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I moved to a new city and they don't have my favorite hot curry at the grocery store, just the mild and medium. It's really not worth getting if it's not hot imo. I think about this every time I go grocery shopping and I always tell the cashier that yes, I found everything okay even though I am raging about how they never have it. Does anyone else do this?
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Well it was either ask that, knowing some customers don't want to talk, or get taken off register like the special needs and elderly employeesnnMaybe it's easier knowing that the cashier can be just as uncomfortable as you
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So during the pandemic i had a panic attack that resulted in me not being able to sleep or relax for a whole month. I've always known i'm a pretty stressed and anxious person, but i didn't think i would reach a state where i couldn't even feel my body.nEver since that panic attack, even though i've managed to stabilise myself, i still feel extremely tired during the day, i get nauseous, i get a lot of headaches, i can't stay awake past certain hours in the night like 2am and i generally have no energy. this wasn't the case before that panic attack, even though i would get tired pretty fast or i'd sometimes feel a little nauseous due to anemia, it never got this bad. i feel like my body is just drained of all life and i don't know if it's a result of anxiety or something else. i also want to mention that i take iron supplements for my anemia, but i don't generally have the healthiest and richest diet even though i would like to. would diet improve my state? have any of you gone through the same thing? thanks in advance!
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I think you'll need to start taking some pretty detailed notes about your thoughts/feelings and working toward correcting them preemptively. I have ADHD, but I think (https://www.adhdandthestayathomemom.com/post/emotional-regulation-for-adults) might work for a lot of people.
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It's like i'm racist but towards humans. Humanphobic you could call it. Its a combination of me always being left out in school and never talked to or picked for anything. Humans are so cruel towards each over and total jack ases. Animals on the other hand are so innocent and sweet. They will never judge you and they will accept you.
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I tend to say I hate people. But it's only because of my SA that I don't like the fact I have to talk to them keep a healthy relationship with and see them all the time no matter what. I just dread it.
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im so sad i dont know what to do, 7cups is everything to me, its the only place i have to post, i had just got the community bage as well which is 50 forum up votesnncan someone please talk to teh community mod for me toget an ubnan? they will know that i should not be banned, it was a mistake. my username is ahhlonnPLEASE help me
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Have you thought about emailing them? Community@7cups.com is their contact info
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Like even when I just think something to myself I feel like I still have to whisper or say it out loud to myself. Maybe because there is no one else I would speak to.nPerhaps I truly am going insane..
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yeh, i think out loud all the time
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I was talking to my mom on the phone. From time to time she rings me whilst drunk and decides to passively-aggressively blame me for all of the bad things that happened to her in her life and it is not helping me out. I'm usually just going on standby, allowing her to rant and cuss me out, but when she touched this subject and went:
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I gotta preface by saying that you are completely correct and were in the right, since holy fuck nobody can actually comprehend the sheer amount of things going against us when we deal with this problem.nnBut that comeback you made calling her out on her supposed hypocrisy isn't really valid in her eyes of (unreasonable) reasoning. The very fact you said that only worsened her perception of your problem.nnWhat I mean by that is you said that she had that eating disorder when she was younger, meaning that she eventually got over it. By making that link, she only will remember,
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I've just realized that I've always been too shy to laugh out loud in public around strangers. When my body is supposed to laugh, I usually end up silently laughing or smiling. However when I'm all alone, I completely let loose. I've pretty much been this way my entire life.
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Complete opposite. My brain freezes up and I cant think of anything to say. The only thing I know how to do then is laugh and do short blunt responses. nnIts fine the first three to four times. After, people start to notice I laugh about things that really arent that funny. It becomes like an instinctive response since I have nothing to say and am trying to cover up being awkward. nnHAHaHaHa!!... hahaha .... hehe ... heh ... cry. :(
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Am I the only one like this? nnI over analyze every detail in the picture to make sure it's u201cperfectu201d even if it's just some simple photography! Then when I come up with a caption, I make sure it's not too lame or weird.nI just posted a picture that I liked and the caption was a Halsey song from 2015 cuz the caption just fits great with the picture but now I feel like that song is so old and u201ctumblru201d. I kinda want to change it but I like it a lot!! I'm just scared of what others think. So far I got a few likes but every like I get, I feel like it's a pity one. Also the fact that I count how much likes I get!nnI hate that I'm worried, whenever my friends act the same way about anything, I tell them they can do whatever they want, dress the way they want, post what they want, etc.nnYet here I am, worried about how I captioned my picture...
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I feel the same way. Instagram is the only social media I use, and it's just to keep up with people I know.nnnI greatly don't like pictures of myself, you can guess why. So I just post pictures of my guns (real guns, not biceps) and stuff that interests me.nnnBut then I feel really self conscious about it, etc etc, etc. But it's good to pull myself out of my comfort zone.
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I want to shoot myself on the spot everytime this shit happens.
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subtle smirk to throw the person off
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Exactly waht I said above.
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I wouldn't say my case of SA has completely disappeared but im alot better and i enjoy socialising alot more but sometimes i still get very anxious and just wanna die alone in my room
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I have an overall feeling of anxiety throughout the day and I have moments where i panic and they are really messing with my head. I don't get a lot of sleep, being hot really triggers my anxiety and I have been having way to much anxiety in situations that don't normally give me anxiety. I'm looking for help in what medication I should look for and how to get help because what's going on with me is making it hard to do anything in life
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Hello, it looks like you've made a mistake.nnIt's supposed to be could've, should've, would've (short for could have, would have, should have), never could of, would of, should of.nnOr you misspelled something, I ain't checking everything.nnBeep boop - yes, I am a bot, don't botcriminate me.
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I've wasted so much life, so much time. I can't pursue higher education to get a proper job. I can't hold any job at all. I can't find hobbies. Because all of that involves other people. I put everyone around me on this unreachable pedestal. And it hurts. There are so many things I would like to do, so many things I would like to try. And I can't because as soon as there are others this feeling is unbearable. Even simple things like going to a shop or making a stupid phone call are a challenge to me. I truly think I will never achieve a satysfying point in life. I can only watch my youth slip away as I waste more and more time. I've tried meds and therapists. It sadly didn't help in my case. But if I will never be satisfied with my life then what's the purpose of it?
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Can I ask what kind of expectations you chose to lower? Do you feel you have succeeded to truly grief those things?
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I've just gotten a new Job, and that's good for me, however I've been bouncing between jobs like crazy because of my Social Anxiety. I feel like everything around me is crumbling and I just want to leave. Every time I quit, I tell myself it will be better, but it isn't.nnI got hired as a Host at a restaurant recently, and I keep thinking I'm doing bad, but someone tells me I'm doing good. It calms me a little but I still feel something. nnI always dread going to work or doing anything at all in public. I eventually get over the fear (I'm not even sure why) and I end up going to worknnI get to work and I always feel like I'm doing something wrong. I always feel like something is gonna happen and it makes me feel so anxious. nnIt's at that point where I'm always stuttering and shaking if something happens. I can't ever think straight as well and I'm not sure what it is. I suffer from Dissociative Identity Disorder and I've always felt out of place.nnI guess I'm just asking for advice or something to make me calm
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I find they help with the fear a bit. If they had too much effect (like benzos for example) - they would be too addictive.nnI take 1/4 of the tablet the doc gave me as needed. I have loads of them stockpiled because I don't really need them very often.nnIt says 1-3 tablets daily on the label, which is just silly imo as I wouldn't be arsed/able to do anything.
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I tried to be as clear as I could at communicating the problems I face. But was constantly struck down with the most unfunny humour that I have probably heard countless times. Right after I told her that I get shy and nervous in social situations to the point that it cripples me, her reply was:
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Is she though or does she just have a psychology pr psychology related degree... or worse some random Diploma in something like NLP. nnShould be a big difference - but having said that you will always come across a complete oddball. Is she an independent practitioner or part of a wider practice or company? Her employer should probably know about this experience... and if not her professional body she is registered with should...
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So I've been dating this girl for 6 months now and she struggles with some kind of mental illness. At random times she will start to overthink and go quiet which eventually leads to a big breakdown later when she is able to talk about her feelings. We both are 17 and still in highschool. We've talked about finding a therapist but she is concerned of being sent to a mental hospital. Any advice on what to do? If you need more info on anytging lmk I am really just at a loss on what to do.
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“Courage is not simply one of the virtues, but the form of every virtue at the testing point.”
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First time posting on this sub (I made this account to browse /r/globaloffensive) but as someone living with non-diagnosed SA, I think I've found my own reasons for my issues with SA.nnTo preface, i'm 28, still live at home, unemployed, no IRL friends and extremely few online ones. nn(https://calisucksatlife.wordpress.com/) and I'm writing about how I feel I've become a social recluse and some of the things I feel attribute towards It.nnAnyway, one of the things I have written down here for my blog is to find others like me online and try to get a grasp on if they think their upbringing contributed to their SA or if it was something else entirely.nnIf you identify more towards the
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It would be impossible for them to comprehend the
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does anyone use marijuana to medicate and if so what strains are the best for anxiety/depression? Thanks!!
