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I work as a cleaner in a hitec office, and did that for like 5 months so far. Every single day is a battle, because you would think you won't have to interact with the workers, but them just being there make me dismiss the entire room. Then I just make mistakes every now, so when I get a call from my employer yelling at me for those mistakes doesn't help my morale at all. Even though the workers there are nice and say hello to me, this alone makes me pressured to be kind to them and that exhausts me immensely.nnI really want to quit, I can't stand doing it anymore, physically exhausting, hours of nothing to clean so then I get complaints for doing nothing and have to find things to clean constantly. The worst part is that I can't realistically quit because I live with my mom, and she is undocumented immigrant, and never ever bothered to fix her or my citizenship (Israel) so not only I don't have much of an option to do anything, but I also suffer severe anxiety and depression, we both can barely pay rent, and I don't fucking know anymore
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I am so sorry
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I'll probably regret posting this later but right now I just feel like venting and getting some things off my chest.nnI haven't been doing well lately. I've been feeling lonely and anxious and doubting every single decision I've made in my life that has led me to this. nnLong story short, I moved to another country to study a subject that I don't even like and I'm struggling a lot with my classes. I feel very dumb for not being able to keep up even though I know it's not an easy program. When I got here I was excited to live in a new place and meet new people and have new experiences. But now I just feel like disappearing. I don't want to deal with any of this anymore. And to make matters worse, my social anxiety is so bad that I can't connect with other people here, I feel nervous and stressed and worried about every single interaction and I never let my guard down around anyone. I don't give the few people that I sometimes talk to the chance to really get to know me because I'm scared that they won't like me. I don't even like myself, so it's absurd to accept the idea that other people would. I'm afraid of saying something stupid or insensitive so I usually stay quiet and let others do the talking. So people probably just think I'm the awkward, quiet girl and they feel bad for me. nnIt just sucks to be in this situation. I feel a physical discomfort sometimes from feeling so disconnected from everyone and everything and at times I start crying over how sad and lost I truly am. I don't think I have what it takes to end my own life but I can't help but hoping that this misery will end soon. I know there's a possibility that maybe in a few years or even in a few months I won't feel so bad, but right now it's so hard just getting out of bed and doing simple things that I just wish I was dead.nnBut I know I don't really want to die, I just want to not feel the way I do everyday. It's nothing new to me, but for some reason now it feels like it's worse somehow. Like the fact that I'm older and still so completely lost is a sign that I just don't fit into society. Like the person that I am shouldn't exist. I hate feeling so inadequate.nnHappy fucking birthday to me.
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Happy birthday! I relate very much to your message (same age, and abroad except I've been there for a while now). I feel like I had made progress a couple of years ago but Covid made me relapse big time. I don't know if it's possible where you're at now, but maybe reach out to a therapist or counsellor? (The irony is I'm telling you this and in my case I try all the possible excuses not to start a therapy!)
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I just need to vent a little, sorry for the long post. If you have any advice for me, I would really appreciate it.nnI'm a 22 year old college student who recently transferred to a school in Philadelphia. I've had social anxiety for a while now and have also been in therapy for depression. Since past year I've really tried hard at improving myself and dealing with social anxiety, but I'm afraid the experience I had last week reverted all my progress.nnWhen I moved into the apartment, I thought my roommate and I were getting along pretty well. We had been going out to bars, studying together, smoking weed, playing video games and just generally hanging out in the apartment.nnThis is when that perception changed. Last week my roommate invited me to go to a concert with him and three of his friends (who I know and have hung out with in the past). I accept, we made plans to pick up some weed, but we also picked up some MDMA. This was my first time trying MDMA, but I had always heard that it made you feel good, so I didn't worry too much about it. A couple days later we go to the concert, I take about 300mg of MDMA (which admittedly might have been too much for my first time), and have a really good time. I honestly thought we had become really good friends, in part because they told me so. When we got home I was starting to feel the comedown, so I smoked
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Yeah I'd look into moving. They sound insecure as shit about you.
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I've got SA and also a maladaptive daydreamer also. But it's rarely fun anymore to day dream. My mind has gotten to the stage where I have sometimes hours of thoughts of -nn- Imagining myself being embarrassed in front of groups or crowds of people. If I even do something like try to listen to music I used to love, it simply triggers me imagining myself playing the music in front of people and getting it wrong.nn- Imagining myself in scenes of social conflict, either I or they say something horrible, a fight breaks out, then I feel anxious about being hurt or pleasure in the thought of hurting them, and fantasize about having power. (Sometimes it gets really morbid, violent and sadistic). They leave me feeling disgusted with myself sometimes, but thankfully I realise the thoughts for what they are and can calm the effect at times.nn- Arguments and discussions with people who don't exist, and I will spend a good 30-60 mins, some times more, on my own talking to people who don't exist out loud. A lot of the time it's debates/fights, not casual discussions.nn- It leaves me feeling like I wanna push everyone away and hate others.nnI try my best to stay in the present moment and realise these dark thoughts don't define me, and do my best to fill my mind with countering positivity and remind myself of the light side of me, and my desire for peace and to experience beauty once again.nnI left school at 17 and lost all my friends but barely even cared. I missed them a little at times, but not that much.nnI'm 29 now, and the thoughts have plagued me for the last 7-8 years now, and I have no social life and no relationships, and reflecting on it I've never felt close to anyone.
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I'm not 100% against them, but I'd rather try everything I possibly could before that happens.nnMedications would be the last possible thing I'd want to try because I'm almost certain there'd be side effects and that it'd be harming me in another way.nnMedications aren't a solution, they're a crutch at best, in my eyes.nnTo each their own, if you wanna take them then take them, but I'd rather try everything else first.
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I'm due to go into university tomorrow for a practical session, but my social anxiety is at its peak and I just can't bring myself to go. I suck at writing emails and tend to overthink them. Usually I get my mom to write them for me, but I know that she'll try and make me go if she knew.nnSo anyway, I just need to say that I'm sick and unable to attend, and the email has to be formal (Dear, kind regards). Can anyone help me word it?
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would it help to write it down on piece a paper?
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I'm not entirely sure how to explain this.. but basically, or not so basically, my anxiety will make me feel that unless I'm doing something really productive, then I'm a failure, and this'll sometimes cause panic attacks that I'm not doing what I should, that I'm lazy. That my existence is pointless. Anyone feel this way as well?
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100% and it's obviously exacerbated with the current situation.
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When things start going too good and I'm actually happy it feels like my body and brain don't like it. They're so used to depression it's like when I'm happy for too long it almost seems like a trick. Like my brain is just looking for something to sabotage it. To find a little thing to latch onto to obsess over and send me into another downhill battle. Like I want to be happy but at the same time I'm so used to depression it's almost like without it I don't know what to do so I sabotage myself back into it because that's what I know, that's what my brain is
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Happy cake day!nnI know how you feel. I'm going constantly but I have no idea where and why. it's so difficult to even try to do something which could make me feel a little better.nnyou're not alone I feel you. sending you all my loveu2764ufe0f
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I started having delusional thought about people spying which I really believe. I used to think people would talk shit about me and would verbally or physically attack them. I am still dealing with those thoughts. Thinking people are in love with me or will make fun of me. I don't know if this is psychosis or just social anxiety. I am so tired of this.
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What did the psychiatrist tell you?
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It's not till recently I found out this actually had a name. I used to pace back and forth in my hallway with my headphones (I always had to have music) and imagine different scenarios or think up entire storylines from scratch. This could go on for a while. I stopped doing this because I was worried my family would see so opted for long walks instead. nnSometimes I do it in public, like at my former job where I'd do a repetitive task or find an excuse to walk the long distance across the parking lot and replay those scenarios back as to mentally distance myself from customers.nnIdk makes me feel all fuzzy.
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Yep. I've done it since I was a kid, I'm 24 now. I imagine the
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I have a lot of experience with this and feel that I have realized major improvements to my social anxiety because of it.nnPersonally, I have had the most benefit from taking macro doses. Without going into too much detail, taking a macro dose allowed me to step aside from the momentum of daily life and see myself from a different perspective. It helped me to finally truly accept myself as I am. I still experience social anxiety but it's now much easier to be mindful of it, and to truly know that my social anxiety is not who I am, it's just an annoying disorder that I have.nnI have a lot of experience with microdosing. While it does have some great benefits, such as allowing me to speak easily (without filtering) and to be less socially afraid, it also has some side effects, such as actually increasing my anxiety at times. I have found other medication, such as stimulants like aderall or vyvanse, as well as others like phenibut or pregabalin, to be much superior for daily use in situations where I have to be more social.
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So like the title says I broke down crying and spoke to my manager about my concerns about being ostracised.nnNow I am at home beating myself up and wishing I had kept it to myself, and done what I normally do and cried it out in the toilet.nnDon't get me wrong, he was really cool about it and reassuring, but I am concerned I have made myself look paranoid, and that he will look at me differently. I am in the uk if that makes a difference
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Thanks for the kind reply, I try to not beat myself up over it as much anymore. Unfortunately that was the last time we spoke. I quit the same day and have avoided the place since. I don't even know if he would remember me if I did, but hearing your perspective makes me feel better about the whole encounter. I wish you the best
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I don't even know if you would call it a case of social anxiety at this point, it may very well be agoraphobia. Due to this I am left with buckets of time which for most of it I don't feel the need to get up so I end up staying in bed for the majority of the day (not my proudest moment), everyone else I know seems to be rather content in their lives and able to do every day tasks and here I am feeling stuck. By making this post I'm not entirely sure what I'm looking for, maybe some reassurance and please, if there is someone out there in a similar situation don't hesitate to message me. I've never felt so isolated and alone in my life.
