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t3_3u9iqz
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tifu
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TIFU by thinking my sister was capable of handling money
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This happened about 45 minutes ago. Some backstory: I am a 16 y/o guy that enjoys video games. A lot. Today marks the beginning of the Steam Exploration Sale, so I planned on buying a Steam card when I got home from school. Queue the FU. When I got home, my parents told my sister and I that one of us had to take our dog for a walk. Me, wanting to get but a Steam card thought "Hey this is the perfect opportunity, kill two birds with one stone", but my sister, having been told that I was going to buy a Steam card while we were on our way home, volunteered to walk the dog. She then told me to give her the money for a Steam card, and she would buy it for me. I thought "Sure, what could possibly go wrong?". So I give her the money ($50) and away she goes. She said she would go to the Mac's (a convenience store) that was around the corner to get my card, and then bring it back when she finished walking the dog. I got a call from her less than 5 minutes later, and it was my sister. She apparently lost the money I gave her in the 2 minutes it takes to get to the Mac's, and was trying her hardest to look for it. I'm now sitting in front of my laptop looking at the Steam store page and see the measly $1.60 that I have in my Steam wallet, missing $50, and have no new games.
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My sister said she would buy me a Steam card if I gave her the money to buy it, she proceeded to lose the money less than 2 minutes later.
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t3_299lzx
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relationships
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Me [19M] and my SO [20F] broke up, I need a friend.
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You might want to refer to my previous post to figure out what exactly has gone on, you can see it [here](
Since that's happened, we tried it out for a few days. Then we got drunk at the pub, she went off with her friends to McD's and happened to come back in the aforementioned guys car because he was coming that way. At this point in time, her phone was dead, the only people I could get a hold of who were with her said that she was in this guys car. Being drunk and upset, I flipped, she eventually rings me saying she's been dropped off at home.
I'm drunk and really upset, so I go round to hers, we have a really stupid shouting match in the street, and it's over. She's only just now told me that she wasn't happy in the relationship prior to everything else that's happened, yet she just didn't voice it well enough to get her point across.
I just feel really alone, my best friend is a good best friend, but he's a bit useless when it comes to emotions. He's always had a bit of a "I don't give a fuck" attitude when people piss him off, and he expects me to do the same.
I don't really know what to do. I don't really have anyone to talk to about it, I know it's a corny line but she really was in my eyes, my perfect partner. We loved all the same things, hated the same things, like to a ridiculous extent. I'll never find anyone who I just click with as well as I have with her. I've spent the last 4 days binge watching game of thrones and parks and rec trying to distract myself, but it's not working.
Sorry for being a bit useless and boring, I just don't really know what to do.
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Broke up with SO after she cheated, I still can't help but feel alone.
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t3_1qnrve
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relationships
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I (30 M) am afraid of moving in with my SO (33 F)
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Some backstory:
My girlfriend and I have been dating for about a year now. Recently, we've been talking about moving in with each other, and it sort of bothers me, basically just for one reason.
My girlfriend live around 30 minutes away from each other. 30 minutes, no big deal, right? The thing is, my job is about 15 minutes in the opposite direction, and her job is an hour away from where I live.
So basically, I make a 15 minute drive to work every day, and she makes a 30 minute commute.
I'm a public school teacher, and she's a dentist. So, neither of us can really just move at any time, since I am contracted for 3 more years, and she owns her own business.
Is it really reasonable for either of us to say "No, I'm not moving there because of my job."? We both have mortgages, and it would be hard for either of us to give that up to move in with the other, for credit reasons.
Do you guys have any advice?
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afraid of moving in with girlfriend because of job
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t3_40ti07
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tifu
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TIFU By Spitting while in the Drive-Thru
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This just happened 10 mins ago and I'm sure my face is still completely red with embarrassment.
So everyday during my lunch I hit up the local Starbucks for my daily cup of coffee. Some background; my fuck up is a result of the cold medicine I took this morning. I've had a head cold for a while so I finally decided to take something for it. The meds kicked in right away and I've been hacking up snotty shit all morning. Okay, back to the drive-thru.
I ordered my coffee and was waiting in the line of cars behind the drive-thru window with my window down when I felt some more snotty mucus in the back of my throat. So I preceded to snort and cough to try and loosen it up so I can spit it out. What came into my mouth was a very large snot ball and was more than I excepted, so I started to gag. I tried to spit it out but could not stop myself from gagging. Finally I was able to summon up all my will power and launch this loogie full force out the window..... What I hadn't realized was that in the time I was gagging, I was also rolling up to the window. My snot filled spit-wad hit the barista right in the face. My mouth dropped open and I stuttered out an apology. She wiped it from her face and looked at me with glare that could of froze over hell. "That'll be $4.58" she said. I have her a twenty and told her to keep the change and sped off. Without my coffee.
So now I can never go back there and I didn't even get my caffine fix for the day.
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Took cold meds and ended up spitting a snot grenade on a barista.
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t3_23ob2n
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relationships
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I [21/m] need advice about dealing with a very insecure boyfriend [22/m]
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Hey there! My boyfriend and I both go to the same University, and met each other about 6 months ago. We've been in a relationship now for about 2 months.
Everything about him is great. He's kind and considerate, interesting, super attractive, and brilliant in bed. There's only one problem: he reads into tiny things too much and needs constant reassurance.
He'll read into things like where I put my hands while we're lay in bed together, or if I'm not very affectionate at certain times (usually quite inconvenient times like when I'm getting food out of the oven or something and he comes in for a hug). I complained a few days ago that I was getting a pimple on my face, and he got really self conscious because he had one too. He constantly asks me about guys that I've been with in the past and how he compares to them; I always reassure him that he's the one I want and that he's thoughtful and caring etc. but he asks again and again.
At the moment he's annoyed at me because I haven't told my family about him. He knows that I've never come out as gay to them because they're extremely religious and they support me financially at the moment, but he keeps asking me whether it's because I'm ashed of him or something.
Does anybody have any ideas of what I can do?
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Boyfriend needs more reassurance than I can reasonably give.
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t3_4palsd
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relationships
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Me [23 F] with my boyfriend [28 M] 1 year, am I crazy to be upset?
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So my bf and I have been in a LDR for the past year while I attend school. We were 2 hours away initially. He recently got a new job 5 hours away from me and while I did secretly feel bad that our distance was going to grow, I told him to take the job because it was a very good career progression and was a huge salary increase.
He started new job on Monday, and since then I've hardly heard from him except a few texts here and there. His new job is very stressful and he works long hours, which is fine because I'm also busy with my thesis.
I was due to visit him on Friday and stay for the weekend, I was really looking forward to this as it's been ages since we last saw each other. However today he told me I should come on Saturday instead as he was planning to go out for drinks with work colleagues on Friday. He said it's important because it's his first week.
I found this strange as he never did this with his old jobs and he told me previously he found his new colleagues awkward to be around.
I feel really upset about this, as it means we'll only have half of Saturday (where I'll be tired from travels) and Sunday (where he'll need to get ready for Monday) together. I want to see him but I don't know if it's worth it to travel so long for such little time.
I feel even worse because I had all these doubts about his move and I felt things could go wrong and now they are. :(
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LDR boyfriend putting work colleagues before me
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t3_tlrkr
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relationships
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Help, don't know what to think, Bf photoshopped pic of girl on porn star!
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So I (F 23) have been with my Boyfriend (26) 4 and bit years, and last summer I found a load of pictures of a girl from his college course on his laptop.
We had a big spat about it and he promised to delete them and not to do it again and then I found out that she was a lesbian and it was just a bit of a fantasy, so I forgave him. No harm done!
So today I was left alone with his laptop, and I got really tempted and snooped (bold me, I know!) it was more about confirming that he wasn't doing it anymore than anything, didn't think he'd be that stupid to do it again.
Anyways so on snooping I discovered three pictures of girls that I recognise, two are lesbians and I guess it didn't bother me so much but then I discovered another that I am unsure about... and to top it off I found a photoshop pic of this girls head on a porn stars body... WTF!?! What do I do?, I have no idea how to feel! Oh and I don't know if it's important but it was dated over a year ago... but he did keep it and not delete it.
Guys should I be worried? Any advice would be appreciated.... OH and if I should be worried how do I confront him, afterall I was snooping!
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Boyfriend photoshopped pic of girl I recognise on porn star body, should I worry?
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t3_3572ds
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relationships
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Me [17F] having second thoughts about [19M] boyfriend
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Hey there I have been with my boyfriend for a little over 2 years and am having thoughts and feelings about other guys. I met him at the end of my freshman year (he was a junior) and he was basically my first real boyfriend. I love him very much but I fear that because I met him when I was so young I am going to be bitter if I never experience other things. We have plans for our future and I don't want to mess them up but I am worried about having those what ifs if I don't explore. I wish I could have met him a few years later. I was wondering if I should ask for a break and if a break has worked for anyone? Help me. I have no idea how to deal with these feelings. Advice please.
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I have been with my boyfriend since I was pretty young and am thinking of taking a break because I fear in not ready to settle down yet because I don't know what else is out there.
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t3_31kvun
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Advice
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Having trouble enjoying Sunday dinners with Mom. The person I love the most, I can't seem to stand.
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Im a soon to be 28yr old male. I have lived on my own since 19 and have moved out of province a couple times for a total of 4 years. Other than that I have spent the rest of the 5 years living in my home town. Every week I go to my Moms for dinner. She was a single mom who raised me and my older brother. She worked unbelievably hard to make sure we were always comfortable and happy. But during my Sunday dinners I always find myself tuing her out and I know visually I'm giving her looks of bordom, even against my own conscience telling me to just go along with it. I know how petty it sounds but I just cannot stand when she talks with food in her mouth. Words fly out in a loud but slurred and distorted, dotted with bits of chicken and peas. But I cant seem to find a way to politely tell her to not talk with food in her mouth. She is a very strong woman but it seems any criticism from her 2 boys leaves her very embarrassed and defensive. The other part is kind of sad and it pains me, but it also seems to me like being single, and not even going on a date in nearly 28 years, she's lost the art of sharing a conversation. I could ask a simple question and get a 10 or 15 minute answer (that could be broken down to 2 minutes but she just repeats herself) without any place for my own opinion or follow up qestions for clarification. If I have something specific I need to talk about or get solved, it could take hours of round about repetitive conversation before I could even get close to thw information I was seeking. Thus I find myself avoiding most conversation, talking to her less. Which leads to when we to talk she has so much to talk about that I find myself yet again drowning in a one sided conversation. I really wish I could be closer to my mother. She doesn't have many other people to talk to and I can feel her loneliness and it hurts to think about. But when I get in the door I cant even fake my way through enjoying our sunday dinner conversations.
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im an asshole that can't listen to my mother simply talk.
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t3_4mp6r5
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dating_advice
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He [33M] doesn't know I [26F] saw him at the bar with her...
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Been seeing a new guy for a month after meeting online. He was upfront that he was just looking for a hook up, but we clicked insanely well when we met and have so much in common and as we got to know each other, we've become increasingly more affectionate and intimate aside from the omg best sex I've ever had. We call each other pet names, talk every couple of days, see each other once or twice a week (conflicting and demanding work schedules) and the dates have opened up to being not so hook up-y (dinner while he's on a long lunch break, asking me to sleep over), we've talked about the fact that we like each other way more than we expected we might and are open to seeing where this goes. Last week he was quiet but I decided to let it be rather than text him. We're not exclusive, so we've been seeing other people, still have our online dating accounts etc. Yesterday he texts to say he was thinking about me, I texted back a while later and heard nothing. Well, I go out later that night (on a date with someone else) and as I'm heading back to my car, I see him leaving a local bar with another woman at like 2am. A few hours after that, he texts me to say he had a busy week with work and was so wrapped up he had just gotten home from working some OT but that he missed me and couldn't wait to see me again and when he did he wanted to talk the night away until we fell asleep in each other's arms (mind you, I hadn't asked him what he was up to, he was just texting me to say he was getting out of work late and was thinking of me). I like this guy, but I don't like being lied to--especially at this stage where we're not exclusive and he has no reason to and he's he one pushing the intimacy forward. I'm not sure if I should say something about it, say nothing about it, say nothing at all and ghost? What would you do?
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casual hook up and I hit it off, and started seeing each other. We're not exclusive but I saw him at a bar with another woman when he had texted me and said he was at work--not cool with the lying. Is it worth saying something or nah?
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t3_3giter
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relationships
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I [24 M] am feeling guilty about my threesome fantasy which makes my [24 F] gf uncomfortable
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So my girlfriend is bisexual, and since she told me/we started dating 3 months ago, I all of a sudden began to fantasize sometimes about her, another girl, and me in a threesome together. Some nights when we weren't spending the night together I even masturbated to this fantasy. Yesterday we were talking, the subject was brought up, and I told her about this. She was appreciative that I had told her, but also admitted it made her feel uncomfortable.
I feel bad about this, and furthermore feel stuck because if it turns me on, it turns me on. I can't change that. I can choose not to engage that particular fantasy, but I don't want to feel like I'm constantly fighting against thoughts that deep down turn me on. I am completely fine not ever experiencing a threesome, and I love my gf and our sex life completely, but I'm feeling guilty it turns me on....what do I do?
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feeling guilty about the idea of a threesome turning me on when I'm in a relationship with another girl
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t3_4g8dz1
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relationships
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[20F] Looking for advice on how to maintain relationship of 1.5 years with BF [20M] while studying abroad
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From September of this year I'll be going on a year abroad - I'm from the UK and I'll be going to France for 9 months-1 year.
We're in a strong relationship but I was wondering if anyone had any personal experience of getting through a whole year of being apart.
We met at uni, so have periods during holidays where we go to our respective home towns - so we're pretty good at adapting to being long-distance, but spending such a long time away from each other is freaking me out a bit.
France and the UK are pretty close too - I'm sure others have it much worse - but do you have any advice on how to get through your year abroad without either losing contact or spending all your time on Skype to each other?