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I'd like to add that you shouldn't listen to the indica/sativa nonsense for the most part. We could get into terpenes and how those affect the experience, but I don't want to overwhelm you so here's the basics. nMost people prefer indica for anxiety because it's typically high in the terpene Myrcene, which helps with anxiety. However, there is essentially a sativa equivalent of this, caryophyllene, which is found heavily in a lot of sativa strains. Strains like strawberry cough are “sativa” in its effects, meaning more energizing than sedating, but is high in Myrcene, making it really good for social anxiety in particular since you can use it before going out and not be slumped. Another reason people might say “stay away from sativa if you have anxiety” is because sativa strains scientifically contain higher amounts of THC and as a result typically lower amounts of other cannabinoids like CBD that help to counteract the potential anxiety from getting “too high”. Bottom line, start off small when it comes to dose, try a small variety of things and work off of the things that help you the most.
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nnA few days (I think) ago I posted about how I thought no one liked me and the only reason I was still alive was because of my cat. Well yesterday morning my cat was ran over and died pretty much instantly. I was devastated and horrified. I cried for half the day, and cried on and off for the rest. In the evening my dad was crying about it and how he felt like life hates him. He's poor, can't get disability (he can't get a job because of it), he doesn't have a wife or girlfriend (had 2 wives, but was divorced), and he lives with his mom who stresses him out a lot, and now his (and my) pet died. Then he said
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That's a good idea, maybe I'll try doing that, thanks!
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I think I have it, i avoid social situations it's affecting my self image so badly. It affects my work my ability to make friends it's so painful and I guess I wanna know is there hope that it's fixable?
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how would i look for help?
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Sometimes my social anxiety resembles agoraphobia, because to leave the house is to open yourself up to socialization and that can be terrifying as I'm sure you are all too familiar with. nThat being said I know I can't spend my life hiding away in my room and would like to go out more. However, I'm not sure where to go. I have a car and aside from the anxiety I get from finding a parking space, I don't mind driving places. But I don't have friends to hang out with and don't know places I could go by myself. When I do go out it would either be to the movies or maybe a park but would like to hear some other suggestions.
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It's not stupid at all, this really works.
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I'm 17. I had a job last summer as a camp counselor, and came home crying every day. I could tell the kids didn't like me, I didn't fit in with the other counselors, and I constantly felt like I was an awkward, stupid outsider. I planned out an entire strategy for killing myself on the train tracks by my house, because I was so incredibly miserable. nnToday I started out at an internship at my town's middle school, assisting a previous teacher of mine. I couldn't stand it. I constantly felt nauseated, depressed, and anxious. I could tell that the students were judging me, and I couldn't bear to make eye contact with anyone for more than a second. It was awful. nnNow I'm at home. I've can't stop crying and I want to puke. I can't eat anything, and I'm shaking horribly. The thought of people watching/listening to/judging me is tormenting me so terribly. I can't go back tomorrow. I don't know what to do. nnFor the record, I'm currently taking Prozac (40mg) and Abilify (2mg) daily, and they've been working beautifully, so I'm not sure why my anxiety keeps resurfacing every time I get some sort of job.
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I know the feelings don't just go away when you know better, but people rarely pay attention to, or critically analyze new people. Most of us are too focused on ourselves to notice the things you may feel you're doing or saying wrong.nnEven if the fears are justified, you need to brave these situations until your brain learns these aren't harmful or scary places. If you quit, you'll reinforce to yourself that escaping is what makes you safe. You may find a quieter job with even tempered people to begin getting comfortable. Try to decide if you're picking varsity-level social situations with the jobs you try. Camp counseling is extremely hard and kids aren't sensitive, so I'd avoid things like that. But find a low-pressure place with employees older than you that will only see your anxiety as youth, and find ways to get you out of your shell. Basically, start in the kiddie pool, because it sounds like you're learning in the deep end.
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I have a love-hate relationship to Instagram with social anxiety. I like it because I can show the best version of myself. I hate it because I don't like feeling judged on my stories or pics or having people pop up in my DMs. I enjoy fasting from social media and only using my secret browsing account. I love YouTube, Pinterest, and Reddit. It feels good to just hide away from the world and retreat sometimes while observing from a distance. I like to see things related to my hobbies. I have a Facebook but never really found it interesting.
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I feel exactly the same. Social media give me a possibility to put myself out there and maintain contact with people I would otherwise have lost. They also show me that 'extraversion' and forwardness can lead to great social interactions, which motivates me to keep challenging my own social anxiety. At the same time though, social media can make it seem as if the lives that other people live are almost always fun, adventurous and meaningful. Comparing yourself to that can cause tremendous and crippling insecurity and anxiety.nnI really believe social media in general are great, even for socially anxious people like myself. But currently they're also a vile corporate instrument to exploit human weaknesses, such as insecurity and social anxiety, purely for profit. That's a shame in my opinion.
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Hello... so, one week ago I had my closest suicide attempt, I just wanted to disappear. Many things made me change my mind but here I am, again, feeling empty. nnFew days ago I saw a post in here that said: How cant you feel depressed if you are not doing something to change it? Like eating healthy and whatever, I do it, 3 months ago I started to go out running for the sake of not being all day at home. In my country the situation with the Covid is still lockdown, I've been getting what some people call: u201clockdown bluesu201d and I just wake up for the sake of existing.nnI'm a student so I'm having my classes online but I'm not really there, I just can't concentrate myself and it is so frustrating... I'm taking pills because of my depression, anxiety and adhd... I feel like they don't help me anymore, only to sleep... I already tried a new hobbie, meeting new people online, yet everything feels more like I need to wake up and just exist. nnHas anyone went out of this successfully?
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Hi, OP. I'm sorry things have been so rough. I'm relieved that you changed your mind, and that you're still here.nnI think that you're still dealing with the shock of your suicide attempt, and that your feelings of emptiness may relate to being emotionally drained from it. Or just depression-related apathy in general. I'm not a therapist, though.nnYou've just been through a traumatic experience. It's normal to struggle after that. I know it's hard to do, but try to take it easy.
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Well, at least i tried..
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Who said this to you?
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Idk if this is normal or not for this sub. But basically in certain high stress social situations (for me talking to new people, usually (not public speaking, that's a whole other level), I get this extreme physical reaction to being in them. It's not so much like overthinking or caring what people think so much because usually I am alright at dealing with those thoughts and making them go away quickly. But I get the following physical symptoms as soon as the situation commences (immediately): extreme nausea and “butterflies in stomach,” hands trembling, and sometimes even full-body trembling depending on how stressful the situation is for me, hands become super sweaty, a fuckton of sweating in general, legs start bouncing because I feel like I have enough energy to run up Mt. Everest and I have to let it out in some fashion. Also, I have a lot of trouble concentrating on what I am supposed to be doing, even when I don't have obsessive thoughts. Thoughts seem to just come and go out of my head without me being able to pin them down. These symptoms usually continue until the situation stops. But then, and just as importantly, I also get these physical symptoms immediately after and for up to often around 1-2 hours after the social situation even when I am completely out of it: extreme fatigue but also still super super energetic at the same time (I know it's weird), shivering, feeling very cold and getting chills, nausea, sometimes extreme, oh and this one is really weird, the uncontrollable urge to laugh, even when in public, repeatedly. I also am unable to concentrate on other tasks I need to do for up to 2-3 hours after. Then at around 3-4 hours I feel just fatigue and the other symptoms go away.nCan someone help me with these symptoms? I am quite good at dealing with my social anxiety mentally, but the physical symptoms will not go away. They are very unpleasant and I would like to get rid of them if possible.
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This is all normal for high anxiety. Anxiety, although a mental illness, manifests in all sorts of physical ways, which is what a lot of people don't understand about it. It's frustrating when people tell you to push through it, or it's all in your head. I have both SA and Agoraphobia in differing levels, and while I can mostly push through whatever situation I have to go into, it's the after effects and the physical issues that occur that plague me. Exhaustion just from making it through means I have to rest and switch off for ages, nausea, dizziness, shaking, sweating, gas, stuttering are all fairly normal symptoms. I've also developed an issue with the nerve in my jaw from subconsciously clenching, which has the wonderful added bonus of severe tooth-like pain, headaches, ear ache and pains in the neck and shoulders.nnSeriously, give yourself a pat on the back just for being able to make it through your day, this shit is not as easy to cope with as some people make it seem. I don't have any answers on how to deal with the physical side of things, only that it means you aren't dealing with the source of your anxiety, just making it through doesn't mean it's gone unfortunately for us.
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Hi there, I am a researcher and I'm interested in communicative congruence (how well the way you talk matches your sense of self) and communicative dysphoria (the extent to which your dislike of the way you talk creates psychological discord) in the general population. I am wrapping up data collection on an online experiment, and there is clearly a self-selection bias, in that few people participated who report high communicative incongruence or high communicative dysphoria. Stated differently, the people with the most negative experiences of their communication didn't participate in the study. That's a bummer, because I'm very interested in those people! If you're one of those people, what would it take to get you to participate in a study that involved recording and listening to your own speech sample? Or, would you just never do it? (And, in case you're willing to be a participant, we are still recruiting!)
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Awesome feedback, thanks! I'm with you, I don't participate in 99% of surveys that come my way, and rarely do things for a
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I can't fucking do anything. It's debilitating. I can't relax and i feel like a fucking loser.nnI just decided to buy 4 chocolate bars at my college cause why the fuck not and the cashier laughed and said “got a sweet tooth?” I laughed but i could have cried. I feel so judged all the time.nnoh also, i only eat in the bathroom because i physically cannot eat in front of people without feeling uncomfortable.nni've got a lesson next and I know i'll be stiff as a brick just trying to make it through the day.nnfuckfuckfuck I hate everythingnnTHANK YOU ALL FOR THE LOVELY RESPONSES - I've had the most amazing week and I'm feeling so much better. I think I'd just like to tell you all that there are highs and lows in life and that things do get better. :)
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Right. Why even do that. It makes perfect sense, and yet it's difficult to change the way we think. How has it been working for you? Have you actually been able to make it work?