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I know exactly how that is, i was the same situation :/nAn advise i can give you is to not just give up and let your fear imprison yourself, it will get more difficult if you just stay at home or staying away from people.nAnd you probably will get very depressed from it too.nnnWhat really helped me was going outside for walks, it's difficult at first but you will quickly notice feeling much better and less fearful.nYou don't have to go were a lot of people are, and plan a route beforehand^^nnAnd just going shopping later on, places were there are some people, you don't need to force smalltalk or anything. And it's absolutely fine if it's to much for you at times, you can go away from the situation anytime you want.nJust don't just listen to your fear and give up, your world would only get smaller and smaller feeling trapped and depressed.nnI wish you lots of strength to overcome this difficult time, and hope you can look back at it one day stronger and happier with yourself and your life :)
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I need help. I've always struggled with anxiety, but I've gotten pretty good at noticing it and the triggers that cause it. I've felt a lot better in that area of my life, but now I'm realizing that I'm struggling with social anxiety.nnI've lived in a new city for the last few months and I cannot make friends. I dread weekends when I am off work because I know I'll be lonely. My only hobbie is going to the gym, which has become so second nature to me and I usually don't have an issue going. However, it's not the place to meet new people and make friends.nnI work mostly remote and get on well with my coworkers, but aside from an occasional happy hour after work, I don't hang out with them.nnI'd love to find a new hobbie, but the thought of putting myself out there kills me. I am constantly feeling like I'm being watched even when I'm home alone. I always feel like someone's watching me and criticizing my every move. I can go to a grocery store, but even pushing a cart makes me feel self conscious.nnI'm miserable, but not miserable enough to make a change because I just continue in the cycle I'm in. I don't know what to do.
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You're welcome.nnI used to struggle with social anxiety too, and these days not only do I have endless friends & connections, it has become my greatest strength - to connect deeply with others. It brings a very good return on investment to focus on this part of your life.
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Everything is in the title
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“Jordy you just don't mix well with others”
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I often find myself in the situations where I'm talking with someone and after some time and a bit of awkward silence, I always wish the convo to end soon so that I can be alone again. But when I'm alone, I always regret it. How do you get rid of that voice in your head that wants to be alone?
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Used to be like that, I even felt like walking away. And I felt relieved when I didn't have to hold a talk anymore. I dreaded talking to people especially those I was not familiar with. nnIn my case, it was because I secretly hated most people (due to my childhood trauma that resulted in accumulated anger) even though there was totally no reason. My head kept running with negative thoughts about them which manifested in the form of my social anxiety because I was scared people would know I disliked them. And they did.nn I decided that I couldn't live like this forever. So I started mindfulness practicing. Whenever that kind of
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I stopped going to class cause my professor likes to call on people randomly to answer questions, its a lecture hall so my class has a lot of people. He also pressures you by saying if you get it wrong then everybody will lose extra credit. Every time he did this I would just look around and feel so abnormal cause everyone else looks calm and collected. Meanwhile I am always on the edge of my seat praying and trying not to throw up. nnnHonestly this happened a lot in my life, teachers and professors not taking students with anxiety into account. Me being the only one struggling. I don't blame them cause if I got an issue I should speak up but I have a horrible fear of talking to authority. Just let me drop dead at this point, I'm afraid of everything
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This is why I started taking online classes. If not for covid forcing me into online classes years back, I probably would have dropped out of college
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I just joined a meet up group event for New Years Eve! And I'm already sooo nervous lolnThe group is a 20s-30s social group and the event will start off with bowling and then an arcade afterwards. There's like 65 people going and the anxiety is already telling me to cancel because I'll make a fool out of myself by being too boring or not outgoing enough. I'm introverted with social anxiety so it's the perfect combo for trying to meet new people… jk lol. Its daunting now, I can only imagine how uncomfortable I'll be when I show up. But I know it's best for me to get out and do goddamn anything because I've isolated for far too long and I could use some social interaction. As nervous as I am, I am actually excited because I've never hung out with any friends on New Year's Eve because I've never really had any friends to hang out with. I'm 24yo and this will be my first time away from my bedroom and around other people my age on New Years Eve Very nervous but I'm gonna turn it into anticipation to better serve me. Wish me good luck everyone! Hope everyone has a great New Years Eve!nnnEdit: It didn't go well. At first I showed up and it was overwhelming with so many people there and I had no clue where to go. Everyone was chatting with each other so I just went straight for the bathroom because my flight response was kicking in. In the stall, I debated whether or not to leave. I put in the group chat that I didn't know where to go and a girl said that she was sitting by herself and to come by so I did. I'm proud of myself for not leaving. And she seemed introverted as well. During our conversations she would say a little about herself and then silence. She seemed interested but was very simple in her responses. I felt so much more comfortable while talking to her because I didn't feel alone amongst the sea of people there. Then we got in our groups which were assigned randomly so I didn't know anyone in my group but I was feeling good since I had talked to that girl. She was literally in the group in the lane next to me so we were close. I had fun bowling and was talking to one guy next to me for a little bit but then it was my turn to bowl and when I came back my seat was taken by some girl he knew and there were no other seats left so I just stood there awkwardly until my next turn. No acknowledgement. No “oh hey sorry about your seat getting taken” just a bunch of extroverts going on and on, completely unaware that my seat was just taken and now I'm just standing there. So I had to go to a lane on the far end of the bowling alley to steal a chair and brought it back and sat it in between tables because all the seats were full. Everybody's backs are turned against me because their at their tables and I'm just out in the open. The only conversing I did with my group was the “hey it's your turn, good job, nice strike”. One girl attempted to chat with me but it didn't go anywhere because she asked me about my major and I told her what it is right now but that I'm changing it and I'm still undecided and it was just like “oh okay” then nothing else. Then at some point I got tired of not being acknowledged by my group and moved my chair over to the girl I met earlier. And it was like she wasn't interested in talking to me, she never asked me anything the entire time. I would ask her questions and get little from her. Then towards the end, this charismatic, confident dude just comes up to her group and starts chatting away and she was laughing and seemed happy around him. After bowling everyone went to an arcade to celebrate the ball drop there and originally I planned on going but after all the negativity that was brewing in my head, I didn't feel worthy enough to go along to the arcade. People even asked me if I was gonna go to the arcade and I told them yes but inside I knew the real answer. So I left and made my way home nearly an hour and a half away. That drive sucked. No music just me and my mind. I felt so lost and hopeless. Why can't I just fucking make friends? I thought. Why am I so boring that nobody wants to talk to me? I thought. Then thoughts of suicide started firing left and right. Maybe I should just drive into a brick wall as fast as possible, I thought. Maybe I should slit my throat with the knife in my center console, I thought. But no, I'm too afraid to follow through. My life is so miserable because I'm so goddamn lonely. Those people in the meetup group have no idea what it's like. They have friends, they have partners, they carry conversations effortlessly. Why can't I? What is wrong with me and I mean it?! Why did I come to this world to experience this shit life? What is wrong with my head? I don't belong here and I just want life to be over.nnEdit: I just checked my email and seen that the girl I talked to when I first got the bowling alley messaged me asking me why I wasn't at the arcade. Dammit I really fucked this up. This is what i mean when I ask wtf is wrong with my head. This girl must've wished I was at the arcade after all to message me like that but I took it as she wasn't interested, especially after Mr. charming made his presence known. Well, there goes a missed opportunity to talk to her at the arcade smh… what should I tell her? Should I be honest and say that I thought she found me boring? That I wasn't interesting enough? I need some advice pls
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Good luck! I hope it all goes well for you!
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SAD is the reason I feel like a complete idiot in the world. I dont speak to anyone when I'm around people, afraid I'll say something they won't like. So much so that even around my closest relatives I'm always quiet to a point where people start jeering me and judging me. My parents constantly hate me for the very same reason and even though all I want to do in life is to be there for them the way they've been for me, I feel like I've already ruined their lives by just existing! This is a rant and I'm truly sorry to bother anyone reading with all this, but I just don't know what to do anymore! I don't have friends who I can talk to, my relatives already think I'm egoistic, shy and rude only because I don't talk to them and don't mingle enough and my parents hate me for the fact that I constantly disappoint them in front of others and are ashamed of my behaviour. I dont blame them for yelling at me for not being social enough, they're right about it but I just cant do anything even though I want to! They think I'm gonna fail in life and even I've started having these thoughts. I've never wanted anything bad for anyone yet I feel like I'm letting the entire world down and I shouldn't even exist. I'm truly sorry to bother you with this but I didn't know what to do! Please forgive me for being vulnerable in here! It sounds really cringy but please help me! I feel numb, empty and worthless.
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most people dont have sa and miss me with this passive aggressive energy
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English second language, forgive mistakes.nFew years back in highschool, a girl i knew from elementary school (i graduated 1 year earlier and never saw her again) approached me in an extremely flirty manner. She was telling me that i grew into good shape and how good my fashion, physique, etc and was showing CLEAR signs of interest in me. I was decent looking but was still out of her league because she was just stunning. Due to my social anxiety, i literally started sweating the second she approached me. I responded very cold to every single compliment she said to me, never returned them and seemed painfully uncomfortable (i was). She probably thought i was hating every second i was talking to her. So after that conversation ended, she never approached me. Nor did i her. To this very day i still regret that i was acting so cold at that time. And never apologized to her. I missed my chance to have a relationship and maybe sex with her. This detail is important because i was horny AS HELL back then while i was going thru puberty so i really wanted a partner. I still remember this almost every night and bury my face into my pillow regretting my actions. So if anyone is seeing this and is having problem talking to girls. Think: what's the worst outcome that can happen? She will reject me? Who the fuck cares. There are a ton of girls out there. I wish i had someone to tell this to me.nDon't be like my sorry ass...
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More than 90 percent
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I'm not sure how my mind constructed the narrative that everyone is terribly mean and pushy, most of my real world experiences have been fairly positive in ways I didn't expect. nnFor example, I always get nervous buying things at kiosks if there's someone else there, in case the card declines or the machine is broken and I look like a fool. That just happened to me, and the guy behind me was like hey let me get it for you, get what you want. Turned out the machine really was just broken but I appreciated his kindness. Many times things like this have happened to me. nnThen I walked out of the building and ran into one of my apartment neighbors, goes ‘there he is!' With a huge smile on his face. We had bonded a bit over both missing the bus last week. I didn't know I was noticed really, and especially not in such a positive way. nnBasically: almost nobody will be meaner to you than you've already been to yourself. I'm finding confidence in that.