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Studying abroad next year, wondering how to adapt relationship to a year apart.
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t3_wp09g
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self
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I think I missed my chance.
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I was recently using Chatroulette and eating of cup of noodles when, whoa a cute girl pops on the screen. In this infinite sea of dicks did I finally find a girl? and an attractive girl at that?! Yes. I. Did. and it was great! We laughed, we cried (I lied we just laughed). All that is beside the point though. I'm not expecting anything but I would just like to get to know her a little bit more. If you come by this I had the glasses and the cup of noodles, then the cupid shuffle came on.
Ah, well that was embarrassing. I shall go to my corner now.^^^^^^:D
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I met a cute girl on chatroulette, I hope she see's this so I can get to know said cute girl.
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t3_2p0hhp
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relationship_advice
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I'm a 22 year old female. My best friend is a 27 year old male. Last night he told me he loves me as more than friends, and if I don't feel the same we can't be friends anymore. [UPDATE]
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I posted [this] forum question yesterday. A lot of you blamed me for leading him on, but that was not the case. Anyway, I called him up last night to talk, and he said he was already on his way over to me. It's a 45 minute drive, so while I waited, I showered and put on makeup. I have no idea why I subconsciously decided to get dressed up for him. I've never done that before. He came in, and .... long story short we slept together for the first time last night.
Now I want to say it was the best and most beautiful experience imaginable, but it wasn't. It was really awkward. This morning I had to go to work so I left coffee and breakfast cooking for him and he texted me when he got up. It's just so freakin strange. Honestly, I can't make eye contact with him. I feel like he's also feeling cheated. If he's spent as much time imagining us together as he says he has, I'm sure it's weird for him too.
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My friend told me he loves me yesterday. I told him I don't feel the same. Last night, he came over and we had sex for some unexplainable reason. The sex was awkward and weird, and now I can't even look at my best friend.
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t3_2d4b77
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relationships
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Guy(21) I've(19F) been saying didn't initiate sex and Im confused
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Me (19F) Him(21 almost 22)
I understand how bizarre this sounds but I am genuinely confused here. Ive been txting/seeing this guy I met who i quite like. we have only met a few times due to him living a fair distance away but the times we have hung out have been fun and relaxed.
So last night I agreed to stay at his house for the first time so I could meet his new puppy that he cancelled our last date to go and pick up. When I was with him though it felt like the chemistry we had previously was being blocked because he was paying so much attention into training this puppy. (its a rottweiler)
I wasn't sure if I wanted to have sex with him yet but Im immensely attracted to him so if he tried to I dont think I would have minded. When the time came to go to sleep the usual routine of kissing and cuddling happened more than once and things got pretty handsy, but never once did he actually try to initiate sex with me. Eventually we ended up sleeping without any genital touching and he took me home the next day.
This is not what I have encountered before with guys and while I'm not saying that its bad, i definitely am genuinely confused. Can someone please help me out here and give me answers on what might of been going on through his head?
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stayed over at a guy I've been seeings house and he didn't initiate sex
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t3_472hma
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relationships
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I [23 F] want to help inspire my boyfriend [23 M] to live a rewarding life. How do you do this in your relationships?
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I've been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year and recently I've felt an emotional distance between us. I think the time that we spend together is too often spent just "existing" next to one another. We had a conversation last night about it and both admitted the lack of motivation in our own lives. Although we love one another, he can't help but feeling that this relationship is enabling to him - which I agree on both sides. Selfishly though, I really don't want to end the relationship. There was a time when it was the best I've ever felt with another person and I am so hopeful that we can find ourselves back there. I keep thinking maybe if I work on improving myself and motivate him to do the same we can pull though together. Is this completely naive of me?
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How do you inspire your loved ones to feel rewarded by their own actions?
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t3_sqiq9
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AskReddit
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A logical explanation needed.
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So i was watching a video about eyelid surgery and i cut ahead of the intro to observe the procedure and the screen cuts black and starts having a unsettling radio static sound with a ringing, similar to silent hill's monster detected frequency, and my dog started to bark a bit. now im not a troll because i have nothing to gain from it so please don't ban me. I swear on my life i am being honest. Something like this also happened about a month ago where i was laying down to sleep with my i phone's speaker to my ear (for the alarm), because i sleep like a bear. and the same thing happened, except with a exhaling rhythm to it. I made sure i was awake, and i was; that only made me paranoid. So i turn om the light, play some of vampire weekends cheerer tracks, and play my ds until my brain was tired. I have experienced hallucinations in the past, because my local hospital gave me dilaudid through a iv for my CRPS. And in all fairness i always feel like im being watched. But this was real. But im not insane to the extent of my knowledge, i do have aspergers but i get along with people, im just shy. So please tell me im not insane.
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hearing strange stuff. similar bad stuff has happened, hope im mentally well.
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t3_2xy60d
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Advice
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Any advice to help my girlfriend with her depression?
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I don't know if this is the right place or not, but I'm just gonna post it here ...
Me and my GF has been together for 8 months, although we are now away from each other (I go study abroad), we are still deeply in love and I can see no near point in the future where we will breakup.
She studies Drawing/Graphic Design and as you may know studying art can sometimes be frustrating, seeing all the gifted people making so beautiful art while you cannot. She has the same problem. This combined with her currently not-so-high self-esteem led her into depression. She always tell me she has lost her passion towards drawing and design (said that she once has) and she now feel like it's a chore. She says sometimes she does it just for the grade, and can't really imagine herself doing that as a job anymore.
Honestly from my point of view she has the talent and all, but she just doesn't have the confidence. She still have one of the highest grade in her class, and I fixated my point on that. She keep looking at other people's art and feel bad about herself. I tried (and still trying) my best to lift her mood up everyday.
As a person who have found my own solid passion (computer science) I feel lucky but feel bad at the same time because I do not know how does it feel to be in her situation. Almost every night we skyped and she cries herself to sleep because of her lack of enthusiasm and motivation she once had.
So I turn to you to ask for advice. How do you help a person with depression about self-esteem? Is there any method or program? I know it's not easy and must take a lot of time, but I'm willing to help her.
Also please note that we come from a country where society and people are not as easy as in the EU/US. In our country people judge a lot on how we dress/look and therefore she also stressed by seeing all other classmates' works as well. Also, she tried therapists but they doesn't work ...
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My GF is in a somewhat extreme case of depression of self-esteem. She's studying art and always feel bad about her works comparing to others. What should I do?
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t3_12vn48
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relationships
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M[39] running out of mojo after a decade with F[32]
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I'll get right to it. My fiancée of 10 years told me today that she loves me, I make her laugh, but she doesn't find me physically attractive any more. There are moments when she thinks I'm "hot" but for the most part the spark isn't there like it used to be. This came up because we've gotten down to having sex about once a month and it is lackluster at best. If it matters I'm a 39 male and she is a 32 female. We're talking about ending things.
My question is for those of you in long-term relationships. I've heard that the mojo wears off but is this how that happens? Is this to be expected after a decade of being together or are we really as broken as she thinks we are? Has anyone had this problem and worked through it? Any tips or advice?
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Decade long relationship has embers instead of fire.
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t3_32gu7y
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relationships
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My gf[27 F] makes meeting my[27 m] sexual needs REALLY uncomfortable.
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Lately it's been getting harder and harder to ask my GF to help me out with my male needs. We just had a fight about the fact that she doesn't like doing things to get me off. I don't ask for a huge production but throughout my life, I never thought it a big deal to have these needs met by my SO. Whether it's HJ, BJ, or in any other form, help me with my needs.
We've been living together for over 4 years. (edit, This problem is about a year old) Whenever I try and initiate, or ask, or play, she either says no, or makes me feel uncomfortable or embarrassed that I asked in the first place. Its driving a wedge between us as well because I have to rely on alternative means such as hiding away and masturbating most of the time when pressure gets too high.
She doesn't like me masturbating, she says she would rather be involved but when push comes to shove, I end up dry humping her or asking her to touch me and she makes me look like a complete fool when she turns me down or says "oh, that's romantic." or "What am I a sex toy?". I've probably been rejected over 10 times this year so I've just about lost my will to ask.
So now I'm not sure what to do. She doesn't want me to masturbate, she doesn't want to be involved with me getting off in any other way. What the heck options are left? I've never experienced this kind of push back in any previous relationship. It's a GOOD thing that I want to be involved with my SO, and not somebody or something(porn) else.
What do I do? It's not like she doesn't know. We've been talking about it for over a day. She knows what my wants are. She knows I want her to be involved. But she still insists that I go about it the wrong way and I know the next time my pressure gets too high, I'll be way too embarrassed to try and involve her for fear of rejection.
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GF doesn't want to help me get off in any way, but obviously doesn't want me hiding away to have my needs met either. What do I do? Am I wrong?
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t3_4jelcx
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relationship_advice
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32[f] getting mixed signals 40[m]
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I am a female who has been good friends with a male co-worker for two years. In the past 8 months we became a lot closer, spending most of our time together.
My friend has a girlfriend and I have a boyfriend. His girlfriend recently had a baby and he was pretty happy about it. Shortly after, he started running hot and cold with me. He will pick fights or act moody. When I ask him what is wrong, he tells me "nothing " and gets irritated. I am admittedly a pain in the ass about it sometimes, and ask a lot. I worry that he is mad at me since he will act like a complete jerk. A few days later he will be back to acting normal.
It's to the point that I get stressed out because he is my only friend at work and I tell him more than my own boyfriend, sometimes, because we see each other so much. I tried to give him space the last time we had one of these awkward times and let him be for a few days. He sought me out and wanted to talk. I finally gave in and started falling back into the same routine of spending a lot of time together.
I am at a loss for how to deal with this. I know it's really vain of me to think that he is tired of / mad at me, for some reason, but I suffer from anxiety and always feel like maybe he really can't stand me.
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paranoid that friend doesn't like me because he runs hot and cold
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t3_3ipx7s
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relationships
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Girflriend [23 F] of 2 years treats me [24 M] with silent
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Within the semester break my girlfriend and I live apart from each other. We haven't seen us for almost 2 months now but get in touch everyday via WhatsApp and every now and then via Skype.
We had lots of arguments lately and I feel like I can't do anything right. The last time we texted she said I'm neither sweet, nor romantic. I know I wasn't very sweet but I think it's reciprocal. If she's sweet to me, I'm sweet to her. Also, it's how she said it. She's very demanding lately. She gives me the feeling that it's my duty to make her satisfied all the time.
But this time she insulted me with swear words, shutdown her cellphone and said "bye".
That was almost a week ago. I haven't heard of her yet.
On the one hand I want to talk to her but on the other hand I want her to apologize for insulting me first. That was really a cheap shot.
I feel like it's a power game she plays...
I don't know, it makes me sad.
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Temporary long-distance relationsship, little disputes freuently. A week ago she insulted me and doesn't text me since.
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t3_ccxsk
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relationship_advice
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How can I be more "manly?"
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I'm 20yo, male, straight, relatively attractive, in college.
From observation I have noticed that most of the girls around me tend to go after the more "manly" men. In my experience, I would not consider myself very manly. I am very comfortable with my sexuality, but I also admit to interests that most other guys (and most guys with girlfriends) never seem to admit. Here is an itemized list of what I feel sets me apart from those who are "manly."
1) I enjoy a lot of chick flicks. I am not afraid to tell girls this, I genuinely like them. I'm also not afraid to tear up at the pivotal points during a chick flick.
2) I love to dance. Now while you might think that real men dance, I'm not talking about partner dancing (though I enjoy that too). No, I like to dance my ass off to just about any song.
3) I really enjoy singing. Similar to dancing, I like to belt out songs at the top of my lungs. I don't do this too often in public, but I'm the kind of person who has no restraint from singing along with the radio in the car. People say I have a nice voice too (I have a singing background).
4) I am a very touchy-feely person. I show affection whenever I get the chance, and I don't see anything wrong with it.
To RA: How do you define someone who is "manly," and how I can be like this someone?
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I would not consider myself "manly." How do you describe a "manly" person?
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t3_4k6vdk
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relationships
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M [24] dating F [23], dating for a month, how to avoid one word annoying responses in chat
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I have been dating a girl since last month and we met a few times. One thing that annoys me in our chat conversations sometimes is that if I say something (which I think could ellicit a response or further question), instead of getting any response I get a one word response "Hmm".
Should I confront her about it? How should I let her know that I find it annoying?
I thought of the following message "Hey, can I say something .. please don't take it the wrong way. But I feel uncomfortable when you just say Hmm instead of responding something to my texts sometimes. I want to continue conversation with you but after a Hmm I feel like you are not interested."
I'm sure she's interested in me, based on our conversations at other times. But once in a while these Hmms just annoy me! A few times in the past I have asked what she means by Hmm and she gave different answers, like once she said "it means ok" and once she gave a one sentence reply on that topic of conversation.
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How to solve the problem of getting one word Hmm response? Through explicitly talking about the problem or something else?
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t3_4doyps
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relationship_advice
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My [f/20] boyfriend of 2.5 years [m/20] hates my best friend of 4 years [f/20] and wants me to stop seeing her
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So. I've been best friends with this girl for four years. She has been with me and helped me through the lowest parts of my life. I met my boyfriend 2.5 years ago and we've been on and off ever since. He has cheated on me multiple times and the first year and a half was lie after lie and he would blow me off then come crawling back when he got lonely. Obviously. Throughout all this I am venting to my best friend about it and obvious she is going to be protective over me. Anyway my boyfriend and I got back together about 10 months ago and have been faithful ever since and haven't broken up. But he gets pissed off every single time I see my friend because he feels threatened by her. I haven't seen her in 3 months and I barely talk to her. I want to see her again and I told him that and he freaked out and said I don't need unsupportive people in my life and that she's a shitty friend bc she gets mad when I get back together with him and told me if she's in my life, he doesn't want to be. And I said fine. I stood up for myself. And then he says, fine you can see her but just know I'm going to be miserable for our entire relationship as long as you have communication with her. WTF!? He is overreacting so bad. She really is not that bad of a person. She got pissed at me a couple times yeah bc she thought I was being stupid but she even said she would apologize to him and I told him that and it pissed him off even more!? We were about to move in together (my boyfriend and I) and he called it off and says he doesn't want to see me as much and hoped that I'm happy because he's miserable. Any advice here people. I am not willing to give up my friendship.