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I'm 22 and went without any friends for about 5 years. I was embarrassed that I didn't have anyone I could truly call a friend, and often felt lonely or that something was wrong with me. But over the past year I've opened up a lot and started to meet people and made a couple of friends. It was great because they would text me first, and seemingly liked me as a person.nnHowever, over time I felt that things had gotten worse for me. I noticed that there was always some sort of drama, or he said she said going on, and I learned that a lot of these people I had considered close friends were pretty toxic. Like they would lie a lot to my face (and I'd find out from multiple other people that what they said wasn't true), or take advantage of me and my kindness (because I would go out of my way to do things for people because I was desperate to be their friend, and would overlook them taking advantage because of that same desperation).nnAnd so for about a year I was never really at peace because I was always thinking about these things and on top of that, my social anxiety would always make me believe that they didn't really like me, and I often found myself wishing that I didn't have friends just to avoid all the drama and overthinking and anxiety. nnSince then I have either cut those people out of my life completely, or just fallen out of touch with them (due to some of them moving away). Although it does get a little lonely sometimes, I feel like overall I'm more stress free.nnObviously not all people are like this, I just so happened to come across the wrong group of people. However I learned that making friends isn't always what it's chalked up to be. Not all people are who you think they are. Being without friends isn't the worst thing in the world either. nnAt this point I'm just focusing on myself, my hobbies and career. I'll still try meeting new people wherever I can when I feel comfortable doing so, but I'm not trying really hard to do so. If I meet some one who truly likes me as a person, then cool. But until then I'm happy being alone.nnI know that this post isn't going to solve any sense of loneliness or make anyone's social anxiety go away, and I don't mean for it to come off as insensitive in any way. However, I just felt that I would offer an alternate perspective that I personally hadn't really seen to a situation I have dealt with in the past that really affected me.
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In my experience, necessity was a factor that made me today a friend of my only friend, at school a pretty wild place, my friend just like me, we were defective, both of us were overweight, he was the dark-skinned one, I was very short , we were like a joke for others, time passed and to this day we are friends, he already made his life and we see each other every few weeks, the problem is that I have so much hate, fear, paranoia, resentment, that it is almost impossible for me to imagine make friends, because I am already an adult (very little time available, either me or others) but I would like to achieve it at some point in my life
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I've been exercising pretty much daily for about 5 months. I usually exercise for 30 min- 1 hr 30 min. But for as many people who have been telling me
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This has been my experience, before COVID hit I was going to the gym a fair amount and eating relatively healthy, helped a bit, and when I was doing it I felt great, but overall my depression level was the same. It's more of a band aid than anything.
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Really uncommon in the small, traditional & religious island i live in.nThey were wearing bright neon and rainbow colors and had tons of acessories, sorta like the decora/harajuku japanese style!nI really wanted to say
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Aw this is such lovely advice, I really wasn't expecting it, thank you so much for your words! I really had no expectations, I wouldn't even have minded if they didn't say anything, it's just nice to say something nice about someone sometimes! I personally like it when someone takes notice of a particular clothing or acessory I picked out for the day! But still, it's so hard to speak your mind even when it's something so simple as a nice passing comment!
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So I came home from work tonight to a very pissed off roommate because apparently she is missing 8 pouches of expensive wet cat food. She thinks I took it. I don't have cats. I have 3 guinea pigs and no reason to steal cat food. Idk what happened to it but no one else lives with us. She cornered me against the lanai doors and wanted to fight me as soon as I got in the door. I shoved her to get her out of my face and it was game on from there. She started throwing punches but I wouldn't fight back. I'm a lover, not a fighter. She socked me in the right temple and now I have and huge bump with slight dizziness and blurred vision. I didn't call the cops since that will cause more unwanted problems and neither of us has bail money. I'm now terrified of my best friend and don't know what to do. I'm shaking from anxiety and nervousness. She said she is calling the landlord tomorrow to tell him this arrangement isn't working and she wants me out. It's my house too. We got this place together but I didn't want to be on the lease so her name is on it and she acts like it's her house. There's nothing worse than being blamed for something you know you didn't do. I genuinely have no idea what happened with her cat food. I do know she sleep walks sometimes bcs she told me a while back she does so maybe that had something to do with it but she has herself convinced I 100% stole it. She has the hall closet to herself where she keeps all of her dog and cat food, treats, toys and meds so I have no reason to even go in that closet, nor do I ever. I don't know if maybe she forgot how much she had or what happened but I swear on my own life I had nothing to do with it. She said she scoured the whole closet and couldn't find them. Can anyone help me figure out how to deal with this situation?
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Ah, sorry I'm from Canada. I know about Tampa, Orlando, Miami, Disney world, Epcot, Everglades, mar a lago, Cubans, manatees, alligators, magic mike, snow birds, and Florida man
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I was curious to know how old you guys are and what is your most difficult social task?nnEdit: Thank you for commenting, wasn't expecting this many people :D.n
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16, talking to girls
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I am a minor therefore I cannot get any help especially since I am now out of school without the consent of my parents. My mother has this problem of not listening until it is too late. Myself and my sister have gone through a lot of trauma and we NEED therapy. We were pulled out of it two years ago and I wasn't introduced to it again until last year which helped me a lot since they began to put me on medication. nnMy mother stopped scheduling appointments, never gave me my medication to take and eventually we got a letter in the mail telling us I was no longer going to be apart of that therapists sessions. I was kicked out. nnI've been desperately trying and begging my mother to put me on virtual therapy, to let me see a psychiatrist to get the medications I need but she pushes it off to the side.. I'm trying so hard to hold on but I don't know what to do anymore. nnThe only reason she put me in therapy last time was because she saw my scars and wounds. I've been clean from that for two years...I don't want to use such a thing to show her that I need help but I don't think I know how else to show her I need it...
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Is there a school guidance counselor you can reach out to? Perhaps by email? If you explain your situation they may be able to get you the resources you need
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Hi everyone. I literally am writing this as I think so this will be very poorly redacted, hope you don't mind, but I need to take some things off my chest.nnI don't know what I'm feeling. I don't know if I'm sad, or angry or bored or frustrated... I just know I am not happy. I don't understand the way in which I interact with people, sometimes I love them, sometimes I hate them. My family is mainly alright but my father gets on my nerves constantly, I live with both my parents, and my mom and I have started to not care about anything. I get annoyed easily, I am very intolerant towards people who think differently. With my friends, sometimes I urge for them to interact with me, maybe so I don't feel left out or not chosen over their other friends, who don't like me. I think my self-esteem is so low that I am paranoid about people talking about me, judging me, my body. Fuck I hate my body, I hate it so much I am ashamed of hating it and wanting to change it. Everyone perceives me as a confident person because I use that as a defense mechanism against feeling ugly (more like disgusting). I constantly fuck up. I am negligent and procrastinate a lot and I underestimate the importance of things. I want to be alone most of the time, I get cynical and fantasize about people hating me, making me feel amused at the importance of myself in their lives. I want love, I expect a level 10 man while I'm a level 4 woman. I want to be successful, and rich, and famous, and maybe an actress, but Hollywood will never pay attention to an ugly, chubby, immigrant girl. I have never been diagnosed with anything, I want to go to a therapist because I feel something is not right but I feel guilty, I should not have anything to be sad/angry/annoyed at. I am privileged and go to a good school and have nice clothes and a nice phone but I feel worthless and unmotivated constantly. I feel ashamed of my mistakes, and the fact that I feel bad having a perfect life when there are people whose lives, health, economy, and education is way worse than mine. I feel my belly. I fucking hate my belly. I feel very sad. I cried over Markiplier's videos. I am afraid of dreaming ad not achieving my dreams, thus not succeeding. I am afraid, and that makes me sad, and that makes me angry, and that makes me unworthy. I don't know what I want to get with this post. Maybe empathy, I don't know. I want happiness back. I want happiness. I want a cinematic life and love every single aspect of it. I want to feel happy being happy, being sad, being angry, being bored, being everything. I want to feel good about myself. I want to allow me to be human. nnWorst thing is, as I am not diagnosed with anything, I tend to believe that everything I described in the paragraph above this is invalid. But I am too scared to get diagnosed, what if I don't suffer from anything and I'm just being dramatic? What if I get diagnosed and become my family's pity?
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I agree that you should definitely seek therapy. If you have privileges, cool, but your feelings are still valid. You're allowed to have negative feelings. Learning how to manage them is what you need to do. A diagnosis is not something to be ashamed of but to be happy about because then you'll know exactly what tools you need and how to get better.
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I am having huge anxiety issues today like something bad is going to happen but everything is fine and good.I would never post something so dumb but I'm trying everything to grab ahold of myself. I need to leave for work in an hour. My Agoraphobia has me ready to hide in my room. I manage myself pretty well usually. Any quick tips that I could try to grab ahold of these feelings. thanks in advance. Struggling to stay strong.
