-esteem is a great basis for any healthy relationship. There are obviously external factors too but the main thing is to actively learn from every experience and let it enrich that self-esteem rather than negatively affect it. I love your opening insights about the value and importance of self-esteem and confidence.
For a couple to successfully get through a previous blip in trust, several things must occur. The first is to understand what led to your boyfriend wanting to go on dating websites in the first place and secondly, what things you can both do to void such desires outside of the relationship. Assuming your boyfriend’s explanations are sincere, I like the way you have rationalised that it was only online and that it is something you can both work through. This aspect is actually a separate issue from trust and is more a case of making the relationship as mutually fulfilling as possible, something that all relationships should be constantly applying.
With regards to trust, you want your boyfriend to be aware that it is the secrecy and dishonesty that affects that trust and not necessarily his actions. It doesn’t matter how you found out about his activities because in a monogamous relationship, no one should have anything to hide! If you can make your boyfriend feel that it is always better to be honest (from a place of confidence rather than fear), then this will become far easier for you both.
That being said, you do want to do whatever it takes to not look at his private messages and email without his knowledge. Now that you have got through the whole online dating drama, hopefully your boyfriend will see the benefit of being more open and honest about his feelings from now on. This should be based on the result of having discussed the situation fully and not simply assumed.
In order to create a sincere interconnection where you feel like you can tell each other anything, you want to encourage more discussions about how you see the relationship, and not just when something goes ‘wrong’. Leaving the past behind you is mainly to prevent jumping to conclusions with regards to future behaviour. As I mentioned above, every incident is an opportunity to enrich the relationship: take the lessons that you can to learn from the experience before completely moving on from it.
Learning to “love yourself 100%” will help with almost every aspect of a relationship but mainly in the sense that you will hold yourself to higher standards. You can have perfect self-esteem and still not trust someone. The difference is that by having unshakable confidence, you will not accept being treated anything less than perfectly, and your partner will know this.
I’m currently writing a new article on the topic of boundaries in a relationship and in writing this response to you I’ve noticed several crossover points. It should be up on the website within the next few weeks; you might enjoy reading it to get a slightly different angle on some of your questions.
I’m glad you have found the articles helpful so far and it’s great to have you here,
20th March 2012 at 12:10 pm
what are some ways to make my crush trust me more? and how can i understand her more, so as to make her share her problems with me?
21st March 2012 at 10:38 pm
The only way to get someone to trust you more is to consistently be the epitome of honesty, authenticity and reliability. Some people have their own insecurities that make it hard for them to fully trust someone regardless of the reality of the situation. In such cases, all you can do is continue to reassure what trust they do have and give them no reason to ever justify opposing feelings.
Having a woman share her problems with you is not necessarily a good thing. You want to be her source of positivity and happiness as much as possible, not an opportunity to vent. Learning to read a woman’s sub-communications is probably the best way to understand her better and really know how content she is. If you have a browse around the website, you will find articles where I discuss those topics in further detail.
Thanks for your questions,
20th March 2012 at 7:13 pm
Thanks very much for taking the time to reply to my questions and offer great advice. It was very helpful.Looking forward to your new article!
Best wishes!
21st March 2012 at 10:40 pm
You’re very welcome. I look forward to hearing from you again at some point.
22nd March 2012 at 12:32 pm
Hi Sam, thanks for taking your time to reply to my question. Another question is, what are ways whereby I can give her security? With that, she’ll probably get used to around me, and then trusts me gradually. As for sub-communications, are they related to body languages and all that>
25th March 2012 at 11:06 pm
Hi again,
Security in this context is much the same thing as trust and reliability. Being reliable means never contradicting something that is assumed of you. This is not to be confused with spontaneous or unpredictable, attractive behaviour; it applies to anything that she assumes is a foundational aspect of the relationship. You are right that this is a gradual process if such trust is not already present.
Body language is a big part of sub-communications but it does extend to things such as tonality and expressions. The overall aim is to have a gauge for how the other person is feeling at any given time. That way you will know when to pull them emotionally closer and when to give them a bit more space.
I hope that clears up the answers a bit better,
joe says:
1st April 2012 at 8:56 pm
hi sam, thanks for your great post
i think i kinda have a deep (actually very deep) self-esteem problem. i know my girlfriend is honest to me and never leave or cheat me. i know it by my brain. but every time we are away from each other or she cant be with me, the negative thoughts rise in my head and make me insane and lead me to insult her and breaks my security feel. i ask my self”
“what if that guy with what nice car rush on her and now she is talking to him?”
“what if she is just trying to get rid of me somehow so she dont answer my phone?”
“what if that cousin she always talks about kinda have a relationship with her?”
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and every time she talk about another guy like this: “john doe is a really nice guy”
i think she is kinda telling me “hey you crap, john doe overs you, i wish i were his gf”
and i really get mad, cant do anything about it, just more drink and smoke.
my life is being ruined that way. what am i gonna do?
3rd April 2012 at 9:17 pm
You’re right that this is a self-esteem issue and the only person who can turn it around is you. There are people who can help you and if your girlfriend is particularly empathetic, she can too. You don’t want to expect or pressure her to do so though. You also must resist reacting badly when she mentions other men or anything else that you could build a negative illusion around.
There are an infinite amount of “what ifs” that you could create in your head. None of them matter because none of them are based on reality.
What you have to try and do is remain present as often as possible and make sure the logical thoughts (that your girlfriend is honest and trustworthy) always overpower the negative fears. There are lots of great books that discuss these mindsets in great depth (a popular one is The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle) but ultimately the alignment of positive thoughts and confidence must come from within.
Thanks for reading,
Kiri says:
23rd April 2012 at 11:54 am
n she loves me alot i knw bt she makes me feel jealous sometime…
n she dnt have any past like exx…n all…
n we were together about 1.5 years…
when i took name of break up..
n when she go for outing..wid her family or friends….
i hope u understand my feelingss..
25th April 2012 at 11:06 pm
The first thing to do is spend some time getting to the root cause of all the feelings you describe and trying to truly understand them. The first step to overcoming issues related to trust is to become fully conscious of their cause and relevance. Only at that point can you work on dissociating from those feelings that you know do not benefit your relationship.
At the same time, it may help to discuss the issues more openly with your girlfriend. A lot of people worry about doing so as it can reveal too many insecurities and too much vulnerability. Emphasise that the priority is to make the relationship as mutually fulfilling as possible. If you are able to empathise with each other, you should be able to complete some of the above thought exercises aimed at overcoming jealousy and trust issues together.
All the best and thanks for reading,
26th April 2012 at 8:52 am
26th April 2012 at 11:05 am
joe says:
30th April 2012 at 4:09 am
Me and my girlfriend have been together roughly six months and had a previous relationship together for a couple weeks that had to end due to movent of adresses, things are perfect except i did reaahd a message tht shoe had talked to a guy during the beggining of our courting the second time abou two three weeks before we became official, she told me thy only went out once and they went as a group but actually thy went on two dates alone, i asked the guy and he told me he was jealous.of me.and i was a lucky man and that they were not phsical and he could obviously tell she was in to me, im just curious if this is. A neccesary reason to lose trst and if i should confront her or not? On a side note she did think i was just going to play her because she believes thats wat i did the first time.although i didnt i just was scared to get attached wth her leaving and all
2nd May 2012 at 5:14 pm
On the face of what you have written, it does not sound like there is any genuine cause for concern about losing trust in your girlfriend. She went on those dates before your relationship had properly been established and confronting her on what she no doubt views as past and trivial is unnecessary. Instead, focus on the relationship now, especially working on changing any lingering assumptions she might have about you “playing her” or indeed, not trusting her.
At this stage in your relationship, you can talk to each other about topics like trust in a general sense, but picking on what seems like an isolated incident from some time ago will not achieve much.
Backing this up is the fact that this other guy does not seem threatening or resentful in the way he has spoken to you.
Unless there is a genuine concern about something in your relationship, you should always choose the option that increases your trust for each other over one that could potentially ruin your trust for each other.
Thanks for reading,
afdan says:
11th May 2012 at 2:00 am
I read your article and I totally get it. But just because i understand something doesn’t make it easy to apply. I’ve had major trust issues, partly because my brother that was happily married ended up being cheated on, and partly because of all the various girls I’ve met through out life. Now I’ve found the love of my life and i cant stop my self from over analyzing everything, the other part that doesn’t help is that its a long distance relationship being that i am in the military. Do you have any advice in getting rid of these insecurities and fears?
13th May 2012 at 6:41 pm
You are right that knowing how to have a happy and trusting relationship does not automatically make it easy to apply, but it is still the first and most important step. Knowing that it is possible to have a fully trusting relationship leads to knowing that it is possible for YOU to have a fully trusting relationship!
The first thing to do is to recognise that all the other reference examples you have given, such as your brother being cheated on, are independent events and the result of certain factors specific to that relationship. Of course, those certain factors (deriving from insecurities and subsequent behaviour) can be repeated, but understanding what helps and what hinders trust is what allows one to break the pattern.
A long distance relationship can actually work in your favour if you make a conscious effort to do things that distract your mind from overanalysing. Distance does not mean an absence of feedback and communication: you just have to become better at doing it and make a continual effort not to sabotage the relationship.
There aren’t any instant cures for removing insecurities or fears but know that how you think and feel and how you represent yourself do not have to be identical. Forcing the latter to be how you want it to be usually helps the former over time.
All the best and thanks for reading,
Allison says:
22nd May 2012 at 12:01 pm
Hey! So i just read your stuff and I wanna ask for advice. Throughout all my past relationships, I been loyal but I was the girl always cheated on. I am an international model so therefore, my past boyfriends would think a hook up would happen when in reality, it didnt. I am now in a relationship with this amazing guy and we are both graduating high school now and going to the same college if his parents don’t change colleges at the last second.
He has all this faith in me and loves me for me. But i have a hard time trusting him though because of my past experiences. I hate the way I do this to him because he deserves to be fully trusted around the opposite sex. But I have been slowly getting used to it and it has been easier to trust him now. But I just recently went on a cruise to the bahamas to do a photo shoot for a magazine so I wouldn’t have my cell phone with me due to no service and roaming charges when I did have service.
I come back and he is upset with me because many of his friends told him I was cheating on him on the cruise. Many are his friends and never have met me so he took their side and he honestly thinks I did. I been telling him I havent but he asks for proof and asks for a way to show I was a faithful girlfriend. He said he is loosing his faith in me and that he is not wanting to be apart of this relationship because the trust is not there.
How can I fix this? I know that I haven’t done anything wrong and I know that I haven’t crossed boundaries with anyone because that is disrespectful to him. I have had my heart broken before and I promised myself that when I love someone, I will fight and protect for what’s mine. But now he’s giving up on us because he doesn’t know if he should believe me or not.
Now I’m getting the cold shoulder and he doesn’t seem too excited to talk to me and is just more reserved. What can I do to get his trust back even when I been faithful the whole time?
Please respond soon.
26th May 2012 at 10:49 am
It is a tough position you’ve been put in; trust is something that comes from within, so your boyfriend needs to convince himself of where his loyalties lie more than anything.
Whether your boyfriend’s friends sounded sincere when making their accusations or not, this could be your boyfriend’s way of testing your faithfulness. Try not to get visibly emotional for the wrong reasons. Obviously show that you care but try to be as assertive as you can. There are ways to assert honesty and they involve being direct and conveying that sincerity through more than just words: eye-contact, body language and presence. Explain to him your overall stance on trust that you started to describe here.
As for your past experiences affecting this, being loyal is a great attribute to have but be careful not to come across as overly supplicating. Although it may seem counter-intuitive, a man relishes being challenged by their woman occasionally, in a respectful way of course. If a man thinks he can walk all over you (by cheating or by not trusting your word) then he is more likely to do so. It’s great that this relationship has left a lot of those trust issues behind you and hopefully your boyfriend will come around to this cheating business if you remain congruent and consistent.
Thanks for writing,
Carrie says:
25th May 2012 at 9:12 pm
Sam! You are wonderful and I appreciate your article as well as your attention to everyone’s comments. I visited originally due to trust (which I now know are insecurity) issues. My bf is wonderful and caring. Due to past relationships, I project my mistrust of men to him, which I knowingly do, yet can’t always stop myself! I have recently begun to search his phone and our computer (and hate myself as I do it). I never found anything until the other day when I found a porn site that was visited. I know this is normal of most men, but since he doesn’t have mags or any other things like that I can’t stop thinking about it and feeling bad that he is going there and not to me. I (of course) confronted him and he said he hated that I felt bad about it. Basically, do I just need to suck it all up and not look at the computer history daily (yes, I know), and is there a mantra or an example you can give of a positive affirmation to repeat when confronted with the mistrust/insecurity/jealousy feelings? I appreciate any time you may have to respond!
26th May 2012 at 11:28 am
I know it may be difficult to break the habit without become uneasy but you really must try your hardest not to check your boyfriend’s phone and computer for the wrong reasons. Given an indefinite amount of time, there will always be messages or other things that can be misconstrued as distrustful.
Instead, work on crafting a perfect level of communication with your boyfriend so that you are always fully aware and understanding of each other’s needs and desires within the relationship.
As for discovering that your boyfriend has viewed porn sites, I wouldn’t necessarily read into that as your boyfriend being dissatisfied sexually. You can actually use it as an opportunity to enrich your sex-life together: talk about new fantasies or perhaps even find some couple-friendly porn that you can watch together.
It’s good that you know those sorts of things about your boyfriend but in the future, encourage him to tell you directly by being non-judgemental and trusting, whilst doing your utmost to respect his privacy and in return trust him directly.
There are loads of insightful thoughts and quotes relating to trust out there but I recommend simply reminding yourself of a few things whenever you feel signs of distrust: are these feelings based on reality in the present; what is the best way to act for the sake of our relationship; am I playing my part in creating a trusting and respectful relationship. By all means search for famous insights and quotes related to trust though, as even a simple sentence can change how we think about certain topics.
All the best and thanks for commenting,
Zack says:
29th May 2012 at 5:37 am
Sam, good article, and I just had some issues I need help overcoming. My girlfriend and I have been together for about 4 months, and it’s going great. I do not drink alcohol, simply because of the terror I’ve seen it cause to people around me in the past and I know that mentally, it makes you unstable. My girlfriend has also never tried drinking, but she has said she is going to whether I like it or not. I trust her totally, but I don’t trust alcohol. But ever since she’s said that, I’ve been wondering what’s happening every time she’s with her friends, etc, purely out of fear that alcohol will cause her mental state to be vulnerable and maybe some possible straying or inadvertent flirting, ya know? I don’t want her to drink at all, but she is going to try it anyways. I just need you to help me work through the constant stress and worrying about what she’s doing because I don’t trust alcohol. Any help would be appreciated, thank you.
31st May 2012 at 3:35 pm
Alcohol does lower people’s inhibitions and can lead to those people becoming more vulnerable or susceptible to the actions of others. With that said, it will not make someone do something that goes against their innermost morals or desires.
If you can continue having full trust in each other’s beliefs and intentions at all other times, the alcohol should not change those fundamentals. Your concentration can then go towards making sure she stays safe and makes good decisions when she is out drinking, which is a separate issue to trust.
That includes making sure that she has good friends around her and that she lets you know her plans where possible, in a non-controlling way of course. That alone should help reassure you that there is nothing to worry about.
Alcohol consumption in the manner you are describing is a phase that many people go through, and an experience that can actually help people to grow from a personal viewpoint.
If you remain a great boyfriend before, during and after her drinking sessions and don’t openly judge her behaviour, then she will always want to honour the relationship, even whilst in a state of drunkenness!
Thanks for reading the website,
LoveisComplicated says:
30th May 2012 at 8:51 am
I stumbled upon your website; love all your articles and great advice!
Like everyone else I am going through some relationship problems. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years now and about a year ago he broke up with me. I was really depressed at the time and according to him was very negative and “needy.” He said he didnt want me in his life anymore. We got back together after three months. He wasn’t with anyone else during that time but flirted a lot via facebook. Which he said was his way of forgetting about me. Anyway since we’ve gotten back together I hold it against him and I cant seem to get over it. Even though its been a year now I still feel betrayed and hurt and angry like I just want to hurt him! I was going through such a vulnerable time in my life and for him to leave me like that makes me resent him. Even writing this brings back all the anxiety and sadness I felt then. I do love him and I know he loves me. I want us to work but I just can’t seem to get over him breaking up with me. We’ve had a million conversations about this. We have great communication; he knows how I felt I know how he felt. I thought maybe I was looking for closure? I don’t know. Your advice would be greatly appreciated. How do I get over the past and move on?
31st May 2012 at 3:47 pm
Moving on from negative, past experiences in a relationship is much the same as moving on from any negative, past experience. It is about accepting the past for what it is and using those experiences as lessons to learn from, rather than memories to cause anxiety.
The most positive people are the ones who can take negative experiences and view them as ultimately being for the best. In fact, negative experiences are often the catalyst for gaining clarity and really making changes in your life and relationship.
It is great that you and your boyfriend are communicating well about your feelings but for this relationship to work, you must give each other a fully clean slate. Try to think of your relationship as starting completely anew, and catch yourself as soon as possible whenever you are starting to focus on the memories in question.
Any closure is created purely by you and your mind, and nothing your boyfriend says to justify his past actions will help without a willingness to forgive and forget. I’m sure your boyfriend’s outlook has changed in the past year, much as yours has. It sounds like you can have an exceptionally happy relationship together, as long as you focus on the present as much as possible.
Thanks for reading the website,
LoveisComplicated says:
1st June 2012 at 3:46 am
Thank you very much for your advice. I showed it to my boyfriend and he agrees. I really need to start working on myself and be more positive before we can start anew. Well, since we are starting off on a clean slate I have one last problem.
From the beginning of our relationship my boyfriend was a bit controlling. He had some insecurities and I made it worse by not being 100% honest with him about certain things from my past. He made me cut ties with my girlfriends who in his mind were lets say promiscuous and also my guy friends because he said men and women cant be friends because men usually have other intentions. Sounds crazy but I let go of everyone because I thought it would make him trust me. Which ended up making me depressed and I actually picked up on his negative behavior and applied the same to him. This has gone on for three years. He’s not a bad guy at all he’s really caring and listens to me. I think he just reacted that way because I was not 100% honest with him.
My question is how can we set new boundaries in our relationship and get rid of our negative behaviors? I would really love for him to trust me when I speak to other men and vice versa when he speaks to other women. Like trust me enough to have guy friends again. I’m not sure if its a trust issue more so an insecurity issue.
Also, I read your article on how to be the best option for your partner. My last question is how can I make him feel like he really is the best Option for me? I don’t think he believes that. I do love him and feel like there are no other options for me. He really is the one and I want him to know that.
Hope you come out with a book soon! You should do skype couple therapy sessions!
5th June 2012 at 11:50 am
Hi again,
That’s great that you are embracing the potential changes so positively and also that you are involving your boyfriend with the process. One of the worst things to occur during such stages of change is for anyone to feel isolated or misrepresented, so it is great that you are being so open about it all.
Whilst most issues in a relationship can be solved with personal development, they can certainly be helped from both sides. Issues may seem individual, but there is always some crossover.
