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AITA for feeling like I’ve been ditched?
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So my SO and I had plans to head out to some shops tomorrow, I was looking foreword to it being just the two of us going out and about.
But, she asked me if our friend could come along as well, so I said I’d rather it just be us two because I was looking forward to it.
She says okay fine and has decided not to come with me and to just have her friend over instead. I felt upset by this because I felt like I’d been ditched for someone else.
But when I brought it up I was made out I be the bad guy. So now I feel like a shitty person.
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is is kind of a long time ago but i remembered it while reading an ask reddit thread about outbursts at teachers in school though this isn't really about an outburst. As an extra note i also had severe stage fright and was extremely scared of talking in front of crowds for the longest time due to unrelated problems. I think it must have been 2nd or 3rd grade when we had a girl studying to become a teacher who was to overlook our class and do some of the assignments with us. I can't even remember the exact assignment but we were told to describe something in some way but i started drawing it out instead because of a misunderstanding. When the rest of the kids started reading the text they had written out i got nervous because i had no text to read so i refused to share my work with the class our actual teacher got kind of angry but since i kept refusing they ended up moving on. I was pulled aside after class and told what i did was wrong even though i tried to explain that i had nothing to read she said i should have explained the drawing instead. We had a small booklet that the teachers would write in if they wamted contact with our parents, mostly excuses for not comming to class or to tell the parents if the child had done something wrong, and in that booklet they wrote that i created an embarassing situation for the extra teacher and that i was in the wrong. Was i the asshole?
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AITA for being weirded out by my GFs relationship with a “gay” male friend
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Before you judge the title hear me out, TL;DR at the bottom. My girlfriend (long distance) has a best friend (we’ll call him J), she told me back when we started dating that he was a gay guy that she is friends with and that he takes her to work because it is easier, she spends nights at his house on occasion and posts about him on snapchat a lot. With that being said today while bsing around with her she started talking about how she and J met, they were at a costume party at J’s house that her ride left from early so she stayed at J’s place for the night, she tells me her and J slept on the same couch and yada yada but again I had no problems. She gets to a part in the story about how she and J almost had sex once, I was taken a little off guard by this because I was under the impression that he is gay. When I told her that I was confused and that I thought he was gay she just told me that she thinks he only says he is gay but he is actually straight. I told her it weirded me out that she never thought it would be worth telling me that the guy she spends hours a day and sleeps over with isn’t gay like she told me he was, now she won’t speak to me. Again I have no problem with her having gay or even straight guy friends but her lying to me made me feel off like she is hiding something here, AITA?
TL;DR: Long distance girlfriend tells me her guy friend she spends nights with is gay, I find out she lied and he is actually straight/bi and when I brought it up she shut down and wouldn’t talk to me
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AITA for complaining about noisy neighbors with kids?
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We live in a second story apartment which is right under a family with four small children. These children are allowed to run & jump and scream during throughout the day & night. They blare loud music.
We dont mind footsteps or occasional booms, but there’s a point where it’s overwhelming. We have tried to speak with them on multiple occasions. The first time, they politely agreed to keep it down. I saw a child jumping rope in the living room. It didn’t stop.
The times after that, they told us that “it’s just part of apartment living.” They then got a Barbie Jeep to drive around the living room. The fourth & final time, the woman told us that she was tired of us bothering her family.
We’ve spoken to management, they say that they keep talking to them. Nothing has changed. Tonight, they were running & pole vaulting when a wall hanging fell and shattered into the carpet. I reached out to the onsite security guard for advice, he went to speak with them. When he called me back, he said he could hear the loud music/screaming & even feel vibrations from outside the door, & that he felt sorry for us. They refused to answer the door.
About 15 minutes later, the woman knocked on our door. She asked me, “why the hell did you call cops on children?” I explained that I needed to study for an exam & that I needed to go to bed soon because I work early in the morning. She fussed at me for being heartless about her children & how I need to get over it or just “go study at McDonald’s because they’re open 24/7.” I told her that I pay to live in my apartment, not McDonald’s. She said that she pays to live freely in her apartment & she is allowed to do whatever she wants in a place that she pays for. I said that the lease she signed says otherwise. She asked me if I want her to just tie her kids to the bed every day? Because they’re kids, they have to run around? She told me to just rent a house since her kids “haven’t learned how to fly to prevent them from disturbing my delicate ears.” (I’d love to rent a house, but a natural disaster has caused housing prices to skyrocket.)
I teach elementary students. I know how kids work. They get wiggly sometimes. When they get wiggly, we do activities that involve movement and noise and all that fun stuff, but I make it a point to teach them to not disrupt other classrooms.
I know what it’s like to live in an apartment as a child. It sucks. However, my grandma NEVER let me run around inside. She told us to go outside and play & never be rude to neighbors since they pay rent too.
Half of me feels like a horrible person because I fear that I’m making these children miserable by preventing them to be children. The other half of me is frustrated that we cannot live peacefully in our apartment. We have things falling, we’ve had to get a fire alarm & two light fixtures repaired due to vibrations. My dog has been diagnosed with anxiety due to thunder from above. AITA?
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"description": "kicking out our housemate with self-diagnosed anxiety and depression who has barely left their bed and pigsty of a room in months and refuses any kind of help/intervention? fyi - incredibly messy and always pays bills/rent days late",
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AITA (Are we the assholes) for kicking out our housemate with self-diagnosed anxiety and depression who has barely left their bed and pigsty of a room in months and refuses any kind of help/intervention? FYI - incredibly messy and always pays bills/rent days late.
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Person has barely left their bed in months aside from picking up grade or using the loo (refuses to flush??), we very very rarely see them and they actively try and avoid seeing other people in the house, insofar as to sneak around very late at night or go back into their room if they hear people downstairs.
Myself and another housemate tried to see what was going on, went up to their room and they literally would not talk to us, just kept pulling the covers over their head and telling us to go away. The room is tiny and a fucking pigsty, pizza boxes everywhere, no sheets on the bed, no floor in sight just clothes that they never wash, overflowing ashtrays spilling into their bed, bits of food and empty packets/rubbish everywhere, most of the house's dishes (mouldy food included) and an eye-watering stench that stunk the house out.
We are all mid-to-late twenties and don't want to live with this kind of stuff, we have actively tried to help them by contacting friends and family and even trying to talk to them and offering help but this person flatly refuses to do anything and calls us insensitive and mean for calling them out on this stuff. This person obviously needs help and being in this house isn't helping them at all, everyone is sick of it so we told them the news yesterday which resulted in them running away to their room and resume hiding. Are we the assholes?
Tl;dr: gave clearly depressed, but disgustingly messy housemate, 1 month to leave shared house, after multiple times of trying to talk to them and help them but to no avail.
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AITA for asking the maid of honors boss if she could take the day before the wedding off?
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So my fiancee's best friend got me a great job. My position is constant, hers is based in billable hours.
I didnt really think about why she didnt have the day before our wedding off, and asked her project manager if maybe if there's a possibility could she see if that time could be freed up?
Now the MOH is about to start a giant project and she will he lead with maybe one or two other competent co workers, in my mind asking this personal favor was no big deal.
She texted me going nuclear about how I put her employment at risk.
I know a wedding isn't a giant important thing for corporations vs profits and work or whatever but it seems like MOH and best man duties would warrant time, if it was a flight this wouldn't even be an issue. Its local so she wont have to drive far.
Now the KICKER is while I was asking her PM, I also asked a dozen family members.
I literally dont need her help anymore.
I still have a hard time comprehending that what I did could in any way threaten her job.
Awkward sure, unprofessional sure, but I mean she really blew up.
Had to ask you all. I feel like an asshole.
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AITA for being turned off by girlfriends tattoo idea
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My girlfriend, who I have been with 2+ years and we have a lovely 2 month old, plans on getting a tattoo. The tattoo idea is a turtle dreamcatcher. A. turtle. dreamcatcher. To add on to it, she intends on getting it placed on stretch marks from her pregnancy.
I do not feel like I control her in any way, but I surely let her know how turned off I was at the idea.
Am I out of bounds voicing my disgust at the mashed up cliche idea or am I justified solely on how awful a choice it is?
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AITA because I honestly reviewed my buddy's youtube video?
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So let me start off by saying I mean no ill will towards the guy and I don't want anyone going and harassing him actually if you guys would sub to him that'd be great as he's not a bad guy I honestly feel it's the stress of starting a new channel getting to him here so show him some love. Now about a week he asked me to review one of his videos (I will put link at end so you can see for yourself) and I did rather brutally if I'm being honest. I brought up how there are lots of "empty" spaces in it where nothing entertaining really happens and how he should cut those out, I said that the jokes felt kinda forced and could be well better expanded upon, I brought up a seeming lack of direction and told him a vague script could help him stay on track while also allowing him to vere off and make jokes I gave him 6/10, for this criticism I was promptly blocked on Instagram. Fastfoward to today I hadn't talked to him since he blocked me and I told him that I hoped my criticism will help him to which he responds that I'm just being a contrarian and that I don't know wtf I'm talking about (I have 2 years trained from my school in editing btw) and that because he has 3 years experience editing my opinion is basically invalid then told me not to talk to him anymore. So am I the asshole for being extremely honest with my friend or is he the asshole for blowing up at me like that? (https://youtu.be/1VdSg2ovEPs)
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"description": "refusing my in-laws birthday present",
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AITA for refusing my in-laws birthday present?
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This shouldn’t be too long of a story, but there is some context.
So a few months ago I was talking to my immigrant in-laws about where they came from and how my family’s history is a little bit murky so I’m not actually sure where we came from. This prompted them to go out and buy me a 23&Me kit for my birthday.
Here’s the issue though: I don’t trust that company, nor do I really, truly care about my family’s origin. I’m very protective of that kind of personal information and have made that clear to my girlfriend, family, and friends alike. My girlfriend doesn’t care if I don’t take it since she knows my stance on the whole thing, but her parents are kind of freaking out about it. They’re super old school and family is crazy important to them. They think everyone should know their origins. I don’t care.
I offered to reimburse them, but they refuse and say I should just take the test or whatever. So, AITA?
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AITA for taking her money?
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This just happened. I'm selling sunglasses at a market stall and a lady is shopping for herself but a husband is there. She finally decides on the two she wants for $30. As I'm packing them up for her she starts saying things like ' I'm not sure if I've got exactly the right change. 30 is it?'
This isn't for my benefit. She's trying to trigger the husband to reach for his wallet, which he does. Just as he moves his arm to his back pocket she starts rummaging through her handbag for her purse, slowly pulling it out and searching all the compartments (all the while side eyeing her husband, insuring he gets the cash out first) when she gets $50 note out she holds it against her purse with her thumb as he's holding his fifty out to me.
I've seen women pull this move hundreds of times.
I stall serving by saying to her 'oh that's right I've got some lens cloths for you in the car just a minute'. When I come back to the table I come back much closer to her than I do him. I grabbed her $50 instead pretending I didn't see his, foiling her plan to avoid paying.
AITA?
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WIBTA if I last minute cancelled my weekly visit to my very ill cousin to go on a date with a guy I've been crushing on for almost a year?
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Hello reddit. I am in a quandary and I don't know what to do. I will abide by the judgment of the sub to guide my actions tonight.
For some background, I am 21, in college living about 2 hours away from home. I have an 8 year old cousin who was born with a pretty rare auto-immune disorder and he alternates regularly between the hospital and home. Since I've been away I've always arranged my schedule so I can have Fridays off and drive home Thursday night so I can spend some time with him either at his house or in the hospital. He apparently had a bad interaction with a new medication and has been hospitalized for the past week and I was planning on driving home to play Settlers of Catan with him tonight to keep him busy in the hospital.
For some more background, I have been seriously crushing on this guy "Craig" since we took a summer class together last year. We have been good friends but I'm way to scared of rejection to ask him out and up until today he's never asked me out. About an hour ago he sent me the following iMessage:
"I'm sorry its taken me so long, but you know I'm leaving tomorrow for -professors name- field study and I would be sick if I didn't at least try to take you out on a real "date" before I'm gone for a month. I don't want to make things weird between us but I really, really like you."
My heart about melted but I want to do the right thing by my cousin. The truth is if I were to tell my cousin, I'm sure he'd tell me to go on the date, but the guilt of even thinking about it is eating me alive (yes, I'm pretty neurotic).
Would I be the asshole if I flake on my cousin and go on this date?
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AITA for ghosting a guy after the first date
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Sorry for spelling and formatting I'm on my phone and long post . (18F)
I met this guy online and he seemed alright and after a recent break up I was ready to try something new. I met him and right away I know it wasn't going anywhere, he looked very much different from his pictures and within a few moments of meeting he wanted to hug which I was very clear made me uncomfortable.
The date was filled with uncomfortable silence and I tried very hard to make conversation but he just wouldn't talk at least not much. When he did it was about anime or sexual stuff which I shrugged off and ignored. I made an excuse to leave early at which he asked if he could come back to mine because my mum wasn't in (I had said she had work and that's why I had to go home, she didn't have work).
I told him no but he kept asking until we got to where we had to part he asked me again I told him very clearly no. Then he asked for a hug and a kiss, I gave him a very quick and uncomfortable side hug but refused him the kiss then hurried off.
Within minutes of of us parting he messaged and asked if I had fun made another sex joke and when the next date was, I just said I was busy and I didn't know. He kept messaging me, with me not answering anything because I suffered really bad social anxiety and couldn't bring myself to tell him I didn't like him and he made me feel very uncomfortable, so I just blocked him without saying anything.
Today i told a friend of mine that I just blocked him and he said I should have been clear about why I was blocking him. I really don't think I could have because of my anxiety but now I feel really bad about it, so am I the asshole for just blocking and not explaining why to him.
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WIBTA If I hire a PI to see if my Mom is still driving against Dr orders?
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Here are the basics. My mother is disabled with a host of medical issues. She is 66 yrs old and does not have any sort of dementia. She does have some memory issues though. A year ago, her license was suspended after she reported to her doctor that she had fallen asleep in her car. She drove to a store, parked, and fell asleep slumped over the wheel for several hours. Passerbys knocked on her window to check on her and she responded but went back to sleep. She did this over three hours.
Once she lost her license, I set her up with GoGo Grandparent that uses Lyft and Uber to shuttle her around at a moments notice with just a call. No confusing apps, no 24 hour notice. There is no cost to her since I pay for it. I get texts when she is picked up and dropped off and it helps me keep track of when she actually goes to her appointments. Sometimes she gets her dates confused. Complicating this is that she had just purchased a car just days before the incident and she desperately wants to drive again because she wants to drive her new car. To help with this aspect, I use her car on some weekends so she can at least be in her new car while running her errands.
Another issue is that three months ago she was hospitalized and since then she is on 24/7 oxygen and she feels trapped in her apartment because she has to use an oxygen concentrator which has limited battery time. This has only exacerbated her desire to drive her own vehicle.
She has been pretty good about not driving up until a month ago. But a month ago she decided to start paying a friend to drive her and she found a second friend who is an Uber driver who takes her to appointments, or so she says. My concern here is that she is telling me she is getting a ride when in fact she is driving herself. The change that happened a month ago is that we figured out what caused her sleepiness and adjusted the medication to address that issue and added new medication to address the hallucinations she admitted having "for years". She now feels there should be no barrier to getting her license back but I don't think the doctors will sign off on it. It has become an obsession.
So my question is, would I be an asshole if I hire a private investigator to see if she is being honest about not driving? Since she isn't using the service, I have no way of knowing if she is driving or not. I trusted her before and I don't technically have any evidence that these people are not driving her. But she has the psychology of a rebellious 13 year and doesn't like being told what to do. I had some assurance with the car service. Now my gut tells me there may be cause to worry. If I learn she is driving, I am taking the keys away.
Place your judgment.
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AITA for being upset/reading into my(31F) boyfriend (28M) not helping me move?
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*first time poster, sorry if I ramble a bit :/ *
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 5 months and we are moving in together at the first of the month. Full disclosure, it’s sooner than we planned (dispute with my landlord) but it’s the same plan we had for when my lease would have been up in June. It’s his house but I will pay him rent. We’ve known for the past 3-4 weeks that I’d be moving in sooner than we planned but he’s seemed totally on board this whole time, ie. talking about how much easier/more convenient things will be when I live there (we live 25min away from each other right now), planning evenings together, telling me to just leave stuff there, ect. We even had multiple serious discussions about expectations & lifestyle differences (I like to have some down time when I get home from work before really engaging with someone) -seemed like we were on the same page though I did notice that he didn’t really make any tangible “moves” like making a copy of his key or give me a lot of feedback on practical things like combining our respective furniture (he told me that there was a lot of extra room for any of my stuff that didn’t “fit” in the garage so not to worry about it ???).
Today I call him when I get home from work and we’re talking about our day and he mentions that he’s going golfing this weekend on Saturdaywith his dad & uncle and then “the boys” on Sunday. I felt kind of irritated bc he knows that I work & go to school during the week so this weekend is really my only opportunity to move most of my stuff. I brought it up and he told me that was fine but he didn’t plan on helping bc “he already moved around a bunch in college and he was over it” so I’d be packing and moving everything from my apartment to his house by myself? *side note I drive a little Toyota hatchback and he drives a pickup truck* AITA to be pissed / think that he doesn’t want to build a home with me and just wants the convenience of having a live in girlfriend?
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AITA for preparing a sandwich for my SO and spitting on it when they make me mad?
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Posting on a throwaway, for obvious reasons, on behalf of a friend.
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Said friend has been happily married for 40+ years with 4 kids. They make lunch for their spouse overnight, since the spouse works and my friend is a stay at home parent. They have their typical quibbles and bickering in their marriage. My friend told me that throughout their marriage, when SO has annoyed them, they'll spit in the sandwich when they make it and give it to their SO as a form of petty revenge to make them feel better. SO found out and is made, my friend said they've kissed and it's really no different than that. Reddit, what do you think?