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Sitting with it rather than resisting can be helpful. Easier said than done, I know. nnnOne broad thing I recently learned is thinking where the source of your anxiety comes from. It's often from a parental figure when you were younger. Your mom, dad, maybe grandma. Did they used to get you to obey using fear? Did someone make you feel like crossing the street would lead to a catastrophic event?? nnnIf this is true then recognize that it is perhaps their voice in your head telling you to be afraid that something bad will happen.
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So I have a boyfriend and it was his birthday, we went out to the movies, had fun and made out. Okay yes, that was very personal, but after that make-out session I'm really worried because I didn't get my periods, we didn't have sex ofcourse, but he had ejaculated on my hand, altho the hand was no where near my genitals, I'm still very worried. This is messing up my brain because I was hospitalised I July and my periods were early, and in late July I fell sick again, I was on meds, so is that why I didn't get my periods or is it what I fear it is. Its really messing up my mental health.
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I'm so glad! Thank you for letting me know, I was thinking about you! <3
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So in my job you can leave early within reason as long as all your work is complete. I left about half an hour early as most people do. I went into the car park and I saw this woman who I'm familiar with taking her bike. She's a bit of a moany bitch and she's uptight. So as I was leaving in front of a couple of others she said u201cI think it's really bad that you're leaving earlyu201d or something to that effect. I said u201cwell the manager didn't say otherwise. anyway what time do you finish?u201d And she said her finish time as same as mine and she was leaving at the same time as me. It felt good to make her stutter and look stupid in front of a couple of others. But makes me wonder why she would be spiteful if she was doing the exact same thing herself? Why did she say that? Why do people like this exist?
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To make themselves feel better over others. Whether it be a power complex, insecurity, jealousy, whatever it is, its usually not to you personally. Its likely to a lot of people, the ones that put her in check are the ones who are helping her the most. The ones who ignore pathetic behavior like that are the reason she still gets away with it.
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Hi, I dont post here very often so I'm not 100% on how to write something on Reddit.. but i would like to see if anyone else on here shares this issue(s) with me and maybe get some feedback on how to manage and or stop it. First i wanna say i am diagnosed with depression and social anxiety, i have been takin medication for it for a while i just recently switched from Zoloft to Welbutrine (i think that is how you spell it) i have been on the new meds for about 2 months now but recently have been having issues with intrusive thoughts. What i mean by this is i will have a thought that is very unpleasant that i know is irrational but it wont go away and it gives me anxiety. For example one i have a lot is that my girlfriend or family secretly hate me which i know isn't true they are some of the most loving people and my gf and i have been together for a long time and we love each other as well. I can also have violent thoughts sometimes where i just think through crashing my car or just beating up the customers at my work and stuff in graphic detail. I do not want to act on this but these thoughts happen as well. So i guess im asking if anyone else shares this and if anyone has a way to stop and or like cope with these thoughts? nn(Pleas dont rip me apart for grammer and spelling)
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Could be thoughts and feelings amplified by the medication, or a side effect, especially if they started after you switched. Ultimately, the role medication is supposed to play with people who have significant mental health struggles is for it to be short term, in order to stabilize the individual so they can start to address and manage the cause of the symptoms. Then taper meds. This is why therapy is important. All meds do is manage symptoms
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Can anyone give me some differences between one another?
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I fucking hate the fact that I make people uncomfortable because of my awkwardness. I hate that idk how to have conversations. I hate that people don't reply to my texts after talking to me for a bit because I make them that uncomfortable. nnMost of all, I hate that I was given a pretty face and a nice body so I have to deal with guys going head over heels for me for about a week then rejecting me. I lost someone who I thought could be my soulmate because of my issues. I hate that I am the way I am. nnI hate that I had to watch him fall madly in love with me then have his heart broken because he realized we didn't have a future together. All I ever wanted to do was take care of him and make him happy. nnI hate my dad for giving me this problem. Why the fuck do I have issues communicating? Why can't I just have normal conversational skills like everyone else? Why can't I make normal friends? Why do I have to watch people I care about leave me?
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Asian :)
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20M Like when I look at how people my age interact with each other and basically just handle situations in life as compared to myself... I'm like, how do they do that.. Where did people learn how to be normal like this, what did I miss? It's so depressing
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(22 M) I used to think exactly like this at age 20. My only advice is to start by completely accepting and validating yourself/ who you are/ what you've done. You can't improve your relationships with others until you accept yourself.
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People always say you can tell them everything, but when you tell them something about how you're hurting, or tell them about your mentall illness or trauma, they become distant and start treating you differently. I will never understand. Why lie
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Yes it bothers me so much. It's sad to see how fake people can be, it's really hurtful when you think of them as your friends and they do that to you
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Hey folks! I've never really thought about social anxiety as a 'thing' I had until recently. I'm at a weird limbo in my life in-between moving on to the 'real world' and clinging to the comfort of home. I thought it would be good to share my experiences and get them off my chest to anybody, really. So here goes:nnI'm a 22-year old college graduate with a degree in political science. I don't own a car, let alone a driver's license, and I don't have a regular job or steady source of income. I am notoriously quiet in group conversations, although I'm actually pretty fond of meeting new people and going places. I'm not sure if SA is a thing I've always dealt with, as my mother tells me that I was quite a talker when I was young. I guess I'm the type of person who keeps a few close friends I can be open with, while everyone else is beyond arm's distance. If you put me in a room with another person for a day or so, I could probably get along and talk with them pretty well. But in passing, I have a difficult time conveying much to other people. nnI'd describe my mind as hyperactive. I'm always thinking about something, and that something is prone to draw my attention away from the 'now.' I'd say I tend to over-analyze things, especially in conversation. Often, I end up not saying much at all because I'm too busy thinking of what to say or how to say it. It's really evident when I'm asked a sudden question about myself or something and I lapse out of my other thoughts and trip over how to answer. I don't tend to have much of a problem with my close friends because I'm so comfortable with them and vice-versa. Back in college, I could go out pretty much anywhere with friendly company and do fine. But if I go someplace with my folks and their friends, and it's evident the crowd is older, I tend to clam up a bit.nnAs far as things go with 'real-lifing,' I've put off getting a license for so long that I'm anxious. My friends all drive, and have driven since they were 16-18. It's embarrassing to have others play chauffeur, I'll admit, but I'm nervous about highways and traffic with split-second decisions like merging and looking out for other people. I know I have the ability - I've driven in parking lots plenty , but not with other cars around. What's more is I love the idea of having a car and being able to drive; I like watching races on the TV and playing racing games. It's just the anxiety of being smack in the middle of the road with other, unpredictable people, that I find hard to grip with. nnI mentioned I have a political science degree. This was a bit of a blunder on my part. I was originally a communications major (the irony!) with a focus on creative writing. Now, I do love to write, and I do a fair bit of text/play-by-post roleplaying on forums. But I wasn't convinced that I wanted to write or be a journalist for a living. I really didn't know what I wanted to do, and my roommate was a political science major. We got to talking and I found that I really enjoyed matters of international relations, military and security matters, and things of that nature. It being my sophomore year and the deadline for switching majors was fast approaching, I made the hasty decision to study poli. sci. as something that fascinated me. College was a bit of an academic struggle, I'll be the first to admit. But I got through with a few online classes and passed over the summer after my senior year. I did make arrangements to walk and celebrate like any other graduate; I simply got my degree later. nnNow, I'm still not sure what I want to actually do as a career. I like studying political science as an academic field, but as a career, I'm not sure what I can see myself doing in DC or the political field. I've been interested in fashion and general design; I like admiring and theorizing aesthetics; clothes, architecture, art, vehicles, anything. But having studied poli. sci. and not something like design, I feel stuck in a rut. I have worked for a friend of my father's, who is a sales rep for a UK-based company, focusing on men's accessories. I've done a bit of online work for him, and even gone to a few trade shows to set up and help with arranging sales. But that work is infrequent and not something I can reliably do each day of the week. I've also done work as a part-time substitute teacher, but I haven't done so in a while, and I really do dislike the responsibility and social aspects of having to manage a classroom. nnFor months now, I've remained at home,
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Honestly, I have been having very similar experiences both with extremely over-analyzing everything especially when it comes to being in a group situation. I am going to be turning 22 this year and don't have a driver's license and had to go get my permit 3/4 times because I kept putting off making my driving appointment for years.
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Hey everyone, does anyone else take medicine for their SAD? If so, what do you take & does it help ? I'm currently on Prozac, but feel tired, numb, and almost emotionless. A lot of people might say that's awesome, but I still get anxiety in certain situations. I just feel no emotion like happiness , etc.
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Same no difference even at high dosage ugh I just want some relief.
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This is one of my biggest insecurities with SA. I'm at the farthest extent of social skills that come naturally to me and I still feel like I can't talk to people anywhere near how others do. I have no idea how to fix it either
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No problem . One thing to keep in mind though is that all these things can be understood but getting over it irl is another story in it of itself. The key to conversation is relaxation. It's hard to relax when you're getting panic attacks just thinking about talking to that person beside you. Change your perspective when getting into those conversations. Rather than thinking “how do I get them to talk?” “What should I say after they said what they wanted to say?” Try treating this like a game. The objective of this game is to see how far you progress. nnOne interaction might have 4 exchanges, others might have 2 or 3, maybe they told you something they're passionate about, or maybe you got to share your personal opinion. Each time you reach a point in conversation you've never reached before, even if it's brief, celebrate your success. You'll never be a social butterfly instantly, it takes baby steps, and for many, micro steps.