With the main issue you describe, it is actually important not to buy into irrational fears imposed upon you, such as the one restricting who you socialise with. Counter-intuitive as it may seem, it actually gives credence to something that should not be an issue in a relationship. Instead, you can heighten the factors that you are in control of, such as being 100% honest from now on like you mention. If your boyfriend truly believes that you are being honest with him (a side-product of agreeing to start the relationship with renewed honesty and trust) then the factors that don’t directly relate to your honesty should not affect the trust you have for each other.
One of my more recent articles on this website is on the topic of boundaries in a relationship if you haven’t read it yet. The key is learning to understand and empathise with each other, whilst not allowing any irrational or destructive behaviour to take precedence.
Worrying about who your partner socialises with is an issue of insecurity, but it is influenced by mutual trust. The thing to differentiate between is how much of that trustworthiness is justified, and how much is based on personal fears. Depending on the severity of those factors, it may take some time to overcome those fears completely. If you are communicating well and working as a unity then any relationship issue is fairly easily to overcome.
Your partner sincerely believing that he is the best option for you is as much his responsibility as your own. On your part, make sure you show him love and affection through actions that back up your words. Being authentic and having integrity are character traits that will indirectly make someone trust your words and actions. If your boyfriend has any personal issues preventing him from fully trusting you, then that is something for him to work on privately as well as with you.
I am currently working on two books, each covering a separate aspect of dating and relationships in detail. More details will be posted here and on my Twitter profile as and when I have updates; thanks for showing interest.
As for Skype consultations, they are something I have done in the past and would consider doing again if there is interest. I generally find that face-to-face or email contact is more productive, depending on what the discussions are about, so that is where I currently focus my services. Feel free to contact me via the Contact Page if you ever want to enquire about any of those services or ask further questions.
2nd June 2012 at 11:44 pm
Hi sam I really Appreciate this article. My trust issues have really ruined my relationship with my boyfriend of a year and a half. I’m a junior and his a senior and I been hearing rumors about him from people that i thought were my friends. Every time I would hear something I wouldn’t ask him, I would just accused him of all it. But every time he would deny it or it was just a miss understanding. The week before school ended I accused him of a rumor and he got so fed up with me that he decided to end our relationship. I was very upset by his decision. But a week later he decided to give us another chance. But his mother doesn’t want him mentioning me and he says that he will only mention me to her when he sees a change in me. But honestly I don’t know how that’s going to happen, because in two months he will be going to college which is a long way from Texas. Please help me to get rid of these trust issue
6th June 2012 at 10:29 pm
Being physically apart magnifies certain aspects of the relationship. If a relationship is happy and fulfilling then that will result in dearly missing each other and actively wanting to hear from each other. If there are negative aspects to the relationship, such as issues with trust, then they are also likely to be magnified whilst apart.
That is why it is imperative that you solve any issues before he goes away. You will actually have to trust each other beyond what is expected, as you will have less tangible evidence to compare your partner’s actions and words during that time.
The first thing to do is understand and deal with the source of trust issues for you. The rumours you mention are obviously a part of that and so you want to start by logically deciding for yourself whether they actual have any credibility. Those thoughts should be influenced by how your boyfriend presents himself and whether there have been significant changes in his behaviour.
It is usually best to ignore any rumours unless you have your own insights backing up those rumours. You should be in charge of how and why you trust your boyfriend and those points should never have to be backwards-rationalised. Note that there are many reasons why someone would make up or embellish rumours: jealousy, spite or simply a pathological urge to lie. Becoming better at reading people in general will help to know where the truth lies for you.
Now that some of this is out in the open with your boyfriend, speak to him and discuss the changes you both want to make for the relationship to work. You have to convince and show each other a level of mutual trust that you both believe can last being physically apart. How you actually manage the relationship whilst you are apart will be a product of how successful those discussions are.
All the best and thanks for reading the website,
3rd June 2012 at 2:27 pm
Hi sam, firstly i think this is an awsome article ! your right on the money with what youve said . ive recently started seeing a girl and its been great so far , i know i do have sum trust issues from previous relationships and i really do want to trust her . its just im finding it really hard at the moment . She recently recieved a comment on her facebook page from a guy who she has never told me about , who has never commented on her page before but i know they have been in touch and it really bugs me to know this . i know that the start of a relationship is the most vulnerable so i want to basically rid myself of these trust issues so we can move on to better things . am i over thinking things ? am i just being controlling ? why cant i trust her ? please help me … what do i do ?
6th June 2012 at 10:41 pm
In some ways the start of a relationship is the most vulnerable, but it is also the biggest opportunity to cement your trust and show the best side of your true self. How you act now will be the foundation for the rest of the relationship.
The first thing to ensure with regards to trust is that you both know what is expected of each other and that you are both equally committed to the relationship. Sometimes those points are assumed, which can lead to an unintentional abuse of trust.
The second thing to consciously remind yourself of is that you are her boyfriend, meaning you automatically get a head start over any other man she interacts with. You have a constant opportunity to leverage the things that attract her to you and make her want to be in a relationship with you. All other interactions of hers, especially insignificant ones such as a standalone Facebook message, are secondary to the relationship you have.
The overriding point is that YOU are in charge of how much you trust each other at this stage. Furthermore, how you act now will dictate how much you actually WANT to trust each other in the foreseeable future!
Thanks for reading the website and I’m glad you like this article so much,
6th June 2012 at 12:06 am
I have a little issue and I’m hoping to gain some kind of insight on this situation I’ve allowed myself to be in. My fiance is obviously the love of my life. She does all kinds of things that any one I’ve ever been with has and makes me feel incredible. But there’s a HUGE twist in our relationship that throws it off kinda. You see my fiance is a female escort. Now, when we first got together she told me this is what she does tho she’s fairly new to it. I figured it wasn’t an issue because she told me that nothing physical happens with any client they pretty much only get nude photos and hold dirty talk (more so them than her) and go out to eat at random restaurants. Now I had not one issue with the idea of it for sometime. Abt 3 months ago one morning I made the insecure decision of going thru her phone. I seen messages abt how some guy couldn’t wait to treat her like an Irish Lass and taste her and there was a contract involving not getting and std and using protection. The same man sent Holiday Inn confirmations because I guess that’s where they meet for buisness meetings. I guess most of these guys have spouses and they wanna get away for a prettier and more interesting person over lunch or dinner. But after seeing that, it was hard to believe. When I finally confronted her abt it she was upset speaking on how not having trust would make no sense in there being an “us”. Which I understand but whenever I ask her how her night with whomever (she barely gave names) went it was very much a two sentence answer. I feel her level of discretion is a problem especially because she says she’s tell all of them abt me. Now one of her regulars is this apparently creepy guy who takes naked photos of her which again is fine. But given his personality flaw of being socially awkward I can’t even exist in his mind. This guy says he wants to support her financially and gives her $1200 dol a month for various favors like cleaning his house or taking pictures of helping other women he takes pics of get their make up on. But as of late he considers her his girlfriend and she wants to milk him for everything he’s got saying its for our wedding. He even bought her a car due to an accident where some lady stole it and totalled it so he “came to the rescue” I even had to leave her apartment that day because it would have been “awkward” I tell her how these things bother me and she presses the issue of how its for us. How she loves me and so forth and so on. We’ve gotten pretty deep abt the situation but she’s a) not comfortable with doing it b) would stop doing it if I asked. She claims she feels its pathetic these guys would pay to meet with her for a few hours. I think I have a problem with the lack of integrity involved and I also my ego slightly stands in the way. But I know we are a really good match and IF she actually is borderlining prostitution then that’s awful of her because she has a 7 yr old daughter that is reaaaally attached to me. Says “your the best mommy has ever been with” cuz she’s witnessed her in a domestically abusive relationship. I really want this to work and I want to get over my insecurity towards this situation without cutting off her cashflow since she’s on disability and will probably be getting another back surgery soon. I don’t know what to do and I’m in serious need of advice because she can tell when something is bothering me emotionally. I have alot of resolve and patience but I just don’t want to be the sucker who goes out of my way to be the man that I am and watch her kid while she’s out doing whatever with whoever. Oh, might I add ever since our engagement we’ve only had sex twice in one month instead of 8-9 times. As well she doesn’t seem to go escorting when she’s not in the mood. And barely when she’s on her period. I think I’m over thinking it. What do you think?
10th June 2012 at 3:45 pm
When dating someone with a profession such as escorting, trust exists in a slightly different form and the transparency between what you tell each other must be as unambiguous as possible. Two identical actions can have completely different meanings to your fiancée depending on whether she is in work mode or not.
On your part, for this relationship to work, you must be 100% accepting of what she chooses to do, knowing how you feel about her work. I am sure you don’t want in depth details about her work activities but let her know what your best way to be accepting of it all is and what level of detail that involves.
Another aspect of that trust is to be more open about what your future goals and ambitions are, on a personal level and for the relationship. Knowing whether escorting is something she actually enjoys beyond the financial aspect and how it will affect your future for example.
Your fiancée’s dismissive attitude towards her work and lack of details could be a self-esteem issue, or it could be because of how she feels you will react. If you ever make her feel like you can’t handle certain details that she could reveal, she is unlikely to feel comfortable discussing them with you.
I know that a lot of men would not be self-assured enough to date a woman that does escorting, so I am impressed that you are putting the relationship ahead of any personal feelings. The next step is to see if you can expand that level of trust to encompass anything she could potentially encounter on the job, rather than what you hope her limits are.
Thanks for reading the website,
Jeremy says:
8th June 2012 at 7:48 pm
Hey, I read this artical twice, and i’ll honstly say this has helped me alot. I’m currently in a long distance relationship, and i’m going read this to my girlfriend and have us discuss things we can do to help trust eachother an avoid jealousy- which is a huge problem for both of us. I hope great things will come of this!
Thanks for posting this!!!!
10th June 2012 at 3:49 pm
Hi Jeremy,
Thanks for the feedback. I think it’s a great idea to discuss the topic positively with your girlfriend and I hope your relationship benefits as a result.
Thanks for commenting,
17th June 2012 at 8:37 am
Hi Sam, thank you for such a great site.
I have had a problem in the past with trust in my relationships. I had an affair and consequently left my last partner to be with the new person. Obviously the way we got together was always going to give us an obstacle to overcome with regards to trust! My partner is very flirty in nature, and often engages the opposite sex in quite lengthy conversations appearing to seem interested in them. I questioned this behaviour early on in our relationship, to which she replied she was only talking to them. I am aware that I have probably got a complex because of my actions and infedelities in the past.
I encountered a situation over the christmas period where my partner went out. I was ment to meet her but changed my plans to spend some time with a friend, possibly meeting up with her later on. She was unhappy with this decision saying that her friends were expecting to meet me. She was angry about being let down and this was clear during our Phone conversation. The night drew on and it was approximately 3am I tried to call her but she failed to answer her phone. I tried several more times and at approximately 5am she answered saying she would be home shortly, and that she had been back a party at a friends house. When she came in she was acting all suspicious and I could only describe as sketchy. When I Asked her about how her evening had gone she was very vague about what’s gone on and the events that had taken place. She had gone back to a house with some fellas and some other female colleagues from work. Due to being suspicious I checked her phone and saw that she had called a chap just before arriving back home. We argued for a while and finally agreed to go to bed. This was one event that left me wondering or gave me cause to concern. Then on a second night out with colleagues she didn’t get in until 5:30 after agreeing last time that it was unfair to come back so late.
A month or so ago now I had a phone call from one of my best female friends informing me that at a friends wedding someone had seen my partner kissing her partner. I waited until I got home to ask her about this and she admitted that she has kissed him, but was very vague about what had actually happened, stating that she was very drunk.
I was really cross but also at the same Time not surprised that she had acted in this way. I went out for a drink and a chat with a friend to discuss what has happened and decided that we needed to be completely honest If we were to move on. I asked her if there’s anything else you would like to confess whilst having the truth session. She admitted to something happening at another time, and i asked her whether it was with the chap at the Christmas do. She had admitted yes that something happened with the chap from the time she went out at Christmas.
At first she said they only only became slightly intimate. Then later the next day she admitted that they had, had full-blown sex. At this point I was completely gutted having never thought that she would have taken things so far. I asked her about the chap and she said that he was a cleaner at work and that she had not seen him since. I still felt that she was being untruthful
We recently decided to take a holiday as a way to see if we still had something worth fighting for. Before we left I had asked her to be screened as she hadnt used a condom with the other chap. Whilst on holiday we received some more bad news that she had acquired something else that night. We were both gutted and I felt incredibly angry that she had passed something on to me and that, not only is she disregarding her health she is disregarding my health. I also delved deeper trying to find out more information about the chap she had slept with. I was shocked to discover that she still has contact with him and that he is actually a working colleague still, and that she has regular meetings in his company. She had previously denied seeing him any more saying that he had moved department. I felt really let down and the fact that we had both agreed that we would be completely honest with each other and now it turns out that she had been even more untruthful.
We have toiled with what to do, but we both believe that you need to address the reason why it happened not just the fact that it happened. What advice can you give us that will help us repair our relationship as we have decided that we want to make a go of this. As we still love each other but probably just became complacent in our relationship.
Many thanks in anticipation for your reply.
Jonno
21st June 2012 at 12:02 pm
There are lots of separate events in your story that have all contributed in some way to how the relationship has developed. I agree that you should address the causes as well as the actions and it will take a good degree of humility in accepting each of your roles in that, without trying to deflect any blame or responsibility.
Your girlfriend should acknowledge the misrepresentation, lies and secrecy, whilst you should acknowledge reasons why she might have felt like she had to act in that way. This includes accepting that getting together via an affair was circumstantial and not indicative of how relationships should be, as well as actions of jealousy or distrust since then.
It is only by both acknowledging those mistakes and sincerely wanting to change that you can both trust each other going forward.
The first thing to garner a mutual trust for is that you both genuinely want the relationship to work and all the components that would allow that to happen. It is only by both embracing the changes and putting the past experiences behind you that you can actually rebuild your relationship the way you want it to be. Complete honesty is a good starting point as you suggested, as long as trust and freedom is still prevalent.
At first you may have to be overly considerate when dealing with repeat scenarios that led to problems in the past. For example, when your girlfriend has nights out without you, her part will involve being more communicative about what she is up to and her plans for the evening, whilst you must be unassuming of any further details. This is at least until you both find a natural compromise during such times, where neither of you feels temporarily disjointed from the relationship.
A lot of the things your girlfriend has done would be shocking to most people, but to move on from it you must accept that there were reasons (although not excusing the behaviour) and the priority should be avoiding those possible reasons from now on, together.
Thanks for reading the website,
Chris says:
23rd July 2012 at 12:48 am
The whole website is really helpful, especially with the comment section! I just wanted to ask you a quick question. Ive been with my girlfriend now for 2 years and we both love each other very much.We are only away for the summer which could be worse but still.
I know she loves me, but the thing is everyday i see examples of people that love each other very much “make mistake”. Because of that, i have a very,very low trust in people in general. My girlfriend has never done anything that would make me thing she is unfaithful. However I always,always get the feeling that she is doing something i woulndt want her doing. I am truly horrified of the idea of her around other guys on a boat in a bathing suit. No matter how much she says she loves me or woulnt do anything bad I always feel very uncomfortable and jealous when she does stuff like a afternoon on a boat.
I try to keep telling myself that all these toughts are made up in my mind and that she loves me, but deep down inside I feel like i will never genuinely trust her.
Is there anything i can do to improve my situation? i am scared she is going to push me away if i become to paranoid. Thanks for your time and your great website!
24th July 2012 at 11:49 pm
You are right that conveying too much jealousy or paranoia will push your girlfriend away, especially if she is enjoying her summer and has done nothing to warrant such behaviour. The good thing is that this is the perfect opportunity to overcome any fears you might have and indirectly prove your trust for each other.
Trust is an internal quality but it is based on how we interpret our surroundings. If your trust is not based on rational input then that is what you must focus on achieving first. Projecting confidence and respect is a result of first regaining positive association with trust for your girlfriend and people in general.
As you say, all of these trust issues are created in your mind; you can choose exactly what your thoughts and assumptions are! For example, rather than imagining your girlfriend on a boat being hit on by other men and dismissing her relationship back home, imagine her innocently having fun and still thinking of you! I am sure that deep down you know that the latter is closer to reality. Every time you have a negative thought, reframe it for a positive and more realistic one, with the knowledge of how your girlfriend really is.
Other seemingly happy relationships do contain mistakes but try not to compare your relationship to others unless it is beneficial to do so. Your relationship should be better and more solid in your eyes than any other relationship you encounter, or at least striving to be. If everything has been going well in your relationship prior to this time apart then nothing really has to change. If anything, you can leverage the time apart to miss each other even more, which would only help with any trust issues.
If you can keep your mind straight during this period and fight any fears that surface on your own, you will have passed the toughest test you will face regarding trust and it will be easier to trust your girlfriend from then on!
All the best and thanks for your compliments about this website,
Kat says:
13th August 2012 at 3:11 pm
I stumbled upon this site and has read a lot of helpful information for which I thank you.
I hope to get your advice as well. You see, I have been with my boyfriend for a year and we are now looking for a place together (his idea). He is wonderful and we are very much in love but I have self-esteem issues that affect every single day of my life.
I am his first girlfriend and I am afraid that soon enough he’ll get tired of me and want to see “what else is out there.” He is only 21 and I, 22. I fear that moving in together will only expedite these feelings and lead to him cheating, physical or emotional. I have only had one serious boyfriend before (for 8 months) and I found out that he cheated on me in the beginning of our relationship which was heartbreaking and if it happened with my current boyfriend, who is my first love, I don’t think I could handle it. My boyfriend never gave me any reason to think so (I am ashamed to say that I have gone through his phone before).
Is it possible to stay with your first love? Or is this relationship doomed to fail with our move?
16th August 2012 at 4:19 pm
I know of and have worked with countless couples that are each other’s first serious relationship, so it is definitely possible.
Experiencing different relationships is as much about discovering what you don’t want in a relationship as it is about discovering what you do want. That same level of relationship maturity is still possible in a single relationship as long as you avoid falling into patterns of discontent, and constantly question and learn together.
Just like with any relationship, success and longevity comes down to how much you fulfil each other’s emotional and physical desires. Your boyfriend will only want to “see what else is out there” if he feels that something is missing or lacking in his relationship with you.
Moving in together is a big sign of commitment, so the desire to be together is already there. Part of trust is in trusting that things will always work out for the best. Try not to predict what may or may not happen in the future; simply work on having the best possible relationship now and see how it develops.
Take care and thanks for reading the website,
Joseph says:
18th August 2012 at 7:42 pm
Ok so the situation Im in seems a little different than most but i need some answers. My fiance and i have known each other for 4 years and off and on been together. We also have a 14 month old son. Things that happened to her as a child and things i witnessed growing up cause us both to be untrusting to each other. We say we do but in the subconscious state we tend to say things that hurt one another and dont mean them but never let them go either. I love this girl til death and i feel it but I cant shake what i think sometimes or how i react to certain situations. She says there is no truth to my words when I dont lie to her and could never cheat due to fear of being cheated on. I catch myself saying sorry all the time and sometimes I dont even know why. I want us to fix our relationship and become a healthy couple so we can take the next step but I dont know where to start or if we are able. Please help us..