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AITA For telling her on April Fools that her best friend was pregnant with my baby?
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Posted this here initially and got quite a few posts telling me I'm a an asshole.
https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/b8rgw7/i_34m_told_my_wifes_29f_best_friend_28f_to_tell/
So my wife has suspected of me and her best friend of having an affair when we were on a break last year. Truth is we sort of did, but stopped after a few mins of kissing. We knew it was wrong and both stopped.
We never told my wife though, despite her having her suspicions (we did go out a lot as we both needed each other in that time and didn't have anyone else).
So I made her friend April tell her she was pregnant with my baby and it back fired spectacularly even after we told my wife it was a joke.
She accuses us of trying or joke our way to confessing and she's sure we cheated.
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AITA for not contributing as much as our 'landlady' wants me to?
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Long read.
As a bit of background, I (20 yr old) became homeless when my mom divorced my asshole step dad. We couch surfed for a while, I was still going to school, and hadn't considered getting a job until then so that I could fully focus on my studies.
(Please note that at this point all of my college fees were paid in full through my own savings from doing odd jobs through high school)
It came to a point where a connection of one of my mom's friends offered us a room in her house for a standard fee - all utilities included, a shelf in her fridge, a cupboard for our food, the washing machine and shower and the root of all of our arguments: internet.
She went to great extents to make sure we settled in, but soon, things started going sour.
It started with me considering leaving college to find a job to help support my mom and myself (hopefully get a stable place for us to live as we weren't allowed to use her address on account of her receiving financial help from various other sources as well as rent from my mom)
She tore into me, it turned into an hour long screaming fest where she called me all sorts of things and so I stayed in school - last thing I needed was this massive woman screaming at me every day or for her to throw us out.
Then she came to me again and accused me of being lazy for not doing more for my mom, so I took up the cooking, washing and cleaning of our room, fine I understood where she was coming from and I didn't want to argue since we had nowhere else to go.
Then she came to me again, same argument, saying that I'm childish, lazy and arrogant. She had me now cleaning her bathroom every weekend.
Additionally, I babysit her special needs child and her two dogs when she goes out. (I don't get paid for this, this is to "pay her back for letting us stay here")
Here's the thing, I finished College, and since I'm not allowed to use her address I can't get anyone to hire me.
I volunteer my time at an animal shelter while I throw my CV to any place I can find that's hiring, but she still maintains that I'm not doing enough for her around the house or at all.
In my two to three hours of spare time, I play videogames (predictable for someone my age) I used to play online games, overwatch mostly, but she complained that it used too much internet and so would turn the internet off when I got home from the shelter (10 to 12 hour days mind you)
Okay, I thought, and traded in my online games for offline single player stuff, but she still says that I use all of her internet?? She's adamant that all I do is go and cuddle dogs all day then get home and sit and do nothing.
So recently I've stopped really doing chores around the house, I've been going out to see a friend every second or so weekend and I've been downstairs less - I just keep the room clean and refill the dog's water bowl, I still cook and do the washing for my mom (bless her she works so hard) but the landlady is getting more and more angry with me for being lazy.
I've stopped the babysitting, I always make excuses now, and I've stopped doing her son's chores, I haven't been mean but I also haven't been extraordinarily nice to her or the boy lately.
I feel like I might be an asshole in this situation, but I also feel like she may be absolutely worse.
On the one hand she took us in when we were homeless. She lets us stay in her house, she gave us a room and beds to sleep in. Apparently (and I don't believe this part) I'm using all of her internet allowance, one time she claimed that I used 500gb in 7 hours!
On the other hand, we're paying her full rent, cleaning her bathroom, watching her dogs and child, we can only wash our clothes and shower when she says and she's always on my case about how lazy and childish I am.
Does she have a point? Am I the asshole? Should I be doing more?
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AITA who's to blame?
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So for a back story me and this girl (let's call her kat) used to be bestfriends. We would hang out together and talk to eachother 24/7 until she started talking crap about me behind my back. I found this out from a few mutual friends. My other friend who I still talk to (let's call her beth) was one of the people who overheard some of the stuff Kat was saying about me. Now I had told Kat a lot of personal stuff as we had been bestfriends so when I found out she was telling everyone my secrets I was pissed. I confronted her and she just laughed and said "whatever" so I stopped talking to her for a while. She started hanging out with another group of people (who I will call the gossip girls since all they did was gossip). She had told her little gang of gossips that i was spreading rumours about HER. So the gossip gang started to attack me via social media. I would constantly get hate on an app called tellonym (an app where you can say anything and its anonymous) so my friend Beth made a group chat with me, her, Kat, and kats boyfriend jerkface. When she made the group Beth started roasting the crap out of jerkface and Kat (was pretty funny since beth knows how to put people on their place) the bad part was I started getting even more hate. Kat had twisted it saying I "brainwashed" beth into saying stuff to Kat I had finally had enough and commented on kat's tellonym "fuck you go die in a hole stupid bitch" she didn't know it was me because it was anonymous but I knew she would figure it out. Turns out she did AND she told out principal about it. I got called in and got in a lot of trouble about it (so did Beth as she was an "accomplice") so we both got in trouble and had detention for a whole day and had to do a PowerPoint about 'Cyberbullying' oh yeah and Kat almost ruined my future because I almost got a permanent record for it. Kat and her gossip girls got in no trouble. Am I the asshole for saying that?
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AITA for being upset with my friends who mock me for being wealthy?
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My parents are both very wealthy. I'm talking lake house, horses, entire college career paid for wealthy. When people meet me, it's clear I'm fairly well off, but most people have no way knowing the extent of it.
When my friends find out, I suddenly become the rich friend. I never volunteer the information because I'm suddenly treated differently. They start calling me the boujie one. When I don't like something, they say "it must not be good enough for you".
I've always struggled with this, because obviously it feels backwards to be upset about being wealthy, but it really makes me feel ostracized. I've spoken with them about it and their responses have been along the lines of "rich people deserve to get poked fun at" and that i'm being too sensitive.
Am I the asshole here?
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Wibta if I ask my boyfriend to go on a date with just me?
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Even the stupid title seems retarded. “No of course the fuck not.” Or maybe yes. We never go out. Two years together. Moved in together. He never wants to go anywhere with me. It’s enough, he says, that we live together and see each other every day and morning. Okay. But when he wakes up it’s to browse Facebook. When we get home from work there’s no together time. If he goes out with his friends he asks to go alone or reluctantly invites me. Tonight I asked him to get a drink at the bar downstairs. He gripes, “if you want.” But I say, well not if you’re in pjs already... and he responds “oh my friend texted me, he’s there, meet you there?”
Wibta if I fucjing say something for once ?
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AITA for trying to get my mom to fulfill Herr chicken promise?
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I like chicken from Pizzahut, the chicken in the shape of a ball. I think they're delicious. My mom knows how much I love them and offered to buy them for me on her way home from work. However, there was heavy traffic and she decided not to as she came home at 8 (I don't eat past 7).
So, I wanted the chicken balls she owed me for lunch today instead. I asked her if we could order them, she tried backing out of buying me my balls (which she later said she didn't back out). But I asked her when she would get them and she said "I'm having my smoothie.) . I held her accountable, I said "you promised me chicken last night, but you have to get them today." She decided to stay true to her promise and said I'll get them later, I pressed her on when because I wanted them for lunch. She told me at 4 pm, which is like in 4 hours.... She didn't want to get them delivered because of the extra charge. So I was shocked, visibly in my expression. I said, actually can you give me the coin and I'll run and get them right now.
My mom started to cry, she said I was pressuring her to get them in the middle of her drinking her smoothie. I didn't think I was pressuring her, I said I'll get them right now instead of waiting. So, she goes and gets dressed and tells me to order it. She made me feel so bad. I was just trying to problem solve. Like instead of waiting why can't I just run by myself and get them now (it's one block away). So she gets dressed and I tell her, "just forget it." I tell her I didn't know chicken would cause so much drama and that I didn't have to have it. She tells me I'm full of drama and that she's not coming home tonight. She tells me she'll go outside waiting for me order. I try to make amends, tell her it doesn't matter, the chicken doesn't matter. She insists I order it, so I do. She tells me I was childish for asking her when she would get it, I say I didn't want to be left in suspense. We hug, in a hug she did not participate in, am I the asshole?
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WIBTA For not wanting my stepdad involved in my wedding?
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So I'm planning my wedding for 2021. My mum has been with my stepdad for about 19 years. We have never had a good relationship (he has said/done a lot of mean things to me) my mother knows but didn't care and has never said anything to him. I don't want him involved in my wedding, I don't want him in my wedding photos (also for fear of him "ruining" them by doing something stupid like pulling a face which he has done in photos before), no speech anything. I'm only inviting him because if I don't it will cause a shit storm I can't be bothered dealing with.
My dads girlfriend will also not be involved but they havent been together for as long.
Will I be the asshole if I don't want him involved?
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AITA for dating the girl that I hooked my best friend up with?
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**Backstory:** I met this girl Amber in December 2017 who lives 40 minutes away. We never officially dated, but we had mutual interests in each other and talked for a few weeks until I decided to end things since I had a girlfriend at the time. She was really upset and we stopped communicating.
A few months later in April we started talking again. By this time, my former girlfriend and I have already broken up. Amber and I became really close as friends. Her family was familiar with who I was and we became very comfortable with each other. After some time, we started taking interest in each other again. However, we soon stopped talking again because I began talking to another girl. Again, she was really upset and we stopped communicating in July.
Both these times, I admit I was the asshole. I really did have feelings for her and we get along *extremely* well but our situation was difficult to maintain at the time since we live somewhat far from each other and I had been dealing with situations of my own
We recently reignited our friendship in September at a wrestling tournament and since then we've gotten closer than ever. We are extremely open and comfortable with each other. I apologized for everything that I've put her through and we both agreed that we would never try talking again. After some months I started developing a crush on her but suppressed my feelings this time since we both agreed to stay friends. We hung out frequently and when we did she would be somewhat clingy and flirty but I thought nothing of it since she claimed that she's usually a clingy person. I had suspicions that she was also crushing on me but did not want to make any assumptions.
Curious as to if she was actually into me, I pitched the idea for her to hook up with my best friend Anthony who I see and hangout with almost everyday. If she did find interest in that idea then I would conclude she had no interest in me however if she didn't, then she was probably interested in me. Long story short, they started talking and Anthony was obviously really into her but she didn't feel the same. She constantly flaked on their plans and rarely texted him back. Amber and I still continued to talk normally since we were good friends.
**The Problem:**
Amber drunk texted me at a party one night asking why I have no interest in her. Since she was so clearly intoxicated I took this idea lightly. I allowed her two days to sober up and talk to me about it again and it was true: she still liked me. I exclaimed how I thought we were strictly friends. This conversation led me to confess that I also did have feelings for her but the problem was she was *still talking to Anthony*. She invited me over her house New Years Eve and we did countdown together. We both had drinks that night so she invited me to spend the night which I agreed to. It was around 2AM and I assumed that I would sleep on the floor beside the bed but she invited me to lay with her. She began to cuddle with me and eventually she made the move to kiss me which led to making out. After the night, we discussed how terrible this was of us to do and how extremely guilty we both felt. Since we both had a little to drink that night I assumed it was the alcohol.
Two days later she was over at my house and she spent the night at my place. Similar to New Year's night, we did the same thing which was initiated by her again. We **both agreed** that this was something we wanted however it was something I *had* to tell Anthony since he was my best friend.
I end up telling Anthony about the situation in a one on one conversation. I left out the major details and kept it very short, only explaining how we took interest in each other with ZERO intention of hurting him. I apologized and emphasized how this was not intentional. He seemed totally cool about it saying how he appreciated how I came upfront to him about it and he made everything seem all good and normal. They were never officially dating, but he said he was already planning to end things with her and that it was all okay.
Every time I see him he avoids eye contact with me and rarely talks to me. My friends are telling me that he's been telling ***a story*** to many people seeing if he should stay friends with me or not *(I say* ***a story*** *because he never asked me about what happened or how it happened so the story he is telling other people is most likely very flawed)*. They say that he's upset that I didn't tell him sooner and how he's just mad. I feel like a dick and I understand why he wouldn't want to be friends, but I want him to be upfront with me and let me know if we are cool or not rather than telling me we are cool but telling everyone different. When we talked one on one he made it seem like everything was all good and he forgave me. Now, he's acting different and almost even talking bad about me behind my back making me look like a villain. Am I really an asshole?
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WIBTA if I don't want my daughter's (20f) boyfriend (42m) at my other daughters wedding.
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I literally have no idea why my daughter is with that guy. He's abusive and controlling. She claims they have a sub/dom relationship and its a part of that. But I think he's a predator. They started dating last year and it has been hell for our family. I and my wife tried to talk to her but she won't listen. He's so controlling. He decides what she gets to wear, how she looks, what she eats etc. I don't know how this is a healthy relationship and I think he's too old for her. But they claim they love each other.
My elder daughter is getting married. Everyone from our family is invited but no one wants him there. But we're afraid that my daughter wont attend if I dont invite that guy over. WIBTA?
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AITA for purposefully making a kid with a disability lose a talent competition?
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I was invited to judge a music talent show contest for teenage kids. There were two other judges and this was the final round of the competition with only 3 people remaining. The winner would get a cash prize worth ~$3,000 and direct entry with a one year scholarship to a shitty music school (sponsor of the competition).
I studied music theory for years, played professionally both solo and in bands, and was a previous runner-up for a variant of this competition (me with my giant check to cash at a giant bank: http://imgur.com/lmygRNp)
Now there were 3 students competing and one of them was on a wheelchair. The first student played a beautiful OC piece for a classical guitar. The second student was the one with the disability on a wheelchair(Ryan) , and the third guy played Tchaikovsky. I have been playing for years and I can tell you that Ryan played worse than someone who would have never even played the piano. It was atrocious to a point that it made me cringe. He stops playing and starts crying because he forgot the rest of whatever the fuck piece he was ruining and his mom rushes on stage and is hugging him and the crowd starts cheering and shit for him to continue playing. He changes his piece now to play "dont stop believing". He's not even playing the melody, like just the chords and the entire audience is cheering him on and singing all the words. The crowd gives him a standing ovation and his mom talks about her son inspires her because he is a fighter and never gives up.
It's time to judge them. We had to give our own individual scores to each contestant (out of 100), tally up the scores and pick a winner based on the most points. I gave Ryan a 7/100, the first guy a 93/100 (or something) and the third guy 85/100. He did NOT even deserve the 7 points.
Anyway, we tally up the votes and I could see the other two judges getting shocked at how low of a score I gave Ryan. We announce the winner (the first guy who deserved to win) and the crowd STARTS BOO-ING. Guys. This poor first kid practiced for fucking HOURS, played a beautiful piece, and was BOOED FOR HIS HARD WORK.
At this point, Ryan's mom starts feeding off the crowd and begins demanding why her kid did not win. She starts talking to the other judges and then goes to talk to the organizer. The guy who brought me in to judge comes to me and asks me why I purposely made Ryan lose. (Keep in mind that at this point I'm still an undergraduate student and I'm dealing with grown adults). I explain to him that I did not think Ryan deserved to win and he stormed off to talk to his superior. I tried talking to the other judges but they both want nothing to do with me.
The audience is *still* cheering for the kid.
The organizer comes to me and tells me that I need to go on stage and say that I made a mistake. At this point I'm feeling terrible because I think everyone knows it was me, and also because I "fucked up". He convinces me to do it and we had to embarrassingly strip the title away from the deserving winner into someone with NO TALENT.
Ryan gets the new trophy and for his speech, he says that he does not think he should have won and says that he would like to give the scholarship to the first guy (He still keeps the trophy and money though). Anyway, NOW the audience starts cheering for the first guy and at this point I have had just so much that I want to get out of there so I start heading out. Ryan's mom stops me and starts asking questions like "Why did you purposefully try to make my son lose?". I say that "I didn't think he deserved to win because he is not as talented as the other guys" and she starts getting REALLY confrontational and right on my face while she is talking. Her husband moves her away from me because she was getting aggressive and she says some mean (and slightly racist) things before turning around and walking away.
Telling this story back to my friends, the general consensus I got was them saying, "You're not wrong (because you did what you thought was the right thing, you're just an asshole." I didn't think I was the asshole, but this gives me a reason to post here. Now that you know the story too, AITA?
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AITA for going AWOL on my friend during her breakup?
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Some context before I get to my point. I might drag on at times so apologies in advance. So the friend in question is someone I’ve known for a long long time - since grade school, in fact. We weren’t particularly close, but we had a few classes together throughout the years and came to know & understand each other quite well. I dare say she’s one of maybe two or three people that truly gets me, because we’re almost the same person. At one point we flirted with the idea of hooking up but never acted on it.
Anyway, as it usually goes, we went our separate ways after high school and lost contact for a while. A couple of nights ago we reconnected on social media and met up for coffee. It was as if we never lost touch. We picked up right where we left off years ago and spent the night talking and laughing like the old days. As it turns out, she was on the verge of breaking up with her current boyfriend of two years. I talked her through it and offered my friendly, no-strings-attached advice.
Here’s where things take a turn. The next day she completely goes off on me, accusing me of lying to her, manipulating her, and pulling some kind of con to get her into bed. Now, I will admit I sensed a bit of a spark between us the other night, but given all the shit I’ve gone through last year, I genuinely just wanted to reconnect with my old friend. I explained it to her, but it turns out her boyfriend had somehow convinced her that I sent him our messages (the ones where I essentially highlighted the reasons to break up with him, mind you). I did not. I had no ulterior motive. I was not trying to pull anything. I just wanted my friend back in my life. But she wouldn’t have any of it. Not only did she persist on calling me a liar, she took it to a personal level and said things along the lines of “everyone in high school was right about you” “you’re not who I thought you were” “I should’ve listened to them.” Never have I been so hurt or disappointed by someone. I essentially told her to figure her own shit out and to leave me out of whatever disastrous hell hole of a relationship she’s caught herself in. I told her I wasn’t gonna waste any time or energy in explaining myself, and that if she’s gonna take her manipulative boyfriend’s word over her friend’s, it’s clear where she stands. I feel like shit. Not only because of what she said, but I feel like I failed her as a friend.