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Inspired by another recent post on here, I wanted to ask how you think attractiveness affects your social anxiety?nnIn this case, the post was a young woman who felt that a guy was staring at her inappropriately, and it made her very uncomfortable. But it could go both ways. nnIt seems like it has pros and cons. If I'm going to the store, I see men staring and some might purposely try to make eye contact. I don't hate them but with my extreme shyness I feel like my anxiety flares, I blush and can't look back at people. I assume that others think I'm unpleasant, rude, full of myself, etc. nnRegardless, it's unfortunate that appearance can belie our true selves. nnBut of course, there are definite pros, like more options in the dating pool. nnnnnnnnnn
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I'm 21 and have always been liked by girls and been told I'm really hot or super cute and shit. A few girlfriends in 8th grade even liked telling me I was the cutest dude at the middle school. nnMy SA started really bad in late high school and I haven't really been in a relationship since. People when they first meet me and see me expect me to be this really cool, confident person bc of my looks then I speak and they see my personality and that changes. I've gotten a lot of girls to want to text me and message me on Facebook and stuff bc of my pictures but then I don't know how to keep them interested and get insecure.nnSo for me it has good and bad effects people expect a lot out of me when they first lay eyes on me and it's hard to meet those expectations.
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I'm 22 (M). I really want to go to gym to care of my body and my mental health but I'm too scared. I'm worried about regular gym goers looking at me. I think I'll get myself into awkward situations where I'd do something wrong and what others are gonna think. And I don't really know about any workout methods to begin with so I'll have to ask the trainers about everything which makes me more anxious. Any advice for me?
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Another good point to bring up is there are a lot more people in the gym that deal with similar issues as you do. Many gym goers use the gym to help with anxiety. nnMost people aren't born in great shape, it's something they work towards. So I think that a lot of the regulars in the gym are actually people that started out just like you.
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concerning things that are considered common sense or you're presumed to know about, any knowledge i have of it just disappears instantly and i become a babbling mess and leaves me feeling really god damn stupid nneven worse when the person goes
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I'm the same way, feels as though your trying to sound like an adult in front of others but due to not being relaxed you sound like your putting too much effort instead of just flowing
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I've always had bad social anxiety and I have been trying to work on it for a long time. It's gotten better but I'm always going to be shy and awkward. I just started a new job and my coworkers were nice at first and I was nice back to them. Now it's my 3rd week in and I feel like everyone doesnt like me anymore. I feel like they can sense that I'm the weakest one there because I'm shy so they make me do everything and they take their anger out on me. I work 10x harder than everyone else there. They all can get away with doing nothing and just standing around or on their phones. But god forbid I take one second to take a sip of water or a second to breathe and then they all act like I'm doing nothing. I've always been told my whole life to speak louder and I've really been trying to make an effort. I feel like I'm yelling when I talk but they still pick on me for it. I know I'm just there to get my job done but having social anxiety and having most of the people there treat me like shit makes it really hard to get through the day. I work my ass off and then come home and take care of my toddler. I never get a break or any time to myself. I need this job to save up money and to support her and myself. I'm trying to get a divorce and there is no other option right now. I just dont know how to handle it. Should I stay or should I try and find something else? I feel like it's going to be the same wherever I work.
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Okay thank you for that advice. I really appreciate it
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Choose your highest education level or the equivalent. Reddit only gives a max of 6 options for polls. If you think none of them fit you, select see results, and leave a comment if you want.nn(https://www.reddit.com/poll/r7nyj5)
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Hey guys, how are you? Listen , i have a few mental illeness , anxiety , depression and OCD , my ocd is (sometimes) about science stuff , sometimes i have to understand something before i let it go and move on , i have a few stuff written down for me to understand , i just need someone with a background in science to explain me some stuff , i know its weird to ask , and im sorry , but i really need your help.nnnThank you for reading.
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Go ahead, I'll try my best to answer them
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I hate that I'm like this. I was so awkward during the interview. I applied to be a laundry attendant at a hotel, but the interviewer said she already filled that position and would hire me as a housekeeper instead. She asked me if I would be willing to start tomorrow...which would be the best news ever to anyone else. My dumb ass says that I can't, how about next week? Because at that moment, I was about to pass out from the fear of starting the very next day and failing. I'm almost 27. I've never had a 9-5 job, and my boyfriend financially supports me. He is happy to do so, but it doesn't erase my feelings of guilt and fear that I'll never amount to anything in life. I don't want any children, but sometimes I wish that I had them so that I could use staying home and taking care of them as an excuse.nnI have to text the person who interviewed me soon if I want to start on Monday. I just feel like it's going to be the same song and dance. Panic attack on Sunday night, then I'll cancel and not go. I've done this for about five jobs now. I literally don't see a way out, besides suicide. I'm sitting in a coffee shop right now, shaking like crazy. I've been in therapy, taken meds, and practiced mindfulness as much as I can. Nothing seems to help.
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Hello! Did you make it and how are you feeling?
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Hey guys i hope you're all safe and well nnIm going to do a presentation about social anxiety and the teacher asked me to involve a story about someone who has it as a part of my presentation and i don't know anyone who has it so can u guys share with me why you guys have it and how do you manage it ?
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Everybody has social anxiety in the sense of - we all fear what other people think of us but some people have it worse and it becomes so much of a problem that they avoid all social situations because the anxiety is painful. In my case I was born shy but it wasn't a problem until my mother who was suffering from an undiagnosed thyroid condition that caused her to be angry and aggressive. It caused her to be verbally abusive towards me for many years from age 7. The constant verbal attacks undermined my fragile sense of self causing me to be constantly be afraid of other people's judgements. Things like Cognitive behavioural therapy and Exposure therapy have helped reduce the fear but I don't believe I will ever be free of it.
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does anyone know how to stop and snap out of it? It's scaring me how I keep losing time and I can't get up or do anything. It's not depression necessarily, i'm just so foggy that nothing is working and i don't know what to do.
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Hi there -- sorry to hear you are dealing with this, it sounds so scary!nnIf you're losing time or not noticing when you dissociate, try setting a timer or an app with a chime at regular intervals so that each time the tone sounds, you are reminded to come back to the present and into your body. Ideally you'd notice when you start to dissociate and bring yourself back to the present moment, but some extra help is totally okay until you get to that point.nnSome grounding or embodiment practices can help you once you notice you've dissociated...anything to put your attention into your body on a moment to moment basis. Being inside your body is a skill you can learn and I would recommend also making some of these practices daily routine in addition to using them on an as-needed basis.nnI'm thinking a vinyasa yoga practice, cold shower, breathwork (like a wim hof or holotropic breathing), spinning or swinging, listening to music with a lot of bass or drumming, dancing, weightlifting, tapping, exploring sensations from different objects on your skin (holding ice, a warm cup of tea, a spiky comb, a soft blanket) etc. Just pick somethings that work for you, anything to help you focus your attention on the sensations inside your body.nnAlso something you might experiment with and see if it helps you, try eating warming and grounding foods, like sweet potatoes, cinnamon, ginger, root vegetables. I would avoid caffeine and sugar until you feel more confident in your ability to remain present.nnThe other thing to do would be to look at WHY you are doing this. Your childhood may have created a dissociation habit, but often there is a current situation that is triggering an old habit. Perhaps its stress, conflict, or avoiding a particular situation or decision that is making you uncomfortable, etc. There is likely some inner work you can do on that to help with the dissociation. Lots of love to you!
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Hey y'all. So, yesterday was my appointment with my psych dr. She prescribed me Abilify, and honestly? I'm kind of scared to take it, even though she says it has helped a lot of people. I didn't take it last night cause I was really scared, so tonight is my first dose. Has anyone taken Abilify before? Is it as scary as I'm making myself believe??
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I took it for two years for symptoms related to BPD. It really helped at first, and then stopped, but tbh, it's not specifically licensed for BPD so I'm not surprised. Can I ask what your diagnosis is? I'd really encourage you to take it, it can be an amazing drug.
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This is the first time ever i got hit on since i moved to a new town. Basically i sat in the uni library and suddenly this girl stands behind me. ni turn around, she says
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It's your turn now. I wouldn't let it pass.nnIf you gave your number to some girl in the library, who of you two would be the one feeling all weird and insecure, you think? Doing something like that is not easy and she probably can't get that/you out of her head until she gets a yes/no.nnJust send her a text and be honest. Tell her you weren't expecting that to happen. Tell her you're insecure or awkward. She initiated, if the date goes nowhere, she'll be the one who feels all awkward. Everybody has some anxiety and insecurities.
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I took 15mgs before school and it made me so much more focused in class that I wasn't even worried about how dumb I usually look when I'm lost in my thoughts. I normally don't try to be that social because of my SA and I just don't feel any dopamine from social interactions even if they go well, but today I actually wanted to be so much more social and it felt so much better to talk to people even when it was just small talk which then made my anxiety completely go away. Also conversations flowed so much better I feel like I didn't have to force anything.
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Yeah lol
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Does anyone else deal with dizziness from anxiety? I used to just deal with panic attacks but lately anxiety is consuming my life and I either feel dizzy or fatigued or nauseous and I don't know how to deal with it. I'm starting therapy soon but for now I'm having such a hard time. I also feel like it's giving me mild depression which I've never experienced before and I just have a constant feeling of dread. I don't want to do anything or go anywhere. I guess I'm just looking for advice on how to cope with this.