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my best friend said some bad things about my boyfriend because he has been a cheater in the past but still supports my decision to be with him. My boyfriend absolutely hates her and wants me to cut contact with her and says he will be miserable our entire relationship if I see her. What should I do
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t3_3vpwat
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relationships
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Me [29 M] My 25 [F] girlfriend (2 years) doesn't want kids but says she will have kids after we get married for me.
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We have been together for 2 years and both love each other. I have always thought of myself as the type of person to raise a family. She really wants to be married and I have been planning on proposing since we have a good relationship and get along well. We both have promising careers, still in the early stages though.
She doesn't want kids and just wants freedom but wants to be married. At first was like oh if you don't want kids then I wouldn't want to stop you (meaning I would have to find someone else). Later she said she would have 2 since she really wants to be married to me. I asked her if she could be happy having a family and she says she doesn't know she can't predict the future.
The last thing I would want to happen is for the kids to have a resentful mom. I don't want her to look at them in the future and think 'I could have gotten that promotion if not for these kids'.
What should I make of this? I was planning on proposing in three months. She said she could see going to the beach with kids and being fun. We would be living near her family so that would be a plus for her. I want both of us to get what we want and I feel a bit concerned that she would be doing this as a compromise.
I believe that relationships involve give and take and compromise to support each other's goals and reach the best situation overall. However kids is a serious issue. Does anyone have any experience with this type of issue? What do I make of this?
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Girlfriend doesn't want kids but will do it to make me happy.
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t3_49ql4q
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relationships
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My girlfriend [19F] and I [19F] have been together for three years, but things don't feel the same anymore, and I can't stop thinking about a girl I barely know.
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Hi r/relationships, I've never posted here before but:
My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years, and it's the first long term relationship both of us have had. We both feel entirely in love and have never had many problems between us. However, recently I just don't feel as attatched to her. Nothing has changed as far as I can see, and there's nothing that she has done wrong, I just feel that things have changed. I don't want to discuss it with her yet though because I'm still early in my thinking about all of this, and don't want to end up spontaneously leaving her and ending on a bad note, or just apologising profusely and continuing on the way we are now.
None of this is helped by the fact that on a recent residential trip we both went on with our University, a girl there studying a different course to both my girlfriend and myself caught my eye. Not because she was particularly the best looking girl I've ever seen who's way out of my league or anything, I just felt really into her. We spoke a little bit and had a laugh, but with there being a lot of other people around, we we both also mingling with the other people there.
I have this other girl on various social media as she has been an aquaintence for a while, and ever since the trip, for some reason I can't stop thinking of her, and feeling less into my girlfriend, and I feel terrible about it. I constantly feel the urge to message the girl I met - but definitely not to cheat on my current girlfriend.
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Don't feel as attatched to girlfriend of 3 years anymore. Simultaneously I have a good ol' fashioned teen crush feeling towards an aquaintence.
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t3_hvwvo
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AskReddit
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Sister is becoming a "taker." What do I do now?
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She has a University degree. Each job she's had is worse than the previous one. She calls in sick, makes mistakes and does the least amount of work possible. Everything is to take, take, take. She's got our parents to buy her a car and buy all her kids clothes. (She's divorced again and the dad's are out of the picture.) Now her last kid is turning 18 and she's calling me to borrow money and cry on my shoulder. She makes all the wrong decisions and then complains she's unlucky and can't get a break. She's been treated for depression, but doesn't do the things she's supposed to. Now she's working part time getting paid under the table to avoid taxes and having her rent raised so she's committing fraud. I gave her some tough talk yesterday saying the only reason she calls is to get something and cry on my shoulder. I have some stuff going on, too, but she just kept getting back to her issues. I said no, I can't talk to her about her problems she needs to see a professional. Any advice? Was I too hard on her? Should I feel guilty?
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Told princess sister to get real and now feel guilty.
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t3_1qushi
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relationship_advice
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I'm [40/m] dating a incredibly sexy [46/f], we both said we don't do relationships, but I have fallen for her
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I am a divorced man of 40, not bad looking and in the 3 years since I split from my ex-wife I have met dozens of women.
About 3 months ago, a barmaid in a local pub told me her friend liked me, we exchanged numbers and arranged to go on a date. I could not really remember what she looked like as I had drank quite a lot. I met her the following week and was absolutely blown away by how attractive she was. The date went well and she came back to mine, and we stayed up chatting until the early hours.
I really liked her and we continued to go on dates, or she would come around and we would drink wine, listening music, chat, and have sex.
We both had said that we don't do relationships; she had an ex-boyfriend she had to see as a business partner, but he would stay at hers' as he lives in a different city. I was dating several other woman at the same time and was open about it with my partner.
But as time went on I started to fall in love with her and let my emotions rule my mind. I was starting to get jealous about her ex and would sleep with other girls just to make myself feel better.
We had a fall out on Thursday, so I slept with another girl on Friday night, I sent my partner flowers on Saturday morning and spent all day drinking as I was love sick. She rang and thanked me for the flowers and came to the pub to meet me. We had a couple of drinks and went home for some wine. I acted like a pain in the arse and she left, so I went into town and pulled another girl and slept with her Saturday night.
My partner has only ever dated multi-millionaires and famous people - I am neither of these things, and no in my heart of hearts it will never work. I can't hand being a friend with benefits when I am in love with her. Is the right thing to do; to cease all contact with her, or can I fall out of love with her and maintain a FWB relationship?
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Can I maintain a relationship with an FWB when I am in love with her, but she won't commit to mutual exclusivity?
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t3_uf0dp
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relationship_advice
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[22/M] - Havent had sex in 2 years...need advice
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Okay, so as the title says, I am 22 and havent had ANY sexual contact with a girl in about 2 years (no kisses, boob grabs..nothing). Im not a virgin, I have had multiple sexual partners before and this is the first time ive ever gone this long without any sexual contact since I was like...13. A little about myself, im shy,shorter(5'6") and bald and a soccer player and living at home for the time being until friends move back into town, and im going to school to be a nurse. Im not ugly, but being short and bald doesnt help my cause. I also suffer from social anxiety and I am socially awkward, meeting new people (especially cute girls) my heart races, I can hear my heart pounding in my ears and my adrenaline starts going off and I get flustered. I take 10mg Citalopram every day (prescribed by doc) and I am a occasional smoker of the ganj. Also, I go out to bars and clubs with my friends every once in a while, but when im there I usually will not look at other girls and will not approach them. Its like I get tunnel vision and am only thinking about not looking stupid in front of all these attractive ladies.
I would like to know if anyone else has gone through this and beat it, what did you do? Any advice on what I should I do? I feel like I have a list of things stacking against me and cant think of a way to make this any better except by moving out. How do you approach new (attractive) people and talk to them? I feel like people have a script given to them when they talk to new people and I missed that handout. Help me reddit, any advice is welcome.
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no sexual contact for 2 years, I have social anxiety. Need advice how to beat it and talk to cute girls.
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t3_1v2w8p
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pettyrevenge
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Allow me to demonstrate how annoying your behavior is.
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This happened a few years ago when I was still in the Navy. I was having lunch on the mess decks during March Madness (huge college basketball tournament for non-Americans). The mess decks have huge TV's at ever corner and they're almost always playing ESPN. The tables closest to the TV's were, ahem, typical basketball demographic. I'm not much of a sports fan, but I can understand that some people can get really into them. It's one of those things you really can't avoid.
These guys were LOUD. They were shouting to each other from right across the table, they were jumping up and down, banging their fists on the table, and making quite a spectacle. I had just gotten done working a shift in the engine room, and was having more difficulty talking to my friend across the table than I was standing in between 2 70,000 HP steam turbines.
My friend and I shot each other annoyed glances whenever their hootin' and hollerin' would get especially loud. Eventually I decided I'd had enough. So I started yelling to my friend across the table.
Me: "HOW'S THE CHICKEN!!!!!"
Him: "IT'S NOT THAT BAD, BUT I THINK I SHOULD'VE GOTTEN THE PASTA INSTEAD!!!!! HOW IS IT!?!?!"
Me: "I GOT ONE OF THE TOP CRUSTY PIECES SO IT'S NOT THAT GREAT!!!! WHAT DID YOU GET FOR DESSERT!?!?!"
And so on and so forth. Eventually a couple other tables joined in the conversation about the quality of the cuisine that day, effectively drowning out the hysteria surrounding the basketball replays.
[The reaction of the basketball fans](
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I'm a racist
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t3_12y4rf
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relationships
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Explaining to a person you found someone else [21 m] [24 m]
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So a while ago, I [21] started going out on a few casual dates, and ended up meeting a few great people. Eventually though I started clicking very well with one of the people, and we started to see each other exclusively.
Today one of the people I had gone on a few dates with (4 times, slept together once) sent me at ext saying he wanted to meet up again. I told this to who I am seeing right now, and he is fine with me meeting up with the other guy in person to let him know I am seeing someone now. It's been about a month since me and the guy who I am not dating had actually met up in person, and we've exchanged a handful of texts since then. Me and the guy who I am exclusive with have only been exclusive for about half a month, so everything is still very new.
So the issue I am having is I am terrible at doing this, and I have no idea how to say that I am seeing someone now without seeming like a total prick. Any advice on what I could do or say?
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I am in a new relationship, and need to tell someone who I was on more than a couple dates I am not open to dating anymore in person without sounds like a total prick.
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t3_w98to
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AskReddit
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My friend did something really bad, and i am trying to help him fix it, but i don't want to get in trouble for it either. what do i do?
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My friend and a few others were making fun of this one girl, and i found out she already cuts herself and does some bad stuff, and they went around the whole school and spread a rumor about her. I was trying to help my friend find a way to apologize, (and to be honest, at first i found the rumor to be funny, until i found out the girl had some serious emotional issues), and figure a way out. Is the fact that i'm trying to help him going to get me in trouble, or not? Also, how do you suggest he make it better?
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Is chatting with someone who did something that might put another person's life in danger going to get me in trouble?
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t3_41xflc
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offmychest
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Everytime I talk about moving away they do this.
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My family likes to try to find ways to keep me here when I discuss job openings. They don't like me and the feeling is mutual? So why do they do this? Because of the grandkids. See, if I left, it would mean my two children would go with me and they would never see them again. I've had my mother make up some pretty cruel accusations about me and even try to get me back together with my abusive ex. When I started calling her out on her emotional abuse, of course she is quick to call me a liar. It's sad that she would rather label me with illnesses when speaking about me to our former nanny, than own up to her awful past behavior. Lately, I think she's realized it will take more than ruining my image to keep me here. She has instead been trying to hint that I'm not good enough for the job positions I've been seeking. She even let's my sister chime in with the passive aggressive behavior. I really wish the people that my family converse with would get to know me instead of listening to them and then treating me like I'm disabled or the source of some huge inside joke. The only reason I'm posting this here is because I realized today that people I work with actually do have access to this "social media" account. Enjoy, trolls. See you tomorrow.
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my mom essentially plays the "hush child, it's the fever talking" card when not wanting to own up to her emotional abuse .
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t3_r2wly
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relationships
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My parents don't care at all about any of my accomplishments and it's really starting to get to me.
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I'm 17 [f] and live with my dad and stepmother. I turn 18 in less than a month and naturally am getting ready to go to college. I've been accepted to two AMAZING schools for electrical engineering, and have received pretty sizable scholarships from both. School A is giving me 12k a year (so far anyway- I have yet to get my financial aid package in the mail) and they cost about 44k a year. Meanwhile, School B is offering to give me 42k a YEAR that I don't have to pay back, and their total expenses are about 51k a year.
I told my parents about both of these, very excited, and their reactions were, "Okay, and? What's your point?" I'm fairly used to them not really giving a shit about my accomplishments, but I feel like these are a pretty big deal. I'm also being inducted into my town's hall of fame next week and they offered no congratulations or praise, only frustration that they had to sit through an induction dinner.
Like I said, they have never really cared. Last year, they even forgot about my birthday completely. For years, I've just dealt with it and tried not to let it bother me, but by now I feel like they've just torn me down. Like the only reason they care about me is because I'm essentially a live in babysitter for my 3 year old brother (I watch him by myself for roughly 40 hours or a week, and have never asked for, nor been offered any compensation at all).
I just don't know how much more I can take. My dad called me "borderline fucking retarded" last quarter because of a 94 in AP economics. Even though my overall average was a 99.6 %. Reddit, I feel so defeated. So heartbroken. I feel like I will never be good enough for this family. My dad is a paramedic and my stepmom is a nurse... Neither one of them have received a degree higher than an associates.
Reddit, I just don't know what to do anymore. Please help.
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My parents don't give a fuck about my hard work and I feel completely heartbroken and defeated. Please help.
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t3_32ojie
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tifu
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TIFU by testing out my sons new drone
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This JUST happened. (novel hey!)
I bought my son a drone for his birthday, it just got delivered and i decided to check it was working (or generally just play with it before he smashes it to shit)
So unpacked, charged battery and the sodding thing just won't fly. I've watched the videos, I've googled everything i possibly can, and i fear it's faulty.
So i contact the shop, explain the problem in email, bend down to pick it up and knock the controller onto the floor. I then see 2 little black knobs fly off.... awesome, those are the two "joy stick" thingies.
So in essence, i have a drone that doesn't fly and is almost impossible to control if/when it does.
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tried out my sons new toy, broke it.
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t3_zwsfy
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AskReddit
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What are some of the things people have done to define your opinion of them?