TL;DR. My longtime friend accused me of coming between her and her boyfriend to try and get her for myself. Distraught, I left her to fight her own battles and I feel like a shitty friend for doing so. AITA?
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AITA for taking things too personally?
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hi. throw away account, mobile, yadda yadda...
I’m kind of terrified about posting here, because I’m afraid they will find it, but...
I am 15 years old, and my sibling is 20.
my sibling has always held this grudge against me. I don’t know why. they never tell me.
this isn’t relevant, but some things that happened in the past.
I heard through my other sibling that my sibling has said they wished that I was never born.
they have told me to die.
they have sent me negative paragraph length text messages in the past.
they made threats to take my stuff away.
whenever I would be around our pets, they would take them away. this will also happen when I’m talking to my sibling, they would always take the sibling away from me.
they did things to humiliate me, i won’t specify what because it embarrasses me, so i guess this won’t count as a point.
now here are on going things they do.
they always do stuff like turn their back on me, as if they want to keep me out of their view.
whenever i come into the room, they always drop silent and be a bit passive aggressive. or they would leave the room.
when they see me, they always start slamming stuff and stomp around.
they back talk me.
when they get mad at me, they always assume things and never want to hear my side. they only want to hear theirs.
they often project their anger onto me.
i can’t think of anything else they do.
now, this could be an explanation why they do all this.
my sibling is schizophrenic, and they have been mentally abused.
they have told me that i take everything they do towards me too personally. because when they do these things, i tend to overreact because it hurts me, honestly. I think I am taking their actions too personally and I should grow thick skin.
i have tried telling my mother about it, but she has reminded me that my sibling is mentally ill and that they will tend to react this way.
now, i’ll be honest. I kind of believe in “treat others how you want to be treated”. i know you may think that is bull. but, because of how my sibling treats me, i usually give my sibling the silent treatment, and i usually try to avoid them the best i can. however, i don’t think i should be entitled to be doing that because it may be encouraging them.
i feel very trapped and i feel so uncomfortable in this house because of them, especially under their presence. this has been going on all my life. i have never done anything to my sibling... at least not that i know of, but they never tell me anything. they just always assume that i’m mad at them. they always have, even when i do nothing.
i appreciate any judgement and criticism.
thanks for your time.
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AITA for leaving a Tinder match?
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This happened about a month ago, but the details are more than clear.
I matched with a girl on Tinder, let's say her name is Erin. Erin looks amazing in her profile, great body, cute face, funny bio, what's not to like? We talk for a few days, I eventually ask for her number and we text from there. I also ask for her snapchat because I tend to be on there more than iMessage, she declines in suspicion that I will send/ask her nude pictures, fair enough, it happens with tinder matches.
Friday rolls along, and the plans that we have agreed on are going to happen. Watch a movie and then chill after. She says she will take an uber to the movie theater, I offer to pick her up and she declines saying that it will be faster to uber. Me, trying to save her some money, offer again to pick her up, she eventually says that is fine and sends me her address.
I get to her place, and she walks out. At first I was not sure whether this person was a catfish or not, this was not the Erin that I had seen in the pictures. The great body that I had seen in the photos does not exist, it looks like she has gained 100 pounds. The cute face is there if you squint hard enough, but to top it all off, she smells like straight cigarettes. I'm not talking a little bit, this is multiple packs a day smoker, she never mentioned that to me at any point.
Immediately I was turned off, not only is the smoke smell putrid, but I really do not want to spend the next 3 hours with this woman, she is absolutely not what she had described herself to be. Instead of going to the movies, I make the excuse that I left my wallet at my apartment and I have to stop by and pick it up. I drop her off outside and tell her I gotta park and I will be back, to end the story, I did not come back.
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AITA for ditching my tinder date that refused to send me any pictures of herself, didn't bring up that she smokes heavily, and looks absolutely nothing like her pictures?
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TL;DR - My tinder date refuses to send me current pictures of herself, when I pick her up she smells of cigs and looks like she has let herself go, and I ditched her later on.
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AITA, I feel like my family isnt as supportive of me as they are of my brother...
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So the story is i had a gf, the thing is she was someone i met on the internet a state over. Things were good for 5 and a half months, we "loved" each other all the mushy gushy stuff. We broke up, yatta yatta, and i didnt get any support from my family, I got a "I'm sorry" from my mom, and that was it. Recently my brother broke up with his girlfriend and was torn up about it, he had all the support in the world from everybody in my town. I guess since it was somone i met online then "it wasnt a real gf then" is what some people said, then that means i shouldnt be sad or upset. I'm over the relationship but just feel like my brother got all the support and im over here just dealing with it myself. I feel like im an asshole for thinking this, am I one?
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AITA for unfriending an old flame for never talking to me?
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**Background:** I was in a brief relationship with this person we'll call A. He was a cool guy and I really liked him, but we were just two different people and we were honestly better off as friends than anything more, so we decided to try and keep it like that.
Starting a couple weeks ago, I was starting to get annoyed with A because he would stop responding to my messages. It's not like we were talking all the time, but I did try and stay in regular contact with him and we had been trying to set up a time for us to get coffee or something. But after only 2 or 3 messages, after all the pleasantries, he would just stop replying. Our conversations were usually over Snapchat, so I could see that he was opening my messages and not responding. It was bothering me that I was the only one who seemed to ever initiate conversations, and that he didn't ever seem to care to talk to me. Except, of course, the rare time he *would* contact me - when he was drunk, or horny, or both, and wanted me for other purposes.
Finally, one night I had enough and sent him a message telling him that I was going to unfriend him if he was just going to keep ignoring me. I didn't like it that he only seemed to want to *use* me instead of actually talking to me, especially as I was having a bit of a rough time and was wanting someone to talk to like he always said I could with him.
His response was very condescending and was basically "If you want to unfriend me than so be it, but I don't really know what you want me to say. Actually, I do - goodnight."
So I unfriended him on Snapchat like I said I would. I don't think he noticed at first because a couple of days later he tried saying "hi" to me, but after saying "hello" back (I shouldn't have responded, but oh well) he stopped responding again. Then about two days later he unfriended me off of all social media.
I don't really feel bad about what I did, because I think I was pretty reasonable. I don't need to keep people around that make me feel like shit. But what does Reddit think? AITA?
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AITA For telling my mom that her always drinking out of the family milk and juice containers was nasty and disgusting?
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Today, when my family was eating dinner, I went into my room to grab a cup I used for water. My mom had just gotten food for the week, and that is the time I always get my fill of milk or juice or whatever because my mom and sisters always drink straight out of the container and I am prone to get sick easily. So I went into my room to get my cup, and when I got it, I asked her if she had drank out of the container when I was in my room. She smiled nastily (from my perspective) and said "Yup!". I, and I admit, I was probably overreacting, yelled at her and told her that her drinking from the family container was disgusting because I get sick easily and that it was selfish and that she should not teach my younger sisters that's its ok to do the same. AITA?
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AITA - I found on the floor of a pub and placed it on the bar while exiting
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Bartender was cleaning up a small pub as we were leaving (place was closing in a few mins and wanted to avoid the "ugly" lights). The bartender had just wiped that part of the bar which I was unaware of. While leaving with my date, i found a poppy on the ground near the exit and placed it on the bar:
1. I had one on already
2. was going to put in my pocket but thought i'd stab myself
3. didn't think it was right if people walked on it
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AITA for pissing my entire family off of just because I didn't participate in a school competition?
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So, last year, which was also my 1st semester, my English teacher told me that there is this English speaking competition that anyone of my school could participate in. At first, I didn't sign up for the competition, then I changed my mind and was going to participate but it was too late, therefore I could not compete.
The competition itself was the qualifier for the same thing, the only difference is that it is a city-level competition (competitors from all over the city I'm living in). A student from my class made it to the city-level competition, that's why my English teacher told the whole class that it was compulsory to go and cheer for her.
Just this morning, when I was having my breakfast, my dad asked me where I would go after class. I told him that I would go cheer in the competition with my classmates, then attend 2 extra classes. My parents didn't know anything about me not participating in the competition, so they asked me why I didn't participate in it. My dad was a bit angry and told me that I didn't get to decide. Then he pointed at me and told that if there is any competition English-related that I didn't tell my dad about it, he would beat me. After that, I went to class.
Then I went back home, only to find that my entire family was pissed at me, and still is. My brother, my mom, my dad. Even my sister-in-law seemed unhappy too. I think it's because my family has high expectations of me because my English is decent. Especially my brother and sister in law, they want to take me to Da Nang City for better education, especially in English.
So fellow Redditors, AITA?
(Please don't mind any grammatical mistakes if there are any)
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WIBTA If I went to hang out with an ex-roommate that my best friend doesn't like?
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It was hard to give this the necessary context in the title, but let me give you guys a better description of the situation.
So, I used to be roommates with this guy, and long-story short, he and I had a falling out over some miscommunication between us. He had also told my best friend that he couldn't wait to not live with me anymore, and I was understandably mad, but in hindsight, it was overdramatic for me to be as petty and mad as I was.
For several months after, my best friend and I would vent our frustrations about this guy (my ex-roommate) to each other. I had already blocked him and my other roommates (who I felt were complicit with his behavior) and so she did the same. Now, she has a different history with my ex-roommate. She knew him before I knew him. She had some confused feelings for him when things were rough with her BF at the time. But the thing is: she has also told me about a time that she and my ex-roommate were alone at my dorm, and he put her in a chokehold while they were messing around. She told me that she felt like he went to far and was not considerate toward her fears as a woman (which I totally understand). She resents him for that, but also because of his poor behavior with me, and she suspects he might even be a little racist (I am mixed black and white, and she is Latinx, but I truthfully never got the sense that was the case with him but I don't challenge her viewpoint).
So neither of us have had contact with him in well over a year and a half, other than rarely seeing them in passing around town. Yesterday, I got a text from my ex-roommate inviting me to a bonfire and karaoke night like we used to do when we lived together. I should mention that for the past several months, I've been seeing a counselor who helped me rethink the whole situation between my ex-roommate and me. Basically, I think I overreacted, but I still haven't forgotten what happened between my ex-roommate and I, though I am not mad about anymore, and haven't been for awhile now.
So... I kind of want to go to the bonfire, mostly because at one point, my ex-roommate and our other roommates (and their s/o's) and I were all friends. I enjoyed living with them for the year and some months before my ex-roommate and I had our falling out. The thing is...knowing my best friend's experience with him, I feel like this would make me a massive hypocrite for going since I shared ill opinions of him during the time I was still holding onto my anger (before I started seeing a counselor). But I'm in a far different frame of mind, now. Holding onto grudges is exhausting, for one.
I feel like if my best friend found out I went to the bonfire, she would question my loyalty and possibly even sever ties immediately. I don't want that to happen because I absolutely adore her to death.
So, WIBTA?
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WIBTA if I take a new job after just two months at my current job that's going really well?
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Hey guys! So I just got my first full time job working in case management for mental health. It's going well, I think. My coworkers are all so kind and inclusive and my supervisors are all really accessible. I'm making good money and I think we're all progressing well. My only concern is that I'm not often making the day's productivity. We have to spend roughly. 4.5 hours of face time or phone time with clients a day, but due to the nature of mental health, a lot of people flake or cancel. Additionally, travel time doesn't count. My coworkers have told me a lot of people quit because they're not making productivity and I'm really worried about being written up.
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Anyway, before I got this job, I was in contact with a job that was directly in my field of study for my master's. They were very interested in me and said they were planning on creating a full time position for me because of how well the interview went. I wanted to accept, but it took them a long time to organize themselves and eventually they said that I should take another job because they didn't know when they'd get their act together.
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Just last night I got an email from them saying they've organized themselves and they'd like to talk to me about the job. I've discovered that with just 2.5 hours a week more (because my current job is 37.5 hours a week, and this potential job is 40 hours a week) I could actually afford a dollar per hour LOSS and still make more money in this new job. They haven't told me salary yet.
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WIBTA if I quit my job I've been at for two months for a job in my field and possibly the same or more money? It's going so well that I'm worried about ruining a good relationship with a big company. But I also need to do what's best for me. What do you think?
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AITA for talking and seeing two diferent girls on tinder?
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I went on dates with two diferent girls that i met on tinder, nothing happened we only talked and had a good time. AITA for still talking and arranging dates with both of them?
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AITA For Laughing at my Sister?
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One night my sister and I were having a convo about 3rd feminism. She eventually said "You don't know what you're talking about, you have no experience in the real world." So I laughed and responded with "It seems like you don't either, you crashed your car over the weekend." This is the part where she started crying and said that she almost died cause someone ran her off of the road. I didn't know that she almost died or whatever because no one decided to tell me the whole story and I was placed as the bad guy, like always. (Btw what does META mean? I'm newer to Reddit so idk most stuff)
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AITA for resenting the wife of my dad's friend for showing up and being super bubbly at his funeral?
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A few years back, my dad took his own life. I cried my eyes out the days before the funeral and just felt dead during the service. I choked through my eulogy, we buried his ashes, and everyone started talking amongst themselves. Nothing crazy, nothing big, just like he would've wanted.
The whole time, I just felt off. My mind was swimming, like I was drifting through a dream.
My dad had a buddy from work who couldn't make it for some reason, but his wife showed up.
I met them both when I was small, during a summer break where my dad took me to the oil field where he and his friend worked. His wife babysitted me while my dad and him were working.
She was...whatever. Her idea of hanging out was dragging me around and shopping for purses she couldn't afford. She took me to a movie and bowling once, but that was about it.
She showed up and offered me condolences, I thanked her and wandered off to just be by myself. Like I said, I was kind of in a daze.
I come back to the big circle of people comprised of my mom, my sister, my dad's siblings and the wife, and I arrive just in time to hear the wife talking to my family about the time she looked after me, and she follows up with "But you know what my favorite part was?" and proceeds to tell them about an extremely embarrassing thing I did while she looked after me.
Everyone else gave "yeahs" and chuckles, but I actually stumbled back from shock and embarrassment. I was so pissed I heard blood in my ears. Why was she gushing to my damn family about this during my dad's funeral, of all places?
Afterwards, the crowd dispersed and she cornered me again. She wanted to swap phone numbers "so we could hang out again sometime." She's a married 40-something who lives with her husband miles away from me, a 14 year old(at the time), and she wants to do this cutesy shit. The only reason we met in the first place is because my dad knew her husband and she was the only one there my dad knew would keep me in one piece.
She kept pestering me to copy down her number into my flip phone and at this point, I just want her to leave, but I was too much of a pushover for that, so I fumbled with my phone a little before I got frustrated and told her I'd memorize it. She has the balls to give me this amused smile like she knows I'm lying and just want to get out of this. Fuck her.
We all left soon after that and pretty soon I started coming undone and venting to my mom and sister in the car.
My sister calmed me down as best she could, but I just got this knot of anger in my chest that didn't go away for a long time.
So, am I the asshole for resenting her for the way she acted? The whole chain of events has just been bugging me lately, and I'd appreciate an outside opinion.
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AITA for re-interrupting (and then yelling at) my mother?
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Earlier today, I was talking to my mother about the remarkable difference in calories between two brands of frozen chicken, as well as the quantity of food you can have with lower consequence if you just choose healthier foods, and she interrupted me to say that she gets the point and I didn't have to list the facts on the package.
I butted back in, saying that she could have at least let me finish the sentence I was in, or politely interrupting with a preposition, instead of bulldozing loudly over my sentence.
Before I could finish, she started screaming "But, But, But, But..." over me because I began my sentence with the word but before calmy re-adressing my sentence because I did not believe that she actually received the message that I was saying.
This angered me, so I started yelling at her saying that she should have been more polite in interrupting me if she was going to barge in during my sentence.
This resulted in a long screaming match, where my mother ended up shouting things like "Adults don't wait for others to speak", "That's not how adults talk, adults get the point and move on", as well as "You were being boring, so there was no point in listening.
Thinking angrily instead of rationally, I decided to storm off before I did something I'd regret (I have a past of punching and throwing things out of anger in a blind rage with little recollection of my thought process).
For context, I'm 19 and visiting home from college for the holidays.
Am I the asshole? Should I have just let her rudely interrupt my "boring point"?
TL;DR: Mother rudely interrupted myself and started a loud argument about adult conversation.
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AITA for kicking my mom off my baby's photo stream for oversharing on Facebook?
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I have a 6 month old baby and have always withheld her images from social media- aside from an initial announcement on Facebook looking like basically every newborn out there.
In order for my family and close friends to keep up with her, we created a shared, private photostream.
My mom is constantly posting pics of my niece and nephews on Facebook and IG. She gets the images from the photostream that my brother set up. I asked my mother to never share a picture of my daughter on her social media accounts. Aside from my desire for privacy, her FB account has been hacked multiple times and she has questionable friends- some are clearly robots.
She gave me flack for this request, saying it was not a big deal, I am being over reactive, etc. I held my ground and she relented.
I rarely check Facebook, but from time to time I like to see what old friends are up to. So I logged on and saw a comment someone made on a post belonging to someone with my mom’s name. It turns out she has an alt account, and it’s full of pictures of my baby- taken directly from our photo stream, others I have never seen that she snapped with her phone. I checked her friend list (of course it was public and not secure at all) and saw a bunch of people that I don’t know, with one or two we share as friends (how I found the account). She made this account to share pictures of my baby with people not on my photo stream.
I was livid. I called her and told her to deactivate the account. She refused. We got into a heated argument and she said the account was her property, and by me putting photos on the shared stream, I was putting them out there for her to do whatever she wants with them. I was blown away by the lack of respect. she has an addiction- sharing photos of her grandkids, and gives no damns about respect toward me or my daughters privacy.