21st August 2012 at 10:14 pm
In some respects you have an easier path to regaining full trust than others because your girlfriend has experienced similar feelings. It should allow you to empathise with each other and work together on overcoming any trust issues.
With that in mind, communication is going to be your main tool, specifically positive communication. Make sure everything you discuss is rational and based on how the most secure, trusting and confident version of yourself would act. If the two of you can agree to have a trial of assuming everything is happy and secure in your relationship, you should be able to feel the difference without anything tangible in the relationship changing.
If trust is the only aspect of your relationship that is causing problems, it should be easy to isolate the specific triggers that cause a lack of trust in this relationship, and this relationship alone. The first mindset change is that you are always in control of how you think and how you react. That is what will allow you to work together on overcoming this issue, either by avoiding the triggers, or by being more aware in the immediate aftermath of those triggers.
Thanks for reading,
Tom says:
23rd August 2012 at 5:24 pm
Wow Sam, thats a great article. it hits every single issues i am going through.
Well my situations is quite Strange.
I am in a very good long term relationship for 2 years now things are well and thinking of marriage etc…. However the last few months maybe 9 or 10 months, my insecurities have been getting worse and worse.
I love my girlfriend dearly but i don’t seem to trust her as she trusts me. Everything was going great until i slept with another girl secretly and no body knows about it, she doesn’t even know. i chose not to tell her, i don’t want to cause her pain and also that girl means nothing to me. from that day on i have realised that i have been suffering with trusting her, i have become insecure about the relationship, i don’t seem to truly believe that she loves me and only want me and really struggling with jealousy and fear. now here is the thing, i did the nasty when we were together for like 1 year and a few months and around 1 month after i done it, she confessed something to me, she told me that a few months back, when we got in a argument, and she was away for a weekend, our argument lead her to drink and gotten tipsy and one of the friend of her male friend kissed her and it didn’t last for even a second and she pushed him away, she told me that she has never been in a situation like that and didn’t know whether to tell me or not but she coudn’t hold it in anymore, thats why she told me. i was really really hurt and she was really upset about how it made me feel, she cried a lot apologised etc… then i thought well, being 18 she probably doesnt have the social intelligence to read situation and probably lead the guy on without realising it etc.. but i explained to her certain things and we talked about a few more boundaries on it. 10 months later, my dark secret and that incident is destroying me more and more, i feel sooo insecure, and although she promised and have been doing everything to make me trust and believe her, i am still struggling, i only act on my insecurities some times but most of the times, i keep it in and really suffers with unwanted imaginations and hearthaches.
I dont want to continue like this and fear of losing this great girl i have got due to my fears and insecurity.
Can You advise me on what to do, How to get myself better. and i will not tell her what i did because it will cause pain to her, and she doesnt deserve that. What should i do?
26th August 2012 at 5:30 pm
Your insecurities surrounding trust definitely seem to partially stem from the fact that you have secretly abused trust from your side of the relationship. Even though your girlfriend kissing another man is a less extreme boundary, it is a reminder of how easy it is to engage in acts of distrust.
To fully overcome these heightened insecurities, you must first clear your conscience. That doesn’t necessarily mean telling your girlfriend about what you have done, but is more about truly forgiving yourself, accepting your mistake and learning from the experience.
Trust issues are difficult to instantaneously eradicate, but you can reduce rather than intensify them by using strategies listed in this article and elsewhere on this website. One example that is relevant in your situation is not allowing past insecurities or ‘mistakes’ to create future projections based on fears.
From your experiences in this relationship so far, you know that you can both cheat easily, but you also know that it is far more likely to happen when the relationship is not at its best. Your focus now should be creating a mutual understanding whereby you are both constantly CHOOSING to be trustworthy, rather than it being unconditionally assumed.
Once you unreservedly believe that your girlfriend is consciously choosing to be with you in a monogamous relationship, you will start to trust her fully once more. That point can only come about once you fully trust yourself once more, especially regarding why you cheated and why you won’t do it again.
Thanks for reading,
Sammi says:
29th August 2012 at 3:59 pm
Sam! Me and my boyfriend have been going out for two years. We have a great relationship and love each other too bits! But I still have my insecurities. He went away with his friend a while ago and a girl kissed him. he said he pulled away and explained that he had a girlfriend. But now when he goes to parties I still feel uneasy like it could happen again. I also feel like he is a flirt but without realising. I get crazy jelous at the smallest things, when he goes to parties e.c.t I cry with fear! I really need some advise I don’t want to act on my jelousy and loose him! What should I do?
31st August 2012 at 1:06 pm
The main thing to focus on from what you have said is that your boyfriend knew when a boundary was being crossed and was honest with you about what happened. That is actually something to commend and carry forward in your relationship. Although there is unknown contextual information, he has shown in that one example that he can be trusted and that he does respect the relationship.
If you can let those thoughts supersede the jealous thoughts, it should help reassure you of your boyfriend’s true loyalty and intentions. As long as that continues, it doesn’t matter how “flirtatious” he is. If you try to stifle certain aspects of his personality then it may actually confuse some of his boundaries; he will be behaving disingenuously as a result.
What you want to do as often as possible is give yourself small reminders that your boyfriend is trustworthy and that the fears are in your head. Don’t be afraid to talk to him about topics such as boundaries and honesty if you need any further reassurance.
John says:
4th September 2012 at 3:35 am
Great article! I’ve been dating a girl for a little over a year and a half, and I really love her. I feel like she is one of the best things that has ever happened to me. I’ve been having some issues with trust recently, since we just started at separate colleges. We’ve been in touch, and she does go out and party a lot, which is fine, but still kind of unsettling. I’ve been going to parties too and I’ve found that most people who go there are just trying to hook up with people. I don’t know if the parties are the same where she is, but if they are it is a little scary. I trust my girlfriend, and I know that she loves me very much, but she lacks decisiveness and I fear that it could lead to someone trying to take advantage of her. I’ve been working to trust her more and working toward losing feelings of worry and whatnot. We are not very far in distance but I doubt we will see each other often. I feel as though she’s kind of changing as a person a little and it scares me because I really want to be with her for the person with whom I spent the best times of my life. Any advice regarding how to talk to her about these issues without making her feel mistrusted? I never want to make her feel bad, but I do want to be able to discuss these things with her in a better manner than just questioning faithfulness. Also, is it normal that the thought of her being with someone else hurts me pretty deep?
9th September 2012 at 7:22 pm
You are right that a large proportion of people at parties are looking to hook up, whether they are doing so consciously or not. You can’t change that fact and it is something that you should be putting as little focus on as possible. Instead, focus on your girlfriend still enjoying your relationship despite being physically apart and focus your trust towards her.
She isn’t changing as a person… she is growing as a person! One of the most important aspects of a college or university relationship is that you are both growing equally, and embracing the positive changes wherever possible.
Visiting her as soon as possible is by far the best way to relate to her new lifestyle. In the meantime, if you do want to discuss some of these issues with your girlfriend, make sure to keep an impersonal perspective: talking about trust from the perspective of other people, rather than your girlfriend.
You definitely don’t want your girlfriend to feel a burden from any insecurities you might have, or that she might receive unfair accusations further down the line. As with most discussions that directly affect your relationship, it is best to convey a non-judgemental attitude and slowly gauge your girlfriend’s opinion, rather than force it.
It is normal that the thought of your girlfriend being with someone else hurts. The simple answer is to not think about it! What happens in the future is irrelevant now; whilst you are together, try as hard as you can to quickly dismiss any false images you create in your mind.
All the best and thanks for commenting,
9th September 2012 at 8:49 pm
Hi sam! Just want to start by saying I absolutely love you and if things don’t work out with my girlfriend ima leave you my # (just joking). Anyway me and my girlfriend love each other to death! I met her at my job 2 years ago but for the first year she had a boyfriend and made it known to other colleagues as well as myself. We became really close and she constantly began to tell me about how her boyfriend ignores her and they rarely even has sex and how he’s never home..after a year of being close friends we ended up having sex a few times..she later cut me off completely to try 2 make things work with her man but months later we were back at it and she began to pursue me as a boyfriend..I told her that it would be crazy to do that when your currently cheating on someone..she ended up leaving him and moving back to her parents house just to convince me how serious she was but I stil made her wait a year to officially become my girlfriend..she’s been absolutely wonderful our entire relationship but because of how she did her last boyfriend..its been a number of times when I’ve suspected her of sleepin wit other people and when the feeling is too strong to ignore I can go into detective mode but we always discuss our issues and try 2 never argue..I even admitted to looking in her phone once but explained my reasoning..we have each others phone passwords and everything but I still feel like she’s just deleting text from guys she hangs out with..the guys r mostly her and her older brother of 1 years friends from high school but I’ve neva met them leading me to wonder y when she’s met all my friends..I guess my question is does what her boyfriend did make it okay to cheat or did I make a mistake of turning a hoe into a houswife..all my family loves her as well so I want it to work just terrified of making a bad investment and wasting my time..that fact that she makes a lot more money and pays for a lot makes me worry that she’ll leave my broke ass for a baller lol..she can’t wait to marry me and talks about us having kids and everything but I can’t stop wondering if the insecure shit I’ve already done doesn’t have her feeling like she made a mistake??? and wut if wut I did is already prompting feelings of promiscuity..she’s very beautiful and social and goes for rough neck guys like myself and I’ve had one night stands with a few women who had boyfriends n my past however I neva neva cheated n my life nor have I been cheated on..I feel the act is unforgivable so I want to do whatever it takes to prevent that..I’ve been very respectful and loyal to the woman in my past so I feel like my girlfriend now is a gift from GOD but at the same time I feel we all gota get cheated on at some point…PLEASE ENLIGHTEN ME!!!
13th September 2012 at 6:19 pm
You’ve actually answered your own question. Your girlfriend was not happy in her last relationship and her boyfriend was not treating her how she really wanted to be treated. Of course, that doesn’t justify the way she cheated, but it does justify WHY she cheated!
The foundation of trust is feeling that you can talk to each other about anything, which is something she clearly didn’t feel she could do with her last boyfriend.
Although it may seem counter-intuitive, the more freedom you give your girlfriend (such as permission to be with other men if she REALLY wants to), the more trustworthy and loyal she will be, assuming you still keep the relationship fun and fulfilling at all times.
The second part of the equation is how relaxed and self-assured you are. Making your girlfriend wait before getting into a relationship and the whole thrill of how you got together has probably had a positive effect on your relationship as a whole. The main thing is that you maintain a mutual level of control in the relationship. If you start doing insecure activities such as checking her phone without her knowledge, you will by definition have less control in the relationship!
As the article discusses, you earn trust, and in contrast, you can also earn disrespect. As long as you concentrate on what makes your relationship fulfilling and continue listening to your girlfriend communicating her true desires, she is not more likely to cheat just because she has in the past.
I hope that helps and thanks for your opening compliment, haha!
14th September 2012 at 11:38 pm
17th September 2012 at 5:05 pm
You are welcome.
Moh says:
30th September 2012 at 5:00 am
So like ive been with my girlfreind for like 10 months now, and well she about 2 hours away from me. I cant trust her even tho i really want to , the hurt feelings just come in and i cant do anything about it i try tell myself that shes not gonna do it but the feeling takes over . i do really love her , she has lied to me before , and we did break up for a week cause it was gettng too stressfull , but we worked it out . But when we did break up she began to really talk to other guys and it made me feel like i was nothing to her , that i didnt matter . Well , we are back toghether , and its just hard cause i think shes just gonna find somebody better and leave , and i feel like i have no standing in her life . i constantly ask her questions and things and she gets sick of it , and i try stop myself . I really wana trust her , but the feeling takes over really badly i say things that hurt her , and i accuse her when i am not supposed to , and later i feel bad , but its cause she lied to me before . Please help me , i realy wana be with her and make this last thnaks
2nd October 2012 at 10:01 pm
The root of these trust issues is getting into a cycle of constantly assuming the worst. An exercise you can do, which will benefit many aspects of life as well as your relationship, is to start assuming the best of people and situations. This may sound easier said than done, but if you focus on consciously catching your thoughts and feelings whenever they are becoming negative, you can gradually implement the process of change.
Whilst assuming the best, if something or someone does not live up to those expectations, then you can deal with it accordingly at the time. Until then, try and set your default attitude as one of positivity and confidence, especially when concerning your girlfriend.
Trust issues are often a catch-22: trust issues are caused by certain actions from another person; that person does those certain actions because they are not trusted! Breaking the cycle requires one person to forcefully shift their justification for the part they play.
In your example, put the fact that your girlfriend has lied to you behind you, and start treating her like she won’t put a foot wrong from now on. Talk to her in such a way that starts to purposefully create a relationship based on trust. No person wants to be mistrusted; equally, no person wants to cause their partner to have feelings of mistrust!
When trust is not there, lying becomes one way to try and artificially force it. Lying aims to create trust through ignorance. As you know, if you discover the lies it only heightens any insecurities. That is why you must start from the ground up, whereby you give your girlfriend the benefit of the doubt from now on; give her no reason to lie to you or do anything else that may cause feelings of mistrust and see how she adapts.
Thanks for reading and commenting,
Moh says:
3rd October 2012 at 7:55 am
Aw thanks alot , yeah i will start trusting her fully , i always say that to myself , however i end up feeling hurt somehow :/ its my first relationship as well , and im 19 , ive waited for the right girl and she is m but yeah just that hurt feeling . But i have to trust her , thanks
11th October 2012 at 12:05 pm
You’re welcome! Let me know how the relationship develops, or if you have any further questions in the future.
Ric says:
8th October 2012 at 8:07 pm
Finally became exclusive with my girlfriend after a year of dating other people. I don’t know if she was ready for it, but I basically had grown tired of waiting for her to decide and gave her the choice of going our separate ways for a while, and having myself potentially become serious with someone else, or making a committment.
She choose me, and I’ve been excited about this. Unfortuantely, I discovered she was texting multiple guys. She told me she broke it off with them a few days later, they were hold overs from when she was just “dating” me. Unfortunately, she didn’t stop with a couple of the guys, and I know for a fact that one is her ex boyfriend from a couple of months ago and by her own admission he wants her back.
Now it gets rough. He texts her every day, multiple times a day. She has NOT told him that she’s in an exclusive relationship, and I know she spent time with him yesterday behind my back. I had already confided in her that this texting worried me, and I had fears that she might be out doing things. I told her, if she felt the need or urge to do it, to tell me before hand so we could talk about things and that I wouldn’t be as hurt if she was upfront with her feelings and desires.
She still doesn’t realize that I have put 2 and 2 together to figure out she’s spending time with him. She actually lied to me about who she was going to be attending the event with. I understandably have trust issues now, which never existed before. Do I just give her time to end things with the other guy gracefully, or do I expect her to not see the ex, even if she thinks its platonic?
11th October 2012 at 12:16 pm
In general, relationships are best when they progress mutually and naturally. Women especially, will base the progression of a relationship predominantly on subconscious emotions rather than a logical decision. If you treat her like an exclusive girlfriend, she will reciprocate if it is in alignment with her own desires.
If she felt pressured into stating that her relationship with you is exclusive, she may have a different interpretation of what exactly that entails. It doesn’t necessarily mean that she is being unfaithful, but that there is a forced miscommunication between what each of you expect from the other.
Rather than try to mould her into the behaviour you want, take the time to fully understand exactly what she wants, including the reality of her ex-boyfriend. The conversation you had about being more honest with your feelings and desires is good; it is something you can remind her of in a non-needy and general manner whenever relevant.
You don’t necessarily have to have similar views and opinions in a relationship, but what you must have is a similar level of respect and influence. Telling her not to speak to her ex-boyfriend might have a negative impact, depending on her genuine feelings; taking her mind off her ex-boyfriend and actively showing her that an exclusive relationship with you is amazing will always have a positive impact. With the latter, it doesn’t matter whether she is talking to her ex-boyfriend or not, or whether she is doing so through politeness or genuine friendship!
Thanks for reading,
Ric says:
15th October 2012 at 5:02 pm
Quick follow up to this situation, and probably another little cry for help.
We had more conversation, she insisted she wasn’t being unfaithful, and really sat down and defined what it meant. At the same time, I know she is still texting these guys and when I actually told her I knew that one of them was her ex boyfriend, she flat out denied it (i’ve seen the text in question, i know the truth.) She went on to say that they were just friends, with no history, despite many texts to the contrary.
I was taking the advice and trying to just have fun and fulfill her needs and make sure our time together was full of rewarding experiences. Unfortunately, now she has cut much of that time out from her schedule so that she can spend time with her “friends.” I’m unhappy, and probably going to confront her with how much I know, but I’m not sure if that’s the healthy way to approach the situation. She already knows I desire more than 1 day every two weeks with her, but she feels like that’s asking too much.
I want to be honest with her, but I’m trying to see things from her point of view, and maybe I am just being greedy.
22nd October 2012 at 5:03 pm
Hi again,
If your girlfriend insists that she is faithful and trustworthy, all you can really do is accept or reject her words for now. If you genuinely do not believe what she is saying, and you are certain that this is an issue with her and not self-inflicted, then you are probably never going to be able to fully trust her: you have conflicting perspectives.
If you want this relationship to work then you have to decide whose “truth” you want to believe for now, and concentrate on other aspects of the relationship that you can directly control and improve. As with anything in a relationship, perspectives can very easily get skewed; what is more important is truth in intention rather than truth in action. If you are constantly trying to catch her out or purposefully find evidence to contradict what she says, or make assumptions about her intentions, you will find it harder to embrace those other aspects.
A big part of trust is accepting your partner’s words without feeling the need to know all the facts surrounding them. If you do not trust someone’s words and they are an isolated example, then by definition you will not be able to trust that person!
More confrontation and accusations will not help at this stage. It is the positive aspects of your relationship that are going to wash out the negative aspects. Hence I would reiterate the point about temporarily dropping the trust issue and focus on making her want to invest more of her time and emotions to the relationship first. Whether she has a habit of lying or not, her being with someone that she feels does not trust her is only going to distance the relationship, rather than unite it.
If you are determined to tell her what you have discovered, be very delicate with how you convey your assumptions. If she sticks to her side of the story and there is no compromise, you will be taking steps backwards rather than forwards.
Think about reasons why she is restricting how much she sees you and think how you can change that. Improving that aspect will undoubtedly help with all the issues related to trust an honesty.
Ric says:
22nd October 2012 at 7:09 pm
Thanks for all your advice. In the end, I found the written evidence of her cheating, and confronted her with it. She agreed that what she was doing was not appropriate, but didn’t know how to stop being the way she is (in her words, “screwed up”.) We broke up this weekend, but at least it was all out in the open with no more secrets. She agreed that it was for the best that I found things out, even if it was underhanded.
She thinks she will be able to work on her issues, and perhaps reunite with me in the future, but she knows I’m not waiting around and that we will have to take some drastic steps to rebuild our trust.