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This morning my brother ran past the hallway leaving a trail of crap. He apparently ate a bad burger at a friends house. This hallway is the only way for me to get to the rest of the house so i have been jumping past the trail the entire day to get anywhere. He REFUSES to clean it claiming he is too sick. Meanwhile he sits his fat arse by his computer casually talking to others. The entire house is beginning to stink, my mother wont do anything about it, and he generally does not give a fuck if its there or not. He's always been a spoiled arrogant little shit, but this.. I mean seriously, who the fuck can honestly be that fucked up? He also shit on his bed but just turned it over like nothing fucking happened. WHAT THE FUCK...
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Brother left a trail of shit, wont clean it
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t3_1p5sp9
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relationships
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How do I [17M] stop having feelings for my ex-gf [17F] of three months?
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About three months ago, my girlfriend of seven months broke up with me. She was my first girlfriend and I her second boyfriend. I thought we were great together, we were great friends for about a year before I asked her out. In the relationship we never really had any problems at all, until she randomly stops being affectionate and then a few days later tells me she fell in love with me as a friend, and wanted that back. I tried for a bit to stay acquaintances, but it was too hard. We talk occasionally now, but the problem is that I cant get her off my mind.
I'm a high-school senior, I'm actually class president, and I'm involved in a bunch of clubs, so I'm not a total loner, I talk to a lot of girls, many of whom are awfully attractive and smart, as my ex-gf was. My ex-gf and I share one class, and I see her in the halls sometimes, but that's it. I don't know what to do to stop thinking about her in that way. I really loved her, and, as far as I know, I was a fantastic boyfriend, she was always my top priority. Her on the other hand, after she broke up with me I realized that she really wasn't all that great of a gf, I was always second tier to her friends and such. How do I stop having feelings for her? I haven't told anyone, outside of who's reading this about it. More time may be just what I need.
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Dated a girl for seven months, broke up three months ago, I can't stop having feelings for her, even though I'm very social and talk with other girls. She was my first girlfriend.
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t3_1mmpeu
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relationships
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Really confused and not sure what to do about my [23M] ex [21F] who's still my best friend 1 year after the break up of a 2.5 year relationship.
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Okay me [23M] and my ex [21F] got to know each other while she was in a bad relationship and I helped her as she got out of it. We moved in together rather quickly after her breakup and started dating.
About a year into our relationship she started to spiral down into her depression and I became more of a crutch that she would use to hide from the world. We tried to fix it as well as we knew how but as a broke couple we couldn't afford counseling and things were so far gone that by the time we really realized it we couldn't dig our selves out.
So after a little over a year of hoping we would snap out of it we reluctantly ended it. We stayed away from each other for a good while (about 8 months) but over the last 3-4 we've become really close friends and I find I'm still in love with her.
I know she's no where near ready to be starting a relationship as she's still fighting to overcome her anxiety and depression. But I still care and am doing everything I can to be there for her. And she does know I still have feelings for her but we are trying not to let that get in the way of just being friends for now. She has said eventually she might be ready to try again but no time in the foreseeable future.
Just wondering if anyone has been In a similar situation and has any advice.
And to add to this I'm not putting my personal life on hold for her I am trying to put myself out there and start other relationships, but it does seem like even for her faults no one is quite as amazing as she is to me.
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good friends with Ex and still have feelings for her. not sure where to go from here.
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t3_1ov93g
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relationship_advice
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[22/M] Confused over way [20/f] Ex is behaving towards me
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This is quite a long story but to cut it as short as possible: was seeing this girl from my uni for about a month earlier this year. She ended it as I said something which she took the wrong way and it hurt her quite a lot. However we still talk every day and she considers me the only person she can talk to at uni about personal/emotional issues (never about other guys though) and that I'm her only friend here. She recently told me that I need to get over her as I still had really strong feelings for her. However last week, she got really upset as I had to cancel plans we had made for her to come to mine, watch films, I'd cook her dinner and then go to a quiz with our friends as my cousin who lives the other side of the world came on short notice to visit. So I don't know what to make of this, any help Reddit?
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Ex got upset when I cancelled plans to see her, what does this mean?
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t3_14ncyg
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pettyrevenge
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I hope your bedsheets were real effing sticky
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I have a little revenge story. It's nice and petty, and it has a special place in my heart as my first act of satisfying small revenge ever.
My freshman year of college, I was doing some laundry in my building. The washer was done, and although there weren't many machines open, I found an available dryer close to mine, opened it up, and put a dryer sheet in. I step a few feet down to take my clothes out of my washing machine, gather them in my arms to throw up into the dryer, and turn around to find a guy pushing a button on my machine to start it and quickly walking out of the room.
I had to walk across the room (which because of the layout requires walking out of the room and in a different entrance) to find another available dryer, dropping some articles of clean wet clothing on the dirty basement floor along the way (I didn't have a basket, only my cloth hamper I didn't want to get all wet).
At this point I wasn't sure the guy was aware that he stole the machine I was already halfway using and fucked my shit up, but in a way his obliviousness made me even angrier. I poured a capful of detergent, made sure he was gone and nobody else was on their way in, and paused his machine. I opened it up, poured the detergent on his two bedsheets (which by the way would have been much easier to wad up and carry across the room than two armful of socks and t-shirts), and started it back up. I left, and never found out how it turned out. To be honest, I'm still curious to know exactly what detergent added to a dryer load will do.
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Guy makes me drop my wad on what was supposed to be a dryer run, gets something of a mess on his sheets.
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t3_2ul403
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relationships
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When to bring up my (28m) cognative behavior therapy with new guy (27m) that could become potential partner.
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So I (28f) started chilling with a guy (27m) I met online. So far we've just been out a few times and kissed, we get along really well and have a lot in common. We come from totally different backgrounds but they are surprisingly compatible in the scheme of things. He's a nice guy and we've talked about long term and short term goals in what we are looking for with a relationship, which are eerily similar.
I'm currently in DBT, for a history of severe childhood abuse and neglect as well as a whole mess of other things. I wont elaborate on what it is, but definitely google it if youre interested. Basically, I know my issues, I want to get better, and I'm changing myself so I can better focus on my goals. I'm excited!
So my mental health is generally something I don't necessarily talk about, but something is telling me that I feel comfortable enough around this guy to bring it up. The chances of a long term relationship may not even be on the table, because he's applying for med schools all over the country. But my career allows me to work anywhere in the world, so I don't know what could happen.
I need to be open about it, because it can sometimes open up a lot of difficult emotions and it's mentally taxing.
I just want to know the best time and best way to tell him. We're still fresh and there's no commitment, so I think it would be a good time to do it.
Thank you for any feedback :')
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want to tell a guy I like that I'm fixing myself, wondering how best to do it.
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t3_239rlu
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relationship_advice
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[20/m] Not sure if she [19/f] is interested in me anymore, how should I advance?
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Some background info will probably help. So I have met this girl back in November but I have been so busy that I didn't have time to get to know her better. In March this year I have finally come round to meeting with a group of friend together with her. This only lasted a month since she does not live in the same country as me and went back to her parents. Now she is coming back in a month or so. From the get togethers it seemed like she was interested in me (generally being friendly towards me and most of all prolonged eye contact whilst smiling at random moments). I am generally a bit shy and quiet (also I have no dating experience) so I probably didn't come across as someone that is interested in her. Now that she has left I tried to chat with her facebook, however it's a bit of a one way conversation, I try to keep the conversation going but she doesn't, but at the same time she is not just ignoring me (I ask her about something she will always answer not in a way that you would answer to someone that is bothering you and you want to ignore - not sure how else to explain this. Also she will always put at least one smiley emoticon in there - this is probably a bit of a childish observation but not something I would do if I were trying to get rid of the person)
These mixed messages got me so confused now is she interested in me or not and don't know how to progress with this.
Some things I have though of:
-Straight up ask her about it.
-Wait until she comes back and ask her out in person.
-Keep trying to talk to her on fb.
I would probably just wait until she comes back (I would prefer to get to know her in person rather then online) but I'm kind of worried that she might just think I'm not interested.
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Met a girl, though she was interested in me now that I talk to her on fb it doesn't seem that way.
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t3_550fpe
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relationships
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I (25M) feel insecure about my girlfriend's (24F) past
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Hey guys, I know you probably get this question a lot but this has really been bugging me and I don't know what to do. We've been dating for 5 months now.
I found out today that my girlfriend has slept with 27 guys. I have slept with only 5 girls and all of them have been long term relationships.
I've realized that in reality, it's not her past that's bothering but my own insecurity. I love her and we have so much fun together, but part of me wants to end this relationship because I need to be more confident in myself... and I feel like for the sake of this relationship and future relationships I should bring my number up so that I wouldn't feel as inadequate.
Please help me... I feel sick to my stomach thinking of all the guys she has slept with even though it is perfectly normal for her to do so.
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I am insecure about my girlfriend's past and I want to know if I should end the relationship or not.
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t3_yuxs9
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AskReddit
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Reddit, I once got a kid to drink my piss to get back at him (when I was 4). When have you tasted sweet revenge?
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My mom regularly babysat a four-year-old when I was four. One morning his mom brought him over before work. He found me in the next room playing with my blocks and sucker punched me right in the stomach. The little effer ran and hid by the front door where our moms were still talking. I marched up to him with [pure rage in my eyes] and hit him in the gut as hard as I could. Needless to say I was in 'timeout' most of the day for that.
Well, I was a calculating little bastard, so I planned my revenge. A few days later when no one would think I was still mad I took a little water pistol, filled it with my own piss, and [convinced him that he needed a drink of water] from my water gun. Several squirts later (and perhaps because I had a [huge satisfied grin on my face] he realized something [didn't taste right] Even though I got caught and in plenty of trouble, it was totally worth it.
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Kid unwittingly drank my piss, and deserved it.
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t3_3uskzm
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relationship_advice
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My boyfriend [19/m] and I [19/f] have a pretty big difference in values, and I'm not sure if we should break up
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My boyfriend and I (who have been dating for over three years) go to different colleges, 4 hours away from each other. He's been getting really involved in his campus church group, a little bit last year and even more this year. Therefore, due to religious reasons, he's made a new boundary for us that we can no longer "touch with the intent to arouse." There was a time when we were having sex, until he decided that was too much. I have no such religious values and was fine with that, but now that he's blocked off a physical relationship of any kind, I'm not sure what to do. In no way do I want to cross his beliefs, but I'm not sure if I like being forced to follow such extreme rules I don't believe in at such a point in our relationship? I'm also not sure if the other parts of our relationship are strong enough to balance out removing any kind of passion we had. I know he loves me, but this confusion is clogging up my mind like peanut butter in a drainpipe.
(Crossposted to r/relationships)
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Boyfriend got extra religious, is cutting off "physical" aspect of our relationship- should I just go with it?
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t3_1igvcr
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relationships
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Me[20M] with my coworker [20F] a few weeks, was it inevitable?
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I've been seeing this coworker of mine for the past few weeks. A week or so ago I told her I had feelings for her and was interested in her, and she said the feeling was mutual.
We hung out almost every night since then, and when we couldn't, we were making plans and texting each other. Then last week while we were watching Breaking Bad we started holding hands, playing footsie, and we even made out after she asked me to kiss her.
After hanging out I asked her out to a movie tonight and she said yes. The movie went great and we went out for ice cream afterwards. We then went back to my place to watch Breaking Bad some more and we got to making out again.
I've been falling for this girl for some time now because she's really helped me out in the past few months. We've been becoming better and better friends and this date tonight sealed the deal that I had pretty much fallen for her. After a pretty intense make out session, I told her I wanted to be her boyfriend.
Except when I told her that, she got quiet, and then said, "We should probably talk about this."
She told me that she didn't want a relationship and all that, because "she's a mess" and "bad at relationships". She doesn't think she'll be living here all too long, and doesn't want to get into anything before having to leave. It sucked to hear, especially since we had gotten so close over the past few weeks.
I told her that I understood if she didn't want a relationship right now, but that was how I felt, and she deserved to know. We finished the episode of Breaking Bad on pretty good terms, we still want to hang out and see each other because we share a lot of common interests.
I wonder, though, did I throw it all away? Was telling her I wanted a relationship a bad thing? Did I have a shot in the first place or was I delaying the inevitable?
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Hung out with a girl, made out with said girl, told girl I wanted her to be my girlfriend, she doesn't want anything serious. Did I screw it up?
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t3_42ofp2
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tifu
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TIFU by releasing The Kraken
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This fuck up actually happened last night, but we all know that doesn't really matter.
So I am a college freshman who was bored last night and decided it would be a good idea to drink my stashed rum and play video games. This particular rum was The Kraken, as you may have already inferred from the title, and was down to about one third of the 1.75mL handle. Anyways, the night starts out pretty well. My roommate was out and I had a friend over to drink and play video games with. As the night progresses, I realize that the bottle is almost empty. I figured that we could probably just finish off The Kraken tonight. Thanks to this genius thought of mine, I blacked out in the middle of Mario Party 2...
I woke up in my bed, covered in my own puke. Initially that doesn't sound too bad. Just have to shower and wash my sheets, right? So, while still being drunk, I do a load of laundry. Unfortunately, as I take my sheets, comforter, and pillow cases out of the dryer, I notice that they all still have puke on them (my university's washing machines are real pieces of shit). So I take them back to my room and begin hand washing them with fucking dawn to try to get my puke stains out. As I am doing this I notice that my mattress and pillows also have puke stains. Ok, it's a hassle, but definitely still manageable. I figure at this point I can try my best to hand wash everything and then rewash it all, except for the mattress, in the washing machine. And here's where the fuck up gets worse.
At my university you have to use your student ID to pay for the washing machines and dryers. Every student gets $100 on their account that works just for laundry. If you run out of money on your account, you can send a request to get it refilled within 5 business days. You probably know where I'm going with this... My account is currently down to $1 and now I have to wait several days before I can wash everything.
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Thought I wasn't a lightweight, blacked out, puked all over bed, and have no money to wash everything.
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t3_2b6ih7
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relationships
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Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [17 F] of a 16 months aren't similar anymore
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Me and my girlfriend have been dating on and off for the last 5 years, we started way to early but we somehow end up together again every time. We've broken up 4 times and gotten together 5, this time for almost 16 months.