So, I kicked her off the photostream. It’s been two weeks, and we haven’t talked since. I cannot check her alt account to see if she’s still blasting pics of my kid- she since made it private (at least there is that).
I have looked back at my moms post history and she is a text-book over sharer. At one point she posted pictures of my niece and nephew’s bare asses...I called her out on it, I got the whole lecture about being a prude, but she eventually took it down. Various things like that made me set down the rules to being with.
It’s mostly my family that is siding with my mom, and their opinions matter. They think it’s cruel I am “withholding the opportunity” for my mom to see her granddaughter grow up.
It’s worth mentioning she lives 45 minutes away and can come visit anytime, but she hasn’t since our blow out.
So, am I the asshole?
Tl;dr: I won’t share photos of my baby with my mom because she went behind my back and put them on social media.
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AITA for trying to get my mom to leave my dad?
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REPOST: (Last post had mentions of stuff that I guess wasn't 'sub appropriate')
Over the last five years or so my father has been getting progressively worse in the way he treats my brother and I. However he has been treating my mom like shit since she started working again. He constantly degrades her to my brother and I when she isn't home, he talks about her to family, and constantly puts down her appearance and life choices if he doesn't personally agree with them.
My mother is has lost nearly thirty pounds since she began working and is now sitting at about 90 to 100 pounds. She's stopped eating and just gets up to work. Now, we had a conversation not too long ago about how she was depressed and contemplating some pretty messed up things. I blankly told her that my brother and I don't even really like our father and that she should just leave him because even though she isn't my favorite person all the time, she doesn't deserve to be treated like absolute shit everyday after a 10 hour work day. She promised me that she would consider it and that if he doesn't stop smoking, drinking, and actually find a job she will leave him.
My cousin who was over at the time had been listening in and told me that I needed to stay out of my parent's business and that I had no right to try and break their marriage up.
So Reddit, AITA for wanting my mom to drop my dad once and for all?
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AITA for trying to help a friend?
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The title is very weird but please listen to my story. In the last school year some girl joined the semester half way through let’s call her Dany. Well Dany was a smart and very sweet girl and a goody-two-shoes at heart. But when the school year ended all of her friends left. And there was only one more person with who she could talk to introducing Alice, well Alice is a very difficult person to describe because her personality is every personality ever she can be cruel, rude, mad, but she call also be sweet, and sometimes understandable. So Dany has no one to talk to so she talked to her. And they became friends! Which in my eyes is all well and good. But I started to fall in love with Dany so I started to talk to her more via texting and one thing left to an other and she said “I just don’t know (me) I just feel like I have change I don’t do things because I like them I do them because I want attention” when I saw this I got very worry as any one would so I went to Alice to talk about this and Alice had a rant about how she is such a bad friend. So I told her to do what she thought was right. And she thought that by that I meant to stop being friends with her. So Alice goes to Dany to tell her that she wants to stop being friends. But one thing left to another and now Alice is blaming me that I wanted to break their relationship because I loved Dany and wanted her all to myself. And now Alice is making false claims on how I said that they should break up and I can’t tell if I did something wrong did I?
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AITA for doing a project on my own and not showing up to the presentation?
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So this happened about a year ago, and I just kind of started thinking about it.
In a class I had there was a huge (50% of our grade) project that we were assigned in the beginning of the year and had until about the end to finish it. We had the choice to work alone or in groups of 2 or 3. I had two friends in that class and they both immediately looked at me and wanted to be a group of three. I wasn't expecting them to just let me do all the work, especially since they both love the subject so much and seemed very excited about the project. One of them even pulled up a good amount of potential sources on the first day.
Then days go by and nothing gets done. Days turn into weeks and weeks turn into months and we are basically left with 3 weeks to finish this entire project. At that point only like 10% of it was done. I procrastinated too up until here. I realized this needed to be done asap, so I basically spent those 3 weeks finishing the entire project by myself. I even had to take some days off school to sit and work on it all day since we were so behind. If I had gotten help we honestly could have finished it ahead of time but I was working on it up until the very last minute.
One of my partners came over a couple times near the end just to help assemble the presentation, which was nice, and he said he was sorry for not showing up to help do the research. On the other hand, my other partner just got pissed off at me when I expressed I was upset I did the whole thing on my own, and she kept claiming she did a lot of work and bringing up how she gave me a bunch of sources (they were actually just sources found by searching a keyword, I still had to look through all of them and make sure they were relevant and credible, then annotate the ones that were).
We had to present this project later and I actually had plans ahead of time (before we even knew the presentation date) to be out of town with family on the day of the presentation. I COULD have cancelled the plans, but I was so pissed about how my partner was acting I decided not to. The teacher even said not showing up wouldnt affect your grade as long as at least one person from your group was there and both my other partners were there. I feel bad that they did the presentation on their own, but in the end we got like a 98% on the project and the only place we lost points was the presentation, and when we got the feedback it was all about how obvious it was that the people presenting didnt know what exactly they were talking about.
I'm still friends with the one partner that helped me a bit near the end but the other one just stopped talking to me and has been telling everyone about how horrible I am for not showing up, but leaving out that I made the entire project. so AITA??
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AITA for making my co-workers work ridiculous hours so that I can finish my education
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I am currently 17 and in my final year of A-levels (UK)
I have a part-time job at subway where we are severely understaffed, 3 full time workers and 1 part time, bearing in mind we are open 7am till 9pm.
My boss has been scheduling me ridiculous hours since a few people have left to the point where this week I was scheduled 32 hours on top of my 40 hour week at school plus 20 hours of revision and homework (I am currently doing mocks and coursework which I am very behind on)
I have told him that from now on I only want shifts on a Friday and Saturday, maximum of about 10 hours, which of course means people thst are already doing ridiculous hours must now cover for me.
AITA for forcing my colleagues to do 50+ hours so that I can have an easier time studying?
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AITA for trying to help someone go into the correct restroom?
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I was at Busch Gardens in Florida and I saw a boy about 9 or 10 and he was about to go into the women’s room. I said hey little man and he turned around so I knew for sure he was a boy. I said that’s the women’s room there and that one is the men’s room. He went to his mom on the bench outside the restroom and said I told him that was the women’s bathroom. She yelled at me and said her son could go into whichever bathroom he wanted and that I can’t tell him what to do. I told her I just was trying to help him and she said that he can do whatever he wants and I need to mind my own business. Am I the asshole?
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AITA for cutting the person who raised me out of my life?
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My sister raised me. My mom was very neglectful and abusive when my sister and I lived with her, so my sister, who we'll call A, retty much raised me.
In the past 1 and a half, maybe 2 years she has changed greatly. Aside from her fucking up her life, she has encouraged me, at then 13 year old, to smoke weed, took me to where she smoked and got me second hand high on several occasions, abandons me constantly for her friends when we do get the chance to hang out, and has thrown a water bottle at me causing bruising.Alongside this, A has done a fuck ton of other things that would deem her as a bad influence.
Anyway, early tonight I was texting A when I decided to cut off all contact with her, due to the reasons you see above and so many more. Was I right to cut her out? After all, she did raise me and was the one I suffered through abuse with for years. Should I try getting her back in my life, or was I right to just stop talking to her?
In case any of you were wondering: I am now 14, and A is 15, but borderline 16.
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WIBTA if I ask my boyfriend for gas money?
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Last Friday I flew to another state and was there until Wednesday night. My bf’s car broke down last Saturday and he’s been driving my truck up until today (he bought a new car today). I filled up my tank before I left, but my bf gave me back my truck with a close to empty tank. WIBTA if I ask for compensation for all the gas he used? I feel like it would be courteous because i did him a big favor by allowing him to drive my vehicle for a week, but maybe I should let it slide? Idk...it’s an 18gal tank and gas ain’t cheap.
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AITA for being salty about who my S/O interacts with?
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I got another one for ya
​
So for the 4+ years my lady companion and I have been together, we've had an underlying issue. Or rather, *I've* had an underlying issue as I've only brought it up very few times.
I **feel** like she goes out of her way to interact with other dudes (she has a type, and I'm not that *type* anymore, though she still loves me to pieces because that's just how it is) just to get me jealous. That might not be the case, but hear me out.
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We work at the same place, but in different.... departments I guess. Another guy that works in another department has been interacting with her for a while. Their first interaction was her showing him a meme or something even though they've never spoken before that, to my knowledge. He makes jewelry and sells it online, so he agreed to make her a necklace. I hate that necklace because I'm a jealous dick, but obviously, I don't express my jealousy of them two to her, because she might just be trying to make friends, I dunno.
He didn't know we were together for the first couple months they've been talking. So he messaged her one day while her and I were watching TV and asked if he can come "chill", and I believe she responded with something about "I'm with with my boyfriend" and I'm not sure where the convo went from there.
A couple days, maybe a week ago she told me he's making her a **ring**. A little background as to why this bothers me; I bought her a ring that says "Zelda" years ago and I've worn one that says "Link" for just as long. We've had to get replacements, but that's besides the point. She stopped wearing her ring maybe a year or two ago because she wasn't too into rings ***apparently.***
So he's making her a moonstone ring and I know she'll wear it everywhere she goes as she does the necklace. OH! I also bought her a moonstone necklace, that she only wore for two days after I bought it. I get that, I'm not a necklace person myself but you get the point.
She talks super highly of him because of his skills, but doesn't even show a shred of interest in my hobbies or things I'm extremely passionate about. I'm not just saying that to make her sound rude or anything, I've genuinely tried showing her songs I've written or mastered and she just acts very uninterested with "mm-hm"'s and "neat". It breaks me but doesn't get to me too badly.
She talks about him and what he does to her parents, my parents, or anybody that'll listen. She's not like "he's so hot, he's so funny", she just talks about his skills and how talented he is.
​
Wow this is worded horribly, but bear with me.
​
TL;DR— **Am I the asshole for being salty about my girlfriend taking an interest in some other guys hobbies more than mine? Am I the asshole for not being okay with how they interact?**
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AITA for berating my mother for not having a college degree?
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This happened years ago when I was like 15 years (currently M/22).
My mother was picking on me for not doing great on an exam. I totally flipped and told her that at least I'm doing better than her academically (I graduated first place at my school) while she didn't even go to college.
She got all sad, started crying and told me that it was unfair that I was being mean to her while I never was mean to my bullies.
Some context: My mother is the typical narcissistic mother you usually see on r/raisedbynarcissists. I fucking hate that woman for treating me like shit literally my whole life, but at the same time I feel like a hypocrite since she gives me food and a place to live.
A few hours ago we were talking about christmas, she then started saying that she felt kind of sick and I told her that it could be because she stays 10 hours a day playing candy crush on her cellphone and it was not healthy and that could be causing her the headache. She answered back telling me to shut up and that I was an annoying piece of shit and if I kept talking she would kick me out of the house...
Then I went back to my room silently like always, and started thinking about awful things related to her and this memory showed up.
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AITA because I want to play Cards Against Humanity without having to deal with children’s problems every few minutes?
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Recently my wife and I went over to a neighbors house to play Cards Against Humanity. They have a son that is around the same age as our boys. The boys do enjoy playing together and get along well. Their son is an only child and does enjoy playing with our boys. The boys went and played in the playroom while the adults sat at the table and played cards and had some adult beverages. Every once in awhile one kid would come over complaining “so and so isn’t sharing” or some other problem. It was getting late for the kids and they started to fight more than play so we ended up leaving in the middle of the game. Now, I love my children and I do enjoy spending time with them, but sometimes I wouldn’t mind just having some adult time and playing cards and not have to stop every few minutes to deal with some issue. I have brought it up to my wife that we should just go over and play cards without the kids and leave them with her mom for a bit or maybe go after they are asleep and that way grandma doesn’t have to watch them but is there if they wake up. I always seem to get some pushback on this idea. She will say, “well we had them they’re our responsibility”, and she acts like I just want to pawn them off every chance I get. Which makes me kinda feel like an asshole. I just would like to have some “adult” time. She never seems to think that’s a good idea and just kinda scoffs at my suggestion. So am I the asshole because I want to play cards and not bring the kids over even if they have a kid to play with them?
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AITA for getting my girlfriend a gym membership for her birthday?
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My girlfriend has put on some weight over the winter. I’d say at least 30lbs. Probably more. She’s always mentioning it and talks about how she needs to join a gym. So on her birthday I got her a year at Gold’s gym.
It didn’t go over well. She said that it’s an insult. That she know she’s gained weight and doesn’t need me to tell her about it. I have been EXTREMELY careful not to mention her weight gain. I wasn’t trying to tell her she’s fat, I got it for her because she’s said multiple times that she really needs to join a gym.
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AITA for cutting my friend off because she's homophobic
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Hi, this is actually my first post on reddit after lurking for so long, i apologize im on mobile rn so the formating isn't the best. im just really frustrated and idk if im wrong
So i met this girl in middleschool i'll call her jd (her initials) we were pretty great friends for a few years and then we started to drift away. Nothing major but we just weren't into the same stuff anymore and we still hung out as a friend group. From my point of view there was no hard feelings we just weren't as close. (i used to have feelings for her a bit back but that doesn't matter in this context)
I came out to one of our mutual friends as queer (im pan but idk back then) and she took it ok.She promised she won't tell anyone but told a bunch of people (i live in Serbia and most people are very conservative) and jd ended up being one of them.
After that jd started acting weird around me and would occasionally cancel plans if she knew i was coming. I thought she just felt weird about me liking girls and i let it go. Fast forward a few moths she actually moved to a different city.
I found out later by the friend i came out to that jd was talking shit with a bunch of our friends in a group chat I WAS IN. She was saying how she's disgusted by lesbian relationships and she'd disown her child if they were gay, but also said that 2 men in a relationship is hot.
ofc i was mad but there's even more tea
My friend messaged jd privately to tell her she was being an asshole and jd told her how me liking girls is just a phase and that i'll find a boyfriend soon.
Now nothing annoys me more than that and i emmidiately cut off all contact.
My friend is saying that im mad at jd for a stupid reason, and is saying im a huge dick bc jd wants to be friends again (without apologizing ofc) and idk if she's right.
So reddit AITA?
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AITA for not telling my siblings before my baby had a minor medical procedure?
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I have a child that needed a minor outpatient surgery to correct an issue they've had since birth. My husband and I let our parents and bosses know for practical reasons, but didn't otherwise announce the surgery.
After we were home I posted an update on our private family group page letting everyone know the procedure was done and went well. The page is intended to share information with immediate family so everyone gets the same news at the same time.
One of my siblings posted a passive aggressive comment about not knowing about the surgery beforehand and immediately started texted our parent about how they should have gotten a text telling them ahead of time and they shouldn't have learned about the procedure on social media. They even said "good thing (baby) didn't die."
AITA? I am very low contact with this sibling due to tension that began when I had my first child because sibling oversteps boundaries constantly. Plus we didnt even tell our older child until afterward to avoid causing panic or anxiety.
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"description": "not wanting to repeatedly be asked when I'm going to have a baby",
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AITA for not wanting to repeatedly be asked when I’m going to have a baby?
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My husband and I got married in August at the JOP. My MIL, GMIL and parents were there. 10 minutes after the ceremony my stepdad asked when we were going to have a baby. Since then, he has brought it up every time we are around him, more so when other people are around. I think he’s looking for their validation or trying to get a conversation going about it. The first few times he asked, I would reply with something like, “Not any time soon,” or “It’s going to be a while.” I figured this was clear enough to satisfy him or would at least make him aware that this wasn’t something we were ready to discuss. My mom is usually quiet and doesn’t say anything when he does this.
Over the last few months he has gone so far as to share things on FB about a new grandchild. Every time he does, I ask him to remove the post because 1. It’s not his business to put out there and 2. Why does anyone else on FB care? I have fielded pregnancy questions from several family members after he does this. He removed one of the posts.
My parents, my sister and her husband were at our house for dinner last week. My stepdad was talking to my husband, and I overheard just the end of the conversation. My husband pretended not to hear him to avoid even talking about it. My stepdad repeated himself, but loud enough that everyone heard him. He told my husband he was losing faith in us that we would ever give them a baby.
The way he said it made me feel like he thinks we are obligated to provide him a grandchild. It made me angry so I told him that if and when we have a child is none of his business. He told me to shut up, that he was joking. I said that he was not joking because of the frequency of him bringing it up every time we see him. I mentioned the FB posts he has made that he wouldn’t take down after I asked him to. I told him it made me uncomfortable being asked about it and that maybe we would not be able to have children and every time he brings it up, it hurts my feelings. I said he doesn’t take into consideration a number of factors that go into having a child, and I would appreciate it if he would stop talking about it until we decide we want to talk about it.
Eventually he told me I wasn’t allowed to speak to him that way, and he and my mom left. I apologized to my mom the next day for how I reacted because I know I didn’t need to yell, but not for why I was upset. I told her I wasn’t trying to put her in an awkward position. She responded by telling me how disappointed she is in me and that I crossed a line by speaking to him that way. I told her I am not a child any longer and if I don’t want to talk to them about something personal my husband and I are going through, I don’t think I should have to.
TL;DR my stepdad continually asks when we’re going to have a baby to the point it’s making us uncomfortable. I yelled at him and now my mom is mad at me.
AITA?
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WIBTA if I finessed the best dorm room for next year?
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Some background: At my college, students must stay on campus for their first 3 years and have the option to move off for senior year. Also, almost everyone stays in the dorm for all years they live on campus. I am a current freshman applying for housing next year.
​
So here's my dilemma: I have ulcerative colitis, an auto-immune disease that affects my colon and other pooping aspects of my life. There is exactly one room with a bathroom in it in my dorm. The seniors who stay on campus have priority in picking this room. Would I be an asshole if I used my condition to get picking priority and essentially finesse the best room?
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TL;DR: I have a condition that could allow me to take the best room in my dorm that seniors usually get. WIBTA if I used my condition to get the room?
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AITA for taking what I wanted from 7/11 when no one was there to ring me up?