Moh says:
12th October 2012 at 9:22 pm
Well , now unfortunately , like my girlfriend is saying i dont make her happy and that shes bored with me , like iloveher so much . I dont have a car , i am trying to get one for her , and she has given me a deadline that if i dont get a car within the given day she will leave me , block me out of her life and just not ever contact me again . This makes me so sad , like i love her ! idk whats going on , im scared of letting her go , and the thought of her being with another guy or even talking to them in that way just gets to mee and hurts me so much , i just dont know what i can do to change this . I spent 40 dollars just do bus to her every 2 weeks , and she says i cant do anything for her . This is my first relationship , like actually i love her , but yeah i need help :'( i dont think i can move on , and because of her i have pushed all my friends away and theyre sick of me doing that im just so broken , she has given me one week . please help :'(
18th October 2012 at 4:42 pm
If your girlfriend says that you do not make her happy and she is bored with you, what she really means is that she is bored with the relationship as it is now. Your true self and how you are behaving in this relationship are in conflict due to the emotions involved, so try not to take her comments personally.
With that said, your girlfriend is treating you with a distinct lack of respect, as well as several other traits that are fundamental to a mutual and loving relationship.
Firstly, I would strongly suggest not getting her a car at the moment, not because you don’t love her, but because it will now have supplicating implications. With any gift or offering in a relationship, especially one as extravagant as a car, it should be solely your choice to do so, as a gift of your love and appreciation. It seems like your girlfriend is to some degree taking advantage of your feelings for her, without giving much back.
The most important thing to re-establish in this relationship is an equal level of control; at the moment, your girlfriend seems to have all the control! Although it may seem counter-intuitive, the first step to achieving this is to take yourself out of the firing line: start standing up for yourself, making your own decisions and stating your intentions more confidently. I know that is not easy to do when you love someone, but relationships only work when there is a mutual understanding about what you both want.
Attraction and reigniting passion can come later, but first you must make her feel that you are a man, one that she respects and actively wants to be with, not because you bought her a car, but because you are confident and desirable!
There is only so much detail I can go into in this comments section. If you would like to work together on some of these topics further then feel free to contact me using the Contact page at the top of the website, and we can discuss options.
scott lee says:
18th October 2012 at 6:46 pm
ive been dating my girlfriend around 6 months now. i do have trust issues, i dont know why, but i always think when she is not with me that she is up to something. we live together and she always seems to carry her phone around most of the time with her, to me that seems suspicious but perhaps its probably not. if she gets a text, sometimes she will say its from her mum or friend, then other times she wont say anything. a number called her phone the other day a few times. she did not answer it and said they would leave a voicemail if they wanted her. well i did notice she had a voicemail left her but when i asked she said she had not. that to me sounded suspicious. i said that i would answer it if it rang again but she said not to bother. i can text her and get nothing back, then when i ask did she not see my text she just says her phone was on charge or something. i dont want these issues and i know they are to do with me.i keep trying to think of the good things between us but then the doubts creep in. a friend who new her from a long time ago said to me that she used to be a bit of a goer, now her past is her past and does not bother me, as long as she is faithful with me. things do go round in my head quite a lot. i think i need to try and focus on the good things. some days she will want a kiss and cuddle, other days she will not which then makes me think she does not want me.
25th October 2012 at 6:01 pm
You are absolutely correct that you should focus on the positive aspects of your relationship. A lot of the issues you are describing are self-inflicted, at least in the sense that they cause you anxiety. That anxiety is independent of whether your girlfriend is actually doing anything behind your back.
When you start to regularly make assumptions with regards to trusting someone, it is very easy for those assumptions to become exaggerated and habitual.
What you want to start to do is turn the habit of being suspicious into the habit of being carefree. This is something to consciously implement every time your girlfriend does something where you have a choice about how to react or interpret.
A lot of people think that when you develop a carefree attitude towards things that don’t directly affect you, you open yourself up to being emotionally abused and manipulated. In fact it is the opposite!
If you develop a more carefree attitude, which is a fundamental aspect of trust, you will find that your girlfriend actually keeps a lot less secrets from you, whether she has anything to hide or not.
Try to also not let her changeable behaviour affect yours: be as positive and self-assured as you can be at all times. If she is not as physically affectionate one day, don’t automatically assume it is personal; change her mood, not her mind! Trust her by default unless there is substantial evidence otherwise. All the examples of her being secretive about her phone use are trivial if you are putting effort into the relationship as a whole.
I hope that helps and thanks for reading,
Moh says:
19th October 2012 at 1:47 am
Yes thanks Sam , i do try and stand up for myself , and as soon as i do , she says if you say one more word ill dump you . Its like so sad
Johnny says:
19th October 2012 at 5:30 am
This was a great thing to read, and i feel that it will help me. My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost a year, and yet we still have some minor trust issues. I love her very much, and i know she loves me too…and that’s all that should matter. I shouldn’t be having any trust issues if we feel this way. I used to go on her facebook and look at the conversations she was having with other guys. One guy was flirting with her a few months ago and said he wanted to hook up. she said she would if she didnt have a boyfriend. this really hurt me, and i talked to her about it and she said she was just saying that so the guy wouldnt get mad or something.
Recently, she has been a lot better with not talking to as many random guys. i dont go on her facebook anymore, as i have began to regain that trust.
It’s hard for her to open up to me…let alone anyone. I dont want her to keep her feelings in all the time.. and as you said, i want her to WANT to tell me things, not because she feels like she HAS to. How can i get her to open up?
On another note…i will be joining the marine core next year. we have talked about this a lot, and she has reassured me that she will be okay by herself for long periods of time at a time. We have been talking about marriage for a while, and we agree that me joining the marines would help us a lot in the future. Is it wrong of me to still worry about her when im gone for so long? I know that i shouldnt worry, and i should trust her..but it is kind of hard, because i dont know what she’ll be doing, who she’ll be with, and what kind of guys she’ll be hanging out with. How do i know she wont be saying the things she said to the guy on facebook?
I have changed dramatically for her…i quit smoking, got a new job, cleaned myself up a bit, physically mentally and emotionally, but i feel she hasnt made any effort to change herself to help our relationship. She gets mad very easily, and gets really defensive. id like her to try to work on these things so we can minimize the number of stupid little fights.
Even with the stupid stuff that goes on sometimes, we still love eachother very much and our dream is to live a happy life together and get married and have kids.
Sometimes she gets mad at me for constantly wanting her reassurance. She says she has said it a thousand times, and yet i still want to hear it.
I feel i am a good boyfriend…i do anything to keep her happy, and i put her needs before my own. Is this a bad thing? all i want to do is just keep her happy, because if she’s happy, im happy, and vise versa.
(i know this is a lot of questions and stuff but i just need some advice from an outside source. If you can help me out and give me some advice about the things i mentioned, that would be great.)
25th October 2012 at 7:34 pm
It sounds like the most important aspects of your relationship are present: you love each other and want to be together. Although your girlfriend telling another guy on Facebook that she would date him if she didn’t have a boyfriend seems a bit tactless, it actually shows she is trustworthy rather than the opposite.
As for getting her to open up more, you achieve that by LETTING her open up more, and never forcing the issue. It is achieved by making her feel that she can completely trust and respect you, and never fear you or your reactions.
Joining the marines will obviously be a big change for the relationship, but it is counterproductive to worry about what the impact on your relationship may or may not be. The most important thing is to concern yourself with your own life and only “worry” about what she is up to when you are actually talking to each other.
It is great that you are both keen for the relationship to work in the long-term, but try not to use that as a strict rule for how you should both be acting whilst you are apart; still treat the relationship day by day.
It is also good to hear that you are working on improving yourself physically and mentally. You can influence your girlfriend to make positive changes in her own life, but you can’t actually change her yourself. Just like she will only tell you details about her social life if she wants to, she will only make personal changes if she wants to. You can encourage and support her following through, but be careful not to come across as controlling, needy or frustrated; let her make her own choices.
The most important thing is that you both want to be together; everything else is essentially misunderstandings and miscommunication. Listen carefully to what your girlfriend tells you. I get the impression that she does tell you what you need to know, such as when you want reassurance about her commitment and even with the Facebook incident at the beginning of your comment.
Kelley says:
20th October 2012 at 3:36 am
I’d like to say, first of all, that reading your article helped me immediately as I am currently sitting at my apartment having feelings of jealousy, insecurity and distrust. I never thought I would be the type to reach out in this way, however I have exhausted my friends and my family, and noone has been able to reach me the way your article did.
My story is simple…divorced parents due to cheating, cheated on by an ex. Currently living with my boyfriend of a year and a half. I feel like my issues are in two different areas tht strongy influence one another. I’m well aware that my own insecurities and my relationship history are the main cause of my problem. However my boyfriend has also given me small reason to be concerned, and I have attached that small problem to his drinking, so now anytime he shows interest in drinking…I panic that he could be drawn to cheat. The only thing I have ever “caught” him doing is texting another women (happened to be an ex whom he claimed to have only dated for a month as had a friendship both before and after the relationship) “I love you” when he was drunk at a bar. We discussed it, him claiming he tells everyone he loves them when he’s drunk…yadda yadda. I “forgave” him, however now when he drinks I fear that something worse could happen.
99% of our relationship is amazing. We rarely argue, this (trust) being the only thing that ever sparks an argument. And while its a BIG thing, we are apart so rarely that we fight, get over it, and things go on fine…until the next time he shows interest in drinking, and then I panic all over again. I’m sorry I dragged this out longer than I had planned.
My basic question is what can I do…in the moment, to help me trust him and calm myself down when he is out without me? If I text him he gets annoyed, if he doesn’t respond back I panic. As the clock ticks later and later I draw up more and more scenarios in my head of what he could possibly be doing in that moment that is more important than checking in on me. I know it sounds crazy. I just don’t like when he is out with his drunk friends because I fear it puts our relationship in a vulnerable and susceptible position to be ruined. Or for mistakes to be made. I feel the need to prevent that from happening by staying on the forefront of his mind, where in turn that just annoys him more. What can I do, right now? I’m literally writing this message to you to avoid texting him and bothering him, bc he has told me many times now that he needs his space and if I don’t respect that he won’t continue on in a relationship like this. I need to know how to control this anxiety I get when he’s out drinking so that I don’t ultimately push him away altogether.
Thanks for listening.
K
28th October 2012 at 9:18 pm
Drinking alcohol is something that commonly highlights trust issues, but the consumption of alcohol itself does not directly cause people to abuse trust within a relationship, even if it is sometimes used as an excuse. Try not to think of your boyfriend drinking as a separate entity, but rather as the same person in a different state.
The level of trust in your relationship at its deepest level is exactly the same regardless of whether anyone is drunk, as well as any desire to cheat. The steps to overcome any trust issues are also the same.
The example of him texting his ex-girlfriend as an isolated incident, along with his explanation, is not a big deal. It is only if such behaviour seems constant, premeditated or callous that there should be any concern. As it is, it seems the fear of him doing something wrong far outweighs his actual wrongdoing.
You have already highlighted where some of those insecurities may stem from in your case. Using some of the advice found on this website and elsewhere, focus on reassessing why those incidents should affect your personal choices and self-esteem now, rather than searching for quick fixes for trust based on what your boyfriend MIGHT do. Your relationship sounds like it is amazing most of the time and positive affirmations about how much trust there actually should be in your relationship given how it is should be an ongoing exercise.
As for some practical advice in the meantime, the first thing to do when your boyfriend is out drinking is keep yourself busy and your mind occupied on something either unrelated to your relationship, or positive thought towards it. You can only worry about something if your mind is free to overanalyse the situation.
There is nothing wrong with texting a significant other whilst they are out, or expecting them to text you. It is the subtext of those requests that dictates how your boyfriend will feel. Any text you do send should never sound like you are checking up on him, but instead be something that will make him smile or laugh. The same applies when asking him about how his night was the next day. Even if the words are exactly the same, there is a distinct difference between how something can come across: light-hearted interest, or suspicious and insecure.
Remember that it is healthy for your relationship if you have unmonitored time apart every now and then. Trust is not something that has to be reaffirmed at all times; trust should be something that is created when you are together so you don’t have to worry during the times apart.
I’m glad you like the article; watch this space for lots more on the topic,
25th October 2012 at 8:30 pm
After reading your article it brought me to think a lot of things….
Here’s my story. I’ve been hurt by so many people, they took advantage of me, lied, cheated on. Until I found this great guy who I’ve been knowing since I was a child. I never knew I’d ever be with him because we hated each other, we’ve never talked growing up…. Until 2 years ago things got serious. We became official and everything was perfect, then after maybe 4 months I became insecure because we were in different areas, I barely saw him, never did we have that passionate kiss/hug…. All the relationship was in video chat. I was lost I didn’t know what to do so I ended up breaking it off but then I realized I needed him in my life even though he screwed many things in his life because I felt a strong connection between us. We got back together a year later but I noticed things aren’t the same anymore we became distant with each other…. That love we had was slowly fading but yet we forced it to be together. He’s never really cheated on me but has lied to let me know how it feels to be lied to and have a broken heart. I guess I deserve that…. I’m trying really hard to prove to him that the same old girl he fell in love with is still here…. After 2 years of being together he has to move and my insecurities went back…. I love him, I want us to make it work. I don’t know what else to do… I’ve had trust issues in my past and I don’t want this effecting my relationship with him. I’m always afraid of someone taking him away from me and he lost his love for me. What should I do? I’ve asked my friends for advice but nothing really helped…. Please if possible can you advice me on what to do because I don’t want to end up losing that person that I really care about.
Thanks for listening.
31st October 2012 at 10:38 pm
The first thing to try and do is strip away the negative self-talk. The issues you have highlighted are as much to do with self-esteem and positive action as they are to do with trust. Instead of talking about what you hope for or what you think you deserve, start talking about what you WANT, including how trust would be for you in an ideal reality.
You mention forcing the relationship and trying to get him to see the same girl he fell in love with once more. That is actually good advice, but the emphasis should be on what the relationship has going for it in the present and ways you can enrich that with the relationship as it is now.
Understand that your past is in the past and does not have to dictate how you are now. Every time you catch yourself sounding confused, helpless or fearful, try and force a more proactive and positive mindset. The insecurities and lack of trust that you possess now are things that you can unlearn with the right attitude. That attitude is one where you can actively discover areas of personal development and work on strategies without becoming overly emotionally.
The way to successfully do that is to ensure you are positive and happy as often as possible. You will find it far easier to treat your relationship as you actually want it to be if you are in a positive state of mind, forgetting about any past issues with trust.
Drastic changes do not need to take place if the two of you want to be together. Work on all of the above at your own pace, but make sure you are actually progressing to where you want to be with regards to trust, effort and contentment. Self-esteem and trust are relative; as one increases, the other will increase too.
31st October 2012 at 5:26 am
I read a lot of comments and thought you gave excellent advice. I was hoping you could help me out as well. My girlfriend and I have been dating for nearly 10 months now. We did break up for a month though and have recently got back together a couple weeks ago. We always lived around the corner from each other in the same city because of school but now live an hour and a half apart. I am having severe trust issues with her. I always had them a little bit before but now because we broke up once already and because we are living in different cities, I am having them to the extreme. I went as far as checking the history of her phone and hacking her facebook just to make sure she wasn’t with anyone while we broke up. As it turns out, I found nothing. I know it was wrong of me to do that but I was just so paranoid. I am still paranoid everytime she goes out now on the weekends when I’m not there.
I need to find a way to trust her or this will never work. Before we started dating, she had admitted that she slept with a lot of guys before me. We also slept together the first night we met. I think both of these things have helped cause my mistrust. I’ve also seen a number of girls I know cheat on their boyfriends before. Do you have any advice on how I can learn to trust her again? If I can’t learn to trust her, we will never be able to make this work.
7th November 2012 at 4:16 pm
To repeat advice that I have said to others, it is not your girlfriend that you must learn to trust… you must learn to trust yourself! I imagine that you would have similar trouble trusting anyone else who was as close to you emotionally as your girlfriend is. The truth is we ALLOW other people to hurt us by making ourselves unnecessarily vulnerable.
All of the above advice on trust is really just a screen for learning to become more self-assured and garner a more accurate intuition. If you work on those two aspects of your own development, you will always have a realistic view of how your relationship actually is.
To give a hypothetical example, if your girlfriend were to breach your trust at some stage without there being obvious problems in the relationship, presumably she is not the person you thought she was and you can gracefully move on. At the moment you are actually making her become that person you don’t want her to be, solely in your mind!
An exercise that will help you reach a more realistic view of your relationship is to ask yourself, “How would I act right now if I fully trusted my girlfriend?” This can be applied when you are feeling paranoid about her going out, and even more so when you are directly fuelling a lack of trust such as checking her private messages.
The short and facile answer to trusting someone is to simply trust them! Act like you trust them, assume that you trust them and ultimately treat them like you trust them. With that done, you can concentrate on what is really important: making your relationship awesome, despite the distance, despite the recent breakup and despite any insecurities.
Thanks for reading,
5th November 2012 at 9:53 pm
This is a great article. I have a lot of trust issues that cause me to push my fiance away from me. I know I am hurting our relationship and I have been going to therapy for the issues I have that come from my past. My fiance works all different hours, starting and Ending at all different times. He usually leaves before I wake up and comes home after I am asleep. It has caused me a lot of heart break without him breaking my heart. I constantly ask him if he truly wants to be with me and he always says yes but I know from the past that even someone who is cheating will still hold onto the person they are cheating on. I am so scared of being hurt and I don’t know how to trust him and I believe I wouldn’t be able to trust anyone I am in a relationship with not specifically him.
16th November 2012 at 2:34 pm
You mention that you wouldn’t be able to trust anyone whom you are in a relationship with, and not just your fiancé. That acknowledgment should help you to realise whenever feelings of distrust arise that they are just feelings; they are not necessarily a result of your fiancé’s actions.
Detaching the feelings of distrust from a specific person and making them more abstract should prevent those feelings from affecting the relationship whilst you focus on regaining trust within yourself.
If therapy is working for you then keep using that. Make sure you are simultaneously taking steps towards how you want to be. From my experience, therapy only has real and lasting effects if you are using it as motivation and reassurance for personal development.
Everyone (aside from a few extreme cases) is born with the cognitive abilities to be confident, trusting and content. Negative beliefs are collated on top of that core potential through experiences. There are a number of techniques to reverse the process and rid yourself of those negative beliefs, but they all boil down to two methods: changing your experiences and changing your thoughts.
It sounds like you are in a great relationship now, so the first part should be fairly easy to achieve. Although your fiancé’s schedule should not directly influence how much trust there is in the relationship, finding ways that you can communicate and keep in touch during times apart will help the logistical aspects of the relationship and feeling emotionally intimate.
The second part comes from separating your past issues and fears from your true self and how you know a trusting person should act. Constantly ask yourself questions that challenge any insecure behaviour: why you feel a certain way and why you fear certain outcomes, for example.
Reality is always far more manageable in hindsight than our negative thoughts were at the time; trust issues arise when one lets those negative thoughts BECOME their reality!
All the best and thanks for reading,
cisco says:
12th November 2012 at 8:05 am
My gf went on a salsa trip for the wekend and she called everyday she keep me update bout everything but she went by her self to the trip didnt invite me and the salsa thing finish on sunday but she stayin in another hotel till tuesday by her self.she act like nothing its goin on.but its normal goin in a trip by ur self and acomodation by ur self? Want to trust…but can even sleep.i love her but ur opinion will make see this in a different view.our relationship its 9 out of 10.but this trip with her salsa pasion away of the coutry its killim me.do you think its normal go in a trip to dance with the hot boys and stay in hotel by ur own?she said she meetin friends there.but some friends livin the sunday and she stay sayin she wants more time of in malta repeat by her self! I know players i was a player and in this situation its dificult to know wats goin on?