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Very well said
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So I've always been shy and the only friends I ever made only talked to me on school or in the internet. I'm not a guy that usually hangs out, etc. Two years ago a few guys started talking to me and that was the first time I had more than 3 friends. We used to talk a lot but I still was shy and was the one who spoke the least. So last year I moved to another city with a
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OK if you don't have a hobby, here's another suggestion: Try shifting your focus. So at the moment your focus may be external to you or outside of yourself. For example, you may be thinking, 'how can I make friends?, i.e what circumstances do I need in order to make friends...Now try shifting your focus internally to you, not externally. So for example in this instance you would replace the 'how can I make friends?' (external focus) to 'What is important to me about making friends?' 'What scares me when I think about making friends?' 'What stops me from making friends?' then pay attention to the answers...as an example, you might find that answers such as this one could arise: I feel like they won't like me or I'm scared of being judged...once you find your answers then you can work on that instead. So if you find you are suffering from a low self esteem or a lack of confidence for example, you could perhaps find a book about how to raise your confidence, etc...I hope that helps? :) n
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How many ppl here r around 23 and know what they wanna do for the rest of their life?? Have it all figured out???
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yo im 23 and i absolutely have nothing figured out i cant even eat or drink water properly
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From my impression of her, she looks like she's a very outgoing, happy person. While I'm the COMPLETE opposite.. I'm afraid she's going to be disappointed in me once she finds what I'm like...
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Do something you're confortable with, going out for coffee, something simple? Don't change yourself, if this goes far she will eventually find out who you are. Listen to her! That's the most important thing.
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I have no idea where to look and how to act all of a sudden, because I'm scared people are looking at me and judging me, it makes me so awkward and scared.. nnI don't know if this is a common thing, because I never read anything about it. But I imagine it is.
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I set my eyes ahead like I am 'staring' but am focused on people's legs/feet to predict their pathing and cut through the crowds at my brisk pace.
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22 here
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20 and I find no problem with it , I'm going to college and getting money and other things done, as long as your working toward your future and becoming mentally and financially prepared when the time comes then you should move out. You don't have to be 18 to move out, I enjoy time with my parents and I know the time will come.
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My self conscious levels have gotten higher due to my SA coming through more as I've gotten older. Like when I go outside and if someone is walking behind me I get so nervous and wonder if I'm walking properly because I have a weird stance a lot of times. nnI can't look at a person either as I don't want to offend anybody so I always want to take my hat so I don't have to look at a persons face. When I talk to people I haven't met I get worried sometimes that they are mocking my voice as I have a weird robotic sounding voice. I always like to bring my phone when I go outside and glue my face to my phone so I don't have to make eye contact with anybody. If In standing at a place I get so anxious that there are many people watching me from different places so I do my best just to be normal, if I could be. nnSo you see I'm so self conscious now and its just a part of me.
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Hey there, I'm so sorry that things have progressed like this for you. Sincerely, I feel for you a lot. That all sounds exhausting and flat out awful. I get it, I'm in the same boat.nI understand how you feel like your walking weird because there is someone walking near you.nI understand the voice thing as well, my voice is never consistent when I say something. I get the phone thing as well, its like a safe retreat. Keeps you safe from the people. Just always on edge feeling like every single person out there is just watching and waiting to judge something about you. Then trying to act normal and it feels so forced and just unnatural. It feels like everyone can just sense your faking it.nIn my case, trying too hard to be a normal human sitting still in a chair fails. And I wind up twitching. Yup. Twitching. Like in a room full of people. There goes that being-normal plan. Completely laughable.nn I can completely relate to you and how uncomfortable everyday life is. I do wish that things get better for you. You deserve to be comfortable and feel free from the constraints of human opinions. I plan on going to talk to someone.
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I want to start taking walks to improve my health but I am nervous. I am considering buying a burqa online. Is it legal to wear one of these in the USA? I live in the Deep South, I wonder if I would be harassed? We have a lot of foreign students in the city so it's not unheard of to see women in burqas.
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Yeah, you'll feel really self-conscious.
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I've gotta do a slideshow in front of my class
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I'll try
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One issue I find with this is that the majority of the social gatherings that feed and maintain friendships are large groups of people. Which is a setting that drains the energy of most people dealing with SA very quickly.nnThis is because these gatherings are usually orginised by extrovets as it is their preferred social situation.nnMy suggestion to you to develop and maintain freindships is to make the effort to orginise social events yourself but do it on your terms. Smaller groups etc.nnMy version:nI love films, own about 1,500. Have a projector set up etc. Twice a week I have people over for a meal and a movie. Different groups but always 3 -5 people max
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The sky is blue.nThe sun is shining.nI'm thinking summer is arriving soon and I absolutely despise summer.nIt's too hotnMigraine season.nToo many people in public.nCan't sleep at night.nAll the bugs come out to play.nnPlease tell me I'm not the only one who hates summer!!
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I hate it because ill have to wear short sleeve t-shirt and i dont like my skinny arms, i am pretty skinny and tall(
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At the start of October, my girlfriend started to age regress suddenly after having a bad disassociative episode and couldn't remember anything past when they were 18. She woke up from sleeping on the second day of this back to her current self and couldn't remember anything from when she was regressing. Then it happened again two weeks later back to her being 16, and now it's happened again back to 20, but this time she got so distressed and scared of what was going on that she regressed to being 9. (I mention all this just in case its not actually age regression specifically but something else maybe)nnThe things that have gotten her out of it were sleeping for the first time, watching the news the second, and this third time when she got really distressed, she regressed even further into her fourth. nnnShe's got a therapist appointment on the 2nd of November and I have the number for her PCP, but I need to know if there's anything I can do right now to get her out of this. Looking online, everywhere I'm reading says to see a mental health specialist but I need to help her out of this now or she'll lose her job (which will make her possibly regress even more) nnI have a place to go to that's essentially an emergency room for mental health that the therapists office gave me, but when mentioning it, the receptionist said something about keeping her there, possibly institutionalizing and the absolute LAST thing I want to happen is for her to wake up with no one being around and trapped in a hospital. nnI don't really know what subreddit to go to for this so I hope this is ok. Please tell me what I can to do help her if anything.
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You've been a tremendous help and appreciate your empathy towards this immensely. She's been stable for two days now after assuring her that no matter what happens I will be there for her her mood is much much better. Voluntary commitment could be a much better choice that I might go over with her should she regress again, but for right now we're going to wait until her appointment on the 2nd. I was thinking an MRI or a talk with a neurologist may be a good idea. That permanent amnesia thing sounds... crushing. I think I'm gonna keep that to myself and not tell her about that just in case that causes her to regress again or makes her spiral in a panic. We both have personal Discord servers just for us and she's got a message in one channel that explains everything about herself, what's been going on, and some basic information she needs to know like who I am, what phone numbers she can call, and some close friends who know about the situation and we both trust with our lives pretty much. So she's got a good support net for a possible instance where I may not be home and I'm working on trying to either get a second job or convincing my current manager to let me go full time so I can have enough money to support the both of us so she doesn't have to work. nnThank you for all your help and your words of comfort, they really help and truly mean a lot. I will be back and reply to this with what happens at the appointment with some more resources hopefully so that way anyone who comes across this thread needing the information I didn't have at the time can have a place to look if they need it.
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Apparently I'm toxic AF. I try to be a decent person, and I let alot slide just to not get mad. It never works as intended. I always end up pissing someone off, or causing a fight, or getting myself banned. I've been isolating myself more and more just to mitigate it. I don't speak in public if I can help it, and when I do it's one word. I don't call or text my friends, I delete comments soon after making them. My opinion is a disease. A disease I'm trying not to spread. I'm only posting this as record, and to let someone know. I have nothing to live for, no family, and I'm so ugly and toxic that there's no reason for me to even talk to a girl. I'm giving up on all my hobbies as I can't share them. I'm terrified of my job because I rarely talk, and I think they hate me for being antisocial. I hate the fact that killing myself is a viable solution. I'd rather be dead than be a bad person, but not a one person sees me as
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I don't believe anyone can be 'a bad person' if they're trying to be a good person. Maybe you're just socially awkward and use the wrong words, or maybe you just don't have the right people around you. Some people get mad over this littlest things, especially now. If both you and the person you're talking to are on edge, because you're tired or insecure or annoyed by something else, it's very easy to have a conversation escalate into a fight. nnI don't know much about you, just what you typed here, so I'm gotta take a leap here. If you don't recognise yourself in this, then please disregard it: it feels like you value other people's opinion about you very highly, but also expect them to dislike you before you even talked to them. That's a very powerless and desperate situation to be in, because it means the thing you want most (love and recognision) is always out of your reach and there's nothing you can do about it.nnIf this is indeed how you feel, then you are in a tough spot, but I'm sure you can get out of it. Try to find something else that gives you confidence. A hobby, for example. Maybe you like to make music, paint, go for a run, play a game, take care of a plant... If you can find a simple thing you enjoy, it's also easier to connect with other people.nnI personally love talking to anyone, but if someone is desperate, you can sense that. If you come up to me with a picture of your house plant and say:
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On Thursday I'm supposed to be going down the shore in a house with 60 other people for 5 days who I barely talk too. (Which is a whole other dilemma in my mind) nnnAnd the problem I'm having now is I want to drive down with people and don't know how to ask people if I can go with them. However the same people I'd like to ask hav turned me down on other things and I'm not sure if they'll say yesnnBut th people id ask have turned me down on different shit multiple times in the last couple years and I really just don't want to be rejected againnnnSo idk what to do about that
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Thanks for the advice
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I am now completely on my own with no signs of getting better, but I feel that deep inside I need human interaction even though I can't manage it at all, now I don't know what to do. Sorry this is more of a rant/vent than a well structured post, but it suddenly dawned on me that I'm clueless as to what to do with my life.
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I have no hobbys at all, and this is a significant issue of mine.