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The title pretty much sums it up. I was very hung over, so I went to seven eleven to get some arizona iced tea (two because I was feeling extra thirsty) so I walk in there, grab my teas and go to the register and there is nobody there. I knocked on the counter several times, went to the little door where the employees will hang out and restock the fridges and knocked on that door but still got no answers. Waited a few more minutes and then left, so I took my arizonas and went home. What do you guys think?
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AITA For reporting a parking attendant?
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I was in LA visiting a friend and was picking him up from work. He gave me the address and as I turned into the driveway I realized it was a parking garage. I took a ticket so the gate opened and parked in a visitor spot for a few minutes until my friend came down and got in the car. I went to leave the parking gate and handed the attendant my ticket. I told her I had only been there for a minute to pick up my friend and asked if I had to pay. She said yes and pointed to a sign that said "$1 minimum per entry". I paid her $1 in cash, she opened the gate and we left.
My friend and I went to dinner and he had to go back to the office. He didn't have the access card to get him through the front door after hours, only through the elevator so we had to go back into the parking garage. My friend gave me a dollar because I was going to have to go through the gate again. I pulled through the gate with the dollar already in my hand and saw it was the same parking attendant. I waved at her with the dollar, showing her I had the money to pay again.
My friend got out and as I turn around I see the attendant is leaving the parking booth, with the gate closed. I pull up to the gate and wait about 10 minutes. She comes back with her manager/supervisor. The supervisor leans into my window and says "Apparently you've been pulling in and out of here all day, it's an established pattern and you can't do that."
I told her I had been there once to pick up my friend and was back now to drop them off. She said, "Yeah but you were told you couldn't do that without paying. And you didn't so you can't do that." I am still HOLDING THE DOLLAR. I pointed to the initial security guard who was standing behind her and said, "She told you I didn't pay? I paid a dollar the first time and I'm obviously holding one now."
The supervisor turns around and begins talking to the attendant. I said "Excuse me? What is she saying I didn't do? Is she saying I didn't pay? Excuse me?" She refuses to look at me and turns around after a few minutes and says, "You've been pulling in and out all day so how about we drop the attitude?"
I repeat AGAIN, I have been here twice, once to pick up my friend and now to drop them off. I said "Did she say I didn't pay?" And the supervisor said, "She gave you a break and you came back here and you can't do that?" "Did she say I didn't pay?" "You can't do that." "Did she say I refused to pay?" "You can't do turn arounds all day."
Just back and forth with no answer. I finally say, "Look maybe she told you she didn't charge me the first time but she did. I paid a dollar. I am obviously HOLDING A DOLLAR NOW so I'm ready to pay again. Once I picked my friend up, there was no way to get them back in the building without coming through here. I have pulled through the gate twice. I was told I could not enter without paying, not that I could not enter. So can you take my dollar and LET ME LEAVE?"
The supervisor takes the dollar, leans into my car and says "You can't come back here." and then opens the gate.
I have no idea what the issue was the attendant had that she was reporting. If she pocketed the dollar, why would she call attention to it? If I'm willing to pay each time, why the hell is it an issue if I pull in and out all day?
I told my friend who worked in the building about it and they reported it to building security and was notified that the attendant has been 'given a strike'.
AITA for reporting an attendant over a $2 parking fee that I ended up paying?
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AITA for supposedly using a well-known podcast as inspiration for a pet project of mine?
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Summer of 2017 I started listening to Welcome to Night Vale since I traveled a lot. I loved the spooky, weird, and strange nature of it. I loved how it took the supernatural and made it seem like a mundane part of life. I loved the format, a community radio station. Since I lived in a desert town in New Mexico for a few years, I could relate to it.
Also during that summer, maybe a couple months after I started binging WTNV, I wrote a sarcastic and witty post on my hometown’s (Florida, not New Mexico) Facebook page after some funny things happened (dude was arrested for being naked at a kid’s splash pad, a couple were caught having sex behind the McDonald’s Dumpster, and brief power outages that no one could explain). It was, in my mind, a real life episode of WTNV. The post was an absolute hit. Everyone loved it and asked for me to write weekly reviews of everything that happens in town. Its a humor bit I write every Sunday night. Mostly make fun of the weird shit that happens, or play on the repeated complaints people make on Facebook about our town. It’s still going strong even to today. I’m about 14 weeks from celebrating my 100th post, and my two year anniversary is coming up in June as well.
Every now and then I have comments saying how much my format reminds them of Welcome to Night Vale, to which I will reply that the podcast was my initial inspiration for my work in the beginning, but I strive to make it unique, to make it mine, to make it special to my hometown. I do have all my posts saved up in a compilation. I don’t plan on actually publishing it for monetary gain, so I’m not pushing on copyright infringement with many other things (posts mention certain businesses and people).
However, last night I got the comment that I AM infringing on copyright, and that I need to stop posting. It was one comment, one hater, which I do get every now and then. When it comes to usual haters I just ignore them. More often than not my supporters will take care of them for me. Like my Christmas special when I wrote The 12 Day of Christmas (but with things only my hometown will get). One comment said I need to move if I’m so negative about the town. Sadly, my being negative is a literal joke on all the people who post negative complaints all the freaking time. I’m just making fun of them. I love my (Florida) town. I moved away for 5 years and learned to love it again when I moved back.
But this one person has been consistently negative towards me in the last few weeks, often saying I’m not funny, annoying, and unoriginal (claiming I’m stealing Night Vale’s bit). Like I said, I don’t plan on making my weekly bit into a real thing. I do plan on writing a novelized version soon with original characters and plot, things that reference the town itself. Other than that, I strive to be original and creative, but mostly it’s just to have fun. It’s strengthened my ability as an aspiring writer, and the support I get is a total confidence boost I needed.
Personally, I don’t see how I’m an asshole, but I just wanted to ask just in case.
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AITA for trying to jump in on a conversation?
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So, I’m pretty socially awkward and I have a really hard time reading social situations, just thought id preface this with that.
I’m a freshman in college and I’ve been trying to reach out and meet new people, make friends and whatnot. About a month ago my school had this involvement fair where all the clubs could go and recruit, and I saw that there was quidditch table. It looked really cool, I’m a huge fan of Harry Potter and I’ve been looking for ways to be more active and the people at the table seemed really cool, so I signed up.
The first meeting was like a week later at the soccer fields, and when I got there I was one of only three people there. I went and sat down on one of the bleachers and got ready to introduce myself but the other two seemed to be kinda locked in what looked like a serious convo so I didn’t. When more people started to come, the two people stood up and started to run the meeting, so they were the organizers. After a while we started doing stretches and a few exercises, and afterwards there was like a ten minute break.
At this point pretty much everyone seemed to either already know one another or they just hit it off right away, so I started to kinda freak out bc I hadn’t talked to a single person the entire time. There was this group of like five or six people standing around talking, and I kinda walked over and stood in the same general area. They were talking about Skyrim and a few other games, and I thought this was my chance to get in on the conversation so I said, “Skyrim is like my favorite game” or something like that. And they all went like SILENT and just stared at me. I don’t know if I committed some kind of social faux pas or what but they seemed really offended that I interrupted their convo.
Naturally I just kinda awkwardly apologized and went about the rest of the practice as normal. From that point on I still tried to get in on conversation but the same thing would happen every time. Even in the group chat, everyone would just kinda ignore my messages. Eventually I just stopped coming to meetings bc, what was the point? I need to know though AITA for trying to jump in on that conversation?
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AITA for arguing over a window
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So today, my roommate felt that it was necessary to open the window while it is 7 degrees Fahrenheit outside. I said it was already cold and that I'm not having the window open when its 7 degrees outside. He said that it was so hot in our room that his ears were burning and that it was at least 82 degrees. He went to open the window and I raised my voice and said that I am not having 7 degree air enter our room, and that if he felt feel like he was hot, he needs change out of his long sleeve clothing. I stopped him from opening the window, and we begrudgingly agreed to open the window about a centimeter.
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Afterwards, he began sarcastically remarking about how sorry he was that he disagreed with me. Example sentence:
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"I'm so sorry I disagreed with such a godly man. You're clearly always right, I'm so sorry."
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I then got angry and said he was drunk if he thought it was hot in here, reminded him that nobody else thinks it's hot, and said he should go to the doctor for a fever. It was seven fucking degrees outside and there was no way in hell that window was opening more than a crack.
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He then remained angry for about 20 minutes, constantly reminding me about how salty and angry I was about it (I already got over it considering that the window was hardly open, I have no idea what he was talking about).
I told him that he was acting like a victim and that he should grow up. I reminded him that it was 7 degrees outside and that I wasn't having the window opened.
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To top it off, he afterwards asked me if I was going to stab him at night, and that it seemed like something I would do.
In the past, I've gotten slightly physical (a push) when he, for the 9th time that day, went to open the blinds that let the sunlight glare on my computer screen, I lost patience with him wanting to sacrifice the ability for me to use my computer because our room's ceiling light wasn't good enough for him.
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Afterwards, a friend came into my room asking for the temperature outside, and I said:
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"It's seven degrees outside. Ya wanna know how I know? Cause \[Roommate\] wanted to open the fucking window."
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AITA?
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AITA for coming off as possibly annoying for questioning my friend’s wellbeing?
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Today at school, i could sense my friend was in a pissy mood. We agreed couple months back if she ever felt bad and didn’t want to to talk to me, all she had to say was “i don’t want to talk to you right now” or “i’m in a bad mood”.
Anyways, I asked her to see what was wrong with her, if anything was wrong. As we were walking, she said “no” coldly. I didn’t believe it so i asked her “are you sure?”. She then said in a very bold voice, without looking at me “i’m fine”, and completely droned past me.
Now the problem is, I am angry because I actually went out of my way to give a damn about her situation (if she was in one) more than ALL of her friends, and i know this fact. But the paradox is, I feel angry but i am not sure if i have any right to because i don’t know if i insisted on knowing what was wrong with her, assumed there was something wrong in the first place or just was annoying.
I am probably sounding like a triggered liberal, but i really love and care for this friend’s well being.
Thanks for taking the time to read.
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AITA for telling my friend how I honestly feel?
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Let me start off by saying that most of my friends are my coworkers and I have learned why that can be toxic. But recently, my group of friends and I went out bowling. Now, there is this one "friend" that I decided to stop talking to after explaining to her that I don't care for the way she treats me. I explained it once and she apologized but continued to do it. Then, I stopped communication with her. We're both adults, I'm not going to beg for your respect and you shouldn't have to be told how to treat people. Now when we were bowling, she and my other friend were acting kinda shitty. They are those "can't handle at my worst, don't deserve me at my best." But one of them is actually tolerable. And after they were acting shitty and making people uncomfortable, I went up to her and explained how she made me feel and that it made me not want to talk to her anymore. She explained that she could tell that she was playing up her personality and apologized and has since toned it down. But the other girl started talking about me and how I always bring up drama and can never just let things go. Personally, I feel if you have a problem with someone, you should privately discuss it and then see where the situation goes from there. There's nothing wrong with stating your feelings. Am I starting drama a lot and just not seeing it?
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AITA for not wanting to spend time with my youngest brother?
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TL;DR: I can't deal with my youngest sibling and prefer not to be around him
I (young adult male) am currently living in with my parents and school-aged siblings. The youngest is in elementary school. We'll call him Charlie.
Charlie was an unexpected addition to our family towards the beginning of the decade. I should note that the sibling before him was born *nine* years prior. This represents a significant age gap and makes it hard for any of us to relate to a kid his age.
Charlie acts out. Constantly. He's an unreasonably picky eater, has to constantly be told to do things like knock on doors or not stand on the furniture because he "forgets," and in general just has no respect for other people or their personal space. I think this is mostly due to a lack of discipline and my parents being too old, weary and busy to properly raise him, but that's another story.
I should make it clear that I don't go out of my way to abuse or be mean to him. It's just that being around him at all is really hard on my anxiety. Hell, just being in an office all day wears me out. When I come home, all I really want to do is be in my room, alone. I used to be able to do things like sit down and eat dinner with my family, something which I'm no longer willing to do because all of our dinner situations are either Charlie wanting to leave the table and go watch TV or having to be coerced into eating his food. That is, if Mom or Dad didn't just take extra time to make him his own meal.
Thing is, I used to try to be more active about setting an example for Charlie. I would try to keep him from watching/playing violent games or viewing explicit Youtube videos. Of course, being in a shared home, I usually don't get the final say in any of those things. Any attempts to discipline him (as in, telling him to stop or pulling him away) will just result in my parents scolding me in front of everyone. It's just taken so much out of me, and I don't think it's worth the hassle anymore.
I'll still do things like make him food or babysit him if I'm asked to. That's fair enough, since I'm still living in the family home. I do those things out of duty to my parents. But outside of that, I just prefer not to have anything do with Charlie. I'm not mentally equipped for dealing with him and I think it's best for both of us if I keep my distance. I feel bad because part of me feels it's the responsibility of me as an older sibling to try to have a positive influence on him. On the other hand, I never chose for him to be born into the family. I'm fourteen years older than him and I can't relate to him at all. I also feel that my parents aren't doing their part in raising him properly, especially since they brought him into the world in the first place. AITA?
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AITA for being upset that my in-law’s moved without saying bye to us
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About 3 weeks ago, my in-laws moved to another state (about a 12 hour drive) and didn’t say goodbye to my husband or kids before they left. I honestly don’t care if they say bye to me personally, but I’m upset and angry my husband and kids didn’t get a goodbye from them before they left. I feel like once my oldest two figure out they are gone already, they will be upset and confused. The morning I thought they were moving, I saw a post on fb that they left the day before. No call or text from my in laws who have lived 15 minutes away from us for almost 5 years and have been a big part of our lives. My mother in law will be back sporadically to check on her mlm business and my husband thinks that why they didn’t say bye.
My husband thinks I’m being petty and need to let it go, even though he was initially upset over it as well. I think it’s a pretty big dick move to leave and not say bye to your son and grandkids and I’m ready to limit contact with them.
AITA for being upset about this?
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AITA for stepping in between my gf's best friend and a stranger?
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This happened a while ago, there was an event in my city and my girlfriend and me went there with some friends. After a while we split up into two groups, kinda like a girls and boys group.
After an hour we saw that my girlfriends best friend was dancing with a stranger and her boyfriend was next to me, feeling a bit sad of course. I got very furious why noone of the girls stepped between them. I asked her boyfriend if this is ok for him and he was like 'yeah its fine' but you could hear the sadness in his voice. So I took things in my own hands and went to his gf and told her that this is not ok, even when her bf is at the same event. She got angry of course and shoutet at me, telling me to mind my own business. After that my gf went to me and said that I ruined her night because of that. My friends told me that I did the right thing, but I am not sure, because it's not my relationship. What's your opinion?
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WIBTA If I corrected my boss?
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He's the owner of a graphic design and marketing office and sometimes he puts out information to his designers that's not correct. For instance, he believes that a pixel is a set unit of measurement rather than changing in size depending on screen dimensions. He also believes that he needs to design internet graphics in 300dpi because this will make them sharper than 72dpi. So he'll tell us, for instance, to design something at 1080x1920, 300dpi.
Would I be the asshole for correcting him on these small bits of incorrect information? Or would it help him?
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AITA for confronting my (now former) best friend?
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I used to have this best friend, we'll call her Mary, that I met, while attending a boarding school for just one year. She was my first roommate, and we quickly became very close to each other, always hung out and had a lot of fun. The day we met, we basically knew pretty much every important detail that had to be said about ourselves within an hour or so, and I had never felt such a strong connection with any other friend I had ever had. We were both very depressive at the time, but it was especially rough for her, because of some problems with her family. I would often try to support her as much as I possibly could with the surplus of energy I had, as well as sitting up all night to comfort her, when she needed me. Whenever she was mad at me, I would try to make it up to her and deal with it, so we would avoid any kind of conflict. Basically, I wanted to please her in every way, since she meant a lot to me.
As a minimum, you could study at the boarding school for one year, while the maximum amount of years you could attend the school was 3 years. Though I had plans about attending the school for two years, instead of just one, I got talked into just getting a youth education, while she decided to stick around for another year. During that year, she was really depressed, felt lonely without me there, as well as feeling like an outcast. When I went to visit her at the school, I would often see her with new cuts on her arm, which made me feel really bad about myself, since I felt like I had let her down, though I stayed in contact through social media. I don't know, if any of that has got to do with what happened later on. If so, that is taken into account.
A youth education here usually takes between 2-3 years, and when I started my 3rd year, she was in her 1st year, we had both made new friends during the time we had spent apart, and she seemed a little annoyed that I had gotten close with another girl, we'll call her Diana, but never mentioned anything about it (until later, when we had a fight). (At this point in time, I had a boyfriend, who wasn't very faithful to me, and since we were close, I felt like I could tell her everything and get help from her, just like I used to help her. Him being unfaithful made me very jealous. This will play a role later on, since it ended up being used against me).
Though I had school, boyfriend, new friends etc., I wanted to spend more time with her again, so therefore I asked her, if she would like to meet up more, do something, have a sleepover or whatever came to my mind, and we would often make plans. I would look forward to them, only for her to cancel them last minute. At first, I didn't mind, but one day, when she cancelled one of our plans, I saw that she was at the cinema instead with one of her new friends (I looked at her My Story on Snapchat). When she had cancelled the plan, she told me that something else had come up, so I felt hurt, when I saw that she was with another friend, we'll call her Anne. I've been raised with the ideas that, if you have two plans on the same day, you go to the one, which you got invited to first, so that might've sparked my reaction as well. I understand that she has the right to pick, which person she wants to spend her time with, though.
The next day, I decided to text her about what I had seen and told her that I felt like I had been replaced, how I felt pushed away, which she told me was absolute nonsense.