19th November 2012 at 12:19 pm
Your girlfriend going on a trip without you does not automatically imply that she has unfaithful intentions; her character and standing in the relationship is what determines that. As her boyfriend, you should know both of those better than anyone, so focus your trust towards the relationship and her character rather than towards the specific situation.
Unrestricted time apart when everything is otherwise great in the relationship is actually a good thing. It is a chance to build on the trust you have for each other and test that it is genuine. I assume that she is enjoying herself and is full of positive emotions at the moment. Use those positive emotions to enrich your relationship and be equally happy and positive.
Although many people rationalise cheating as a spontaneous decision, it rarely is. If your relationship is positive and you trust your girlfriend at other times, nothing should change when she is away. If she is willingly calling you whilst she is away, it implies that her thoughts, desires and commitments are still towards you and the relationship, in which case your fears are unfounded.
Just like at any other time, assume that there is no doubting your trust for her unless she genuinely gives you a reason to doubt it. Conveying any unnecessary suspicions or fears when she calls or when she returns from trips alone may or may not faze her, but it will definitely have a negative affect on all the components of trust that are fundamental to a mutually fulfilling relationship.
All the best and thanks for reading,
Kate says:
21st November 2012 at 7:05 pm
Amazing that this you are still receiving comments on this article two years later and still take the time to respond! This was a very helpful and informative article. My situation is like many others and I was hoping you could shed some specific light on it…
I have been with my boyfriend for about a year now. He is absolutely amazing and has actually never given me a real reason not to trust him. If anything, he tells me more than I want to know about certain situations. The problem is, I have been really hurt by a past relationship, to the point where all my trust (and heart) was broken. Also, my parents are divorced and I feel like the adults in my life are not in the most stable of relationships. I think all of these things contribute to me having a really hard time trusting significant others.
The reason I feel like this is becoming more of an issue now is that…at the beginning of the relationship, I felt like I didn’t know him well enough to “ask too many questions” or to act controlling, or basically any of those negative things that you don’t want to do anyway. But I feel like the closer we have gotten, the more I know he loves me, the more I -act- on these insecurities. When he goes out without me, I want to know every detail about who was there. When he gets a text from an old friend, I want the background of their history. When he even mentions the name of a girl, I tense up and my heart starts beating a mile a minute. He is a very attractive guy so he gets a lot of female attention. He also has a lot of female friends from college. And he is very kind and generous (which I think leads him to be almost too nice to girls- and then that sparks insecurities within me too (what if a girl takes advantage of how nice he is?))
The thing is…he handles all of these questions of mine amazingly. He never gets angry, he never belittles me, he just reassures me. So all of that adds up to…I KNOW that my feelings are irrational. I actually in my brain don’t believe that he would do anything wrong. Whenever I get these feelings, which seems to be more and more often lately, I literally tell myself to stop, to not react, that it doesn’t matter. But I can’t. I just can’t. It’s almost like word vomit where I bring things up that I KNOW I shouldn’t. That I know will only cause an issue.
Do you have any advice to deal with this? I want to stop this behavior and like you mentioned, I don’t want to push him away or actually cause him to do something because of my own insecurities.
28th November 2012 at 6:49 pm
I’m glad the topic of trust is still so popular and that you and others are still getting value out of this article. I’m in the process of writing a comprehensive guide for all issues related to trust, so keep an eye out for that.
As for your situation, trust issues are often more frustrating when they are solely mental projections. You know that they are irrational but that does not make them any less real!
The good news is that you can use the tangible trust you have for your boyfriend (knowing that he is honest with you and that he has given you no reason to doubt his character) to purposefully shift your personal fears and insecurities.
It is great that you quickly recognise the points where you are acting on insecurities, but to help make changes in the moment, it is useful to have a full visualisation of an alternative side of you. Trust issues are in a sense habits, regardless of how they formed. Overcoming them is a process of taking small steps that head away from your psychological comfort zones.
An exercise that has helped people in similar situations is to visualise a detailed version of yourself (or an anonymous character for now if it makes it easier) that characterises exactly how you want to act with regards to trust and contentment. For every incident that relates to fears about trust, detail a counter-action that would typify that new person. By having a real comparison, it will be easier to shift your mindset, rather than just acknowledge, resent and later regret your thoughts.
People with trust issues or troubled relationships are there due to circumstances within their control, even if the causation was not. Try as best you can to separate yourself from your past relationships or any other negative influences. It sounds like you have an amazing boyfriend, so try to consciously express gratitude that you have the ingredients for a relationship void of any trust issues, whilst simultaneously taking those small steps each time you have a choice about how to act.
All the best and thanks for reading the website,
26th November 2012 at 7:25 am
Think ive just blew it with my girlfriend and wondered if you could give me some advice. in a previous relationship my wife never used to tell me anything which always caused arguments. Yesterday, my girlfriend of 6 months got a load of presents out to wrap for her kids which I never knew about. This set off a bad memory for me and unfortunately I said something about her not telling me she had brought them. this upset her very much and is now not talking to me. I know this sounds silly and it probably is, but to me it dragged up a bad memory and now my girlfriend is not speaking to me. I never want this to happen again, how can I control a feeling if its something that has hurt me in the past? This is the 3rd occasion now ive upset her because of things that have happened in my past. I love her so much but am not showing it when I upset her. Thanks.
28th November 2012 at 7:23 pm
The example you describe is more about being able to express your feelings clearly and peacefully than anything else. The first thing to do when discussing something that is a result of past trauma is to realise that they are your feelings; your girlfriend is not to blame for unintentionally evoking them.
If you avoid attaching blame or judgement to those discussions, you should be able calmly talk with your girlfriend about how it made you feel and how you want to overcome those feelings. Afterwards you can go away and properly analyse why you felt that way and how you can learn to not feel that way again if you so choose.
Thanks for writing,
David says:
27th November 2012 at 3:25 pm
hi sam i was wondering if you could help me with some trust issues me and my gf have with each other. We are always thinking the worst in each other when we are apart. We love each other very much and tell each other everyday but these negative thoughts we have is not helping. We don’t live together so only see each other once during the week and on weekends. i want us to have a healthy relationship and not have no negative/imaginary thoughts each time we are apart. Thanks
28th November 2012 at 7:36 pm
If the issues with trust in your relationship are mutual, you should be able to empathise with each other and relate to how the other is feeling. The process for building more trust should be easier, as you can find a balance between reassurance and strengthening that you can both deal with.
If you read through some of the advice given in the above article and comment responses, as well as advice throughout this website, you should be able to find tools that work for you. The added bonus in your case is that you can speak to your partner about your progress without coming across as weak. You can almost treat it as a net level of trust within the relationship that you are both working towards, rather than a personal issue to overcome on your own.
stephen says:
5th December 2012 at 2:26 am
here’s my jelousy issue. ive been seeing my gf for about 7 months now and we live together. the initial excitment seems to have died off a bit now so she’s not as touchy kissy cuddly as she used to be. my issue is with her 16yr old son. hes a nice lad but a bit of a mummy’s boy. myself and gf can be in the same room and we are just normal, when her son comes in the room, her face lights up, theyre play fighting, laughing and joking, now when i try this she pushes me away. this makes me jelous probably cause he can put that big smile on her face that i try my hardest to do. probably sounds silly, and he his her son, but i wished i could make her feel like he does. she says she is happy and loves me.
13th December 2012 at 5:10 pm
This is an interesting discussion you have raised. It is not a case of jealousy in the conventional sense of pair-bonding, but I can see how their relationship might seem opposing to your own. It is not just a case of making your girlfriend smile, but HOW you make her smile. A parent-offspring relationship is based on nurture and influence, whereas your relationship should be based on attraction and intimacy.
Due to the above differences, the first thing to do is resist comparing the two relationships. Instead, the best thing for you to do is embrace their relationship as a separate entity, whilst doing your best to make her son an ally of yours and show that you are an addition to their relationship, rather than competing for affection.
I imagine that the reason their relationship seems more fluid and natural is because her son interacts with her without an overriding agenda. That carefree attitude is difficult to force. At the moment it sounds like you are seeking a reaction when you try to engage your girlfriend in a similar manner, which weakens the authenticity of it all. Your thoughts and assumptions are what are restricting the relationship, and your girlfriend probably senses those reservations during such moments.
There are three relationships of relevance to your situation: your relationship with your girlfriend, your relationship with her son, and your girlfriend’s relationship with her son. The first two are what you should be focusing on, independently and with confidence.
You say that the initial excitement of your relationship seems to have died off a bit. Although many are led to believe that it is an inevitable consequence of a long-term relationship, the initial excitement can actually continue indefinitely; you just have to get creative and adapt the manner in which you achieve it.
The most important thing is that your girlfriend is happy and loves you. That at least means there is nothing to worry about and you can work on the above at a comfortable progression.
Thanks for commenting,
H says:
5th December 2012 at 6:35 pm
Great article. I have been with my gf for about 2 months now, I am 26 and she is 24. We both care about eachother a lot and she’s everything I’ve ever wanted. I know she is a good girl with good morals and values however I have always had trust issues. She has a guy friend who she’s had for about a year now. She admitted to kissing him once before we were together when she was drunk but swears she doesn’t see him as anything more than a friend but he does have a crush on her. When we first became exclusive she hesitated to tell him right away bc of his crush. This is where the problem started. According to her he said he doesn’t want to meet me until it’s serious between her and myself. This obviously also bothers me. Once again she swears she doesn’t see him as anything more than a friend and I know she really cares about me a lot but she does talk to him fairly regularly via text. The whole situation makes me very uneasy even though I know she has very strong feelings for me. After acting suspiciously, questioning her and doing things like going through her phone she finally broke up with me a few days ago. The last straw was me going through her phone. I tried to talk to her via text to fix the situation the day of the incident but she jut kept saying things like I’m sorry I can’t do it anymore, and finally said please let’s just stop I’m sorry I can’t do this I’m not crazy about you anymore and after that text I didn’t respond because I knew I just needed to give her space. The night before the incident we had a great time together and just last week she was saying how special I make her feel and how good she feels to be with me. I haven’t heard from her in about 4 days nor have I tried to contact her knowing that the best thing is probably to give her space but it’s so hard not to talk to her because I really miss her. After reading your article and others I realize that my actions have done nothing positive and have only pushed her farther and farther away. I know I need to work on my trust issues and I have been trying my hardest to suppress any insecurities by reminding myself the type of person she is and how much she cares but I can’t completely fix it over night. I’m really afraid that I pushed her away for good this time and I don’t know what to do because I really care about her and can’t imagine never seeing her again. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks
13th December 2012 at 5:42 pm
I know that a lot of the damage has already been done, but it is still useful to learn from this experience, whilst now working on automatically trusting anyone who has given you no reason not to trust them. You can still win your girlfriend back and I agree that giving her space is a good thing for now. The important thing is to show her indirectly that you are not still caught up on what caused the problems; something that was only ever a problem from your perspective.
The main lessons to take away are to not make something that isn’t your problem into your problem, and not make something that isn’t a big deal into a big deal. These are two principles that are crucial to having more trust by default.
If another man has an issue meeting you without knowing you personally, that is purely his own agenda and insecurities. Likewise, if he has a non-reciprocated crush on your girlfriend, that is his own problem to deal with. If you do meet him, don’t give him a reason or justification for disliking you. He can only ruin his own image further if he dislikes you without a genuine reason to.
Although you want to convey that you are actively working on any trust issues you have, don’t let it change your core identity and the dynamics of your relationship. If you start begging for your girlfriend back, you are painting a whole new picture of yourself, one that is needy rather than attractive.
Give her the time necessary to forget the raw emotions of the incident in question. After that, reconnect with her like the boyfriend she has always been attracted to. Trust issues aren’t something you can rid yourself of overnight, but they are something you can improve day by day. They are also something you can make a conscious effort to prevent from damaging your relationship as you make that progress.
Take care and thanks for reading the website,
K says:
6th December 2012 at 1:18 am
Im in a relationship with an amazing guy. However, he has profound trust issues. His previous relationships ended with her cheating on him. I have never done anything to cause him to NOT trust me. He tells me that I should tell him everything but when I do, he takes it all the wrong way and makes up scenarios which never happened. He accuses me of cheating and lying to him constantly which isn’t true at all. I love him but I’m extremely frustrated upset and hurt by this. I get accused of things at least 3x a week and it’s getting old. I don’t want to leave him but my patience is wearing thin. I reassure him of the love I have for him and that I won’t ever cheat on him but it doesn’t work. Also, everything I tell him while we are not fighting gets twisted in his mind and comes back to bite me during the next fight. I don’t know what to do anymore. Please help!
13th December 2012 at 11:43 pm
Although it may seem like you are being accommodating when you tell your boyfriend overbearing details and constantly explain yourself, it actually feeds his insecurities. It is for his benefit as much as your own that you remain assertive, confident, and unwavering when he make irrational requests for honesty.
Unless he has deeply emotional issues, I am sure that he wants to trust you; he just hasn’t learnt how to do so in a mutually respectful manner. Having said that, there is only so much you can do to encourage, influence and support him in gaining more trust. Your boyfriend can only change if he has a desire to do so!
It may sound mildly patronising but if you want to help him, you actually need to teach him how to trust you. That starts by not succumbing to anything that makes you feel like he doesn’t trust you, and also pointing him towards useful resources and strategies without making him feel inferior. Without some kind of ultimatum, his trust issues will continue to control the relationship, and will lead to further resentment.
All you can do is firmly reassure him one final time that you are trustworthy, and then continue to behave how you want to behave, based on how you think your perfect relationship should be. If he values the relationship and you remain patient towards him, he will hopefully be willing to accept his insecurities and work on overcoming them.
All the best and thanks for reading the website,
Isaac says:
18th December 2012 at 5:03 pm
Thanks man, this post has really been helpful, i mostly worry about my girlfriend. We are in a long distance relationship and its not easy at all, i worry so much about her and wonder what she is doing at every point in time, I sometimes enter her facebook account to see who is sending her messages and all, not that i dont trust her but i fear loosing her
22nd December 2012 at 6:18 pm
Hey Isaac,
I’m glad the article has been helpful.
As I have said in some of the other replies, each time you feel the urge to act on insecurities, you have a choice between actually doing so or not. The respective results are the difference between being insecure and untrusting, and being preoccupied with being a great man and a great boyfriend.
Each time you feel the insecurities in question intensifying and decide to act upon them, such as needlessly checking your girlfriend’s Facebook account, you are nurturing the insecurity and feeding the temptation.
If you have that same level of insecurity but force yourself to apply trust and actively do something else with your time, you will subconsciously reassure yourself that everything is alright in your relationship.
Reward yourself every time you follow through on this second option and the effect will be even greater. Eventually it will lead to you never feeling the need to act on insecurities, and your relationship will be solely about the positive attributes you bring together.
Thanks for reading,
FD says:
22nd December 2012 at 11:54 pm
Great article. I hope u can help me. So I’ve been going out with her for 6 months. She grew up around the corner from me and we’ve known Eachother for several years. She has no parents. Her mom died and her dads not around. We live tigether. We are both 23 and I don’t trust her fully for the following reasons :
1. One night about a month ago. She was out for her friends bday and apparently got really drunk. She was texting me all night but i could tell she was getting drunker by her txts. Anyway. I said I’m coming to pick you up and she wouldn’t answer. When she did she would mumble. She was beyond drunk and when I finally found her and picked her up I was upset so I looked though her texts. I found two texts:
A) she texted her girlfriend “I’m sexting my bf while trying to bang Becky friends”
B). She texted a girl “come out. I’m alone. My boy isn’t here”. I called the number and found out it was a guy in her phone as a girls name.
Okay. This all looks really bad for her. We argued about it in the morning for hours and she admitted it looks bad. Her excuse was that the first text (A) was and inside joke to her friend taken out of context. And the second excuse was that test (B) was her friends friend she only met once. And he was in the phone as A girls name because it was and inside joke with her girlfriend. I left the house and she texted me that “she’s sorry. It’s will never happen again. I love you more than anything and will do anything for you not to leave . Please come back”.
I went back to her. She said she never had intentions if having sex with some,one else and that she’s sorry and will stop drinking. I said I would give her a second chance to show shes trustworthy. Because after you break 100% trust. You can never get it back.
What do you think. Dose she sound sincere.? What do u make if the txts and excuses. I’m still building trust up. But it’s a slow process.
31st December 2012 at 4:29 pm
There are different forms of trust. Trusting words and trusting actions may seem closely related but they are actually independent forms. Someone can say dishonest words but never actually cheat. Equally, someone could be cheating without saying words to the contrary.
It is easy for the text message examples you have given to be taken out of context. Regardless of their true meaning, the most significant point is that your girlfriend does not seem to always treat the relationship or your feelings with respect. There is a big difference between acknowledging attraction for someone else and actively pursuing that attraction without consent.
Her messages do not suggest that she was actually going to pursue anything physical, but it is important that you let her know how her implications made you feel.
It sounds like she is going through a social learning process and alcohol consumption often coincides with this. If you have already discussed and resolved the issue and you trust her new words and actions for now, there is not much value in revisiting the topic with her unnecessarily.
If it is still on your mind, think about how your relationship and your role as a boyfriend can influence her behaviour. You should be encouraging her to behave responsibly, respectfully and honestly, not through punishment or threats, but through positive communication and understanding.
As long as you don’t cause her to resent or rebel against your handling of the situation, she will automatically mature and learn from the experience, which should help towards regaining full trust within the relationship.
All the best and thanks for using the website,
Kane says:
28th December 2012 at 6:19 am
Hey great article ! I am a very jealous guy, and i have been trying to work on it recently, acknowledging that my insecurities make me look unattractive and ultimately will destroy the good energy in a relationship. My long distance relationship girlfriend only has guy friends , and maybe two girlfriends ( literally) , is it not perfectly normal that i get jealous ? I would of thought this the natural response of most men? Even if you trust her fully, an attractive lady surrounded by man in which the probability is almost certainly half of them want her and uncertainly but possibly all of them want her.
I called off our engagement about 3 months ago , because i didn’t feel i was ready , i made sure to call it of months before rather than the day before. Ever since this moment she has been behaving differently with me. She used to talk to me constantly , and then suddenly she has met 5 new male friends and they have suddenly become a group. This was accompanied by less communication. She did get a late night job which does limit her time.
My issue is that even before when she was busy , she would always try to get a word out to me . This form of communication has vanished from our relationship and it is something i really enjoyed and thought made our LDR strong! 5 new guys and her ex coming to visit , has led me to be feeling pretty insecure. I have had reassurances but the communication has not really increased and she has already got angry at me for bringing up the 5 new friends for a second time.. She is obviously upset i do not trust her , but what really gets me is she calls me a psycho for getting so jealous about ? She is not a jealous person so her empathy for such is non existent. I cant simply say imagine i had 5 new girl friends all of a sudden and communication suddenly dropped … her response would be ” i trust you fully so i have nothing to worry about ” ! I admire that strength and wish i also could perform so elegantly but the truth is this is eating away at me , and i have been holding back because i don’t want to appear so weak , this does not however fix the relationship!