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I know how hard it can be. I fully empathize with you. But try to change environments, it was a HUGE difference to me. I was hesitant at first, leaving my house wondering if I was going to feel worst, but trust me, you probably won't. Anytime you want to ask something you can slide into my DMS.
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my mother has denied me (16m) any access to IP because she believes it won't help me, but I am a danger to myself and I fear others because I have angry outbursts. how can I cope with this by myself? I have nobody to go to for support.
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You can always call 911 and tell them you're afraid you're going to hurt yourself or someone else. Take the decision out of your mother's hands.
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Hello Reddit! nnI found a video on YouTube. I feel this may relate towards a lot of you, and your experiences with social anxiety/making friends. I will link the video below, and my response to it.nnYouTube video link to
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I was recommend this video the other day. It's very relatable. This video is definitely going to blow up.
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Okay, so I wanna start talking to a counselor about my social anxiety but like I'm really nervous about it. nn1. I'd have to call to schedule an appointmentn2. it be through my school which is online which means I'd have to do it over zoom which means I'd have to be in my house which means my roommates could hear me talking. n3. I've gone before and then I just stopped abruptly and I'm scared she's gonna mention it. nnSo like how do I get over these issues?
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>I'd have to call to schedule an appointmentnnThis is always tough for me, if I make a reminder on my phone or an alarm or something it's usually easier nn>it be through my school which is online which means I'd have to do it over zoom which means I'd have to be in my house which means my roommates could hear me talkingnnIf you have earbuds w/ the mic attached that could help, you won't have to talk as loud. Otherwise, I really doubt they'd be listening/paying attention anyway.nn>I've gone before and then I just stopped abruptly and I'm scared she's gonna mention itnnI've done this a few times lol, it's no big deal. They're pretty used to it, mental health stuff comes in waves/inconsistently for a lot of people.
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I always have my airpod in with some kind of podcast. Not even music does the trick anymore. Anyone else?
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They definitely combat the loneliness of solitude. I find them enormously helpful.
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I've been struggling so so much with suicidal thoughts. I really have so many issues In life but I for sure don't wanna die. Life's been super hard and challenging for me. I've tried so many different anti depression meds and it seems those make it even worse for me. I just wanna be healthy and normal.
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Original poster. I'm also fairly new to Reddit. I also experience, in my own way, what you have described. I have found that online communities make me feel less isolated with these thoughts. Please message if you want to chat
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a couple months ago my best friend died of an overdose. she was 19 (so am i). she had been addicted to hard drugs (pills, coke etc) for a while starting in high school and lost a lot of friends because of it including me for a period of time. but me and her had been best friends, almost sisters since we were 11. so even though the rest of my friend group had cut her off because of her problems due to her addiction and her denying any help, i stayed with her. i (tried my best to) see past her manipulative behavior, etc. because i knew that the real her was still in there somewhere if that makes sense. i tried to help her get off the drugs she was on, which she asked me to, and anyone who has been in that situation would know it's almost impossible. eventually i started taking the drugs she did and our friendship spiraled into continuous pointless fights every day. after an incident where in my eyes at the time she ruined my birthday, i couldn't do it anymore and i stopped hanging out with her and stopped responding to her texts. i told her she was a bad friend and just dumped all of my complaints about her behaviors in the past on her. a couple months later she texted me saying she really needed me, her best friend. her mom was dying and her sister had died unexpectedly a few months before. again i told her no and was completely rude and cold to her. i told her again how bad of a friend i thought she was. a few days later, i get texts from her boyfriend and her brother telling me she was dead. nnshe had told me one of the times that we reconnected that she had tried to commit suicide when i told her things like i did the days before she died. i didn't realizehow important it was to her how i thought of her but how stupid could i be to not see that. we had been best friends for years the only people that were there for each other. nnevery since she passed i feel like nothing is real. i still can't wrap my head around the fact that she's gone. i miss her so much. as soon as i heard the news.. i knew why and i knew she did it on purpose and i knew it was because of me. i know that i can't put that blame on my self and i shouldn't but can't get that feeling out. she needed her best friend. and i wasn't there for her. and now she's gone. i failed in a way that i can never repair. now i'm scared to get close to anyone or have any friends because i just let people down. i don't want to hurt anyone like i hurt her. but i'm so lonely and stuck and i don't know what to do.
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thank you for this comment. i have my first psychiatry appointment coming up soon. when all this happened i didn't have health insurance so i signed up and the next available appointment was 2 months ahead so i've just been waiting.. gotta love American health care
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I've been at a new full time job for a week now and I messed up today again, I feel so anxious and like all my coworkers hate me. I just don't know what to say when I talk to them, I feel they think i'm weird and make them feel uncomfortable and throw off the energy. I hate feeling anxious so much, especially physically. I hate messing up and making mistakes at work.
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I messed up at work today too. I made a basic mistake because of my laziness and carelessness. My colleague seemed really annoyed and I can feel her irritation even via her email to me. The worst thing is my supervisor was in the email and so were lot of other colleagues. Hope that I wouldn't be fired. Hope things are gonna work out for us.
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So I have a very short presentation that I have to give. Even though it's only 5 mins long, and not that many people to present to, I'm still scared. nnThe last time I had to give a presentation (5 mins), it was over zoom and I panicked heaps at the last minute and then left the call while the person before me was presenting. I then cried for about 2 hours at how disappointed I was with myself. nnI'm scared of being the centre of attention and people looking at me while I speak. And I'm also scared of how I will feel about myself if I back out of this. I'm thinking of just faking confidence. Not act overly confident but just appear secure and comfortable. I'm wondering if anyone else has good preparation and coping mechanisms for presentation?
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Pratice practice practice
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I almost broke down and started sobbing on my shift this morning because life is just so overwhelming. I'm so tired of living like this. I'm tired of living in a shell. I'm sick of knowing I'll never be normal. Fuck social anxiety. I will never be able to function like a normal human being. I'll never be able to get a decent job. I'll never be able to go to school. Everything is too fucking hard. I can't take it anymore.
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I do hope you can find a safe place to break down and sob. At least for me, thinking I can't do that is somewhat the cause of my SA because the pressure builds and I can't focus on anything else.
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The only person I would consider as bestfriend is the one I can comfortably talk to about my social anxiety. There's a different kind of level of comfortability when a friend completely understands you and when you just share the same interests. I have this friend I rarely talk to and she claims we're bestfriends just because I'm a good listener. I haven't even opened up to her or anything. It's just kind of annoying. Does anybody else feel this way or do you guys like it when they call you bestfriend regardless if it's sincere or not.
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I've never had this issue. Haha
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I'm just so fuckin tired of this shit. Between the anxiety and depression, Shit is exhausting.
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I'd eventually do it but I have made a sworn to myself that I won't do it until I accomplish all the things I want to do in life.
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social anxiety ruins my life fr i just wanna be like everyone my age. rn we're at a hotel on a school trip abroad and everyone is with their friends while im alone in the hotel room crying cause i don't actually wanna be alone i just can't bring myself to join any groups of people without feeling like a burden and judged and this tightness in my chest. this trip is a one in a lifetime opportunity to enjoy and im just here ruining it as ive always ruined multiple opportunities ive had to make friends cause the anxiety prevents me from showing my real personality so everyone just thinks im weird and boring yay. they think im alone because i think of myself as superior or something but no... i wanna be with them. i just can't. why can i just not care abt what other people think of me?
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thank you!! one guy already knows and tries to help me and i messaged him last night to come into a room with me cause it was less scary that way but he was with his friends so he didn't read it
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I'm too scared to talk to my crush...and there's only 2 weeks of school left. Any advice?
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Yeah I might see him in highschool but I'm not entirely positive. I'll try to at least be his friend at this point..by the way I'm sorry about that :/
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i've been seeing this guy since december, talking since november. i've saw him so many times i've literally lost count. we've met eachothers families and spend every weekend together, usually one day in the week too. we're having sex regularly too. we had a chat about what we were at the beginning of january, he said he didn't want to put a label on things as he doesn't want to rush into it. he said he could see himself 100% being in a serious relationship with me. now fast forward almost two months... nothing more has been said. nnhow do i have the talk with him? how do i ask him what he wants? i'm really scared of bringing it up because i suffer from anxiety and i'm quite an awkward person, i also don't know what he's going to say. everything is so good between us but i can't help but overthink. this is my first serious u2018relationship' and i just don't know what to do. please help! any tips??? x
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You can have honest conversation over text better than hurting on later on as that would make anxiety worse. It alright to take it slow as long both of you are on same page.
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I was sitting in the classroom a few minutes before class officially started and my professor called me by name and asked me a question (not class related.)nnI'm sitting in the front row and two classmates behind me repeat me name loudly and ask who that is. Then the whole back row starts laughing.nnI didn't say anything or turn around because quite honestly it's pretty embarrassing and I really don't know what I would have said anyways.
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This is literally a nightmare scenario. Sorry you had to go through this! (((hugs)))
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Can anyone share what is it specifically that makes you scared of social interactions?
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It's usually some sort of fear of being judged or of failing a conversation. I don't know how to explain it really. It's as if I feel like every social interaction has to go perfectly, and if it doesn't then I assume that other people are judging me for my mistakes within the interaction.