As I tried to argue my case, she eventually stopped responded, but her friend, Anne, decided to text me something in style of: "You may push your boyfriend around and treat him however you want, but you can't treat Mary however you want. She's allowed to have other friends than you.", which made me feel backstabbed, since I didn't expect Mary to tell Anne about my personal problems and framing me. I expressed myself to her as well, and made it clear to the both of them that of course she is allowed to have other friends, but the problem was that she had been cancelling plans with me to be with Anne instead. Besides that I told Anne that it was a low blow to bring my relationship into it all, before blocking her. It ended out with a long discussion between Mary and I, and she wouldn't talk to me for a long time, though I apologized to her several times, so in the end I decided to just let her be. Even though we are no longer in contact, I still feel like she was in the wrong, so I've been wondering about it.
TL,DR: (Former) best friend started to cancel plans with me to be with another friend instead, when we had planned out to do something together. Ended up in a fight, where I told her about how I felt about it.
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AITA: Unintentionally Hurting your friends becuase you think they dislike you
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I had a sudden realization or rather ephiany, that people actually want to talk to me. As idiotic as that seems, I've always assumed that people generally find me unlikable and don't really want to talk to me. I know internally that that's not true that I'm not repulsive but sometimes you get into that mindset where you just keep repeating a thought and it you slowly convince yourself that it's true. And you start subconsciously acting on it, like avoiding people or being to scared to initiate conversations.
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After having a conversation with a friend who I hadn't taken to a long time, I realized that they were in a lack of better words mad? at / irritated and hurt that I had not talked to them .Which I found confusing because of how deep I dug myself into a rabbit hole of depreciation and believing that I was just annoying people.
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Afterwards, I had an overwhelming feeling that "Wow Im a fucking asshole" because in their perspective I just ignored them (which I did) and probably don't like them. So it becomes a effect where I don't think they like me which causes them to not think I like them and in turn I pick up clues reinforcing the idea that they hate me.
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Thinking back to previous experiences where I avoided saying hello/ didn't text them/ acted coldly which potentially could have hurt the other person I can't help but think that I fucked it up. I definitely broke some relationships which could have other wise be saved if I opened up more but I just can't get rid of the feeling that they are just talking to me to be "nice" or just killing time
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So Am I an asshole... ?
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AITA - for not being able to look past my partners behaviour?
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I found out I was pregnant the same day my step sons mum confirmed she was pregnant. This seemed to really worry my partner about his son having so much change in both households.
When we first found out his immediate reaction was “well, we know what to do because we aren’t ready” and I burst into tears. When I met my partner he said he fell in love with me because I was just born to be a mother and I felt the same. His son was my best friend. I have helped raise him since he was 6 months old and he is now turning 6.
When I calmed down I reminded him how much I wanted to be a mother, and that I understood the circumstances weren’t perfect but that I never really thought they would be. He didn’t take to this well and ignored me, but stood firm On terminating because; 1) step sons mum being pregnant. 2) “I’m not ready”. 3) less than perfect financial situation (I receive a disability pension and he runs his own business(when he wants))
I completely understood reason 1, because we spent the last 4 years in court fighting for the 50% custody we have of his son now. The ex wife of my partner has severe mental issues and used her son as a pawn to make my partner suffer.
What I didn’t understand was, could you be “not ready” after you’ve had your first child? Why I also struggled to understand this is, my partner is a great dad but he’s struggling at the moment with being motivated so I do a lot even though I have multiple chronic illness’s. I look after the house, his son, and the business book work. So when I imagined having a child, I felt I’d be doing most of it on my own, another issue entirely obviously; but I just want to be a mother so that didn’t really bother me (at the time).
We went through with a medical termination in week 5 of my pregnancy. Immediately I told my partner how much I felt deep regret for our decision. To my shock he said “me too, I didn’t think you’d actually go through with it, but it’s probably for the best”.Over the next few weeks/months I continually discussed how broken I felt given the situation. At one point I stayed with my dad for 1 night for some support (and because my partner was acting very unsupportive). My partner told his mum I had a miscarriage and had been feeling depressed. She didn’t know the truth about anything.
Since this has happened my partner has been researching guns, and has asked he put money aside to purchase a gun safe, guns, equipment as well as club membership and weekly club visits etc so he can shoot. I discussed how unfair this was in my opinion. We just had a car break down, he said we couldn’t afford a child, I have specialists I need to see. Anyway. Well, he’s paid for his gun license. He’s going ahead with it. I’m really struggling with this and feel I need to leave. Am I the asshole for feeling this way?
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AITA for telling my girlfriend she says I love you too much?
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Don’t get me wrong, I do love my girlfriend back. But she is extremely affectionate, and some times she’ll end up saying “I love you” ~6 times within 5 minutes. I always say I love her back, but sometimes I get annoyed. Often I will be focusing on something, and she’ll it, I’ll respond. Then she’ll either say it again a few more times after, or I won’t hear her because I’m too focused. Leading to her being “upset.” (Basically calling me out for not saying it back).
Just now, she said it a lot within 5-10 minutes, and I told her that I love her, but she does say it a lot. She immediately turned away from me and became upset.
AITA?
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AITA For Telling A Girl To Stop Leading A Guy On
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So for context my wife and I have a good group of friends and in that group we know someone named 'Liz' (hiding real name for her privacy). She's 35 and was married for almost 5 years but divorced her husband on account of infidelity on his part.
She's always been very timid and reserved. It's not the worst thing in the world but since the divorce she really seems to love attention from men. She's been seeing this guy for a bit and he seems nice. We were having a birthday party for one of our mutual friends so my wife and I invite Liz and her new boyfriend.
He doesn't show up but she does. She says he's working. Which was kind of weird this is at 8 PM and the guy works at a bank. So it's just odd I know there's always a chance but it threw me off. Also at the party was 'Brad' (also not real name). He's been single now for 5ish years and I can tell he's very anxious. He's been taken advantage of by various women because he tends to commit and overlook some really bad traits.
So at the party Liz starts talking to Brad and Brad gets infatuated with her. He's letting her drink his beer, he's grabbing her food, he's head over heels for her and this is an hour in to them meeting. I take Liz aside and ask her to not lead Brad on. I know how he is and can see that it's not going to end well. Well she snaps at me and storms out. Brad follows. Then a few others leave.
Wife's now mad at me for 'ruining the party' but in my opinion it was lose-lose either she was gonna lead him on and that comes crashing down or I bring it up and stop the awkward train wreck but deal with the fallout.
What do you all think? AITA? Could I have handled this better?
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AITA for towels covered in urine
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It all started on a beach popular for being able to take your dog there, we brought our dog with the rest of the family for a swim and we left our towels and bag on the beach. We be consistently run back and forth to stop the dogs from pissing on the bag and towels, but the one time I come up to get a drink a beagle come up and was sniffing the towels I tried to get rid of the dog but it wouldn't go away, while this is happening the owner is just standing their doing nothing to help. The dog ends up pissing on all our towels, I say "really" to the owner
And he responds "you shouldn't leave you towels on the beach like that" he said this rudely and this pissed me off so much but I didn't respond badly i just said "sorry" , I was not angry at the dog more at the old man as he did not help me get his dog from pissing on my towels.
Who's the asshole, me leaving my towels on the beach
Or old man who didn't help me get his dog away from pissing on my towels
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AITA for arguing with my depressed friend who lashes at me?
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I have (or better, had) a friend who had depression and anxiety. When our relationship began, she was actually nice and I helped her cope with her suffering. However, time passed and she started to be meaner and meaner and lash out at me whenever her mood was bad, and I started to feel like I was developing some sort of psychological disease because of it. I snapped at her one day and since then I feel like she's going down and down and that she has fallen in a way she can't get better. She goes to school, cries and goes home, and doesn't pay attention in class. Am I the asshole ?
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AITA for not wanting to live with my brother in the apartment my mom is going to pass on to me?
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I(F 21) live with my mom and my brother and my mom is in the process of moving to another apartment with one bedroom. She is moving from our current one because she has had back and knee surgery so climbing stairs is very painful and difficult for her. And this new apartment is all one floor which is perfect for her. Since it is one bedroom she has talked with me multiple times asking me if I will be okay without her and paying rent by myself. I don't know if I'm ready but I'll try my best. The reason this is even happening is because she thinks I'm capable of being an adult and she trusts me however, the problem is my brother.
He is almost 30 and still living here, can't keep a job and is very rude and mean to my mom. He doesn't clean up after himself. My mom has babied him for so long and it drives me up the wall. He only works Saturday and Sundays. So all the other days he spends on his computer, eating, or snoring loudly.
The reason I don't want him here to live with me once my mom moved out is if he will be responsible enough to give me rent money on time which is ridiculous because he's almost 30 and my mom still does his laundry?! Ugh fuck.
One thing I absolutely hate about him is he eats on the couch or in my mom's room (he doesn't have his own room) and leaves dishes there and wrappers and his disgusting socks every where. since he sleeps on the couch he always leaves the blankets all sprawled out on the floor and couch. My mom has given up on telling him anything because he doesn't listen. I really don't want to deal with that because I am already stressed from other things. Im a full time uni student so I'm busy but I always make time to wash my own fucking dish and to clean up after myself.
So, Reddit... AITA??
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WIBTA for not attending cousin’s wedding.
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This is really long so if you read, thank you.
Firstly I love my cousin, her future husband and we have never had issues in our relationship. I am debating on not attending her wedding because of my sister.
Backstory: Sister (S) has NPD and I have always been her scapegoat, it’s been an abusive relationship since we were kids. It got really bad when we approached our teens (3 yr age difference, I’m the oldest) my parents were in the middle of a messy divorce and we spent a lot of time with two of my aunts. My aunts very much nurtured these flaws S had and the three of them would pretty much gang up on me. It wasn’t as bad when we were with mom because she suffered with having to have 7 major back surgeries between my ages of 13-19 so that left me to take care of pretty much everything from school things to making sure bills had been paid. After I moved out I didn’t have a lot of interaction with S but she never stopped always trying to get me in trouble or taking any and all attention from me. I was in labor with my first child and she lost her shit on my mom because she had strep throat and mom ended up leaving me while in active labor to go pacify S.
Now I’m in my mid 30’s and mom is living with me, my boyfriend and our three kids because she is 100% disabled. We all have moved to a different state in order to keep our distance with S, even though mom loves her she can only handle her in small doses. In Nov. of last year S found out that I decided to homeschool two of my kids (the youngest needs extra help so he goes to a special private school) S doesn’t think I’m “qualified” to homeschool even though I work with an umbrella school, subscribe to online schooling for the kids and I do everything I’m supposed to do. S reports me for neglect because I’m not qualified. It caused a huge disruption in our lives and scared my daughter. This was the last straw and I cut her out of my life completely. In what I believe to be S’s retaliation for cutting her out she cried to all of mom’s side of the family, whom she has never been close to and voiced her dislike for them, to make me look like the bad guy. None of mom’s family believes that she can be as manipulative and evil as she really. This has been very hard on me and honestly makes me feel a little crazy because I’m questioning whether or not I really am the bad guy.
Current situation: cousin’s wedding is coming up and while S wouldn’t have attended before I cut her out, she is now going and I really don’t know if I can handle seeing/spending all that time with her in the same room. There is so much hurt that I have pent up that has been done because of S, I’m not sure I can cope. I am in the process of starting therapy to get past this and I should probably add that I have been diagnosed with severe generalized anxiety so that doesn’t help at all. WIBTA if I opt out of the wedding?
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AITA for telling my roommate her boyfriend has to contribute towards the rent if he moves in?
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So a little background info, I’ve had a roommate in the past that had a drug addict boyfriend who she secretly moved into our place. They sat in her room and wouldn’t come out for days doing who knows what. They would always come out just to fight in the middle of the night, I’d wake up in a panic. This stressed me out so much. Never again.
Now, my current roommate who I’ve lived with 2 years now is wanting to do the same. She’s been dating this guy for maybe 4-5 months but he lives in a different city. He sometimes comes for a couple days, but ultimately he is planning on moving to Chicago for her.
He failed a background check, so he didn’t get the job he wanted, but still plans on coming here in December. Red flag? Idk. Anyways, I had a talk with my roommate about a couple weeks ago about him contributing and she totally understood that. YESTERDAY, she was in a bad mood and brought it up to me how it’s not fair to do this to him cause he barely has money. She brought up my ex, which I think was completely unfair + he would only stay over like once a week... I also don’t think she can compare a SO staying over to a SO MOVING into our place. I don’t care if “I’ll barely even know he’s there”, I am losing my privacy. He’s gonna use our electricity, our water, gas, etc, I think he should pay. I didn’t have to say yes to letting him stay, I’m doing her a favor in the first place by doing so.
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AITA For ruining my abusive father's life?
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Okay, long story folks. They'll be a tl:dr at the end. Sorry for formatting, on mobile.
So here's some backstory, I (16m) come from a lower-middle class family in a suburban neighbourhood, but I am not exactly privileged when it comes to my family situation. I was a mistake child, as well as my brother (18m), and we were born into a family with a submissive pushover mother(50f) (she most likely has Stockholm Syndrome) and an physically and mentally abusive father(55m).
I won't go into all the details about what me, my brother, and my mother have gone through, but here is the jist: Choking, beating, spanking (with fists), kicking, slamming against walls, getting punished to get at my mom, slamming glass, purposely keeping us up at night with loud music, burning our favourite toys, chasing me around with a needle... You get it, I don't have a very good father.
Furthermore, my mother earns more than my dad as a manager, yet does all the work around the house (laundry, cooking, cleaning, filling up gas in the cars, literally every chore). Yet, my dad works in labour, does jackshit around the house, and claims that he is the only one holding the family together.
So flashback almost exactly a year from now. I woke up at around 6am on the living room couch to my father yelling at my mother, and this was normal. So I got up, and I stood at the kitchen door kinda just watching them argue and yell at each other. Well, my mom starts walking down the hallway to their bedroom to pack her stuff and leave for her parents house. This is when my dad came up behind her and started trying to strangle her on their bed. She was on her back, and he was on top with his hands around her neck.
At that moment, after years of submission and built up anger against my "father" I broke, and went into a fullsprint jumping on to his back and began pounding his head in with my fist. I got a good 20 full force hits, and if it wasn't for my mom ripping me off of him I would've gouged his eyes out. After that, he realised "oh shit I really fucked up" and began saying how much he loves all of us and how he couldn't believe I'd do that to him, y'know, the standard narcissistic thing. Me, my mother, and my father were pretty much arguing about how awful of a person he is. I reminded him of all the awful things he has done and he would deny literally every. Single. Instance.
After a few days of tension, nothing really happened, but I decided to go into no-contract with him and no longer address him as my father, but by his name. He knew how I felt about him, I called him all the names he called us when we were kids right to his face (garbage waste of space, cunt, etc.) And going back to the beating, I rushed him so hard that when I kneed him in his back I broke a rib, and he was too embarrassed to go to the hospital. I hurt him so badly I caused him to lose his job and basically become disabled as he spends literally every waking hour in his bed playing World Of Warcraft in his bedroom. So that went quite well for a few months, until he, and my mother, began demanded that I give him respect.
They have (and still do) have this rule where I have to say goodnight and goodmorning everytime I wake up/go to bed. I didn't want to, or needed to talk to my father for obvious reasons. This pissed him off, because requoting him through my mother it "made him feel like he was a piece of shit in the corner" Which is funny, because that's exactly what he is. They threatened to punish me, and tried to force me to apologize to him. Fuck. That.
So after a few months of tension, my father gets pissed off at me for a irrelevant reason and we get into an argument. He bagan threatening me with violence, calling me a libtard, and said he was proud of choking my mother to the point of blacking out. I actually threatened him back, and he backed off. He realised he can't take on his 6'4 slightly muscular teenage son when he is at grandpa age and has troubles getting up to use the washroom. After he ranted for a bit more about the gays, libtards, and women that was the end of that ordeal. And since then I've continued to do the same, no contact. My only form of communication has been through him bitching about me to my mother.
Fast forward to today, and he is getting moody again. He wants me to say goodmorning/goodnight everyday. And I refuse. Here is the thing, my mother and my brother on his side. They say that he has "changed" in this past year, even after the decades of abuse. They say that I need to learn to forgive, and not be "stuck up" to my dad. I on the other hand want to go down with dignity when I get kicked out the day I turn 18, I want to make him feel like what he is. A piece of shit in the corner.
Tl:Dr - abused physically and mentally by father, father strangles mother, and I beat the shit out of my dad causing him to lose his job. I go into no contact with him, refuse to call him my father, and refuse to give him any respect. My family is against me saying I'm taking it too far.
I'll provide more information if you really think you need it to decide if I'm in the right or wrong here. So,
Am I the asshole?
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AITA for not wanting to invite my parents to my wedding because I know they don't approve of our relationship because we're legally sisters?
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TL;DR—My adoptive sister and I are getting married, my parents aren't invited.
I told a friend about my concerns earlier, and when he showed me this subreddit, he recommended I make an account and get some other opinions on the situation. He supports us 100% of the way, which I'm grateful for, but anyway, into the situation.
I met my best friend and future fiancé in the 5th grade at age 11. We got along great, but neither if us really knew a thing about sexuality at the time, so we were just really good friends.
Fast forward 3 years, and her parents die in a really bad car crash. Both parents are only children, and there's no family for her to go to anymore. After a lot of consideration, my parents stepped up and offered to adopt her to keep yet out of the foster system. Yay, we're going to be sisters!
We both came out, and eventually, we finally started officially dating at 17. This was weird to my parents for obvious reasons. They never outright said anything about it, but it was pretty obvious they weren't too happy about it. I don't think it has anything to do with us being gay, just that they see us as sisters more than we do.
Anyway, here at 22, she proposed to me, but after a little bit of research, we found that a legal marriage would be illegal. We've decided on a more symbolic wedding, just the ceremony with the food and the dresses and the whole 9. We invited close friends and some members of my family who are a bit more open about the whole situation. We did not invite my parents.