8 months ago we stopped having sex, which wasnt a huge deal, 5 months ago we stopped being physically intimate. And now when we hang out we jus watch TV or eat.
We have never really talked about anything besides us and I cant stand that. I've been thinking about breaking it off with her which I most likely will. We've been together for so long now that she is no longer the person i started dating, we dont have any common interests anymore and its always a constant struggle for what we do.
too make things worse, i recently met a girl who i have a lot of things similar with, including hobbies, sense of humor, general demeanor. the thing is I dont know how I'd get along without my current girlfriend because I work for her dad, and her mom is a mentor to me and is helping me get through EMT school.
I dont want to be unhappy in this relationship anymore because I'm unhappy and this new girl makes me happy when we talk and do paperwork and what not. She actually likes talking about what I like. So the main question is is there a point of return, and should I bother
because Im going off to college next year and wont be with the current girl anymore anyways.
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Me and my girlfriend have grown apart and now I think I found someone better suited for me. How long (if at all) do I try and fix a long term relationship and not just go for this new girl?
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t3_p1vzr
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AskReddit
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Probably heard this story a million times but i still need help or assurance or something.
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My girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 years. We started my senior year in high school, she was a junior. We did really well even when I went to college. Were 4 hours away from each other but we still keep in touch a lot with Skype, phone calls and such. Though for some reason after winter break things got worse to the point where she thought we should take a break. Reluctantly I agreed and we agree on a short break. The next week I saw her talking other guys on facebook and I felt so lonely I felt like she was moving on. So I did what was the only thing that could make me happy chug a handle of vodka. I was a mess but my friends still insisted on taking me out. When we got to the party I tried to do my best to have fun but it was obvious I wasn't. A close friend who is a girl saw this and came over to talk to me and started to comfort me rubbing my back holding me. So me being shit faced and depressed look right at her face and she came close to kiss me and I let her. She took me tp her room and we started to kinda grind up on each other but then she tried taking my shirt off and I realized that this isnt what I wanted that I still loved my girlfriend. So I pushed her away and straggered up to my room where I cried for till I threw up and pasted out. I waited for a few days before I told her because I was such a wreak emotionally I couldn't even go to class or talk to my friends. I told her a couple days later I told her and she went off. She told me how mad she was and she couldn't even imagine touching her anymore. Needless to say I pretty much balled my out from 7 p.m to 4 a.m. She still wont really talk to me and when she does all we cant get anywhere and I cry. Please I don;t know what I need advice, an opinion, help I just need something to help.
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I took a break with my girlfriend made out with anther girl and now things are fucked up and need help.
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t3_3gtoxm
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relationships
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I [20 M] am scared of commitment, and it is hurting my relationship with my girlfriend [19 F]
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I began dating my girlfriend much earlier this year. I had a few casual relationships, and in a college setting, was not looking for anything serious. But then I met my girlfriend.
I did not believe that I could be so attracted to someone, both for their personality and appearance, but I met her. We spent a few weeks together, and then started dating. She is absolutely wonderful.
Now it has been a while, and the "new relationship" feeling has started to subside. I still feel so strongly about her, and how amazing she is, but I can't shake a feeling of anxiety. I am about to go back to school, and before my relationship I had been strongly engrained in the single life.
I know that I love her, but I cannot let my guard down to feel totally comfortable with her. She picks up on this, and we have talked about my fear of commitment before. She has been totally supportive and has done absolutely everything to make me comfortable.
How can I truly allow myself to be immersed in my relationship? I am hoping to stop being so guarded, but have not been able to on my own.
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My fear of commitment has made me feel like I cannot be comfortable in my relationship, despite how strongly I feel for my SO.
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t3_1s76bc
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relationships
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Me [21 F] with my ex [21 M] we dated for 5 yrs on and off, feeling jealous and wanting to move on.
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My ex boyfriend and I have been broken up for a year now, going to be two in May. We broke it off because of a silly reason due to a terrible friend we had. Also he was the first guy i ever dated we did a lot things together.
Fast forward to now, he recently got a new gf, which is great I always support his decisions, but I feel like I'm being a jealous jerk. But the weird thing is about this new girl is shes like a shorter version of me and all of our friends agree on that. Shes a really nice person and I like her.
I always keep myself away from their problems, but me and the new gf went shopping and she broke down crying in the mall over him. I couldnt let her keep crying in front of all those people, so I talked to
him about them. Mind you they only been together for 2 months. She was stressing over him.
Later after I apparently fixed things we go to game night the next night after all that. She then gets mad at him for shooting a nerf gun at me calling it flirting, he was running around the room getting everyone. Next game night she spends an hour under a blanket crying because he was talking to me.
This time i didnt go to the game night, Ive been excluding myself so i dont stress her out and myself. I still miss him and im worried that my presence is going to ruin their relationship. Even though he told her that he still talks to me and he asked her if she can handle it. I feel like im being jealous and i never truely got over him.
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Ex bf got a new gf I'm feeling a little jealous im not sure how to move on, i am currently seeing someone but he doesnt know how to talk to me about this.
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t3_1qiaj2
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relationships
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me (19F) with my boyfriend (19M). I can't control my feelings of jealousy because his sister is going to my dream school that I couldn't go to because it was so expensive.
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So here's the deal: my boyfriend and I have been long distance for a year, together about 2 (we were high school sweethearts). He goes to cornell and my dream college was ithaca college (both are in ithaca ny) I ended up not being able to go because it was too expensive for my family. Instead, I'm going to a shitty state school in massachusetts because its so cheap. I don't hate it here, I've made good friends and I'm doing well, it just hurts when I think about it.
so basically his sister is in the grade below me and is probably going to ithaca college. his family is a lot wealthier than mine. he keeps talking about it, CONSTANTLY, saying how great it'll be that they can be in the same city. I'm not going to pretend to be happy for her, I know it sounds awful, but I can't!! I know I'm being a brat, it just hurts my heart and makes me really sad. I feel like I deserved to go there more/am a lot smarter and it just sucks. I sound like such a stupid, 1st world bitch right now. Its everything- ithaca college would have put me in the same city as him so we wouldn't have to struggle with an LDR, I fell in love with the college..idk.
Should I say something to him?
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BF's sister got into my dream college (i couldn't go bc I couldn't afford it.) he keeps talking about it. I want to kill him.
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t3_4n9ef1
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relationships
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Me [27 M] broke up with my girlfriend [25 F] of three years earlier today
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So I hadn't been feeling good for a long time about the relationship I had with my girlfriend of 3 years. She was very demanding, we would bicker, she didn't understand me very well I felt. The relationship did not feel good at all during some of it even if most of it was good/ok. I felt like we loved each other a lot but that she didn't or couldn't understand me and we had strife because of it.
I broke it off with her earlier today and I have a huge pit in my stomach. I feel like I made a large mistake and she won't talk to me and I don't really know where to go from here. I feel like I just did something incredibly stupid even though it made sense? Why does this hurt so much and would it be this way even if I did the right thing? Why am I in such a panic? I feel very alone right now...
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Is my panic a sign of my regret or am I just afraid of change or what?
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t3_2ygn45
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relationships
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Me [16M] with my crush [17F]. Got friendzoned, best way to get over her?
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So basically I've liked this girl since early December and she has known since mid Decemberish. About mid January we started properly speaking and at the beginning of February I took her on our first date (Note: I've previously had a gf, she's never had a bf).
It all went well, we went for a meal and then to the cinema (had a cuddle). Then I walked her to her bus stop, we parted and both went home.
The next week was valentines day and we went to a 'gathering' at a friends house, as we both have the same social group. We all took a few shots, then my crush and me got off, went to watch a movie and cuddled. Later she was sick (from too much alcohol) so I looked after her and stayed with her overnight.
Next week we go on another date, go to the cinema, cuddle, get off etc...
We see each other the next Monday in college, and after that I don't see her for the rest of the week and the week that follows as it was mock exams and I went away on a geography trip.
During my trip she started replying less and less to the point where I'd get one reply per day. I just presumed that she's busy with revision.
So today in college she comes up, asks me how my trip was etc, then asks whether we can go talk outside, to which I happily agree thinking nothing of it, but unfortunately she breaks the news and tells me she only likes me as a friend but she enjoyed the dates and that she's really sorry. At this point I'm lost for words so all I say is 'alright', she gives me a hug and we go to our lessons.
Right now I'm really devastated as I really liked her and was not expecting this.
I have my first exams in May, yet she is still on my mind and I need to get over her so that I can focus on my work. Any tips or advice? I don't want to make it awkward either.
Thanks for reading.
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Didn't see crush for 2 weeks, come back and I've basically been friendzoned. Need advice on moving on quick as I have exams in 2 months!
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t3_29gapm
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relationship_advice
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My cousin's [18/f] Ex [19/m] wont own up to his mistakes and is taking it out on her and her best friends.
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My cousin dumped her ex (They dated for about 1.5 years) a few months ago. He ignored her for most of the relationship and forced her to do many things she didn't want, so she moved on. She started dating her best friend about a month ago and her ex has been sending all messages to her and her friends saying:
"I just want to say... I don't hate you... But I'm pissed off at you both... Pretty much everyone at the morning table is absolute filth for all the shit you guys pulled on me. So pardon me if I don't talk to you at Friend's party, but I'm going to be hanging out with people who give a shit about me. And not even telling me what the fuck was going on behind my back? You people are absolute filth. You all sicken me."
He is absolutely convinced this was all a big joke to him and is still posing shit about her like
"2014 will forever be known as the year where everything I had ever had an emotional connection to decided to hurt me and screw me over in some way/shape/form "
"Kids, it's amazing how much more we learn about someone at the end of a relationship than we ever do while we are in the relationship with that person."
Not only that, but I can't imagine what he is sending her that she is not telling me, she just seems so upset and done. He stills sends her gifts to her house it is creeping her out.
How can I get him to stop this and leave her alone? :(
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Cousin's ex won't leave her alone and its starting to take its toll on her and her friends.
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t3_38n8w5
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relationships
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My [21F] girlfriend believes that she is corrupting me [18M] and afraid I'll miss out on enjoying being 18 and 19 years old.
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So my girlfriend thinks she is "corrupting" me and afraid I'll miss out on being 18/19 to enjoy these years. I've never felt about anybody the way I feel about her and I'm lost as to what she means. Shes three years older and in college. She lives in her house with her two other roommates and claims that they both understand.
I've made it very clear that I enjoy spending time with her and that I really want to continue to do so. But she claims that this scares her and weighs on her mind "very heavily." Can somebody try to explain what she means?
In her own words she writes "I wouldn't be a good fucking person if these things didn't bother me. I care for you so that I would never want you to miss out on things. I cannot explain it to you right now... Both of my roommates understand and maybe it's the way in trying to explain it to you. I'm not looking beyond the fact that I enjoy being around you and that you make me laugh, I'm going with the flow but I am human and of course there's things that scare me".
Just help me understand what shes trying to say.
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My girlfriend thinks that shes taking me away from a great time in my life and I don't understand why.
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t3_3elext
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relationships
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How soon is too soon to say I love you?
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So I've been dating this guy he's 35 really loving, caring, and thoughtful but it's only been a month since we started dating. Heres the back storey i met him through ok cupid i normally dont go on those site however my cousin signed me up and posted a profile for me (Since she met her significant other and she thought she could find my prince charming). Well we ended up meeting had our first date it was amazing we had 2 more fates and everything was going well.
I've had a trip to France planned and booked way before I met him. So I told him about it 3 days before i actually leave. the day before he asks me to be his GF and I'm not a very lovey dovey girly girls I'm realistic. So I say yes because I have alot going on and that was not a talk I wanted to have before a trip. within the first week back from my two week vacation he tells me I love you. Mind you I don't say it very loosely at all. I didn't grow up in a I love you household it's more of a if you fall down get back up and try again. So I like him but I know I'm not ready to say it I'm still kind of feeling him out.
how do i handle it? And how can i say it without sounding like such beast?
I still want to see him but I kind of think it would hurt his feelings. He seems like the guys that's ready to settle and get married but I'm still growing learning and finally on the right track in my career I'm 30 btw I know I'm not getting younger but it just seems like it's moving too fast.
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Aaron said I love you 1 month into the relationship. Can I continue the relationship without saying it back? What to do?
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t3_2uemc2
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relationships
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My [23 F] childhood friend [23 F] is jealous and telling me who I can't and can see
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My childhood friend "Stacey" hosted a BBQ about a fortnight ago where my sister and I met her friend "Emily." We hit it off right away and said we should all organize a girls' day out soon.
Today we all got lunch with the new friend, Emily which then she asked us to all go back to her house to chill. Stacey said she couldn't make it and offered to drive my sister and I back home (which was strange as she never drives us anywhere and I had driven in my own car). I told her I might go back to Emily's.
Stacey texts me an hour later saying she really needs to talk to me and I told her I'd swing past hers afterwards but she kept pushing. I go past Stacey's after 3 hours and she gets in my car crying. I ask her what's wrong and she says "I don't want you or your sister to see Emily ever again."
At this point she is crying uncontrollably and being really irrational, telling me Ill start to like Emily better than her and that she'd rather keep her friends seperate. She also tells me she's been throwing up all day over this. I reassure her that she's a great lifelong friend of mine but I won't allow her to choose who I see.
She freaks out and pretty much has a break down and I'm just baffled - speechless. I honestly don't know what to do in this situation. Obviously Stacey has been a long time friend of mine but I won't let her dictate who I see, etc. I hate drama and will not mention a word of this to the new girl either.
It's funny because this behaviour is consistent to other scenarios in the past, for example Stacey has walked out of clubs before just because a guy would be talking to me or my sister and not her. She's not a lesbian btw, I think she's just jealous but I'm really concerned that she would have the nerve to say something like this.
Any advice would be appreciated.
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Long time friend turned into a crazy psycho jealous bitch
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t3_2fnw8j
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relationships
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I [21 M] broke up with my girlfriend [32 M/F] of 5 months because I couldn't handle the stress from her job and the relationship.