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I am planning to get my first job soon and I was wondering if having a job helped you with your social anxiety and maybe boosted your self-esteem or if it made you even more anxious.nn(https://www.reddit.com/poll/ot7e3j)
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I used to be like that. Focus on the job instead of worrying your gonna look stupid doing it. 1 billion people with jobs, trust me at the end of the day they don't care how you looked...doing your job. I personally said fuck these people...everyone getting money doing shit they hate while I lowkey like my job, these people round me ain't gonna effect my money, they gon like me or not but that job gon get done so I can get that money
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So I had a job interview today.. and I really wanted to be confident and not feel anxious but I screwed everything up. It's literally I don't know how to talk to people and in the end they asked if I had any questions and I said no. I literally couldn't think of a single question. They probably thought I wasn't interested in this job, so I'm pretty sure I wont get this job. How do you guys do in job interviews? I'm looking for a job for months now and my anxiety really holds me back. Why can't I be normal? I hate myself
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Where you messed up was in not preparing for the interview. Think about your questions beforehand and it's ok to bring them with you. You'll do better next time! I'm a recruiter and happy to help with any of this of you have any questions for me.
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Title says it all. My parents invited some
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After reading your updates I feel you kinda set yourself up to fail, if you're just repeating that it's going to be a disaster in your head then that'll affect you when it's actually happening. Do your parents know about your social anxiety? Did you tell them that you weren't comfortable with it? Either way it sounds like a rough situation to be thrown into last minute and I'm sure you did what you could, you shouldn't feel bad about removing yourself from a situation you didn't want to be in. I hope the rest of your evening went alright.
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So I'm a 6ft big ugly bloke, but my voice has no projection - despite it being fairly deep.nnPeople just can't hear me, and I cannot shout or project across a distance.nnWhere or who can help? I've emailed a few voice coaches but they all seem to deal with disabilities and rehab.nnMaybe I need a singing coach?nnAny suggestions?
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Singing or acting classes might help. They teach you how to project your voice as if you're speaking to an audience, which is a useful technique imo
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Hey all. As my username suggests, I have anxiety. It's been quite severe most of my life, to the point I've not been able to work. At the beginning of the year, I got a casual job on the recommendation of a casual friend. For a while it went great, I went in, did what I needed, and went home. But the more hours I got, the more I became involved in the day to day running of the place. I went from just working on the register to helping with orders/stocking/cleaning…just about everything really. nnHowever, because I have severe anxiety I always worry I'm doing things wrong. My way of mitigating it has always been to double check what I'm doing is correct. I'm aware it's annoying, and I know people hate it. But it's my way of dealing. When I get told about something new, I'll confirm it, write it down (in detail and step by step) so I can always refer back when needed or when I get anxious in the future.nnWe recently had a staff meeting where the manager brought up “argumentative behaviour”. My coworker later admitted that it was about me, and my tendency to double check that what I'm doing is the correct process, etc. I've always had an extreme fear of doing something wrong and being told that…it felt as though someone had stabbed me. My way of making sure I was not doing something wrong…made it seem as though I was! I explained it to said coworker and he said he understood, but the manager on the other hand…I know checking can be a pain in the arse but I've never been told it comes off as argumentative! Has anyone else experienced this?? I've been fired from jobs previously for having mental health issues so I'm quite worried about the whole situation.
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Your manager sounds like a nob head, having diligent staff that double-check their work should be viewed as a blessing!
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This is just my experience, and honestly I'm not sure if it fits here but I don't know where else to put it. I'm not saying some girls don't have trouble getting dates off apps, I'm just saying in my opinion it's a lot more difficult for guys to get attention. Obviously I don't have a proper point of reference because I've never been a woman though.nnI just don't understand what people want. I like to think I'm a relatively attractive guy, if a bit skinny. I'm definitely not ugly. I rarely get any attention on apps and honestly at this point they feel like a waste of time. I'm honestly just really fucking lonely and I don't know how else to meet people. I'm trying to date again after taking a month or two off from it because I had some really awful experiences. My girlfriend of almost five years, whom I loved with all my heart, left me a few months ago and I just feel so fucking lost and lonely. nnMost of the matches I do end up getting they never even bother to reply to my first message. Those that do, most stop messaging me after one or two messages. I've tried asking them out on a date early in the conversation, and I've also tried just messaging for a while to get to know them first and neither have gotten me any luck. The few people I do end up matching with and meeting haven't worked out and like I mentioned I've had some awful experiences. The ones I have met have turned out to be profoundly mentally ill, even more so than myself which I think is really saying something to be honest. I don't have any idea how to meet people in real life so this feels like my only option but it just doesn't work out. If you have any advice feel free to share, I guess I just need to know I'm not alone in feeling this way. It just makes me sad and I'm afraid I'll be alone forever.
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I'm profoundly mentally ill myself, so I feel you. I think we really are in the same boat. It's pretty rare for anything to come of apps.nnWell, I met her on an app in the first place but when I did meet her I was just about to delete Tinder and give up on it nnI agree with you, it probably would be better for me to try and improve myself but I just feel so lonely I haven't felt like I've been able to. I know that's probably not healthy.
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I've suffered from SA since high school (I'm almost 30 now). It got quite a bit better over the years due to constant exposure from work and such but I still had a lot of trouble with connecting with people, eye contact, etc. It has held me back from a lot of experiences and potential friendships. I also had severe depression which only made things that much worse. nnI started Zoloft back in January of this year and man what a difference it has made. My social anxiety is pretty much non existent now as well as my depression. I'm still a major introvert but it's like holy shit you can just say whatever to people and it's no big deal??? Like I actually enjoy talking to people now and don't get embarrassed if I say something silly. I can just roll with it. It's such a relief. I didn't realize life could be this simple because it has been painful for so long.nnI just wanted to share this because for the longest time I didn't think things could possibly be any better. So it's just nice to know there are options. I dunno how long the medicine will remain this successful but I'm going to enjoy it while it lasts.
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I can highly relate to this. Also just turned 30 and have been suffering from social anxiety since high school. My way of dealing with it has always been to try and put myself in social situations and make myself the “center of attention” but in recent years, also after a serious depression, it got so much worse. So now I finally decided to turn to setralin. I've been on it for about five weeks now and so far I don't feel much. Started on 25mg for 8 days and then 50mg for the past month. Hoping to see some change in the coming weeks. Thanks for sharing your story! Hope that anyone that reads this feels better soon. You're not alone
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(apologies for the double-post)nnThe next time I get asked why I'm so quiet, I actually want to give a decent response that is sincere but not make me look like an asshole.nnI'm emphasizing on not making me look like an asshole because some extroverted, talkative people I know don't mean any harm, but wouldn't know the implications of asking that question immediately.nnAt the same time I want to give an true, short response because I hate lying or giving wrong information about myself. nnAlthough it'd be awkward if I straight-up said
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I usually just say I don't have much to say or that I'm not good with social situations. If somebody has an issue with either of those answers that's on them, not me.
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TW/CW: Swearing, arophobia(?).nnRecently, I've found I may be aromantic.nnThat's scary in its own right. nnI'm not even sure if my family, friends, or… anyone, will accept that. My parents have always seemed to be wonderfully accepting. I came out as a lesbian when I was twelve years old and was met with only support, and when it turned out I have clinical depression and anxiety disorder, I was given support in that area too. I love my family and would never expect them to hate or hurt me for coming out as aromantic, but the thing is, I don't think they'll believe me. No matter how accepting my parents have proven themselves to be, they are also extremely ‘everyone-falls-in-love-someday' hippies. No exaggeration, it's ridiculously extreme. The literal definition of love is hung up as a painting in their house's main hallway. There are many, many other reasons I'm terrified of coming out, but honestly… I'm tired, my head is burning, and I am getting so off topic. So, I digress, let's move on to the point of this post.nnI'm currently dating someone and I don't know how to break up with her or explain why without sounding like a lunatic. My stupid fucking social anxiety won't let me do jack-shit. nnIt's been long distance for quite a while now, around five months, and she's my first relationship. And ever since the start of it, I've felt disgusted with the very idea of it. Long story short, the fact that I'm dating her in the first place was huge peer pressure (I guess) from my “friends”. She'd been one of my best friends, so I would gush about her sometimes, as everyone does with all their friends, right? Well, this group of people didn't feel that way and would tease me constantly whenever she got brought up. It left and still leaves a sickly, sinking feeling in my stomach, and honestly, I think it triggers my fight-or-flight. I get actually nauseous. It's… probably ridiculous on my part, but I can't help it. Now I'm not near these people anymore, but I was forced to date her because – also a very long story – she would ghost me if I didn't tell her who others claimed had a crush on her. This was all part of a huge scheme to make me confess, and I was scared of losing her, so I said it was me. Then somehow it came that we started “dating”.nnBut I just can't do it anymore. At first, I thought maybe it was just because it was my first relationship, after all, my mom says everyone is uncomfortable at first, yeah? Maybe it's just I don't think I'm deserving of love, a side effect of my depression, commitment issues, abandonment issues…. But I don't care anymore what the reasoning is. Maybe I'm not aromantic! Maybe I'm just confused! I just want out, I'm scared, and I can't take it. The very reason I accepted that I would have to date her was to not lose her, but I have anyway, because now texting her, seeing her, calling her, even just casually, it all makes me sick and feel disgusting deep down, and I hate it. I feel like a horrible person but I hate this.nnI need to break up with her, but I can't, and that's what's worse. Every single social media forum to speak of says it's wrong to break up with someone over text or call, but being in person I'm worried would give me a panic attack, which would worsen things on all ends. nnSo just fuck me I guess!! I would love to not have a goddamn panic attack but I guess my feelings don't matter!!! THIS IS ALL BULLSHIT!!! nnMaybe calling would work? But how do I do that? Isn't that just as shitty? I'm such a shit person and am at fault for all of this and yet I can't even break up with her which really just hurts her, isn't that selfish? I've not broken up with her for my own selfish reasoning. Maybe I should just accept that I'll have a panic attack and tell her to leave right after I break up with her to make a weak attempt to avoid that, but isn't that more hurtful? I just don't know what to do. I fucking hate anxiety and all of this. I'm at my wits end here and it all hurts.