Turns out, we were right—they did cause a scene. An aunt brought it up to them, and they were shocked they were just finding out. They did not handle the news well. Rather than politely ask for an invitation, they spent the better part of an entire evening trying to convince us to break up. So they're still not invited, and I don't really know how to reconcile this.
Am I the asshole here? I don't want to leave my parents behind, but at the same time, I really am madly in love. A little help from the internet?
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AITA who requested payment for canceled Groundhog Day Trip?
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So my father is really into groundhog day and this year my brother and I decided to make the effort plan a trip to drive to Phunxtheny, PA from Ohio for the Holiday on Feb 2nd. Its determined that I should be in charge of booking the hotel and van for the trip as we are 3 adults and 2 boys (6 and 13 years old). I sent out the email confirmations for both the van and hotel about a week ago and did not hear anything until yesterday where my dad decides to book another hotel in Indiana, PA which is an hour closer to the event. This would make it easier on the younger boy to not have to wake up as early, but unfortunately the occupancy limit for that room is 4 people. The occupancy limit on the hotel in Pittsburgh is 5 so we would not have to break any rules to stay there. Once I brought this fact up to my dad, he gets frustrated and decides he wants to cancel the trip. I was really looking forward to the bonding with my family and I had already requested a day of PTO off from work. Once I brought this fact up to my dad he flippantly says "I'll pay you for your days pay". I regrettably accept the offer and consider the matter closed. Today when I tried to collect the agreed payment, he is trying to back out.
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So Reddit, Am I the asshole for booking the hotel with the correct occupancy and attempting to collect payment that was promised? Give me your worst!
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AITA for suggesting to my pregnant fiancée that I sleep on the couch because she's uncomfortable in bed?
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Hello,
Backstory: I just moved to my fiancée's home country after having a long distance relationship with her for sometime. She's now 11 weeks pregnant and she's experiencing severe hyperemesis (incredibly bad morning sickness - more like all day sickness).
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I bought her a pregnancy pillow (one which can wrap around her entire body) recently, and she's been using it in bed. It's a queen sized bed, but with the pillow too, there's not a lot of room for me now, so I'm sleeping as far up against the wall on my side of the bed.
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Today she's told me that she didn't sleep well last night because she's having to get up around 4 times a night to pee (as a result of the fluids she's being administered to help with dehydration). She told me that once she did get back into bed, I was breathing in her general direction, and it wasn't very pleasant - which is fair enough, but I'm having trouble sleeping facing the wall, my arm now has a bad ache every time I am positioned that way. She also cannot face the other way as a result of having the line for her fluids in her arm.
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Now, I wanted to figure out how we are going to solve this - as the big thing here is that we need to re-arrange her room as a few pieces of furniture need to move around to make sure we both have access to a side of the bed, and also for room in the future for a crib. In lieu of that not happening instantaneously (need help from her brothers to shift the furniture), I suggested that I sleep in the front room until it comes time to rearrange the bedroom.
​
She took this to mean that I didn't want to sleep next to her in bed anymore, which is entirely untrue - and I even made that clear, but she then says that I'm making a mountain out of a molehill out of the whole situation.
​
What I can take away from this is that we are both uncomfortable, so I am willing to bite the bullet and go and sleep elsewhere so that she can be comfortable in bed.
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AITA For pretending to be a girl?
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I started pretending to be a girl on a Discord Server. I did that because I really like the attention that comes with being female, and you can have more conversations and find new friends easier. I don't ask for dick pics or change my personality or anything like that; am I the asshole?
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AITA : Accidentally cut in Line
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(sorry, mobile) TLDR at the bottom
AITA?
I was in a local corner shop in england. The kind with mostly self serve tills. Quick and easy. I go into this shop almost every day. I pick up a drink and a pack of bananas.
I wait in the queue, two women are in front of me in the queue. I believe they were together because they were talking and seemed to be sharing a basket.
The queue moves forward and they use one of the available tills, they talk for a couple seconds around that till when I notice the till next to them is empty so I move over to start scanning my items.
At this point I noticed one of the women had put her basket in the wrong section (to the left of her till on my basket slot, her basket slot should be on the right) I thought she had made an honest mistake and honestly it happens all the time. Its not like I needed the basket slot with only two items so I begin to scan.
After scanning my drink and putting it in the bagging section (the part that weighs the item to make sure you arent stealing anything) when I hear, in an angry tone
"oh my god I cant believe you did that!"
(Lady=L, Me=me)
Me: I'm sorry?
L: Thats MY till.
(at this point I assume she thought I put my drink in the wrong bagging section next to her basket)
Me: Oh sorry, this is my bagging section, your one is on the right, there (points) (Honestly I thought she was making an honest mistake, I did it myself the first few times I went into that shop because there arent any signs to say which bagging area belongs to which till)
L: No. Thats MY TILL. You think you can just scan your items like that. Oh my god you are so entitled.
Me: (Still not understanding whats going on, and genuinely starting to have a panic attack due to my anxiety disorder, I scan my bananas just to try to get out of there asap)
L: OH MY GOD YOU ARE STILL SCANNING YOUR ITEMS! (at this point the security guard comes over, and assuming she had the same problem I thought she had. she ignored the security guard)
At this point it clicked. She wasnt sharing a till with the other lady. I cut in line and started using the till she was about to use. Im so confused because she was CLEARLY with the other lady and how was I supposed to know she was going to use this till when she spent several seconds hovering next to the other till.)
L: Oh my god. Cancel your Order
(at this point I think "I have scanned all of my items. it will take 5 seconds for me to finish this order. or I could cancel my order and make her wait for about a minute for a member of staff to come over and confirm the cancel)
I paid and left. And promptly had a panic attack outside the store for experiencing such a sudden negative experience.
Am I the asshole for not noticing that she was using the till or was she the asshole for shouting at me for making an honest mistake?
TLDR: accidentally cut in line and was shouted at by a woman, didnt understand why she was angry, had a panic attack
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AITA for exposing my friend on social media for saying the N-Word.
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My friend constantly said the n-word so I secretly recorded him saying it and posted it on Instagram.
He’s calling me a scumbag because I recorded without his permission and is threatening to get me suspended.
He’s saying that blackmailing him is a lot worse than saying the n-word.
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AITA for not thinking my friend is being abused
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Let me put this in context: my friend (F1) is 16 and dating a 19 yo (BF) She is happy with her relationship, and does not think she is being abused. She doesn’t see him very often as he is working and going to school full time, as is she, and neither of them has a car. He also lives about half an hour + traffic away. Again, both of them are very happy with the relationship, even though I personally haven’t seen them interact with each other in over a year, and I’ve never really met him.
My other friend (F2) is also 16, and he thinks F1 is being abused. Why, you ask? Because apparently he is “controlling and doesn’t let her do anything she wants to.” I personally think this is bs. He thinks this because F1 skipped out on study hall in order to fuck around last year even though she had homework, and BF wasn’t a huge fan of this. She’s done other things like this previously, but I guess he got upset about it this time. They sat down and talked about it, and it worked out. F2 thinks BF overreacted and is abusive and controlling because of it.
When F2 asked me about it, I said “I haven’t seen them interact, but it just seems like BF wants F1 to do better in school. It seems like he just wants her to succeed, and when she skips out on study hall, doesn’t do her homework, and fucks around, BF thinks she can do better.” I told F2 that I think he’s reading into this WAY too much, that he’s paranoid and cynical. He told me I’m an asshole and that I don’t care about our friend. I really don’t think this is a bad relationship, as F1 says that she’s super happy and there hasn’t been another situation like this that’s been brought to my attention.
So, AITA for not thinking my friend is being abused?
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WIBTA if I reschedule an appointment two days in a row?
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I had an appointment at 2 P.M. yesterday at a lab to go get my teeth shade matched to be sent off to my dentist so he could make me the proper colored fake cap for my tooth. Unfortunately, I had tire issues and called around 10 AM to let them know I apologized and would have to go and get a new tire for my car and couldn’t make it. They cheerfully said “No problem at all!” And I made the appointment for 2 P.M. today instead (I work night shift). Well, odds would be that I would be getting a call from my boss this morning to see if I could come in early. He accepted my request to make me a manager and asked if there’s any way possible I could come in early for training and so he could show me some other things. I’m stoked, but this would cause me to have to cancel said appointment again. It’s 9:30 A.M. currently where I live. I’m not very versed in etiquette when it comes to situations like this. I REALLY want to go early to show my boss I’m serious about this, but feel like it would be extremely rude of my two reschedule the appointment again. If I call the crown and bridge lab back and reschedule a second time, WIBTA?
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WIBTA for breaking up with my boyfriend because he is losing his hair?
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Preface: I love my boyfriend dearly and this is something we have talked about already.
So, my boyfriend is already showing signs of losing his hair. Tons of it when he wakes up on his pillow, in the bed, on clothes. We’ve joked about him losing his hair and even tried to see what he would look like bald. Honestly, it wasn’t good.
I know it sounds superficial, but I just don’t think I would be sexually attracted to him if he is bald. Our sex life is already a point of contention between him and I- he’s not interested in it as much as I am, and we’ve already spoken about how I felt. I’m just worried I’ll grow to resent him because I won’t be attracted enough to him to go through with sex whenever he decides he wants it.
TL;DR: My boyfriend is losing his hair and I feel like I won’t be sexually attracted to him if he is bald. WIBTA if I broke up with him?
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AITA for trying to end my relationship with my parents?
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I originally posted this on the relationships subreddit a while ago, but lately I've been thinking about this whole situation and I'm wondering if I'm in the wrong here to be essentially holding a grudge against my parents for the things they've done in the past (as well as fairly recently). I want to know if I'm being the asshole here for giving up my relationship with my parents and having stopped trying to fix things. Or maybe everyone's the asshole here, or maybe it's just my parents. Anyway, you be the judge, here it is.
Throwaway because it's possible this will contain enough info to potentially identify me to friends/family.
This post is going to get VERY LONG, but I will try to be as concise as possible. There's so much involved here I'm really not sure where to even start. Maybe the best way is to provide some personal anecdotes with my parents, leading up to why I tried to cut ties with my dad, leading to why I now don't talk to both my parents. Yes, there is a TLDR at the bottom.
Growing up my dad would constantly tell me stories between him and my mom's parents that made him seem like the victim and made my grandparents seem like the bad guys. The greatest extent my mom would go to stop him from doing this was to just say "Stop it, it's not nice", but he would continue and she would enable it. As a result, in my younger and teenage years, I kind of feared and didn't 100% like my grandparents, because I've been given the impression that they secretly hate my dad for no good reason at all. On top of this, every time we were going to go to my mom's family's place for different holidays, my dad would make a huge fuss about going over, calling them names, complaining about the time we're supposed to make it there, purposely going slow to make us late, etc., resulting in either my mom or me (or both) being really mad at him for the entire visit there. Looking back it must have been very obvious to everyone there that we were always in a bad mood when we went to visit, while my dad pretended to like them all while there.
Let's back up a little bit to middle school. My English teacher had us read the newspaper once a week and present or write reports on different articles. One of these days, the teacher asks to see me after class. He shows me an article on the front page of our local newspaper (which I just realized wasn't included during the activity in class) that says someone with the same name as my dad has been arrested for money laundering. At the time I had zero idea what was going on, and when he asked me if I was ok or knew about it I just said I was fine and didn't know anything about it. That day, my mom picks me up from school, and I ask him about what was in the paper. I don't remember as many details from this point, but basically my dad got so pissed off he and/or my mom called the school, saying it was none of their business and the teacher shouldn't be showing me things like that.
Fast forward 2 years, right before high school is about to start, my mom ends up driving me to the courthouse because my dad just got sentenced to like a year or something in jail. At this point neither parent has yet to fill me in completely yet, and the only part they tell me is that somehow their counter case for "age discrimination" got dismissed and that my dad's ex-job was a bunch of assholes. What follows is several months of visiting him in jail until he gets parole. During this time, he makes all kinds of promises such as getting along with my mom's family and not making going to see family such a catastrophic hassle every time. In addition, he starts guilting me to not hold what he did (the stealing money) against him. For a while I didn't, because I thought he realized what he did was wrong and that this was an isolated incident.
Fast forward to me turning 18. Now, growing up until around 16 I would usually give birthday+holiday money to my parents to put into my savings account. I remember being like 9 or something and getting this little handheld balance tracker (bankbook?) and for a while I would keep track of the money I saved. I probably stopped tracking it after a while, and in my teens I kinda just figured my parents were handling it for me. So, having turned 18, I asked my parents about the savings account. They both denied its existence, saying that whatever money I was talking about I must have already spent myself. I didn't buy this, because I specifically remember at one point this account being at least $5000 several years ago, and I never touched it myself. So, one of the (rare) times I was visiting my grandparents, I decided to ask them if they remember this account's existence. They did. I told them my parents were denying remembering me having anything like that, so the following weekend they come visit me and my parents and confront them about it. My mom confesses that they took the money to help them pay off their bills. Then my dad says "It wasn't even that much anyway, just a couple thousand dollars." This is around when I generally stopped trusting them.
Let's get caught up to what's happening most recently. About a year ago at Christmas, my dad was proudly telling me and my mom how he decided to call my grandma (who was 91 years old and fairly recently widowed by my grandpa) and "tell her off" for all the ways she's mistreated him over the years. This made me super angry. Then when we went to visit my mom's family for Christmas, he told me to watch him as he went over to apologize to my grandma. As soon as he finished talking to her, he turns around and sticks his tongue out at me like a 5 year old in full view of pretty much everyone else there. The entire rest of my visit there I'm livid with him, and on the way to the airport when my parents are dropping me off, I finally snapped. I told him off how he's spent my whole life trying to make me hate half my family, and how I've absolutely had it with him. As this is going on, whenever I brought up a specific time he's been a shitty dad that I knew my mom was aware of, my mom took his side and would deny it was true. I told my mom she enables his shitty behavior. For several months, I didn't talk to either of them, but then my grandmother ended up passing away so I had to fly back for her funeral. Instead of saying anything remotely apologetic or kind, my dad starts again with me by saying that he's never done or said anything for me to dislike my mom's family and that if I feel alienated from them or feel like I barely know them or missed out getting to actually know them while growing up, it's my own fault. I call bullshit and repeat everything I'd said before, and my mom continues to stay silent or take his side. Meanwhile during this timeline, I was sending countless emails to my mom explaining why I'm so disgusted with my dad and specifically why I want to cut ties with him, yet she never replied or acknowledged any of it. Fast forward to a couple months ago, at this point I was back to talking with my mom, but not my dad. It was my dad's birthday and my mom texted me over and over all day begging to call him for his birthday. I repeatedly tell her no. Finally at like 10pm he ends up calling me, asking me the real reason I don't like him, as if I haven't wasted millions of breaths or thousands of words repeating it over and over to him. Rinse, repeat, except this time my mom 100% takes his side rather than mostly staying silent. At this point I'm pretty much not talking to either one of them.
I should wrap up all the remaining background info before this turns into a life story, so I'll just list off the rest here. I recall at one point my dad saying he wasn't sorry at all for stealing money from that job because "he deserved it." Following his parole, he never did stop causing arguments over visiting mom's family for different occasions, claiming that his side of the family 2000 miles away was my "real" family. Growing up I watched both my parents gamble away thousands of dollars plus multiple vacations to Las Vegas with their 8 year old kid (me) in the hotel room left to play video games. The house I grew up in was owned by my grandparents (mom's side), not my parents, and this whole time they never had to pay any kind of rent towards the mortgage. Until I was 12 they both had full-time jobs with very minimal bills to pay. Yet, they didn't have money to pay for my college, and my grandparents ended up helping me pay for it. When it came time to decide where to go to college, my dad told me I "better" pick the one closer to them (spoiler alert, I chose the farthest). Once I graduated, my grandparents told my parents to make the payments for the student loans I had to take. Ever since I stopped talking to my dad a year ago, my parents stopped sending me the money to pay the student loan payments, and now I've been doing it myself. Consistently in public and with mom's family, he would essentially act like a toddler in different ways such as loudly mocking other people, making poorly timed inappropriate jokes, or otherwise talking trash about others (mostly my family) behind their backs then pretending to like them in person. He lacks very basic pragmatics. He would also do what I call "selective listening", where most of the time he pretends not to hear what people are saying, until as soon as he thinks he's being talked about he suddenly has perfect hearing. This in particular has led to me and my mom constantly having to repeat things for him even though I'm pretty sure most of the time he truly heard us, or was making us repeat things to be funny. And if it hasn't become clear yet at this point, all these years my mom let him behave like this and enabled his embarassingly childish and egotistical behavior. As far as all the stories he told me about my mom's family ove
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AITA for requesting (and getting) a replacement for a food item without checking properly?
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So here's what happened :
I ordered a burger from a local burger place via an app (lets call it company A). The order arrives ,I pay the delivery guy without checking at the moment and he leaves. When i do check my order it has a packaging seal of another company B (one of the main competitors of company A). So I grew a little suspicious and opened it to find the burger and it looked a bit different . It came in a different package, it had a different seal so i had a personal bias thinking they mixed up my order . I'm usually the kind of guy that lets things like this slide but i felt like I was duped .
So I get on the company A's app (which had customer service) and told them about my experience and sent a picture of company B's seal on my package. They apologized and offered a replacement without charging me and so I accepted their offer.
So the replacement arrives and I check it out on the spot to find out if the packaging was different but surprisingly it still had company B's seal on it. I asked the delivery guy (different guy) if it was normal to have company B's seal on it and he said that they do locally use company B's seals. Now I was having a TIFU moment and opened the package to find an almost identical burger.
I ate the burger but wasn't able to enjoy it. It tasted great but I felt bad for troubling a lot of people just because my burger looked a little different. I still have the original burger with me so i feel like I duped the restaurant because I got two burgers for the price of one. Feels like I'm gonna have to eat there for the rest of the year to make up because I won't be comfortable bringing this up with the restaurant. So am I the asshole for requesting the replacement and what do you think the best course of action would have been?