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I feel so terrible now so mainly looking for reassurance, part of me feels like I've made a mistake and part of me doesn't. I feel so empty and lost, I love this girl but when I'm with her I feel stressed often and I feel like I'm suffocating. She can be controlling, I don't like that she is a bit commercialised, I feel like she is very different to me, far more traditional. However at the same time I feel like when we are together we have a lot of fun and we both love each other. I have no idea what to do, part of me broke up with her because of the age gap.
Now that we have finally broken up I just feel like the worst person in the world and whats worse I feel lonely.
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Mandatory summary/question!
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t3_22d662
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relationships
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[18 F] my boyfriend [22 M] 1 month, acts too old
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It's early in the relationship so we're still only getting to know each other but the more time I spend with him the more I think he might not be right for me. He's only 22 but he acts about 50. We go out to clubs every weekend together but he only drinks Guinness, he constantly says "I'm too old for this", complains about being tired and always wants me to "look after him" and loves me doing things for him and helping him.
He talks like an old man. He met my parents recently and they both noticed it too. I feel like I'm going out with my father (who is 40). They said I can do better than him.
I don't want to do better than him, though. I really like him despite that. He is a lovely person and this relationship feels a lot different to past relationships for both of us. It feels more serious and "real" even though it's only been a month.
If it makes any difference he was adopted as a baby and he still lives with his parents. He loves his mother way more than most men would love their mother. He loves her doing things for him and she buys all his clothes, cooks his dinner every day, drives him everywhere (even gets out of bed at 4 am to collect him after a night out) despite the fact he can drive. It feels like he's trying to make me take the role of his mother. I'm afraid if things get more serious and we move in together I'll just acting just like his mother...
Is this a bad thing? To be going out with someone who acts like that especially when I'm so young? Should I be wasting my time on him? Does anyone have an experience being with a man like this (in relation to his relationship with his mother)?
Oh and to make things worse I think I could be pregnant...
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boyfriend acts twice his age, is he worth wasting my time on him?
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t3_l0diw
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Parenting
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3m old going through Ponseti casting for clubfoot. HELP!?
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Has anyone else gone through this? He started his treatment a little late, so every time he tries to move his leg and realizes he can't, he flips out. This results in TONS of crying, and him being overtired because he isn't sleeping for more than ~45m to an hour at a time, when my kid usually sleeps about 6h straight at night. This is my first baby and I can't find any information online about how to care for an infant with a leg cast. What can I do to help him be more comfortable? We have 6 weeks of this coming up and I'm pretty sure neither he nor I are going to retain our sanity unless something changes.
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3month old in a leg cast for the next six weeks and won't stop crying. How do I help him?
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t3_2ktz4l
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relationships
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I (21/m) am about to get in a relationship with a girl (20/f) that doesn't want to get physical until married. How do I deal with it?
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So before you think anything along the lines of "it's not all about sex", I agree with you, it's not. But I've never dealt with a girl like this one before. Since my first girlfriend I've always have had intimate contact, sex, and everything in between.
Now, if I wish to have a long lasting and serious relationship like this one, how do I deal with the no happy hour detail? What's the hardest moments? How do I get past the temptation and stuff? I've never cheated but I get way too horny sometimes and almost always found a way to get off with another girl.
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don't know how to handle a no sex relationship, need a clue
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t3_2jxtyk
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relationships
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Me 27 M with my ex 22F of 2 months, we broke up about 4 months ago. Is she trying to get back with me?
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Earlier this year I was dating a girl and two months into the relationship I found out that she was still sleeping with her FWB. She lied to me couple times that she was hanging out with her room mate when she was actually over at her FWB. The details of that are [here](
This shattered all the trust that I had in her and I ended the relationship with her. I went NC and never contacted her again. She tried to get in touch but I still wasn't over the betrayal feeling. Last week she left a voicemail saying sorry that it happened and she really wishes that it never happened.
Hearing an apology made me feel sorry for her and I contacted her to meet up so at least we can be on talking terms. I don't know what the motif behind her apology was but I still don't think I can date her again.
What would you do if you were in my position? Give her another chance or give her closure and move on
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Broke up with ex 4 months ago. She leaves a voicemail apologizing for sleeping with another guy while we were dating. Not sure why. Should I give her another chance even though the trust is gone?
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t3_3zdrx1
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relationships
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I [16 M] have developed feelings for my best friend [17 F]. We've known each other for about 5 months.
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Hello, a few months back I met this wonderful girl who I'll refer to as "Jenny". She has helped me through numerous problems that I have had in the past few months and has always been there for me.
Early on in the friendship I started to develop feelings for her, so I let her know how I felt and she told me that she didn't feel the same. I told her that I understood and that it was not a problem. I wasn't overly upset about it because I respected her feelings, or lack thereof.
However, a while later I met another girl. She ended up leading me on for about two months and that did, in fact, hit me hard. Jenny was always there trying to help me and make me feel better.
The thing is, is that lately my feelings for Jenny have resurfaced. I am almost certain that her feelings for me have not changed, but I still have very strong feelings for her. I am not completely certain as to whether or not I should tell her that my feelings have come back, because I don't know what she'd think.
I am just seeking advice as to how I might get over her and move on and if I should tell her about how I feel again. That does not mean that I want to cut contact or stop talking, those are out of the question. I care about her so much and I appreciate all the help that she has provided me. Thank you in advance
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I developed feelings for my (now) best friend and got rejected. Recently, my feelings for her have resurfaced and I just need a way to get over them. I am also trying to decide whether to tell her about my feelings again, but don't know how she'd take it.
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t3_3b2elm
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loseit
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NSV:Changing The World
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One person at a time.
Yesterday, /u/LunarRarity posted about how she had inspired a friend to start seeking a healthier lifestyle. I thought that was really excellent, and an awesome testament to the domino effect that we can have by taking control of our own lives. Others can see our strength grow, see our positive attitude and the changes it is causing in our lives, and become inspired to do likewise.
This morning I wake up to a message from my older brother, who lives a state away from me: "Well you got me thinking about getting old, buddy so I went on a diet and started walking (running a little bit). lol you start somewhere so I'm going to say thanks brother"
When we were younger, I was always the chubby, nerdy kid, and my brother was the cooler, more athletic, popular guy. The fact that seeing me start seizing my life by the horns and take control has made him take steps of his own, well, it's kinda blown my mind over here.
I am glad for him, because he has gotten a bit heavier as time has gone on, and his father (we have different biological fathers.) Died fairly early on in his life from a heart attack, so the history is there, and leading a healthier life will help combat those genetics.
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Do what you are doing. Share what you are doing. You can have more of an affect than you could ever realize on the people who are in your life.
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t3_40uzmn
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relationships
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Worried that religion will affect my [21M] and my girlfriend's [22F] serious relationship of 2.5 years
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The story of my girlfriend and I is a little non-traditional. She used to date one of my good friends in college. They broke up after a month which is when I realized I liked her and we started to hang out. The friend still had feelings for her as well and it was back and forth with both of us for a semester. Her and the friend got back together, but he cheated on her within a week. We started dating a month later.
Our relationship has been fun and great, and we're starting to be serious and consider our future. We've been with each other for the past 2 1/2 years. I do love her and we have thought about a future together. But more recently I've been starting to second guess things, mostly based on our religions. She was raised Christian and still believes. Her family is also very religious. I was raised as a Christian as well, and my family is also super religious. When I was in high school is when I started to question my beliefs and became more agnostic/atheist. I think my parents have an inkling of an idea that I'm not religious, but I have never flat-out told them.
While we've been together, she has suggested we go to church or watch it online, but we never end up doing it. She knows I'm not the most religious, and I feel like in her mind it's beginning to bother her. I know when she talks about a future family, she doesn't want them to have conflicting beliefs. I would feel uncomfortable lying and saying I believe when deep down I know I do not.
I guess this has made me question how long our relationship would be able to last into the future. And on top of that, I would feel guilty having fought for her for a whole semester to end it now. She always tells me how lucky she is that she found me and I know she suffers from depression and panic attacks and it kills me at the thought of it. I'm not sure how to proceed.
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How viable is a future with someone religious while I am not and she wants to raise (future) kids under one belief?
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t3_cycfs
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AskReddit
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Reddit, am I wrong for not helping this man?
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I was in downtown Chicago helping my sister move when we stopped at a gas station to fill her bike tires up with air. As soon as we pulled up to the pump a truck pulled up behind us and walked up to the passenger door where my sister was still searching for quarters for the machine. He asked us if we could listen to him for a second, and he told an elaborate story, very quickly in a paniced voice(I figured maybe he was speaking so fast to try and take up as little of our time as possible), about how someone had broken into his car "stolen my wallet, iphone, and luggage" and he had no money to drive to his brothers house somewhere farther away. He had said he was from Texas, and was visiting for a wedding. He drove an 02 or 03 Nissan Pick up that looked to be in decent shape. He asked if we could give him 10 dollars or pull up with him to a pump and use a debit card to just put 10 more dollars of gas into his car. My sister and I said sorry, that we didn't have any money to spare. We did have the money, but we were scared and figured he was trying to get an easy 10 bucks.
The one thing that irked me about the situation is that his clothes were pretty wrinkled, not something I'd pack if I were up in another state for a wedding. And the biggest thing: He was wearing an NFC football champions shirt. Why would he have that if he was from Texas, unless his brother lent him the shirt.
Should I have given him the 10 bucks? Or was he waiting for me to pull out my wallet, see a larger wad of cash, and rob me?
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Man kindly asks me for money, tells elaborate story, I refuse. Am I a shithead?
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t3_1f9rkv
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needadvice
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2013 - Worst year in my life (depressing stuff)
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In January, my girlfriend of 6 years, who I still love dumped me, for unkown reasons. She refuses to talk to me, doesn't answer me if I call.
I know love suck sometimes, but loosing my bestfriend aswell, really torn on me, but I got through it.
Then, later in january, my dog died, it was expected but it still sucks, but I held it together and put on a brave face.
Early february, a close family friend died, at this point im starting to have some issues, and don't have anyone to talk to with.
Mid february, im diagnozed with some nerve issues, which means I might loose most of my feelings in my right hand, (dont know the english term for it) and I study 3d and animation, so that blows.
Then my already one eyed dad, has gotten an infection on his working eye, and he might be going blind.
Ive considered several times just ending it, its just to much for a 22 year old to handle, and I simply can't stop shaking or crying all the time.
Ive considered going to a shrink, but it costs alot, and I cant afford it, dont have that many friends, and those I have are tired of what i have to say.
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Dumped, Dead family member, dead dog, loosing right arm, and dad going blind.
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t3_1a7mmd
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offmychest
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My roommate doesn't understand why I would want to be asleep in the wee hours of the morning.
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I have class at 8 am. I had intended to sleep until 6 am as usual, but my roommate decided to start watching a movie at 3:45 am.
Now, when I'm awake and he's asleep, I do this thing you might have heard of called respecting him. I wear headphones. It's not that hard, and I know he has them.
Meanwhile, this week I have six exams that I have been studying for. The only breaks I take are to eat, sleep and shower. I haven't even been on here in nearly a week, which is saying something. I pointed this out when he woke me up, and he said he just wanted to watch something while he goes to sleep. FUCK
I'll talk to him about it when he wakes up.
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My asshole roommate woke me up at 3:45 this morning, and I'm considering holding a pillow over his face.
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t3_2u88oc
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relationships
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My co-worker (f/25) and friend is dating my boss (m/37). How do I (f/27) explain to her that she is making the office awkward?
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They've been dating for 2-3 months and it's gotten very serious over the last month and a half or so. They've actually handled it pretty well for the most part, despite mis-givings around the office. As far as I'm concerned she hasn't been getting any special treatment or anything, which is what I think most people were worried about.
Over the last month, she has been more and more overt about her affection for him. She is constantly flirting with him physically and verbally or just giving him her 'fuck me noaw' look. Sometimes I just want to tell them to get a room. She is almost always the 'agitator'; sometimes the boss is all about that action, but there are definitely times when you can tell he recognizes how awkward the situation is.
This behavior is getting to the office. Everyone (with the exception of me) was doubting this relationship, and for two months they proved the doubters wrong, then she starts sabotaging her relationship with this behavior; it doesn't make any sense.
How do I as a friend, and as a co-worker who is experiencing the awkwardness, explain to her in a nice way that if she doesn't cut it out she will A) Turn the office against her, and B) sabotage her relationship?
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co-worker is making the office awkward by flirting with the boss. How do I talk to her about it?
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t3_10z5jm
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relationships
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A girl (17) really hurt me (17) but I am the only one that knows one of her biggest secrets which in a way explains why she handles things the way she does. Should I walk out or stay and help her?
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This girl was a really good friend of mine to the point where we acted like we were together but never put a title on it, this time last for about six months, but I have known her since January of this year. In a short time she ran away from what we had and is now dating someone else. See now I know the most logical thing would be to turn around and not speak to her, but I know something about her that is in a way causing problems with the way she handles her relationships and justifies why is ran aways from me. Now I am stuck in between running away from here and becoming someone else who leaves her life, or stay and try and help her while ignoring the past.
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a girl that I was more than just friends with hurt me but still claims that I am the only person who genuinely cares about her. Should I stay or should I go?
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t3_1vazg3
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relationships
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I'm[20m] having trouble getting over her [19f]
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I haven't been the luckiest with relationships.
It's been only a week since she decided she didn't love me anymore. We were only together for just over a month, but the feelings were there long before. We decided to stay close friends because neither of us want to lose each other. I'm fine with that because I truly care about her and would never want to see her hurt by me leaving, but I don't know if I can take being the close friend.
I want to keep close with her, whether that means we get back together in the future or not. But it feels like I'm just waiting for that to happen because it's what I want. But what I really want is get over her. I want to make it stop hurting when I think about her or when I see her talking to another guy who isn't me. Just be normal friend and not feel that pain, but staying open to a future with her, because there is a chance. I should add that she's said there is a chance feelings will come back, as she is willing to try. However, she has a lot to deal with in her life, so it's not a top priority for her.