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The way out of social anxiety is only by facing your fears.. you clearly need to do what makes you happy and the thing that will make you happy is by ending things… you should tell her exactly how you feel and rant to her like you're ranting on here :) no relationship should feel like a trap
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I wonder if anyone else experiences this. I do have social anxiety, but more than that I just get exhausted by social interaction. Even if it's with people I'm close to. It's really hard for me to stay engaged in conversation and I quickly start feeling tired and overwhelmed. Then I feel guilty for not wanting to interact with the people I care about.nnI wonder if this is part of the anxiety or something different. Thoughts?
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When I had social anxiety I used to feel this way aswell, I can't say for sure why it's happening to you.nnBut in my case, I found that there is something called
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This is particularly aimed at men on this sub, but open to responses from all who this might resonate with.nnDoes anyone else get utterly infuriated by how your lack of
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People like fun people. That's how it is. Is this character of yours showing through? And how do you know that others don't posses the character you claim you do?
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I'm now 24(F) was very badly bullied in high school, from older and younger then me. I hated every day of school… I constantly had been called horrible slurs.nnNow every time I see young teens I immediately want to run away, I hate feeling this way. It's really hard to hold myself together.nnIf I see them laughing or talking softy I think there making fun of me.. and I start getting the shakes very badly. I will even walk in a different direction if I see them. I avoid going any where when school time has just finished.. nnI feel like I'm a terrible person for saying they scare the hell out me!
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Yep still no matter what age I am, it still happens… nnI've recently being in contact with you younger cousin (17m) and that helps a bit, his mates are very nice. It's a very good reminder that some teens are not so great to say, and some are.
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3 days nothing but hospital. Blood test. Ct scan. Next doc this doc that doc this test now more comingnnI had a stomach pain 3 days ago or so. Diarrhea was green so I took it as food poison so I went to urgent care. Did a CT scan and blood work. Doc told me he called the hospital that you arriving now I'm like wtf so I went and they did another scan more blood then took me next street for another testing. Told me i definitely need a colonoscopy asap but they will let me know when these specialnBlood test and all comes in and it did just 30 min ago i was in the ER after the doc called and said to come. I never experienced a call and feeling and fuck you life in the world. I walked in doc told me sit down and I threw up right away cause sit down is not a good thing. He told me I had colitis and he wants me to take these meds that's is the big reason I had to come. I know what colitis is but wtf will I die from it. What will happen? He told me I will need a colonoscopy without question and I asked like hernia this the C word and he didn't say much and now I'm front of the ER shaking and can't drive
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You are in a good care. Try to relax a bit. Do slow and deep breathing.
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Sometimes I think about it and I don't know, I'm not sure I can see myself having a partner that doesn't freak out because of my social anxiety. But at the same time, there is still hope, haha! So I'm not giving up until I find the right person.
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Maybe but I'd have to fake my personality and pretend to be like how they want me to be and then break up once I can't take it anymorennAn honest relationship where I can just be myself and relax? No chance
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I dont know if I have SA, but I am currently a 21 year old going to med school in a year with the social skills of a 12 year old. I cannot maintain eye contact with anyone, and when I am with my friends I am made fun of, or at least feel like I am being judged constantly. The lack of a love interest the past 2 years makes me think that I have nothing to offer anyone. I am male by gender and sex, yet my friends ridicule my lack of a sexual partner. This makes me think that I need new friends, but when I try to approach anyone I am frozen in fear. I have been called a retard before because I am too afraid to speak to people. (disclaimer: I have a 3.9 G.p.a as a senior biochemistry major at a 4 year public university). I am an emotional wreck right now and need help. I called a therapist today because google told me to. Is there anyone on this subreddit who's going through something like this? Or better yet, is there someone here that has beat this?
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I never had it anywhere near as bad as you, but therapy helped my self-diagnosed SA. You would prefer your life was different, your body/brain has so much emotion/drama/history involved in that concept that you can't even think about it rationally, and therapy can hopefully help figure out where that comes from and how to move past it.nnThe best advice I ever got was that half of all therapists are bad, and only half of the good ones are really going to mesh with you and make you progress. The first guy I went with I saw no progress and it was a waste of time. If I hadn't heard of that I probably would have given up forever or stuck with him and not felt any better. This new guy had me see a lot of improvement after just a few sessions and a ton of improvement after 12 sessions.
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M(41) 5'9 262lbs diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder w/suicidal idealization. My mental health dr. Is only writing scripts for me that will fetch him top dollar ntrileptal $757.77 paliperidone $199.94 duloxitineHcl $74.11 prazosin $20.00 zolpidem tartare $48.74 & hydroxyzineHcl $32.37 total cost per month is 1,132.93 and not treating my whole condition,( no antidepressant). I've been 14 days without medication and am suffering with psychosis relapse,extreme emotional bouts, depression and anxiety, and a self worth of =0 nWhat's the risk of suicide if I stay off the meds and will this ever stop?
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Thank you for your reply will definitely look into these options
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I went to Halloween party a week and a half ago and everyone there was married except for me and one girl I didn't know. We played a game as couples so obviously I was paired up with this girl. We ended up winning the game and it was pretty fun, I felt a little uncomfortable throughout but it wasn't too bad. But anyway the girl who was hosting the party decided it would be a good idea to set me and that girl up on a date. She didn't set it all up for us, she just gave me her number. I had never actually called to ask a girl out before but with some encouragement from a friend I did it today, and now we're going out Saturday night on a double date with the couple that hosted the party. I just thought I would post this here because I'm feeling really good about overcoming a major obstacle today.
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Dude thats great! Congrats
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I have been in many situations in life where my
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You know how many people's social anxiety can partially be about the uncertainty of if they care about what you have to say (especially for initiating and prolonging an interaction)? When we don't respond, the other person may take offense as it can be interpreted as
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What has worked for you guys?
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Cannabis
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My best friend for 25 years is a full-bore extrovert. He doesn't understand why I'm
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I have a similar friend who made a comment about me today that really stuck with me. We were in a skype conversation with a few other friends and they were discussing going clubbing tonight (I very rarely go with them, and when I do I don't particularly enjoy it) and the conversation went like this:nnHim: is coming?nnMe: maybe...nnHim: that's a no then, rather stay at home touching himself .nnWe do have a very weird, jokey jargon in this group but it really came off as though I had somehow offended him by not coming. He has also made comments telling me and another friend to get a life because we still play video games (we're only 19-20 years old) and he really emits a sense of superiority which I really can't stand, but I maybe it's just me being sensitive and taking too much of what others say personally.nnedit: Didn't plan to write this much, I guess I needed to vent too...
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I wasn't even really into cartoons anymore, I just really liked Avatar
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What a dickhead. You should start rewatching cartoons and maybe even anime because these are some of the best entertainment in the world.
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so, here's the thing, life has been quite hard for the past 3-4 years, and i was quite good at concealing it, like, my parents never noticed anything, but since last year, things have changed a lot, my parents saw my self harm marks( i do them on my upper arm because i don't wear sleeveless dresses, but my mom saw it while i was sleeping and told my father), and they are ashamed of me because of that, my mom keeps telling me, how ugly it is and how disappointing i am to do this, they keep telling me, how they had expectations from me but i'm just a disappointment and i'm really tired, really tired. things are quite heavy because of college and i can feel that my mental health is in a really bad position, i don't like eating anymore, my sleep pattern is messed up, i can't concentrate properly, i don't have friends, i can't talk to anyone, because when i tell my cousins these things, they just say 'don't think too much' avoid me, i'm really tired and i just don't know what to do. everyday it's the same cycle of waking up, thinking i was gone, trying to get through the day, my parents forcing things on me, trying to do college stuff, i just, i don't know why i'm like this.
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Your parents should not feel ashamed. You are not a disappointment they just need to accept the fact that you are suffering from mental health issues and as you stated your mental heath is not in a good position you must consult to a mental health specialist. At Psychowellness Center, we have the best psychologist in India who will help you by giving the best treatment. Please connect with a psychologist at psychowellness center and you will get the help you need.
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I wasn't even really into cartoons anymore, I just really liked Avatar
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My dad did this to me constantly. He actually began making me to watch the Fox News and R rated movies. I was maybe, 12 and I assumed that nobody would find it interesting. I shielded my interest, even around people who also liked anime, Disney movies, etc. I just assumed I was always the odd one out and everyone would attack me for it. nnI'm 26 now, it's been a few years since I last spoke to my father. I have been trying to undo the years or neglect and abuse by facing fears that were instilled in me by him. One of which is opening up about interest in video games, anime and cartoons. It started with some of my coworkers.nnThe acceptance I felt from my group of coworkers is what really helped because I saw how casual they talked about it around people who did not understand it. Like we had a full conversation naming different anime we've watched, all the while our 40-50+ coworkers kinda just listened and just went on with their business without (sort of) judging us. It's a journey, not a destination.nnDon't let one person, especially someone who really doesn't matter, and let it restrict who you want to be.
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To most this would be an extremely thrilling and super scary thing to do.nnEven before it happened, these trainer guys were pretty much trained to make dumb jokes and be all smiles to help you relax. All it did was make me anxious. Every part of me just wanted to tell everyone to shut the hell up! All these dad jokes and trying to get to know me were worse than the actual jump. I would love to skydive again (in the summer), but I would also really like to not do it with a bunch of hyped up strangers. I mean do they do that or for every jump??? I just felt sorry for them. And even more sorry because I wasn't
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Reminds me of getting a haircut. Not nearly as thrilling, of course, but even the most chatty of stylists have been brought low into the awkward silence that is giving me a haircut.