**TL;DR** : Asked for replacement without checking properly.
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AITA Because I Do not have sex with my bf
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I have lost interest sex with him a bit because I do not find his body attractive. But I also am suffering from some mental illnesses that have not been diagnosed. But I have been developing a reaction to sex, at least with him because it is a new thing that is getting worse. Whenever we do I start to have a breakdown. I used to have the break down after but now it starts during.
Am I an asshole because I choose not to have sex with my bf?
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AITA for being upset with how my girlfriend has acted on the week my mother died.
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**TL;DR My mother died this week, my girlfriend started a fight days later over my inability to talk about it, then she ignored my messages for about 40 hours, and is now thinking of cancelling plans to come visit me and my family. I'm a bit stunned because this feels super insensitive considering the stress I'm already under, and is very unlike her. I know that I often don't help alleviate conflict, but in this case, I really don't think I'm in the wrong, so please correct me if I am.**
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My GF is British. I live in the UK with her, but I'm in Canada now where my family is from. I should mention that we BOTH have problems letting fights sometimes last longer than they should and allowing things to escalate.
My mom was battling cancer for years and in recent months she took a sharp decline. I quickly came back to Canada to spend her last month with her. During that time, my girlfriend (who is genuinely the most loving and caring person I know) would ask me every day how she was. After a while, this became very difficult to know how to answer, as my mom was barely conscious and the only answer I could give was "she's dying." I told my GF to stop asking me because it was difficult for me to answer, and I told her I would let her know if anything major happened. I appreciated her thinking of me, and I'll admit, I was a little blunt in how I said it (I was under stress but it's not an excuse, I know) and she understandably didn't take it well. We got past that though and everything was fine for the next few weeks.
My mother finally passed away last week, her funeral was a few days ago. I called my girlfriend for the first time in a while; we chatted, and eventually she asked me how my family was doing. Again, this was difficult for me to answer, because we're not fine and I just wanted to talk about other things. I gave her a very basic answer and probably sounded like I didn't want to be talking about it. She took this as me telling her off again, which I absolutely was not doing. I immediately clarified and said it was just difficult to answer, but as I previously mentioned, we have trouble letting things go, so she kept going. She insisted I was making her feel stupid. I asked her to please listen to me, told her it was just difficult to answer, and to just drop it and let's move on (considering the circumstances I really didn't want to fight), but she kept going. It then obviously escalated into a full fight. It ended when we had to go to sleep.
The next day she messaged me like nothing had happened, but I felt like she had crossed a line, starting a pointless fight days after my mother's funeral, when I had begged her to just let it go. So I explained this to her; how it made me feel and asked if she could acknowledge that. The conversation kept going all day, heated at times, but she eventually apologized, and it ended with her telling me she would "leave me alone." I didn't ask her to leave me alone, but she then proceeded to ignore my messages for 40 hours (I was no longer trying to discuss the situation, just trying to talk about her day and other regular stuff because she had already apologized, so to me it was over). But ignoring me made me feel awful again, especially considering what I'm already going through. When she finally did respond, she told me she was worried about our relationship and that she might cancel her plans to come out to Canada (I've paid for the flights already).
I still want her to come, and I don't want our relationship to end over this. But I feel like I have to stick to my values here. To me, she's being unnecessarily heated and petty on an awful week for me. If she decides not to come, I feel like that might be the end of our relationship. I do try very hard to be self-critical, so if you all think I'm in the wrong here, need to just let this go or even apologize to her to prevent things from getting worse, then please tell me. Or else am I justified in feeling this way?
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AITA for letting my mother rot away in her home?
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My mother is in her late 40s, I am 23 and we never had a good relationship. She emotionally abused me my entire childhood and I had a deep hatred for her.
My dad died when I was 15. Never had siblings. Since a short while, I got an own home with my boyfriend. However this is in a city 2 hours away from my mom.
I am monday till wednesday in my moms house and the rest I am in my own home. I do this because she complains about being alone. Also our dog of 15 years died recently so she is more alone now.
She accuses me of letting her rot away in her home. She is physically healthy and has a normal job. I don't know what to do. She wants me to stay more days in her house, but I don't enjoy it there since she is often abusive.
Am I the asshole for not spending more days in her house?
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"description": "telling my friend to stop worrying about me",
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AITA for telling my friend to stop worrying about me?
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So umm... the title kinda says it all but let me elaborate.
I don’t like to eat, not saying I’m anorexic or anything, but I will say I’m a tad bit overweight and sometimes I feel like going a day without eating now and then will help.
I also have a history with depression, and she knows this.
She sometimes goes up to me and asks if I’ve eaten anything that day. I always answer yes, because I don’t really want anyone talking about it. Yesterday though was the final straw.
She came up to me at lunch when I was with my normal group of friends (also there’s a bit of bad blood between her group of friends and my group of friends. Me and her were still quite close though). She asked if I had eaten, which I actually had (just a sandwich and a drink). I said yes.
At this point it was a little annoying, and after school I texted her to stop. She said she would, but I’m worried I came off as mean and now I’m worried I could have possibly ruined a friendship.
I didn’t want to stop being friends, I just wanted her to stop asking about what I eat as it makes me uncomfortable.
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NOBODY
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RIGHT
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AeXQxU3uAd85vLNZIRKrPqOd6z1GsGz8
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au4a58
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"description": "yelling at my mom about my hair",
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"contranormative_score": 4
}
|
AITA for yelling at my mom about my hair?
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I am going to try and keep this short as possible. I'm a long haired male and have been for many years. When I first started growing out my hair, I found that not using any products in my hair kept it looking good and healthy. I take showers as normal, but simply massage my scalp without using any form of shampoos/etc. So, before you may think this is gross, it really is not. I have not had any issues in the real world. My hair looks healthy and grows very full. You would not recognize it as being un-shampooed hair.
​
Anyways, my mother knows that I don't shampoo my hair. When I first started it, she would throw fits until I would shampoo my hair. If I refused, she would go on and on for hours about how bad it is, etc. It was an absolute nightmare. She is a very toxic person in the first place, but this is one of her many triggers. So, over the years after much defense on my end, she has become less explosive about the subject. However, she still manages to be annoying anytime we are together in person. If I'm going to take a shower, she will continually ask why I don't use shampoo. She will put shampoo in there and keep telling me to use it. You get the point.
​
Today, we were talking on the phone. I live in a different state. So, this is how we communicate. She is very toxic, but I still care about her and try to keep in touch. We were talking about all sorts of things. When she brings up how I need to start washing my hair. I kind of exploded and said, "if you ever say this to me again, I'm not coming home anymore." I told her how annoying it was and that she's probably said it about 1 million times. Obviously, her opinion is fine, but I already know her opinion. She is not going to change my mind.
​
Anyways, AITA?
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EVERYBODY
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"description": "snapping after 4 years at the Head of maintenance at my work and sarcastically apologizing for how his life turned out compared to what mine will be",
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}
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AITA for snapping after 4 years at the Head of maintenance at my work and sarcastically apologizing for how his life turned out compared to what mine will be.
|
This happened to me over the summer and I just found this sub so I created an account to ask. It’s kinda long and Tl;Dr at bottom.
So I’ve worked as a lifeguard and a swim lessons instructor over the summer at a Country Club for the past 4 years. It’s a good starter place to work, minus the crazy owner, but I stay because I genuinely enjoy my lifeguard staff (30+ people we watch a man made lake). The head of maintenance I’ll call him “Jenkins” has harassed the lifeguards since I’ve started working. He’s a middle aged man and has no authority over us but likes to boss the guards around. Everyone knows this including the aquatics manager (my boss not the owner) knows and deals with this. He would even put random pieces of trash on the lifeguard stands just to show his distaste.
Now my first 3 years I just shrugged it off. I prided myself on being a good lifeguard who was always attentive and a great swim lesson instructor. I didn’t really care what he thought. After coming back from my first year of college I got promoted to the lead life guard of the lake and tried to make an effort to appease Jenkins. I did every arbitrary task he asked and stuff that wasn’t my job to try to get on his good side. If I saw him sitting down I’d ask him if I or anyone could do anything for him.
So here comes the asshole part. We throw a party on the lake for all the members and it’s a stressful day for everyone. My younger brother (also a lifeguard) and another lifeguard/good friend set up everything we need to do for the lake before the party and take a break before the aquatics manager gets here. We sat down for literally 30 seconds and Jenkins starts yelling at us. He yells at us telling us to do more arbitrary things and how we suck as lifeguards. The conversation goes like this after my brother and friend walk to do what he asked.
Me “Hey next time talk to me or another lead guard when you want us to do something do not try to scare the other lifeguards into doing it”
Jenkins “I don’t know who they are”
Me “okay they are me and (two other lead guards)”
Jenkins “How about if you actually do something instead of sitting around on your asses all day.”
Me getting irritated “we did everything that was asked of us and were waiting for our boss to come back you saw us working across the lake.”
Jenkins “you guys shouldn’t just be sitting around doing nothing while we work way harder than you.”
Me visibly pissed off “how about you stop yelling at me and do your job it’s not my fault you have had nothing better to do than yell at us for the past four years.”
Jenkins “you need to not treat this like a summer kiddie job where you get paid to do nothing and more like a career. I’ve seen you on your phone on the stand (lie) and putting people at risk.”
Me (asshole part)- “that’s the problem Jenkins this is a job for me not my career. I go to college. Im getting my degree. I’m sorry that’s obviously not the case for you and now you got stuck here the rest of your life. I’m gonna do a lot more with my life than you ever will and when you see me lifeguarding today I hope you remember that.”
He storms off and files a complaint but nothing happens after that.
So AITA for blowing up in his face? I’ve always been calm and rational at work so it came to a surprise to everyone. I know I don’t know how he turned up there and I felt kinda guilty at the time. On the other hand he really shouldn’t be taking his problems out on us.
TL;DR- I’ve worked as a lifeguard for 4 years with a bully head of maintenance. The last day I snap when he yells at us for nothing and sarcastically apologize for his life sucking and how mine is going to be so great.
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AUTHOR
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WRONG
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ay8onz
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{
"description": "ending things with a potential boyfriend because he has HIV",
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"contranormative_score": 1
}
|
AITA for ending things with a potential boyfriend because he has HIV?
|
I've been seeing a guy for a few weeks now, we've been on a few dates but haven't done anything sexual except from making out. I always like to take things slow because in the gay community there are a lot of purely sexual relationships, but I personally prefer monogamy and want to know someone is interested in me and not just my genitals.
After a few weeks, this guy and I got on really well together and we were clearly both attracted to each other, I felt comfortable enough with him that I thought we could take our relationship to "the next level" (which he wanted to do on our first date so I knew he would also want to… this is sort of relevant later on!). We were texting and I pretty much said that I was fine with moving the relationship forward and he then told me that he is HIV-positive, but is on medication which means it can't be passed onto sexual partners.
I know this is bad to say but all my sexual attraction to him disappeared in that very moment. I know that if I had sex with him, I would be worrying the whole time about HIV transmission. I also know it's illogical because it's not transmissable but I just wouldn't feel safe. I'm very very very careful with sexual activity because I know HIV is a bigger problem in the gay community than for straight people and it's something I really don't want in my life, even though I know people can live completely fulfilling lives and normal lifespans with it.
I didn't have the courage to tell him that I didn't want to have sex with him because of his HIV status so I sort of wrapped up the conversation and then deliberately brought up politics (which I know is a big issue for a lot of people) a few days later and pretended to end things with him over that saying that "we just didn't see eye to eye". In reality I couldn't care less about his political beliefs, I just can't see myself being intimate with someone who has HIV.
I told my sister about this and she said I was being judgemental and ruining what could be a great relationship. It's sad but I see her points in some ways. This guy was really respectful of my wishes to not have sex which can sometimes be rare to find in the gay community, he's really attractive and intelligent and very caring + kind. But I just can't seem to get past his HIV, and I wish I could but I can't. Also, on our first date he wanted to hook up and I'm 99% sure he wasn't even going to tell me he was HIV positive which makes me question if he's the person I thought he was.
I know no one is obligated to have sex with anyone else, consent is important and I think rejection for any reason is fine, but I can't help feel like I have a stigma in my mind and I feel really guilty about even thinking like this… am I the asshole?
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HISTORICAL
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OTHER
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RIGHT
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aruoqz
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{
"description": "putting salt on everything my mum cooks",
"pronormative_score": 10,
"contranormative_score": 1
}
|
AITA for putting salt on everything my mum cooks?
|
I'm 17 and living with my parents and for a while now I've started salting food that my mum makes. She cooks very repetitively so I know every single dish that she'll make and I've tried them all without salt but I know that salt would make the dish taste 1000x better. It's gotten to the point where sometimes I can't even finish my plate because of the blandness of the taste (usually pasta and rice and stuff). I've tried talking her through this but she keeps saying that it's rude and ungrateful for me to keep salting her food. While I understand that it's food I'm getting for free and that I should get what I can take, I don't see what the harm in adding something extra to make it taste better is (it usually leads to me having even more food if I salt it). This isn't like a major issue but I've just wanted to know what the etiquette is for this kind of situation.
AITA for putting salt on everything my mum makes?
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HISTORICAL
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OTHER
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RIGHT
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xWxFCakS55MNjLOz6TegVKJ1AGXVmtws
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auufon
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{
"description": "telling my sister's bf that she is cheating on him",
"pronormative_score": 6,
"contranormative_score": 4
}
|
AITA for telling my sister’s bf that she is cheating on him?
|
Yes it’s me again and this times it’s about my younger sister and I. Again English is not my first language so sorry for the mistakes.
Story: I have a sister who is only 14 years old and is dating. But she brought another boy in our house and claims they are just “friends” even though they were holding hands and acting like a total couple and OH I also found out she is sending him pictures :))!! Also the other reason why I am upset is that the boy she brought calls her a whore and I can see why since my sister IS dating but yet she is doing stuff with him. After the boy left I told my sister to either stop the bullshit since I don’t want people calling her easy because she will flirt with any guy even though she has a boyfriend but my sister just called me a weirdo and too get on her level and other stupid stuff. Anyway, I know it wasn’t my business but I told my sister’s boyfriend to please dump her since she is cheating on him but you know he didn’t listen to me and told my sister and my sister came to me and started hitting me and telling me that cheating is nothing and that I am just jealous that she can flirt with any guy and the other humiliating stuff is my mom supports her and blames me that I made her a whore like wtf? I know that’s not true so I didn’t take it by heart but it hurts me that my mom blames me and is threating to kick me out if more people find out that my sister is cheating on her boyfriend.
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HISTORICAL
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OTHER
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RIGHT
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qkAT8AYvW8AHAOyUkfuSGpcEx3fQIYCv
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aq2ykb
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{
"description": "getting annoyed by bad poker etiquettes",
"pronormative_score": 1,
"contranormative_score": 4
}
|
AITA for getting annoyed by bad poker etiquettes?
|
Apologize in advance for format and language as I'm on mobile and English is my second language.
FYI we are a group of friends, around 10 people who play poker every Friday/Saturday night. We only play for fun so $20 buy in, 10¢/20¢ blind but as the nature of the game a person can win/lose $100 a night is normal.
Recently, a girl got a boyfriend and he kinda joined our poker game and be a member of our group. The thing is he is new to poker and often shows bad poker etiquettes such as action out of turn, string bet, card calling etc.
I tried to tell him mutiple times but he usually laughed it off or other people told me to losen up because it is just a friendly game. Last week he did somes angle shooting that I'm not even sure he did it on purpose but I was pretty annoyed and called him out. After that he was kinda quiet and showed attitude toward me like throwing chips and not calling actions. The thing is others do not seem to care about his table etiquettes.
Am I the asshole for trying to enforce the manner in a friendly poker game?
|
HISTORICAL
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AUTHOR
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WRONG
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9vgie7
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{
"description": "not paying Attention in School",
"pronormative_score": 3,
"contranormative_score": 0
}
|
AITA For Not Paying Attention in School?
|
I think that I fit the traditional definition of a "bad student" in the eyes of some of my teachers, mostly because I don't pay all that much attention in class. I do have all A's, but in some of my required classes, I don't pay much attention, and will usually do homework from other classes or look at my phone when I'm done. Most of the teachers don't really care all that much, but a few seem to be semi annoyed by it. Additionally, some of my classmates are bothered by the fact that I'm "lazy and don't try" but somehow still have good grades. However, a big reason that I don't have to spend much effort in school is the fact that I study a lot on my own time, and just end up already knowing many of the concepts being taught. So am I being entitled and privileged for not paying attention or is it ok?
|
HISTORICAL
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OTHER
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RIGHT
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Rhxv7k6XsnCxepkKPlaDgWuZrRGEgFuH
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ak1ls2
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{
"description": "calling my friend a bitch",
"pronormative_score": 5,
"contranormative_score": 0
}
|
AITA for calling my friend a bitch?
|
​
**TL;DR at bottom**
​
Heres the story.
​
My and my friends were studying for an upcoming science test, we are all in the same grade nine science class and the test was in two periods. We had both periods to study and we were getting along fine until my friend who I will call "M" asked a question to the group. M and I have a shaky friendship but we've always gotten along fairly well. As M asked the question I went to answer, I hadn't answered any questions previously but as I started to speak M told me to shut up.
​
This went on for a while with her telling me to shut up every time I tried to answer a question until after about 5minutes, I tried to answer another question, this time instead of being told to shut up she slapped me on the leg. This surprised me but I didn't think much of it. As the studying went on she continued to slap me every time I attempted to answer a question, slapping me harder each time.
​
After I while I got pissed and told her she was being "a little bitch and she should be physically abusing me for trying to get good marks in a class." She lost it and starting attacking me over and over again by repeatedly slapping my arms which were raised over my head.
​
I sent her a text apologizing for insulting her later that day but she still hasn't answered my (this happened two days ago).
​
TL;DR I called my friend a bitch for not letting me answer questions in our group study group and slapping me when I tried to answer them.
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HISTORICAL
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OTHER
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RIGHT
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