So reddit, how do I put these feelings aside and get over her?
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How can I get over her and stay close friends?
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t3_1puefx
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relationships
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Me [21 M] with my GF [21F] 9 months, is it ever appropriate to "take a break" in a relationship?
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So about six months ago, due to unrelated circumstances, my gf wound up having no choice but to move in with me. Surprisingly, everything has been going well (I have never lived with an SO, especially after such a short period of time), we're not at each other's throats at all and we actually enjoy having each other around.
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Recently though, there has been some trouble. For the last month or so, she's been increasingly emotional and agitated (she's always been on the emotional side). She'd start yelling at me for texting someone back right away because I didn't text her back earlier (even though the reason I didn't text her back was because I was on my way home and I talked with her in person when I got there). Everything has just been incredibly uncomfortably dramatic lately and it's draining.
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Yesterday we went to a highschool friend's halloween party and she wound up yelling at me, scratching me, and hiding in the bathroom all night because she had a delusion that I was flirting with another girl. It was super embarrassing because my GF doesn't know my friends from home very well, and they knew I wasn't flirting with anyone, so they just think she's nuts and they're surprised that I allow that kind of drama in my relationships.
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It was a little overwhelming and I suggested that maybe we should take a break from spending every second with each other so that we can come back with more of an appreciation for each other. She said she thought that she didn't like that idea.
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She's just been impulsive, delusional, and possibly abusive lately. She's also been crying a lot, she's threatened a breakup twice in the last month, and I'm becoming drained emotionally.
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She also always wants to talk about our problems, but she expects these conversations to be basically 2 or more hours of rehashing the same things again and again, over analyzing and criticizing every word, and in general putting down me, herself, and our relationship.
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is it ever OK to "take a break" in a relationship, or is that just kind of immature?
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t3_4fd60j
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relationships
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My partner [19F] has nervousness and is unhappy whenever I'm [20M] not in contact, or am away from here, she is worried I might cheat
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Back story: my girlfriend of 4 months (although we are a lot closer than that) had a breakup some time back with a boyfriend who cheated on her but they stayed together. The wound is still fresh for her. She has also had recent depression/self harm issues that could still be present.
I've recently got a new job and every time I go no contact (no messaging) she gets grumpy and sad and nervous and she has said it's because she doesn't trust me because of her ex boyfriend, but she doesn't want to talk about the problem or anything.
This happens most on nights out when she isn't there.
Is this the sort of issue that will go away with time? Or do I need to force her confront this?
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GF doesn't trust me anywhere, is this normal considering my girlfriend's past?
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t3_3ms3jv
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self
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I am doing a class assignment at a nursing home and witnessed Alzheimer's firsthand today.
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I am supposed to be writing a paper for one of my classes right now but decided that it would be best to get this off my chest right now. I knew I was visiting the nursing home today but did not know who I was going to be paired with. One of the staff members decided to pair me with a man who suffers from Alzheimer's. I will call him Greg, he is a wonderful and joyful man who is only 62. He loves being read the paper, has a limited attention span, his brain decides what stays and goes, and he makes a fury of hand movements when he cannot successfully grab a memory. Greg talked and talked and talked my ear off. He did not want me to go but refused to let me waste my time if I had to go. This is the part I struggled with most, the people we are paired with do not get many visitors and it shows. After talking for a little while, Greg decided to show me some photos of people he holds near and dear to himself. Each photo had been nicely labeled with enough information for him to still understand, but he would still struggle at times to tell a story completely. Some of the photos sometimes had him in it, his older self, sometimes young, other times older. But they were all before Alzheimers had changed everything inside and out. It bothers me that I know it will only get worse for him, and his joyful mood will be one of the many things lost.
I have to go now, I need to finish my paper. Wish me luck.
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Alzheimer's is a terrible disease that is only understandable when experienced firsthand.
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t3_2eacpn
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relationships
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Me [25 M] with my grilfriend [25 F] of 2 Years, Broke up, this time I think it's real. I have a job offer in my home city.
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So our breakup has been inevitable, and we have been fighting like crazy but also sometimes loving each other like crazy. It's been a wild ride and I think both of us are just about done with the situation. So I think last night when she told me numerous times "I don't want to be with you anymore, you're ruining my life", I think that it's time for us to move on.
So, i've been wanting to move back to my home city for quite some time and got an offer today actually to work there. I also have some interviews coming up later today in this city. I haven't told her that I applied for a place in my home city nor even got the offer. They would want me to be settled in within the next 2 weeks.
I don't know if i'm making a good decision leaving my girlfriend here. I feel like it could be really hard on her if I just decided to move out of our city, and I don't want to do that to her. But sometimes I need to make decisions for me.
We also live together.
What does reddit think about this
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Going through breakup / I might move cross country
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t3_3vti4y
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relationships
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Is it a bad idea to go to his apartment?
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So I've been on a few dates with this guy--I (24f) like him (27m) and I think he likes me. I want to keep hanging out with him. We've only ever seen each other in public and we've kissed a few times, but nothing more than that.
Soooo he asked me to come over to his apartment this week. I'd love to hang out with him again and I think it would actually be fun to have some one on one time where we aren't yelling to each other in a crowded bar or something. But I am 10000% not ready to have sex with him...like there's no way that could happen at this stage.
I don't want to mislead him by telling him I'll come over if I don't plan on sleeping with him...but I don't really know what his expectations are. I know I don't owe him anything, but I also know men generally appreciate when I'm upfront about things like that? Should I just be honest and tell him I'm not ready beforehand? See how it goes once I'm there? Suggest something else for us to do that does not involve his bed? I'm probably way overthinking it! HOW DOES THIS WORK?!
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if I go over to his apartment, am I implying that I'll sleep with him??
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t3_4gmonn
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relationships
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My buddy (m24) broke up with his gf (f24). She doesn't know it yet because apparently he just blocked her while he is 9+ hours away.
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My friend (who is also my roommate) works away from home, he spends a lot of the year gone working. The girl he's been in an on and off again relationship with for the last 5 or so years lives around me. I'm not particularly close to her but she's a nice girl.
They've been on and off again their whole relationship, and I've told him multiple times to just break it off, but I didn't mean like this.
She just called me tonight to ask what's happening with him, as apparently (as the title suggests) he's blocked her from his phone. I don't know if it's just his phone or all social media. It's pretty apparent from our short conversation she's pretty confused.
I don't think their relationship would work out and I've suggested breaking up but I know this isn't the way to do it. It isn't an abusive relationship or anything so he has no reason to just go straight up no contact. I broke up with my girlfriend a few months back because of the same differences they have, but I was up front and explained why because someone you're in a relationship with for over 1.5+ years needs to know why.
I've texted him about it and he said he's basically done trying, I told him if you're gonna end it at least let her know.
Honestly I'm just wondering if telling her that it's probably over between them is the right course and if so, how?
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buddy broke up with his gf while 9+ hours away, should I tell her they're probably done?
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t3_h2zvx
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AskReddit
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I know it's late, but I could really use some help.
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She isn't dating anyone else, we just aren't and haven't been together for the last 6 months. She's leaving the country this weekend and we'll be apart for at least a year. I want her to know and to have a reminder of how much I care about her. Here's where you guys come in...
One component of what I want to give her is one of her favourite TV shows on DVD. She's always had an interest in design and architecture and loved an old TLC show that used to showcase some very unique and creatively designed homes. The problem is she forgot the name of it a long time ago and it hasn't aired since then.
Here's what I know: It was a show on TLC that aired around 2007-2009. The premise was just to give a tour and inside look at some of the most unique homes in the world. If I remember correctly, they weren't limited to just one country and would move around the world.
Anything you guys can give me that would point me in the right direction would be greatly appreciated!
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A show about cool houses used to air on TLC, need to know the name.
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t3_uhf82
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relationships
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Still can't get over ex, years later. What do I do?
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Ex and I are both females, mid 20's.
Let me start by saying I am with someone now that I love very much, and I am about to move in with. I do sometimes have my doubts, but for the most part, we get along very well and treat each other well.
I recently got a call from my ex, who I haven't seen in years and haven't talked to in over a year as well, mostly by my own choice. She broke my heart terribly, and it took me years to be able to date anyone else in a serious way. I still consider her to be the most beautiful person I have ever met, and I have never, before or since, been in love like I was with her. I know my current s.o. would be very upset about that fact. Who wouldn't be?
How do I get over her? I thought I was, but o get a phone call from an ex of over 5 years and to start crying over her just seems absurd to me. I want to feel that love again, but with my current partner, who reciprocates. This is not a problem I can discuss with my partner.
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Still not over ex from years ago, moving in with new partner soon. What do I do to fix my feelings?
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t3_43cgdy
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dating_advice
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I just met a girl that I really like, I think that maybe I have a chance with her, but there's other guy who is always present, how do I proceed?
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I met her on a lecture and got together with another dude for a little group activity that involved the 3 of us going to a conference the next morning and taking some notes and pictures.
At the conference I catched her checking me out and turning the other way multiple times, and as we talked she made many of those little facial gestures girls do when they like a guy, giggles and things like that.
She is very extroverted and a little intimidating because she always speaks her mind, to the teacher and to the other classmates, while I'm kind of a quiet dude... but I always talk when I have to; luckly for me I'm not shy and can hold a conversation properly and mantain eye contact with anyone without being weird or creepy. I think that's why she likes me, I don't know. Every person seems very shy in that class, except for her, another couple of girls and me, and I'm really getting a vibe from this girl, she's very pretty also.
So the problem is that while I already have her number, we only talk in a WhatsApp group where the other dude is too, so I can't think of a proper way to approach her, because there is no reason for me to talk to her with private messages outside that WhatsApp group. Any advice?
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Met a girl, can't think of an excuse to talk to her.
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t3_2bnbzl
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tifu
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TIFU by taking my brother fishing.
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Like a bunch of these stories, this happened years ago. I was probably 13 and my brother was 11. We were staying with our grandparents, no internet, no gameboy, just the good outdoors. We decide to go fishing, so we grab our fishing poles and jump on the four wheeler. We ride to the pond and have a great time fishing.
Here is where my mess up happened. We are packing up and getting ready to go home. I tell my little brother to "tighten his line" on the pole so the hook won't swing around (looking back I wish I would have checked behind him). Well we get on the four wheeler and drive home. We start to get off and take our poles. While my brother is grabbing his fishing pole, the line starts to fly around because it wasn't bound. Well I feel a sharp pain and look down to see a hook now embedded in my nipple. I start screaming which in turn freaks my brother out causing him to jerk the fishing pole and ripping it out of my nipple. Fuck that hurt.
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My little brother hooks me in the nipple with a fishing hook and proceeds to rip it out.
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t3_1nttiu
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relationships
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I [19 M] am not sure how to respond physically [18 F].
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I don't know how to respond physically. She has been incredibly tolerant of my inexperience so far; she declared that we are "dating". She's awesome, but this is the first time I've been in this type of situation. For one, she rested her legs on my lap while we talked for like an hour last night and I wasn't quite sure what to do with my hands. Eventually, I rested my hands on her knee. Later, she'd rest her head on my shoulder on the couch. In retrospect, I should have wrapped my arms around her. When she got cold outside, I wrapped my arms around her a few times and she'd actually move in closer to me, but walking around like that is kind of hard. I told her that the transfer of heat is not enough and stopped after a while... I realize the thought is more important than actually keeping her warm, but my hand was freezing.
How do I overcome my own inhibitions? A lot of my inhibitions have come from the fact that she outright shut out a guy because he was getting too touchy. It might have been that she had already "chose" me by that time. She's really great gal, but I am not sure if I am doing enough on my part.
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How do I lose my inhibitions to make physical contact? I don't know how to push physically without discomforting her.
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t3_2jr0z7
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relationships
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22F with my ex boyfriend 24M 15 months, broke up last week
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So my boyfriend of 15 months and I broke up last week. We lived together since February and weren't doing so hot since July. Then he decided I should move out but continue dating to see how we felt. So I moved out Tuesday this week. Since I've moved out, he didn't talk to me at all Wednesday or Thursday. I went there Thursday night to grab the rest of my things and he said that not talking to me felt right and he thought we should break up. I said okay and left, no tantrums, nothing. Friday he texted me a little bit, Saturday it was more, and today he started a conversation with me 3 different times. I've not been texting back much, probably 3 times at most and ending the convos, and I never started them. My friends think he's trying to keep me hanging so I'll wait around. Do I tell him that I don't want to talk because I don't want to be friends? I guess I don't understand why he is trying to talk to me other than to be friends, but I had told him that I was not able to be friends with him yet the night we broke up and that I was never interested in being his friend.
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I would like to end up back together, which is probably far fetched. So I've come to you Redditors, what have you found to be the most effective way to have your ex miss you and want you back for good? I need advice, and tips work!
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t3_1e29xj
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AskReddit
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What's been your strangest experience in an airport?
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I'm a professional trumpet player, and so flying around a bit going from gig to gig. I'm heading over to Norway right now, and it's happened to me before but it always gets a laugh and a look from other passengers.
Going through the X-Ray machine, the security woman stares at the screen and then proceeds to ask me to open my case. Pulling my trumpets out she asks - are these for recreational use or professional? Jokingly I answer "oh a bit of both! Mainly it's my job though"
She doesn't seem impressed and asks me if I could prove it.
So in the middle of John Lennon airport in Liverpool I have to whip out my trumpet and play everyone a tune. How fun.
Normally I'm asked to do this because you can hide drugs and what-not inside brass instruments, in the valves/main body, as the X-Ray can't see through - so I get asked to play to prove the trumpet is working and not stuffed full of cocaine.
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had to blow my own trumpet (literally) in the security zone to prove I wasn't a drug mule
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t3_1tgaia
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relationships
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I [16F] want to date/go out with a friend I know well [16M], but I have no experience.