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I don't know what tf might be wrong with me and honestly I don't really care anymore either.nnOver the last year I've become convinced that humans are the absolute worst. nnWe lie, hurt, manipulate others and ourselves. We let nature feel the wrath of our self implied power. Absolutely obliterating every living and dead thing that stands in our way. Crossbreeding animals and plants to our likings, turning them into disease riddled mutants. Terraform this planet and fuck up every ecological balance in nature we could possibly fuck up. nnAll the while the majority of people have no fucking clue about anything at all. Our attention span has been reduced to that of a grape and the only thing (most) people can still care about are 5 second videos of people stirring paint for God sakes.nnI hate us so much. The best thing that could happen to us was a pandemic that would kill off most of humanity, but no, we had to intervene there as well.nnI am having a hard time trying to behave normal. Going to class and socialising with friends. None of it feels right anymore. I don't want to see my friends and I'm never attentive when I do see them, I just don't hear anything of what they say. nnThe voices are getting louder and something wants to break free.nnI'm honestly considering radicalizing and commiting acts of terrorism to express my discontent towards modern society, it's blind moral compass and the capitalisation of everything. I feel as if this would be the only actual valuable thing I could possibly do with my life. Anything else (like continuing to go to school and getting a job) would only further feed the system. And I would be but just another depressed cog inside of it.nnI cognitively know that what I'm writing here is fucked up and that I shouldn't but it's truly how I feel and I (emotionally) don't know anymore.
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There is a way to spread your message instead of committing acts of terrorism. Listen, there is nothing special, unique, or helpful in harming others. You would be just another radicalized cog and your message would be distorted. Take the energy that is fueling your anger and do something that helps others. You need professional help to process what is happening to you emotionally. Speak with a mental health professional who can guide you towards something positive. Ruining your life and other people's life does nothing but create more pain in a world reeling in it.
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I haven't talked to anyone about is but social situations make me really uncomfortable. I get hot and sweaty and there have been times I've had constipation because I'm around others. I've haven't been able to have a conversation where I'm not dying on the inside because I feel like every word I say is a mistake, like I messed up somehow. I often think back to conversations and beat myself up because I feel like I could have done better. I want to be more social, and I've tried, but I can't. I don't really have friends at my school because of this. I'm also very jumpy but idk if that's related. I'm fine with close family but that's it. Am I just overreacting?
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Well for me personally I kind of just deal with the anxiety but I think if you can you should definitely try and talk to a health professional if you notice your anxiety is getting worse.
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He's leaving for California tomorrow, and his family is having a going away BBQ. I was told we (my family) was invited but once I got to his door, I was afraid I would be intruding. I texted him and didn't get a response so now I feel like I upset him in some way, and I couldn't bring myself to knock on the door. I turned around and walked back home.
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Thank about that terrible regret you'll feel if you don't go! No matter how it turns out at least you can say you've made the effort if you at least show up!
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Playing video games makes me stressed, I'm always afraid to loose or die or not be good, also I get jumpscares by things that are not meant to be scary, because of that I think I prefer watching gameplays by other people. Does anybody have the same problem ? How can I be more chill ?
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I find playing online easier and playing solo a lot stressful lol
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So I have a friend, and she is depressed, takes pills and stuff which I have only now known of. I really want to help her, I've been saying any and every motivational thing I can think of, from my expirience or others', but it doesn't seem to be working. So how do girls get out of depression the fastest or most effectively. I'm a male, so I have no idea about it.
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Maybe start with easy mobile games? Something to get the dopamine going
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Hi, I'm 17 years old and on the 29th I'm going to a festival with bands that I really like for the first time that will last 1 week, and I thought it could be a way to fight my fears and social anxiety, but now that there's less and less time I'm getting more and more panic and I'm afraid of giving me several panic attacks over there or dying there, can anyone please give any tips? Thanks
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This is good. I always constantly thought the world was against me, and anyone that said they
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i deserve to be happy at least sometimes, but i cant benneveryone is so cruel to me
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and you are not enabling people to approach you by being angsty about subjects of social anxiety, what goes around comes around; how DO you know the person above you DOESNT know the topic.
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I live in a apartment complex in northern California. I try to keep to myself because I've been through a lot of trauma in my life so I tend to isolate myself. Ever since I moved into my apartment last year, my neighbors (a middle aged couple) a few doors down who are constant chain smokers and are out side 90% of the time run inside their apartment every time I either walk outside or are coming back home to park in my spot. I don't understand why they act like that. I've only had one conversation with them where I offered the lady some cigarettes because I said I was quitting. And she took them and acted rude and dismissive towards me then walked inside her apartment before I could introduce myself. I'm not sure if it's social anxiety or if their just assholes. I'm probably just paranoid but I think they talk crap about me when their outside smoking. I can't understand why people act like that. I haven't done anything to wrong them but everytime they see me they act like I'm some terrible person that needs to be avoided.
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is it possible they don't want you to see/smell them smoking because they know you are/were trying to quit so they go inside?
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I used to be a very likeable popular person, i was really funny and had ALOT of friends, but about a year ago, i noticed my closest freinds (a group of 4 people) didnt laugh at my jokes, and that they acted very diferrrent, i felt like they didnt like me. Ever since that episode, i cant be around people without constantly be afraid if they think im not funny, or if they think im boring or irretating or somehing, i now ALWAYS try to be funny when im with freinds, and it just doesnt end up to be funny.nnI dont know who i am anymore, i dont know what my personality is. please help, i am losing all of my friends because of that.nnAnd i am afraid too see old friends or make new friends because i am afraid they dont like the new me
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a few thoughts here.nni think it's quite normal to outgrow your group of friends, especially when you're young. we grow and change a lot until we develop our personality. so it's okay if you don't get along with them anymore! if so, then it's also okay to go out and look for some better friends who appreciate your company. if you're anxious, you can always talk to your friends to see whether they see you the way you think they do. but they clearly don't make you feel loved and appreciated, and you deserve it all, so it might be worth investing your energy somewhere else.nni also think that if you try too hard to be funny, it might backfire. it may come across as fake and forced.nnsome mental health problems can definitely cause identity disturbance, so if you're worried about that, it could be helpful to speak to a professional.
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I had crippling anxiety since I ve known myself, its better now but I cant find the source of where did this exactly come from, Im trying to remember my childhood and by around age 5-6 I Just always felt uncomfortable around people, super stressed of any social situations, fast heart rate and body shaking. I feel so sorry of my younger self and I cant understand why I was this way ? maybe an abusive or traumatic memory that I dont remember ? anyone else has no idea why they were like this as a kid ?
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Oh no, I know exactly everything that attributed to my SA. I have names.
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My 30th is coming up and I have some friends I could get together for it. My husband is trying to get me to get some friends together but my birthday gives me severe anxiety. It seems to get worse and worse the older I get. nnI have anxiety no one will show up, that no one even wants to be there and no one is having fun. And then I'll be sad I didn't get together with friends and feel like a loser. And repeat cycle.nnUgh I hate social anxiety:( I feel like such a freak
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Same!!!! And why tho?? Ugh
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so i (21F) have been living w two girls who are my age and go to the same school as me since june. we've gotten along pretty well so far and today they told me like would like to be better friends with me. i would too but i am just so anxious its hard to even leave my room sometimes. i told them this and they said i could knock on their door whenever if i wanted to hang out but that seems so terrifying to do. is there any advice somebody could give me to help with this?
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Just be aware of your boundaries and don't feel obligated to stay somewhere that you are ready to be away from. When you are ready to go back to your room, politely excuse yourself.
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I'm yet to find a character with social anxiety (except perhaps Elliot in Mr Robot) that I can relate to in movies, books etc. I understand that it's not the most interesting character choice which is probably why it's so rare, but there must be something out there, right? Does anyone have any recommendations?
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Elliot crying alone in his room hit me too hard. But yeah, I'm curious as well. TBH I have thought about writing a book about it myself since there is so little representation. But i'm not a writer ud83dude02
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I have people that talk to me but no one I enjoy spending my time with or the other way around. It does not bring me joy. This feeling is worse than pain and it's scary.
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I'm not gonna tell you that one day it's all gonna be better or that it'll magically go away and I'm not gonna tell you how long it'll take to go away, but one day you'll wake up and whatever has happened to you just won't hurt as much anymore. Again idk what you've been through so I can't tell you how long it'll take, but you will be better one day
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I've dealt with depression since I was a kid. No one ever got me any kind of help. I'm not 28 and suffering from extreme mood swings and have a hard time regulating my emotions , depression, suicidal and negative thoughts, brain fog, i dissociate really bad, my boyfriend has dealt with these extremes too and I feel so bad for him. I have no energy. I'm a mother and my kids deserve a mom who can regulate her emotions. I feel so bad everyday. I think I need to be on some meds. I think I could have BPD or PTSD. I don't know how or where to start with getting help. Do I goto a therapist or a psychiatrist? Where do I even start? I can't continue to live in this mind set.
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Yes; I found therapy very helpful while going through one of the worst phases of my life.
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I tried chatting on Omegle before, but I'm so bad people either leave or tell me I'm boring, and then proceed to leave.
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/r/socialanxietyfriends , but its not very active
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I (24F) don't know what to do with my life. I have ideas and plans but whenever I want to take action , I just lose motivation. I didn't go to college because I wasn't interested in school. I currently work at a fast food place and when I go home, I can't help but just being my lazy ass Self just watching tv and it feels like I'm wasting my life away. Im currently single and want to stay single because I'm currently working on my mental health and it's not fair to put someone else through that if I'm not mentally stable. I also suffer from social anxiety and can't keep relationships. Im to myself mostly all of the time but this goes way back since I was in kindergarten. I sometimes wish I can sleep forever but I can't do anything selfish because I don't want to my family to go through anything traumatic. Even though all I want, is to just float away so I won't have to deal with any problems. I also have impulsive actions and that's how I have $7,000 in credit card debt.
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Having a job, especially at fast food. I think you're doing great.. well ofc I don't know much about you. But I couldn't handle fast food, I lasted only 3 days. And I love watching tv as well, nothing wrong with that. Most of adulthood is work and come home, that's it. You shouldn't feel bad for watching tv especially when you're working a job. You work SO you can come home and watch TV.