I love her so much but i can’t live like this ! Recently we made peace and came out of our turbulence , she explained how hurt she was for me postponing the engagement and therefore distanced herself from me! However her love and want for me stayed the same ! However she is still that new person , even after our peace talks she still is moving around her guy friend groups and talking to them more than she is to me ! She used to message me about everything all the time , and it was once me who was accused of lack of communication! It seems the tables have turned!
P.S. i know i sound competitive in the way i phrase things but really im not seeing this as a battle. Its just im trying to account for why things changed so rapidly, yet im the only one who seems to have noticed!
8th January 2013 at 4:39 pm
It is normal to feel jealousy at times, but that doesn’t mean you have to let it affect your relationship or your girlfriend’s overall perception of you.
You have less to worry about if your girlfriend’s chosen lifestyle is to socialise with other men platonically. That is part of who she is. If she is honest and open about these friendships and never purposefully creates drama or suspicion, you should embrace the social dynamics. Your esteemed position as her chosen boyfriend in comparison actually reduces the likelihood of any amorous activity with her “friends”, as long as you live up to that boyfriend role.
Don’t concern yourself with what those other men want; concern yourself with what you want and what your girlfriend wants!
Calling off the engagement probably has more underlying repercussions than your comment suggests. Engagement does not signify an immediate marriage, but retracting an engagement would feel like an overwhelming reverse of validation, from the person she desires validation from the most.
You say that you have since discussed the postponed engagement, but I am sure that at least some of the decline in communication is attributed to disconnect created therein.
You can increase the communication, not by being needy and calling lots but by re-establishing the bond between the two of you and making communication in the relationship both desirable and necessary.
If you truly want to be with her, you have to accept her personality and lifestyle wholeheartedly for now. Realise that it is your responsibility to change your perception of jealousy for the relationship, rather than vice versa. No logical explanation of jealousy is going to help your girlfriend empathise with you whilst she feels you aren’t being authentic with regards to the communication issues you describe.
Your girlfriend will continually become a “new person”. It is a good thing and it means she is learning and growing. Your job is to make sure that you are learning and growing in conjunction with her, rather than passively observing and fearing those changes.
graham says:
7th January 2013 at 9:47 pm
Hello sam.great article.heres my trust issue. I found out from a text message on my girlfriends phone that she owes someone money that she has not told me about. weve lived together about 8 months and one day she asked me to check something on her phone(nothing to do with checking her messages by the way) When checking I came across this message. Now this message which she must have forgotten was on there said that the person who had sent it regards my girlfriend as a friend but unless she paid back the money owed then the bailiffs would be involved. Now this got me thinking a little as she has never mentioned it. I checked her phone statement and she had made 1 return text message to this number. Ive since rang the number and a man answered so I hung up without saying anything. This was about a month ago and now im paranoid that she could be keeping all sorts from me. There is no way I can confront her about this without a major break up im sure. do I just ignore it? Ive asked if anything is worrying her and she assures me nothing is. I know she has not paid the money back as we have a joint account. Now im thinking has she paid it back in another way? My trust has been shattered because of this and its making me act different around her. I just want her to tell me whats what. She knows im understanding and would do anything for her so why is she not telling me. Thanks.
10th January 2013 at 7:39 pm
The first thing to realise is that your girlfriend IS keeping all sorts from you, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that she is being secretive. Telling your partner EVERYTHING is an impossible task, usually requested by insecure and controlling partners. Trust is about knowing that your partner will discuss what needs to be discussed whilst never purposefully hiding information.
As a general rule, it is fine for your girlfriend to keep things from you, as long as it is never done with the intention to manipulate or misrepresent. There are a number of possible reasons why she hasn’t told you about the money situation, but the main thing is to avoid jumping to conclusions.
You can and should talk to your girlfriend about this, but it is important HOW you discuss it. If you have a joint account then it is probably important that you are candid about what each of you spends. Depending on your girlfriend’s personality and how you approach the subject, you should be able to find a way to discuss the matter without seeming judgemental, controlling or that you went behind her back. If you remain calm and positive, the discussion won’t escalate into an argument and you can solve the matter together.
If she did keep it secret from you out of fear of judgement or repercussions, explain that it is the secrecy you felt hurt by, and not the actual matter of owing someone else money (which cannot be changed).
Whatever the outcome, ensure that from now on your girlfriend feels that she can tell you anything. This is achieved by always being empathetic, non-judgemental and supportive in her eyes, not your own. This doesn’t mean that she will now tell you everything, but it does mean that she will feel able to tell you anything important. You can then trust that she is able to determine the difference therein.
Take care and thanks for reading the website,
robert says:
18th January 2013 at 10:10 pm
This article is a bit old, but i saw that you replied recently. I have been with a woman for 7 years, and she is all I’ve ever wanted. She is not a fashion model by any sense, but she is beautiful to me. I live my life on the straight and narrow as best I can and have never lied to her. I have told her in the past that I wasn’t going to make rules in the relationship except that I expect to be hers and I expect her to be mine. Honesty above all is what I require, even if it means that I do not hear what pleases me all the time.
We have been through some tough times together, financially and some time with doctors, and pushed on. I have never strayed from her. I have been offered, but declined because although there were times we weren’t happy together, I was still hers. We went through a rough patch about 9 months ago where I became distant, and pushed her away a little bit due to depression and anxiety about other issues. She in turn felt that she wasn’t getting enough attention, and started seeking it with others. This resulted in many text messages and emails and naughty pictures being taken. As far as I know it did not progress so far as to sleeping with another person, but it may have if I had let it persist. She said that she wanted to leave me, and I worked to convince her for the second chance. I spent so much time with her that she was my one and only thing in the world. I did not ask for anything other than she stop talking to those guys any more. She said that was reasonable and promised me that she would stop.
Just recently, I guess I haven’t been giving her enough attention again, even though I spend all my free time with her, and she started talking to new guys again. I was willing to forgive this and just step up my attention giving, until one night when we were out, she received a phone call that made her stutter, blush and walk a little out of earshot to talk to briefly. When she stepped back towards me, I asked who it was, and she paused and then said someone from her work. I didn’t believe her, and it resulted in a very sleepless night after she left for work. That next day after I came home, I sat her down and asked for answers. She skated around the questions for a few minutes, and finally told me it wasn’t a co-worker, but one of these guys that she was talking to. I felt betrayed, and very angry. Not specifically that she had talked to these guys, to a lesser degree that one called her – which I feel is greatly out of line – but that she lied to me about who was on the phone. Her excuse was that I wouldn’t have liked the real answer. We spent several hours talking, and the end result was very angry sort of make-up sex. She said that she will stop again talking to these guys. I know at this point that will not be true. Again, I am pretty sure that she hasn’t been physically with any of them, but I feel it is only time until it happens.
I love her, and want to stay with her, but my gut is yelling at me with the truths I know about leaving her boyfriend many years ago by cheating on him, about the lie she told me to cover her phone call, about the promise that was broken to not talk to other guys in the fashion she was talking to them. My gut is telling me its time to go. Is there room for trust again or at all? I don’t want to spend my years with her looking over my shoulder for the other man. I don’t want to monitor her email, phone, or text messages. I don’t want to tell her who she can and cannot be friends with, but I do not want her to talk to these guys any more. Is that fair? She knows I don’t send naughty pictures or messages to anyone but her. But I don’t know how to stay with her without trust, or trust myself to leave her. Do I leave?
Thanks.
29th January 2013 at 6:12 pm
Picking up on a phrasal choice of yours near the beginning of your comment, you say, “I expect to be hers and I expect her to be mine”. I know you have mentioned previous periods of emotional distance, depression and anxiety within the relationship, but it seems at least some of the issues stem from the general approach to trust and respect between you rather than the actual existence of it.
Solid trust is actually about having no preconceived expectations: you trust that your partner will make choices based on mutual desires and with your best interests at heart. It is difficult to do that if you feel obligated to behave in a certain way. Possessiveness, jealousy and judgement are all traits that can easily prompt that unnatural obligation. Counter-intuitively, it can actually make that person act in a more suspicious manner to try and preserve what they believe is your method for trust.
You make someone want to respect your trust by embodying someone that they respect full stop, in every aspect of the relationship.
There is more to your girlfriend’s behaviour than simply texting other men (or indeed wanting to do so). The blueprint for a completely fulfilling relationship comprises of a lot more than simply balancing attention. Attraction, romance, intimacy, confidence and communication are just a few of the many vital components of a completely fulfilling relationship. I’m sure after seven years together you will have experienced each of the above and know which areas require the most focused effort.
There is a difference between honesty and openness. Your girlfriend was correct in thinking that you wouldn’t like the answer when she lied about who was calling her. More to the point, she felt that you would be judging her, which would result in a negative spiral in the relationship.
Of course that doesn’t justify her texting other men with intentions of infidelity (remember that is only an assumption of yours at this point and not fact). Her behaviour is an outcome of how the relationship has been recently and isn’t the causation of anything in particular. Demanding she ceases that behaviour will not prevent her desire to do so as things stand.
You have the ability to mend this relationship and to lead it in the direction you want it to go. The only way your girlfriend will change is by changing the fundamental aspects of the relationship discussed above, which in turn will eradicate her original reasons for her behaviour. Her making promises without feeling there is any fundamental change will only make those promises temporary. She will still feel exactly the same as she did before, except probably now with slightly more guilt and slightly more resentment.
Rather than focusing on what she must change, focus on what you can do to change the relationship as a whole. Trust is a by-product of a healthy and fulfilling relationship; working together to create that should solve anything that seems like a potential threat to trust long before it escalates.
All the best and thanks for writing,
carla says:
21st January 2013 at 8:25 am
This was a nice article to read about relationships.
My boy friend and i have been together for almost two years now,after going through all ups and downs cause of his trust issues i have stopped interacting with other boys even though it’s not being me but to get rid of every day’s arguments i had to actually isolate myself from my fellow guys but well he still seems to get this feeling that i am communicating with people in one way or the other,and this repeats every week in a different way but all showing his major trust issues.He keeps denying that he trust me completely like anyone but it obviously shows he has some major issues.He seems to get more curious every time i am out…being more aggressive i fail to deal with this sorta situations we have had lots of break ups already but due to our deep emotional involvement we couldn’t just part but his lack of trust in me hurts and i can’t deal with it anymore i don’t seem to assure him completely even though he may agree for some time but i can see he is preoccupied..
I really want some help cause being a med student i can’t go through this all the time…it is very frustrating..i don’t like being asked for everything,i simply hate it!!
29th January 2013 at 6:18 pm
You have already proved that restricting your social life is not the cure. By doing so you are somewhat justifying his behaviour, or at least accepting it. If you are not doing anything wrong (by mutual decision) then you should not stop doing what you innocently desire. Of course you should be empathetic towards your boyfriend’s trust issues, but not by conforming to irrational, controlling requests borne out of insecurity.
The way to solve this is to have a peaceful discussion where you in turn discuss what you feel, why you feel that way and things you can do to feel secure without restricting the other person. To have more trust in a relationship you must add to it rather than take away from it; that is one of the things your boyfriend needs to understand to overcome his insecurity with regards to trust.
Take care and thanks for reading the article,
Rob says:
21st January 2013 at 5:32 pm
I have had problems with lying since I was a kid, my family are aware of this and always have been, I used to exaggerate a lot! Or lie. Never hurtful or horrible but just as a kind of way to build my “self” up in the eyes of others.
I have been with my partner for nearly 3 years now, the love is amazing, the feelings I have for her are incomparable but in the past I have lied to her. It started when we were first dating and I heard stuff that I didn’t want her to hear (some about her, some not) but I kept it from her and then she found out by going through my phone.
We then had a temporary break from eachother after a very horrible experience, one that I don’t want to share on this page but in that week we both kissed people. She told me that a guy tried to kiss her and she freaked out and ran away. I didn’t tell her at all. I regret it so much as it made my actions look a lot worse!
I also throughout this week felt this desperate need to feel wanted, but had no confidence (or in hind sight desire to actually fulfil it) so embarrassingly I signed on to this adult dating site thing, very very horrific to admit but it’s true and again I didn’t tell her. I was ashamed and from me not telling her she thinks I wanted to. After this has come out, she then admits she has lied about her actions and the “details” of what she did when we were apart. Of course it upsets me thinking of her with another man, but I’m aware we weren’t together so it wasn’t infidelity. I completely understand what it looks like to her about my situation and I am so lucky for still having her but now she checks my email, phone and Internet history a lot and although I have nothing to hide I feel there is a better way for us both to deal with it? I want her to trust me because I earn it and show that I have learnt, not from her getting bored of finding nothing on my accounts. I am more than aware I have planted this seed in her head and I want to help her and me move on from it respectfully and helpfully. I love her so much and I regret ever hiding anything from her but I would love some advice on how to be when she is checking my emails etc. I want to show her I have learnt.
29th January 2013 at 6:27 pm
It is understandable why your girlfriend feels the need to check your emails but as you have already stated, it is merely avoiding the issue and a temporary solution at best. It can also lead to her becoming more paranoid and you feeling like you have absolutely no privacy.
You already seem very aware of the outcome of lying and indeed making choices that you know would seem suspect in your girlfriend’s eyes. Verbal reassurance will help but more so if it is directed towards your affection and desire for your girlfriend, rather than proving that you haven’t done anything wrong. It may take a while to regain full trust once more but as long as your actions are aligned with your mutual perception of the relationship from now on, your girlfriend will gradually become more at ease.
When she expresses the urge to check your emails or anything similar, try to take her mind off it with something positive within the relationship (emotional or physical stimulus), whilst never implying that you have anything to hide. As with any past neglect of trust, it takes repetition of positive association to renew it, and you can only assist that by remaining positive, empathetic and true to your word from now on.
All the best and thanks for reading the website,
Steve says:
6th February 2013 at 6:21 am
I’m in a really tough spot right now with my girlfriend of 2 years. We both love each other deeply. However, in the past several months it has been not so great. It seems like we can’t even go a day without fighting and she has distanced herself from me more and more. Her problem is that she gets frustrated/mad at me over such miniscule stuff. I admit, some of the stuff she has good reason to be mad(i.e. my jealousy and lack of motivation). My problem is that I get jealous a lot over some of the stuff she does and says. I’ve pretty much fixed the lack of motivation part. I get upset/jealous if she wears provocative stuff because I guess I feel like she isn’t dressing this way for me but rather for attention from other men. I feel I have gotten better with the jealousy thing over the last year. But now she has started talking to one of her high school friends again that has given us issues in the past when she was talking to him then.
When we were last having issues with our relationship about 6 months into it she started talking to this guy A LOT. She started to become very short with me all the time and getting mad/frustrated for no reason. I could tell something was up. I snooped through her phone over the period of about a week trying to get to the bottom of this. She would delete a lot of the texts before I could see them but I eventually found out that she was making me out to look like sh!t and there were some inappropriate things that were said between one another. So obviously I confronted her. She decided on her own terms that it was best to not talk to him anymore.
1 1/2 years later…were starting to have issues again in our relationship, explained in the first paragraph. She then starts talking to this guy. I’m obviously very skeptical of this and defensive about the whole situation, especially given the state that our relationship is in currently. She is talking to him a lot like they are best friends and what not. Feels like she has put me on the back burner and him on the front and basically given up on our relationship. In the meantime she her and her mom book her a flight to California for 5 days before even consulting me. I felt betrayed. We’ve since talked about this and the guy situation and seemed like we were getting back on track with things, even though she was still talking to him a lot. My jealousy with this particular situation is hard to overcome and not be curious of whats being said. So I shamefully snooped again. There were some things that I probably misinterpreted and she did delete a picture that he sent to her of his back muscles. She says she only deleted it because she knew I would get mad if I saw it. I downloaded a spyware software onto her phone. Feeling stupid and ridiculous I backed out of doing this and deleted it off immediately. I instead decide to talk to her about it. We were fine afterwards and this was her last day her before her trip to Cali. I felt bad for even thinking of downloading the spy software so I fessed up to my actions. She was pissed beyond belief. I don’t blame her though. Even though I didn’t go through with it. She basically wanted me gone and us to break up. I convinced her to give it some time to think about. While she’s on vacation at home and what not. She is barely talking to me right now and I’ve said all the apologies and reassurances I could possibly think of. Not sure if she will be staying with me or not to be honest. I love her more than anything in this world and I know our relationship can be as magnificent as it once was.
I told her straight up that I don’t trust her in that situation with that guy…simply because I don’t due to the past events between them and the fact that she used to have a thing for him before we even met. I told her that if she continues talking to him that I need reassurances and if he sends her something that she thinks I might get mad at to tell him not to do it anymore or to tell me so I at least know and so I know how she responded to it.
What is your advice as far as overcoming this type of jealousy and showing her that I do in fact trust her. Because I really do its just hard in this situation and its hard to stop my mind from wandering and making up scenarios, ect.
As a start, I’ve vowed to myself to never snoop again or anything like that in the future and I’ve been working on doing things we used to do to show her my love for her and how much she truly means to me, ect. Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks in advance Sam and sorry for such a long message.
19th February 2013 at 3:56 pm
First off I would like to say that frustration in a relationship is never over “minuscule stuff” alone. It is always underlying negative emotions that are triggered by those seemingly trivial incidents. It is a culmination of how your girlfriend is feeling in general, partly to do with having to handle jealousy, mistrust and insecurities on your behalf.
This also works from your side: the individual incidents that seemingly cause jealousy or mistrust can easily be rationalised or justified, but they are merely triggering deeper, personal issues. If those triggers are recurring then a rationalisation process does help. For example, your girlfriend dressing provocatively is probably more likely a case of social conditioning, peer approval and external validation, as opposed to anything consciously manipulative or contentious. Reminding yourself of the reality or individual incidents (a positive reframe if you will) can help in the short-term.
One of the fundamental traits of a lasting and mutually fulfilling relationship is that both people are adding to the relationship rather than restricting it. Trust issues have a habit or inciting the latter.
Trust issues and jealousy are normal and something that is actually fairly easy to eradicate over time with the correct process, attitude and desire. Each time you are about to act on those insecurities, consider the following two questions: “Is this a result of my own insecurities or does this issue genuinely need addressing?” and “Am I enriching the relationship or restricting it?”
I know that it was under a specific context but telling your girlfriend that you do not trust her is one of the worst things you can do. If you genuinely do not trust her then by definition you do not want a monogamous relationship with her. If they are your own issues and deep down you do trust her, have no shame in admitting as such. She is far more likely to respect and support you with any trust issues if she believes that you are aware of and taking responsibility for the reality of the situation.
By making her feel that she has to report her friend’s behaviour to you and constantly be on alert for her actions being misinterpreted, she is likely to develop resentment, if she hasn’t already.
It is great that you have made a promise not to snoop again and are now focusing on the positive aspects of the relationship once more. You can’t convince her of personal change and effort through words alone, but hopefully she will soon notice those positive changes through your actions, as long as you stick to that mindset.
During that process, try to think of the male friend in question as no different to any other friend of hers, male or female. Replace him in your imagination with someone else if it helps but certainly do not put him on a pedestal that you’ve created predominantly in your mind. Whilst she is in a relationship with you, trust that she WANTS to be in a relationship with you. Any thoughts to the contrary are only going to push her away.