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so yeah I usually avoid meeting new people, speaking publicly, being the center of attention and parties with strangers. i like staying alone or with 1 friend most of the time, but mostly alone. anyone can relate and help me?
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This article is written by Dr. Ellen Hendricksen who in my opinion is one of the smartest minds on the planet as it relates to social anxiety. It's about this very thing. She also has a book on social anxiety. Which was fantastic as an audiobook. I highly recommend it. nnnhttps://www.quietrev.com/the-4-differences-between-introversion-and-social-anxiety/
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Today I had an anxiety attack at work. I'm a barista at a very popular coffee shop in San Francisco and had to keep smiling at costumers nonstop, all day with tears in my eyes (yay, more tears because customers are fucking mean).nnThis all came on because I snapped. I can't be strong anymore. I feel like I'm disliked and looked over all of the time. I started this new job 2 months ago and I have yet to connect with my coworkers. They all laugh and giggle together and crack jokes but when it comes time to talk to me, they sound bored and dejected. I can see how bored they are in their eyes. It's painful because it's not like I can leave the room and be by myself. I have to listen to everyone enjoying themselves and interacting while I'm left out. It's like being at a house party for 8 hours a day where no one enjoys talking to you. nnI'm so sad because I want to connect so badly. I don't know what's wrong with me and I don't know what to do anymore. Once impressions are made it's hard to change them. I guess I'm just ranting, maybe just looking for comfort since I can't find it in anyone else. Thanks for listening.
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I'm very sorry that you had a tough day. Feeling like an outsider can be immensely draining and it's unfortunate that your situation is the way that it is. Good for you though for being able to make it through the day while still doing your best work, especially in a difficult job. (I don't understand why people have to be so awful towards those who work in beverage and food service positions. It makes me so upset.)nnNonetheless, I hope that things improve for you. I didn't feel like I was accepted among my co-workers until over a year into my job. Somethings just take time, and I truly wish for it to happen much quicker for you. In the meantime, your co-workers are missing out on everything you have to offer, which is such a shame. I hope that you have a good night, and thanks for sharing.
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I'm in a discord group with people interested in a lot of the same stuff as me, but I struggle to reach out. Coming up with just a simple message to send is so hard; there are conversation starters I could use, but none of them seem quite right. It's really tough to reach out and say something worth people's time. If I achieved that, I don't know what I would say to continue the conversation. I am at my weakest point in life where I get anxiety from being on my computer.
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It's nothing relevant to this post, except that it is the
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I just really need to be sure. I'm constantly worrying about the fact that I don't actually have social anxiety and I'm just a faker and it's gonna look like I'm craving attention when I eventually tell someone (in like 30 years). Is there any way to know for sure without getting a doctor's appointment or telling my parents or whatever? I always feel like the most basic definitions of social anxiety fit in to me but then I read about some other cases and it just feels like I'm blowing my case way out of proportion and in turn it makes me feel like I'm undermining the issues that other people have. I've been
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To be honest the only person who can diagnose you is a trained professional. The rest of us can tell you that your symptoms sound familiar, but we can't tell you definitively. I resisted seeing a professional for many years, but when I finally did it I found great relief in their validation.
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This hurts my heart. So much. It is the greatest source of shame for me. I just don't have the courage to ask a girl out. Please tell me I'm not the only one..
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First thing's first: you are not alone! That's why this subreddit exists. It's okay to be different. You have a problem, but you shouldn't let that problem define you, or destroy you. You deserve to be happy.nnProbably the only reason I was ever able to find anyone was because of talking online with them first. I am a lot more confident and eloquent when I don't have that face-to-face pressure and can take the time to type out conversations.nnMaybe if you find people locally and just get into their DMs for a while to get to know them, it will make meeting them IRL easier?nnEven neurotypicals have problems finding dates, and society puts too much pressure on dating and sex life. It's okay to take it at your own pace and figure it out.nnIf you have the chance, talk to a counselor of some sort, a psychologist or psychiatrist, or maybe even just your doctor, to see if there's a way forward for treating your anxiety. Even if it's just a few doses of medication to take the edge off your anxiety when meeting people.
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I say someything to someone and then the rest of the day I'm just thinking about the thing that I said.nnI could just say hello to someone and then keep thinking
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Same, I used to shout
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Had this thought upon waking up today- how glorious it would be if everyone would temporarily vanish and I could go for a run on the public trail without feeling embarrassed and poke about the shops in peace. (Ignoring the fact that there would be no one there to run said shops). If everyone else disappeared for a day- what would you do?
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I'd lol if I wasn't in class right now. Best answer yet.
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Hi everyone, I'm a 27m suffering from Agoraphobia w/Panic Attack disorder for the last 8 years. Not enough words to jot down the whole history. I'm just seeking some guidance.nnI moved to a new psychiatrist 3 months ago and this is what I'm taking on a daily basis:nn- Prozac 60 mg w/breakfastnn- Effexor 300mg w/dinnernn- Xanax 0.5 mg twice a daynn- Seroquel 25mg at nightnn- Valium 5 mg if needednn- Celebrex 200mg twice a daynnHe started on low doses but quickly ramped it up. I've been on this for a month now.nnThe first month I was seeing improvements. More fatigue but less panic and willing to go out more and drive further. The second month was getting better until halfway. I got plagued with derealization, migraines, and severe diziness. Tried to shake it off but so far still have them.nnAlso for the last 3 weeks I've got inflammation all over my body and joints. I feel like I'm being bound down. It aches to move. Feels like my joints are locked and I'm so tense 24/7. Also the anxiety is back with a vengenance. As if I wasn't on these meds anymore. Very tired. Dizzy. Sensitive to light, loud noises, everything really.nnI saw a Rheumatologist for the joint and body pain and got a cortisone shot to help relieve it. No effect really. Celebrex is barely helping.nnDo you think this could be side effects from all of these meds? Am I just supposed to ride it out? Have the Benzos stopped working for anxiety? I also take Paracetamol on top of all this if I reach to a point where I can't handle my head exploding.nnI'm always walking around like there's sun on top of me. Squinting from the pain of the migraine and feel like I'm floating most of the time.
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Hi, I am not a doctor so would not be able to tell you if you are taking too much medicine. However, if I were in your place - I would definitely go to the doctor to discuss about the issues you are facing . Having debilitating headaches and other aches such that you need to have a paracetamol daily seriously hampers quality of life, which needs to be discussed and mitigated. nnSecondly, I would also go to another psychiatrist for a second opinion. nnThirdly, I would check if any of the medicine prescribed is addictive and would have a discussion with my doctor of replacing them.nnFinally, I would also discuss with my doctor if so many medicine plus paracetamol plus cortisone shots would be causing havoc in my liver . nn&#x200B;nnComing to your query, benzos can lead to decreased efficacy over prolonged use . A quick look found me this ((https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3321276/)) . According to literature , more than 3 months use of benzodiazepene is called prolonged use.nnFinally, you are strong individual. Wish you all the best. Doctors are here to aide us in our best health plan. Do not trust anyone blindly but always have clear, well documented discussions regarding all your fears, issues and everything else. nnWish you all the best.
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I have a current diagnosis of bpd & depression. though I also struggle with anxiety a lot as well as paranoia & hypervigilance in the past few months - at some point i'll have a nother word with my psychiatrist to review my diagnosis.nnIn the meantime, as I don't really have a robust coping strategy in place, how do I break free of this rumination loop i'm stuck in? How do I quieten down these intrusive thoughts that are telling me I should give up on my training course online because i'm falling behind on the work? I'm struggling to focus on finishing the work that I need to catch up on. I chickened out of asking for an extention last minute. nnI've distanced myself from people because I'm struggling to prioritise and assertive my boundaries without spiralling. Clearing out my Nan's things and the deadline around emptying her house is playing on my mind, interacting with my family is triggering me, my close friend is triggering me (it's not intentional, she is going through a lot i'm just finding it hard to be there for her right now).
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I wish I knew how to help. Sorry. Maybe try to find a hobby that distracts you for a bit.
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Cause if it's the former I won't even try spending those money on a therapist. If they actually give me some medication or make my brain stop fearing this shit then I'll go
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Username kinda checks out
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When I talk to people on the internet, there is no social anxiety, even if I'm talking through a mic and not just text. I guess it's the fact that everyone's anonymous on the internet, and I don't care as much if people say something mean because that's just what people do on the internet
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Yea I talk more online too
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DISCLAIMER: I am not trying to harm Roblox, nor shame it in any sort of way. Please do not send hate, since I am just asking for mental health support, which gaming might be a cause, especially violence in it and PTSD. Also, r/AmItheAsshole probably won't fit for this post, since it contains violence.nn&#x200B;nnDisclaimer aside, I have been playing the 2006-present game (or game of games) called Roblox, and because I can get a bit violent at home, especially when I'm interrupted for something minor/major, what the hell do I do?nnThe interruptions are by my foster mother, and pretty much happen when its time to eat dinner, or when I need to take a break or anything else. Of course, if I'm in a game where I cannot pause it, I'd shout
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you sound like youre a teen. you should limit yourself and learn to set boundaries to help with your anger, itll be a good discipline to have as you get older.
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As the title states, I think I may have social anxiety, and I'd like know the general symptoms or behaviors of people who have it. Thank you.
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oh beans
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Are zoom classes bad? I know it's a dumb question, but I've never done one and honestly kinda has me anxious (idk why).
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It's currently lunch time for me now and my breathing hasn't felt right since my first three classes. I hate doing this.