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I have pretty bad social anxiety. Just conversing with a person one on one is hard. Public speaking? Forget about it...nnOr not. To u201covercome my fear of communicationu201d, my (foreign) mom told her foreign friends that I will help their kids learn English better for free, and it will be a little group that will meet over Zoom once a week. She already arranged the times and everything and set everything up so I can't back out of it. And by kids, I mean teenagers who are basically the same age as me. So I have to teach 17-19 year olds how to speak proper English when I'm not even a qualified teacher, and I have to give presentations and everything, and I can't back out of it?!?!?!?!!?!! This must be a nightmare. Please wake me up. nnI'm honestly freaking out right now. I didn't want this. I can't back out. I have to actually do this. I physically cannot public speak. My mom just doesn't understand that I have legitimate social anxiety and that I physically cannot speak in front of people. It's not my choice, I'm not being lazy, that's just how it is. Sunday, I have to call up each student one by one to see their level of English before I actually teach the group. I just want to disappear from the face of this earth. Every time I think about it I feel like crying and running away. My mom and I did a practice over Zoom about what I'm going to say, and even with my own mom I kept messing up and felt anxious. What am I supposed to do?
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There comes a time when you have to draw a line and put your foot down. If it is making you that stressed it is only going to make your anxiety worse, especially if you freeze up and can't finish. I would say
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I want to be healthier and look nicer and really want to join a gym as home workout simply isn't as effective. But I haven't even contacted any gym yet because idk who to call or what to say/ask. Besides even if I did join, I'd be incredibly anxious and insecure about what others are thinking or of doing something stupid. I don't even know how to use any of the machines so I'll probably look like a fool trying to figure out everything. Literally it's so stupid that this shitty anxiety isn't letting me actively improve my damn life.
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I felt the same way. The first step I took was signing up online with planet fitness, it's about $10/month. I also want to note that I did not go immediately.nnThis first step, was to prove to my anxiety I had no excuses, I was already a member. I spent the next few days planning out a less anxious route.nn1. Go early in the AMn2. Stick to treadmill and machines I known3. Observe and learnnnMachines also have a QR code on them now, you can scan and watch how to use the machines. Let me know if you have any questions!
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I feel like I think only about myself. I often catch myself thinking that I'm not glad for the people around me, when they achieve something, but glad when they do something worse than me. I hate my social anxiety, because it interferes with my life goals. But at the same time I feel blame for that, because there so are many people whose problems are much more terrifying problems than mine.nnIn general, idk what's wrong with me, but I'll be incredibly happy, if you find here something similar to yourself and leave comment.
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I honestly think the social anxiety makes us forget to think of others or even acknowledge them with thought
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Hello! I have been having morning anxiety for a couple weeks now. I used to have them exactly a year ago, and they went away after doing some shrooms last fall, but now they are back again. My anxiety peaks usually during the morning when I just wake up. I don't know exactly what triggers it, and I don't even know what I'm bothered by. The anxiety usually manifests physically which is my biggest issue. My stomach feels nauseous and sometimes that leads to bad digestion (of the TMI sort). Usually it will go away on it's own soon enough, but it can get really bad to the point where I can't even leave my bed in the mornings. nnI've been trying really hard to keep my anxiety at bay by distracting myself with errands and reading and playing the piano, but it somehow popped up again. The other day I got an anxiety attack in the middle of the night and then proceeded to feel really bad in the morning when I woke up. nnI would like to either prevent the anxiety or have some sort of coping mechanism for when I do feel anxious in the morning to reduce the symptoms. If anyone has any advice, please help me out. And to anyone else who is dealing with the same thing, I hope that any advice given on this post will help others too. nnSo far I have gathered: n- slow and heavy breathing.n- talk to a friend/family member for some comfort and distraction.n- remind yourself it's temporary (short term) and that eventually you will feel better. n- focus on your senses (what you can hear, smell, taste, see, feel).
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Is it possible you're getting anxiety dreams? I know it sounds weird but I was getting really bad nightmares for a long time. I went on a med to help, but I was still waking up with the same extreme anxiety but not remembering my dreams anymore. So I chalked it up to I was still having the nightmares. A change of dosage fixed that.
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I wonder what it's like to take Xanax when you have social phobia. Has anyone already had experience?
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Hmm yeah I'm pretty outspoken and honest lol
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I turned 30 this year and I have NO friends. The last time I had friends was in primary school. nnIn high school I started suffering from depression and that made my ability so socialise even worse. I'm socially inept, I struggle to talk to people and I always feel embarrassed even if I didn't do anything embarrassing. nnConversing is stressful and I overthink everything, like
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True. Hard to gather courage sometimes. I'm usually worried I won't fit in, or really understand the sub's unwritten rules. Like, always an outsider.nnI usually go practice on r/askreddit, in
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I feel so dumb, got a couple of messages from people a few weeks ago and I just didn't even open them, I don't know why I do this. I guess it's just wanting to avoid doing things, but now I have made things even worse by not responding as it comes off really rude when that's not my intention. Sometimes I really feel like a little kid stuck in an adults body.
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No. I immediately respond but nobody texts me.
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Okay so I was recommended a technique of writing a letter to your mental illness. If you were to write a letter to anxiety as if it were a real person what would you write? It's actually a very therapeutic technique (or has been for me at least).nnYou could also write to a person you love who maybe doesn't understand social anxiety/depression/mental illness too well (looking at you mum and dad) and what you wish you could say to them.nnOn a tangent- I started a project where I collect and publish people's u2018Letters to their mental illness' where anybody can post letters to their illness, from social anxiety, eating disorders, depression, OCD etc. It's all confidential of course.nnI would love a letter from anybody here who would like to take part! Thank you for reading this!
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Dear Social Anxiety:nnPlease die of gonnorhea.nnLove, u/The_House_of_Flies
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Ever since I graduated HS my life has just been so boring and I don't want to peak in HS. I went to college for 2 years but I never got a degree so I just completed a bunch of courses and got credits for them. I dropped out by year 3 and have been heavily demotivated and sitting in my room/house just wasting my youth.nnI'm 21 years old and I'm unemployed (never had a job ever partly due to social anxiety and my slight stutter/shyness), I don't have any friends so I've been extremely lonely and sometimes cry at night because of it, never had a relationship either. All of these things combined just makes me so depressed and sad and I'm not sure how to even repair my life. I've hit rock bottom and it's crazy considering I'm 21.nnI want to go out and have fun and make friends, want to have a relationship/gf and experience that, want to get a job and be social/outgoing but once again I don't know where to start and it just feels shitty. Sitting in my room everyday has fucked up my mental health and I've been thinking about start to smoke cigs in order to cope with social anxiety.
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That's true. I have to push myself out my comfort zone and just do shit I wouldn't normally do. I'm prob going to start applying for jobs tonight on indeed and try to get some customer service skills going. I might enroll to a gym and just workout in order to cleanse my mind. I'm just scared and nervous of people and just talking in general but at some point I'm going to have to face my fears
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It's so frustrating because I probably seem boring and so basic
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I do have social anxiety and feel the same way as you described. When I'm around people that I don't feel comfortable with it feels like my head is suddenly empty and I cannot find anything to talk about. Small talk is an absolute hell for me.
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Hi guys, I'm new here, although I have been lurking for a long time. nnI'm a 22 year old guy from The Netherlands, I'm jobless, I only have one friend, never had a GF or even female friends. I still live at home and I have bad depression and social anxiety. I had to quit my college course due to being depressed around 3 years ago, and since then I've just been wasting my time at home. I just wanted to say hi and I hope I can meet some people on here who are going through the same stuff as me, and hopefully can give people some support wherever I can.
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Hi and welcome :)nnnThe best piece of advice I can give you right now is, if you haven't already, find a hobby or activity that you enjoy. It doesn't have to be social, pick computer programming even. Just find something you like to do most days and try and get good at it. From here it will be much easier to turn your life around.
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I'm in group therapy for my social anxiety, which isn't great, but it helps. The therapy consists of several different activities and one of them is physical exercise. I don't really see the point, but I don't mind either. That is, except for the physical therapist. This is some young woman (more a girl actually) that has this air of arrogance about her. She acts as if she's leading a group of children, even though she's younger than any of us. This behavior of her is pissing me off more and more.nnI know this is partially my problem, because she's exactly the type of person I always have conflicts with, but I also know I'm not the only one that's annoyed by her, so it's definitely not just me.nnWell, today I got mad at her for (constantly) bringing up a problem of mine and showing not the slightest interest in understanding it, even acting somewhat belittling about it (even though it's one of the main focus points of my therapy, which she should know). When I told her how I felt about her behavior she didn't even seem slightly fazed, which pissed me off even more. Right now I'm at the point of just quitting that part of the therapy as it's getting counter-productive this way. I prefer to escalate the whole issue and work it out, but just don't feel up to it.nnTL;DR: Disinterested therapist keeps complaining about one of the bigger issues I have, instead of trying to help, or just understand.nnAnyway, needed to vent mostly, but I'm wondering if there's anyone else that had these kind of problems with therapists/psychiatrists/etc, and if so: how did you deal with it?
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Curious about option 3!nnIt's a bit of 1 and 2. She does trigger one of my issues, but the way she handles it is very unprofessional. I had a talk with the group psychiatrist today and it seems they've already decided that it was me that creates the problem (well duh, that's why I'm there...), but what bothers me is the story they based this on (hers) doesn't match mine and sounds rather exaggerated. Maybe it's true, but even then, I don't like to find out this way.nnAfter some discussion we did reach the agreement that she should show more understanding for the problem and be more helpful, but I'm not happy at all about the way things seem to be discussed amongst the therapists and the lack of feedback. It projects a strong ivory tower mentality, they're really making me feel a subject instead of a person. Not surprising perhaps, but still unacceptable.nnSomething I'm going to have to bring up next meeting of course.nnI really hate it that I always need some time to process new information, I wish I could've said this right then and there. Ah well.