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There is this friend I have known pretty much my whole life, and even though we know each other really well, I'm lucky if I see him around 4 times a year.
I have liked him my whole life too, and it's only becoming more obvious as I get older. I am seeing him on NYE and I really hope to tell him then.
I am unsure if he likes me. We had dinner at a restaurant with a few other well known friends and he came and sat next to me when he arrived. Earlier in the year when I suggested our families get together he was all for it. He smelt pretty good the other day too, next time when he appears on facebook should I message him and tell him?
We are both 16 and as far as I know, he hasn't had a girlfriend.
Overall, what should I be saying to let him know? Also, how necessary is dating if we already know each-other so well? I have never had a BF or even kissed anyone yet so I don't know a lot.
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how do I ask someone to be my boyfriend?
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t3_2hcwfu
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needadvice
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How to remove something from Stack Exchange
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A while ago I had some troubles and I made a question on a Stack Exchange website. I had an answer and I resolved the issue at the time but now I remembered it and that post could make some trouble for me in the future. Since it is already answered they won't let me delete the post. It doesn't show up on Google instantly but if someone decides to be creative they could find it.
I found a way to delete the account and make the posts that I did on that website anonymous, but I would like to delete it at all if I could. Is there a way? Thanks.
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I did stupid shit on Stack Exchange and I want to try to delete it.
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t3_vy8bv
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AskReddit
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One time a guy was tailgating the shit out of me and after I finally moved over, he sped by me and was pulled over by an undercover cop. Reddit, what is your best little "HELL YEA, F**K YOU!" moment?
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The question basically says it all but yeah I was on I-80 west bound from New Jersey to Pennsylvania and this guy was tailgating me for the longest time. Sometimes I will move over if I am for whatever reason legitimately not moving fast enough but if I feel I am going a good speed, you can tailgate all you want.
Anyway, this guy tailgated me for maybe 10 miles or so without going around and after I finally gave in, he sped past me and all of a sudden this under cover cop comes out of NOWHERE and nails him for speeding. It was the greatest feeling ever.
For those wondering, I usually drive 15mph over the limit. (In a 65 I go roughly 80)
Any similar moments?
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Just read the original question
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t3_3w9reb
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Advice
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School problems regarding a movie shot inside it
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Hi everyone, first time posting here and I'm coming to your help as you guys are my last chance of making this one out .
So it all began on 27 nov in my sport class at which I arrived 5 minutes late and I wasn't allowed to enter . Togheter with 2 other friends and one that captured the moment, we jumped out the window and over a small fence that separates the school from the actual gym class . All in all we didn't mean any harm to our highschool and we just went back inside the school and waited there for the next class .
A few days later this video has been made public and got to a pretty popular Facebook page . I tried contacting the person who posted it (he wasn't even from our group of friends) and the admins of the page but with no succes .
Unfortunately, as we expected, the headmaster found out about this video and is now threatening us with expulsion . Knowing that we didn't mean any of this and was just an inside joke, no teachers were involve and it's just a small portion of the school that shows in the clip is there any method that we can pull this on trough ?
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We tried to escape from our gym class by jumping trough the windows and over a fence, we got filmed by another coleague and the headmaster found out about it . How to we settle this down ?
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t3_3d9egk
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relationships
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My[22f] bf [22m] of six months just asked me a pointless question. Am I overreacting to take this as a red flag?
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We've been dating for six months, it's been great and no problems in particular. For background information though, we've never met each other's parents, but we do know about each other's family.
Yesterday, my BF and I were looking through random websites together and we read through a post that said the OP's mother in law told her that she was too fat and she needed to lose weight. Quote to quote the conversation that followed.
(me) "Wow, that's pretty harsh of the MIL. It's none of her business."
(bf,) "What would you do if my mom told you to lose weight?"
And I sorta went "???" but when he continued to wait for me to answer, I told him "Well, I think it would be your responsibility to respond to her. It's not like I'd be able to say anything but 'yes, okay." (we're both Asian, so talking back to somebody older than you, much less the parent of your partner is pretty much unthinkable)
(bf) "Hmmm."
My first gut reaction was wtf, why is that even a question. Now, thinking on it, I'm wondering if he's the kind of boyfriend who can never stand up for their girlfriend when their mom is in the picture. Because his question seems to imply that, that it would actually be my responsibility to tell his mom that she's being inappropriate.
Does the question strike anybody else strange? Or am I just blowing things out of proportion and need to chill the hell down?
(if it matters, I'm 5'5" & 127 pounds)
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Boyfriend asked me what I would do if his mom told me to lose weight. Am I overreacting to think that he's the type of guy who can't stand up to his mom?
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t3_4jktbm
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relationships
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Any doctor husbands/boyfriends out there? My (24/m) girlfriend (23/f) worries about my profession...
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So the rumor is doctors are usually busy and "married to medicine". She wonders about whether she can deal with me being missing on most nights because I'll be flying out to attend conferences, staying in hospitals for night duties, missing events because of sheer workloads, being chronically sleep-deprived and not being able to give her the attention that she likes. I've read tons on how 1 out of 3 docs get burnt out from workload and emotional distress from their work. Also about how relationships fail... and well, the general bias of articles against "having a doc boyfriend"...
Of course, we're committed to each other and I'm determined to love her properly. I just wanted to know if you (or any doc friends) have managed their relationship well. I would love some tips even if you're not in the scenario.... or you could be in a really really busy profession. Any help would be appreciated.
Thanks reddit.
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I'm going to be in a very busy profession and gf is worried about her needs not being met in the future. Both of us are committed to make it work. Any tips to help ease the process?
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t3_4clad0
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relationships
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At what point does being a gentleman signal a lack of interest?
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So I recently moved to a relatively large city in Texas and the easiest way to meet people is through apps like Bumble and Tinder. I have met quite a few guys through both Apps and either nothing transpired because either side was not interested or the guys just wanted to hook up and leave. To be honest, I am a 29 year old woman with just about everything in my life figured out, except that one tiny aspect, and I am starting to want to find somebody. Yes, I know these apps are mainly for hook ups, but they are also the easiest way to meet somebody in a new city.
Last night I met a guy, who is 27, who was a perfect gentleman. He came over to my house after work, we drank some wine, and watched a movie. Now while watching the movie I got cold and got a blanket and he got underneath as well, but nothing happened short of snuggling under the blanket. After the movie was over we watched some funny clips on youtube and chatted for a bit and around 10 pm he left to go home. He gave me a hug and told me he would text me the following day.
I have not heard from him yet, which is fine, I am not too worried about that, but I do feel like in today's modern world, kissing on a first date is no longer a big deal by any stretch of the imagination, especially when you've met on an app like Bumble or Tinder. However, I also acknowledge that some men are just being perfect gentlemen. So my question is, at what point does it stop being that he is just a gentleman and start being because he just isn't interested?
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Met a guy on Bumble; we hung out; he didn't make a move. Was he being a gentleman or just not interested?
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t3_36ccuq
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relationships
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Me [19 M] with my Ex [17 F] 4 years of dating, we're trying to be friends
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Basically, we dated for 4 years, broke up for 5 months got back together, changed a lot and I treated her bad so we broke up. We've spent a good 20% of my life and almost a fourth of hers dating Most of my growing up was done with her and my everything reminds me of her. This time when we broke up we wanted to stay friends. She said she wanted time, maybe a few weeks or so off from each other, so I obliged and haven't started or carried conversation since she said that until today. She texts almost every day and starts small conversations and keeps them going and I'm not that much of an asshole so I reply. We are great at being friends without being in the same room together.
This coming thursday marks the return of the yearly carnival that comes to our small town and well, we might be running into each other so I asked if she would want to hang out. She said maybe, but she has mixed feelings. I do too, and I refuse to do it alone and know I will probably want her back so I have my friends coming with us and if I even look like I want to try something they have a code phrase to get me a reason to ditch (my brother being drunk and needing a ride) that would be believable. I have no idea how to be friends with her. What am I supposed to do? We both still have feelings for each other but we know that we're toxic when we're dating so we can't be more than friends.
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In love with my ex, but can't love her. She loves me, but can't love me. We want to stay friends but I don't know how to just be friends with her.
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t3_2t2cmt
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relationships
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I, M17, like twins, F17. What do I do?
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Okay reddit, I have no idea what to do.
The two girls who I really like, are twins. Let's name them Alexa and Cara. Cara is the coolest girl I have ever met, we are into the exact same music, she has the best style, she's into vinyl like me, we have the same humor (extreme sarcasm), and she's absolutely beautiful. Alexa, likewise, is absolutely beautiful, funny, adorable, smart and we talk super easily.
Now here's the difficult part. I've already been to the movies with Alexa (nothing happened, we didn't kiss) and she seemed to love it, however I'm not sure she saw it as a date per se, I paid for her ticket etc but it wasn't a 'formally arranged' date I guess. However, I've never done anything with Cara, but I have expressed interest in doing something with her sometime (Alexa learned about this), but she was grounded (I know this wasn't a lie to get out of it, Alexa was grounded too).
Now they are both not grounded, I could potentially ask out either of them. But which one do I choose? My outing with Alexa was pretty informal and I don't think much could be read into that on her part. Is it weird asking out twins on two different occasions? What will they think? I need your advice.
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I have a crush on twins, which one do I make a move on?
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t3_2kn59v
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relationships
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Me [23/F] with my now ex bf [24 M] of almost 4 years;found an email to prostitute dating back to last year and I left him. Did I do the right thing?!
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My ex boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years and lived together for 2, I found emails of him and a some girl from red book asking for a quick visit for $40. The emails were dated back to over a year ago, but I was completely broken. I never thought he would be the type to do something like this. To make it worse,
I want to go back to him and it's only been a day since this happened.
I'm feeling so devastated, yet all I want to do is run back to him. Please tell me what I need to hear to come back to my senses. I did the right thing by leaving immediately, right?
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found emails between prostitute and now ex bf, why do I want to go back to him?!
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t3_wejx5
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AskReddit
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Reddit, I have 5000$, am about to quit my job, and am looking for adventure.
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I have recently just graduated with my master's degree in Science, and have never really just dropped everything and travelled.
At the moment, i work two jobs, anywhere from 50 to 65 hours a week, 7 days a week, because one is fun but not career related (a waitress) and one is career-related but not fun (data entry and general bitch work--however if I keep at it I am sure it will lead somewhere someday).
So, I have been in school more or less full-time for the past 8 years (however grad school can be a pretty sweet deal if you work with fun people) and am looking to finally DO SOMETHING. ANYTHING. I am so inspired by reddit and redditors and all the amazing stories, and I just want to go out and have an adventure that will help me with my next decision in life.
The Details:
I will probably have about 7000$CA that is pure spending money by the end of the month.
I have an awesome dog who can travel anywhere by car with me in North America/Central South (but i would have to drive).
I like camping, hiking, outdoor adventures and also fine dining/culture and cool cities, but am looking to get the most mileage for my money.
I will go anywhere and would like to go more than one place.
I would go for up to two months without my dog and probably four if he could come for some of it.
Probably travelling alone, but we'll see.
Ok, there we go! I doubt I'll get any hits, but would love the few of you to comment you will!
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I have 5000-7000$ to spend on an epic trip and need suggestions. Dog friendly, North American road trip ideas are welcomed too!
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t3_q1jj7
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relationships
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need advice on crazy girl
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I have been dating my SO for eight months now. (i'm 26f, he's 30m) We're very happy and very much in love. So here's my problem. . .there's this girl that is obsessed with my boyfriend. She tried to make a move on him before we had even met nine months ago and he shot her down. He told her he's not interested in dating and then two weeks later he brought me around.
I get why she doesn't love me BUT. . .
she's friends with his family and is around a lot. She flirts with him in front of me AND has started stalking me. I had been on reddit for a while and she found out my user name and then spread all my posts around the family. They all know intimate details about my life I would never share with my boyfriends family voluntarily. I had to cancel my reddit name with all my karma because of her.
What do I do about her? My boyfriend doesn't give a shit one way or another about how I interact with her because he doesn't care much for her, but she's a friend of the family and I don't want to create a hard time for him.
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Crazy bitch loves my boyfriend, do I ignore her or confront her?
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t3_232sn2
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relationships
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Me [29 F] with my ex [31 M] 6 years together. 10 weeks since break. I'm so mental tired.
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Hi Reddit.
I thought I would post to you because I've had such amazing support.
My ex broke up with me 10 weeks ago after a 6 year relationship. I have my ups and downs, I'm a lot better than what I was at the start.
I've been away with work for 2 weeks and felt like my self again and felt strong enough. I'm on holiday now to relax but I found my self so mental tired. I'm so tired of training my mind not think of him and how he hurt me. I'm tired of trying to show people I'm OK and getting on with things. the truth is I'm still so hurt & scared.
I've been doing things, going out, doing the NC apart a few lapses.
I don't really have a question. I guess I'm looking for support and maybe some advice.
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10 weeks break up after 6 years, I'm just so tired of trying to be strong and tell my self to be strong.
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t3_15irxj
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weddingplanning
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What is considered an "out of town" guest?
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Might seem like somewhat of a silly question, but for my particular situation, it's useful. For initial context, I'm the groom and we're planning it together and things are going very well so far.
We currently live in 2 different cities that are about an hour apart. I went to college away from home and she stayed at home for college. Her family and friends live there, and I live where I went to school (she will be moving in with me over summer, though). We're trying to decide on a venue, but a venue close to her family and friends is inconvenient for my friends, and a venue near me is inconvenient for her family and friends. My family is from out of state and will be unlikely to show up no matter where we have it.
We're putting together our initial guest list so we know what kind of venue we need to look for, and for "math" purposes, what is considered an out of town guest? 30 minutes away? An hour? More?
It seems obvious to just say "have it in between the two places" which would be fine, except the city in between my fiance and I agree is very trashy and nowhere we would want to have a wedding.
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We live an hour apart and have friends local to us in our respective cities. Want to invite them all but don't know how far is "too far" to drive for a wedding.
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