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I feel this is connected to my social anxiety but i'm always worried i smell bad, for example if someone acts off with me, i assume it's because i smell bad, if i'm in public and someone walks away from me, i think it's because i smell bad. The worst part it, i don't know if i do? i have had one person say they can smell one of my perfumes even after i've left the area, and others say i sometimes smell you but it's always a pleasant perfume smell and isn't too strong. I constantly can also smell myself, people say if you can smell yourself badly then so can everyone and i ask others and they say all they can smell is perfume…so is this anxiety? or maybe do i smell bad
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Yeah, I also get bad stress sweats, that smells even worse than regular sweat. And being worried just maked it worse. Anyone else got this problem?
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The scariest thing I know that causes the most anxiety for me is... dancing. I reaaaalllly don't wanna do it and I remember always being awkward in P.E. when we learnt dancingnnSo I'm thinking, maybe I should do it at least partially just to work on my anxiety? Does it sound like a good idea?
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Sankyou <3. Sorry for being rude, I just realized
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So yeah, tomorrow I'll have a 6 hours shift as a volunteer but I am scared, I am scared of embarrassing my self in front of the other volunteers and the patients.nnI have 17 years old and this is my first
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Wishing you the very best! Just give it the most you can and hopefully, the rest will take care of itself.nnWith our SA, we often forget that there's a world out there beyond the confines of our mind, but it will hopefully come into perspective as you extend help to people around you.nnGood luck!!
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I'm a (21F,) I'm a full time real estate agent, but I decided I want to go back to college to pursue nursing. Well, all my life I've had a terrible phobia of public speaking. I faint, puke, cry, and run out of rooms. Well I realized for my core classes to transfer to any university that I need to take Speech, and English Composition. I just can't do that, I just can't put myself through that. I faint when I have to get up in front of a classroom. It's not good for my mental health either. I've been diagnosed with Bi Polar type 1, Borderline Personality Disorder, and anxiety. I'm on meds to stabilize my mood. It will never get better, I would have to take nerve pills to even be able to get up to speak. I really want to be an RN, I work wonderful one on one with people, I'm very passionate, and caring. It breaks my heart that it comes down to this. I don't think it's fair that colleges do this to people with glossophobia. I believe I can take speech 100% online. I'm feeling so hopeless….
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One on one I'm wonderful at. I'm a very social person, but my fear of public speaking is to the extreme. I just asked a friend that's in the nursing program at the university I want to attend if they have to give presentations, and she told me “no.” So that kinda makes me feel better.
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I am going through one of the most toughest years of my life. I will try to keep it short as possible.nnI am 29 year old female in a relationship with great family siblings and parents. I am struggling with crippling social anxiety(not sure to even call it that anymore). I am not anxious around people I don't know or ordering food I can do that with 0 anxiety. I am anxious around the people I love the most. My sister aka best friend and my own boyfriend to the point where if he proposed I don't know if I could marry him(even though I want to).nnA little back info. I never had social anxiety but it developed in high school with strangers then it magically went away. Then came back about the age of 25 but only with people i know. I use alcohol to cope. Whenever I see my boyfriend I have to drink before and during so I try to see him like 2-3 times a week to avoid drinking. I work alone but when I was working with people I was always anxious and they could tell. It was so humiliating. I told my boyfriend a year ago about me being anxious around him and since he has forgotten I told him and is not going away. Every day I wake up is the worse feeling knowing what is to come. I feel misserable and desperate.nnI don't think I can have children like this. How can I get pregnant if I need to drink when I am anxious? I don't want to do that. But when I get anxious it feels like im going to die. I feel at this point the only solution is to live alone and never marry never have a family or just die. Is killing me that I can't enjoy my life because of this. Everything is perfect but my brain is my own enemy. nn(I have only been anxious around my boyfriend for 3 years out of the 10 we were together. Eating out with him terrifies me since we have to be face to face I avoid it or drink before we do anything)
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Maybe you have a panic attack disorder? I'd try to see someone about it. Drinking to socially engage is definitely not a healthy way to go long term.nnA medication could help remix some of your brain's chemistry to help you cope instead of the alcohol. It's worth looking into.nnI actually have the opposite problem. I'm comfortable around my people, but get super anxious around strangers (and some people I know to be toxic). I experience it the most in public and chalk a lot of my issue up to the pandemic.nnI hope the best for you.
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i want to ask my psychiatrist if i can get on anti-anxiety meds for my social anxiety so i can function normally at work. I have depression as well and have been on lexapro, prozac, zoloft, celexa, effexor, and now i'm on wellbutrin which seems to make me more depressed. maybe because i'm on the lowest dose. but i feel like sometimes my social anxiety outweighs my depression or contributes to it majorly. so if i ask my psychiatrist for anti-anxiety meds, do you think he will say yes?
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Ativan helped me a lot, but they took me off of it sadly because they said that it wasn't something that I should have been taking long term. The only thing was that it made my brain a bit more foggy and I was forgetful. It really relaxed me though. I miss it.
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its funny..ive noticed myself and fellow introverts with s.a as well using emoticons, while extroverts w/o s.a usually dont use many (if any..at all).nni guess we use them because its easier to express what we are trying to say? or gifs as well. they just make it easier to convey our message.
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same
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Earlier today my brother wanted to order food at a local restaurant. Since he was working he wanted me to pick it up and obviously got furious when I told him I couldn't.nnI'd just gotten back from school. Today was very hot so I was sweaty and felt disgusting. The only thing there really is about me and my family appreciates me for is my face so I'm constantly under preassure to look pretty. nnWelp, I felt so ugly I was terrified of what people would think of me when I showed up looking like crap.nnI told my brother about how I felt and of course he didn't get it and just started screaming at me and of course, he's still mad and won't talk to me.nnNobody in my family understands me. I once had to do a presentation and I was so scared I relapsed on self harming. When I showed my mom the only thing she said was
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yes yes!! I mean, there should be a lot more options for many things.. You can find jobs where you don't have to be a social butterfly.. Imo it's unnecessary and unfair to have the social aspect of school be a full 100% requirement to get a degree or be deemed
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Hi everyone, I don't know if this is social anxiety or what.. but I avoid replying to people for weeks and it's getting out of hand. It gives me such extreme anxiety to check my email and texts. I can only reply to my parents, brother and sister in law. nnI wait so long to reply that it becomes almost awkward if I do reply. And it's not like I'm ignoring people and going on with my life. I stress about it all day. But I keep avoiding it anyways! When i go into my txts to reply to my brother or parents, I will cover any other texts with my hands so I can't see them. I full on avoid even seeing what people write. nnWhen I do decide to finally reply, it takes the whole day to prep myself for it. And then I usually stay up till 2am, until I finally press send. When I finally reply I feel great. Then I tell myself I won't ever wait to reply again.. but once the person replies I avoid them again. I know it sounds ridiculous. But I just keep doing it. nnI have had two people In the past month write to me, asking if they offended me, asking why I don't reply. And you would think I could be a decent human being and simply reply back and say sorry.. but instead I avoid them again!! I don't mean to be a jerk. I do care about people a lot. But for some reason I am terrified of replying. nnI find replying to people extremely draining. Like I can't find the perfect thing to say, so I avoid saying anything at all. My email hasn't been checked in weeks (and I'm sure there is important stuff in there) and I haven't checked my txts in 3 weeks, other than my families messages. It's getting out of hand. nnI also avoid phone calls. Basically I just seclude myself from people. I only have a few select people I talk to. nnIs this something any of you have dealt with?
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I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY ONE LIKE THIS DON'T WORRY I AM JUST LIKE YOU
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I always afraid of the unknown, I just can't bear the feeling of not knowing what will happen during class later on, so much that when I went to sleep I dreamed about it. Help?
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I sadly can't help but I'm going through the SAME thing every morning before school starts
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I am just curious if anyone with severe SA has gotten a good job and is living on their own? I have tried a few times but cant handle the stress :(
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Yup. I moved out on my own about 18 months ago. Been working at an Amazon warehouse for the past 2 years and recently got a promotion.nnSo it's doable you just have to get over that initial rough patch.
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. nI get a high off of being kind and not needing to see the results -My E.R. NursernnMan I really miss being a kid. Yall member Toaster Strudel? -Levi, 27nnI think we are in Gods waiting room. He wants us pure before we go.-Adelaid 23nnI have studied satanic sh** and read the book of the dead. I also read the bible, I went to church. We all need to experience dark things to understand the light on our own -LevinnIt is so cool to get brand new days. It makes the whole world crazy being stuck in yesterday, *not just us* -Antonio, 32nn-ADHD is like running really late to nothing to do and no where to go -LevinnI didn't realize how anywhere is better than here. I mean I have 3 dogs! Some people don't have any! n-Theresa, 63nnEveryone is in so much fear I can almost smell it. -AntonionnThey should have a ward in the hospital for demon babies from mothers who were possessed. -LevinnThere's a cafeteria? I don't think i should go. Everyone starts food fight and i didn't bring a jacket (being sarcastic) -AdelaidnnWe are all completely different to each but exactly all the same in a millisecond The fact we can choose one or both is exhilarating. -AdelaidnnThe staff are like babysitters for adults. Adult sitters? -LevinnI caught a glimpse of your splendor, in the corner of my. Eye. One of the most beautiful things I ever seen -Levi
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that's dope nquotes have hella power
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