If your girlfriend believes that you are genuinely working on resolving any trust issues and not simply covering them up or postponing them, you should both be able to concentrate solely on all the positive aspects of the relationship you have mentioned.
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Kenny Rogers and you may Dolly Parton Got Intimate Tension Which had been Tough to help you Refuse — For even Their Ex-Partner
Kenny Rogers and you may Dolly Parton Got Intimate Tension Which had been Tough to help you Refuse — For even Their Ex-Partner
Kenny Rogers and you may Dolly Parton Got Intimate Tension Which had been Tough to help you Refuse — For even Their Ex-Partner
Kenny Rogers and you may Dolly Parton Got Intimate Tension Which had been Tough to help you Refuse — For even Their Ex-Partner
Country a-listers Kenny Rogers and you may Dolly Parton had a friendship that endured over forty years. During that time, they worked on tunes and albums, as well as toured along with her.
But some perceiver imagine there could had been something more and work out audio taking place between them making use of their flirtatious stress. And you can fans aren’t the only of those just who seen. Among Rogers’ old boyfriend-wives chatted about their tough-to-refute chemistry which have Parton and you can whether she thought anything else actually ever proceeded behind the scenes.
Ex-girlfriend away from Kenny Rogers seen pressure, suspected Dolly Parton have produced a shift
Marianne Gordon, Rogers’ 4th wife, said anyone indeed requested her when the you will find one thing romantic going to the ranging from the girl after that-husband and Parton. Gordon and you can Rogers split up inside the 1993 but she said she sensed your as he told her he never really had an intimate connection with their greatest duet spouse.
“We never ever felt uncomfortable anyway. I recently knew him very well,” she said in the a 2020 interviews having Better Per week. “But it’s funny you say that. We’d a tennis pro whom moved with our company – Doug Dean – [who] requested me-too.”
She advised Dean just what she appreciated Rogers got believed to this lady about any of it: “I like the lady [Dolly] due to the fact a friend and then we have a very good topic on stage. We’d lose it. There is certainly sexual stress and you can teasing one another also it would bang it up.”
Yet not, Gordon accepted she performed believe Parton of being able to make a move on Rogers. “Dolly have,” she told you. “It’s entered my personal attention since the she usually told you she imagine such as men.”
Kenny Rogers said Dolly Parton try ‘too-good out-of good friend’ to possess any other thing more than just flirtatious pressure
In advance of their demise during the 2020, Rogers once again made an effort to clear the air into rumors encompassing your and you can Parton. He states, the fresh flirtations between them was in fact only great for its work as well as were never over good friends.
“This woman is too-good out-of a friend. It could have destroyed a friendship,” Rogers said into CBS Yesterday. “We’d a bona fide chemistry and you will like people talking about they. It absolutely was great to listen somebody these are they and you may (she would wink) and i also perform wink straight back. But we were too good out-of family relations.”
He and informed HuffPost he and Parton “simply mocked both and you may … flirted with each other getting thirty years” if you’re working together. To conclude he said these people were “unique nearest and dearest” – but simply household members.
Dolly Parton told you relationship Kenny Rogers will have nearly become ‘such incest’
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Centered on Now, Rogers said there is certainly other good reason he and you will Parton never ever turned into personal – she informed your zero. Specific could even state it sounds eg she place your during the new pal area.
“You know what, we had been almost like sis and you can brother,” Parton explained. “And it perform nearly wind up as incest. So we only never went here.”
Plus, there clearly was others issue: “He’s come partnered on the 40 times!” Parton joked. “I did not catch your between wives!”
Notably, Rogers try married five times in the life. And you may Parton could have been hitched to the woman spouse, Carl Dean, due to the fact ’60s. Regardless if gossip has encircled its ous, she indicated that asleep with other people try disallowed from the their guidelines.
So, ultimately – centered on one another Parton and you can Rogers – the 2 was in fact never ever more than “unique loved ones” having noticeable tension her Zoeken.
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Ally Posted October 31, 2021 12:53 pm
I’m not the best at letting my light shine. Perhaps the best way to let one’s light shine is to be a Christ-like presence to others. My daddy used to say that embodying the presence of Christ is the best kind of witness. I try to be an encouragement to others and treat others in a Christ-like manner. It is not always easy, but I try to extend grace to others and to myself and pray for those I have judged and those who judge me.
David’s appointment with the urologist is Tuesday. He Is very nervous and broke down last night. He has been through so much. His daughter’s wedding is in 2 weeks. Neither of us are looking forward to interacting with her mother. It is so hurtful that he has not been asked to participate. Please pray for us.
Julie, I’ve added you to our church prayer list and my home church’s prayer chain. I pray you will feel God’s peace as you face surgery. Jill, prayers as you endeavor to teach your students and deal with your tasks. Many prayers as you get ready for your review. Robert, praying that you can find a house which meets your needs and for your church laity as you lead. April, thank you for your insights into the readings this week.
Prayers we connect with the Almighty this week and stay safe. Blessings to all.
Jill Posted October 31, 2021 5:14 pm
I don’t know that I shined a light for anyone today. It was good to be in church and had some good interactions. There was a “sprinkle” (as opposed to a shower) for a member of our small group who had a baby over the summer. I did not stay for it as my team’s tennis match was early afternoon, as opposed to the evening. I left my gift in the room and spoke to one of our leaders. I hope they had a joyful time together.
Tennis was great fun – wonderful competition and my partner and I played very well together today. She is such an encouragement to play with, as she is not intimidated and never backs down. When she makes an error, it just increases her intensity and focus. It is the best we have played this Fall.
Dad came to the match and then he came back to watch the dreadful Browns lose to their rivals. He gets so frustrated with them. They are underperforming this year. As the saying goes…”Same old Browns”.
Ally – praying for David and the appointment on Tuesday. Also, the wedding.
Hard to believe it is November. The weather is trying to convince me…but, hard to believe.
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Francis of Assisi (1181-1226) exemplified mystical life committed to care for God’s creation. One day as Francis passed by a dilapidated church, he was drawn to enter the ruins. Confronted by a crucifix mounted above the altar, he fell to his knees, begging God to tell him what he was to do with his life and what kind of person he was to become. A voice spoke from the crucifix, “Francis, repair my church, which is falling down.” So he rebuilt churches, brick by brick. Later, he realized that God had a bigger vision than he could ever imagine: spiritually and morally repairing the Western church and ultimately healing the world. Francis’s vision led to a journey of personal and ecclesiastical transformation.
Benedict of Nursia
Although he sought the solitude of monasticism, Benedict of Nursia (480-543) was inspired to pen what has become the most significant Western spiritual text on communal faith formation. Writing in a time of cultural and religious uncertainty, in which Christianity rose as the Roman empire disintegrated, Benedict saw the need for fiery spiritual lifestyle at the heart of Christianity. Benedict saw communal living as the crucible for Christian maturity. He envisioned a holistic spirituality that joins work and prayer, activism and contemplation, and ground itself in the experience of God’s ever-present activity and guidance.
From her early life, Hildegard of Bingen (1098-1179) was sensitive to God’s illuminating presence. Before she turned five years old, she began to experience God’s presence enlivening and enlightening her. She experienced divine energy permeating her mind, body, and spirit, and revelations coming to her through sight, sound, smell, touch, and taste. In her forties, Hildegard experienced a profound vision that joined theology and spirituality with God’s command to write down what she experienced. Hildegard heard God tell her to “transmit for the benefit of humanity an accurate account of what you see with your inner eye and what you hear with the inner ear of your soul…” For the rest of her life, Hildegard inscribed her experiences in texts such as Scivias, “know the way,” and De operatione Dei, “the book of divine works.” Hildegard’s multifaceted spirituality speaks to twenty-first-century seekers in her affirmation of God’s intimate and enlivening presence in our lives and the world.
Brother Lawrence (1614-91) spent a lifetime opening to God’s presence in the ordinary and transitory moments of life. This seventeenth century French mystic encountered God at eighteen years of age while gazing at a barren tree on a winter day. Young Nicholas Herman, who changed his name to Brother Lawrence upon entering the Carmelite Order as a lay-brother, noticed that while the tree’s leaves had fallen, eventually they would reappear, followed by blossoms and fruit. From this observation, Nicholas experienced the power and providence of God and began a spiritual journey of practicing the presence of God amid the most ordinary and unremarkable moments of daily life. He asserted that if God is omnipresent, then every moment can reveal God every workplace, holy ground.
25 “Therefore, I say to you, don’t worry about your life, what you’ll eat or what you’ll drink, or about your body, what you’ll wear. Isn’t life more than food and the body more than clothes? 26 Look at the birds in the sky. They don’t sow seed or harvest grain or gather crops into barns. Yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Aren’t you worth much more than they are? 27 Who among you by worrying can add a single moment to your life? 28 And why do you worry about clothes? Notice how the lilies in the field grow. They don’t wear themselves out with work, and they don’t spin cloth. 29 But I say to you that even Solomon in all of his splendor wasn’t dressed like one of these. 30 If God dresses grass in the field so beautifully, even though it’s alive today and tomorrow it’s thrown into the furnace, won’t God do much more for you, you people of weak faith? 31 Therefore, don’t worry and say, ‘What are we going to eat?’ or ‘What are we going to drink?’ or ‘What are we going to wear?’ 32 Gentiles long for all these things. Your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33 Instead, desire first and foremost God’s kingdom and God’s righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34 Therefore, stop worrying about tomorrow, because tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
35 James and John, Zebedee’s sons, came to Jesus and said, “Teacher, we want you to do for us whatever we ask.”
36 “What do you want me to do for you?” he asked.
37 They said, “Allow one of us to sit on your right and the other on your left when you enter your glory.”
38 Jesus replied, “You don’t know what you’re asking! Can you drink the cup I drink or receive the baptism I receive?”
39 “We can,” they answered.
Jesus said, “You will drink the cup I drink and receive the baptism I receive, 40 but to sit at my right or left hand isn’t mine to give. It belongs to those for whom it has been prepared.”
41 Now when the other ten disciples heard about this, they became angry with James and John. 42 Jesus called them over and said, “You know that the ones who are considered the rulers by the Gentiles show off their authority over them and their high-ranking officials order them around. 43 But that’s not the way it will be with you. Whoever wants to be great among you will be your servant. 44 Whoever wants to be first among you will be the slave of all, 45 for the Human One[a] didn’t come to be served but rather to serve and to give his life to liberate many people.”
1 Early in the morning of the first day of the week, while it was still dark, Mary Magdalene came to the tomb and saw that the stone had been taken away from the tomb.
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11 Mary stood outside near the tomb, crying. As she cried, she bent down to look into the tomb. 12 She saw two angels dressed in white, seated where the body of Jesus had been, one at the head and one at the foot. 13 The angels asked her, “Woman, why are you crying?”
She replied, “They have taken away my Lord, and I don’t know where they’ve put him.” 14 As soon as she had said this, she turned around and saw Jesus standing there, but she didn’t know it was Jesus.
15 Jesus said to her, “Woman, why are you crying? Who are you looking for?”
Thinking he was the gardener, she replied, “Sir, if you have carried him away, tell me where you have put him and I will get him.”
16 Jesus said to her, “Mary.”
She turned and said to him in Aramaic, “Rabbouni” (which means Teacher).
17 Jesus said to her, “Don’t hold on to me, for I haven’t yet gone up to my Father. Go to my brothers and sisters and tell them, ‘I’m going up to my Father and your Father, to my God and your God.’”
18 Mary Magdalene left and announced to the disciples, “I’ve seen the Lord.” Then she told them what he said to her.
53 Jesus said to them, “I assure you, unless you eat the flesh of the Human One[a] and drink his blood, you have no life in you. 54 Whoever eats my flesh and drinks my blood has eternal life, and I will raise them up at the last day. 55 My flesh is true food and my blood is true drink. 56 Whoever eats my flesh and drinks my blood remains in me and I in them. 57 As the living Father sent me, and I live because of the Father, so whoever eats me lives because of me. 58 This is the bread that came down from heaven. It isn’t like the bread your ancestors ate, and then they died. Whoever eats this bread will live forever.” 59 Jesus said these things while he was teaching in the synagogue in Capernaum.
60 Many of his disciples who heard this said, “This message is harsh. Who can hear it?”
61 Jesus knew that the disciples were grumbling about this and he said to them, “Does this offend you?
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Violence and persecution increasing in Swaziland
May 18, 2010
by Nicholas Knisely
A few years ago I traveled to Swaziland as part of an effort of my then parish (Trinity in Bethlehem PA) to support the work of Swazi Hospice at Home. You can read my travel diary and see pictures from the trip here.
During the trip, especially during my journey to the southern parts of the country, there were hints that the government was beginning to prepare for a period of civil unrest. Around the time of my visit the presenting issue was the question of the proper relationship between the new Swazi constitution and the claimed absolute authority of the King. (King Mswati is sadly mostly famous in the West for the growing size of his harem.)
While we traveled it was hard to miss an obvious increasing military presence. While most of the population were very thin and wan looking, the military and police guards were large, strong and well equipped. Clearly they were not having any trouble finding good food to eat.
More ominously, I started noticing the big black anti-riot trucks (the Black Mariahs) that the South African government had built during the time of anti-apartheid demonstrations. I was told that the King and his tribal councils had decided to start purchasing them and deploying them around the country. They were parked in the forest – but not too far in. They were certainly not hidden…
I’d heard over the past couple of years that there has been an increasing threat of violence. But when I asked about it I kept being told that people were exaggerating.
Well perhaps not so much after all.
I just received an email press release this morning from Africa Contact. It reads in part:
The brutality of the Swazi regime, led by the autocratic King Mswati, has always been evident, as documented by numerous reports from Amnesty International. This brutality has recently escalated, however, to include a desperate hunt for anything or anyone carrying the name of Pudemo or Swayoco, Swaziland’s leading democratic party and its youth league. The latest example of this brutality is the death in detention of Pudemo activist Sipho Jele. Sipho Jele was in good health when arrested and detained on 1 May for wearing a Pudemo t-shirt but was found dead in his cell the next day. The police claimed that he had committed suicide but Jele’s aunt, a former nurse who saw the body the next day, insists that his face was bruised and battered and that any claims of suicide are manifestly and evidently untrue. Jele’s torture and death at the hands of Swaziland’s police forces is unfortunately by no means the first time such torture and deaths in detention in Swazi prisons have occurred, and we are worried that the student leader, Pius Vilakati, who was at Jele’s funeral but has not been seen since, could be the next victim of the Swazi regime if the international society does not act quickly by putting pressure on the Swazi regime.
The torture and deaths in detention of pro-democracy activists are chillingly reminiscent of similar occurrences during in apartheid South Africa, where deaths in detention were also routinely claimed to have been self-inflicted, and the response from the international community of governments, civil society movements and NGOs should therefore be equally vigorous in demanding observance of the rule of law and democratisation in Swaziland.
The full email follows after the jump.
Please do join me in keeping the gentle people of Swaziland in your prayers. The country with the highest incident of HIV/AIDS infection in the world (mostly because of government inaction) surely needs good and wise leadership. Not a crackdown on democratic activists.
Africa Contact (Denmark) has been actively involved in the struggle for democracy and human rights in Swaziland for over ten years by supporting the democratic movement through organisations such as Foundation for Socio-Economic Justice and Swaziland United Democratic Front. Swaziland, an absolute monarchy, is one of the most unequal and Aids-ridden societies in the world, but the ruling minority continue to squander the resources that Swaziland do have on luxuries that the majority of the Swazi population can only dream of.
The brutality of the Swazi regime, led by the autocratic King Mswati, has always been evident, as documented by numerous reports from Amnesty International. This brutality has recently escalated, however, to include a desperate hunt for anything or anyone carrying the name of Pudemo or Swayoco, Swaziland’s leading democratic party and its youth league. The latest example of this brutality is the death in detention of Pudemo activist Sipho Jele. Sipho Jele was in good health when arrested and detained on 1 May for wearing a Pudemo t-shirt but was found dead in his cell the next day. The police claimed that he had committed suicide but Jele’s aunt, a former nurse who saw the body the next day, insists that his face was bruised and battered and that any claims of suicide are manifestly and evidently untrue. Jele’s torture and death at the hands of Swaziland’s police forces is unfortunately by no means the first time such torture and deaths in detention in Swazi prisons have occurred, and we are worried that the student leader, Pius Vilakati, who was at Jele’s funeral but has not been seen since, could be the next victim of the Swazi regime if the international society does not act quickly by putting pressure on the Swazi regime.
The torture and deaths in detention of pro-democracy activists are chillingly reminiscent of similar occurrences during in apartheid South Africa, where deaths in detention were also routinely claimed to have been self-inflicted, and the response from the international community of governments, civil society movements and NGOs should therefore be equally vigorous in demanding observance of the rule of law and democratisation in Swaziland.
The witch-hunt of members of the democracy movement is not necessarily an act of strength, however much it must seem so for those who bear the brunt of the brutality of the Swazi regime, but an example of the desperation of the regime. We should therefore be encouraged by this as an indication that the Swazi regime is feeling the pressure that the democratic movement is putting on it. We should also be encouraged by the fact that the South African Trade Union federation, COSATU, and many other unions and organisations are calling for international solidarity with the democracy movement in Swaziland together with Africa Contact, as well as for a campaign of global mobilisation and isolation of the Swazi regime.
Although the can of worms that is the Swazi autocratic regime will only open from within, all organisations, governments and individuals who claim to uphold the ideals of democracy, human rights and the rule of law throughout the world must speak up and act to put pressure on the Swazi regime. As the example of South Africa’s liberation shows, it is only through both internal and external pressure that autocratic regimes can be toppled.
Because of the urgency of the situation in Swaziland, Africa Contact has sent letters to the South African Minister of International Relations and Cooperation and Delegation of the European Union to the Kingdom of Swaziland in Mbabane, Swaziland and Lesotho, respectively, urging them to put pressure on the Swazi regime to desist from further human rights violations and start a process of democratization.
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Life is certainly a rich tapestry isn’t it? At least it is for me. I’ve got some real stuff going on, both personally and of course, at a global level. At the global level, I am feeling the angst, the dismay, the anguish and the anger of my fellow human beings. I vacillate between wanting to go out in the world and do things, and realizing I can only do so much. Every day for me I combat anger the likes of which I have not experienced since before getting sober, which has been over 33 years. I combat spontaneous tears. For the first time in over 33 years, I have a fear of people. Dealing with this is a daily event, every day I must renew my faith. I know what it feels like to live a fear free life, and quite frankly it is simply unacceptable to be experiencing a return of this kind of fear. I know what I must do to replace that fear with faith; this is the ultimate in self care. Not getting manicures and massages, although a massage is currently on my short term list of things to do. But on this journey, I must remember that these kinds of feelings, the fear, the anger, the grief, are normal given what is happening, even if they are not fun. I must honor them, but not nourish them. Instead, I must take a deeper dive into self care than I ever have before. This means talking regularly to the person I have chosen to be my counselor to guide me through this uncharted territory. This means accepting offers of help. It means loving the casseroles that people are bringing over. That one is not difficult to do. This means allowing loving people into my life, and eliminating hateful and unkind and ignorant people from it. I’ve been doing a lot of rearranging on my Facebook page lately. It means not feeling guilty that I simply do not have it in me at the moment to do more out in the world. It means changing my thinking on a daily basis, using the spiritual practices of gratitude and affirmative prayer as I never have before. I’ve been revisiting my book collection, and am rereading some old favorites that have always nourished me.