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oh god, I'm giving this another try. it hasn't worked out well for me in the past. I made a friend and then broke up with her over text. but for the first time I didn't ghost! I'm so picky about people. I'm just very guarded and don't want to waste my energy. I know I'm a lousy friend and that's why I can't maintain any friendships. but here we are again. I'm going to put myself out there and try to make friends and try to learn to be a better friend. tell me if my bio sounds stupid. obviously I think it does. but I also don't want to sound fake.. please help menn“I'm a stay-at-home wife with no plans to ruin it by having kids. a girls' trip sounds fun, everything sounds fun. but I'm introverted so it also sounds a little exhausting? I have pretty chill (boring) energy unless I'm drinking… it sounds like a red flag but I swear I'm really not that bad I'm fun.”nnUPDATE here is my current bio after I made several changes. it's much friendlier now lol thank you guys for your help (grammar isn't perfect because there's a character limit)nn“ I love to travel. Going on a girls' trip is something I've never done and would be so fun. I would love to take a pottery, yoga, or cooking class, learn pilates, go to museums, the zoo, concerts, the spa, shopping. I love tacos, wine, tapas, all food really. I like camping, gardening, board games.”
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Honestly, I like that you kept that exhausting bit and saying it's worth it was a great way to keep it positive. I totally understand that feeling and think potential friends could resonate with that
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We threw my boyfriend's best friend a surprise birthday party (turning 22 haha) and the guests included his friends' girlfriends whom i'd never met before. Like many introverts (and those with social anxiety) it takes time for me to become comfortable with new people I meet, and i'm USUALLY okay with that. However, all of these girls were extroverted as fuck and were already hugging each other and dancing like they've known each other forever. They were also all STUNNING, with amazing makeup and cute outfits. Any attempt I made to strike up a conversation led to dead ends since I had nothing in common with them, and it didn't seem like they were interested in talking to me. I don't wear makeup and I don't care for tight outfits since I like to stay comfy and I don't drink heavily either. I'm not a party girl and it was painfully obvious. So naturally, they stuck together the whole night and I was left hanging with my boyfriend and his friends. Was it painfully obvious to THEM that I have an extremely hard time relating to other girls my age? At some point in the night, one of the girls made conversation with my boyfriend and told him how much she likes his hair, and began to touch it, with me sitting right next to him. I pulled him aside and told him I wasn't comfortable with that and he understood, but I left that night feeling incredibly insecure and just ugly. Why can't I dance around like everyone else? Why don't I relate to other girls? Does anyone have a similar story to this? Can anybody relate?
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Same here oh my gosh. My boyfriend wants me to make girl friends but it's just so hard. He's probably tired of hanging out with me hahaha. Good luck with Muay Thai! That's exciting!! Hope it all goes well.
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Im going into my last year of highschool and I just feel like everyone else is so much more interesting and do interesting things. And then I'm just here with no one I could call a good friend and a relationship that's just ended. I know I could have similar experiences to my peers but I feel like I just feel so terrified in social situations. What's annoying is its all me who has made it this way. I think about situations so much in my head and all the ways it could go wrong, and then that situation just seems so intimidating. This stops me from even doing incredibly simple things. Things that wouldn't stop other people for a second. I really hope it gets better soon cause I feel like I'm just stuck in the same place. nnI really don't know why I've decided to post here I'm not sure what I'm looking for. If anyone's had a similar experience or advice then let me know.
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I'm in the same position, but in college instead. My advice is do things your comfortable with.
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Here's the thing. I'm 22 and I've never been in a relationship. The thing is that i'm diasabled and it led to me being bullied and rejected when I was a kid. Now people are older and more mature, but because of that period i still struggle from trust issues and social anxiety.nnit translates in my dating life. I've never had a girlfriend because I feel like every girl would not be interested in me. Even if we might get along or even be friend, I assume i'm not handsome/interesting enough and that she can easily get other guys that are more interesting than me.
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My best friend actually got bit by a tick and he also had half of his body paralised due to lyme disease and overheating. He wad hospitalised and its basically
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I just feel like I won't be any fun. I want to play, but at the same time what if I just suck at playing and I screw up the game? We played Secret Hitler a month earlier, and I only played because there wasn't enough people at the time. I can't lie for my life, and I'm not good at mind games like my other friends. nnI gave the excuse that I had a lot of homework and studying, which is true. It's midterm month for me right now and I still have homework but I know I have time to play for an hour or two. nIt's just I'm too afraid and scared that I won't be good enough. nnIt's such a selfish way to think but I just can't help it and I hate it so much.
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I think that would be more terrifying hahanBut thank you for the suggestion.
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I literally can't eat at school, like I haven't been eating probably at school since like grade 4. When I entered high school I used to eat stuff out of the vending machine but I moved to a new school and there isn't one here I feel nervous eating around others but even if I'm alone I still can't do it for some reason… I also don't eat breakfast because oh stomach pains due to anxiety. It's kinda sad that I'm used to it now but it's still a bit nauseating. I'm not sure if this is some type of ed or just anxiety or both idk
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Yes ou have to get used to it. Try bringing a small bar to school and just make yourself eat that. Everyday you can slowly build up to a actual meal. Also master drinking in public. Water, juice, etc…nnBeing properly hydrated and well fed is important, especially in school. For grades, social reasons, hobbies, and even for mental health
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I finally saw a psychiatrist and he prescribed 20mg of Fluoxetine (Motivest) once a day. I was diagnosed with Depression, and I've had it for a long time. What got me to start seeking help is the tingling feelings on my arms, chest (palpitations), hands, and feet. I went to an Occupational Therapist before seeing a psychiatrist. Anyway, I hear it will take about two weeks to adjust to Fluoxetine. I'm on day 4. Any advice?
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I surely hope so :( I'll take your word for it
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I used to sit in the bathroom during lunch because I didn't want other people seeing me sitting by myself.
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Hell no, I'd ditch school. Don't even know if I graduated or not.
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My social anxiety now is very low-level; I've been aggressively attacking it with exposure for a while now. But at its worst, I couldn't even go grocery shopping...nnWhat if I went to pay, and my card got declined? I'd be so embarrassed. Everyone in line behind me would think I was some poor idiot, and be pissed for me wasting their time. And the cashier would be upset too, 'cause they'd have to re-shelve all the stuff. I'd for sure blush and break into a sweat. They'd all stare, I'd have to walk out while they watched me.nnFUCK NO. I DON'T NEED THAT!nnThat was a long time ago, and I go grocery shopping all the time now - I like to go more often (fresher food, carry less, more exposure). But the thing happened today!nnI brought the wrong card with me today, and got declined at the till. Still a little bit embarrassing - I don't like wasting people's time and still care too much what other people think - but it was no big thing. The lady was super chill about it all, tried to imply that it was their machines and not me (it was me...). Nobody died, nobody complained. So I reckon if I can make it through my worst-case scenario without incident, then there isn't much else that is too much to face.nnKeep fighting the good fight, folks. I'm here to tell you that it absolutely can and will get better if you put the time and effort in. Unfortunately, it won't go away on its own.nnGood luck, everybody!
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I'm so glad you conquered your fear! As someone whose worked in customer service, declined cards are really common and happen to just about everyone. Its never a bother and some cards just don't work in certain machines. At some point, everyone deals with their card being declined and most, if not all, people will be understanding and helpful.
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I've been having an extremely hard time the last 5 weeks and honestly need more people to talk to (weeks untill my next talk with social worker) where out of the blue I got sick like I was nauseous and had a headache within an hour I was in bed feeling like I was having the worst migraine ever and extreme panic. The following few days I had to call into work because it turned into a knawing gut pain and I just wanted to hide from everything my appetite and ability to do almost anything I liked seemed to disappear, after 3 weeks and 25lbs Lost I tried going into work anyway I could (they were very understanding) but even at work I was so overwhelmed and unable to eat without forcing it in me constantly making mistakes and not being able to enjoy anything. I tried taking old clonazepam I had for a few days and it started to make me feel normal again but for obvious reasons my doctor was against it (was on them before and withdrawal was horrible) and suggested I try risperadone which has just exacerbated my inability to get out of bed sorry if I'm scattered I'm just trying to stay connected with the world looking for positive advice and Mabey stories of encouragement if you want to ask me anything please do I'm very open right now and kind of need support u2764ufe0f I'm 27 years old male currently on paxil 30mg for over 2 years and taking pantoprazole since severe gastric issues in the beginning of these last 5 weeks.
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Sounds vitamin b12 deficiency
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I feel shit. absolute shit. im 21 and time is passing.... normal people have memories, experiences, things to look back on, relationships, relationship memories, bindings,polaroids, times they created and spent together.. nnme? nnI got nothing lol. nnI feel like a 5 year old. when it comes to that dating stuff, its like a huge desire yet one of the biggest fears. maybe I just dont want to be perceived in a way I dont want to be perceived .. like idk. nnam I the only one here?
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I was 25 without a date or significant other. Met and fell in love with someone that year. Patience is key.
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TO THE PERSON READING THIS RIGHT NOW -nnpeople love you more than you will ever know. you are enough. you are beautiful. you are smart. you are talented. you will go far in life. you are not an embarrassment- never was, never will. i hope you know that.nnim so sorry that you are struggling. pls know that you dont deserve it. you are a ball of sunshine and you make the world a better place.nnyou are doing your best and that is enough! ud83dude0a
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Thank you.
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Idk if this is a social anxiety thing but wanted to see what you all thought.nnLately, I have been having so many sexual fantasies/daydreams, but nothing crazy. It's pretty vanilla stuff but just the thought of being with someone makes me excited and I feel like the more I imagine it, the more real it feels, so I have been really living in this fantasy mind lately. I never have a specific person in mind, it's my ideal man who I am physically and mentally attracted to but doesn't even exist. It seems my intimate thoughts spiral and I once I get going, I continue adding to this script in my head and almost become a director of some fantasy movie in my head. I would want to do these things but just can't see myself physically doing them right now, so the closest thing I have to that is this.nnTo supplement the fantasy, I also chat with guys on dating apps with no intention to meet, which is awful and partly due to my SA, but I like to imagine/play out what-if scenarios and work with what they give me based on the conversation. Like,
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Hi, guy here. I certainly have fantasies, but in my experience the fantasy is usually better than the reality. In fantasy land nobody ever gets hurt, or contracts STDs or has an unplanned pregnancy, and there are no consequences for anything. In reality though people are awkward and emotional, STDs and babies can happen and sex makes people irrational. Unless I meet somebody I feel exceptionally comfortable with, I dont have any serious interest in anything other than fantasies. It's just too complicated and messy.
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