Yesterday I thanked one of Floyd’s doctors for quickly responding to a request we had made. She told me not to thank her and I burst into tears. Why would I not thank her? I like this doc. Others, not so much, but this one, I like. I text her, she calls back within a half hour and our request is honored with one phone call. She is Hindu, and has an approach to things that is part science and part spiritual, and I really identify with that. She honors Floyd’s decisions regarding his medical care, and I love that.
Every day is a wild ride of witnessing people doing stupid shit and saying the most outlandish things. Yesterday I heard a man proclaim, very loudly, that his daddy beat him regularly, sometimes with a belt and sometimes without one, and that he had learned respect because of it, and he was respectful now because of it. Despite the fact that he was loudly proclaiming his respect in a very disrespectful way. Sigh. My anger came back. The old me would have taken him on and told him to shut up in a physical way. But that was my old life and this is my new life. I do things differently now. And I’m 65 years old and all of 5 feet tall. I know my limits, and I also know that to engage in such dark behavior leads only to more dark behavior. I inwardly acknowledged my anger and simply left the area. Sometimes I bless those ignorant idiots. But mostly I’m beyond even that now. I leave them to their misery and move on. The fact that almost daily there are opportunities to make a choice like that is a very good indicator of what is happening in society right now. Then I did a wedding. A sacred and beautiful thing, and I was left with the feelings of wonder and joy and gratitude that I get to participate in such important events in people’s lives. And that horrible angry man was left behind to his own devices while I moved on to participate in and help create more beauty in life.
Every day I participate in wonderful new beginnings: weddings are off the charts this year. And I’ve taken to asking each of my wedding couples, “why now?” And their response is always the same, no matter what the circumstances are, “it’s time.” I believe that people want certainty in a very uncertain world, and for these couple, getting married is the way to achieve it. Tomorrow I facilitate the last of a month long class I’ve been teaching, called “The Art of Uncertainty.” Yes, there is an art to it. And a beauty, and when we open up to uncertainty, we experience things we would never have experienced otherwise. But I’m left thinking if there is such a thing as too much uncertainty? Who knows? What I know right now is that this time is populated with a roller coaster ride of emotions. Daily I experience the kind of anger I haven’t experienced in a very long time. Daily I cry. Daily I experience joy and gratitude and remember the peace that comes from faith and loving kindness. Daily I even experience some joy. Roller coaster. I used to like those when I was a kid. Go figure.
What I know is that with the last class tomorrow, it will be the last class I teach for at least a few months. What I know is that my interim ministry assignment will end on August 31, and I will not be accepting a new one for at least a few months. What I know is that I need to spend some time at home with my dying husband. People are beginning to refer to me as the care giver. I hate that name. And yet, because of what I do for a living, I know the important role that care givers play, and I know how important self care is for a care giver. So I will continue on this self care journey.
I once created a workshop on self care. I presented it to ministers, who quite often are not the best examples of self care. (This is a huge understatement by the way.) I believe it was a success. One lady showed up and complimented me. She said, “if you had begun talking about manicures and massages I would have been out of here.” No, self care is not about manicures and massages. It is about self love. It is about self compassion. It is about mindfulness. It is about knowing one’s boundaries, and setting them and keeping them.
So today I do the ultimate in self care, and I hope you do the same.
Self Care! (It’s not about manicures and massages)
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In his 1981 farewell speech, President Jimmy Carter said, “America did not invent human rights. In a very real sense, it is the other way round. Human rights invented America.”
In a New York Times op-ed piece in June 2012, Carter cautioned, “At a time when popular revolutions are sweeping the globe, the United States should be strengthening, not weakening, basic rules of law and principles of justice enumerated in the Universal Declaration of Human Rights. But instead of making the world safer, America’s violation of international human rights abets our enemies and alienates our friends.”
Carter also raised a number of important questions: Has the U.S. abdicated its moral leadership in the arena of international human rights? Has the U.S. betrayed its core values by maintaining a detention facility at Guantánamo Bay, Cuba, and subjecting dozens of prisoners to “cruel, inhuman or degrading treatment or punishment” and leaving them without the “prospect of ever obtaining their freedom”? Does the arbitrary killing of a person suspected to be an enemy terrorist in a drone strike along with women and children who happen to be nearby comport with America’s professed commitment to the rule of law and human rights?
In 1948, the U.S. played a central leadership role in “inventing” the principal instrument which today serves as the bedrock foundation of modern human rights. The Universal Declaration of Human Rights (UDHR), adopted by the UN General Assembly in December 1948, set a “common standard of achievement for all peoples and all nations” in terms of equality, dignity and rights. Mrs. Eleanor Roosevelt, the widow of President Franklin D. Roosevelt, chaired the committee that drafted the UDHR. Eleanor remains an unsung heroine even though she was the mother of the modern global human rights movement. Without her, there would have been no UDHR; and without the UDHR, it is doubtful that the plethora of subsequent human rights conventions and regimes would have come into existence. Remarkably, she managed to mobilize, organize and proselytize human rights even though she had no legal training, diplomatic experience or bureaucratic expertise. She used her skills as political activist and advocate in the cause of freedom, justice and civil rights to work for global human rights.
It seems the U.S. is “disinventing” human rights through the pursuit of double (triple, quadruple) standard of human rights policy wrapped in a cover of diplocrisy. In Africa, the U.S. has one set of standards for Robert Mugabe’s Zimbabwe and Omar al-Bashir’s Sudan. Mugabe and Bashir are classified as the nasty hombres of human rights in Africa. The U.S. has targeted both regimes for crippling economic sanctions and diplomatic pressure. The U.S. has frozen the assets of Mugabe’s family and henchmen because the “Mugabe regime rules through politically motivated violence and intimidation and has triggered the collapse of the rule of law in Zimbabwe.”
The U.S. calls “partners” equally brutal regimes in Africa which serve as its proxies. Paul Kagame of Rwanda, Yuweri Museveni of Uganda and the deceased leader of the regime in Ethiopia are lauded as the “new breed of African leaders” and crowned “partners”. Uhuru Kenyatta, recently elected president of Kenya and a suspect under indictment by the International Criminal Court (ICC) for crimes against humanity is said to be different than Bashir who faces similar ICC charges. In 2009, Ambassador Susan E. Rice, then-U.S. Permanent Representative to the United Nations, demanded Bashir’s arrest and prosecution: “The people of Sudan have suffered too much for too long, and an end to their anguish will not come easily. Those who committed atrocities in Sudan, including genocide, should be brought to justice.” No official U.S. statement on Uhuru’s ICC prosecution was issued.
The U.S. maintains excellent relations with Teodoro Obiang Nguema Mbasogo of Equatorial Guinea who has been in power since 1979 because of that country’s oil reserves; but all of the oil revenues are looted by Obiang and his cronies. In 2011, the U.S. brought legal action in federal court against Obiang’s son to seize corruptly obtained assets including a $40 million estate in Malibu, California overlooking the Pacific Ocean, a luxury plane and a dozen super-sports cars worth millions of dollars. The U.S. has not touched any of the other African Ali Babas and their forty dozen thieving cronies who have stolen billions and stashed their cash in U.S. and other banks.
Despite lofty rhetoric in support of the advancement of democracy and protection of human rights in Africa, the United States continues to subsidize and coddle African dictatorships that are as bad as or even worse than Mugabe’s. The U.S. currently provides substantial economic aid, loans, technical and security assistance to the repressive regimes in Ethiopia, Congo (DRC), Uganda, Rwanda and elsewhere. None of these countries holds free elections, allow the operation of an independent press or free expression or abide by the rule of law. All of them are corrupt to the core, keep thousands of political prisoners, use torture and ruthlessly persecute their opposition. Yet they are deemed U.S. “partners”.
“Principled disengagement” as a way of reinventing an American human rights policy?
If the Obama Administration indeed has a global or African human rights policy, it must be a well-kept secret. In March 2013, Michael Posner, U.S. Assistant Secretary of State for Democracy, Human Rights, and Labor said American human rights policy is based on “principled engagement”: “We are going to go to the United Nations and join the Human Rights Council and we’re going to be part of it even though we recognize it doesn’t work… We’re going to engage with governments that are allies but we are also going to engage with governments with tough relationships and human rights are going to be part of those discussions.” Second, the U.S. will follow “a single standard for human rights, the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, and it applies to all including ourselves…” Third, consistent with President “Obama’s personality”, the Administration believes “change occurs from within and so a lot of the emphasis… [will be] on how we can help local actors, change agents, civil society, labor activists, religious leaders trying to change their societies from within and amplify their own voices and give them the support they need…”
On August 14, according to Egyptian government sources, 525 protesters, mostly members of the Muslim Brotherhood, were killed and 3,717 injured at the hands of Egyptian military and security forces. It was an unspeakably horrifying massacre of protesters exercising their right to peaceful expression of grievances.
On August 15, President Obama criticized the heavy-handed crackdown on peaceful protesters with the usual platitudes. “The United States strongly condemns the steps that have been taken by Egypt’s interim government and security forces. We deplore violence against civilians.” His message to the Egyptian people was somewhat disconcerting in light of the massacre. “America cannot determine the future of Egypt. We do not take sides with any particular party or political figure. I know it’s tempting inside Egypt to blame the United States.”
In July 2009, in Ghana, President Obama told Africa’s “strongmen”, “History offers a clear verdict: governments that respect the will of their own people are more prosperous, more stable, and more successful than governments that do not…. No person wants to live in a society where the rule of law gives way to the rule of brutality… Make no mistake: history is on the side of these brave Africans [citizens and their communities driving change], and not with those who use coups or change Constitutions to stay in power. Africa doesn’t need strongmen, it needs strong institutions.”
President Obama has a clear choice in Egypt between “those who use coups to stay in power” and the people of Egypt peacefully protesting in the streets. Now he says, “We don’t take sides…” By “not taking sides”, it seems he has taken sides with Egypt’s strongmen who “use coups to stay in power”. So much for “principled engagement”!
Obama reassured the Egyptian military that the U.S. does not intend to end or suspend its decades-old partnership with them. He cautioned the military that “While we want to sustain our relationship with Egypt, our traditional cooperation cannot continue as usual while civilians are being killed in the streets.” He indicated his disapproval of the imposition of “martial law” but made no mention of the manifest military coup that had ousted Morsy. He obliquely referred to it as a “military intervention”. He made a gesture of “action” cancelling a symbolic military exercise with the Egyptian army. There will be no suspension of U.S. military aid to Egypt and no other sanctions will be imposed on the Egyptian military or government.
I am not clear what Obama’s human rights policy of “principled engagement” actually means. But I have a lot of questions about it: Does it mean moral complacency and tolerance of the crimes against humanity of African dictators for the sake of the war on terror and oil? Is it a euphemism for abdication of American ideals on the altar of political expediency? Does it mean overlooking and excusing the crimes of ruthless dictators and turning a blind eye to their bottomless corruption? Does “principled engagement” mean allowing dictators to suck at the teats of American taxpayers to satisfy their insatiable aid addiction while they brutalize their people?
The facts of Obama’s “principled engagement” tell a different story. In May 2010, after the ruling party in Ethiopia declared it had won 99.6 percent of the seats in parliament, the U.S. demonstrated its “principled engagement” by issuing a Statement expressing “concern that international observers found that the elections fell short of international commitments” and promised to “work diligently with Ethiopia to ensure that strengthened democratic institutions and open political dialogue become a reality for the Ethiopian people.” There is no evidence that the U.S. did anything to “strengthen democratic institutions and open political dialogue to become a reality for the Ethiopian people.”
When two ICC indicted suspects in Kenya (Kenyatta and Ruto) won the presidency in Kenya a few months ago, the U.S. applied its “principled engagement” in the form of a robust defense of the suspects. Johnnie Carson, the former United States Assistant Secretary of State for African Affairs, said the ICC indictments of Bashir and Uhuru/Ruto are different. “I don’t want to make a comparison with Sudan in its totality because Sudan is a special case in many ways.” What makes Bashir and Sudan different, according to Carson, is the fact that Sudan is on the list of countries that support terrorism and Bashir and his co-defendants are under indictment for the genocide in Darfur. Since “none of that applies to Kenya,” according to Carson, it appears the U.S. will follow a different policy.
President Obama says the U.S. will maintain its traditional partnership with Egypt’s military, Egypt’s “strongmen”. At the onset of the Egyptian Revolution in 2011, Obama and his foreign policy team froze in stunned silence, flat-footed and twiddling their thumbs and scratching their heads for days before staking out a position on that popular uprising. They could not bring themselves to use the “D” word (dictator as in Hosni Mubarak) to describe events in Egypt then. Today Obama cannot bring himself to say the “C” word (as in Egyptian military coup).
Obama is in an extraordinary historical position as a person of color to advance American ideals and values throughout the world in convincing and creative ways. But he cannot advance these ideals and values through a hollow notion of “principled engagement.”
Rather, he must adopt a policy of “principled disengagement” with African dictators. That does not mean isolationism or a hands off approach to human rights. By “principled disengagement” I mean a policy and policy outcome that is based on measurable human rights metrics. Under a policy of “principled disengagement”, the U.S. would establish clear, attainable and measurable human rights policy objectives in its relations with African dictatorships. The policy would establish minimum conditions of human rights compliance. For instance, the U.S. could set some basic criteria for the conduct of free and fair elections, press and individual freedoms, limits on arbitrary arrests and detentions, prevention of extrajudicial punishments, etc. Using its annual human rights assessments, the U.S. could make factual determinations on the extent to which it will engage or disengage with a particular regime. “Partnership” status and the benefits that come with it will be reserved to those regimes that have good and improving records on specific human rights measures. Regimes that steal elections, win elections by 99.6 percent, engage in arbitrary arrests and detentions and other human rights violations would be denied “partnership” status and denied aid, loans and technical assistance. Persistent violators of human rights would be given a compliance timetable to improve their records and provided appropriate assistance to achieve specific human rights goals. If regimes persist in a pattern and practice of human rights violations, the U.S. could raise the stakes and impose economic and diplomatic sanctions.
The ‘‘Ethiopia Democracy and Accountability Act of 2007’’ contained many important statutory provisions that could serve as a foundation for “principled disengagement”.
Obama’s “principled engagement” seems to be a justification for expediency at the cost of American ideals. Until he decides to stand for principle, instead of standing behind the rhetoric of “principled engagement”, he will continue to find himself on a tightrope of moral, legal and political ambiguity. The U.S. cannot “condemn” and “deplore” its way out of its human rights obligations or global leadership role. Yes, the U.S. must take sides! It must take a stand either with the victims of human rights abuses throughout the world or the human rights abusers of the world. If Obama wants to save the world from strongmen with boots and in designer suits with briefcases full of cash, he should pursue a policy of “principled disengagement”. But he should start by reflecting on the words he spoke during his first inauguration speech:
Our Founding Fathers, faced with perils we can scarcely imagine, drafted a charter to assure the rule of law and the rights of man, a charter expanded by the blood of generations. Those ideals still light the world, and we will not give them up for expedience’s sake.”
Professor Alemayehu G. Mariam teaches political science at California State University, San Bernardino and is a practicing defense lawyer.
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Read the Case Study attached and answer the “Discussion Points” in a clear but concise way. Be sure to reference all sources cited and use APA formatting throughout – 500 words
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You’ve made it to the final stage of the iShirt campaign proposal! Cherie has asked you to create a set of persuasive voice annotated slides to present to Mr. Cook and the Board of Directors. The presentation will be used to earn approval for the iShirt campaign!
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• PowerPoint deck with eight (8) slides – Slide 1 should be an introduction page, and slides 2-7 will cover each phase, and slide 8 should be a set of concluding thoughts.
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• Include a full set of supporting notes in the Notes section of each slide. This is where you will support your thoughts and ideas by using specific statistics, data, and supporting information. Requirements:
• Submit your voice annotated slide presentation.
• Eight slides with resources and supporting notes. **Any slide that is not voice-annotated will earn a zero for that slide** **Any slide that does not have supporting notes will earn a zero for that slide**
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Twenty-five years ago in 1993, a group of Colorado women, including me, launched a commemoration of the state’s woman suffrage. Colorado was the first state to institute votes for women, and it was accomplished by a popular vote. In other words, by men voting to endorse the move!
As I became involved with the project, I learned about the history of women’s political efforts. Seems to me in the West in general, women achieved status and power more easily than back East. Perhaps because the Homestead Act of 1862 allowed single, widowed, divorced, or deserted women to file for property. Perhaps because married women on homesteads and ranches had to assume men’s responsibilities and equal amounts of hard duties to keep the holdings afloat.
In any case women’s rights came more quickly out here. In Colorado, the movement was helped a great deal by the silver crisis of 1893. Silver was devalued and other economic brouhaha occurred. Then it wasn’t just kindly thoughts on the part of men; it was financial desperation. So much for lofty goals like equality of the sexes.
Regardless, the history of the women’s movement in the state is fascinating. The personalities, the strengths and weaknesses, the emotions stirred up make an exciting and educational account.
Each iteration of feminism brings its own perspective, extremists, battles, losses, draws, and wins. Cobble together your own interpretation of what was significant, who was a heroine, who a villain.. However, it’s useful to remember any time members of a group are lumped together as identical, the more scope for errors. In the 70s, women protestors were known as “bra burners” when, in fact, this wasn’t a wide-spread phenomena. The respected rumor-debunker Snopes says, During a demonstration by feminists at the 1968 Miss America pageant, some bras — along with numerous other items — were burned when a trash receptacle was briefly set alight.” This was the only occurrence of the symbolic action.
Another point: social change doesn’t occur overnight. Years ago, when my children were babies, my husband and I decided that family responsibilities were a benefit as well as a responsibility. We decided to alternate each of our stints at child and house care with employment to support us. This began as a one-year period but quickly extended to two, then five year rotations when we realized no one would hire us for any kind of decent wage if we constantly hopped in and out of jobs.
The first five years were my assignment. Because a stay-at-home mom wasn’t unusual, no one blinked an eye. However when we rotated, the response changed. Upon learning my husband was trying his hand at writing, one woman congratulated me on letting him be “the creative one,” never acknowledging my struggles at scribbling. Other responses included sly comments about “an alcohol problem,” “lack of job skills,” or just general “no ambition.”
None were true. The first step for our then-unusual transition was my husband’s. When the kids were very little, one day he offered to let me have an entire day a week to do whatever I wanted while he took care of house and children. I pulled out a piece of paper and toted up the number of hours I normally spent on my chores. When I realized the accumulative time was well over ten hours a day, seven days a week, while he was working eight hours a day, five days a week, I surrendered without a complaint.
So just as women’s right to vote in Colorado was approved by men, my personal voyage to women’s lib was launched and sustained by a man, my husband.
Is this often true of social change? It may be. Certainly the prohibition on slavery never would have occurred without the support of some white men. The
realization that children deserved protection from excessive labor and horrid conditions came from adults. If the #MeToo movement bears productive results, it will occur because people of all genders support it and come together in a spirit of good will.
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